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I'm very pregnant and accidentally ate Alta Dena sour cream that has absolutely no indication of whether or not it is pasteurized on the packaging. Google is not giving me a definite answer. I live in CA and I think it is legal to sell unpasteurized items here. Can you help me figure this out?
I am one of the thousands of Americans who live overseas and because of ludicrously low incomes have never gotten it together to file taxes in the USA. Zero of my USA friends here are filing taxes in America. I suddenly co-own a business but their accountant does not do expat taxes. How to go about this smoothly would be a delight. I am currently being quoted £500 for each tax year preparation.
I worked as a part time nanny for the first half of this year, but I stupidly accepted being paid under the table. How do I pay taxes now?
For pretty terrible (and irrelevant) reasons, I haven't filed my taxes in (I think) 5 years. Now I really really need to do them, but I don't know how to start and I get panicky just thinking about the insurmountable piles of paperwork, potential money owing, and even criminal charges. I'm in QC, Canada. If anyone else has dealt with late filing or voluntary disclosure in Quebec, please help!
I spend a lot of time thinking about and feeling inadequate, especially about my appearance. What helps to make this better? And what might help me to feel less angry about it all?
I'm looking for anecdata about, basically, the different things that start going wrong in your body at different ages. So that they aren't COMPLETE surprises to me when they show up. Examples might be: "Dad started to develop incontinance at age 79" and "my nose hairs turned grey and started to need extra trimming at age 63".
After some moderate success I'm about to take some money out of my business. After catching up on my own personal retirement savings I have enough leftover to do a few things with. My leading two candidates are, first, I can either pay down our house, taking it from a 30 year fixed @ 3.75% (2 years in) to a 15 year fixed at about 3.25%. Option two is to invest the money in either Real Estate or Equities or both. Looking for some armchair financial planning to see if I'm missing something.
I'm approaching my first year at my job, my performance has been lauded and I intend to ask for a raise, however...
I am a teacher who is currently stuck in the short-term contracts phase of my career. I will not be renewed in June. I will be 6-7 months pregnant in September. Outside the box suggestions for how I can work?
What can a person do to guard/defend themselves against a suspected character assassination campaign, possibly involving online identity spoofing?
My sibling suffers from serious mental illness. At what point, and in what circumstances, is it okay for me to reveal this to people? (Sorry, this is long.)
For a couple weeks now, I've been noticing that my underwear suddenly smells really really gross all the time. It's not smelled like this before. I have no health or lifestyle concerns likely to change the way I or my underwear smell, but there must be a reason. More inside.
I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional?
My favorite cousin is in a pretty serious health battle. She's vitally important to me, to my wife, and to my kid (her godson). We've always seen her at least monthly and called her every week or so. But now she's going through the fight of her life and she's not even always telling us when she's been hospitalized or is otherwise struggling. We want to find a way to step up our support for her without being intrusive or making any grim assumptions about her prognosis. How do we do that?
If you have dealt with emotional stress-induced hypothalamic amenorrhea, with emphasis on the emotional sort of stress (as opposed to physical / excessive exercise-induced), what did you do to ensure that you regularly got your period?
My husband is up for a job that drug tests. He works at a mental health clinic and has access to drug tests and took one just to see. It came back positive, which doesn't seem possible. Is it possible?
Curious if anyone knows specific counselors who have a knack with BPD in Kaiser's insurance for Denver, CO. I am an adult male in his 40s who has the BPD diagnosis but not been professionally treated with it.
After months of trying to make a relationship work (and scouring previous AskMes for situations similar to mine), I have started that all-important no contact phase. But what to do on Valentine’s Day? Truth be told, this holiday has always been a disappointment but I feel that given my current situation, the usual feeling of dread I’ve associated with it will escalate to a full-blown breakdown. It’s hard enough to prevent myself from weeping at the barrage of flowers and displays of affection and celebrations I have to witness/participate in as friends and colleagues get married or engaged one after the other. I do not begrudge anybody’s happiness, but seeing other people happily in love feels just a tad self-torturous at this time. I know that I canNOT stay at home on February 14 as that could only mean a day of self-pity and wallowing in my sadness. However, I also do not fancy finding myself in restaurants, the theater, museums, etc. surrounded by couples celebrating the day. Again, I normally take delight in seeing people in love but I’d like to take a wee break from all that. So what could I do in or around NYC in lieu of both scenarios?
I'm 33, single and want to have kids one day. Is freezing my eggs something I should be doing?
I'm an experienced web designer/developer looking to work outside the US, potentially in a developing country that needs my skills. How to do this and where to go?
Posting for someone else (really!). He takes doctor-prescribed Celexa 20mg and Adderall XR 20mg around 8am. He has been on the Celexa several months and is fine having a beer or two in the evening, maybe once or twice a week at the absolute most, with no side effects. Even the doctor thought that was OK. Now he's on Adderall XR as well and unsure if he can still have the occasional beer.
I've been replacing my nightly 2 glasses of wine/bottles of beer with weed, but I'm not sure if I am doing it right.
I'm quite close with my mother, and discuss many aspects of my life with her. She is a good sounding board, and has good advice, especially about interpersonal issues. I've been having difficulties in my relationship with my SO for several months now. Would talking to my mother about this be a terrible idea?
I used to have a reasonably good job - now I don't. So I put everything in storage, took some time out, and now I'm back sitting in temp accommodation, looking for a new job, finding this and that... but I'm not applying for any of these jobs, because I'm convinced that what a new job really means is returning to my former lifestyle of essentially working, looking forward to not working (i.e. eves/ weekends), and then not actually doing anything outside of work because I'm a massive introvert. And I'm 40, and I now realize that I'm not going to live forever, and if I conscientiously choose to return to my former lifestyle for the 2nd half of my career, then more fool me if I reach retirement and look back with great regret at poor choices I made when I knew I should've known better. And so I spend all day looking at jobs - which feel like invitations back into my old life - and then not applying for them. I need help moving on from this. Former lifestyle details inside.
Looking for recommendations for a lawyer experienced with Oakland's just cause evictions. Our landlords are pursuing an owner move-in in our rent-controlled apartment, which we believe is most likely not in good faith. We would like to get legal advice on our options.
I am helping someone freshen up their google results. As per previous asks we are registering Linked-In accounts etc to push the juicier results down to the second page. Much good that does while Google auto-suggests Bob Bobsworth conviction when you start typing his unique name. Anything to be done?
I'm a turban wearing sikh. I'm in a relationship with an American. The hate directed our way is making me question the sustainable happiness of this relationship. How do I proceed?
What is the fastest route to a degree for someone with three years worth of general University education (but no degree) from a state university, roughly 10 years ago, who is no longer geographically close to that university? Assume that the degree field itself doesn't matter (it literally doesn't in my situation.)
I've been in school (grad school!!) for two years, and I want to sex every single one of my male professors/TAs, with very few exceptions. How can I turn this infernal brain thing off?!?!
I'm in my early 50s and divorced for three years. For the last two years, I have been dating (but not living with) a man who is long-term separated from his wife who lives in a different country. This is an open relationship, not an affair. She is aware of me, and knows we are together. I have met her several times (we get on well) and I am introduced to the family as "Dad's good friend". He has two children, one at University and the other (16) lives with his Mom. During his last trip home, his 16 year old begged him to return home. My partner will likely do so. I know I can't play a part in this decision, but how do I take care of myself now?
I have an odd feeling in the head of my penis. Should I be worried or is it no big deal?
I’ve been running my own business as a consultant for a few years now and have a category of situation that keeps cropping up that leads me to ask myself, “Is it ok to tell not tell the whole truth in business when the full truth might be awkward or complicated?”
I made a friend over Instagram. Yay! She turned out to be a catfisher. Boo.
I've been dating someone long-distance for about five months. We met in Hometown 7 years ago. We now live on separate coasts. Our travel and work schedules forced 2.5 months to elapse between our first date and our second. Since then we've managed to see one another every 4-6 weeks or so. We've had five dates so far and another planned for a few weeks from now. Last time we were together we had a bit of a "where are we" chat and Date said that they were having a great time, happy with how things were going, enjoying our visits, the sex is great, etc. however Date is concerned that it's hard to see an end game where we end up in the same city and that puts Date, to quote verbatim, "half in and half out of the relationship." I'm absolutely not ready to discuss any sort of moving plan, but I do want to find ways to keep things moving forward. What are things you've done in LDRs to increase the level of commitment short of solving the Big Problem?
Is there any sort of protocol for alerting your doctor that you intend to file for SSDI (disability insurance)? That is, rather than just submitting the necessary government forms, is it best to mention it to your doctor, and if so, in what form?
Advice for surviving my wife's summer internship in another state.
How much house can we afford and what's the smartest way to buy given our parameters: healthy savings for a down payment, both spouses working but soon only one, and possible big pay-out in the next 12 months?
I got my dream job in a nightmare town -- stuck it out for 2.5 years and I gotta get out of here, but I want to keep my job. Help me persuade them to transfer me to our satellite office which is in a major city a few hours away.
Like many people, I'm sure, I dread my birthday. I want to enjoy it instead. Has anyone else managed to change how they feel about their birthday?
I've been struggling with general anxiety my entire life, however it's been getting out of control lately. I also have random social anxiety and obsessive thinking mixed in. Looking for people's experiences and whether or not medication has helped.
I will be relocating to Seattle in February. In addition to a decent amount of savings, I have a stable online business that generates enough monthly income to cover rent and basic expenses. I plan to find a full-time/part-time job so I won't be living paycheck to paycheck.
Months ago, I broke up with someone I was with for 7 years, under very sad no-one's-fault circumstances. I still love him and miss him like crazy. The sadness comes and goes. I think about him every day. I'd like to draw a line and move on and think it would help it I can decisively mark The End on that chapter of my life. I'm looking for ideas for how to make that mark. Some kind of ritual or ceremony.
My ex has NPD and anger problems so I really don’t want to tick him off – but I think I’m about to. Please help me to mitigate the damage.
I recently graduated with a Ph.D. in English (with a focus on a national literature in a specific time period), and am considering transitioning from an academic career to one in publishing/editing. Should I? If so, how?
I'm currently living with my sister and mother due to financial issues. We are all adults. My sister has bipolar + Asperger's so I have a lot of sympathy for her, but I have a difficult time being around her when she's in a depressive state. It has a significant impact on my mood, and I can become resentful. She's the type to make sure that everyone knows she is depressed yet refuses to talk about it; if pressed, she can become emotionally volatile. How can I learn to walk on eggshells without being affected by her negativity?
I think I need a new career: my current one is going nowhere, and I'm incredibly unhappy. It occurred to me that I might have a better life, if I were to become a counselor of some sort. Am I right?
For the last five years I've been at the same small cultural institution in a large US city. During that time I worked my way up to a (non-executive) director role managing a few employees. I'm ready for a change, but I'm having trouble making that change happen. I've been semi-seriously looking for a year now without luck, and would love to hear experience and advice from other people who've grown or maintained careers in similar fields or situations.
Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved.
She's an American citizen who has lived in Germany for many years and plans to stay permanently. Due to a life change, she asked if she can use my mailing address for her paperwork. I trust her but want to make sure it's OK from a legal/financial CYA standpoint.
I have an Ativan prescription that is intended to help me deal with panic attacks. I rarely use it because my panic attacks are quite rare. I have a work event coming that turns me into a ball of anxiety every time I have to do it (2-3 times a year) and I'm wondering if this might be an appropriate time to make use of my prescription.