I'm sorry to hear that sondrialiac!

Smart Dalek, unfortunately I'll be attending a wedding on the 13th. :( Argh. I should've mentioned that. That's kind of you. Next time? :)

Er, my schedule, which I should've mentioned:

Arrive on the 9th at midday
Picnic in the afternoon on the 12th
Wedding in the afternoon on the 13th
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 10:30 AM on September 1, 2008

Get ready for another Jon, because I'm coming to New York soon!
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 9:29 PM on August 30, 2008

I completely agree with the blanket. I drove a ton of things cross-country and stayed four nights on the road. I filled the trunk first, then put the rest in the back seat. Then I put a blanket on it. Whenever I parked, I picked a spot by the entry or the office of the motel.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 5:43 PM on August 24, 2008

I think I can make this!
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 8:34 PM on August 2, 2008

This is a great find, flapjax!
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 8:16 AM on July 15, 2008

Thanks kirkaracha. Wow.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 9:56 AM on July 9, 2008

I'm also Asian and female, and I also think you shouldn't tell. One of my exes is Asian. Sometimes I stayed with him at his parents' house. We never talked about it to his parents or grandparents, who also lived there. The six of us had dinner, watched TV, played mahjong... it was OK. We didn't hold hands or kiss in front of them. His grandparents liked me. His best friend visited once with his girlfriend; she sat on his lap. My ex's grandmother told me later that she thought the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 6:33 PM on June 28, 2008

I never thought of scanning my sticker albums before. But I definitely still have them. This is nice.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 9:12 AM on June 26, 2008

They should really just change it to something unquestionably gender-neutral that can't possibly be taken the wrong way. Something like "go bananas."

So bananas are gender-neutral now? Heaven forbid if you don't have a banana, surely you did something wrong and god took it away from you because you didn't deserve it. Isn't it nice, that this tropical fruit gets to be so privileged within the masculine hegemony. That it... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 10:45 AM on April 29, 2008

My English name is not the same as my Chinese name. This was for integration... "avoiding racism," I guess. My boyfriend's name is South Asian and one mailing list changes it a little on each piece of mail, until now it seems he's a Latino Englishman.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 10:07 AM on April 24, 2008

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posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 8:11 AM on April 14, 2008

I can remember the copy of 2001 I read in seventh grade. It was an old, yellow, paperback in library binding. The cover was white. You could see dirt, smudges, and scuff marks on it. It was well-read. I brought my questions about it to my science teacher and we had such a grown-up conversation. We talked about primate and human society, human nature, and human impulsion. I remember that discussion's excitement.

What passion, precision, and reverence I learned from... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 10:47 PM on March 18, 2008

I get night terrors if I'm sleep-deprived and stressed out. I wake myself up when they happen. If I go right back to sleep, they start where they stopped. But if I sit up and walk around before going back to sleep, they don't come back. This goes against other advice here, but it works for me.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 5:37 PM on March 15, 2008

I grew up in a tiny, tiny hick town where men are pretty rough around the edges, and I just recently moved to a liberal town not too far from NYC

Along with the other advice, try spending more time adjusting to your new home. Adjusting can take a long time -- at least a year or two. Give yourself time to observe how city people think and act. Eventually you'll understand East Coast, liberal city culture and get better at these things.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 4:53 PM on February 29, 2008

"...my lying reflects badly on him because he is accountable in part for the actions of those he associates with."

This isn't true. How is an adult accountable for the actions of another adult? This is a hurtful and uncalled-for thing to say.

Sometimes pushing people and losing friends can't be avoided. You know more about this situation than we do. Maybe this friend is hot tempered and it's worthwhile to be understanding of their... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 9:31 AM on February 20, 2008

Ooh, this takes me back to the good old days in the early '90s. I also remember the hundred-dollar-plus local phone bills and identifying connection speeds by ear.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 9:25 AM on February 16, 2008

I'd like to second The Hero and the Crown by Robin McKinley. It's so beautiful, dense, and detailed. It's one of my favorite books and I think I've read it six or seven times. Gosh, I think I got it in fifth grade.

I always thought Beloved was comparable to it. Beloved was assigned in 12th grade English AP and everyone in the class struggled with all the surrealism, non-linearity, and detail... except for me... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 11:12 AM on February 8, 2008

I can come! Woot!

But now I want hamburgers :( I know what I'm getting for lunch.
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 7:33 AM on February 6, 2008

This is where my magic happens at home. By which I mean my SO's home. :)
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 1:09 PM on January 17, 2008

Great post hadjiboy! I didn't know about these at all. Thank you.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 11:21 AM on January 17, 2008

The Space 24 from Quo Vadis might be a good replacement. It is like the Moleskine Weekly Planner mentioned above, but with the hours of the day marked. Unfortunately it also doesn't have a checklist included in the notes section. Other interesting designs from Quo Vadis are the Classic, the Principal, and the ABP. I just bought the ABP to use at work.

I had a smaller version of the Moleskine Weekly Planner for 2007. It was nice, but weekly layouts stress me out, so I... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 7:26 PM on January 1, 2008

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I'm using Netscape 8.0.3.4 right now. It works well, and I like the Passcard feature. Netscape did not work well for a long time, so this surprised me. I'm sad that it's going because it's such a big part of Internet history.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 12:00 AM on December 29, 2007

I think you should ask your boyfriend if he would like to vent about his problems. Maybe he'd welcome the opportunity to try a new coping method. He should at least have the option.

It seems to me that saying something out loud makes you feel better about it and puts it into perspective. It also changes it from being a worry inside your mind to a problem you've put out there for your friends and family to help you on. Perhaps you could say, "I see... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 12:52 PM on December 16, 2007

Another knitting recommendation: Vogue Knitting. It covers everything. For example, a lot of knitting books may talk about dropping stitches without explaining how that's done. This book also explains how to repair stitches which were dropped accidentally, and has instructions for several methods of casting on and casting off.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 9:34 AM on October 16, 2007

For myself, I love it when a flan comes together.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 7:39 AM on October 12, 2007

I am having a fantasy of playing White Chalk back-to-back with Nick Cave's The Boatman's Call. Mmm...
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 9:54 PM on October 7, 2007

Aww, I'm in town and I have missed this. Hope the pictures are up soon!
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 10:32 PM on August 23, 2007

Sex-education instruction may be available from state social services. I know this is definitely true in California. I was an instructor for two years. I taught my students sex-related biology and I taught boundaries. I focused on the parts of others one may and may not touch (e.g., putting your hand on your friend's shoulder is okay; putting your hand on their behind is not okay), and what parts of oneself others may not touch. I think that may be your most immediate concern.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 6:56 PM on August 15, 2007

I agree with zia. And, soon you'll be in graduate school yourself and many of your classmates will be eligible and interested. Keep an eye out. Good luck!
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 8:47 PM on August 10, 2007

Slashdot is heavily populated by the cohort dendrite's friend works with. So take that into account.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 11:54 PM on August 4, 2007

Thank you Kattullus. This post is great.
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 8:35 AM on May 29, 2007

Come to the Chicago MeFi meetups if you can. We'd love to see you. You too, jammer!
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 6:54 PM on March 16, 2007

Thank you infini. Georgette Heyer deserves to be better known!
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 8:15 AM on March 12, 2007

There are many Indian restaurants in Pasadena. If you go there to see the Huntington Library or the Norton Simon Museum they are convenient. There are listings for them here. Search for Indian cuisine. But firstdrop's recommendations are better.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 7:16 PM on February 17, 2007

It sounds like you broke up with him. You might want to consider whether this issue should have been a dealbreaker. A person who doesn't say "I love you" could be more loving to you than a person who does. Since you are agonizing over it, perhaps you've imposed a requirement which was more artificial than necessary.

Or, perhaps you've mixed up the saying of the words with many other things that were wrong to you in the relationship. If so, you will probably... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 12:52 AM on January 1, 2007

I will go if I can, although I'll be sticking to the bunny slopes.
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 7:42 PM on December 30, 2006

Clorox Wipes and Fresh Brush toilet cleaners.

Expensive kitchen accessories, like Calphalon pots and pans, and Caldrea's all-purpose cleanser. A 1000 ml bottle is thirteen dollars, but I look forward to using it because it has such a nice smell.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 3:23 PM on December 30, 2006

nebulawindphone: which doesn't make sense to me, since very few people in the City actually come from the City. Or even the Bay Area.

Every city has both transplants and natives who are snobby, elitist, and in love with the city, or who are angry, who can't be satisfied, and who can't wait to leave. They're truly annoying. I think they just latch on to these things so they can have something to be negative about.

I like San Francisco a lot, but... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 5:38 PM on December 26, 2006

These videos were fun. Thanks!
posted to MetaFilter by halonine at 4:00 PM on December 21, 2006

Sorry we missed you, Baby_Balrog. Next time!
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 5:23 PM on December 13, 2006

You have the best smile, EJ. No hiding! Need moar smiles!
posted to MetaTalk by halonine at 10:32 AM on December 11, 2006

May I suggest Giant Robot San Francisco? They are a store and gallery.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 9:18 PM on December 5, 2006

I have had a lot of these problems, too. People often think I'm an undergraduate and in eight years of working there have always been people who behaved badly because I'm short, female, look young, and so on. There are a lot of good suggestions here. I'll add my personal philosophy:

Be completely competent at what you do. Be completely professional. If people are talking over you, you can stop speaking. You don't need to fight them for self-validation. When they... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 1:51 PM on November 17, 2006

I think that at any age, you can talk to children about what they see. Everyone has a desire to be treated fairly. If a child is not treated fairly (for whatever reason, including racism), then you can do what you can as an adult to fix it, and then talk to the child. See what they thought or felt about what just happened. See if they figure it was a good thing or a bad thing. Then discuss a little about how some people have personal problems which keep them from treating others fairly, and... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 1:27 PM on November 17, 2006 marked best answer

They're the kind to report me to animal welfare if I intend on leaving my dog with them - either that, or they refuse to look after my dog - or they think me the WORST PERSON EVER AND WILL TALK ABOUT IT AT EVERY OPPORTUNITY FOREVERS for leaving a pet behind.

Please don't listen to your family when they say these things. When they say similar things about your education, please don't listen to them either.

or say how... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 6:02 PM on November 5, 2006

Your school may not have a bioengineering department, but you should see if anyone there has worked with someone who does bioengineering research, or has a friend or acquaintance who does bioengineering research. Start by asking your professors. Communicate with the contacts they provide, learn what they do and what they know, and ask each for more contacts.

At the same time, like others have said, learn the literature, learn what you want to do, and learn which PIs... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 7:59 PM on October 23, 2006

I second sbutler. I see this with scanned images (of chapters from books or handwritten notes), which were done at very high resolution and converted to PDF without reducing the resolution. The printer spends a long time processing each page, even though the pages don't look unusual to the naked eye.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 12:19 AM on October 23, 2006

(It could be something else too of course! This is what I see most often.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 12:20 AM on October 23, 2006

2. the lack of absence of my female colleagues. some of the things I read here would make me expect they wouldn't show up for a couple days each month but I can't say I've noticed. are women tougher than men? (oh, that question sucked.)

I really think this is something we don't get enough credit for. We are just supposed to show up, and we do, usually with a bottle of Motrin or something stashed in our purses.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 9:34 PM on October 20, 2006

I used to shop at their store in Santa Monica. I never used their Web site, but the store was always well-run and customer service was always good. I'd recommend the store to anyone, for what it's worth.
posted to Ask Metafilter by halonine at 8:47 PM on October 20, 2006