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Does Alta Dena sell unpasteurized sour cream?

I'm very pregnant and accidentally ate Alta Dena sour cream that has absolutely no indication of whether or not it is pasteurized on the packaging. Google is not giving me a definite answer. I live in CA and I think it is legal to sell unpasteurized items here. Can you help me figure this out?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:31 PM on February 7, 2016 (7 comments)

five years of taxes to do?

I am one of the thousands of Americans who live overseas and because of ludicrously low incomes have never gotten it together to file taxes in the USA. Zero of my USA friends here are filing taxes in America. I suddenly co-own a business but their accountant does not do expat taxes. How to go about this smoothly would be a delight. I am currently being quoted £500 for each tax year preparation.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:31 PM on February 7, 2016 (10 comments)

I don't want to screw myself over more than I already have...

I worked as a part time nanny for the first half of this year, but I stupidly accepted being paid under the table. How do I pay taxes now?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on February 7, 2016 (10 comments)

Filing (very) late income taxes in QC, Canada

For pretty terrible (and irrelevant) reasons, I haven't filed my taxes in (I think) 5 years. Now I really really need to do them, but I don't know how to start and I get panicky just thinking about the insurmountable piles of paperwork, potential money owing, and even criminal charges. I'm in QC, Canada. If anyone else has dealt with late filing or voluntary disclosure in Quebec, please help!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:49 AM on February 7, 2016 (20 comments)

Dealing with feeling inadequate (and angry) about your appearance

I spend a lot of time thinking about and feeling inadequate, especially about my appearance. What helps to make this better? And what might help me to feel less angry about it all?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:48 AM on February 7, 2016 (56 comments)

What to expect when you're . . . a gal getting up there.

I'm looking for anecdata about, basically, the different things that start going wrong in your body at different ages. So that they aren't COMPLETE surprises to me when they show up. Examples might be: "Dad started to develop incontinance at age 79" and "my nose hairs turned grey and started to need extra trimming at age 63".
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:02 PM on February 6, 2016 (68 comments)

Got some cash, pay down house or invest it?

After some moderate success I'm about to take some money out of my business. After catching up on my own personal retirement savings I have enough leftover to do a few things with. My leading two candidates are, first, I can either pay down our house, taking it from a 30 year fixed @ 3.75% (2 years in) to a 15 year fixed at about 3.25%. Option two is to invest the money in either Real Estate or Equities or both. Looking for some armchair financial planning to see if I'm missing something.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:02 PM on February 6, 2016 (13 comments)

Company management in limbo, stupid time to ask for raise?

I'm approaching my first year at my job, my performance has been lauded and I intend to ask for a raise, however...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:35 AM on February 6, 2016 (4 comments)

Teacher 7 months pregnant in the fall, how can I work?

I am a teacher who is currently stuck in the short-term contracts phase of my career. I will not be renewed in June. I will be 6-7 months pregnant in September. Outside the box suggestions for how I can work?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:35 AM on February 6, 2016 (11 comments)

How can you detect and defend yourself against character assassination?

What can a person do to guard/defend themselves against a suspected character assassination campaign, possibly involving online identity spoofing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:35 AM on February 6, 2016 (4 comments)

How much privacy do I owe my mentally ill sibling?

My sibling suffers from serious mental illness. At what point, and in what circumstances, is it okay for me to reveal this to people? (Sorry, this is long.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:39 AM on February 5, 2016 (25 comments)

Gee, my underwear smells disgusting

For a couple weeks now, I've been noticing that my underwear suddenly smells really really gross all the time. It's not smelled like this before. I have no health or lifestyle concerns likely to change the way I or my underwear smell, but there must be a reason. More inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:37 AM on February 5, 2016 (22 comments)

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:32 AM on February 4, 2016 (9 comments)

Supporting a seriously ill loved one without being intrusive or grim

My favorite cousin is in a pretty serious health battle. She's vitally important to me, to my wife, and to my kid (her godson). We've always seen her at least monthly and called her every week or so. But now she's going through the fight of her life and she's not even always telling us when she's been hospitalized or is otherwise struggling. We want to find a way to step up our support for her without being intrusive or making any grim assumptions about her prognosis. How do we do that?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:32 AM on February 4, 2016 (12 comments)

emotional stress-induced amenorrhea

If you have dealt with emotional stress-induced hypothalamic amenorrhea, with emphasis on the emotional sort of stress (as opposed to physical / excessive exercise-induced), what did you do to ensure that you regularly got your period?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:32 AM on February 4, 2016 (4 comments)

How Can This Drug Test Be Positive?

My husband is up for a job that drug tests. He works at a mental health clinic and has access to drug tests and took one just to see. It came back positive, which doesn't seem possible. Is it possible?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:20 AM on February 3, 2016 (21 comments)

Kaiser Providers who specialize with Borderline PD in Denver, CO

Curious if anyone knows specific counselors who have a knack with BPD in Kaiser's insurance for Denver, CO. I am an adult male in his 40s who has the BPD diagnosis but not been professionally treated with it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:20 AM on February 3, 2016 (3 comments)

An anti-Valentine's Day Valentine's Day

After months of trying to make a relationship work (and scouring previous AskMes for situations similar to mine), I have started that all-important no contact phase. But what to do on Valentine’s Day? Truth be told, this holiday has always been a disappointment but I feel that given my current situation, the usual feeling of dread I’ve associated with it will escalate to a full-blown breakdown. It’s hard enough to prevent myself from weeping at the barrage of flowers and displays of affection and celebrations I have to witness/participate in as friends and colleagues get married or engaged one after the other. I do not begrudge anybody’s happiness, but seeing other people happily in love feels just a tad self-torturous at this time. I know that I canNOT stay at home on February 14 as that could only mean a day of self-pity and wallowing in my sadness. However, I also do not fancy finding myself in restaurants, the theater, museums, etc. surrounded by couples celebrating the day. Again, I normally take delight in seeing people in love but I’d like to take a wee break from all that. So what could I do in or around NYC in lieu of both scenarios?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:20 AM on February 3, 2016 (24 comments)

Should I freeze my eggs?

I'm 33, single and want to have kids one day. Is freezing my eggs something I should be doing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:03 PM on February 1, 2016 (22 comments)

Where to work in web design outside the US?

I'm an experienced web designer/developer looking to work outside the US, potentially in a developing country that needs my skills. How to do this and where to go?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on January 31, 2016 (7 comments)

Celexa and Adderall XR in am... a beer in the pm?

Posting for someone else (really!). He takes doctor-prescribed Celexa 20mg and Adderall XR 20mg around 8am. He has been on the Celexa several months and is fine having a beer or two in the evening, maybe once or twice a week at the absolute most, with no side effects. Even the doctor thought that was OK. Now he's on Adderall XR as well and unsure if he can still have the occasional beer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on January 31, 2016 (5 comments)

Replacing alcohol with marijuana

I've been replacing my nightly 2 glasses of wine/bottles of beer with weed, but I'm not sure if I am doing it right.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on January 31, 2016 (15 comments)

I'm in a rough spot in my relationship. Should I tell my mom?

I'm quite close with my mother, and discuss many aspects of my life with her. She is a good sounding board, and has good advice, especially about interpersonal issues. I've been having difficulties in my relationship with my SO for several months now. Would talking to my mother about this be a terrible idea?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:17 AM on January 31, 2016 (23 comments)

How Do I Get Over This Psychological Job Search Hurdle?

I used to have a reasonably good job - now I don't. So I put everything in storage, took some time out, and now I'm back sitting in temp accommodation, looking for a new job, finding this and that... but I'm not applying for any of these jobs, because I'm convinced that what a new job really means is returning to my former lifestyle of essentially working, looking forward to not working (i.e. eves/ weekends), and then not actually doing anything outside of work because I'm a massive introvert. And I'm 40, and I now realize that I'm not going to live forever, and if I conscientiously choose to return to my former lifestyle for the 2nd half of my career, then more fool me if I reach retirement and look back with great regret at poor choices I made when I knew I should've known better. And so I spend all day looking at jobs - which feel like invitations back into my old life - and then not applying for them. I need help moving on from this. Former lifestyle details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:17 AM on January 31, 2016 (9 comments)

Tenant Lawyer Recommendation, Oakland CA

Looking for recommendations for a lawyer experienced with Oakland's just cause evictions. Our landlords are pursuing an owner move-in in our rent-controlled apartment, which we believe is most likely not in good faith. We would like to get legal advice on our options.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:04 AM on January 30, 2016

Changing google auto-suggestions

I am helping someone freshen up their google results. As per previous asks we are registering Linked-In accounts etc to push the juicier results down to the second page. Much good that does while Google auto-suggests Bob Bobsworth conviction when you start typing his unique name. Anything to be done?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:43 AM on January 29, 2016 (3 comments)

How do I deal with external hate influencing my relationship?

I'm a turban wearing sikh. I'm in a relationship with an American. The hate directed our way is making me question the sustainable happiness of this relationship. How do I proceed?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:58 AM on January 28, 2016 (35 comments)

Fastest route to ANY degree with 3 years uni credit from 10 years ago?

What is the fastest route to a degree for someone with three years worth of general University education (but no degree) from a state university, roughly 10 years ago, who is no longer geographically close to that university? Assume that the degree field itself doesn't matter (it literally doesn't in my situation.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:06 AM on January 27, 2016 (6 comments)

I am EXTREMELY attracted to my professors/TAs. Help?

I've been in school (grad school!!) for two years, and I want to sex every single one of my male professors/TAs, with very few exceptions. How can I turn this infernal brain thing off?!?!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:06 AM on January 27, 2016 (20 comments)

Midlife dating and how to cope with a sudden break up?

I'm in my early 50s and divorced for three years. For the last two years, I have been dating (but not living with) a man who is long-term separated from his wife who lives in a different country. This is an open relationship, not an affair. She is aware of me, and knows we are together. I have met her several times (we get on well) and I am introduced to the family as "Dad's good friend". He has two children, one at University and the other (16) lives with his Mom. During his last trip home, his 16 year old begged him to return home. My partner will likely do so. I know I can't play a part in this decision, but how do I take care of myself now?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:06 AM on January 27, 2016 (13 comments)

Did I hurt my penis by using a cock ring?

I have an odd feeling in the head of my penis. Should I be worried or is it no big deal?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:59 AM on January 26, 2016 (4 comments)

How to Give a Client a Respectful Brush-Off

I’ve been running my own business as a consultant for a few years now and have a category of situation that keeps cropping up that leads me to ask myself, “Is it ok to tell not tell the whole truth in business when the full truth might be awkward or complicated?”
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:58 AM on January 26, 2016 (14 comments)

How to get over being catfished?

I made a friend over Instagram. Yay! She turned out to be a catfisher. Boo.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:20 PM on January 25, 2016 (19 comments)

Keeping an LDR moving forward

I've been dating someone long-distance for about five months. We met in Hometown 7 years ago. We now live on separate coasts. Our travel and work schedules forced 2.5 months to elapse between our first date and our second. Since then we've managed to see one another every 4-6 weeks or so. We've had five dates so far and another planned for a few weeks from now. Last time we were together we had a bit of a "where are we" chat and Date said that they were having a great time, happy with how things were going, enjoying our visits, the sex is great, etc. however Date is concerned that it's hard to see an end game where we end up in the same city and that puts Date, to quote verbatim, "half in and half out of the relationship." I'm absolutely not ready to discuss any sort of moving plan, but I do want to find ways to keep things moving forward. What are things you've done in LDRs to increase the level of commitment short of solving the Big Problem?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:22 PM on January 25, 2016 (12 comments)

Should you ask your doctor before applying for SSDI?

Is there any sort of protocol for alerting your doctor that you intend to file for SSDI (disability insurance)? That is, rather than just submitting the necessary government forms, is it best to mention it to your doctor, and if so, in what form?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:53 PM on January 25, 2016 (7 comments)

Extended Family Separation

Advice for surviving my wife's summer internship in another state.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on January 25, 2016 (34 comments)

Home Buying 201 -- Mortgage plus a start-up windfall?

How much house can we afford and what's the smartest way to buy given our parameters: healthy savings for a down payment, both spouses working but soon only one, and possible big pay-out in the next 12 months?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:06 PM on January 24, 2016 (18 comments)

What's the most profesh way to ask my job to relocate me?

I got my dream job in a nightmare town -- stuck it out for 2.5 years and I gotta get out of here, but I want to keep my job. Help me persuade them to transfer me to our satellite office which is in a major city a few hours away.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:51 AM on January 24, 2016 (18 comments)

How can I not hate my birthday?

Like many people, I'm sure, I dread my birthday. I want to enjoy it instead. Has anyone else managed to change how they feel about their birthday?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:50 AM on January 24, 2016 (44 comments)

Social Anxiety? General Anxiety? Medication?

I've been struggling with general anxiety my entire life, however it's been getting out of control lately. I also have random social anxiety and obsessive thinking mixed in. Looking for people's experiences and whether or not medication has helped.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:47 PM on January 22, 2016 (16 comments)

Finding a Job in Seattle

I will be relocating to Seattle in February. In addition to a decent amount of savings, I have a stable online business that generates enough monthly income to cover rent and basic expenses. I plan to find a full-time/part-time job so I won't be living paycheck to paycheck.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:47 PM on January 22, 2016 (4 comments)

Like a funeral, but for my ex, who isn't dead.

Months ago, I broke up with someone I was with for 7 years, under very sad no-one's-fault circumstances. I still love him and miss him like crazy. The sadness comes and goes. I think about him every day. I'd like to draw a line and move on and think it would help it I can decisively mark The End on that chapter of my life. I'm looking for ideas for how to make that mark. Some kind of ritual or ceremony.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:46 PM on January 22, 2016 (14 comments)

How to tell a narcissist I really did screw him over, this time

My ex has NPD and anger problems so I really don’t want to tick him off – but I think I’m about to. Please help me to mitigate the damage.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:04 PM on January 22, 2016 (16 comments)

Transitioning to a Career in Editing/Publishing?

I recently graduated with a Ph.D. in English (with a focus on a national literature in a specific time period), and am considering transitioning from an academic career to one in publishing/editing. Should I? If so, how?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:38 AM on January 22, 2016 (9 comments)

How to not be affected by sister's negative moods and outbursts?

I'm currently living with my sister and mother due to financial issues. We are all adults. My sister has bipolar + Asperger's so I have a lot of sympathy for her, but I have a difficult time being around her when she's in a depressive state. It has a significant impact on my mood, and I can become resentful. She's the type to make sure that everyone knows she is depressed yet refuses to talk about it; if pressed, she can become emotionally volatile. How can I learn to walk on eggshells without being affected by her negativity?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:27 AM on January 22, 2016 (21 comments)

Should I become a counselor?

I think I need a new career: my current one is going nowhere, and I'm incredibly unhappy. It occurred to me that I might have a better life, if I were to become a counselor of some sort. Am I right?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:03 AM on January 22, 2016 (14 comments)

Job Hunting in a Cultural Field

For the last five years I've been at the same small cultural institution in a large US city. During that time I worked my way up to a (non-executive) director role managing a few employees. I'm ready for a change, but I'm having trouble making that change happen. I've been semi-seriously looking for a year now without luck, and would love to hear experience and advice from other people who've grown or maintained careers in similar fields or situations.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:42 AM on January 21, 2016 (5 comments)

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:29 AM on January 21, 2016 (15 comments)

Ex-pat friend asked if she could use my US mailing address

She's an American citizen who has lived in Germany for many years and plans to stay permanently. Due to a life change, she asked if she can use my mailing address for her paperwork. I trust her but want to make sure it's OK from a legal/financial CYA standpoint.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:56 AM on January 20, 2016 (13 comments)

Is this particular situation a good time to use my Ativan prescription?

I have an Ativan prescription that is intended to help me deal with panic attacks. I rarely use it because my panic attacks are quite rare. I have a work event coming that turns me into a ball of anxiety every time I have to do it (2-3 times a year) and I'm wondering if this might be an appropriate time to make use of my prescription.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:56 AM on January 20, 2016 (16 comments)

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