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"The key to conversation is to focus on the other person. Discuss what they want, talk about them, their ideas, interests etc.
Personally, i really disagree with this. People who mostly just ask questions bore me to pieces. It's a cop out, a way..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by jejune
4 days ago
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"specialfriend, I feel like this a lot myself, often not fully enjoying a relationship because I always worry that it isn't 'the one' and that ultimately I'm just leading the person on because it will have to end. Honestly I think it is a kind of..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by graytona, vytae, chicainthecity
3 weeks ago
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited 4 times, recently by bettafish, willie11, hydropsyche, [NOT HERMITOSIS-IST]
Last month
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"I'm waiting to hear there's a Timmy Hitler and a Skippy Hitler too.
I know, it's like Ted Hitler" [
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favorited 1 time, recently by JHarris
Last month
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"One of the depressing results of misogyny is that if women start to excel in a field, rather than that raising people's general impression or opinion of women, it will often cause people to devalue the field. So if there's one woman who can rise out..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by different
Last month
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"So now that she's clean she's obviously bored,
I think this question is a deeper one, like, what makes life worthwhile kinda thing. I think that sense of ennui is a kind of depression that comes about when you haven't found a reason to live,..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by kingtaj, small_ruminant, majick, Melismata, samthemander
Last month
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"I quit drinking last year, for medical reasons as well, and it was a lot easier than I expected. I would just consider it a temporary thing to see if it helps, and then if in a few months you don't think it's had a beneficial effect, you can..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hulahulagirl
Last month
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by Pope Guilty, nasreddin, LobsterMitten, Bromius
Last month
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"It makes no difference what Einstein thought.
No, of course it doesn't make a difference in terms of what you ought to think, but the point was simply, it is possible to have a more complex opinion than just "Jesus is real and he loves..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Monochrome
Last month
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"So Einstein - as an agnostic or aetheist - is someone impoverished of thought and appreciation of the Universe?
odd choice. Einstein often spoke of his religious understanding, a belief in Spinoza's god, deism, pantheism, Nature's God or however..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Crabby Appleton
Last month
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"It is sad that this will certainly be seen as the majority of mefites already see it, as elitist and flakey and pompous. Really, eating organic food is very much a part of environmentalism: pesticides, preservatives, and heavily artificial or..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by BarryP
Last month
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"I'd say your first stop would be to read the master: Dale Carnegie and his classic "how to win friends and influence people".
an alternative would be to read the last few sections of Aristotle's Ethics, where he famously suggests that..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pipstar
2 months ago
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"I wish I had your problem.
Except for berating yourself, the drive to put effort into your own success doesn't seem like a bad thing. I guess the issue is really whether you are getting the returns on your investment, so to speak - do you feel..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by PinkButterfly
2 months ago
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"As Nakedcodemonkey says, this is the do-as-you-would-be-done-by fair thing to do.
Yeah, but I think that's the problem. I generally prefer not to hear back; then it just dissolves away. Getting a specific note of "you're not my type"..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
2 months ago
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"Yeah, I'd just like to emphasize what I said above about making lists of things that interest, appeal to, or just come naturally to you, and allowing yourself to really consider all options, no matter how far out they might initially seem (far out as..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
2 months ago
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"In order for it to be a slur, the speaker has to be white, must be referring to an African-American person, and must deliver it with unambiguous condescension
I don't think so. I think the idea is that you may not realize that you're racist, but..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by anansi
2 months ago
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"I think an underlying / subconscious interest in having children is in escaping death, honestly, so in not having children there is a sense in which you have to face your own mortality more directly. This is not the simplest thing to get over. For..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by yohko, elisynn, ifjuly, chicainthecity, ivanka
2 months ago
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"I thought of that thread on the blue too - this was my response then.
But in response to your particular question, it sounds as if perhaps you spend too much time considering how you come across, and not enough on just getting to know yourself..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
2 months ago
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"Yeah, I don't see the problem with this myself. As people have said, privileged kids already get rewards for good grades, even if it's just in the form of accolades and a generally good relationship with the parents. Underprivileged kids will often..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Tehanu
2 months ago
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"The best way to learn new words that you'll actually use is to just read (or converse or go to lectures) a lot, come across words, learn them through context, and start using them without really noticing. I think it's better to just let your..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by takeyourmedicine
2 months ago
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"I always carry or wear a scarf with me or in my bag wherever I go. Why? Well, I can tell you that in my experiences I've used them unexpectedly for
I feel like you meant to say "towel" :)
Didn't Macgyver teach us all you ever need is..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Meagan
2 months ago
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"My response to creationists is just, come up with a theory and then we can talk. Saying "god did it" is no more a theory than saying "it happened". You have to explain the details of how this force you call god enacted the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by nasreddin, blasdelf
2 months ago
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"I have always been of the opinion that it is no business of mine what others think in the privacy of their own mind.
If your friend believed in the privacy of his own mind that he could drive home after drinking six beers, would that be..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Pinback
2 months ago
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"I have to say, reading CS Lewis' example sort of bothered me, as the set up is a wife who dismisses her husband's incontrovertible mathematical logic (regarding the properties of triangles) with "you only say that because you're a man." It..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Phatty Lumpkin
2 months ago
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"mdn, I often agree with you, but did you miss this?: he turned on the porch light and strutted his naked self all around his front porch.
yeah, maybe, I dunno, I still feel like people here are overreacting a bit. Just get translucent style..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hapax_legomenon
3 months ago
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"Very cool. I was just enjoying Garfield Minus Garfield, and it's interesting how awareness of removed content seems to guarantee an uncanny bereftness
I don't think it really works here. Garfield worked because the original aimed for a sense of..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by UbuRoivas, vronsky
3 months ago
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"I think the two sides of this issues are just sort of talking past each other because they don't start from the same premises. To people who support standard feminism, women's rights are something that can hypothetically be achieved within the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Kadin2048
3 months ago
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"If anyone EVER tells you they are pregnant, even if yesterday they were talking about setting up a credit line at the abortion clinic, the correct response is,
"Congratulations! How are you feeling?"
Well, I think tone of voice has..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hulahulagirl
3 months ago
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"As crunch buttsteak said, unless you're very formal or conservative, there's no real difference between a "date" and "hanging out". I think the concept of a "date" is, ahem, dated. ...It doesn't have to be all formal and..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by MythMaker, yohko, Forktine, cider
3 months ago
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"what is your career now? to give up something where you make a lot of money but the work itself is just as meaningless to you as any job is not failure. If you are working as some kind of business or office person, with no real interest or drive in..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
3 months ago
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"I didn't ask to be born a princess. It's not my fault I like nice things.
...I tend to eat out almost all the time, and it's a very special day if the waiter/waitress brings a check for under $25.
My first reaction to this is disgust, but..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Monochrome
3 months ago
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"It makes me want to murder when they "update" books for kids.... I've had this (murderous) feeling many times - the first time, when I found an edition of "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" where (and you'll recall how poor and..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by limeonaire
3 months ago
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"Of course, mdn, that could just mean the guy is a bad storyteller/writer.
Yeah, I'm not doubting that. In fact, I think I've been arguing for that more than for some scenario where Diaz just makes up the whole thing. Basically what bothers me..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tomcooke, gregb1007
3 months ago
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"However, it could never be a "story" because it is simply impossible to believe
As people above said, it's not that the story is hard to believe, it's that it's too pat and cliched. "whoever takes away your coat, give him your..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by gregb1007, whir
3 months ago
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"I think the problem is it just feels superficial, like it's saying all muggers are really crying out for father figures. And the idea that the story was completely resolved because the kid gave the wallet back seems to miss the entire psychology of..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by nasreddin, tomcooke, prefpara
3 months ago
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"I keep not responding to this because I am afraid I won't be able to be properly respectful of some of the opinions in this thread.
Depression is not an existential dilemma. It is not a side effect of atheism. It is a disease. You have it bad. You..." [
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favorited 8 times, recently by punchdrunkhistory, hippugeek, crush-onastick, painquale
3 months ago
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"Hitler was Time's Man of the Year,
This is not a moral judgment, though - 'Man of the Year' just means 'most significant person this year', not 'greatest guy'. Hitler was indeed extremely significant when he began the Second World War. Read the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Sangermaine
3 months ago
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"We're so quick to write Hitler off as some kind of monster because it's frightening to imagine that humans might be capable of such things.
I think the fear is just as much the other way, that we don't like to recognize that some human beings are..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by spiderwire
3 months ago
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"onlyconnect, I think the point is that racism is everywhere. It is not just a few people here or there that we might happen to know, that we can dissociate from. It's woven into our entire culture, and when it bubbles up and we say, oh, I'm not..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by nuclear_soup, nooneyouknow, fourcheesemac, longbaugh
3 months ago
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"Re: why Obama might do better with caucuses, there are also arguments that because it's only a 1-2 hour event, people who can't get off work or who have non-standard shifts may not be able to attend, and those sorts of union workers are a pretty..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by cytherea, Kwine
3 months ago
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"Man, having any sympathy for Hillary at all is really making me aware of how hard it must be to be a conservative on this site. That everyone is yelling about MetaMan being a troll, but no one has called out people like fourcheesemac who have said..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by onlyconnect
3 months ago
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"Wow, it must be nice having so much faith in the Iraqi government.
What? You're the ones saying we should just split and they'll sort it out without us! All I'm saying is that even if it is reasonable to let them deal with their own war..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by onlyconnect
3 months ago
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"Saying that this "could have" happened elsewhere is missing the point.
for satan's sake people! he said "only in america is my story even possible." Stop trying to reinterpret simple political bullshit and just accept that..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by the other side, peacheater, C.Batt
3 months ago
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"Which is easy to refute with actual facts. As in Iraq is ALREADY destabalized.
I don't think it will be as easy to refute as you seem to think. You are already convinced of one side of the argument - maybe you were sure about it from the start...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by onlyconnect
3 months ago
