I've been a long time in coming around to no-contact advocacy in situations like this.
Here's the way I used to feel about it:
-It didn't work out, but I'm an emotionally mature grown-up who should be able to handle being friends with you,... [
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There's also Sleater-Kinney if you're more into the rock side of things, and anything to do with Riot Grrrl stuff.
Sleater-Kinney has been defunct for a while, but I bet there'd be lots of S-K fans at a Wild Flag show.... [
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Maybe-overly-simplistic advice: Take the 'd' word out of it. Tell yourself, "I'm not
dating - I'm just meeting people. I'm just actively meeting people. It's good to meet people, and that's totally what I'm doing here. I'm just... [
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I once mentioned that we could watch erotica together and my ex told me I was just trying to control him.
...even with pro-porn girlfriends, guys themselves can have this weird aversion to admitting they like porn. I can only... [
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Do you have marriage proposals/pledges of long-term commitment in hand from both these dudes? If not, could it be that you're assuming a lot here?
It reads to me that you are into passion-guy more than security-guy. Keep in mind that... [
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Guy here: ...I would be horrified and disgusted if a woman gave the first thought to a relationship of any seriousness with me--much less one that involved trying to have a child--if they felt anything close to an aversion to being touched by me.... [
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I am a dude, in my early 40s, who can empathize very strongly with what you are going through. Not the "being attracted to the crazy" part, but the "being okay with not having huge spark-y chemistry with an otherwise amazing person... [
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When it happened last weekend, he said that occasionally he cannot get an erection and that it requires a lot of stimulation to get hard but he would not tell me what or how to do it
I didn't ask him to go down on me, I mean who... [
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