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Due to really bad drama, I am about to submit my resignation to my position in the board of an organisation. How can I graciously avoid answering questions about my reasons?
I've been unemployed and unoccupied for a year and a half and can't get moving on finding a new job. Complications: I'm depressed and lonely and anxious, have crap for social skills and no local friends, don't know how to explain my time off, and don't want another office job even though that's all I'm qualified to do. I understand this vicious cycle is feeding itself but don't know how to break out of it. I will also be alone at home for a week starting on Friday and am worried about this extended solitude's impact on my mental state. Please share practical and mental health solutions to help me get my shit together and get a job.
A close relative of mine is in need of a car. I’d like to help out but I need help figuring out how in a way that feels good. Advice, please? More under the fold!
I need parenting tips for children who have a parent with severe mental illness.
My partner and I are both in our thirties. When we first started dating (mid 20s), I didn't want to have a baby, but I slowly changed my mind over the years. I've been very open about my mind changing. My partner is still on the fence about parenthood but thinks about the possibility and promised to think more about it. Meanwhile, I'm now at the point where I think about having a baby a several times a day, and it's definitely something I want to do in my life. I'm deeply saddened and worried by the fact that my partner is still unsure, and I'm hoping for resources that might help those who are unsure about parenthood (not including therapy, which is an option we're working on). Anecdotes, stories, articles, podcasts, and books are all good. Anything will help.
About 6 weeks ago I started feeling inexplicably tired and dizzy, then gradually started having other symptoms. I've only missed a few days of work in total but it's draining my ability to do much else, and I don't know what's wrong with me. I've got another doctor's appointment in a few days but I think they're probably going to send me for more tests which could take a while. What do I do in the meantime?
I live in a building that has ongoing bedbug infestations. I need coping tips for living with them for the next few years. Difficulty level: single, 30's, and actively dating.
New York State recently introduced Paid Family Leave. I'm pregnant, and I need to make a decision that may affect my eligibility.
I just read this question and it basically mirrors my situation, minus the marriage. But I feel stupid because I still love parts of him and don't feel ready to leave although everyone is telling me to get the hell out. Help me deal with this situation in the best way possible and figure out the best course of action.
It's been 7 years since I graduated university (computer science), and aside from a few years of work at a startup, I've been working on app projects all on my own. I like the independence and the pursuit of my own destiny, but lately I've been feeling terribly lonely. More than anything, I've been missing the institutional feel of college.
I would like to facilitate group chats/discussion for a group of people where comments would either be entirely anonymous or done via pseudonym. Ideally this would be phone-based. Can you please suggest an app?
Very recently started dating a man from my friend group. How should I disclose to him that I was sleeping with another member of our group right up until we started dating?
I decided to break up with him after finding out that he had been lying for months into our relationship. I feel heart broken and I'm regretting the decision and all his pleading started getting to me and sounded plausible the moment I saw him walk out the door.
I tried to be open with my wife about my feelings for another person and it went wrong. Help?
I am a hardworking, high achieving woman of color in an extremely competitive field. A younger POC has recently started seeking my advice. I am happy to be as helpful as possible-- I want him to succeed!-- but I am also noticing myself feeling competitive and insecure, and sometimes have the urge to bring him down a notch. How do I keep these things in check?
Many, many courthouses in Virginia still have confederate monuments. I want to find a way to have my local courthouse's Confederate monument removed. And, with any luck, inspire folks in other VA localities to start similar movements. What do I do to start this process? Advice? Links with info on how others have successfully pushed for the removal of Confederate monuments and flags?
I'm totally shaken after a breakup (and my response to it). What are some things I can do to regain my sense of self-respect and control, and feel emotionally safer?
I'm thinking seriously of marrying someone of a different culture (second-generation Chinese-American vs white and been here longer than the country). I'm looking for non-religious pre-martial counselling to help us figure out whether this is a good idea and how to make it work. I'm especially looking for someone with experience with this particular combination of cultures, who can guide us toward discussions of things where we might not realize we have very different assumptions. Personal recommendations would be great. Must be in NYC.
I am Asian and live in an Asian country which just experienced two sterilization-related scandals in a row due to medical negligence. I have a dental appointment booked for Tuesday and I am terrified to go. What should I do?
I work for a contract company in a Science-y Field doing tech transfer. During our latest process, A Thing failed but was fixed quickly. It made 1/3 of the data collected in real time look awful. Cleaning up at the end of the process, I turn around to see my co-worker "fixing" a screenshot of the data in MS Paint.
The dream is to put a device in a secure fixed position, let it take images or whatever, and output accurate measurements of what it's seeing.
I work for the federal government. They messed up my HR, and I'm being told they don't know when they will fix it and that there will likely be no backpay when they do. This impacts me financially very greatly. What do I do, or where do I go to figure out what to do?
We're a happy, communicative common-law couple, new homeowners, and planning to marry. We bring different assets and debts into the relationship. We'd like to draft a pre-nup that is actually FAIR, not just legal. Can you help us figure out what to consider? Details within.
Hello metafilter, you've helped me in the past and I hope you can help me now. I'm a early-50's husband and father of two school-age children, and my wife is suffering from a series of chronic, debilitating medical issues that severely limit her daily activities ...
I'm starting a humanities PhD program this fall, which is awesome, except my research interests have changed big-time from what I described in my statement of purpose and the program (though really wonderful) is no longer a super great fit. I'm extremely sad and worried about this. Plus other stuff.
I live in a townhouse as part of an HOA, and our side had a roof leak over my unit. The HOA kicked the can for too long and now I have mold. I'm pretty much going to go bankrupt, aren't I? More details inside.
I am in a basically sexless long term relationship, which for *reasons* needs to continue for the time being. I would really like some advice on coping with this along with help on how to start finding other partners for sexual contact.
Seeking new therapist after 15 years. Hoping answers to this might be meta-useful: (a) Does a listing exist, understandable to patients, of different therapeutic techniques? (b) How can you intelligently shop for a technique or therapist or life coach? (c) What metrics help you judge if it's working? After the fold, I describe some of my history/issues - (d) recommendations as to specific techniques or Chicago-based therapists would be useful.
I just found out that my cat died well, the cat my family had for 17 years, I guess she was technically my parents cat) and I'm on a vacation in Europe and I don't get back for another week. I just feel so depressed and I don't want to do anything. How can I enjoy my vacation? I just feel awful.
We have received an unexpected inheritance in the ballpark of $300k. We've read all the general advice for handling windfalls, and we have no debts, separate retirement savings, no immediate needs really. We just want to park it somewhere for 6-12mo while we figure out what to do longer term...where though? Should we just stick it in a term deposit attached to our bank account, or pick a managed Vanguard fund (does it matter which one?), or something else? As above, we're in Australia. Thank you in advance!
I'm a mid 40's white male, US, probably somewhere on the autism spectrum. Six years ago, after a progressive neurological collapse, I was eventually diagnosed with paired idiopathic vitamin B12 and D deficiencies. Continuing medical care has been essentially non-existent, often because there seems to be no one who understands the disorder. I would like to talk to someone with understanding of how recovery progresses and my particular case... who would that even be? Snowflakes are thataway...
I have a minor health issue (details below the fold, but think "minor infection" not "unknown major ailment."). I have insurance and should should see a doctor about it, but for various reasons, I'm not quite sure how.
Roommate has overstayed his welcome. How do we (gently and compassionately) ask him to start packing?
I am talking online to someone I suspect may not be who they say they are. They claimed to be a software developer, but their description of what they do doesn't ring true. Please sense check it for me if you are a real developer.
I am a German citizen living and working abroad. My company provides Medical Insurance. I would like to do my own medical insurance in Germany. What do I have to do.
We currently pay $450/month for afterschool care for our two boys, 7 and 10. They mostly color or play boardgames in the cafeteria, and they like it OK. We can afford this, though of course it would be nice to have that money freed up for savings or family trips. We already let the kids walk to and from school together (about a 20-minute walk). If we were to stop using afterschool care, the kids would walk home and be home alone for about 45 minutes to an hour before a parent arrived. They are generally pretty responsible and get along with each other OK. They don't seem to have strong feelings about this idea one way or the other. We have experimented with letting them stay home alone for short periods (for instance 20 minutes while I run out to get milk) and it's gone just fine. I can't figure out if this idea is empowering, free-range parenting or short-sighted miserliness! I'm totally torn and would love additional perspectives!
I applied to two jobs. I got an offer from Job #1 and accepted it. Then I got invited to an interview with Job #2 and went. (I assumed I was out of the running when I accepted with #1.) I realize now that this is kind of a Big Deal and could use some advice about how to get out of it.
Is it better to say you spend $0 per month on rent or mortgage in a credit card application, or use a made-up number, if you don't technically have either expense (but have an mostly-equivalent expense)?
My partner is giving a Skype interview for a postdoc position to which she applied primarily because it is close to where I'll be starting a job as an assistant professor (although she is otherwise qualified for and interested in the position). If she gets the job, it will entail changing continents. I assume they will ask why she wants to move. What level of disclosure is appropriate?
Employee has been on probation for a variety of complaints. Now they are leaving with triple the normal severance package. Details below. You are not my lawyer, laws vary from state to state, etc.
I am in the middle of a depressive episode and I can't stop crying.
Dentist's office demanding money I don't have and didn't expect to pay. The title is the short version - more explanation below.
I'm struggling with depression (diagnosed, under treatment). What I need are written reminders to help me resist the lying internal monologue. Maybe you have a favorite passage, essay, or mantra that might help me be braver in shutting this voice down?
I just got out from an evaluation that was generalized, vague, and had some outright lies in it.
One day when my spouse and I weren't home, a stranger doing a three-point turn in our city driveway hit our leased car hard enough to do nearly $900 worth of damage to the bumper. They then merrily drove away. Our car insurance would cover fixing this (minus a $500 deductible) but punish us with a raised premium. Paying out of pocket would be an inconvenient but affordable expense. I'm more stressed out about this than is probably reasonable. What do we do?
My beloved and elderly adopted pet was euthanized a few days ago, and I thought I did the right thing by sending an email (not Facebook message) to the group he came from to let them know of his passing and to thank them.
My partner and I are in our mid 30's, in a heterosexual relationship for less than one year. We both very much want this relationship to be good for the long haul. Last night I initiated a conversation about the amount of sex we're having (not much), which ended with me in tears and him frustrated. I'm hoping for some advice on how to revisit this conversation. NSFW inside.
I've applied to 125 web development jobs with almost no response, and have hit the end of the road. My wife and I will be flat broke and moving from NYC to the Midwest to regroup. Short question: how do I strategize and execute to bounce back? Details follow.
My child is non-binary. They are ten years old, biologically born a female, and told us about a year ago the are unsure which sex they identify with and want to be considered non-binary for the time being. We are of course supportive and have very candid conversation with them about gender identity and let them know that whatever decision they make we support. The problem is their other parent (we are divorced) seems to be pushing them to have puberty suppression therapy. Does anyone know what this entails, what are the dangers, and any other medical considerations we should know about, especially at this young age of 10? Any information would be greatly appreciated!
Hello, hive mind! Can you help me name my business? I work in the field of healthcare co-design and co-production. Basically, I help healthcare and social service providers improve their practice by teaching them how to collaborate authentically with the people who use their service. This can mean facilitating workshops between service providers and staff, running staff training sessions, supporting consumer representatives to have their views heard, developing policies and frameworks, etc. What should I name my consultancy?