I once read an article about an archaeologist digging in an ancient Mayan sacrificial site. Here he was, unearthing the remains of people who had been ceremoniously tortured before being killed. What struck me was a comment he made as he unearthed the remains of these forgotten people. He said, to paraphrase, "I try to treat them with care and love now knowing that they were not treated the same at their last moments." If it were me, I would put the necklace in a safe and quiet place... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:09 AM on October 1, 2008

Oops, forgot the first part of the statement:

I think that the refusal of the gift would have caused more of a problem, but I personally would avoid wearing it. The display of ivory (and fur, and diamonds) is problematic in that it does encourage a demand or desire for the product. I think this is less true of ivory where I live (US), but the demand is not totally eliminated.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:12 AM on October 1, 2008

I have these and they have done very well in Buffalo and the Buffalo Southtowns (notoriously worse weather than the Metro Area). They are sort of knock-off Sorel-ish, but I have had nothing but great experiences with them.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 6:21 PM on September 27, 2008

I kinda get where anonymous is coming from. There was this thing back when I was in high school about boxers (remember, Bill Clinton was asked about his undies choice), but anon, even if someone wanted to slam you with the hip angle on your skivvies, High Nerd is so in these days. Bask in the geeky glory. Besides, they are pretty hot anyhow, if clean and not scrappy.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 7:12 PM on September 11, 2008

MAC, Laura Mercier, Bobbi Brown.

Hardcore, theater type tips needed? Alcone.

Buy all the Kevyn Aucoin books (may he rest in peace). He was the master. Simply the best.
She can go get the lessons and get the pricey makeup (for somethings it does matter-- foundation and shadow; less so for lipstick), but she should go to the drug store and buy a bunch of cheapies, take them home, and one night when she is not doing anything, make... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:05 AM on September 8, 2008

Sorry, in a rush. Excuse the typos.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:06 AM on September 8, 2008

I second Maeve. I love that name.
Paige.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:30 PM on September 6, 2008

The Baha'i Faith isn't really cool with gay people.

I had a friend in college who is Baha'i and she was really great, but she was really convinced that Baha'i was 'the answer' in kind an an odd way. She didn't think people were evil or sinners and she didn't try to convert at all. It wasn't that, but for instance, she did give people a hard time about drinking alcohol, despite never having had it herself. It was less "you are bad" but more "I have no idea... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:21 AM on September 3, 2008

It occurs to me that my answer looks as if it were just my friend who does not believe in homosexuality-- this is not the case, as far as I know. She did show me some sort of religious guide where it defined love and marriage as being between a man and a woman. FWIW, Wikipedia notes this as well, and I am finding similar information elsewhere (Religious Tolerance, etc.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:24 AM on September 3, 2008

I went to the same school for a BA and for my PhD. My MS is from somewhere else. I actually went back and worked at the place I got my MA.

Undergrad. Large Public, cheaper. Like Lucretius Jones, I got nickeled and dimed there. Fee fee fee for things I never used, and in some cases, never even saw. Draconian parking laws and an artificial scarcity of parking spots. I was also mugged on campus and I got zero by way of support from anyone. It was not that I needed it per... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:03 AM on September 3, 2008

This is a long shot: Our Universe?
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:39 PM on August 28, 2008

The mavens at Makeup Alley should be able to tell you about the differences, either in your reading of the reviews on the product or if you post a question. You may have to register, but it is free.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 2:54 PM on August 28, 2008

Leave nothing. You were more than enough of a gift in his life.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 4:28 PM on August 23, 2008 marked best answer

Detergent, as in clean sheets, couch throws, etc. Steaming fabric furniture twice yearly (if safe for that fabric-- check).
Cedar in the closets only.
Bathrooms are the only place one can break the "air additives" rule. 1-2 drops of a citrus oil or a lavender oil in the toilet bowl after you use it. Lid up or down, a gentle barely-there scent will hang in the air-- not enough to consciously notice.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 7:29 AM on August 22, 2008

konolia is right. When someone thinks they are in a monogamous relationship and they aren't, their health is at a real risk. The ex-girlfriend may not think she has an STI, the boyfriend may have slept with more than just her...the possibilities are frighteningly endless.

Health comes first. He tells her or you do (anonymously, if you must).
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 7:29 AM on August 21, 2008

Friend's mate? Not cool. Not cool at all. But you seem to know that. Or you have been told here.

I agree that some women are into the "power over men" (dun dun duuuuun) thing, but I have known too too tooooo many men who read things that just aren't there. So, while you will run into women who like to flirt to assert their control (they are rather easy to pick out), you will also meet women who like to flirt because it is fun, and women who aren't flirting at... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 6:40 PM on August 18, 2008

Respire by Mickey 3-D.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 6:24 PM on August 17, 2008 marked best answer

Link.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 6:24 PM on August 17, 2008

You may have a hard time finding a vet who will euthanize for this issue. It is also not necessary. There are cat rescues-- they may be able to help. The anxiety you have about his problem is rubbing off on him, more than likely. So we need to stop the anxiety cycle.

First off, if you have 2 cats, you should have 3 boxes. I have learned the hard way that # of cats+1 is the way to go. Three small boxes will not be bad to take care of. Really, after one (and with us as... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 2:54 PM on August 17, 2008 marked best answer

Sorry about the errors. Oof.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 2:56 PM on August 17, 2008

Oh! And Anti-Icky Poo for the urine stains. A bit expensive. Worth. Every. Cent.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 2:57 PM on August 17, 2008

Heh, thanks for the clarification. I guess I just wanted my coat to be just like Paddington's. :)
Incidentally, I am not looking for fashionable cut per se, just rubber, lined and metal closure. Very much the Maine Fisherman's coat.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:38 PM on August 13, 2008

IANAFencing Master, but my husband owns his own fencing club and goes to Coaches College every year (none this year in an Olympic year!).

You sound like you will be a perfect fit--fencers come in all shapes, sizes and ages. At 6'3", and lean, you scream epee, so do not be surprised if a coach tries to steer you in that way. (I know you did not ask for weapon description, but you should be forewarned that with your build, epee will more than likely keep coming up).... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:49 AM on August 11, 2008

Wow, this is all so great. stefnet, thanks for the Kingsley download page!
OHM compilation looks fabulous as well.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:10 AM on July 29, 2008

the matching mole, I know it does! Moog is down the street from me. I was just having a hard time with a kitchy saying...

Thanks! This is turning out to be very, very cool.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 12:29 PM on July 29, 2008

An iPod filled with the music she and he listened to when they were courting.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 12:23 PM on July 29, 2008

East Aurora, NY.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:15 PM on July 28, 2008

Anti-Icky Poo. Get it on Amazon, where it is cheaper.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 4:12 PM on July 28, 2008

I can't imagine it is popular or anything, but Smell Yo Dick. NSFW, obviously.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:07 AM on July 25, 2008

I had a boyfriend like this who used this kind of talk to try to "sway" me to his way of thinking. It was more cats v. dogs, and later places to live and politics and religion. I came to realize that he had his own ideas and a plan. When I did not seem to go along with it, he was using talk like this to try to put me in my place-- that is, my place in his plans.

Dogs (and cats) do have personalities. To say they don't is utter nonsense.
You are... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 6:10 PM on July 22, 2008

An easy choice for basics: L. L. Bean. If you want something more posh and young, J. Crew. Backup-- Land's End. Bean tailoring is pretty classic, and you can order from your home. While the don't have a lot of cold-weather stuff up right now, it comes out pretty soon.

Boots-- from someone who has lived in Buffalo for 15 years, these are great. These, too. I like the Bean's gum boots. The key is insulation and waterproofing. Don't worry if you think the boot is ugly.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:45 PM on July 21, 2008

And jessamyn is right. I forgot the scarf (ow could I forget? I must have edited it out...). Not optional.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:48 PM on July 21, 2008

Do it. You need that time. When I was in my program, I budgeted 5 full hours a week to screw around. Sometimes I borrowed from one week to add to another, sometimes I went full over, and sometimes I didn't take it at all. I think, though, if I had an obligation to goof off with others at a certain time every week, I would have kept on schedule more with that time and with my work.

If some dire emergency comes along, you can always cancel out on the soaring-- but make... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:08 AM on July 20, 2008

I was a high school teacher, I am now a college professor in a School of Education, so I help new teachers learn how to teach and continue on in their professional careers. I am also married to a teacher and my brother is a teacher. My mother worked in schools for the last 15 years of her public working career.

I echo those who say your husband should not go into teaching to get summers off.

In fact, one of my jobs is to weed (as gently as... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 11:44 AM on July 18, 2008

I second the potluck. That was the main way we socialized in grad school. The bonus to this is that if your department is anything like mine was, there will be a bunch of international students bringing their wonderful international foods to the party. The extra bonus is when worlds collide-- our Costa Rican friend and her German partner, who were both obsessed with mayonnaise before they met, together created the delicious grilled German sausage with Costa Rican slaw and some kind of fancy mayo,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:08 PM on July 13, 2008

Mildred
Ginger
Flibbertigibbet and call her Flibbet or Gibbet
Bathmat-- Mattie for short
Magdalena
Genevra (my great gramma's name!)
Aoife
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:11 PM on July 11, 2008

You can be deeply emotionally involved. You can also kick him to the curb. This, in fact, helps you be less emotionally involved.

Perhaps you are not the kind of person who is used to making these kinds of choices and being this assertive. This is the time to try. If you think you can't do it, just pretend for a bit that you are Bette Davis or Sophia Loren*. These women don't take shit. Get him out of your life and fall to pieces later, but make it clear that you also... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:51 AM on July 10, 2008

Just an update for anyone who cares--

The kind of insider information I was looking for happened to come from the inspector who looked at the bed: Leave the mattress tags on no matter what. Also, always buy or get the frame (some kind of frame) and never put the bed on the box spring on the ground. If either of those conditions is not met, the inspector will almost immediately reject the mattress. It is also worth it to use some sort of padding or cover between the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 3:27 PM on July 9, 2008

Ooo- don't use Nature's Miracle for the stains and smell-- the only miracle is its price.

I use Anti-Icky Poo. Not cheap. It is, however, the only thing I have used that works in 1-2 applications (couches may need 3-4 since the chemical has to seep deeply into the cushion).

We just buy the kit every year or so. It comes with a full spray bottle, a gallon on the stuff, and an evil-looking syringe for rugs and cushions. Worth. Every. Penny.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:35 AM on June 21, 2008

A graphic novel take.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:45 PM on May 28, 2008

My boy has is as he recovers from an infected case of feline acne. Poor kitty. Everything bad happens to him.
It is most certainly from stress, internal or external (that is, sometimes cats do it when they feel ill), and is usually named on the chart as psychogenic alopecia.
Next time you are at the vet, bring it up. If it is worrisome, they might give kitty a shot of steroids-- tends to get the cat to stop licking for a month or so, and sometimes that is enough time to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:14 AM on May 28, 2008

Flake Bars (Cadbury)
If there is a lady involved, and she wears makeup, some Caryl Baker cosmetics (lip gloss or a neutral lipstick).
CURRY potato chips. Oh. My. God.
Any smokers? I rarely partake now, but I love me some Player's Navy Cut when I do.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 5:28 PM on May 2, 2008

It used to be...

Me: "I teach English Education."

Person: "Good, kids need to read some more/Geez I hated Shakespeare/English was my least favorite requirement in college..."

Me: "Well, its more like I teach English teachers how to be English teachers."

Person: "...oh."

I now just skip to the teach teachers part.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:08 AM on April 28, 2008

A few months ago, out cat Tubby died. She was old, she was sickly all her life, but my husband had taken her in as a runt kitten and had provided for her with everything and anything she could have wanted for all the days of her life. I later contributed when I came into their lives.

Tubby was eternally "Preparing her Report". OUr joke was that since Tub was a stern and often grumpy kitty who, when something happened that she did not approve of, would put the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 3:54 PM on April 26, 2008

99 Fast Food is open in a location on Bailey Avenue.
It is the same people.

Also, you could go to the Korean Express on the UB North Campus (it is in the commons). It has funny hours, though. Call ahead.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:57 AM on April 19, 2008 marked best answer

Oh, I did not read your question 100%-- I was too excited to tell you about 99. Looks like you tried Korean Express, probably.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:59 AM on April 19, 2008

Oo, sorry. Yes. Thank you Tomorrowful. That item did not seem to make the final edit.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 9:49 PM on April 17, 2008

I satisfy my flip-flop needs at L.L. Bean.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 8:59 AM on April 16, 2008

Rent. There is no reason to buy if you are using it once.
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 10:25 PM on April 8, 2008

Make a vinegary cole slaw with onion. Very little mayo. Forget any sweetening sugar, pickles, etc. It really should come close to making you cry.

Take 2 slices of rye bread. Place one half slice of cheddar cheese (thin) on bread.

Slop on a bunch of slaw, then put on a ton of black pepper.

Enjoy!
posted to Ask Metafilter by oflinkey at 5:33 PM on April 2, 2008