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"One of the depressing results of misogyny is that if women start to excel in a field, rather than that raising people's general impression or opinion of women, it will often cause people to devalue the field. So if there's one woman who can rise out..." [
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6 days ago
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"But what drove me away in the first place was research and academia - though I love answering psychological questions, I don't want to deal with the bureaucracy inherent to academia or be stuck in an ivory tower -
I took about 5 years off between..." [
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8 days ago
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"is that it doesn't allow for the possibility of feelings growing and changing over time.
This might also just have something to do with individual philosophies of love, so to speak... for some people the spark is essential; for others the stable..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by chicainthecity
3 weeks ago
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"this question will never get old. And it will never get answered, because every single case is an individual choice, and whether the choice is right or wrong is a judgment, and that judgement depends on your own understanding of love - etc.
My..." [
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favorited 10 times, recently by blithely, chicainthecity
4 weeks ago
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"In my case, at least, it's not "bragging," it's the way I was born—I was born more masculine than other females. I've always been that way. I've always had a desire to play with the boys, not the girls, to run and jump on the field and dig..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by mippy
4 weeks ago
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited 5 times, recently by bettafish, divabat, willie11, hydropsyche, [NOT HERMITOSIS-IST]
Last month
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"Lobstermitten did a good job above of laying this out, I think, but I'll add my 2¢ anyway...
It's important to remember that being active is not just a question of being controlling or aggressive; it can simply be being a contributing member of..." [
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favorited 8 times, recently by woebot, mightshould, mrunderhill
Last month
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"you have to admit that thread is pretty full of disappointingly misogynistic comments though. I wouldn't suggest deletion, but it's still kind of a sad representation of the community. I mean, I wouldn't be one to argue that rape is inherently as..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by johannahdeschanel
Last month
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"As Rand described it, "If it was rape, it was rape by engraved invitation."
wow. Okay, that really does not sit well with me.
Re: other philosophers, my impression from the piekoff book I was given was that ayn rand believed she was..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by kolophon
Last month
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"but the only coaching is basically just to be fully honest.
well, I got calls from both my mother and my sister after they did the forum, and they used the same lingo and formulations. I talked to other people who got calls from them as well,..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hummercash
Last month
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"My sister got into the forum for a while and drove me up the wall. She convinced my mom to do it, too, and before going my mom and I joked about how it would just be an interesting anthropological experiment for her to attend, etc. The sucky thing..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by hummercash
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"In short, I don't think you ever really do. and I don't know that it matters so much.
I dunno, I think you definitely change as you age, anyway. Whether there is a line you cross that we can call "adulthood" is another question, but I..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by themaskedwonder
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"yeah, I think the problem is mostly that the difference between the ways that different individuals think or experience consciousness hasn't been carefully examined and compared, so what is fairly normal thought to one person is unusual or special..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by wigglin
2 months ago
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"The key to conversation is to focus on the other person. Discuss what they want, talk about them, their ideas, interests etc.
Personally, i really disagree with this. People who mostly just ask questions bore me to pieces. It's a cop out, a way..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by jejune
2 months ago
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"specialfriend, I feel like this a lot myself, often not fully enjoying a relationship because I always worry that it isn't 'the one' and that ultimately I'm just leading the person on because it will have to end. Honestly I think it is a kind of..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by graytona, vytae, chicainthecity
3 months ago
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"I'm waiting to hear there's a Timmy Hitler and a Skippy Hitler too.
I know, it's like Ted Hitler" [
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favorited 1 time, recently by JHarris
4 months ago
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"So now that she's clean she's obviously bored,
I think this question is a deeper one, like, what makes life worthwhile kinda thing. I think that sense of ennui is a kind of depression that comes about when you haven't found a reason to live,..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by kingtaj, small_ruminant, majick, Melismata, samthemander
4 months ago
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"I quit drinking last year, for medical reasons as well, and it was a lot easier than I expected. I would just consider it a temporary thing to see if it helps, and then if in a few months you don't think it's had a beneficial effect, you can..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hulahulagirl
4 months ago
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by Pope Guilty, nasreddin, LobsterMitten, Bromius
4 months ago
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"It makes no difference what Einstein thought.
No, of course it doesn't make a difference in terms of what you ought to think, but the point was simply, it is possible to have a more complex opinion than just "Jesus is real and he loves..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Monochrome
4 months ago
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"So Einstein - as an agnostic or aetheist - is someone impoverished of thought and appreciation of the Universe?
odd choice. Einstein often spoke of his religious understanding, a belief in Spinoza's god, deism, pantheism, Nature's God or however..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Crabby Appleton
4 months ago
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"It is sad that this will certainly be seen as the majority of mefites already see it, as elitist and flakey and pompous. Really, eating organic food is very much a part of environmentalism: pesticides, preservatives, and heavily artificial or..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by BarryP
4 months ago
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"I'd say your first stop would be to read the master: Dale Carnegie and his classic "how to win friends and influence people".
an alternative would be to read the last few sections of Aristotle's Ethics, where he famously suggests that..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pipstar
4 months ago
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"I wish I had your problem.
Except for berating yourself, the drive to put effort into your own success doesn't seem like a bad thing. I guess the issue is really whether you are getting the returns on your investment, so to speak - do you feel..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by PinkButterfly
4 months ago
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"As Nakedcodemonkey says, this is the do-as-you-would-be-done-by fair thing to do.
Yeah, but I think that's the problem. I generally prefer not to hear back; then it just dissolves away. Getting a specific note of "you're not my type"..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
5 months ago
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"Yeah, I'd just like to emphasize what I said above about making lists of things that interest, appeal to, or just come naturally to you, and allowing yourself to really consider all options, no matter how far out they might initially seem (far out as..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
5 months ago
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"In order for it to be a slur, the speaker has to be white, must be referring to an African-American person, and must deliver it with unambiguous condescension
I don't think so. I think the idea is that you may not realize that you're racist, but..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by anansi
5 months ago
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"I think an underlying / subconscious interest in having children is in escaping death, honestly, so in not having children there is a sense in which you have to face your own mortality more directly. This is not the simplest thing to get over. For..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by yohko, elisynn, ifjuly, chicainthecity, ivanka
5 months ago
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"I thought of that thread on the blue too - this was my response then.
But in response to your particular question, it sounds as if perhaps you spend too much time considering how you come across, and not enough on just getting to know yourself..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
5 months ago
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"Yeah, I don't see the problem with this myself. As people have said, privileged kids already get rewards for good grades, even if it's just in the form of accolades and a generally good relationship with the parents. Underprivileged kids will often..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Tehanu
5 months ago
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"The best way to learn new words that you'll actually use is to just read (or converse or go to lectures) a lot, come across words, learn them through context, and start using them without really noticing. I think it's better to just let your..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by takeyourmedicine
5 months ago
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"I always carry or wear a scarf with me or in my bag wherever I go. Why? Well, I can tell you that in my experiences I've used them unexpectedly for
I feel like you meant to say "towel" :)
Didn't Macgyver teach us all you ever need is..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Meagan
5 months ago
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"My response to creationists is just, come up with a theory and then we can talk. Saying "god did it" is no more a theory than saying "it happened". You have to explain the details of how this force you call god enacted the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by nasreddin, blasdelf
5 months ago
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"I have always been of the opinion that it is no business of mine what others think in the privacy of their own mind.
If your friend believed in the privacy of his own mind that he could drive home after drinking six beers, would that be..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Pinback
5 months ago
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"I have to say, reading CS Lewis' example sort of bothered me, as the set up is a wife who dismisses her husband's incontrovertible mathematical logic (regarding the properties of triangles) with "you only say that because you're a man." It..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Phatty Lumpkin
5 months ago
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"mdn, I often agree with you, but did you miss this?: he turned on the porch light and strutted his naked self all around his front porch.
yeah, maybe, I dunno, I still feel like people here are overreacting a bit. Just get translucent style..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hapax_legomenon
5 months ago
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"Very cool. I was just enjoying Garfield Minus Garfield, and it's interesting how awareness of removed content seems to guarantee an uncanny bereftness
I don't think it really works here. Garfield worked because the original aimed for a sense of..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by UbuRoivas, vronsky
5 months ago
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"I think the two sides of this issues are just sort of talking past each other because they don't start from the same premises. To people who support standard feminism, women's rights are something that can hypothetically be achieved within the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Kadin2048
6 months ago
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"If anyone EVER tells you they are pregnant, even if yesterday they were talking about setting up a credit line at the abortion clinic, the correct response is,
"Congratulations! How are you feeling?"
Well, I think tone of voice has..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by hulahulagirl
6 months ago
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"As crunch buttsteak said, unless you're very formal or conservative, there's no real difference between a "date" and "hanging out". I think the concept of a "date" is, ahem, dated. ...It doesn't have to be all formal and..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by MythMaker, yohko, Forktine, cider
6 months ago
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"I didn't ask to be born a princess. It's not my fault I like nice things.
...I tend to eat out almost all the time, and it's a very special day if the waiter/waitress brings a check for under $25.
My first reaction to this is disgust, but..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Monochrome
6 months ago
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"It makes me want to murder when they "update" books for kids.... I've had this (murderous) feeling many times - the first time, when I found an edition of "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" where (and you'll recall how poor and..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by limeonaire
6 months ago
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"Of course, mdn, that could just mean the guy is a bad storyteller/writer.
Yeah, I'm not doubting that. In fact, I think I've been arguing for that more than for some scenario where Diaz just makes up the whole thing. Basically what bothers me..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tomcooke, gregb1007
6 months ago
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"However, it could never be a "story" because it is simply impossible to believe
As people above said, it's not that the story is hard to believe, it's that it's too pat and cliched. "whoever takes away your coat, give him your..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by gregb1007, whir
6 months ago
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"I think the problem is it just feels superficial, like it's saying all muggers are really crying out for father figures. And the idea that the story was completely resolved because the kid gave the wallet back seems to miss the entire psychology of..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by nasreddin, tomcooke, prefpara
6 months ago
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"I keep not responding to this because I am afraid I won't be able to be properly respectful of some of the opinions in this thread.
Depression is not an existential dilemma. It is not a side effect of atheism. It is a disease. You have it bad. You..." [
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favorited 8 times, recently by punchdrunkhistory, hippugeek, crush-onastick, painquale
6 months ago
