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Moving in?

Boyfriend of 1.5 years and I considering joining homes. Some extenuating circumstances...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:05 PM on August 20, 2014 (16 comments)

Marriage counseling in Durham, NC

My wife and I are in desperate need for marriage counseling.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:39 AM on August 20, 2014 (1 comment)

Recs for a Dallas psychiatrist and a G.P. who take Cigna insurance?

Depressive here. If you know of a Dallas psychiatrist that you have heard good things about who takes Cigna, I sure would appreciate their name. I could also use the name of a good general practitioner that takes Cigna, but this is secondary to my main concern of finding the psychiatrist. Thanks for any suggestions.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:15 AM on August 20, 2014 (2 comments)

So I'm pretty much not looking for a suit on craigslist anymore, right?

I have a very very niche job. I've been doing it for over ten years now and have made about $28,000 per year. Because of my experience, I was called in for a meet and greet. It was going to lead nowhere. So, I pretty much blew it off, and blew the next one off, and showed up to the third because it was on my way home. They hired me and gave me a job that pays about $786,000 per year. I was told that they had reservations about me and told me they were bothered by the fact that I wore "denim with unpatched holes" at the interview. I didn't even think I was being considered. This is very unreal. And now I will have a job that pays me more in my bimonthly check than my last year's entire gross. I will be working with a different clientele, and my position will have more prestige than previously. So how do I dress?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:59 AM on August 20, 2014 (53 comments)

Advice on getting a Benefit Exception from our healthcare insurer?

Husband needs open heart surgery. Our preferred surgeon is not on our healthcare plan. We're going to request a benefit exception. We are in Washington state. We are on an individual plan, not with an employer. I called the insurer and requested a case worker. Any suggestions on my approach? Feeling overwhelmed already.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:02 AM on August 20, 2014 (1 comment)

Please hire me for X, Y, and Z positions

After a month and a half of unsuccessful job seeking, I'm running into the problem of applying to multiple jobs at the same institutions. Is this okay? Are there any problems I should be aware of?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:01 AM on August 20, 2014 (7 comments)

Setting parental boundaries

My father and I have a complicated history that colors our present relationship. Help me figure out how to set compassionate boundaries.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:07 PM on August 19, 2014 (11 comments)

How to work under an insecure boss?

I'm struggling with a social / political issue at work. I have been in my current job for about a year. I am a little overqualified for the position, but I really like most aspects of it and it's a small enough field that other similar jobs are hard to come by, so I'd vastly prefer it if the solution doesn't involve quitting.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:05 PM on August 19, 2014 (9 comments)

CannaCare Boston?

YANMD. I have an appointment at CannaCare in South Boston to be evaluated for medical marijuana. What to expect?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:52 AM on August 19, 2014 (11 comments)

Ack! Missed a call for a potential interview. How should I go on?

I missed a call for a potential job interview today, the call was left early in the afternoon and I didn't see it until early the early evening. Normally, I wouldn't be fretting over this, but in the voice mail the manager said she'd like to schedule an interview for Wed. afternoon and now it's Monday evening. Would I be safe with calling her back tomorrow morning and apologizing for missing the call, etc. or would it be best if I leave some sort of voicemail message tomorrow (I wouldn't know what to say though) AND still call back in the morning? Sorry, I feel embarrassed asking this, but I'm freaking out about missing an opportunity! In the future I will be much more attentive!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:21 AM on August 19, 2014 (12 comments)

Miscarriage resources?

Some days are ok, some days are just heartbreaking. Where can I look for some support and information after my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage? I'm not sure how to deal with this better. Personal stories are welcome.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:20 AM on August 19, 2014 (27 comments)

Weekend guest etiquette - am I right to be upset?

I recently had two very close friends to stay for the weekend. My partner and I put a load of effort into tidying and cleaning the house, buying new towels for our guests, filling the cupboards and fridge with yummy (and expensive!) food, and my partner spent hours cooking. I had a nice, though tiring, weekend (with some awkwardness as we have all changed over the years since we were very, very close) but when the guests had left, my partner pointed out that neither of them had brought a gift (I would never expect something huge, but I don't think I ever don't take a bottle of wine/flowers/chocolates if I go to stay with someone..). We also realised that neither of them had offered to (or taken it upon themselves) to help with the washing up after any of the homemade meals we had - even breakfast!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:04 PM on August 18, 2014 (64 comments)

Ferguson

At what point do I fly to Ferguson, MO and who do I work with?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:18 PM on August 18, 2014 (19 comments)

Apologetic about success?

What I do in terms of career/projects/desire are all one and the same. And I'm lucky enough to be paid to do what I love, and I continue to do it. It just so happens that lately, within the past year or so, I've been especially "successful". But much of my friends/acquaintances are not really in a similar position, which makes me feel guilty/weird about sharing what's going on in my life. I feel apologetic about my so-called "success", which leads me to under-share about myself. Help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:03 PM on August 18, 2014 (7 comments)

My new dog broke out of his collar and injured another dog. Now what?

YANML. What's next? Have I covered my bases? Do I need to lawyer up? The short version: My husband and I were walking our dogs. Our newly adopted dog broke free of his collar and ran across the street to attack another dog. My husband reacted fast and broke up the fight quickly. The other dog was not badly injured, as far as we could tell, just a bite on the hind leg. The dog's owner was understandably furious. We exchanged information, I promised we would pay any vet bills that resulted from the incident, and he left. More details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:18 AM on August 18, 2014 (33 comments)

Disability lawyer fiasco, I need to know my options

I recently moved from one state to another and was in the middle of applying for disability, but that's not where the story begins. It starts with deception and a long wait that didn't need to happen (long story inside).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:14 AM on August 18, 2014 (9 comments)

Help me buy and transport hemp seeds without breaking the law?

I want to buy this hemp seed for my friend in Finland. I do not want to and am not willing to break any laws. If I obtain it, is it legal to take to Finland personally? Is it legal to send it in the mail? What laws are relevant? As far as I understand it's super low THC and is legal in many places. Thanks
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:23 PM on August 17, 2014 (5 comments)

Coping after an accident

I was in an accident recently and I need advice on coping.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:02 PM on August 17, 2014 (20 comments)

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships?

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships, but... also date in Brooklyn?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:12 PM on August 15, 2014 (9 comments)

What is the status of legal (recreational) pot stores in King County?

Specifically, which stores, if any, are open on the Eastside?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:11 PM on August 15, 2014 (4 comments)

Can employer apply a social media policy to personal accounts?

I work in broadcasting, and our bosses have just handed us a social media policy. I'm wondering if it's legal.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:26 AM on August 15, 2014 (16 comments)

How to anonymously interact with a Canadian prisoner?

An acquaintance died suddenly. All of their possessions were willed to their SO, who is currently incarcerated. How to proceed?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:25 AM on August 15, 2014 (6 comments)

Best resources/tools for relationship communication

My husband and I, as any couple, have communication issues. We'd love some books, online resources, and even therapy recommendations for us!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:34 PM on August 14, 2014 (14 comments)

Growing up, phase 2.

I finally have my act together, on a very basic level. What are the next steps to becoming a full-fledged adult?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on August 14, 2014 (13 comments)

Did you have a Lexiscan? How did it go?

My dad is going for a Lexiscan on Friday and the internet seems filled almost exclusively with horror stories. .
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on August 14, 2014 (4 comments)

How do I food?

For the food challenged: How do I learn to plan for and cook deadly simple nutritious meals for 1 adult + 1 baby child? Recipes, advice, pointers all welcome.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:48 PM on August 14, 2014 (26 comments)

How to best support my partner who wants help w/ shame & addiction?

My partner has been wrestling with alcohol and sexual shame for a long time. This week, he confided in me that he wants to seek help based upon a boundary I set for myself, that he does not want to live like this anymore. I don't want to "over-help" or engage in any co-dependent behavior and I want to be a loving partner in this. But I also need to protect myself and our kids. What can I do or what should I avoid? Specifics inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:23 PM on August 14, 2014 (11 comments)

Help me help my angry vagina

Can you have a yeast infection with a negative culture? I have all the standard symptoms, but they do not go away with treatment and two cultures have come back negative. More info inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on August 13, 2014 (13 comments)

How do I get antidepressants?

Who can prescribe antidepressants, who should, and how should I find/talk to that person?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:06 PM on August 13, 2014 (17 comments)

Conservative dentist in Portland, Oregon?

New to town and looking for a conservative - in the sense of "prefers not to drill if it's reasonably avoidable" - dentist in Portland, Oregon.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:44 AM on August 13, 2014 (4 comments)

800 number routing

I would like to setup several toll free numbers and have them routed each to a different phone number. Is there a company you would recommend that could set that up for me, and that will have a caller log feature for each toll free number for when clients call? Thank you.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:31 AM on August 13, 2014 (2 comments)

Will a Viagra pill go bad if I keep it in my pocket for too long?

I know that some medicines break down when they reach a certain temperature. Will a Viagra pill lose its potency (ha ha) if I keep it in my pocket for too long? If so, how long can I keep the same pill in my pocket before it goes bad?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:31 AM on August 13, 2014 (10 comments)

I want a URL, the price keeps changing, now it's too high.

I would like to own a URL, but the price keeps changing. Now it's really up there. It's owned by one of those huge domain companies. A year ago I looked at it, and it was over $1200. A few months later it was down to $900. Now it's $2495! What gives? Why does it keep changing? How do I get it at a lower price? For what it's worth, I noticed that a site using the .org version now exists, and I don't believe it was there earlier if memory serves . Does that have an impact? Help me get this URL at a reasonable price, please.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:37 PM on August 12, 2014 (10 comments)

Best way to disclose pregnancy early in the interview process

I am interviewing for a job I am very interested in, but do not need. At the same time, I'm early in a pregnancy and want to tell the hiring manager about it. What is the best way to position my pregnancy and expected leave proactively and positively?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:36 PM on August 12, 2014 (12 comments)

Financial Ap for Dummies?

Does anyone know of a simple to use financial Ap that can be run by a fairly illiterate to technology woman? The Ap will need to be able to make spreadsheets to present the information!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on August 12, 2014 (5 comments)

The 100,000 Dollar (Office Toilet)? Seriously?

I work for a small(ish) but growing nonprofit organization. Our HQ is currently a rented office/laboratory suite in a single-story building with multiple other tenants in adjacent suites. Growth is good, but we're nearing the OSHA limit for "number of employees per one restroom", and we're thoroughly past the "human comfort" limit as such things go already. We can't immediately move, so we're looking at installing a second lavatory. Is there really NO way (assuming "sketchy, un-licensed contractor" is off the table, which it most assuredly is) to do this for under $100,000 in California?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:19 PM on August 12, 2014 (10 comments)

Mid-thirties lady starting to get 1-2 zits per month on ladyparts

I'm a lady in my mid-thirties starting to get 1-2 zits/month on my ladyparts. The are small, red and painful and eventually come to a head. The white sebum is spherical and hard, unlike any zits I've ever had before. NSFW, I assume.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:46 AM on August 12, 2014 (13 comments)

How do I resolve a neighbor/noise issue?

My newish neighbors keep complaining about the level of noise coming from my apartment, but I'm not being loud. How do I handle this? Sensitive details in the explanation.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:06 AM on August 12, 2014 (24 comments)

Recommend some body paint for the fun times?

Partner and I are interested in painting each other's bodies as a prelude to Other Stuff. Getting non-crappy body paint has turned out to be a surprisingly hard thing, though. Everything we've ordered from Amazon has been really unsexily crappy, and often nasty-smelling. Does anyone have a specific recommendation? Should we just go to an art store and buy some acrylic, and then take a shower afterwards?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:53 AM on August 12, 2014 (8 comments)

Boyfriend anger, one time occurrence? what to do now...

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. We've had a good, happy, supportive, and very loving relationship with very few bumps in the road. He has a tendency to get irritated more easily than I, which usually diffuses rather quickly by him realizing he's overreacting. On occasion I've said to him "oh come on, its not that big of deal" when he is overreacting and it diffuses. So nothing outside of the norm. My temperament is on the extreme end of laid back, while his is closer to the high strung end.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:52 AM on August 12, 2014 (32 comments)

Switching to a non-actuarial career

My wife and I are in the process of trying to relocate. For the past 3 years, I've been working as an actuary in Canada, but neither of us is happy living in the city we're currently in. For us, ideally we'd be able to find work in either Eastern Canada or Alberta/B.C. (this is partly due to a condition my wife has that would make living in other parts of Canada difficult).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:43 PM on August 11, 2014 (5 comments)

make $ and retire early, or take federal job with more security?

Imagine you have the choice of taking (1) a very lucrative but highly demanding and stressful job in your current city, and (2) a federal job that requires a move and that pays only 25% of the lucrative job. Job 1 comes with an initial 2-year contract. While there's a possibility of getting sacked after two years, I imagine they'd renew the contract for at least two years, and if I'm performing well, I could keep going after that. If I got sacked, I could probably find another similar but probably less lucrative job, but it would take time and be quite stressful. Federal job is presumably more stable. Which would you take? Possibly relevant details: early 40's, married, no kids (and no plans of having any), very substantial savings to date, home-owner (with mortgage), currently living in big city. Interested in hearing your life experiences vis-a-vis working life and retirement. Are there benefits to trying to maximize income early and getting out of the game, vs a more slow and steady approach that provides more security? I'm clueless about retirement and recognize that a financial planner could help, but for now I'm more interested in hearing other's experiences.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:32 PM on August 11, 2014 (19 comments)

Married but fell for a co-worker

I have fallen hard for someone at work. My 18-year marriage has been good, but now that I'm in this place I'm in, I'm seeing things in a different light and I am beginning to question everything. If you've been through this kind of thing before, what has helped you work through it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on August 11, 2014 (54 comments)

No Kids? How did you fill that kid shaped hole?

The missus and I are working through the decision to procreate or not. She's not so interested, I kinda am. I'm looking for insight and experience from people who chose not to have children, but still care about and like to spend time with kids. Details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:04 PM on August 11, 2014 (30 comments)

A friendship worth strengthening?

A longtime casual friend, that many of my other friends dislike, is moving to my city and expecting us to become much closer friends. However, I don't feel particularly close to this person, our conversations have always been kind of awkward and I'm uncertain we can ever have the close friendship he wants. Should I give it a chance? Is it worth it? How do I handle this situation without hurting anyones feelings? Details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:03 PM on August 11, 2014 (22 comments)

ADT sign secret police?

The other day, I had a uniformed guy come to my door and identify himself as a representative of Honeywell/Lynx asking about the ADT sign I have in my front yard (bought from eBay about a month ago). He seemed to know (or presumed to know) that I don't have ADT service and asked me if the sign was there when I moved to the house or if I'd "done that myself." Has this ever happened to anyone else?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:55 AM on August 10, 2014 (24 comments)

I'm never horny.

Early twenties female, healthy, reasonably happy, who simply doesn't have any sex drive. What am I doing wrong? Details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on August 9, 2014 (21 comments)

Learning photography as a middle aged adult, on a shoestring.

Please guide me toward books books and free or low-cost resources for learning photography, as well as general advice.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:59 PM on August 9, 2014 (11 comments)

What does a federal legal assistant do?

I recently applied for and am now actively being considered for a legal assistant/senior case technician position with the federal government (Social Security Administration). The job description sounds a lot like what I used to do as a paralegal (reviewing records, analyzing cases, making recommendations for further action, contacting medical providers), but I'm worried that what I've actually applied for is a secretarial position (e.g., making travel arrangements, maintaining calendars, hanging out a copy machine a lot, collating and binding copies).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:14 PM on August 8, 2014 (4 comments)

I'm getting married and would like to have intercourse

I'm getting married in a week, after dating for 9 years. My fiancé and I have a good sex life, but we've never had penetrative sex. Snowflakes inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:46 PM on August 8, 2014 (46 comments)

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