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Preparing for unemployment in US - Green Card edition

I've been unexpectedly made redundant, in a contract non-renewal sense. The current contract runs out in a few months. I'm a permanent resident (green card holder). I intend to stay here and look for work ASAP. I am not familiar with the US unemployment process - what should I be doing to get my ducks in row over the next few months, before the contract finally ends? Many thanks.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:36 AM on April 28, 2017 (3 comments)

The conversation lasted two minutes, maybe three minutes

Stuck thinking about a brief encounter with someone who knocked my socks off. Problematic, of course. What now?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:35 AM on April 28, 2017 (39 comments)

Feeling trapped in my job

I'm a grant writer/grant manager. What else am I qualified to do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:18 AM on April 28, 2017 (8 comments)

How do I keep politics separate from work?

I'm in a workplace which leans heavily liberal and activist. I don't want to think about political issues at work, since they have nothing to do with my job directly. Is it all right if I keep my head low and disengage? How best to do so?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:43 AM on April 27, 2017 (25 comments)

After walking away from America, how does one come back?

Okay, a friend of mine went off to teach English in China like 5 or 6 years ago. She was seriously suicidally depressed and decided she needed to change everything about her life. Everyone was shocked but supportive. She's remained alive because of this. But the way she left is causing her to think she can't come back and none of us know how to help.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:37 AM on April 27, 2017 (19 comments)

UK: working visas and pressures on relationship

Special snowflake question inside - all to do with visa and work pressures on a relationship/marriage in the UK.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:35 AM on April 27, 2017 (9 comments)

Pimp my CV

I'm applying for a policy job in a tech company. Most of my experience with CVs involves dull templates and I am looking for some inspiration for this one.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:21 PM on April 25, 2017 (14 comments)

Negotiating in India-- difficulty level: academia

The fantastic news: after several years floating around on 10 month contracts, picking up freelance editing work for peanuts, and generally wringing our hands about the future, my husband and I got assistant professor jobs! The catch: In India! The bad news: the (new) private university is run like a business (eyes on the bottom line). They want you there 9-5 M-F and every other Saturday measured "biometrically".
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:21 PM on April 25, 2017 (8 comments)

Dealing with anonymous harassment

Someone has been leaving harassing and creepy notes on random doors in the condo complex where my girlfriend and I live. These notes either claim to be from us or from management due to our repeated complaints about the recipient. Fortunately, our complex's management does not believe that we are behind the notes and the people who have received them seem to accept the fact that this is someone's idea of a sick joke. We have a good idea of who is behind this, but no proof. What should we do next?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:22 AM on April 25, 2017 (14 comments)

Switching insurance for weight loss surgery

Is it possible for my husband to go on Medicare in order to have weight loss surgery covered?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:22 AM on April 25, 2017 (4 comments)

I rocked the boat and now I'm scared. How do I process this emotion.

I participated in a social justice initiative at work. The initiative unexpectedly became very public, very quickly, over the course of this past week. I'm in a vulnerable stage of my career. I'm terrified of the potential backlash. How can I become one of those people who so fearlessly stand up for their beliefs?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:08 PM on April 24, 2017 (14 comments)

Ontario real estate: what's the best downpayment percentage?

Buying our first house. Should our downpayment be large or small?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:49 PM on April 24, 2017 (11 comments)

Help! I'm in a rut.

Help! I'm in a rut. I've got several big decisions ahead of me, but I'm procrastinating deciding despite time ticking away. If you've learned any coping skills for this, I'd love to hear them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:54 PM on April 23, 2017 (13 comments)

How can I find out the author/title of this Transformers doujinshi?

Found some images from a Transformers doujinshi for the Starscream x Skyfire/Jetfire pairing, but need help identifying the title and author.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:55 AM on April 23, 2017 (2 comments)

How do you properly change the terms of an apartment lease at renewal?

We just bought a rental property with an existing tenant who is in the middle of a year long lease. We plan to honor the remainder of the current lease without changing any terms. However, when the lease is up for renewal we would like to enforce a no-smoking policy. Unfortunately, the very nice current tenant does obviously smoke. YANML, but how can we go about making that change in a lease renewal without it seeming like we are trying to evict him by adding restrictions?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:54 AM on April 23, 2017 (21 comments)

Moving into corporate apartment; leaving house vacant for 10 weeks

We’re moving! For 10 weeks! And we’re leaving our house vacant! What should we do to prepare it? And what do we bring to our “furnished” apartment?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:39 PM on April 21, 2017 (14 comments)

Can US custody cases petition financial records from non-US citizens?

The short of it is I gave a close friend a bunch of money to help him separate from his wife (he was the stay-at-home parent for years and had no funds of his own). Now they're in a very bitter custody battle. He's worried they may try to drag me in by petitioning (or whatever it's called) to see my bank statements - they may want to see if I gave him more than he disclosed. I didn't, but they're digging for anything they can find to use against him as he's asking for spousal support. I'm Canadian and all of my money and bank accounts are in Canada. Is this something they can do, or is this not possible because the funds and myself aren't in the US?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:39 PM on April 21, 2017 (11 comments)

How can I get back my mojo?

I'm a 39-year-old woman in a long-term (16 years) heterosexual relationship, and in the past year or so I've had a big unexplained drop in libido. I've had my hormone levels checked, which was the only test my doctor did in response to the problem, and they're normal. One big problem is that, suddenly, sex is often painful.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:07 AM on April 21, 2017 (11 comments)

Help with Life Insurance

Hive, I am a 33 year old male who got married in December and on advice of our financial advisor started shopping for life insurance. I am healthy but have asthma and tried weed once. Now I received what I think is the worst rate at almost twice the price I was originally quoted.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:05 AM on April 21, 2017 (13 comments)

How to deal with a former weird intern asking for work.

So this kid interned for me a year ago. There's no nice way to say it but he gave off a real Lenny based Mice and Men vibe. Hulking kid with a stutter who kept a permanent half smile on his face that did not read as a normal. He keeps hitting me up for work and I'm kinda torn on what to tell him.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:39 AM on April 20, 2017 (19 comments)

My own response to spouse's yelling/anger

I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with yelling at home. My wife's daily yelling matches with our young son are exhausting and stressing me (and I must reduce stress for medical reasons).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:37 AM on April 20, 2017 (65 comments)

What can be found out from gmail headers?

For reasons, I need to send anonymous emails from a throwaway account. Assuming I use incognito mode in Chrome when using Gmail, what can the recipient find out about me?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:27 AM on April 18, 2017 (10 comments)

Does it sound like sibling rivalry?

Looking for some perspective on how to deal with my brother's partner. I will try to explain the situation as best I can but please forgive me if I am not coherent. The circumstances are this: We (me – Aunt and my mother - Grandmother) look after my three-year-old nephew every weekend and before and after school on three days per week. Myself, his grandmother (80 years old), his two uncles and his mum are the only family he has. This arrangement of childcare has been more or less forced (emotional blackmail/manipulation of my single parent sister) upon us but was just about proving to be workable, however, it leaves my mother with zero energy to do anything else in her life. I manage it by working part-time and having no other commitments.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:27 AM on April 18, 2017 (21 comments)

I want to be amazing at being let go

I'm being let go. I've looked up steps to take and have gotten started on planning. Can you help me see whether I'm missing anything and how I can best use the time I have before my last day?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:19 AM on April 17, 2017 (9 comments)

Advice for tech careers in the Washington DC Area For Ex-Academic?

I'm a UK Computer Scientist with strong engineering skills moving to the Washington DC area who wants to transition to industry. I seek advice on what to do in order to maximize my potential income and be able to climb the corporate ladder effectively in the region.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:19 AM on April 17, 2017 (9 comments)

What's it like to work in a music festival?

Specifically in logistics and volunteer management
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:19 AM on April 17, 2017 (1 comment)

Friend of friend spilled some beans. Do I act or wait?

A friend of a friend of a friend inadvertently let me know that our friends-in-common are getting a divorce. It was completely by accident and she was mortified. I feel so bad for my friend who is going through this. Do I tell her that I know, and see if I can do anything for her? Halp.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:02 AM on April 15, 2017 (11 comments)

Help me get into a better frame of mind for a new baby with big age gap

I have an elementary-aged child from a previous marriage. My new husband is eager for us to have more kids. I am on board, but I am nervous. Help me get into a better emotional state about this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:16 AM on April 14, 2017 (13 comments)

Finding a general practice doctor with mental health experience

I'm happy with my psychiatrist, but I need to find a GP that has a better than average grasp on mental health issues, possible medication interactions, etc. How can I find a general or family practice doctor with adult mental health experience, particularly anxiety and depression? So far search results are cluttered with specialists.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:15 AM on April 14, 2017 (3 comments)

How to Gracefully Admit When You F***** UP

New mom, new job and overwhelmed. Making lots of small mistakes and feel like a big one is coming. What do I do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:15 AM on April 14, 2017 (6 comments)

Communication device for someone with ALS

I'm a social worker with a client with ALS. (I'm posting without connection to my profile and am using gender neutral pronouns just to throw some extra layers of anonymity on this puppy just to err on the side of ethical-ness.) My client is able to talk right now but knows they soon won't be able to, and they're concerned about being able to communicate. At their request, I'm looking to help them out with solutions if possible but ALS is outside my previous work experience.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:25 AM on April 13, 2017 (8 comments)

SURPRISE! You have a brother that is 39 years old.

A woman from my father's past recently contacted my father to inform him that he is the father of her 39 year old son. She also informed my dad that her son has known for about 7 years, and just recently expressed interest in contacting my dad to meet him.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:24 AM on April 13, 2017 (16 comments)

Umm, school's going fine, thank you...

I will leave the details vague for obvious reasons, but I am in a professional program (think medical or dental), and had some trouble getting through the first semester "block" of my first year. Since it was too many credits to remediate, the school allowed me to take designated master's-level courses from an affiliated program second semester and let me return next fall as long as I received satisfactory grades in those courses. I did, and I addressed the issues holding me back that first semester, and "round 2" of my first year has been going much better (knock on wood). I am happy with my progress now; having to avoid questions and explain it to relatives, on the other hand...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:12 AM on April 12, 2017 (23 comments)

Contemporary realist painters showing in Los Angeles Westside?

I'm visiting family in Santa Monica, CA this coming Wednesday through Sunday and would love to catch some really good, critically acclaimed and currently active realist painters, leaning towards but not necessarily attelier/academic. Vincent Desiderio or finalists in the BP portrait contest is the sort of thing I'm looking for.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:28 AM on April 11, 2017 (1 comment)

Do I tell her how long it's been? How do I tell her?

I'm newly seeing this very awesome woman. Things are headed in the right direction. How, or do I even tell her it's been two years since I've had sex. More...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:27 AM on April 11, 2017 (37 comments)

New Orleans inpatient treatment facility for depression

Seeking a New Orleans area inpatient treatment facility or program for bi-polar/depression that is in NO WAY God or 'higher power' focused.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on April 10, 2017 (2 comments)

How did you recharge your marriage?

I feel like my partner and I are not connecting that much these days. Between young kids (toddler + early elementary), full time corporate jobs etc we are just not spending much time together, and what we do spend is very "admin" focused. How did you keep a feeling of intimacy in your relationship at this stage?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:03 AM on April 10, 2017 (20 comments)

Mortgage sharing - moving out - what should I pay?

I currently live with my brother. We share a mortgage on the flat we live in. I have decided to leave the flat and move in with my girlfriend. I intend to keep my share of the flat with my brother, which he is fine with - what should I be paying for?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:03 AM on April 10, 2017 (6 comments)

Cross-cultural relationships...how do they work

My boyfriend's family is deeply conservative. He loves them. I love him. How do people possibly navigate this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:36 AM on April 7, 2017 (13 comments)

I think I have OCD.

I've always thought I had anxiety, but now I think it's actually OCD. What's the best way to go about treating this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:35 AM on April 7, 2017 (16 comments)

Please help woman do a career.

I work in a start-up and hold an intermediate level, technical position. Complications: start-up is almost busted, and I am trying for babies. Halp?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:35 AM on April 7, 2017 (10 comments)

I get restless.

Every day, by late afternoon, I get a jittery feeling that I should be doing something else instead regardless of what I am doing at that time, regardless of what else I have done that day.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:46 AM on April 6, 2017 (9 comments)

Challenging hospital bills

A family member was recently in the hospital and we've just recently gotten all of the insurance claims back. While the bills that we're expected to pay (which haven't come yet - I'm just seeing 'amount you owe' on the insurance website) aren't eye-popping (high hundreds/low thousands) they're very significant and I'm wondering what to do about it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:46 AM on April 6, 2017 (8 comments)

Asexual but wanting a sexual relationship - can I offer enough?

Looking for perspectives from anyone who thinks they can offer insight, but most especially from men who like women. I think I'm asexual - I don't think I feel sexual attraction. I still value and want sex. Would I be "enough" for a non-asexual partner? How much of a deal-breaker would it be that their body and sexual responses didn't turn me on, and I only got turned on by their touch or words?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:04 AM on April 6, 2017 (22 comments)

Should I quit my current job without having another one lined up?

Work is stressing me out. I believe my project is going nowhere fast. Should I leave even though I don't have another job in hand?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:04 AM on April 6, 2017 (17 comments)

Adrift without art

For over 13 years I've wanted nothing more than to be an illustrator, and have spent most of my free time diligently working towards that goal. Lately, though, I've been coming to grips with the fact that I'm just not that good--certainly, I'll never be good enough to work as a professional illustrator. Without that goal, my life feels completely aimless. Now what?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:17 PM on April 5, 2017 (29 comments)

How to respond to a failed salary negotiation?

I got a job offer that I countered, and the employer said they were unable to increase the salary. What's a good way to respond?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:17 AM on April 4, 2017 (26 comments)

if you're lonely you can talk to me

I'd like to volunteer to help by talking to people in emotional trouble, either by text or by phone. Here's the thing: it's probably because I'm a person in emotional trouble. I don't know if this is right or good of me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:16 AM on April 4, 2017 (11 comments)

How can we investigate cause of kid's gassy poop while waiting for MD?

We're talking radioactive ammonia stink and a toilet bowl that looks like an explosion, every single time he goes. Smelly, gassy, poopy details inside (click at your own risk!)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on April 3, 2017 (12 comments)

Getting to sleep without alcohol

I drink to fall asleep every night. I've had issues with insomnia forever, and am looking for other options than alcohol to avoid spending hours every night waiting to fall asleep. Snowflakey details after the fold.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:31 AM on April 2, 2017 (36 comments)

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