Chivalry is not in any way related to "how people take it." It's a freakin' code. You don't do it because you are interested in popular opinion. You do it because its a freakin' code.

1. Always hold doors, and car doors for dates.
2. Always give up your seat.
3. Always pull out a chair for a) a significantly older woman; b) a young woman whose affections you believe you have a claim to.
4. Always offer your coat to a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:48 AM on October 8, 2008

From some dictionary:

EtymologyMiddle English <>
An ethical code that was prevalent in Medieval Europe. It was the honor code of the knight
Its primary virtues were: Mercy, humility, honor, sacrifice, fear of God, faithfulness, courage, utmost graciousness and courtesy to ladies.

Oh! Snap! Right there at the end! Eat it, chevalerie haters! Some people are polite, and others are chevalerie.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 6:52 AM on October 9, 2008

Codes get updated. Men can chose knighthood. Different political system, different legal system, same spirit. Don't need a horse. Principles and customs are all that is required.

Men will always treat men differently than they treat women. Therefore, there will also be a group of men that value women as group more than men, and therefore will incorporate this valuation into a "code". Don't like it? What's your bench?

Don't hate... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:54 AM on October 9, 2008

Given the choice, many men would much rather impress women than other men. (Maybe you are talking about boys? They often want to impress each other.) This code is not between men, but personal to each man. Women are not the object, they are the valued thing. Women are valued for themselves, not for the sake of impressing men. Ridiculous. And having a code means interpreting guidance, so while there are fundamentalists in every group, don't generalize.

I can't... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:53 AM on October 9, 2008

Really the problem is that modern feminism is dead.

Let me sum up: Women want to vote, get equal pay, and to chose their social/gender role. Historical Feminism. Then homosexuals, transgenders, cross dressers, women of color, and others join the movement and it becomes a conflicted multi-agenda disaster where no one can agree on what the priorities are. Oh, and every man

Then, a new generation of women grows up having benefited (more or less)... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 5:58 AM on October 10, 2008

Hey, you aren't chivalrous. No biggie. But don't say its dead. Not your call.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 2:08 PM on October 10, 2008

Get alot of life insurance and disability insurance and tell her if you have an accident she can buy a villa in France and retire.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:30 AM on October 9, 2008

Invite the boyfriend over for dinner more than once.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 3:56 AM on October 9, 2008

Shure $300 level. Just go to the store and try them out. You will understand instantly.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 3:53 AM on October 9, 2008

There can be only one. The Oxford. It has fantastic footnotes.

Also, read Bishop Spong's Resucing the Bible from Fundamentalism. It is essentially a modern version of Spinoza's discussion of the translation problem.

The Bible is an interesting book. But it isn't for the casual reader.

Also, pretty much no one considers the King James to be accurate. Well, no one that knows anything about translation.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:40 AM on October 8, 2008

I say dump the church. Your relationship with God is between you and God. The church is just a social setting.

Think of it this way: If she was asking you to pick between you and your friends, you'd pick her, right? That's what she's doing. Don't confuse god and church.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:14 AM on October 7, 2008

I think we've nailed the root of the question:

Is your commitment to your church more or less important than your vow to your spouse?

How we practice faith and where, when, and how we worship, maybe these are more important than a marriage vow.

There are unhealthy churches and unhealthy marriages. It is difficult to know here which one is more unhealthy. "We are an extremely happy couple" and "I love my... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:16 AM on October 8, 2008

The Contender.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:04 AM on October 8, 2008

Experimentation is the path to discovery.

Get a good protein drink with plenty of carbs, drink 1/3 before, 1/3 during, 1/3 after your upper body work out. Then, make sure you have another serving before bed. See what happens.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:06 AM on October 7, 2008

1. Pump and bottle feed to avoid an over hungry baby, a overly frustrated and overfull mom.
2. Check the nose. I've noticed that babies who can't breathe through the nose have trouble eating sometimes.
3. Go to the doctor.
4. Take turns checking 1-2 so that somebody sleeps sometime.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:17 PM on October 6, 2008

I think the better use of your energy is creating such a program at home.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:05 AM on October 3, 2008

It doesn't sound like you really know each other that well. You might think you do, but I'm betting you don't.

Get back together. Find ways to really get to the hidden self.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:58 AM on October 1, 2008

Help the 16 year old find a job. This solves several problems, and gets her out of the apartment and into something closer to her peer group.

Get the twins into extracurricular sports. Way better for them than being in the apartment.

Seriously consider getting the pets adopted by someone else. The cost alone is a big problem, but also, kids are a higher priority than pets.

Encourage the kids to make their own meals,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:50 AM on October 1, 2008

Focus on Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. That gets you all the way to liberal. Anything involving Paul or the Old Testament will swing you back the other way. Single issue voters are generally unable to handle complexity in religious or moral issues, so they tend to focus on one aspect of one problem.

Here are examples of questions to consider that might help you if you are focused on Jesus rather than the bible as a whole:

1. How does Jesus... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:40 AM on September 25, 2008

Christ didn't give direction to the church as much as he gave direction to individuals. He gave no direction at all to government.

So anyone who thinks government or church should be focused on following Jesus is missing it. These institutions should not be centralized authorities for implementing god's will as both religious conservatives and social conservatives would like. These should be service organizations with regard to morality, more akin to moral thrift... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 8:17 AM on September 25, 2008

I'm pretty sure that Jesus would want to see the science behind the claim that cells=people, and there really isn't any.

I'm also pretty sure that he would be concerned with the claim that brain dead people are alive.

He was, after all, a very well educated person.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:22 AM on October 1, 2008

Lots of protein, lots of push ups.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 6:31 AM on September 29, 2008

Do not let ignorance get in the way of you doing 400 push ups in a row.

Push ups are the solution to your problem. The military uses a variety of push up techniques to really build strength. Ignore wingnuts who tell you otherwise.

And get your protein.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 8:42 AM on September 29, 2008

Netflix on demand.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 6:32 AM on September 29, 2008

1. Poor. 2. Ineffective educational institutions. 3. Republican. 4. Rural. 5. Politically dominated by wealthy and therefore corrupt.

Why not ask - who moves out of Kansas? They know who leaves. What does this say about who stays?
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:57 AM on September 19, 2008

Now we know another thing about Kansas: No interest in managing their public image.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 6:03 AM on September 22, 2008

jluce50 has put a finger on one of the central problems: confirming "all the worst stereotypes" while simultaneously suggesting that our concerns about them say more about us than about Kansas.

Everything you think is true, but shame on you for thinking it?
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 8:16 AM on September 26, 2008

No one can substitute for a loving relative.

Ask that she not do this until the child is a little older. Explain that it causes you to worry so much that it is distracting you from everything else.

Mayor Curley is not the one you should be going to for childcare of any kind. Anyone who needs to get rid of a sick horse should send it that way.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:21 AM on September 25, 2008

No.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 5:52 AM on September 24, 2008 marked best answer

Go with the guy who never said he didn't want you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:06 AM on September 22, 2008

1. Based on my experience, you need to switch to steroidal inhaler.
2. Also based on experience, you need to crank up your cardio hard. 160+ bpm training can seriously reduce your exercise induced asthma.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:40 AM on September 19, 2008

The strategy I'm recommending may eventually allow you to switch back to a Ventolin type medication which you wouldn't need as much.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:42 AM on September 19, 2008

This is called harassment.

If this meeting doesn't produce a 100% acknowledgement of the problem and a promise by the teacher to change the behavior, get a lawyer.

You can't let people mess with your kids.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:35 AM on September 19, 2008

Lawyer. Court. Now. The child needs to know you will protect him. Supervised visitation is clearly in order.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:28 AM on September 19, 2008

Also: Father and son therapy is essential. Father needs to hear son say "I'm afraid of you." They need to be guided into strategies that will support safe interaction.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:29 AM on September 19, 2008

Some things work better than others. Its called evolution.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:51 AM on September 19, 2008

Your knees are worth spending alot of money on shoes if you are running or doing any kind of on-your-feet exercise. For these shoes you should go to Road Runner Sports. Shoes can be expensive if you are shopping for a look... but shoes can also be expensive because cushioning ain't cheap. Replace every three months or 3k miles. Injury is not a trivial matter.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:17 AM on September 18, 2008

Read the Five Golden Rules. No study required.

Math theory is basically logic. If you focus on the principles you can understand the conversation that drives the calculation, that's pretty interesting without requiring much math.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 12:01 PM on September 11, 2008

Godel will get his, mark my words. Einstein will get his first though, because physics has always been more popular than philosophy... probably on account of how we like to see things fly through the air.

But they are both wrong, big time. No incompleteness, no relativity.

The moral: Don't be afraid to be skeptical. If Newton can be wrong, then hell, anyone can be wrong. And there is no such thing as zero.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 11:04 AM on September 16, 2008

Get a second opinion from someone who is wary of medication. This is essential.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 9:14 AM on September 11, 2008

With a little less respect, I make these two points:

1. Meaning in the brain is association between a sound and another sensory object. The mechanics of that process can be tested by asking people to pick up a "hammer" out of a group of objects. No need to pry open the brain there.

What does a hammer symbolize in dreams? Anything you like. There is no evidence that a hammer represents anything. There is no evidence that anything... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:18 AM on September 10, 2008

If he doesn't give you what you want, then you may need to ask more clearly. Sure, support should come from the heart... but men aren't mind readers.

You should try making a plan for him to follow when you are in "crisis" mode, and then discuss the plan with him.

If he doesn't understand your job, then have you included him in it? To you ask for his assessment of projects you are working on or career choices you are making?... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:09 AM on September 10, 2008

If they don't make a statement, then polish up your resume. Management's job is to organize work and communicate values... if they aren't doing this and they are firing people, then it may be time to check the exits.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:03 AM on September 10, 2008

Its all about customer service.

If you set a goal for your bank to give the customer 100% satisfaction with every transaction...

If you set a goal for your staff to give the customer the best deal anywhere... "we'll match what any bank can do for you..."

Customers want service. They want someone to help them, not someone to charge them fees, ask them to fill out forms, and stick it to them when there is a problem.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 7:42 AM on September 9, 2008

1. You have to eat right for this to work. 1.4 grams of protein per pound of lean body mass per day, minimum. You gotta eat. Eating and sleeping makes you grow. End of story.

2. You gotta avoid injury. If it feels wrong, if something hurts the wrong way, ease off fast. Don't be afraid to say "that sucks, I need to fix the form". Sounds like you got this one down with the current routine.

3. Generally there are 3 variables. 1)... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:37 AM on September 9, 2008

I saw that in the manual... on some discussion threads it sounded like that was a dvd write issue... but point noted.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 5:23 AM on September 8, 2008

Briggs and Riley. If it is ever damaged, they have deals with luggage stores all over the country... drop if off at one of them, and the repairs are free.

I've taken their luggage all over the world. It stands up to everything (even the airport baggage handlers of africa) and still looks good at the end of the day.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 10:16 AM on September 5, 2008

I find excellence to be the driver. It doesn't matter what I do... its the opportunity to work with excellent people and produce excellent products that makes the difference.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 8:15 AM on September 4, 2008

In my experience Rainbow Light products are pretty much the bomb. They have the best buffered C in the world, a great prenatal... so based on brand quality, I'd go with them.
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 4:18 AM on September 4, 2008

Given any tax rate, there is a limited amount of money that the Fed can collect (and provide in grants to states) and a limited amount of money that States can collect, and these two amounts play off each other. TAXATION is a ZERO SUM GAME. Stop pretending that there infinite money pot for federal, state, and local governments. All this money comes from the same place: the tax payer.

What about Taxation - Zero Sum Game - is difficult to grasp?... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ewkpates at 8:20 AM on September 3, 2008