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Love and Freindship

I’m reconsidering friendships I’ve had for over a decade based on an unkind interaction I had with two of them recently via Skype. One of them has an overseas wedding coming up that I need to decide about soon. Should I confront them? Am I overreacting?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:48 PM on June 27, 2016 (23 comments)

Is there any safe space right now to chat, adultly, with others?

I find myself wanting to chat with others. Both M and F. Without any sort of BS rules or tons of ads. I know chatroullette and omegle used to be the places to go, but they seem to have fallen to the ad markets. Is there anywhere someone can go who just wants to chat (and yes, perhaps engage in adult behavior)? And no bots or stupid robot ads?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:29 AM on June 27, 2016 (3 comments)

How to remove a webpage of log-in credentials from Google?

A forum I used to frequent had its log-in credential database hacked several months ago, including user names, passwords, and the email associated with the account. My email is on there, and it includes my full name. The text file of the hacked info was available on tor sites previously, but yesterday I googled myself and discovered that the file had made it to the normal www and was featured prominently in google results. How do I get this removed from google results? Google's help pages for removing content are not super helpful; more details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:29 AM on June 27, 2016 (1 comment)

What happens in Kindergarten? What do I do with this kid?

Kid is four and a half but already finished kindergarten standards through lazy homeschooling. She can't go to kindergarten until next year. Preschool sucks. I have worries. Can you answer my question about what happens to kids like this in kindergarten and whether or not we've got the right plan?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:40 PM on June 26, 2016 (38 comments)

Physical therapist in NYC

Can you recommend an excellent physical therapist for scoliosis in Brooklyn or Manhattan?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:39 PM on June 26, 2016 (1 comment)

Leaving Job I Like With Very Little Notice for Job I Would Love

There's a very solid chance that on Monday I will be offered a job with an organization I admire for work that is very much in line with what I want to be doing. I currently have another job which I like, but I am very ready to leave. The problem? New job wants me to start on Friday for very good reasons, and my current job is not one that I can leave with that little notice and not cause major issues.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on June 25, 2016 (32 comments)

Anxiety in mother

My mother has always been a high level worrier but as years pass her anxieties are posing limits on her and my father. She's not been receptive to discussion of this in the past. Is there a way to broach this with her and possibly help her get the help she needs to live a more enjoyable and less restricted life?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on June 25, 2016 (11 comments)

Friend fraud: To reach out, or let it be?

A friend from long ago has been accused of business fraud. I am struggling to process this information, and am conflicted about reaching out. Please help me outline a way forward.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on June 25, 2016 (13 comments)

How to disengage from a narcissistic, manipulative mother-in-law?

My mother-in-law is a classic narcissist. I've known her since the mid-nineties, and she has always gone after me with offensive little comments and digs. If I objected she would say something along the lines of "I'm sorry you took it the wrong way," "You're just being oversensitive," or "I shouldn't have to watch what I have to say."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:18 AM on June 25, 2016 (45 comments)

A book for learning something...that's good in small doses

This is perhaps a somewhat weird question. I do a lot of my reading in small bits - standing in line for 5 minutes at the grocery store, going down an elevator for a couple minutes, a 10 minute taxi ride, etc. Given the start and stop nature of that, it's tough to read very deep things where you really need to finish a long passage in one sitting or remember everything that had been said in the chapter or section. But I love reading books where I learn something - American history, how the internet came to be, becoming a great chef - all kinds of topics.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:18 AM on June 25, 2016 (11 comments)

Getting diagnosed with bipolar II

I think I may have bipolar II. How do I get help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:18 AM on June 25, 2016 (11 comments)

Are my interns getting screwed?

My university department was recently awarded an industry grant to provide minority students summer internships working with us. For some reason this program has gone a bit... sideways. Unlike our other hourly student employees, this cohort is being paid a monthly stipend, and issued a 1099 instead of a W-2. Is there some gray area between independent contractor and employee I'm not aware of?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:58 AM on June 24, 2016 (15 comments)

Looking for a therapist in Portland, OR.

I'm looking for a therapist in Portland who is great at helping with bipolar II. My disorder has gotten out of control lately and my moods are cycling much too quickly for me to handle and I'd like to find a regular therapist and also someone that could help with medication. Curve ball: I either don't have insurance or I am on the OHP but don't know how to use it. I'm also jobless, so low-cost/sliding scale is the best option. My old therapist was the greatest, but currently I can't afford to pay her. Any recommendations? Let me know if I should memail you for any other details. Thanks!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:59 AM on June 23, 2016 (5 comments)

What's the best way to find a developer job in another city?

I'm a former .NET developer that moved from NYC doing large enterprise apps to a small smartup in a much smaller city doing really cool bleeding edge Javascript apps. I really like being out of the enterprise space and doing product development. However, everything in the town I am in is either enterprise or very corporate and I'm just burnt out on that. What's the best job search method to look for something in a city with more opportunity? I'm thinking SF or back to NYC but willing to live anywhere.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:18 AM on June 23, 2016 (3 comments)

Where's my period? Should I get a second opinion?

I'm in my mid twenties and healthy, except for the fact that I haven't had a period for over a year and a half.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:56 PM on June 21, 2016 (17 comments)

Baby Model

Everyone thinks their kid is gorgeous. Our baby really is a cute baby. We've had strangers ask if our baby does baby modeling enough times to start to consider it. We'd like to look into the possibility of having our baby do some modeling, but we have no idea where to start.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:50 AM on June 21, 2016 (15 comments)

Statute of Limitations on Saying Nasty Things After a Bad Breakup

Long story lots of snowflake details to follow. First girlfriend and I broke up about 10 years ago. Haven't spoken since. I made the mistake of looking at her social media accounts recently out of curiosity, and uh...she has been saying some pretty mean things about me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:10 PM on June 20, 2016 (25 comments)

Cruelty-free meme sites?

My 13-year-old loves memes, the kind that are a photo with amusing text over them. Unfortunately if he starts looking for them, they quickly become racist, sexist, degrade people with disabilities, etc. Is there anywhere safe to look for this kind of humor?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:53 AM on June 19, 2016 (10 comments)

Where to get legal advice for at-fault accident in Georgia?

Last year we were in a car accident and at fault. We are in Georgia. No injuries were reported on the scene, but we recently found out that there is an open medical claim from this accident. We had crappy coverage, so I'm guessing the claim will be over our maximum injury coverage. We've never been through this before and are pretty anxious. Since our insurance company is not a resource for legal advice, what kind of lawyer or other advocate should I seek to understand and best cooperate with this process?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:53 AM on June 19, 2016 (1 comment)

What are my rights in this rent situation if I am not on a contract?

[UK renter question]. I don't have a contract/lease and I'm being asked for rent beyond my move out date. What are my rights?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:55 AM on June 18, 2016 (9 comments)

Marriage, Law Enforcement, and Social Media

My spouse works in law enforcement at the federal level. Recently, she has become increasingly paranoid about just about everything. She has told me to edit or remove some Facebook posts. She has asked me to delete an Instagram account I use for a local sports league I am involved in as well as my personal Twitter both of which are not public. She prohibits me from posting photos of our child. She demands I not post political things that might "make her look bad". I am not involved with or know with anyone she works with. Should I be upset or is this normal in the LEO world? It feels a little over-controlled and she will not discuss options or compromises. Any help would be appreciated.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:55 AM on June 18, 2016 (39 comments)

Fairness in Splitting Housing Expenses as a Couple

My fiancé is moving in with me (hooray!) and I'm trying to figure out how to split the mortgage and other things equitably.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on June 17, 2016 (24 comments)

Queering gestation

Can anyone recommend resources for people whose pregnancies and related other life changes messed with their sexual orientation and/or gender identity?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:25 PM on June 16, 2016 (16 comments)

How to support an abusive friend?

I have a long-term friend who recently assaulted someone at a party. My peer group has basically cut them off at this point. Is there any way to be a good ally AND a good friend or am I going to have to choose sides and end one of the longest relationships in my life?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on June 14, 2016 (44 comments)

Buyer's remorse: buyer breaches real estate contract

What are the consequences for breaching a real estate contract on the buyer's side?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on June 14, 2016 (9 comments)

More stories like Phil's (Season 2 of Grace and Frankie)?

I'm fascinated by Phil's backstory (spoilers below the fold) on season 2 of the Netflix tv show Grace & Frankie. Are there any novels, short stories, movies, or TV episodes with a similar theme? I'm an atheist, so "religious-inspirational" might not be my cup of tea, but I'll try it anyway. I really do want to read these stories. I'm not much interested in Phil's current story (spoilers below the fold) -- just his backstory.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:01 AM on June 14, 2016 (8 comments)

How can I make my thin, fine hair wavy for a whole day?

I have long, thin, fine, hair and I fantasise about wavy tresses like these for my wedding next month (I am doing my hair myself). I have previously had zero luck with rollers or metal curling tongs + hairspray and/or mousse, they leave me with sticky, flat, straight hair after an hour or two. Help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:01 AM on June 14, 2016 (28 comments)

I never thought I'd be so embarrassed to seek relief.

IBS-C thinking about trying to conceive - how go I get off over the counter laxatives? Please help.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:55 AM on June 13, 2016 (18 comments)

How to handle an episode of aggression by cat toward baby

Our older female cat just got annoyed with the baby and tried to bite the baby. What should we do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:55 AM on June 13, 2016 (15 comments)

Things to do in Montreal when you're grieving.

Tourist in Montreal for the first time, and overwhelmed by what I didn't quite leave behind. Looking for gently-paced, self-care itinerary suggestions to get through the next 10 days.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:29 AM on June 12, 2016 (13 comments)

Single mom building a business- $50K in bank- what to do?

I’m meeting with a CFP next week, but also wanted to see what guidance I could get here. What would you do if you were me/how would you spend vs save? Details and numbers inside. TIA
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:29 AM on June 12, 2016 (10 comments)

Awkard question after awkward question after awkward question

Can you help me learn to talk with someone who has a difficult (for me) conversational quirk?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on June 11, 2016 (42 comments)

My friend died and I can't forgive myself

I found out last week that someone I considered one of my closest friends had died. I feel incredibly guilty because, towards the end, I wasn't there for her.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:29 AM on June 10, 2016 (20 comments)

Broke Girl. Big Raise. What do?

Hi. I'm a late-twenties woman who, due to some combination of fluke and skill (I guess), ended up in a high-paying (to me, anyway) low six-figures job without a graduate degree. I grew up in a single parent family, broke as a joke, and managed to get into a top college on a scholarship; perhaps needless to say, I have NO idea how to handle this influx of money.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:42 AM on June 9, 2016 (45 comments)

LDR breakup logistics?

I think it's time for me to breakup with my long distance GF. The "if I should" questions aside, when should I do this, and should I do it in person?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:42 AM on June 9, 2016 (17 comments)

Is there a doctor on board?

I have a longstanding irrational fear of flying due to the thought of panicking or losing control during a flight.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:42 AM on June 9, 2016 (10 comments)

Non-academic career suggestions for Psychology PhD

I am considering leaving a tenure-track faculty position in Psychology in order to have a more normal life. I would be very grateful for suggestions on non-academic careers. More inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:56 PM on June 8, 2016 (28 comments)

What happens if my father dies without a will?

My father has just been diagnosed with a pretty terminal brand of cancer. The last will he made is about 20 years old. I'm an only child and he's still married to my mother, but he seems completely uninterested in making a will. Whenever I ask him about it, he says he'll make one "eventually." I don't think that he gives a shit and I doubt he'll make a will. What now? We're in Alberta.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:55 PM on June 8, 2016 (10 comments)

Murky business is afoot in the neighborhood

Some of my neighbors and I have noticed suspicious characters regularly and discreetly picking up small packages off of my neighbor's porch. Our first impulse is to call the police, but that thought is complicated by two things: 1. The neighbor is himself a cop who works in an evidence room. 2. We live in a place where corruption is well known. What should we do in this case?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:18 AM on June 8, 2016 (30 comments)

Catching up with a former colleague?

A former colleague (whom I previously supervised) will be in town for an extended stay this summer. She's inquired about catching up.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:40 AM on June 8, 2016 (36 comments)

EU husband/US spouse move to Scotland to live and work?

If hubby is successful with Italian citizenship, is he allowed to live and work in Scotland as a member of the EU? Can I live with him in Scotland, and work there as his US citizen spouse?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:39 AM on June 8, 2016 (7 comments)

I'm an accidental consultant - can I list my client as an employer?

An unsuccessful job application has turned into a part-time “consulting” arrangement with the company. May I list that company on my resume and linkedin the way I would an employer?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:39 AM on June 8, 2016 (6 comments)

UK parent gifting me, a US resident alien, not yet citizen

My father is going to give me around £20,000 within the next couple months. YANML/tax expert.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:59 PM on June 7, 2016 (6 comments)

Help a guy keep his eyes on the prize in dating and romance

I'm a straight man in his mid-40s who has lost the ability to romantically fantasise. After a late start with the business of touching other people, and some relationships with awesome people where I just wasn't having fun, I've gone too cynical and lost sight of the fact that intimacy makes people happy. Are there stories or dramas that will help me imagine a fulfilling love life?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:39 AM on June 7, 2016 (6 comments)

Marital Finances - Am I As Big an Idiot as I Think?

I am more and more stressed over our household finances and I'm feeling horribly resentful and ungrateful. I would like some impartial advice/opinions. I have a therapist's session scheduled for next week but this is eating at me and I feel like I'm spending too much energy letting it roll around in my head. I make $135K per year, he *should* (key word) be making at least $300K a year, both gross figures. I pay 90% of the household bills. I have a hard time communicating with my husband. He often bends the truth or has a different version of the truth when pressed on an uncomfortable point. I like to think I am more fact-based, and when I press him, he often resorts to stonewalling or making statements that don't make logical sense. He does not have any expensive habits, he doesn't travel, drives a paid for car, and is generally a nice, well-liked guy. Where is all the money that seems to be normally expected in a practice like this? How do I explain to him that paying the majority of the bills is not working for me?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:39 AM on June 7, 2016 (37 comments)

What to expect? 20 month old son has cyst on his penis.

My 20 month old (uncircumcised) son has a cyst on his penis. We going to see an expert but we have to wait a few weeks to get in and are feeling quite nervous. I am wondering if anyone has experience with this and what we should expect.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:39 AM on June 7, 2016 (3 comments)

A wet blanket on dry land

Is it realistic for an adult to learn to swim in deep water safely enough for recreation? Will I always be more likely to drown in open water? Every summer the news is full of stories of weak swimmers dying in boating accidents and while I'd like to enjoy the water, I don't want to be another statistic. Is it worth the risk to try and learn?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:30 PM on June 6, 2016 (30 comments)

My new job is a giant over-promotion and I am horrified

One week into my new job and it has dawned on me that I have absolutely skipped many steps in my career and I am unqualified. The pros: More money! More challenge! The cons: It feels like a countdown to me being discovered as a fraud and getting fired. How do I position myself for the best outcome? (Very long, if you need a good book)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:24 AM on June 6, 2016 (23 comments)

Disability insurance for maternity leave in NYC

I live and work in NYC and am hoping to become pregnant within the next few months. Right now I am employed as a contractor, which means I don't qualify for any parental leave benefits, according to HR. Are there any ways I can soften the financial blow, besides putting aside savings? Is disability insurance one of them in NYC?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:32 PM on June 4, 2016 (2 comments)

Want to get pregnant, but travelling to the Philipines in January

My boyfriend and I want to start trying for a baby. But we have a 2,5 week trip to Hong Kong and the Philipines planned for January. How should we proceed, considering zika and (possibly) travelling when pregnant?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:32 PM on June 4, 2016 (4 comments)

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