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I met a really cool-seeming guy at the pet store today. I'm married, not interested in anything romantic AT ALL, but I don't have a lot of friends in this town and I'd like to make more. Can I contact him? Also: I don't even have his contact info -- I just found him online.
Applied for a job at a large slow-moving company while I was employed, became unemployed before interviews, was referred to another job within the company and didn't mention I was unemployed during application/interview process. Now it's been 2 months since I've been unemployed, but nobody at this company knows and I'm likely to get a job and have a background check. I do, however, have a chance to fill out a correct application, but it will be inconsistent with my previous application/what I said in the interview for the 2nd job I applied to. Is this a huge deal?
My boss asked our receptionist to contact me via my personal email / cellphone. The problem? The receptionist happens to be my wife.
He stopped on a very sharp turn under an overpass and I couldn't stop in time. Minor damage to both cars, no injuries. We took pics of each other's drivers' licenses, license plates, and insurance cards, and the damage to each others' car, then drove away. No police or bystanders involved--it's an intersection that has lots of fender benders so people don't pay attention. Do I just call my insurer? Is there something I *should not* do or say? I'm insured but am I likely to be totally screwed if I don't have the right kind of coverage? I find this stuff pretty confusing. I don't live in a no-fault insurance state. Is this good or bad?
I was seeing a woman for six months last year, and then broke up with her in December. (Things were getting too serious too quickly, and I felt we were incompatible in several important ways.) I sent a long email explaining my reasons. I said I thought we shouldn't see each other anymore, for both our sakes. Eight days later, she took a pregnancy test (after a couple of days of feeling fluey) and found out she was pregnant. She let me know the same day.
Following the discovery of a partner's recent one-time unfaithful behavior, a great deal of soul-searching has led to no clear answers on how to react. Is still-present love from both parties enough to warrant relegating this event to the past, or is it wiser to adhere to a strongly held principle that such behavior is unacceptable, recognizing that there were growing doubts about compatibility anyway?
My boyfriend reacts badly to very common everyday frustrations. I'm a sensitive person and his negativity really weighs on me. His hot temper also makes me very uncomfortable. How do I talk to him about this?
I am looking for some advice on dealing with tenants as a new landlord.
I am a single, 40-year-old man and have about $1.1 million in assets. (About 35% is in pre-tax retirement accounts.) I also have a mortgage of $350k on an apartment in NYC and about $150k in equity in the apartment (not counted among my assets). But I would like to move to the Bay Area and buy a house.
Simply put... My 13 year old daughter is gay. I really want to support her in anyway I can. She goes to a religion-based, private school where she is very happy with lots of friends. I feel a conflict between the anti-gay official position of the school and the actual reality of the students. So... should I keep my daughter in a "Christian" school vs. ?
Every year when I try to set up a google email list for a class I teach I have to figure it out all over again because they've changed it. Please help me figure out this year's iteration.
Granted, you are not my dog's veterinarian but I'm still looking for thoughts from thoughtful people. Do we keep doing what we can to keep our dog alive or is it time to have end of life discussions with our dog's vet?
Apparently I have an issue with frequently clogging toilets (more than other people, maybe?). Is it my toilet paper habits? Is it my bowel movements? Help me figure this out.
I'm a manager of things, and that works for me. My next step up the corporate ladder is to manage people, and I don't want to do that. I have ambition, just not in that direction. Have I hit my ceiling?
I'm looking for work but due to Reasons, I don't actually have solid references. What are your suggestions for handling this? I'm looking for advice both from people who've been in my position and those who are hiring managers. How did you handle this? What can I do/say in my interview to reassure you it really was them, not me?
My husband will be in the hospital for a long time. I have a small baby. I'm having trouble coping with how to build a life around this.
So, around 2pm today (Friday) the HR manager for the division of the company I work for sent me a meeting invite for Thursday of next week. She included a staff lawyer and HR manager that comes from another division. Neither my manager, nor anyone from the business unit I work for was invited to the meeting. The meeting will be conducted over the phone (all parties work in different locations). I should note that I manage a small team and have 5 direct reports.
My spouse was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness. I need help figuring out what needs to be done.
I was a long-time chronic pot smoker. I have a rather slow metabolism and have worked hard to lose weight.
While taking the bus, someone stood right next to me when (I believe) there was no need for them to do so. I didn't notice there was so much free space further down and would have said something if I had. I am not happy about this: am I overreacting?
What to do with a custom-made gift for the ex that arrives in the mail 1 month after a breakup?
My question is about how to fight small scale corruption in a small town (in the US). I believe there are some MetaFilter readers here who are involved with local government. I have a friend (John) who is involved in local politics in a very small town. John is part of an organization comprised of several elected individuals who have oversight over a small budget (think a town council, county commissioners or school board). However, due to the way the local and state government is set up in his state and jurisdiction, there is little oversight of the group. The issue is continual shady dealings that go largely unnoticed by the public.
There are guides for dummies on US tax reporting. I need THAT but for EXPATS. Know of any?
This week, during my appointment with my therapist, I relieved a difficult task for homework! She ordered me to do something for myself to, basically, celebrate my accomplishments and... more broadly... survival to this point in my life before my next appointment. But I can't think of anything to do to celebrate myself!
Thanks to a lucrative year for my company stock, I am now possessed of a lump sum of money that I'd like to use to pay off debts/ important expenses.
Job offer is imminent and through the grape vine I've heard that the General Manager is interested in a Co-Manager type situation. What are the pros and cons of two people managing a small retail store? Do you have any experience with such a situation and if so how did it turn out?
I'm going to be in DC next week. I do not like Donald Trump. Are there any protests planned from Feb 19 - 24? My 10- and14-year old children also do not like Donald Trump, and would like to join me.
I have been in the application process for a job I'm really excited about. I was extended a contingent offer last week pending a reference check. On Thursday, three of my four references were contacted. I haven't had any contact with the potential employer since. Probably because I'm so excited about this position, not hearing anything is making me antsy.
I have had a completely crap year/two years/five years. Everyone in my family of origin has died (separately, 1-2 years apart, unexpectedly each time). I developed a chronic illness. And now, of course, there's the election and the current administration wreaking havoc with my emotions/sanity. How do I recognize whether my emotional problems have become acute, and if so, what the heck do I do about it?
Do you use You Need A Budget? I have a question about how to deal with credit cards.
We're excited about an amazing elementary school for our daughter...but it's right near a freeway. Is there any clever way to measure the level of air pollution on the playground?
How can I best support a friend in an abusive (same-sex) marriage?
What are the ethical boundaries for a therapist/psychologist pitching me on a "money management educational system" business that she and her husband are members of, based on things I told her during one of our sessions? Kosher? Or weird?
An awkward sort of question about finding a private (ie. family / one person) restroom in Keystone, Colorado vicinity.
This is a bit of a tricky question to ask friends, hence asking Metafilter. How normal is it for a six year old boy to be wanting to do "penis play" with his friends?
I am in a wonderful relationship & I have chronic depression & anxiety. What are your tips for preventing mental health issues from sabotaging relationships? Snowflakes to follow.
I was in a car accident this afternoon. A man was turning left across my lane and I hit the side of his car. No injuries to either party. What should my next move be?
Need some tips on how to have some good days, or at least okay days, while dealing with some ongoing harassment, a physical illness and general unpleasant life changes.
I've never felt like this. After college I decided to go travel instead of facing the real world, and it's been 3.5 years now. What started as a lifestyle that I chose to happily live has resulted in so much heartbreak and emotional detachment. I literally do not know how to move on from here.
How can I assist someone I don't know and rarely see who may be in a domestic violence situation? Secondarily, how can I deal with the effects of this situation on my own household?
What are the benefits and disadvantages around the different ways to register a lefty activist group in New York/New York City? We are looking at a 501c3, 501c4, fiscal sponsor, an LLC (???) or something else.
I am in a new relationship, and it is going well. I am a talker, and if we want to go there, my "love languages" are words of affection and quality time. He is more reserved, and speaks more through action than words. I am enjoying learning new ways to show and receive affection, but I also need words to feel secure...How do I learn to navigate this new communication landscape without sacrificing my needs?
I was dumped a month ago by my long term partner. We were together for five years and spent the last year apart, long distance but committed. He dumped me out of nowhere and I am having trouble moving on.
I'm the poor sap who was in this situation last summer. The good news: I quit the awful job! The bad news: I'm sinking anyway, and don't know how to right the ship. (also: more snowflakes)
I am currently on a job search and wonder if there is any way to search for a job that the main facet is travel. I'm not looking for something that necessarily brings me to places that I could use as a vacation starting point, but really anywhere.
What are some of the long-term consequences to dropping out of a professional masters program? When is it a good idea? A few techy snowflakes inside.
U.S. citizen (but identifiable "activist") deciding whether to visit North Africa – help me guess the unguessable re. possible future effects
I'm trying to hunt down some good informational resources for political groups / activist groups who are concerned about infiltration by agents provocateurs: what to watch for, how to be smart and prepare, general best practices, etc. I'm less concerned about infiltration by law enforcement/intelligence groups, and more concerned about James O'Keefe types. Looking for links to existing informational or training resources--please don't post general advice unless you yourself have personal expertise in the area.
My present girlfriend was in an abusive relationship that is very much in the past. But now that I've learned the details, I'm having some trouble dealing. Very general but possibly triggering details inside.
I've put together a gofundme campaign to try and cope with a big financial setback. I've sent the link to friends and asked them to share, but I'm new to social media stuff and don't really know what else to do. Can folks recommend any other approaches or guides to crowdfunding that could help me with this process?