How big a bag? What stuff will it be containing?
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:49 AM on September 5, 2008

You learn, like we all do, to have a very private part of yourself that is ONLY known to you. Afterall, the heart is many layered and there is the part that the general public sees; the part that only the closest people see and then there is the secret self that only you know and see. That third part is the one to nurture.

Being pregnant and hormones makes your world spin and it continues to spin post-partum. As mentioned upthread it helps to have other things to do... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 6:56 AM on September 5, 2008

Man, I was going to ask how does one become a political operative. I figured that it was non-partisan question and hey, I am really curious on how to go about it. Does this make me bad? Seriously, this was my next askmefi question.
posted to MetaTalk by jadepearl at 2:53 PM on September 4, 2008

Is the Republican Party or members of it purposely trying to derail McCain? The Palin nomination seems so problematic on a wide spectrum of areas. If he chose her as a Hail Sarah pass without vetting then "wow." If she was foisted upon him and his team assumed due diligence then someone just shanked him, bad. I am still trying to digest everything, and I admit that this is one very strange buffet that I am ladling on my plate.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 8:09 PM on September 1, 2008

Thanks to Orthogonality and others. I am going to go ahead and think that McCain was done a purposeful disservice by both Rove and anti-abortion elements; caught in a compromise with predictable behavior he chooses a candidate that was not fully vetted. Damn, I assume he plays craps better than this blooming situation indicates. Man, there are a lot of long knives out for Palin in Alaska and wow, McCain in his own party.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 10:01 PM on September 1, 2008

Okay, I am horrible at reading people. But do the spokespeople for the McCain campaign and the Republican Party seem to be truly sincere and believable? I am watching the news and gosh, golly they are really working hard for the candidate.

I am trying to get my head out of the media echo chamber and trying to get substance to digest. I have read through this thread and the conservative voices including Konolia (who I truly respect for her convictions and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 2:30 PM on September 2, 2008

In answer about the annual Alaska checks, better known as the PFD. Every Alaskan regardless of age receives a dividend check including infants as long as residency requirements are met. There are no state taxes levied however there are Federal taxes. The PFD came about when oil wealth was placed in stock funds and managed by the state under a Democratic administration. It is joked that Alaska pissed away all of its oil wealth foolishly except for the PFD which a lot of families depend upon... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 5:35 PM on September 2, 2008

I need some perspective. Do any of the medical folks have any input on the questions arising with her fifth child and her risky behavior? As on the line of trying to cause a miscarriage? Scurrilous? Yes. Possible? You tell me.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 8:21 AM on September 3, 2008

To Davar and everyone else. I am not accusing her of trying to kill her baby I want to understand the underpinnings of what is becoming broken-water gate (postings elsewhere by "maybe" medical people raise disturbing questions). I am happy to leave this alone because the ramifications are hideous. It either tells me things are gonna get REAL ugly are some things are too ugly to contemplate. Since mefi has verifiable medical people to provide perspective I raise the issue here.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 9:26 AM on September 3, 2008

Ah, so the plan is to make Palin a martyr and victim of the press? Does the press plan to be the scapegoats on this one?
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 1:00 PM on September 3, 2008

I have never, ever wanted to donate to my undergrad and grad institutions. This includes getting tchotkes, clothing and bumper stickers. I donate to things that were good to me such as, Friends of the Library or to people who need more immediate help through organizations like Habitat for Humanity or emergency shelters.

My undergrad institution, yeah, shall I describe the president who rolled in on his golf cart and gave the same speech that he gave to a group of new... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 12:43 PM on September 3, 2008

Look at how they "grow" their staff, in the sense, of paying for training, certification and or adanced education. Do not go to a job that is not willing to help you get new skills or keep your skill set fresh. A question that may seem odd to ask is this, do you see anyone who would be a good mentor for you in your future career arc? Again, a reflection of the culture.

What everyone else upthread mentions are valid as well. Do not underestimate the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 5:33 AM on September 1, 2008

Leaf lard is not difficult to acquire at all. If you are willing to have things shipped example here I can vouch for the quality of this. I usually buy my own hog and work out the details but you can definitely go smaller than a hog of that size.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 4:10 PM on August 30, 2008

You're welcome stbalbach. The trick is having storage and a plan for how the hog is going be parted out. The hardest part for me is that I still have to buy from reliable suppliers deeply favored parts such as, pork belly. Also, a butcher who is willing to do certain style of cuts. Tomorrow will be slow smoke cook two racks of ribs. The irony of cooking is that I have to force myself to eat what I cook. I eat a certain amount to be polite but I am much more interested in others' reactions... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 8:35 PM on August 30, 2008

Your friend is not being a gentleman, good friend or lover. Rob tells you ALL in his social circle that he is not happy in the relationship with Sara thus, creating discomfort for you all when you see her; Sara is viewed with a combination of pity and contempt, after all, she is considered dull and boring - not worthy of your or his care (you are on his side on this, not hers) and what kind of person claiming kindness and affection badmouths a person like this over an extended period of time?... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:46 AM on August 30, 2008

from an interview with David Simon:


My standard for verisimilitude is simple and I came to it when I started to write prose narrative: fuck the average reader. I was always told to write for the average reader in my newspaper life. The average reader, as they meant it, was some suburban white subscriber with two-point-whatever kids and three-point-whatever cars and a dog and a cat and lawn furniture. He knows nothing and he needs everything... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 12:35 PM on August 26, 2008

My best friend flew in from the US to serve as my doula in the UK for the birth of my second child. It was worth every penny to pay for her flight, lodging and lost wages while she was my doula. It was a great comfort to have someone who served as my advocate at every level including the surgical room. The medical staff had to get used to her presence but I am glad that I had her because I was in no shape to be an effective advocate regarding medical procedures. She allowed my husband to be... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 1:53 PM on August 25, 2008

First, how much cultural research have you done regarding the particular region of Peru you are heading towards? Do you know the styles of communication, literacy rates in Spanish and Quecha? Are you familiar with the change agent process of the culture? Further, have you researched if there are already programs in that area or region doing the exact same thing? Have you analyzed how the recipients of your knowledge going to receive and utilize the knowledge?

Second,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 8:04 AM on August 22, 2008

First, ease up on the all caps. Second, I ask these questions because the tone of your question had some lady bountiful tones and third, do not ascribe to me beliefs that I do not posess. Is this the smooth ways you plan to carry with you because, I could interpret your final statement as quite rude. I could interpret the accusation as saying that I have malicious intent as if, like the bad villain that I am, of depriving you, the sturdy field worker hero, the chance to, "help them live... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 6:48 PM on August 24, 2008

I am going to be blunt. He is a bully, pure, plain and simple. Because of his anger about you not being an automaton of acceptance to his ideas I would say that his ideas can't handle examination. He is irrational just by his irrational behaviour. Ideas go through a Darwininian process and the fact that he can't even handle the usual idea process that undergraduates go through during late night talking sessions is a bad sign. Man, if he is like this to you, a person that he loves, well it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 6:33 PM on August 24, 2008

I am going to be cranky and say that if he is being this blunt that you, Shadeplant, accept it and actually enjoy his company. Please do not askmefi about whether you can change him, or if you two start hitting it does it mean you're in a relationship or any of the one sided situations that are too familiar on the green. Take the man at his word. It is a great pleasure to be with someone and not have to worry about the subtext.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 2:38 PM on August 22, 2008

I thought CS4 was coming out in December. You might want to doublecheck this.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 5:58 PM on August 20, 2008 marked best answer

You are not the man. You are not the one. Accept this. Leave. Let her have her years of finding someone else and enjoying herself. You would blame her otherwise. Go. Afterall, you already have broken up, why hesitate?
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 5:56 PM on August 20, 2008

Hired a cleaning lady and out sourced a lot of the honey do stuff. I also have a whirlwind of a mother in law so never get resentful when she re-decorates the house or anything. The main thing is to categorize things as long term good thing e.g., clean the roof gutters and short term thing e.g., pick up underwear. Work on the short term stuff and out source the long term stuff including house cleaning chores like the bathroom and work on the short term stuff, "put cap back on... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 7:17 AM on August 20, 2008

I can recommend the toddy system and if you are willing to freeze your concentrate in ice trays for later use it is even better. But if the sheer quantities cause you to pause then I suggest either doing Vietnamese iced coffee method OR simply pour some expresso over ice.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 7:19 PM on August 18, 2008

Let me understand this, you are academics, and now have a Facebook issue to accept a friend invite? I am going to have to agree upthread and say, that this is a bit juvenile. Instead of holding grudges either get the vengeance or let it go. Your SO also has the option of being patient, and smile before delivering the killing blow, which in academia happens during tenure review time.

As an aside, this does not bode well if you ever decide to break up with your SO if... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 11:32 AM on August 18, 2008

I planted a fruit tree for each of the kids. I also had trees planted elsewhere to commemorate their births. A charitable donation was made in each child's name, each year to a child or family. I think about what I can plant in my garden that the children can enjoy eating to mark their time and memories. Right now, my 15 moth old, I hope, will equate summer with raspberries that I planted and give some to her each day during the season.

I hope to pull off a memory... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 4:39 PM on August 17, 2008

PBS beat them with the earlier T Shirt Travels which explores the same themes by following a single t-shirt through the rag business ending in Africa.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 3:01 PM on August 17, 2008

In the context of your reply, I think that your classmates were trying to, put it kindly, shut you up. The better response would have been to look at why they think women, no matter their diverse backgrounds, do not take the courses. Obviously, more than a few did not take the courses so why not? Better to have thrown it back and ask them why THEY thought their fellow women did not take the courses if diversity of beliefs and background were not the cause since it is OBVIOUS. Logic, reasoning,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 1:45 PM on August 17, 2008

The main thing to remember with google desktop is that if you do MAJOR moves and changes with files and folders you will need to re-index which means uninstalling and reinstalling to force a new re-indexing as opposed to tracking new files.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 1:27 PM on August 16, 2008

Decomposition in aqueous environments is very open to further research. Rates of decay depend on multiple factors of the environment including: chemical composition of fluid; hydraulic pressure; disarticulation due to currents or movement; impact of flora and fauna; rate of burial impacting oxygen environments; temperature; alkalinity of water to name a few factors.

The remains of the Olduvai Gorge were found in sediment layers so bones can survive for several hundred... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 10:58 PM on August 13, 2008

Here is a Link to multiple calendar templates including a perpetual generating one done in Excel which worked very nicely for me. Because some of the templates use macros you will be limited in using on mac office 2008.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 6:21 AM on August 12, 2008

I am sure that the news reports will include a musical background of Billy Jean and man, this is disappointing. Not because it is John Edwards, per se, but it is never good to see a relationship take this kind of blow.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 3:19 PM on August 8, 2008

I am going to go from a different angle on why Edwards' being unfaithful having impact for those not directly involved in the oath breaking. If his excuse of being on the campaign trail leads to narcissism and being isolated then Edwards choosing to risk everything for immediate pleasure has impact in the following ways:

* He judged poorly thinking that people would not gossip nor notice;
** He has made himself blackmailable. He and his friends are paying... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 1:00 PM on August 10, 2008

Do it just once and clearly that you need time and space for yourself and that what he has done has consequences. Now he is a big boy and you're a big girl so you stick by your decisions. He wants space and you don't want to be the run to girl or better than nothing option. Explain to your child the situation of the break up and that you will not be in contact with him for awhile if ever so it is not a surprise to her/him. Do not give up your space by not walking your dog, going to the pool... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 10:31 AM on August 5, 2008

Well, it is $25 per hour for what I pay in the Midwest. At the initial cleaning she spent the day but after that it was maintenance cleaning and only took 2-3 hours. I have less than 2K of footage in my home.

I would base it on per hour of what you would pay for another service. Factor in reasonable counter charge for mileage and honestly access how much work is happening. Me and my tribe are slobs so we know that a cleaning lady is worth it while a neat freak may feel otherwise.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:24 AM on August 5, 2008

The Godfather and the following two sequels is about the father and son relationship or lack there of. I do not think that is necessarily how you want to see the relationships. But notice that the world of the women happens outside and in daylight while the world of men resides in doors and in lower level lighting. All the strong relationships centers on the male whether father son (Michael & the Don); brother to brother (Sonny, Fredo, Michael) or even surrogate relationships with... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 10:44 AM on August 4, 2008

Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. Man, there are more thank a few Asian films where it just does not work out.

Heh, if you want obscure then my friend, a good chunk of Japanese literature is for you. Multiple film adaptions of the Tale of Genji and Chikamatsu. There is a reason why when Harlequin hit Japan's shores it was a revelation with the love couple staying alive at the end and not die in some double suicide, conflagration or just downer moment.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 7:04 PM on August 1, 2008

It is a lovely collection and it is very generous to allow hi-res download, which of course, has borked their servers.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 11:34 AM on August 1, 2008

Don't forget Stinky Tofu. Fish sauce and fermented shrimp paste has made some people gag. Also variants of those sauces such as, home made herbal garum falls into that stink category. Friend almost threw up when he got a whiff of my attempt at ancient Roman garum with herbs. He needed to be taken out doors to recover as I sprinkled it on a nice patina.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 8:11 AM on August 1, 2008

Man, I am still hoping for a Pocket Ref or some variant. You could also get them something weirdly useful like the Action Hero Manual with Leatherman tool? I am always looking for quirky but useful things and hey, you just never know when you NEED to fight off a great white shark.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 4:48 PM on July 31, 2008

Get her a very nice rice cooker and I will second the book, _The Seduction of Rice_ as good source of recipes spanning the world. The recipes are rock solid and the information is spot on.

After she gets, Seduction, in her skill set then she can be able to discern which paths to take whether Thai, Persian or otherwise.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 3:35 PM on July 31, 2008

Here is a case from Tenba specifically designed for moving a 20" iMac. It is not cheap but a quick search indicates that you can get it for $400 US if not potentially cheaper.

Anyway, would it be better to get a cheap laptop for your vacation instead of lugging your main machine? Heck, I know university IT groups that RENT their machines out including laptops so that maybe an option for you as well. For the amount of money that you are paying to move your... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 8:45 PM on July 29, 2008

OK. This is the list so far:

Three is a magic number -- Blind Melon
Little Potato -- Metamora
The Bananna Splits (tra-la-la song) -- Ralph's World --yeah, sly homage to Mr. Marley there
One and One Makes Two -- Johnny Cash -- hey, its Johnny Cash!
Three Little Birds -- Bob Marley
We're gonna be friends -- White Stripes
Dreamland -- Mary Chapin Carpenter
Summertime -- Peter... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 12:16 PM on July 29, 2008

Man, this question harshed my Bo Diddley high, but I gotta give it to Bobby Goldsboro's Honey (YTL - click if you dare). Now there was a song I came across while driving that was on the Pacifica station, with lines like, "No more Genocide!...(several second pause)..nnnoooooo.... .mooooooorrrrrrrreeeee...ggggggeeeennnnnoooociiiide.") It basicaly blew, but blew on a different level and I don't know the song or singer nor will I blow an AskMefi on it.

I... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:29 AM on July 25, 2008

gaaaaahhhhh.....because of you, I clicked to actually see and hear My Humps for the very first time. Like Oedipus, but without the incest, I had to be driven to KNOW! To know why so many people hated My Humps.

Well the gods have punished me. My ears, 'cause now I have bad rhymes like "lady lumps!" My eyes, since those were not the finest asses ever, I think some were stunt asses and that is an evil deception wrapped in some bad booty shaking. Will.I.Am... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 11:02 AM on July 25, 2008

Its the pensions, the health insurance and all that debt obligation. Now, I never thought to see the level of bail out of private firms like Bear Stearns but this seems to be the time of individual reward and community punishment. So, I actually think that the govt. will handle their pensions and other crapload; do a showy "drop dead" to one of the automakers to show that the gov'mint has some testicular fortitude (Potemkin village style) and then let them reorganize free of all the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 7:10 AM on July 25, 2008

OK, I admit it, I completely base the wedding gift I give on the Bridezilla quotient of the wedding. I am trying to be considerate and make one less difficult thing for the couple to split items when the divorce happens. Candlesticks is my go to future divorce gift.

I am looking forward to the AskMeFi of a bridegroom wanting to know if he should ditch his woman because of the Bridezilla moments or if it is just jitters kind of thing.
posted to MetaFilter by jadepearl at 1:52 PM on July 24, 2008

Knew a person with this problem use duct tape. It worked for awhile but let me say that it looked like a mess (kind of ruined the whole Apple chic thing) and she STILL had to try to get it repaired because things started to have that burning smell. Let the experts handle this, really.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:43 AM on July 24, 2008

erm...sent you a mefi mail.
posted to Ask Metafilter by jadepearl at 9:21 AM on July 24, 2008 marked best answer