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Should I help a colleague with a job? Even if I find them mildly evil?
OK, I think the echo chamber in here has made it clear already that you are under no obligation to do this. Learn from my mistake:
I once highly recommended someone for a job that I honestly did not know well, but I was young and enthusiastic and eager to do both parties a favor (that's how I saw it). To cut to the chase, the person was not a good fit and ended up being let go. Because I had so highly recommended her, they waited longer than usual to do it, and it did… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:06 AM on May 26, 2016
Holy crap, that is painful. I mean viscerally, wince-inducing, frantically-scrabbling-for-the-mouse painful.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:00 PM on May 20, 2016
...and guess what the word octopus is in Norwegian? Blekksprut - which literally translated means 'INKSQUIRT'.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:20 AM on May 5, 2016
To helmet or not to helmet - plagiocephaly in 8 month old
When I noticed this in my 6-month old baby, the pediatrician said she was about a 3 on a scale of 10 and recommended we get a helmet. We took her to a craniosacral therapist instead who specializes in kids and infants, and after 3 sessions the torticollis was completely gone. She's 10 now and doing great.
Would highly recommend it - even if you are a bit of a skeptic like me, it's well worth a try to avoid the helmet if you can. Good luck!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 2:30 PM on April 26, 2016
Harriet Tubman will replace Andrew Jackson on the $20
Happy with this.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:05 AM on April 20, 2016
Greatest Living Americans Bracket
I gotta say, I was meh about the David bracket, but I'm surprisingly emotionally invested in this one. So many tough choices and so many ridiculous winners. Erykah Badou over Amy Poehler? No. Jennifer Lopez over Lawrence? NO. Beyonce over Aretha? Mmm - tough one. I picked Aretha, but I can live with it. Ronda Rousey over RBG? OK, now it's ON. WTF?? My final 4 were Aretha, Amy Poehler, Oprah and RBG.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:22 PM on March 17, 2016
Skill of the month
So many great answers! Thank you! I absolutely plan to let the kids choose - I'll probably make a list from this thread and let them vote. Can't wait to get started : )
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:07 AM on March 17, 2016
What can I do to make my community more interesting for $5,000?
I don't have any great ideas (but I love the mini library and parklet suggestions) but wanted to pop in and say I really love that you're doing this. What a great way to invest in your community. As someone unlikely to ever directly benefit from this, I thank you for doing something lovely in the world.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:23 AM on March 17, 2016
What should a resume look like now? What do hiring managers look for?
- To address your LinkedIn question: I am not on social media either - with the exception of LinkedIn. Think of it as a self-updating rolodex - it is hands down the best way to keep in touch with co-workers as the come and go, and it's an invaluable tool when you see a job posting at a certain company and you discover that someone you knew but maybe lost track of actually works there. You don't have to try to work the 2nd degree connections if you don't want to. Honestly, LinkedIn is pretty… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:37 AM on March 16, 2016
New Zealand flag referendum enters final stage
Oh man, I hope they vote to change it. The silver fern is such an iconic symbol of NZ - I think it's great.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:04 AM on March 3, 2016
This is why we can't have nice things
Excellent article, and I'm so glad that Taryn moved away from the lynch mob mentality. A certain level of compassion is needed here.
Although "Wright, a dark-haired woman with precisely arched eyebrows" - what the hell is that about? And the repeated references to her living at her parents' home? That IS her home. Ugh.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:23 AM on February 18, 2016
Getting off the gravy train
I did this.
I volunteered for a redundancy at a very well-paying but kind of soul-sucking job and skipped outta there. I absolutely loved having the time off, but would I do it again? No.
The key reason is that it took a lot longer to find a job than I anticipated. I was planning to be out for 6 months, but it took a year. And the key reason it took so long was that I was looking for a career change, which it sounds like you are as well.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:51 PM on February 10, 2016
In need of a "settle down to work" ritual
Ha - I know whereof you speak - intimately...
My solution is to set a timer on my phone and then internet browse to my heart's content. So I'll give myself 10 minutes of Metafilter checking and then, when the timer goes off, I force myself to do the next thing on my to-do list. I repeat this throughout the day as needed.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:29 AM on February 2, 2016
Songwriter on Reclaiming Adele, Rihanna's Unwanted Hits
I *heart* Sia - I've been listening to her stuff for at least 7 years and am really happy to see her getting the recognition and attention she deserves. I feel bad that her stagefright is so acute that she rarely performs (although the outsize wigs seem to be helping), but am really happy that the songwriting angle is working out so well for her. Would love to see her live - love her voice.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:37 AM on February 2, 2016
"The first and only time I had sex it did not go well."
Wow. Haunting and powerful. And quite a stark contrast to the very next article up, about two lesbians happily having babies together. Talk a bout a range of women's options in the world.
Thank you for sharing, salvia. I pray that this woman will find the love she deserves.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:42 AM on January 22, 2016
The big sleep
This is an issue where I just can't see the other side of the argument.
Abortion? I'm as pro-choice as they get, but I do understand the other side's arguments, even if I don't agree with them.
Death penalty? Totally get both sides.
Assisted suicide / euthanasia? I don't get it. Why wouldn't you allow people to end their life on their terms? Put some safeguards around it, OK - mandatory wait time or medical… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:12 AM on January 15, 2016
Gift (or annoyance?) for my mail person
We give our letter carrier (and garbage guys and recycling crew) $20 at the holidays, and he's never done anything out of the ordinary for us except put our mail in the box. This is the norm for homeowners, at least where we live (CT). We give cash in a holiday card, but I'm sure a gift card to Duncan Donuts or Starbucks would be great as well. We usually get a handwritten note of thanks back.
Welcome to homeownership!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:34 AM on January 13, 2016 marked best answer
Tattoo stars sought
I love this idea and hope you do it. Could you start by doing your favorite constellations? Big dipper or Sagittarius, something like that? In other words, pick the moles that would allow you do do an accurate representation of the constellation of your choice?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:08 AM on January 8, 2016
Final term, college senior. What do you wish you had been told?
Make the switch from saying 'credit' cards and start calling them 'debt' cards. It's amazing what a difference such a small semantic change can make.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:25 PM on January 7, 2016
Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries: Death Do Us Part
Was I the only one who was disappointed in that kiss? After all that lead-up, that was such a wooden and uninspiring kiss between Phryne and Jack. His character was always wooden, but I was hoping to see some passion break through the façade... Happy to see Dot and Hugh tie the knot, though.
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 6:13 PM on January 5, 2016
Thank you very much. It would be nice to have a mountain.
Velbekomme. Og gratulerer med 100-årsdagen!
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:53 AM on December 31, 2015
"Come on, let's go get some coffee."
That was considerably less awkward than I thought it might be. Between this and the clip yesterday of Obama tearing up at Aretha's blowing the roof off with Natural Woman, I'm feeling quite warm and fuzzy towards the president at the moment. Not that I ever hated him or anything, but there are peaks and valleys. So I guess I'm a data point that this softer stuff really does work.
I'm going to miss this first family.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:42 AM on December 31, 2015
Outragefilter-filter: how to develop a mental filter about bad things
I do agree with everyone above, that limiting your news intake does wonders for your stress levels. I never watch news on TV, for example - I 'go to' the news by visiting a couple of sites online, where I can scan headlines and choose what to read further, rather than have the news 'come to me' and be barraged by newscasters telling me everything that's wrong in the world.
However, I think the single most important thing you can do for yourself here is to tell yourself:… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:28 AM on December 10, 2015 marked best answer
Podcast: Serial: Episode 01: DUSTWUN
I was thrilled to discover the podcast on my phone this morning. Definitely enjoying it so far - and great 'cliffhanger' at the end. I look forward to hearing the story unfold, because right now I just feel bad for the guy - and for the masses of people out there who want to do that Grand Gesture that will make their lives count, somehow.
I think Etrigan's romantic comparison is quite apt, actually. Just last night I was talking with a friend about how for women,… [more]
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 8:43 AM on December 10, 2015
Serial Season 2, Episode 1: DUSTWUN
I did a little squeal in my car this morning when I saw a new Serial podcast on my phone... YAY
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:32 AM on December 10, 2015
I Was Internet Famous
I'm surprised the Star Wars kid wasn't on here. I know he's been speaking on bullying - would have been interested to hear how he feels about the experience 13 years later.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:18 AM on December 9, 2015
Puzzling kitchen-gadgets gifts?
Oh my lord, the food huggers in emilyw's link are so perfect. I would never purchase one, but I would totally use them if someone gave them to me...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:53 AM on December 7, 2015
Sharing only music/select apps across multiple Apple devices
That... looks like exactly what I'm looking for. Thank you!! How come none of my parent friends knew about this? Corollary question: can I set it up so photos are NOT automatically synced? My kids (and wife) take tons of pictures and don't bother weeding out dupes/bad shots, and I don't want to wade through hundreds of their shots. I save my pictures to a pro Flickr account.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 2:55 PM on December 3, 2015
Pregnant! Should we step back from buying this house we've dreamed of?
Without the baby, I'd say go for it, but with the baby, I advise you to wait at least a year.
The financial reasons:
- you don't currently have sufficient insight into what your post-birth expenses will be, particularly re daycare, but also with all the other costs of having a baby.
- most, if not all, of your savings/liquidity would be taken up by the down payment. Considering you're about to have a major life event, this is not the time to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:25 PM on November 18, 2015
Pregnancy complications - possible preemie to prepare for!
I had preemie twins at 31 weeks - one was 2lbs 4 oz and the other 3lbs 11oz. They are 9 now and absolutely perfect, but I well remember how incredibly scary that time was.
Everyone has already covered the 'don't stress about getting too much stuff in advance, particularly diapers' angle, so the main thing I want to tell you is to find out what your hospital's release policy is. Our hospital's policy was that babies could not go home until they would have been at least… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:52 PM on November 17, 2015
Not that kind of drinking game exactly
I have hosted a (mostly) monthly gamenight for the last 5 years, and our criteria are the same as yours - must be simple enough to play while drinking and joking around; must not require too much thought or time (so no Settlers of Catan etc.)
Favorites we play again and again:
- Cards Against Humanity (I know you have this already, but just to make the list official)
- Who What Where (like Pictionary, except more challenging and everyone draws -… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 2:26 PM on November 13, 2015
Wait... this isn't a joke?
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:56 AM on November 11, 2015
Best price for iPad mini 2?
You are absolutely right and that's what I've just done - thank you! For future reference, is there a way to find out what the Black Friday/Cyber Monday deals will be in advance?
I saw the 'leaked' Target story (which will price the iPad mini 2 for $269 but with a $80 Target gift card - not worth it to me for the $10 savings since I'd end up with $240 credit to spend at Target, where I don't normally do a lot of shopping).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:27 AM on November 11, 2015
Name suggestions please, for this dog with cowlike qualities
Tipp! (Cow-like, sometimes falls over... it wrote itself)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:59 PM on November 6, 2015
How to handle my anxiety on "active shooter" drills at school?
I don't think you need to go into detail about the why's of a silent evacuation, and certainly there are no upsides to getting into a conversation with a pre-schooler about deranged killers with guns...
With my 3 kids, I positioned it as 'just another drill the school wants to practice so that everyone can be safe, just like for earthquakes or fires'. At age 4, that should be plenty to frame the experience in a safe way.
Edited to add that… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:23 PM on October 27, 2015 marked best answer
[TravelFilter] Help me plan a Peru trip
We hiked the Inca trail exactly a year ago today! To say that it was an incredible experience is a huge understatement. I agree with most of the posters above, and everything left lucky cat said is true, particularly the altitude tiredness factor and the need for local currency. Vendors/restaurants etc. refuse to take anything but the most pristine US dollar bills, and this was a bigger deal than it sounds, since many places outside the bigger cities also didn't take credit cards.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:34 AM on October 27, 2015
Movie: Casino Royale
I LOVED this movie and have to admit I think it's actually my favorite Bond movie of all time. There were so many delicious moments, so much good stuff that made you think and feel while you still totally believed you were watching James Bond.
My only nitpick is that I didn't quite buy that he fell so deeply for Vesper. I'm not sure what made her so different from all the other clever and strong women he bedded throughout the years? But that's a minor flaw for me in… [more]
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 1:15 PM on October 23, 2015
Movie: Die Another Day
This was the worst Bond movie hands down. All the CGI stuff - Bond surfing on a goddamn tsunami - this movie just phoned it in. Awful.
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 1:02 PM on October 23, 2015
Movie: A View to a Kill
I'm surprised no one has commented on the absolutely horrendous sex scene between Roger Moore and Grace Jones. He looked so old and shrunken and she was so strong and sexy and powerful and there was just zero believability that she would ever choose to get it on with him, even for nefarious purposes.
This is probably my least favorite Bond move, despite both Walken and Jones. I know the Bond good girls are usually somewhat insipid, but honestly, the Tanya Roberts… [more]
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 12:44 PM on October 23, 2015
Movie: Live and Let Die
Oh wow, I always thought it was 'world in which we live in' and it also drove me nuts every single time I heard it. Now I feel a bit guilty for vigorously maligning McCartney for so long...
posted to FanFare by widdershins at 12:24 PM on October 23, 2015
Perhaps she even wiggled her toes, just like Pippi.
I haven't mustered the courage to read The Brothers Lionheart to any of them yet, though. I don't know if I'll make it through with my composure intact.
Harald74, I hear you! My favorite Lindgren books are Mio, My Mio and The Brothers Lionheart, but the heartache in both is making me think long and hard about how to introduce the books to my kids. I know I wouldn't be able to read it out loud to them without losing it.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:11 AM on October 22, 2015
OK. As a Norwegian, I feel honor-bound to explain a little bit - helt texas originated as shorthand for the wild wild west, where anything goes and there are no rules. It wasn't originally meant as a slur about Texans or crazy Americans. However, after decades of sometimes aggressive US foreign policy, the meaning has started to shift into that direction...
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 6:52 AM on October 22, 2015
This is not a women's issue. Don't try to make it a women's rights thing
This seems like the perfect place to tell one of my favorite little-kid stories:
My wife and I (both women) have three kids; 2 girls and a boy. We have been quite open about this kind of stuff from very early on and it's treated like just any other bathroom function. When they asked, we showed them how tampons and pads work (with a cup of water), and we've emphasized how utterly normal this is. Our son is 2 years younger than the girls and it appears that he missed… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:01 PM on October 21, 2015
Spooooooky, but not too scary... or old... or good
I know you said not old, but otherwise I think The Goonies fits the bill. Not super-scary but just scary enough. My then 8-and 6-year olds loved it once we got past the rather slow beginning.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:17 AM on October 20, 2015
Do I need a desktop or laptop?
Thank you everyone for your answers - really helpful. I marked as best the answers that most helped guide my thinking. I'm going to get a lightweight laptop for myself, hold on to the keyboard etc. from the desktop and then get a cheap desktop for the kids when they need it. Thank you!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 6:52 AM on October 7, 2015
Rich people in thrift stores also disgust me.
Ugh. I had to give up on this about 2 minutes in because of the tone. Such needless namedropping - I don't know what Alanis Morissette had to do with anything in that comment, and did Fiona consider that maybe the 'rumored Danish royalty' beauty was the only one who recognized a pair of fairly obscure Danish slippers ...because he's Danish? Or maybe others recognized it but didn't feel like they needed to impress by actually commenting on her Instagram that they knew the brand? Maybe they… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:24 AM on September 25, 2015
Does Your Language Shape How You Think?
I love this kind of stuff and think about it frequently. My mother tongue is Norwegian, but I lived in Spain the first 3 years of my life so Spanish was my first language, and now English is my primary language of fluency (dream in it, count in it etc). I've also studied a bunch of different languages as well.
I absolutely feel that language shapes how we perceive the world. When I moved to the US at 14, I feel like I developed a distinctive split personality - the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 2:46 PM on September 9, 2015
Coveted American items for a Danish host?
Seconding xingcat - the 'commonly done' thing is peanut butter / chocolate candy like Reese's PB cups or pieces (or even better, TJ mini PB cups - lethal). For some reason still not commonly available in Europe and a popular, easy and cheap choice.
And good grade maple syrup.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:00 PM on September 3, 2015
I want to watch all the spy movies. Which ones should I watch?
I'm going to work my way down this list myself!
Most of my favorites have been mentioned already (particularly the 4 Bourne movies, which I love), but seconding Salt, and adding The Assignment, an oldie but goodie. Also loved RED and RED II.
If you're up for more caper-style movies, I recommend the Thomas Crown Affair (both, but I really like the remake), all 3 Ocean Eleven movies and The Italian Job.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:11 AM on August 26, 2015
Please help me come up with a great $50-100 baby shower gift!
Honestly, it sounds like the baby stuff is covered if all the big stuff has been snapped up. I would absolutely switch to doing something for the parents:
- Gift certificate to a restaurant (with an offer to babysit would be incredibly appreciated!)
- Spa / massage appointment
- Gift card to Amazon, Target, Babies R Us or similar (like gatorae said, having a baby is EXPENSIVE and it is so nice to be able to get diapers, formula, whatever without having to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:02 PM on August 24, 2015