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Can I ask this stranger to be my friend?

I met a really cool-seeming guy at the pet store today. I'm married, not interested in anything romantic AT ALL, but I don't have a lot of friends in this town and I'd like to make more. Can I contact him? Also: I don't even have his contact info -- I just found him online.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on February 24, 2017

Um actually.. I've been unemployed the past 2 months

Applied for a job at a large slow-moving company while I was employed, became unemployed before interviews, was referred to another job within the company and didn't mention I was unemployed during application/interview process. Now it's been 2 months since I've been unemployed, but nobody at this company knows and I'm likely to get a job and have a background check. I do, however, have a chance to fill out a correct application, but it will be inconsistent with my previous application/what I said in the interview for the 2nd job I applied to. Is this a huge deal?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on February 24, 2017 (1 comment)

"Could I have the direct number for HR, please?"

My boss asked our receptionist to contact me via my personal email / cellphone. The problem? The receptionist happens to be my wife.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on February 24, 2017 (2 comments)

Minor car accident, damage to both cars, no injuries. What to NOT do?

He stopped on a very sharp turn under an overpass and I couldn't stop in time. Minor damage to both cars, no injuries. We took pics of each other's drivers' licenses, license plates, and insurance cards, and the damage to each others' car, then drove away. No police or bystanders involved--it's an intersection that has lots of fender benders so people don't pay attention. Do I just call my insurer? Is there something I *should not* do or say? I'm insured but am I likely to be totally screwed if I don't have the right kind of coverage? I find this stuff pretty confusing. I don't live in a no-fault insurance state. Is this good or bad?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on February 24, 2017 (6 comments)

After breakup and an abortion, how much time should we spend together?

I was seeing a woman for six months last year, and then broke up with her in December. (Things were getting too serious too quickly, and I felt we were incompatible in several important ways.) I sent a long email explaining my reasons. I said I thought we shouldn't see each other anymore, for both our sakes. Eight days later, she took a pregnancy test (after a couple of days of feeling fluey) and found out she was pregnant. She let me know the same day.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:35 AM on February 24, 2017 (19 comments)

Sanity check: whether to break up after (minor?) infidelity

Following the discovery of a partner's recent one-time unfaithful behavior, a great deal of soul-searching has led to no clear answers on how to react. Is still-present love from both parties enough to warrant relegating this event to the past, or is it wiser to adhere to a strongly held principle that such behavior is unacceptable, recognizing that there were growing doubts about compatibility anyway?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:33 AM on February 24, 2017 (34 comments)

How to talk to someone about their anger and negativity?

My boyfriend reacts badly to very common everyday frustrations. I'm a sensitive person and his negativity really weighs on me. His hot temper also makes me very uncomfortable. How do I talk to him about this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:44 PM on February 21, 2017 (36 comments)

Landlord woes

I am looking for some advice on dealing with tenants as a new landlord.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:44 PM on February 21, 2017 (17 comments)

SF NYC real estate: Asset allocation for a (barely) millionaire

I am a single, 40-year-old man and have about $1.1 million in assets. (About 35% is in pre-tax retirement accounts.) I also have a mortgage of $350k on an apartment in NYC and about $150k in equity in the apartment (not counted among my assets). But I would like to move to the Bay Area and buy a house.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:44 PM on February 21, 2017 (8 comments)

Advice for a father of a 13yo gay girl?

Simply put... My 13 year old daughter is gay. I really want to support her in anyway I can. She goes to a religion-based, private school where she is very happy with lots of friends. I feel a conflict between the anti-gay official position of the school and the actual reality of the students. So... should I keep my daughter in a "Christian" school vs. ?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on February 21, 2017 (19 comments)

Help me figure out gmail yet again.

Every year when I try to set up a google email list for a class I teach I have to figure it out all over again because they've changed it. Please help me figure out this year's iteration.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:09 AM on February 21, 2017 (4 comments)

What's next with my dog?

Granted, you are not my dog's veterinarian but I'm still looking for thoughts from thoughtful people. Do we keep doing what we can to keep our dog alive or is it time to have end of life discussions with our dog's vet?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:09 AM on February 21, 2017 (13 comments)

Why do I clog the toilet?

Apparently I have an issue with frequently clogging toilets (more than other people, maybe?). Is it my toilet paper habits? Is it my bowel movements? Help me figure this out.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on February 20, 2017 (25 comments)

How do I progress at work, when I don't want to manage people?

I'm a manager of things, and that works for me. My next step up the corporate ladder is to manage people, and I don't want to do that. I have ambition, just not in that direction. Have I hit my ceiling?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:53 AM on February 19, 2017 (14 comments)

Job hunting: What to do when you have no good references?

I'm looking for work but due to Reasons, I don't actually have solid references. What are your suggestions for handling this? I'm looking for advice both from people who've been in my position and those who are hiring managers. How did you handle this? What can I do/say in my interview to reassure you it really was them, not me?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:53 AM on February 19, 2017 (6 comments)

Coping with a long-term illness

My husband will be in the hospital for a long time. I have a small baby. I'm having trouble coping with how to build a life around this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:00 AM on February 18, 2017 (17 comments)

My HR Rep sent me a meeting invite for next week.

So, around 2pm today (Friday) the HR manager for the division of the company I work for sent me a meeting invite for Thursday of next week. She included a staff lawyer and HR manager that comes from another division. Neither my manager, nor anyone from the business unit I work for was invited to the meeting. The meeting will be conducted over the phone (all parties work in different locations). I should note that I manage a small team and have 5 direct reports.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:53 AM on February 18, 2017 (34 comments)

End of life legal issues

My spouse was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness. I need help figuring out what needs to be done.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:53 AM on February 18, 2017 (10 comments)

Weight gain after quitting marijuana

I was a long-time chronic pot smoker. I have a rather slow metabolism and have worked hard to lose weight.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:53 AM on February 18, 2017 (2 comments)

Unpleasant experience on public transport

While taking the bus, someone stood right next to me when (I believe) there was no need for them to do so. I didn't notice there was so much free space further down and would have said something if I had. I am not happy about this: am I overreacting?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on February 17, 2017 (20 comments)

Thanks for the breakup, here's your parting gift!

What to do with a custom-made gift for the ex that arrives in the mail 1 month after a breakup?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:12 PM on February 17, 2017 (23 comments)

People look at you funny when you're in a small town

My question is about how to fight small scale corruption in a small town (in the US). I believe there are some MetaFilter readers here who are involved with local government. I have a friend (John) who is involved in local politics in a very small town. John is part of an organization comprised of several elected individuals who have oversight over a small budget (think a town council, county commissioners or school board). However, due to the way the local and state government is set up in his state and jurisdiction, there is little oversight of the group. The issue is continual shady dealings that go largely unnoticed by the public.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:11 PM on February 17, 2017 (8 comments)

tax reporting for dummy EXPATS?

There are guides for dummies on US tax reporting. I need THAT but for EXPATS. Know of any?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on February 17, 2017 (1 comment)

Help me celebrate my accomplishments!

This week, during my appointment with my therapist, I relieved a difficult task for homework! She ordered me to do something for myself to, basically, celebrate my accomplishments and... more broadly... survival to this point in my life before my next appointment. But I can't think of anything to do to celebrate myself!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:09 PM on February 17, 2017 (19 comments)

How to make best use of a lump sum of money?

Thanks to a lucrative year for my company stock, I am now possessed of a lump sum of money that I'd like to use to pay off debts/ important expenses.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:04 PM on February 16, 2017 (11 comments)

Retail Store Co-Managerial Position: Looking for Pros & Cons

Job offer is imminent and through the grape vine I've heard that the General Manager is interested in a Co-Manager type situation. What are the pros and cons of two people managing a small retail store? Do you have any experience with such a situation and if so how did it turn out?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:04 PM on February 16, 2017 (5 comments)

Any good protests planned in DC next week?

I'm going to be in DC next week. I do not like Donald Trump. Are there any protests planned from Feb 19 - 24? My 10- and14-year old children also do not like Donald Trump, and would like to join me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:04 PM on February 16, 2017 (4 comments)

Reference check seems to be taking a bit longer than usual--next step?

I have been in the application process for a job I'm really excited about. I was extended a contingent offer last week pending a reference check. On Thursday, three of my four references were contacted. I haven't had any contact with the potential employer since. Probably because I'm so excited about this position, not hearing anything is making me antsy.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:52 AM on February 15, 2017 (8 comments)

I can't go on. I'll go on.

I have had a completely crap year/two years/five years. Everyone in my family of origin has died (separately, 1-2 years apart, unexpectedly each time). I developed a chronic illness. And now, of course, there's the election and the current administration wreaking havoc with my emotions/sanity. How do I recognize whether my emotional problems have become acute, and if so, what the heck do I do about it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:52 AM on February 15, 2017 (10 comments)

YNAB and credit cards for dummies

Do you use You Need A Budget? I have a question about how to deal with credit cards.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:41 AM on February 14, 2017 (8 comments)

How do I measure pollution levels in a particular place?

We're excited about an amazing elementary school for our daughter...but it's right near a freeway. Is there any clever way to measure the level of air pollution on the playground?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:41 AM on February 14, 2017 (9 comments)

Supporting a friend in abusive marriage

How can I best support a friend in an abusive (same-sex) marriage?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:41 AM on February 14, 2017 (5 comments)

Can my therapist offer up financial services based on our session work?

What are the ethical boundaries for a therapist/psychologist pitching me on a "money management educational system" business that she and her husband are members of, based on things I told her during one of our sessions? Kosher? Or weird?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:44 AM on February 13, 2017 (33 comments)

Keystone, Colorado filter: Skiing, Peeing and Me

An awkward sort of question about finding a private (ie. family / one person) restroom in Keystone, Colorado vicinity.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:44 AM on February 13, 2017 (8 comments)

How normal is it for a six year old boy...

This is a bit of a tricky question to ask friends, hence asking Metafilter. How normal is it for a six year old boy to be wanting to do "penis play" with his friends?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:43 AM on February 13, 2017 (9 comments)

Please help me balance my relationship with my depression & anxiety!

I am in a wonderful relationship & I have chronic depression & anxiety. What are your tips for preventing mental health issues from sabotaging relationships? Snowflakes to follow.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:17 AM on February 12, 2017 (9 comments)

What is the next move after a car accident?

I was in a car accident this afternoon. A man was turning left across my lane and I hit the side of his car. No injuries to either party. What should my next move be?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:16 AM on February 12, 2017 (5 comments)

Coping with life,chronic illness and harassment.

Need some tips on how to have some good days, or at least okay days, while dealing with some ongoing harassment, a physical illness and general unpleasant life changes.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:16 AM on February 12, 2017 (3 comments)

I'm in a place that I really don't know how to move on from. Help!

I've never felt like this. After college I decided to go travel instead of facing the real world, and it's been 3.5 years now. What started as a lifestyle that I chose to happily live has resulted in so much heartbreak and emotional detachment. I literally do not know how to move on from here.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:12 PM on February 11, 2017 (20 comments)

Neighbor in potential abusive relationship

How can I assist someone I don't know and rarely see who may be in a domestic violence situation? Secondarily, how can I deal with the effects of this situation on my own household?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:38 PM on February 10, 2017 (8 comments)

What is the best way for an anti-Trump group to register ourselves?

What are the benefits and disadvantages around the different ways to register a lefty activist group in New York/New York City? We are looking at a 501c3, 501c4, fiscal sponsor, an LLC (???) or something else.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:36 PM on February 10, 2017 (8 comments)

Help me learn how to NOT talk about my feelings

I am in a new relationship, and it is going well. I am a talker, and if we want to go there, my "love languages" are words of affection and quality time. He is more reserved, and speaks more through action than words. I am enjoying learning new ways to show and receive affection, but I also need words to feel secure...How do I learn to navigate this new communication landscape without sacrificing my needs?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:53 AM on February 9, 2017 (15 comments)

Getting over sudden breakup

I was dumped a month ago by my long term partner. We were together for five years and spent the last year apart, long distance but committed. He dumped me out of nowhere and I am having trouble moving on.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:53 AM on February 9, 2017 (16 comments)

Out of the frying pan and into the fire: jobless edition

I'm the poor sap who was in this situation last summer. The good news: I quit the awful job! The bad news: I'm sinking anyway, and don't know how to right the ship. (also: more snowflakes)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:53 AM on February 9, 2017 (8 comments)

Jobs for someone with good skills who prefers travel?

I am currently on a job search and wonder if there is any way to search for a job that the main facet is travel. I'm not looking for something that necessarily brings me to places that I could use as a vacation starting point, but really anywhere.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:44 PM on February 8, 2017 (16 comments)

Pseudo-mastery!

What are some of the long-term consequences to dropping out of a professional masters program? When is it a good idea? A few techy snowflakes inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:26 PM on February 8, 2017 (4 comments)

Travel planning for volatile times

U.S. citizen (but identifiable "activist") deciding whether to visit North Africa – help me guess the unguessable re. possible future effects
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:23 AM on February 8, 2017 (8 comments)

Resources for political groups on the watch for infiltration?

I'm trying to hunt down some good informational resources for political groups / activist groups who are concerned about infiltration by agents provocateurs: what to watch for, how to be smart and prepare, general best practices, etc. I'm less concerned about infiltration by law enforcement/intelligence groups, and more concerned about James O'Keefe types. Looking for links to existing informational or training resources--please don't post general advice unless you yourself have personal expertise in the area.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:43 AM on February 7, 2017 (1 comment)

Having some trouble after hearing the details of my girlfriend's abuse

My present girlfriend was in an abusive relationship that is very much in the past. But now that I've learned the details, I'm having some trouble dealing. Very general but possibly triggering details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:43 AM on February 7, 2017 (24 comments)

How to help my gofundme succeed?

I've put together a gofundme campaign to try and cope with a big financial setback. I've sent the link to friends and asked them to share, but I'm new to social media stuff and don't really know what else to do. Can folks recommend any other approaches or guides to crowdfunding that could help me with this process?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:57 AM on February 6, 2017 (10 comments)

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