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Navigating Feelings For A Taken Friend
I am going to take a slightly different tack from most of the commenters here and suggest another option:
C) Tell her that you have developed some feelings for her (this will probably not be news to her anyway) so out of respect for her relationship with her girlfriend, you are going to back off the friendship. Then walk away, date others and leave her be.
If she's not interested, she'll let you know right away, and you... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:04 AM on October 15, 2014
Where have you gone John Williams? A nation turns its lonely ears to you
I just frantically googled John Williams to make sure he wasn't dead. Don't scare me like that again!
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:37 AM on September 12, 2014
Will You Be Seated on a Jury?
I had the exact same result as threeants (all the way to the right) and reaction (surprise). It is especially amusing to me because I worked in investment banking for over a decade and know all about how investment decisions are made, and frankly, would be (slightly) biased towards the plaintiff.
The crossword question was really interesting, though - that my love for crosswords or Sudoku or whatever would label me as someone more sympathetic to cold logic. Much as I... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:51 AM on August 21, 2014
The Confidence Gap
Ha - I got 'middling' confidence on the quiz and based on my experience as well as people's assessment of me, I think that's - well, wrong. I feel I'm a very confident person, and have been told throughout my life that this is how I'm seen by others as well. But in my mind, there's a big difference between feeling confident in my worth and competence and feeling confident that my opinions are correct.
To the questions about... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:24 AM on August 1, 2014
Similar iPad games to The Room?
You know about Big Fish games, right? They released the Drawn games. At least 20% of their games are puzzle type games with a story - some are clearly better than others, but I'm completely addicted and play most of them. If you're looking for something to play with your daughter, I highly, highly recommend the Awakening series - I've played them all with my 8-year old daughters and they love it. We're working our way through the most recent one now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:34 AM on August 1, 2014
A raccoon of my own
This was just beautifully written. These lines in particular made me stop and reread it a few times, remembering certain parts of my own childhood:
I was nourished on danger, and rage too, a heady brew that brings the world to its brilliant boiling point for hours of every day; and you come to need it that way. You lose the casual manner of living, tasting a little of this, a little of that, the music on low, the page turning slowly, some sustaining story... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:59 PM on July 31, 2014
"Just A Phase"
The concept of bisexual identity expression is really interesting to me. I self-identify as bisexual and have since college. When I was married to a man, it was annoying to me, though completely understandable, that everyone (gay and straight) assumed I was straight - because it felt like it erased a large part of my experience and identity. Now I'm married to a woman and we have kids together and of course everyone who sees our family together assumes I'm gay. Equally irritating and equally... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:55 AM on July 31, 2014
Holy crap, I emigrated from Norway as a 13-year-old in 1984 and this and the YouTube suggestions are taking me waaaay down the weird memory rabbit hole. I have not thought of that song in 30 years and yet I could instantly recall every line. Why, oh why, when I can barely remember where I left my keys this morning? I guess because my memory RAM is filled up with '80s lyrics...
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:29 AM on April 15, 2014
Best way to store iPhone videos on Flickr?
Thank you both! I tried both approaches and FlickStackr was definitely easiest. Thanks so much!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 5:39 AM on March 19, 2014
Promiscuity should not be the answer.
I don't have much to add to the excellent answers you've already received, but I wanted to say 2 things: 1) this is incredibly common - please know that you're not alone! and 2) it probably took a lot of guts for you to even post this question, and I'm so proud of you for doing it.
You will make it through this. You're already on your way.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:44 AM on January 29, 2014
World's Best Table Tennis Match
Hilarious. I watched the full 16 minutes. Which are 2 things I never thought I'd say about
ping pongtable tennis.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:09 AM on January 26, 2014
If you're short on time just find William H Macy and move along
Fantastic. Thanks for sharing.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:12 AM on January 25, 2014
What happens in Vegas...
I think you've gotten some great advice upthread, so I'll just summarize the things that stuck out to me:
1) I can absolutely see why you'd want to go now, and I wouldn't put it off if I were you. If you do it right (see below), you'll never regret it. You don't need to go with your BF if he's not interested.
2) However, I would be very cautious about racking up a lot of debt in order to do so. As another poster said upthread, god forbid, but... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 5:40 AM on January 9, 2014
Thank you everyone! I'm going to try a few different kinds - blends, waffle weave and wide edges to start. I'll report back if I find something fantastic...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 4:30 AM on January 9, 2014
Best app for finding concerts?
Thanks everyone! I will give Songkick a try. cnc, your answer was particularly helpful since I do live in CT...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 4:36 AM on December 17, 2013
Children's books that include biracial families?
I highly, highly recommend The Family Book by Todd Parr. I think it's so important for kids to see that families are all different sizes and colors and genders - and this book says it in such a sweet and fun way. My kids have largely outgrown it now (7 and 5), but we picked it up again recently and it prompted a discussion about kids who are adopted like one of their friends. I like to give it as a baby shower or birthday gift - every family should have one!... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:05 PM on October 23, 2013 marked best answer
How do you show yourself that you love yourself?
I thought this part of cardinality's excellent answer was so good that it deserved an additional mention:
Some of the stuff can be addressed more with some planning ahead...you don't necessarily need to have chef skills to buy healthier prepared food, salads, fruit, have a healthy breakfast, etc. It just takes some organization and planning, and when your brain already has to devote so many RPM cycles to work & family stress PLUS the depression... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:59 AM on October 18, 2013
Best way to manage PTO membership?
Thank you very much for the answers so far. To address some of frizz's questions:
There is no cost of membership in the PTO, and all parents are invited to be members. There are 550 students at the school. Right now we probably have around 150 'members' - parents who have attended a meeting and provided contact info to us (the school is not allowed to give contact info at the moment; we're working on this). Clearly we'd like to grow that number, but the first step to... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:22 AM on July 8, 2013
Thanks very much guys - think I have what I need.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 3:36 AM on July 9, 2013
What is the name of this phenomenon?
My guess is that your mom has a touch of what I call 'underdog preference'. These types of people are extraordinarily nice to others who they see as 'lower' or 'less' than themselves. This is not necessarily as mean or judgmental as it sounds - usually it means that they seek to help or improve people they think need it, such as people who are poor or sick. The problem starts when the underdog climbs up to a position of equality - then he/she becomes a threat and people like your mother will... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:23 PM on March 17, 2013
Cold Feet or Reasonable Doubts?
Move in together and try it.
I see no reason why you wouldn't. Moving in together is a big deal, certainly, but it doesn't have to be permanent if it doesn't work out. If your argument is that you don't have the time to waste if it doesn't last, I'll respond that you don't have the time to NOT give this an all-in fair chance. Why spend any more time with only your foot in the door?
Others have said most of what I wanted to say, but I'll add... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:09 AM on February 27, 2013
Privilege to pee
A few years ago I would probably also have had the same reaction as some of the naysayers in this thread - 'how can a girl at 6 possibly know she's transgendered? Can't the parents just let her play with cars?' etc.
What completely changed it for me was an Oprah show on trans people which featured, among other guests, a young boy of about 8 or 9. He had been born female but absolutely knew, always, that his gender was male. Oprah asked his parents... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:58 AM on February 27, 2013
"Her daughter is a six year old version of me."
That was an engrossing article - impressive for Gawker. It made me think a lot about the impact of social media today and how baffling I find the almost addiction people have for it.
My father was a B-level celebrity in the small country where I grew up, and it felt like reporters would come to our house for a photo op whenever there was a slow news day. To me, it felt like a complete invasion of privacy and I hated it. Starting at around age 7 I started to hide... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:28 AM on February 22, 2013
available light, I should have been more clear in my comment that it was directed at the hangers-on like Bling and trolls like Carl. I think FB and the internet in general is an incredible boon for people like the mother in her quest to find others in similar situation and to create a community. Wanting to connect with like-minded people? Totally get it. Wanting to be famous for nothing? Totally don't get it.
@maiamaia, I have noticed that trend too and think it... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:52 AM on February 25, 2013
You may now evacuate in your pants
Holy shit. I think this happened at the exact time I was born. Freaky...
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:04 PM on February 21, 2013
Tell me of the training montage equivalent in a book you've read.
I have a fondness for Wandering Warrior by Da Chen, an off-beat children's/YA book, which is basically one long training montage.
Also, to echo some of the recommendations above, this is actually one of the many reasons I love Robin McKinley: her characters have to work to become good at something, rather than magically springing forth as a master/champion/THE ONE/whatever. She does it in most of her books - I remember being particularly enamored with it in Chalice,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:38 AM on February 14, 2013
L on the forehead for Fox
His cover of Baby Got Back is one of my all-time favorite covers - it cracks me up every single time I hear it, particularly the quack. If you haven't heard it, go get it - will not disappoint, I promise.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:27 AM on January 18, 2013
What do you LOVE about being a parent?
I can't resist adding something to this wonderful thread - having kids adds such a richness to my life and it's by far the best decision I ever made. By far.
Love - I've tried, but I don't have the words to describe the depth of the love I feel for my 3 kids. It does not consume you, it transforms you. Into someone better than you ever thought you could be.
Joy - I always figured having kids would be fun - but seriously, it's a blast! All the... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 1:49 PM on January 17, 2013
Tree Houses and Hotels
So inspiring. I actually think the UFO one is my favorite - so unexpected and so, so cool. My least favorite is the hotel in NZ where the treehouses are right next to each other. Such a big part of the allure of the treehouse is to get away from it all and just be in nature - it completely ruins it that you have neighbors 20 feet away...
I always wanted a treehouse when I was a kid - now that I have kids of my own, I am seriously considering building one with them in... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 6:34 AM on January 17, 2013
“colorful etymologies...are almost always wrong".
...Cloud 7? WTF?
It's funny how ingrained cliches are - Cloud 7 sounds so wrong in my head that my brain does a little stutterstep each time I think it.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 2:03 PM on January 15, 2013
Are there good crime novels set on farms or based around agriculture?
Linda Castillo's Kate Burkholder series is definitely rural and may fit the bill. They all take place in Amish country, and Kate is a police captain who grew up Amish and rejected it. A lot of the action centers around the juxtapositon of Amish life and the violence of the world around it, which I quite like, but I will warn you that the depictions of the violence are quite graphic.
Another of my favorites is Don Harstad. Sadly, it seems he only wrote 5 books or so,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 8:54 AM on January 14, 2013
I forgot to mention that agriculture features prominently in both Castillo and Harstad's books, with parts of the plots intricately linked to farming practices and tools.
Barr, Hillerman and Box are rural but not necessarily agriculture/farming based.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:01 AM on January 14, 2013
Looking Good, Ancient Rome
Seriously. 'Amateur archaeologist and forensic hairdresser' makes her sound like a cross between Indiana Jones, Lara Croft and Vidal Sassoon.
A really appealing visual, actually...
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 3:00 PM on January 9, 2013
Favorite well-written young adult novels?
Oh! Oh! My favorite genre is YA dystopian and Robin McKinley is one of my all-time favorite authors. Here are some of my favorites, most of which I consider very well written:
- The Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins (obvious, but for the sake of completeness) - also, have you read her Underland Chronicles series? Aimed at a younger audience, probably 11-ish, but really quite good
- The Divergence trilogy by Veronica Roth - only book 1 and 2 are out... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:20 AM on January 9, 2013
Am quite impressed by how recognizable each character is - very well done!
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:33 AM on January 7, 2013
Confused about potentially nonconsensual sex, how to deal?
Something similar happened to me in college, and I remember feeling similarly confused afterwards. This was a long time ago now, and I'll share my story with you in case my perspective can be helpful:
I was hanging out at a party with a guy who was a friend of a friend, and the punch being served was *much* stronger than I realized. I don't remember much of the evening, but I do remember waking up on my back in my living room, with his face coming in and out of focus... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:47 AM on January 2, 2013
All day I hear the noise of waters
Such a lovely collection. Thank you!
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:43 AM on November 20, 2012
Battery-operated pre-loadable digital frame
Thank you all so much for your answers! After considering the power requirements, I decided the best option is to make a photobook per BlahLaLa's suggestion. I think she'd actually appreciate it more as well - less confusing for her and more showoff-able to her friends at the center.
I marked BLL's response as best answer, but all the responses helped me reach the decision, so thank you all!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 7:08 AM on November 20, 2012
Giving Individualized Future Travel
I've had experience on both sides here. If you'll bear with an anecdote for a moment:
The first non-family wedding I attended as a grown-up was for my college roommate, Jane. Jane had had a thing about hippos all her life and collected them - little ones, stuffed ones, stylized designs, you name it. She had a registry for the wedding, but, coming from a non-US background, I found that terribly gauche and wanted to get her something really personal and distinctive... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:55 PM on September 26, 2012
His Name Will Be Sung In Valhalla
Equal parts Vodka, Green Apple Vodka (or Pucker), Triple Sec, and Sprite. On the rocks in a pint glass. What is that called?
...I never named it
The Golden God. Obviously.
posted to MetaTalk by widdershins at 11:03 AM on September 17, 2012
This is clearly where God meant for me to be.
Truly amazing story. I have never even heard of a story where someone could say this: Today, I don't want to be somebody who wasn't raped. And I believe her!
Wow, this story really affected me and I'm still processing. To be able to turn something like that into a positive - well, if she can do that, then anything is possible. Thank you so much for sharing, The Hamms Bear.
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 6:35 PM on July 31, 2012
Idaho couple recover drowning victims
It's really nice knowing that there's decent people like this out there. I love positive stories like this and really appreciate them when they pop up on MeFi - thx emcat8! (and I'm so sorry about your mom and sister. I can't imagine what you must have dealt with.)
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:30 AM on July 30, 2012
The Good Artist
My mind is a little bit blown right now - I had no idea he was ever not credited! Donald Duck comic books were huge in Norway when I was growing up, and though I have moved all over the world and gotten rid of most of my stuff more than once, one of the things I could never bring myself to get rid of was my collection of 6 (huge) hard-cover Disney collections (in Norwegian) - one volume each for Donald Duck; Scrooge McDuck; Huey, Dewey and Louie; Super-Donald; Mickey Mouse and Goofy. I have... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:52 AM on July 27, 2012
Non-depressing French films I can stream?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:34 PM on July 24, 2012
No child deserves to live in fear.
I lost count of how many times I choked up during that article. When I got to the part about the 8-year old who was able to point to her accuser in court because her BACA member had her on her lap, well it was all over. Thank you so much for linking to it, Molesome. I'm off to send a donation right now.
God, I LOVE hearing about people standing up for kids (and animals). So many people pay lipservice, but these guys are actually out there, taking 5-hr... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 10:40 AM on July 19, 2012
US bank account for non-present, non-US citizen?
Wow, I can't believe I didn't consider a joint account! This sounds like the easiest option at this point - will try that first and revert. Thx everyone for the answers so far!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 9:12 AM on July 18, 2012
I choose you today—forever and a day.
I gave up on the article after the first page but when I came in here and saw all the gooey comments I gave it another chance, and of course, now I'm sitting here at work trying to blink the tears back.
I am so grateful for the incredible strides we are making towards acceptance. My wife's parents wouldn't come to our (same-sex) wedding. Now, 8 years later, they come to stay to watch our kids and never miss a birthday or holiday. The world is changing for the better... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by widdershins at 12:36 PM on July 17, 2012
MetaFilter Shirts. For real, this time. Let's make it happen.
Please oh please can we bring back the personalized MeFi baseball jerseys?
I am STILL kicking myself for not getting one. Matt, I know you mentioned they were a pain to make, but would you be interested in outsourcing the work maybe? I bet there would be quite a few takers, if MeTa comments every time this comes up is any indication...
posted to MetaTalk by widdershins at 11:14 AM on July 12, 2012
Good as Bourne?
I really like this genre too. Strongly second Nikita (the French original) and The Italian Job.
Some other suggestions:
- Red was better than I expected
- The Assignment - not sure why this movie didn't do better; I quite liked it. A much better version of The Jackal story than the Bruce Willis/Richard Gere film
- The Long Kiss Goodbye - OK movie, but made me think a lot about the long-term impact of training for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by widdershins at 11:03 AM on June 26, 2012
This is how I tell it, ohhhhhhhhhh but it's long
I am so, so sorry. Thank you so much for taking the time to post this and share your love and grief and joy and pain with us.
Like many of the posters, I vividly remember so many of the comments you linked to above. I wonder if your husband had any idea of the impact he has had on so many people and how his story has become part of our stories.
Condolences just doesn't begin to describe the grief we all feel with you.
posted to MetaTalk by widdershins at 10:21 AM on May 17, 2012