Rod McKuen is to poetry as Sanka is to coffee.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 2:34 PM on July 25, 2008

She has consumed 11.5 bottles (some by herself at home, and some with friends or by bringing it to parties as hostess gifts

Ah, here we go.

Perhaps you could divvy up next time in three categories: yours, mine and ours. Some wine you plan to share. Some wine is yours, some wine is hers, for times when you need a hostess gift or wanna break out the vino with friends. Sounds like you want to be able to have a bottle in the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 2:32 PM on July 25, 2008

Give it a week or two, and see if she can go for some walks. You do feel jittery when you first start taking it. The doc should be able to prescribe something to take the edge off that DOESN't knock her out if for some reason this continues.

She really should be feeling better in about a week or so. I know I did, when I was taking it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 12:02 PM on July 25, 2008

One caveat-if she is still having panic attacks and having problems functioning after the first week, have her screened for bipolar type two just to cover your bases...that's important.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 12:03 PM on July 25, 2008

Anything sung by Michael Bolton.

Oh, and the Pina Colada song. *shudder*
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 9:55 AM on July 25, 2008

Yeah, they used to have one of those outside my gym-it was similarly bugeaten.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 3:35 PM on July 24, 2008

Gardening? Heavy housework? Commuting to work via bicycle?

While others are coming up with other ideas, have you tried regular spinning classes? For me the fact I have gotten to know the other folks in class helps keep me headed to the gym, plus having an instructor telling us what to do helps me too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 3:33 PM on July 24, 2008

I'm guessing the added mix of Elizabeth Edward's cancer, and folks not wanting to do anything to cause her any additional pain.

I'd heard these rumors months ago...I assume if it is true, eventually it will be all over the news. But I think a lot of us really really hope it isn't-again, for Mrs. Edward's case.

(also, since apparently John Edwards may indeed still be under consideration for Obama's VP candidate, it is possible this whole thing... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 11:48 AM on July 24, 2008

Actually, there are so many components to this...diet issues, hydration issues, etc.

If a person does not eat enough fiber, or eats too big a proportion of the wrong foods, muddbutt can occur. Drinking enough water is also important...as for reading material in the bathroom, sometimes when one is constipated it helps to have something to read while waiting for bowel muscles to relax and do their thing. Conversely sometimes when one's "stomach is torn up" it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:23 AM on July 24, 2008

PS-I have -rarely-had the issues that the OP describes. It's very annoying and it does encourage me to be more careful with diet, and again, hydration.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:25 AM on July 24, 2008

Squid is a friend of mine and she's awesome.

If I had an autistic child that's the first blog I'd hit.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 5:59 AM on July 24, 2008

Oh, honey, this is a royal trainwreck getting ready to happen. You are so right to question things now. It really really is true that financial issues can rip the heart out of a relationship, and if you have a partner you can't trust to be on the same page with you? It's hell.

This could only work if he were willing to change in some areas, and the truth is most of the time people are who they are and don't change UNLESS they themselves have an epiphany.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:31 PM on July 23, 2008

I've seen that as standard here in North Carolina.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:55 PM on July 23, 2008

You basically want to wear shoes with arch support.

DO NOT wear flip flops or mules. They will exacerbate the problem.

I have running shoes with mesh canvas type uppers-they work pretty well. And thin socks should be just fine.

Finally, I hope your doc recommended doing calf muscle stretches.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:52 PM on July 22, 2008

AT THE MOST you may need ONE person to help you around the house when the baby is home. That person CAN be the spouse, or ONE of the mothers, or ONE very good friend.

PARTICULARLY if you are trying to establish nursing, the last thing you need is a ton of stress juggling relatives. I would recommend that no one come until the baby is at least a week or two old. Trust me. You will be ready to kill people.

AT the very least they should make their... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 11:46 AM on July 22, 2008

IIRC from art school, that's just lattice stripping.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:16 PM on July 21, 2008 marked best answer

Think a little more about a guinea pig. We have had one before and they really do split the diff between hamster and kitty. If you do decide to go that route get more than one (to keep each other company) and have a really big cage.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:04 PM on July 21, 2008

Have your gall bladder checked.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 5:32 PM on July 20, 2008

Gouda?
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:19 PM on July 19, 2008

I dunno...there are lots of times I might be watching tv with hubby and I scream-turn the channel! Turn the channel!

I think it's an oversensitive empathy gene, myself. I can't stand watching someone make of fool of themselves. And any plot involving mistaken identity? I just cannot. deal.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 7:31 AM on July 18, 2008

When I lived in Sarasota, certain times of the year the area was swarming with New Yorkers. These folks lived in Florida during the winter months, and were gone during the summer. Summer was kinda the dead season in the area.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 2:10 PM on July 17, 2008

Nice advice, but game warden has a point. I have a daughter with a busted heart right now because a guy she was interested in was acting as if he were romantically interested but it turns out he was just wanting to be friends and not realizing that to her asking her out to the movies sure sounded like a date.

So, sure, ask her out but it might not totally be enough to communicate the idea to some people. OTOH if you just met my daughter, she'll totally take the hint.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 1:16 PM on July 17, 2008

For those suggesting buses, let's just say riding a bus in North Carolina is not something you really want to do unless you absolutely have to.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:20 PM on July 16, 2008

I do need to say this...your friend may have technically committed suicide, but the real truth is he had a fatal case of bipolar disorder. The disease killed him.

Oh, and some of the "not feeling" you described? That can actually be a form of depression. (There's more than one way to experience depression.) When I suffered from it it was if my emotions had been shot full of novocaine. My personal theory is that when bad stuff is just way too bad to handle... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 8:23 PM on July 15, 2008 marked best answer

Well, theologically God exists outside the universe as well as exists everywhere in it.

To be technical, He is both transcendent and immanent.

Theologically, then, He created the universe out of nothing-He spoke it into existence.

Now, as to where God was before He did that?

Don't ask. I don't have enough Excedrin in the house to help my head if I think on that for too long.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 11:06 AM on July 12, 2008

Russell's teapot

Huh? Never heard of it. And I took metaphysics from a secular philosophy department, even.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 8:56 PM on July 12, 2008

Do you have a realtor helping you out? Go get one! They might actually be able to find you a mortgage company that will work with you!!!! And it won't cost you a cent!
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 8:50 PM on July 12, 2008

I am sure others will have suggestions on what you can do to relax, but one thought I had was-can you contact your local police department and ask them directly what the crime statistics are for your own neighborhood? And suggestions for home security?

I don't know your belief system but for me prayer also helps.

Having once lived in an neighborhood as a single woman- where someone did try to get into my house!-I can understand that your anxiety... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 8:29 PM on July 12, 2008

Effexor is notorious for being hard to get off....and one of the primary symptoms of going off it is brain zaps.

Talk to your doc and go sloooooowwwww....

OTOH if you haven't been on it long do know that those symptoms will more than likely disappear with further use. I used to get them on Zoloft at the very beginning but that didn't last long at all.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 12:24 PM on July 12, 2008

This is insane.

Go see your mother. And tell her she doesn't get to blame you for her studies getting disrupted-as a matter of fact she should be able to study better without you there.

If she argues, tell her you can be gone for a day with your mom, or you can just be gone, period. Because what she is asking of you is NOT REASONABLE.

Now if there are details you are not giving us that would change that please let us... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:26 PM on July 11, 2008

First, you pick your gym carefully. Mine is owned by a hospital where the focus is on health for all types of bodies. Believe me when I say that makes a major difference.

As for food, as you start eating healthfully, learning about proper portion size and enjoying fruits and veggies and other wonderful things, you will find out how much better and more energetic you feel. Don't do a diet, diets suck. Eating healthy is being kind to your body-and it will reward you for doing so.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:20 PM on July 11, 2008

What really happens is sometimes a house is marketed with a bonus which is separate from the commission. You generally see this with new construction.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 10:05 AM on July 11, 2008

I think when he said platonic he meant nonsexual.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:32 AM on July 11, 2008 marked best answer

Use the search option. Sometimes a particular video is uploaded more than once. One might be taken down, and others will still be available.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:29 AM on July 11, 2008

You are not ugly and unattractive.

Let me tell you something. Altho I work out, I have gained a lot of my weight back and am a round little woman, age 49.

My husband still thinks I am hot. As a matter of fact, as far as he is concerned, I'm Angelina Jolie.

There are guys out there that right now, right this minute, will think you are incredible.

And all you will have to do is just be you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 5:13 PM on July 10, 2008

From a former sufferer...get out into as much sunlight as you can. Without sunglasses.

Drink plenty of water, take B vitamins, also add ground flaxseed or flaxseed oil to your diet.

Kudos on exercising, btw...
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:51 AM on July 10, 2008

One of my children was only breastfed for three months then weaned herself as I'd gotten pregnant again and the milk flavor apparently changed...she is just as healthy as the other two who were totally breastfed.

You can most definitely combine formula feeding and breastmilk after breastfeeding is established. And if you have to switch to formula there is NO shame in that. You simply do what is best for you and your baby. In your case, since there is medication you need... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:40 AM on July 10, 2008

I think you need a prescription for one. (Hubby has one. But he uses it.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:19 PM on July 8, 2008

Chiang Mai, Thailand!
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 5:48 AM on July 8, 2008

Okay, here is what you do.

Tell him if he cares about your soul that he needs to spend time praying for it instead of talking to you. Because the Bible clearly states that no one comes to Jesus unless the Father draws him...in other words, your conversion is up to God.

And from THIS Christian's point of view, that is a win-win situation. Because even I know that badgering you about it WILL NOT CHANGE ANYTHING.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:46 PM on July 7, 2008

Assuming you are Catholic, don't you have to go thru premarital counseling before a priest will marry you? (Or them, actually...) If they are planning a church wedding more than likely premarital counseling will be encouraged if not INSISTED upon.

Let the counselor rattle their cages. That's what they are for!
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:01 PM on July 7, 2008

You do know this is a control issue right? She apparently does not like your clothing choices-otherwise she'd do a gift card or give you a gift receipt.

I guess all you can righteously do is hand them back, tell her they are not the right size, and ask her if she has a gift receipt, and if not can SHE swap them?
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 11:26 AM on July 3, 2008

yohko, we aren't talking just anyone's giftgiving here...those of us with a certain type of mom can spot them a mile away. We love them, but sheesh...and being a mom myself of adult children, I myself am terrified of buying them clothing. Because we moms have OPINIONS!
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 1:30 PM on July 3, 2008

Seat's probably too wide.

Plus, three weeks is still kinda not long when it comes to butt hardening.

One other thought-make sure you are seated on your "sit bones." that will help some.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 12:14 PM on July 3, 2008

Ender's Game.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 11:39 AM on July 3, 2008

Some of you are missing the part about him being a songwriter.

THAT TAKES TIME. He may NOT have time to talk to people during the week. What's wrong with that???

If I talk to MY son once a week I consider that fine. Same for my married daughter...I don't usually talk to anyone else on the phone during the week myself.


Perhaps he needs suggestions on managing the expectations of others!
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 1:22 PM on July 2, 2008

My dad eats them by pouring out the oil or whatever they are packed in, pouring on some vinegar, and having soda crackers on the side.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:26 AM on July 2, 2008

Walk for an hour every day, and watch what you put in your mouth.

The former is so that you can train your body to burn fat. Seriously.

Oh, and if you can keep up with the weight training, that is excellent as well. But you are going to have to do some base building cardio.

(I lost weight and I know what worked for me, anyway. Cardio was a major major part.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:24 AM on July 2, 2008

C_d, they do sound like someone for whom English is not a first language. They aren't improper per se, just phrased as a nonnative speaker.

I still think we need to know more info in order to be helpful to the OP.
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 6:20 AM on July 2, 2008

Still is. The idea that providing a letter from one's mother in order to get a rent reduction equivalent to hundreds of dollars per month is pretty ludicrous, I'm not sure where konolia is coming up with it

Because that is how I and my husband and kids got section 8 housing years ago. We were temporarily living with my folks (we'd moved back to NC)-mom was going thru menopause and started acting wacky and dad asked us to try to find another place to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by konolia at 4:53 PM on July 1, 2008