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"One of the depressing results of misogyny is that if women start to excel in a field, rather than that raising people's general impression or opinion of women, it will often cause people to devalue the field. So if there's one woman who can rise out..." [
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October 3, 2008 9:06 PM
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"But what drove me away in the first place was research and academia - though I love answering psychological questions, I don't want to deal with the bureaucracy inherent to academia or be stuck in an ivory tower -
I took about 5 years off between..." [
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October 1, 2008 9:39 PM
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"is that it doesn't allow for the possibility of feelings growing and changing over time.
This might also just have something to do with individual philosophies of love, so to speak... for some people the spark is essential; for others the stable..." [
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September 12, 2008 9:18 PM
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"this question will never get old. And it will never get answered, because every single case is an individual choice, and whether the choice is right or wrong is a judgment, and that judgement depends on your own understanding of love - etc.
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favorited by blithely on
September 12, 2008 11:30 AM
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"In my case, at least, it's not "bragging," it's the way I was born—I was born more masculine than other females. I've always been that way. I've always had a desire to play with the boys, not the girls, to run and jump on the field and dig..." [
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September 11, 2008 10:17 AM
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September 9, 2008 9:38 AM
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"Lobstermitten did a good job above of laying this out, I think, but I'll add my 2¢ anyway...
It's important to remember that being active is not just a question of being controlling or aggressive; it can simply be being a contributing member of..." [
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favorited by woebot on
September 7, 2008 12:41 PM
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"you have to admit that thread is pretty full of disappointingly misogynistic comments though. I wouldn't suggest deletion, but it's still kind of a sad representation of the community. I mean, I wouldn't be one to argue that rape is inherently as..." [
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favorited by johannahdeschanel on
September 2, 2008 1:27 PM
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"As Rand described it, "If it was rape, it was rape by engraved invitation."
wow. Okay, that really does not sit well with me.
Re: other philosophers, my impression from the piekoff book I was given was that ayn rand believed she was..." [
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favorited by kolophon on
August 30, 2008 11:47 AM
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"but the only coaching is basically just to be fully honest.
well, I got calls from both my mother and my sister after they did the forum, and they used the same lingo and formulations. I talked to other people who got calls from them as well,..." [
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August 27, 2008 9:31 AM
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"My sister got into the forum for a while and drove me up the wall. She convinced my mom to do it, too, and before going my mom and I joked about how it would just be an interesting anthropological experiment for her to attend, etc. The sucky thing..." [
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August 27, 2008 9:20 AM
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"In short, I don't think you ever really do. and I don't know that it matters so much.
I dunno, I think you definitely change as you age, anyway. Whether there is a line you cross that we can call "adulthood" is another question, but I..." [
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August 16, 2008 5:33 AM
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"yeah, I think the problem is mostly that the difference between the ways that different individuals think or experience consciousness hasn't been carefully examined and compared, so what is fairly normal thought to one person is unusual or special..." [
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favorited by wigglin on
August 4, 2008 4:16 AM
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited by divabat on
July 21, 2008 4:23 PM
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"The key to conversation is to focus on the other person. Discuss what they want, talk about them, their ideas, interests etc.
Personally, i really disagree with this. People who mostly just ask questions bore me to pieces. It's a cop out, a way..." [
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July 14, 2008 12:43 PM
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favorited by marsha56 on
July 10, 2008 4:49 AM
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"specialfriend, I feel like this a lot myself, often not fully enjoying a relationship because I always worry that it isn't 'the one' and that ultimately I'm just leading the person on because it will have to end. Honestly I think it is a kind of..." [
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June 21, 2008 9:05 PM
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"isn't the question "why do humans sing" just as mysterious?" [
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June 18, 2008 5:42 PM
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"I'm waiting to hear there's a Timmy Hitler and a Skippy Hitler too.
I know, it's like Ted Hitler" [
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favorited by JHarris on
June 7, 2008 11:24 AM
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited by willie11 on
June 7, 2008 8:06 AM
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited by hydropsyche on
June 6, 2008 6:40 PM
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"I'm always surprised when people seem to still believe that IQ's are static. It's been shown many times that IQ scores change depending on education, and the basic test is a simplistic early 20th c / eugenicist notion of intelligence to start with......" [
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favorited by [NOT HERMITOSIS-IST] on
June 6, 2008 4:54 PM
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"One of the depressing results of misogyny is that if women start to excel in a field, rather than that raising people's general impression or opinion of women, it will often cause people to devalue the field. So if there's one woman who can rise out..." [
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favorited by different on
June 5, 2008 5:14 PM
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"So now that she's clean she's obviously bored,
I think this question is a deeper one, like, what makes life worthwhile kinda thing. I think that sense of ennui is a kind of depression that comes about when you haven't found a reason to live,..." [
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June 1, 2008 3:37 PM
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"I quit drinking last year, for medical reasons as well, and it was a lot easier than I expected. I would just consider it a temporary thing to see if it helps, and then if in a few months you don't think it's had a beneficial effect, you can..." [
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May 30, 2008 9:42 AM
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited by Pope Guilty on
May 27, 2008 2:34 AM
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"It makes no difference what Einstein thought.
No, of course it doesn't make a difference in terms of what you ought to think, but the point was simply, it is possible to have a more complex opinion than just "Jesus is real and he loves..." [
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favorited by Monochrome on
May 20, 2008 8:26 PM
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"So Einstein - as an agnostic or aetheist - is someone impoverished of thought and appreciation of the Universe?
odd choice. Einstein often spoke of his religious understanding, a belief in Spinoza's god, deism, pantheism, Nature's God or however..." [
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favorited by Crabby Appleton on
May 20, 2008 3:05 PM
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"It is sad that this will certainly be seen as the majority of mefites already see it, as elitist and flakey and pompous. Really, eating organic food is very much a part of environmentalism: pesticides, preservatives, and heavily artificial or..." [
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favorited by BarryP on
May 19, 2008 6:29 PM
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"I'd say your first stop would be to read the master: Dale Carnegie and his classic "how to win friends and influence people".
an alternative would be to read the last few sections of Aristotle's Ethics, where he famously suggests that..." [
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favorited by pipstar on
May 17, 2008 9:23 AM
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"I wish I had your problem.
Except for berating yourself, the drive to put effort into your own success doesn't seem like a bad thing. I guess the issue is really whether you are getting the returns on your investment, so to speak - do you feel..." [
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favorited by PinkButterfly on
May 12, 2008 3:13 PM
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"As Nakedcodemonkey says, this is the do-as-you-would-be-done-by fair thing to do.
Yeah, but I think that's the problem. I generally prefer not to hear back; then it just dissolves away. Getting a specific note of "you're not my type"..." [
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May 8, 2008 12:45 PM
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"Yeah, I'd just like to emphasize what I said above about making lists of things that interest, appeal to, or just come naturally to you, and allowing yourself to really consider all options, no matter how far out they might initially seem (far out as..." [
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favorited by elisynn on
May 2, 2008 2:07 PM
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"In order for it to be a slur, the speaker has to be white, must be referring to an African-American person, and must deliver it with unambiguous condescension
I don't think so. I think the idea is that you may not realize that you're racist, but..." [
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April 28, 2008 6:32 PM
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"I think an underlying / subconscious interest in having children is in escaping death, honestly, so in not having children there is a sense in which you have to face your own mortality more directly. This is not the simplest thing to get over. For..." [
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April 26, 2008 10:53 AM
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"I thought of that thread on the blue too - this was my response then.
But in response to your particular question, it sounds as if perhaps you spend too much time considering how you come across, and not enough on just getting to know yourself..." [
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favorited by elisynn on
April 24, 2008 5:56 PM
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"Yeah, I don't see the problem with this myself. As people have said, privileged kids already get rewards for good grades, even if it's just in the form of accolades and a generally good relationship with the parents. Underprivileged kids will often..." [
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favorited by Tehanu on
April 24, 2008 4:05 PM
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"The best way to learn new words that you'll actually use is to just read (or converse or go to lectures) a lot, come across words, learn them through context, and start using them without really noticing. I think it's better to just let your..." [
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favorited by takeyourmedicine on
April 23, 2008 4:59 AM
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"I always carry or wear a scarf with me or in my bag wherever I go. Why? Well, I can tell you that in my experiences I've used them unexpectedly for
I feel like you meant to say "towel" :)
Didn't Macgyver teach us all you ever need is..." [
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April 23, 2008 4:59 AM
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"I think an underlying / subconscious interest in having children is in escaping death, honestly, so in not having children there is a sense in which you have to face your own mortality more directly. This is not the simplest thing to get over. For..." [
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April 22, 2008 11:33 AM
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"I think an underlying / subconscious interest in having children is in escaping death, honestly, so in not having children there is a sense in which you have to face your own mortality more directly. This is not the simplest thing to get over. For..." [
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April 21, 2008 9:18 PM
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April 21, 2008 7:57 PM
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favorited by ivanka on
April 21, 2008 1:21 PM
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited by nasreddin on
April 21, 2008 12:35 PM
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"My response to creationists is just, come up with a theory and then we can talk. Saying "god did it" is no more a theory than saying "it happened". You have to explain the details of how this force you call god enacted the..." [
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April 21, 2008 12:33 PM
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"My response to creationists is just, come up with a theory and then we can talk. Saying "god did it" is no more a theory than saying "it happened". You have to explain the details of how this force you call god enacted the..." [
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favorited by blasdelf on
April 20, 2008 8:16 PM
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited by LobsterMitten on
April 20, 2008 8:10 PM
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"Oh, and Aristotle is a particularly weird example to choose as your head-in-the-clouds philosopher who wouldn't care for science, as he's famous for writing about physics, the generation of animals, the movement of animals, etc etc - he is often..." [
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favorited by Bromius on
April 20, 2008 6:05 PM
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If your friend believed in the privacy of his own mind that he could drive home after drinking six beers, would that be..." [
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April 19, 2008 5:17 PM
