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Recourses over broken academic search

How to ascertain and pursue options related to broken promises and possible discrimination in academic library management job search?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:15 PM on October 21, 2017 (3 comments)

Lawsuit against medical practitioners, detriment to medical career?

Would having been involved in a malpractice/wrongful death settlement, involving a hospital, several doctors, and several nurses, somehow affect my chances at medical school admission, licensing and so on? I'm considering spending several years taking bridge classes, studying like crazy for MCAT, volunteering, etc. Should I not even bother having the "strike"/"red flag" etc (if that's even a thing) of having sued doctors? (I'm thinking of this somewhat like bar admission, where criminal history, for example, can prevent you from practicing law). Even if not professionally inhibiting, would I be a pariah among colleagues? What happens when doctors sue other doctors, if they even do? SHOULD I even consider a medical profession having been in a position where I felt their actions merited legal action?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:59 PM on October 21, 2017 (6 comments)

Zero Budget Birthday Ideas Under Dismal Circumstances

I have no money to celebrate my late thirties birthday this year and my life circumstances are dismal. How could I make my birthday enjoyable despite everything instead of weeping through the day?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:59 PM on October 21, 2017 (16 comments)

Chicago Therapists Who ACTUALLY Specialize in Trauma

I live in Chicago, and need recommendations for good therapists who actually have their specialty in trauma, as opposed to just using it as a keyword.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:21 AM on October 21, 2017 (4 comments)

How can I best support my newly disabled dad?

My dad who is dealing with new & severe physical limitations - and I'm trying to understand what that must be like and figure out how to support him best. What advice do you have?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:21 AM on October 21, 2017 (6 comments)

Help me get the most from my nutritionist

Have you used a nutritionist/dietitian to deal with excess weight and/or emotional eating? Can you share your experience and any tips on how I can get the most from my appointments?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:20 AM on October 20, 2017 (5 comments)

Why is it tough for me to make male friends?

Totally good at making women friends, but rarely am able at making male friends. What’s up with me?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:48 AM on October 20, 2017 (31 comments)

Finding a specialty immigration lawyer?

I need to find an immigration lawyer in Seattle who deals with naturalization of a long-term permanent resident who has a criminal record. My attempts to find one using the group legal offering from my employer haven't been successful; I've not had anyone return my e-mails. Does anyone on the green have suggestions for other resources (or maybe a recommendation) I can try?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:23 AM on October 20, 2017 (3 comments)

Have you known someone who has successfully managed ASPD?

I just found out my boyfriend of a year has antisocial personality disorder, which to be honest, I find terrifying. Does anyone have stories of long-term relationships with someone with the disorder (not necessarily romantic - friends and family members count too) that did not end poorly?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:11 AM on October 20, 2017 (15 comments)

Please recommend a good house door alarm with on/off button?

My neighbor just had an attempted break-in last night. He woke up and called the police. I didn't hear anything, and apparently our street got quite loud, with sirens and an ambulance and yelling. This makes me worry that I might sleep through someone trying to break into my own house, and I live alone and would not like to wake up to an armed someone in my bedroom. Is there a door alarm that I can buy that I can manually turn on at night and off in the day? Or another option?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:11 AM on October 20, 2017 (8 comments)

The opposite of presenteeism is...absenteeism?

I've been sick and out of work for four days, and I'm probably going to be out for a couple more. The guilt and anxiety I'm feeling about this is...surprisingly overwhelming, and I feel like my sense of what's reasonable may be broken. (But how broken?) Help me think about this rationally.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:11 AM on October 20, 2017 (25 comments)

how to deal with negative emotions while working through couple-issues

Partner & I have finally started to face up to issues that have been building for 10+ years, and it's all pretty raw. We're both seeing therapists individually, and a relationship counsellor together. But in between sessions, I need to be able to relate to my partner like a relatively normal human being, and right now I don't know how to do that.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:18 PM on October 18, 2017 (10 comments)

The most dramatic Askme ever?

I'm a single woman, 35, recently out of an LTR. I made a mistake and slept with my (partnered) graduate program director. I am now pregnant after the morning after pill did not come through for me. Hope me out of this clusterfuck.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:24 AM on October 18, 2017 (51 comments)

Should I out myself as bisexual in an academic job application?

I'm a bisexual cis white man applying for faculty jobs in some social science/humanities fields. There are two reasons why I'm considering mentioning my sexuality: first, that many jobs want me to talk about how and why I'm qualified to teach to diverse student populations, and second that I would be interested in teaching gender and sexuality courses. I would probably follow this advice on how to go about mentioning it, slipping in some "As a queer scholar, I ..." language along the way.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:00 AM on October 18, 2017 (8 comments)

BM Question

Possibly TMI (but not graphic) question about bowel movements...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:00 AM on October 18, 2017 (6 comments)

Imposter syndrome turned up to 11

I messed up at work and I can't stop ruminating about it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:16 AM on October 17, 2017 (12 comments)

Advice on retraining as a clinical psychologist in the UK

I'm looking for help and advice on changing career to become a clinical psychologist in the UK. Much more inside...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:15 AM on October 17, 2017 (3 comments)

How to offer a domain to a specific company?

A few years ago I bought a generic domain because it seemed like a great deal and like it might be useful for my own projects. Now I've decided I'm probably not going to use it, and I want to offer it to a specific company that I think might be interested before putting it up for a general auction on a site like Sedo. What is the professional way to handle this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:48 AM on October 16, 2017 (4 comments)

Getting Over Fear: the Art Edition

How do you create when you don't like being watched while you do it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:48 AM on October 16, 2017 (13 comments)

We're splitting up over photographs!

My boyfriend didn't take any pictures of me in our two years together, and as soon as he took some, he also photographed an ex-love.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:08 PM on October 15, 2017 (41 comments)

Should I stay or should I go now?

My husband has been addicted to opioids for the last five or so years of our 23-year marriage. He has had chronic migraine-related problems since the 6th year after we wed. The opioids help mitigate the migraine problems for an hour or two at a time but he began using them regularly beyond the need for migraine relief. He sunk so far down into opioid abuse that he became a recluse and I only saw him for about 15 minutes a day. He never left the house unless there was absolutely no way to avoid it. Between the illness and the drugs, I have been single in my marriage for over a decade. I recently gave him an ultimatum regarding the drug abuse and he has started tapering off the pills. His old, loving self has returned and I find that I continue to be as out of love with him as I have for years.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on October 14, 2017 (29 comments)

Should I quit my job?

Feel like I am in a never ending crisis; should I quit my job?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on October 14, 2017 (21 comments)

Best doctors and hospitals for treatment-resistant depression?

Who is the best, most knowledgable doctor in the tri-state area I can go to for a second opinion and the most up to date knowledge re: treatment-resistant depression and medication?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on October 14, 2017 (3 comments)

Friends saying mean things?

I am a woman in her 30s. My friends, also women in their 30s, will occasionally say things that I find very hurtful. I know how to handle this in romantic relationships but not so much in non-romantic contexts. When should I say something, and what should I say?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:10 AM on October 14, 2017 (26 comments)

Job searching with no confidence

My current job is ending in December and I should be job searching but I'm paralyzed by fear and a lack of confidence. I endured a year-long, painful job search to find my current job and I'm dreading going through that again. I'm also not sure what kind of work to apply for, as I HATE the role I have the most experience in (admin) and also don't feel like it's possible for any employer to want to hire me or to see my value. Another barrier is that I can no longer tolerate office politics, sexism, and hierarchy bs.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:18 PM on October 13, 2017 (9 comments)

Exempt to Non-exempt with 24/7 availability? Hmmm.

I anticipate a classification change from Exempt to Non-exempt. What's the best way to preemptively document and respond to ongoing after-hours expectations?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:01 PM on October 13, 2017 (8 comments)

Amazing sex again without toxic ex? Seems impossible. Anyone overcome?

I finally got the strength and willpower up to leave my abusive ex of ~2.5-3 years. My ex is still keeping me on a small string due to the fact that our sex was absolutely earth-shattering (best we've ever had by far). My ex has led me to believe slowly over time with comments and insinuations and flat out statements that this is so rare I will never find it without them. A good part of me believes them. I am looking for anecdotes about situations where someone believed this to be true but later found it wasn't true when they were fully able to move on, or maybe information about how someone can get in ones head over time and plant this belief so firmly that it sticks? How to unstick if it is unlikely to be true? I believe this is the one fear keeping me from moving on from this person so I'd like to know how accurate it might be.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on October 13, 2017 (23 comments)

Why is my breast doing this (kinda gross, TMI)?

I (menopausal, mid-50s, female) am experiencing a very small amount of dark, almost chocolate colored discharge from one duct of one nipple. Discovered a month ago as a tiny drop on my bra and otherwise has to be expressed, not spontaneous leaking. Things that make it worrisome: only one breast, dark {maybe bloody} color, started spontaneously, decades post-lactation. My doc *thinks* she palpated a small mass upon exam, but is unsure, and thought it felt like a duct, in any case. My nipple symptom continues and nothing showed on that ultrasound. Now I need to go for a breast MRI. What the heck, breast?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:23 PM on October 12, 2017 (4 comments)

Bitten by a Cockroach

My cat woke me up last night around 4:00 a.m. for a feeding. I was laying on my side and felt a bug bite on left side. I swiped at it and it was big! I turned on a light and saw a medium-sized cockroach. It had bit me so I killed it. I had no idea cockroaches will bite you like that. Does this happen frequently?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:56 PM on October 12, 2017 (11 comments)

need ideas for my Peace Corps Club

Our middle school has a period of community service learning this year in which teachers get to pick the area of study. My students are learning about and working with Peace Corps volunteers, but I'm kind of stuck on what to do next.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:19 AM on October 12, 2017 (6 comments)

Understanding/not freaking out when partner lies (in a small way)

I'd like any ideas that folks have about how to manage my knee-jerk reaction to what is a small and ultimately inconsequential lie.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:36 PM on October 11, 2017 (30 comments)

How do I continue to live a full life and overcome my anxiety of doom?

I've had mild social anxiety, depression, and ADHD, and have managed it relatively quite well (with adderrall and effexor) since adolescence. However, a new trigger has emerged (nuclear war) that has been the most debilitating ever for me (multiple panic attacks, sometimes unable to concentrate at work). What self-help, anxiety books, worksheets are helpful for those whose anxieties are specifically related to mass tragedies (like nuclear war) and the thought that my fears might be warranted?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:11 AM on October 11, 2017 (12 comments)

Working through depression and post-breakup blues

My long-lingering depression has rebounded lately, and to cap it all off I got dumped out of the blue. I'm also in a very demanding school program that requires a lot of time, effort and concentration. How do I keep it together when all I want to do is cry?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:25 AM on October 10, 2017 (5 comments)

Everyone says I’d love Colorado… but where exactly?

I need a change from the East Coast (DC, specifically). It’s too stressful, too hot, too muggy, too congested, too depressing. Everyone says I'd love Colorado, but where, specifically?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:24 AM on October 10, 2017 (10 comments)

How to not resent my future mother-in-law?

Feeling resentful after being ostracized/judged by BF’s mom for the past 8 years and giving her little reason to dislike me. This starkly contrasts with how my family views my boyfriend, which bothers me. Marriage/moving closer to home are on the horizon and I want to have a better relationship with her, so my BF doesn’t feel like he has to choose between me and his family. Help me see the situation differently?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:24 AM on October 10, 2017 (26 comments)

Another round of Name My Blog!

I'm a way-too-long unemployed education journalist, and I 'd like to keep writing through a blog on civil rights and equity. This would encompass the entire education continuum. I am stuck on a title before I even begin, so a title would really help me a lot. I would love an iconic phrase related to a court case, but "All deliberate speed" was a book, I think. This question is anonymous to separate my posting history from my (theoretical at this point) professional life. Thanks!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:58 PM on October 9, 2017 (1 comment)

Finding someone to be intimate with?

I (30F) would like to find a trustworthy guy to be intimate with on a consistent basis, but am not sure how to go about it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:24 AM on October 9, 2017 (8 comments)

help with rent stabilized lease buyout in NYC

NYC specific: Can you recommend a lawyer or other resources to look into asking my landlord to buy out my stabilized lease? I've been on the same lease for almost 20 years.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:19 AM on October 8, 2017 (3 comments)

Looking for a strapless non-binder binder!

I'm a queer femme but have never really been into my boobs. I am looking for something that is STRAPLESS and binder-esque but I don't necessarily need the full compression of a binder. What do you recommend?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:46 AM on October 7, 2017 (6 comments)

Laid off 1 month into new job. What now?

Started a new job in a new field, was laid off six weeks after my job started. Have no idea what to do next.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:46 AM on October 7, 2017 (5 comments)

Spouse quit smoking--but I'm skeptical

This is the nth time my husband has quit smoking. I'd be very proud of him EXCEPT he's lied to me before--it turns out that he's smoked several times during the times he allegedly quit. Friends and relatives have confirmed this to me. It makes me upset knowing he lied to me during those times.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:46 AM on October 7, 2017 (19 comments)

Wellbutrin and constipation: has anything worked for you?

Wellbutrin and constipation: has anything worked for you?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on October 5, 2017 (13 comments)

Applying for a Masters degree - will my transcript let me down?

I'm considering applying for a Master's course in the next couple of years. However, while I have the degree result that meets entry requirements, my transcript from my BA isn't particularly outstanding. Will this be an issue? Further details, excitingly, inside!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:16 AM on October 5, 2017 (8 comments)

mentoring a slow coworker

I am a newish hire. I have been asked to "mentor" a younger, less experienced new hire who is not my report, on work that isn't for my projects. He asks me to solve problems I think he should be solving on his own, or at least with significantly more independent effort before asking for help. How much of this is reasonable?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:15 AM on October 5, 2017 (22 comments)

My job sucks. Help me find small ways to reward myself.

I have a job where my boss treats me poorly (think name calling, personal comments, the occasional lightweight item thrown at me). Sometimes I cry on my way to work. Often I cry (behind closed doors) at work. I'm trying to find ways to get through the day and reward myself in small ways, maybe something for X days without crying on the way to work. Any ideas?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:37 PM on October 4, 2017 (39 comments)

How can I ensure a treasure-hunt proceeds after I die?

I'm planning to leave my friends and family a treasure-hunt on my death. After solving a series of clues - each more fiendish than the last - they will uncover my Final Message To Them All. (Don't worry, it's a nice message.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:25 AM on October 4, 2017 (21 comments)

How can I protect my interests from a quit claim deed?

I am being asked to sign a quit claim deed to what will in reality be a marital home, which I will be paying most of the mortgage on. Is there anything I can do to protect my interests?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:19 PM on October 3, 2017 (10 comments)

Marriage Counselor in Manhattan?

Please recommend a good marriage counselor in Manhattan. My wife and I have one kid and were trying to have another – we just found out that the infertility treatments we tried didn’t work. My wife’s furious (she blames me) and I’m worried that we’re not going to be able to get beyond this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:31 PM on October 3, 2017 (4 comments)

My girlfriend wants to have a child next year. I'm not sure.

My partner has proposed the idea of having a child next year. I'm unsure about the idea.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:09 AM on October 3, 2017 (51 comments)

embarrassing medical issue at work

I am a new employee at a job that involves 50% standing/walking/sorting in AM and 50% seated desk work in PM. I like the job and want to keep it but am finding that the non-sitting part irritates my hemorrhoids very badly. Agonizing and humiliating if known about. Maybe TMI inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:22 AM on October 3, 2017 (6 comments)

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