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Calling all internationally mobile, 'creative-class' freelancers- how do you determine who taxes you, if your design clients are in one country (for me, USA) you live in another country (Germany) but are a citizen of yet somewhere else (Canadian)? Does everyone get a piece of my income?
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at 6:41 AM on May 23, 2013
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Someone in a neighborhood near mine is growing Castor Bean plants in their front yard. I had always thought of Castor Beans as a waste plant that grew up, unwanted, in disturbed areas. Owing to its toxic nature I thought it a strange choice for a carefully planted yard. Are castor beans more common in landscaping than I thought?
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at 7:50 PM on May 22, 2013
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So I got engaged and bought a house with my fiancee. We lived together for a couple of years but it did not go well and she moved out. So I'd like to keep the house but do that I'll need to get her off the mortgage and off the deed.
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at 5:28 PM on May 22, 2013
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My best friend in the world has serious anger issues. He throws tantrums, bellows and sometimes just insults me as a way to blow off steam. He's been seriously depressed for some years now, and therapy hasn't helped dramatically so far. I've tried to set some boundaries in terms of how he acts towards me, and his girlfriend is doing the same, but he says he doesn't know of any other ways to deal with how he's feeling. What resources can I refer him to?
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at 12:23 PM on May 22, 2013
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I'm about to quit my job. I'm becoming increasingly aware that this is going to come as a huge surprise to my boss and coworkers. Should I have been dropping hints?
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at 10:59 AM on May 22, 2013
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Excessive knuckle-cracking is causing lasting pain in my hand, but I can't stop doing it.
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at 10:57 AM on May 22, 2013
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I self-published a non-fiction technical book recently. A Chinese publisher has just approached me and wants to buy the 5-year Chinese foreign distribution rights. How do I evaluate their offer?
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at 8:31 PM on May 21, 2013
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Looking to spice things up in the bedroom through a five senses game. A card with each sense for him/her on it is mixed and then we have an enticing way to deal with that sense. Any suggestions?
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at 5:57 PM on May 21, 2013
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I'm an ex-Leftie who now works as a money man in the UK.
I'd like to rediscover Socialist philosophy and ideals. Problem: 10+ years of economic analysis of public spending and government fiscal policy has left me thinking that Socialism is unrealistic, ill thought out, and well, a bit...silly. Help me turn myself around before it's too late! ...much more inside....
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at 8:34 AM on May 21, 2013
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I'm having some abdominal discomfort that might be related to my alcohol use. But I don't know what to do about it, for reasons related to sleep issues. Long story within.
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at 7:55 AM on May 21, 2013
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I made an appointment at a local clinic. Assuming things start well (right Dr.+ right drugs). What can I expect 2-3 years down the road?
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at 6:51 AM on May 21, 2013
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I'm getting ready to have a possible "final conversation" about financial responsibility with my boyfriend. I just want to check in to see that I'm being realistic with today's economy.
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at 6:51 AM on May 21, 2013
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From some minor checking on a new employee, I have seen a large discrepancy in pay - which is not surprising. Can I ask for a raise? How do I ask for a raise? Will I get fired? Should I just look for new work like I'm already doing?
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at 3:14 PM on May 20, 2013
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Why do I keep dreaming about my ex? YANM Psych etc.
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at 1:57 PM on May 20, 2013
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Can I get a prescription from my doctor for a urine drug test? I quit smoking marijuana ~25 days ago. Before quitting I smoked once or twice everyday. I ordered some dipstick drug test off the internet and started testing my urine after 5 days of not smoking. About 7 days ago the tests started coming up negative. I'd like to get this confirmed by gas chromatography–mass spectrometry. Can I ask my primary care physician for a prescription for one? If I do, will he get the results and report them to my insurance company?
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at 12:29 PM on May 20, 2013
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I have a pretty hefty surplus in my nonprofit project budget this year, and I have been told to spend it all, because otherwise it would go back to the funder. We're talking about $20K. We did our work, we met our goals, we provided what we said we'd provide. It just took less money than anticipated. I feel dirty and guilty about blowing this much money on "stuff" that isn't what we said we'd spend it on. I have never had a budget at all before, much less a surplus, so I may be a little naive about how the (nonprofit?) world works. Can you please give me some thoughts about how to view this in a way that doesn't feel icky? Am I just being silly and this is normal practice? Bonus points if you have suggestions on what to spend it on.
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at 11:11 AM on May 20, 2013
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I have a crush on my stage partner. I know how bad an idea this is, but how do I keep it under control when I'm draped lovingly over him for half the show? Help me do my job without the temptation to, ahem, take work home with me?
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at 6:00 PM on May 19, 2013
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How do I deal with moocher friends?
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at 6:00 PM on May 19, 2013
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My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to.
Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better?
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at 1:54 PM on May 19, 2013
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Seven years ago, when I was in college, I fell in love for the first time, and fell hard. We both made lots of mistakes because of youth and inexperience, but at the time I really wished that we could have tried again. He broke off the relationship suddenly, partially because he said he didn't think he'd ever get married or have a family. For a few years I thought of him as "the one that got away." Years later, I am in a good, happy long term relationship, that is healthy and that I enjoy. Via my alumni magazine, I recently found out that he got married about a year after we were last together, and that he's got children. I should be happy for him, but instead I feel like I've been punched in the gut. This doesn't make sense. What can I do to move my thoughts onward, and to stop thinking about what could have been when what I have is good?
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at 9:13 AM on May 19, 2013
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I'm currently in the process of moving in with my girlfriend of ~2 years. Everything was going smoothly, but now that I'm half moved in she's scared every day that I'm going to think I've made a mistake. How can I best move forward here?
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at 9:13 AM on May 19, 2013
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My sister left on an international trip (from the US), without getting a chance to inform her bank of her trip (apparently they're closed on weekends). Since she won't be able to easily make phonecalls while abroad, she's asked me to do that for her when the bank reopens on Monday. I have her card number, PIN, security question, etc. Which of these options is best: 1) call the bank, and identify myself as her, even though I don't sound like a woman and my sister has an unambiguously female name 2) call the bank, and tell them the truth - that I am calling on behalf of my sister, or 3) enlist a trusted female friend to make the call, identifying herself as my sister using information I provide.
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at 7:58 PM on May 18, 2013
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I need to go to the doctor, but intense shame is keeping me from seeking help.
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at 5:43 AM on May 18, 2013
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I need a major friend refresh/revamp. What are actionable steps I can take to find like-minded people, and in particular people that will both give/take in the fun department?
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at 3:55 PM on May 17, 2013
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I wish I could forget about the girl who broke my heart when I was a teenager, but it seems the world doesn't want to let me, because she's famous now, while I'm struggling. How do I deal?
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at 10:43 AM on May 17, 2013
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I quite conclusively ended the friendship. Now I'm seeing her at social events all over town, and she doesn't seem willing to play my 'you don't exist and I can't see you' game. What do I do next?
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at 7:50 AM on May 17, 2013
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A (legally) mentally disabled 21 year old girl in Vermont ran away with a guy from New Hampshire who she met on the internet. Her parents unfortunately did not establish guardianship, and the police say there is essentially nothing they can do. Can anyone recommend a lawyer in Vermont/New Hampshire who can help the parents establish temporary guardianship, and also, what else should the parents be doing?
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at 6:30 AM on May 17, 2013
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Yesterday I made a commitment to sobriety, and I want to start attending AA meetings in Austin, TX. Where should I go?
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at 6:29 AM on May 17, 2013
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Can you help me make peace with giving my baby formula when he's at daycare?
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at 8:20 PM on May 16, 2013
(53 comments)
My office was submitting a grant and the wrong application was uploaded to the grant agency website. My coworker submitted the final documents - and it is clear to me already that he will find a way to throw me under the bus if he has to, to protect his interests. How do I approach this?
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at 11:18 AM on May 16, 2013
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An adult woman who used to bully me in elementary school flaunted an ugly childhood memory in my face while serving my coffee today. How to tactfully deal?
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at 9:24 AM on May 16, 2013
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I'm having trouble getting everyone to get along.
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at 9:22 AM on May 16, 2013
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Just started a new job that moves way faster than me. I'm scared that I can't keep up. What can I do to make it work?
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at 6:39 AM on May 16, 2013
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A year after a run-in with some crazymeds, my emotions still feel numbed out. The meds are out of my system; what gives?
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at 6:38 AM on May 16, 2013
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Is there a polite way to ask my alcoholic parent to please stay sober for my college graduation, or is this an inappropriate subject to broach this late in the situation? Any tips for handling a visibly intoxicated relative without being rude or putting them on the defensive? Help!
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at 8:46 PM on May 15, 2013
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My manager carved a special niche for me... and now I’m not liking it. How can I have a productive conversation about my expectations while acknowledging that he went out on a limb for me?
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at 7:29 PM on May 15, 2013
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A while back my sister left a message on my mom's answering machine, saying "Hi mom, we had a baby girl..." and then she goes on to describe the birth of her daughter and how cute she was, basically leaving an audio record of this wonderful occasion. For some reason I thought it would be a good idea to save this recording.
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at 2:43 PM on May 15, 2013
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I’m uncertain about what I should do for a living and thoroughly demoralized about the monetary value of my abilities after a three year post-grad waithood. I want to build a career, but I don't know where to start. I am a rut with legs. Come in, sit down, have some snowflakes, and please help me become a productive member of society.
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at 7:23 AM on May 15, 2013
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An old (free) checking account in another state started becoming inconvenient (no local locations and bad phone service), so I moved my direct deposit elsewhere. I left a little money in the account, thinking having an older account would help with credit. I recently found out, however, that several months ago, they closed down the free checking service and switched to a fee checking service. While this was happening, it eventually drained the money out of the checking account and went negative. They apparently also closed the account for overdrafting, How badly is this going to affect my credit? Can I take any steps to mitigate it?
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at 6:29 PM on May 14, 2013
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I'm a US Federal Employee considering a position I've been offered at a University in Leicester. The salary I've been offered seems reasonable to me (~£42k per annum, I now make about $80k but it's more than we need to live on), but I'd like to hear from people who live in the UK what this really means.
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at 11:30 AM on May 14, 2013
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Just found out my boyfriend slept with someone else on Saturday night.
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at 11:05 AM on May 13, 2013
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Do you know some long-wait presents? I am planning an anniversary gift, and I would like to show that I want to be with this person for a long time. I am interested in signing up for some long wait tours, experiences or gifts. I am thinking of things like the
Canadian flag at parliament hill - a 25 year wait list, but anything >1 year is good.
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at 7:44 PM on May 12, 2013
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Considering dropping out of 1st year humanities PhD program. Terrified of starving on the streets. Help?
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at 9:02 AM on May 12, 2013
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My friend has done a lot for me. That doesn't change the fact that she is a miserable person. How do I breakup with a friend when I feel beholden to her?
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at 9:02 AM on May 12, 2013
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I've been dating a girl for a couple of months and she wants to do
everything together. What's a good way to establish boundaries and let her know that I care about her friends, things she does, while not pushing her away?
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at 8:35 PM on May 11, 2013
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I have been dating someone for two weeks, a guy I had a crush on in my writing class. For some reason as I get to know him he's a bit different than I expected. I feel something for him, but it's not a mind-boggling attraction. Now I wonder if it's enough and if it will develop?
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at 1:01 PM on May 11, 2013
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Struggling to find work, young, recent grad. I have a mutual fund and need help breaking it down. Can I live off of it? Should I? What do I do with a mutual fund??
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at 7:36 PM on May 10, 2013
(13 comments)
Any advice for coping with infertility?
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at 5:22 PM on May 10, 2013
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I've been struggling with mild depression for a long time. I think therapy is probably a good idea for someone like me, but I've been unable to find a therapist I really respect. I've tried seven different therapists (one I stuck with for a couple years), but none have seemed very insightful or helpful. I'm feeling like I should try again (my wife definitely wants me to). Do I just have to be willing to try a dozen therapists until I find the "right" one? (That seems really daunting.) Or is there maybe some way I can better benefit from a therapist who doesn't seem very insightful?
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at 5:22 PM on May 10, 2013
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I was friends with this woman for a couple of years. I don't want to be her friend anymore. I tried to accomplish this in a nonconfrontational (read: passive aggressive, maybe?) way, but she's still contacting me. Do I need to tell her an actual reason for why I don't really wanna talk to her anymore?
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at 2:33 PM on May 10, 2013
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