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My elementary school best friend is stalking me.

A girl I was good friends with in elementary school, sort of friends with in high school, but hadn't talked to since 2002 has been sending me repeated, unwanted, disturbing messages online. They are escalating in weirdness. What should I do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:56 AM on June 30, 2015 (7 comments)

I'm a nightowl, seriously. How do I make this work.

I have real problems functioning during the day - during daylight hours I am depressed, I am foggy, I am tired, I seriously have issues 'getting through the day'. Come night time I am fine - happier, functioning, a better more productive person.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:55 AM on June 30, 2015 (4 comments)

Was I raped? I can't believe I'm asking this.

I can't believe I'm going to write about this, but it won't go away. For years I dated a woman several years my junior. 29 year-old man here. It was a very manipulative, damaging relationship, which both of us exerting control over the relationship in various ways, from ignoring each other, to her hanging her ex-boyfriend over me (he was threatening to hurt me, causing me to wonder at the time if he was on the side somehow), to lying and emotional outbursts.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:54 AM on June 30, 2015 (10 comments)

Who am I? (Borderline Personality Disorder question)

I grew up in a household with a BPD (borderline personality disorder) father, and although I haven't been officially diagnosed I suspect I might be borderline myself. Now that I'm an adult, I feel like I have little sense of who I really am as an individual; I find myself emulating the personality traits of whomever I'm talking or texting with, for better or worse. I'd like to hear some suggestions on how to improve one's sense of identity so that I feel more like... umm... a whole person?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:00 PM on June 29, 2015 (7 comments)

parents hated my boyfriend, but love my sister's boyfriend

My parents didn't accept my boyfriend for about six of the seven years that we've been dating due to his physical disability. Now my younger sister has a new boyfriend whom my parents wholly and happily accept, and as childish as this is, this is bringing up all sorts of unpleasant feelings.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:00 PM on June 29, 2015 (9 comments)

Queer nonmonogamy-friendly therapist in Chicago?

My partner and I (both bisexual women) are looking for a therapist in Chicago for help with our sexual relationship, in particular with opening it up to new partners and dealing with the negative emotions that come with that.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:48 AM on June 29, 2015 (2 comments)

My boyfriend's ex is his "best friend."

My boyfriend had a pretty awful 10-year relationship with his ex girlfriend. After they broke up three years ago, things recovered to the point where they are really good friends. I feel like their friendship has unhealthy elements and I'm not sure how best to proceed.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:23 AM on June 29, 2015 (22 comments)

How common are 'hidden ovaries' in a transvaginal ultrasound?

I had a transvaginal ultrasound a little while ago, and the tech couldn't find my ovaries. Is this a cause for concern?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:23 AM on June 29, 2015 (9 comments)

Tell me about living in Denver (after living in SF)

I'm considering moving to Denver from the SF Bay Area, to take advantage of an amazing career opportunity. But this would be a huge change and I have a lot of questions! If you live in Denver or have recently lived there, can you help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 4:37 PM on June 28, 2015 (13 comments)

Navigating a software development agreement?

How do I mitigate risk to myself in the future as a result of damage/losses/etc incurred by purchasers of the product in the event that something like this should occur? Special snowflake details inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:14 AM on June 28, 2015 (3 comments)

Genetic testing for Pick's Disease

Two part question. First - my family strongly suspects my father has late-stage Pick's Disease, which is a form of fronto-temporal dementia. It can't be truly diagnosed until an autopsy though. He's post-65. He has most of the symptoms. So I have two very related questions.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on June 27, 2015 (5 comments)

Triple threat

Met a fantastic guy, absolute keeper, and there will definitely be lots of sex tonight. I've got plenty of experience, but never before encountered all three of these things at once: he's huge, uncut, with a significant curvature. Seeking oral sex tips and any other wisdom you have to pass on.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on June 27, 2015 (9 comments)

Taxes on good received and how to calculate "Fair Market Value?"

I am an Amazon Vine participant. Amazon sends me products to review. Amazon has informed reviewers they will be sending a 1099MISC form this year in cases where the total value of all products selected is over $600.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on June 26, 2015 (2 comments)

I just want to hit my crotch until it starts working again

My partner just broke up with me, and I’m pretty sure it’s because I have no desire to have sex. Can I be fixed? What do I do about us?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on June 26, 2015 (26 comments)

Limerance Frequency and Duration

Folks in LTR - how often do you look up/think about/fantasize about new and exciting entrants into your life?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on June 26, 2015 (12 comments)

Cute, modest swimsuit?

Looking for a women's swimsuit that covers pubes and armpit hair. Ideally not super expensive. Online or in store both fine.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:46 AM on June 26, 2015 (13 comments)

Are you or have you ever been a Magistrate in the UK?

Are you or have you ever been a Magistrate in the UK? If so, can you tell me what it is like?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:45 AM on June 26, 2015 (3 comments)

Can debt chase you across European countries?

Don't get me wrong, I DO want to pay this debt, I just need to take care of some other things first. Say, if you have a smallish unpaid debt (2k euros back then, I don't want to think about how much it must be 9 years later) in Spain, and now you're starting new in Sweden, can this debt bite you in the ass before you've used your small savings to rent a house, buy groceries, etc. while you get a job that will help you pay said debt? Could your new Swedish bank account or other assets be frozen?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:33 AM on June 26, 2015 (2 comments)

How dangerous are clouds? Computer networky question

Trying to get some info so I can try keep using Evernote and Trello at work. I'm having to deal with what seems quite ridiculous at work. Apparently something bad might come in through Evernote because it's a cloud and clouds aren't good. Could my cloudy Evernote 'pollute' the network somehow? Are these sorts of cloudy apps really such a super serious concern that all big corporate companies ban their use? We were told that this was the case at 'really big recognizable company'. (I do know about downloading attachments etc)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on June 25, 2015 (13 comments)

Life Coachery 101

I'm interested in finding a Life Coach. How does one do this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:36 PM on June 25, 2015 (5 comments)

I was wishing for a windfall, but what should befall the windfall?

The IRS made a mistake hugely in my favor. Yay! But I called them! Now what?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on June 25, 2015 (42 comments)

is it ok for a bartender to not be tipped out on server drinks?

I make a tipping wage at my bartender job, yet I'm not being tipped out on hundreds of dollars of server drinks I make every day. Should I be angry or is that a normal practice at U.S. bars?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:13 PM on June 24, 2015 (14 comments)

Alzheimer's

My grandmother is in the early stages of Alzheimer's. She has been for at least a year or so. She's the only family member from that side of the family that I keep in touch with, and I live on the other side of the US. How do I bring it up?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:45 PM on June 24, 2015 (7 comments)

How to explain time off for IVF treatment

After several years of unsuccessfully trying to get pregnant, my husband I were approved for IVF treatment (through NHS, we are in the UK). If things go to plan I could be starting treatments as soon as end of next month, but depending on my cycles, possibly the following month. Once my treatment starts there's a lot of appointments for scans and of course, egg collection and implantation, all within the span of 3-4 weeks. How should I explain this at work? Details inside:
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:49 PM on June 24, 2015 (16 comments)

List these pseudo-courses on my resume - next to my fancy real degrees?

Looking to get up-and-out of my current private-sector scientist position, I've been rewriting my resume to target more senior science jobs with more of a management or strategic character to them. Obviously I've been playing up every relevant aspect of my experience on my submissions, but what I don't have is an MBA. Some of my competitors for these jobs probably do - in addition to their science PhD. I've sort-of taken a few business courses* over the years, though. Better than nothing? Should I list them on my resume? How to word it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:19 AM on June 24, 2015 (9 comments)

In search of a therapist who is good with creatives in Portland, OR.

I am a working artist and I've been dealing with a ton of anxiety and depression for much of my life, but it's getting particularly rough lately. Portland is a city of creatives, so can someone recommend me an awesome therapist who also understands creative people's problems?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:19 AM on June 24, 2015 (3 comments)

Controlled prescription run out

I live in Ontario and I'm prescribed Concerta by my family doctor. I've been taking it for years. I'm an adult. The last time he re-wrote my script he gave me 4 refills of 30 days, which are all up. Now he's on vacation until next month. I had no notice and I'm wondering if there's any other way to have my prescription refilled. I expect walk-ins and pharmacies will be skeptical/unwilling since the drug is controlled/monitored.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:18 AM on June 24, 2015 (11 comments)

Worst nightmare most cherished dream - new job in time of crisis

Dear AskMe, I have had a family tragedy and a new job offer. Almost simultaneously. I was told on Sunday that both my parents are seriously ill. I told my current employer that I would be taking leave to care for them for at least a week, maybe a month, effective immediately. And on Tuesday I received a job offer. My question is: how do I break the news to current employer that I will, be resigning and taking four weeks leave? Basically, that I will not be back?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:30 PM on June 23, 2015 (9 comments)

My HR person behaved inappropriately – do I have any recourse?

I have good reason to believe that our HR manager snooped around on my work computer during off hours, viewing files she had no legit reason to; I have evidence of it, and when I confronted her about it she denied it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:04 AM on June 23, 2015 (33 comments)

ADHD and working memory

Can working memory impairment be reliably inferred from a diagnosis of ADHD? How often do individuals meet the diagnostic criteria for ADHD without showing substantial impairment on measures of WM? Is it appreciably often the case that WM memory deficits in childhood and early adolesence are resolved during the process of maturation?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:45 AM on June 21, 2015 (1 comment)

First time woes...

Short version: I had sex for the first time with someone I thought I really liked, but it didn't quite go the way I expected it to and now I'm completely panicking about it. Long version inside.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:45 AM on June 21, 2015 (12 comments)

Worried about GI problems x1wk, yellow stool

About five days ago, I started becoming sick. Started with me feeling a little ill, then the next day I had a sore throat and a fever, and the day after that I was incapacitated and had to be in bed all day long. A couple days before I had some issues with bowel movements. My stool was noticeably more soft, and Also was more yellow.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:06 PM on June 20, 2015 (5 comments)

Dissatisfied with vasectomy, what to do?

I had a vasectomy a month ago and am not satisfied with the outcome. When should I consider seeing a different doctor and how should I do that effectively?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on June 20, 2015 (8 comments)

Boss who gaslights, stonewalls and bullies me & my coworkers.

I work with a team of people (less than ten) under a supervisor who consistently uses insulting, bullying language and intimidation tactics that are so detrimental to team's morale and productivity that we have decided to take this to our company's anonymous hotline for reporting misconduct. How do we best phrase our concerns/strategize our approach so that the company takes these concerns seriously?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:41 PM on June 20, 2015 (7 comments)

Post-interview municipal HR etiquette question

Would love to hear feedback from someone familiar with municipal HR practices. Yesterday I interviewed for a position with a city department. The interview was set up by someone from city HR, but was I was actually interviewed by people in the department. At the end of the interview, the contact from HR told me I could not contact the interviewers, but I could direct questions to her (the HR contact). I believe this is all because of various regulations regarding city hiring. When I've been interviewing for other jobs (private companies), I have sent a post-interview "thanks" email to the interviewer. Since I can't contact the people I interviewed with, is it appropriate to send a "thank you for organizing the interview" email to the HR person who has been my point of contact so far?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:15 AM on June 20, 2015 (3 comments)

How old is too old?

I am 29. He's 67. Do you think this will work out in the long run?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:13 AM on June 20, 2015 (60 comments)

Do I tell my friend that her husband left her to date a former student?

Should I tell her what my ex-friend is up to? If so, how should I tell her?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:48 AM on June 20, 2015 (31 comments)

Art Teacher looking for MS/HS job, only getting elementary offers

Teachers, this post is for you. I’d like to hear from anyone out there who has taken a job at a school that's not their target age group as a first-year teacher, with plans to search for a job at a different school for the following year. I’m especially interested in hearing from K-12 teachers (specialists like art and music) who started at an elementary school, with the ultimate goal of finding work at the secondary level. Of course, I’m grateful for advice from anyone with insight on this situation!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:48 AM on June 20, 2015 (8 comments)

Ethical interracial adoption by the child of an interracial adoptee

I am the child of an adoptee, the birth mother of whom is non-white. Now I'm planning to be an adopter, most probably of a child who is also non-white.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 1:15 AM on June 20, 2015 (11 comments)

Pregnancy and manual labor

I'm six weeks pregnant and I do manual labor outside. I'd like advice on how to do this well.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:56 PM on June 19, 2015 (8 comments)

What hope is there for a marriage where there are political problems

What is the best hope (or is there any) for a marriage where extreme political disagreements have cropped up?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:47 PM on June 19, 2015 (21 comments)

California - MFT Psychology License + LAc Acupuncture license = ?

Dear Ask MeFi, I'm a Californian student thinking about possible career paths. If I were to complete licensure in Psychology, as well as in Acupuncture (MFT and LAc here in CA), would I legally be able to practice both modalities with my patients? Thank you, Confused Apprentice Practitioner (CAP)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:33 AM on June 19, 2015 (3 comments)

How do I tell my drama queen roommate that she needs to move out?

I'm afraid to ask my roommate to move out because there's a good chance she will make my life a living hell. What's the best way to go about it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:33 AM on June 19, 2015 (12 comments)

Friendship breaking up is hard to do.

A former friend intentionally cut my partner (and, by extension, me) out of his life. I don't want to feel panicky every time I hear about this person, and I don't want my partner to feel cut out of his professional community. How do I get over all these bummer feelings?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:32 AM on June 19, 2015 (6 comments)

How do I network without coming across as a giant jerk/opportunist?

A few of my former colleagues would be very good people to network with. The only problem is that there a few of them I haven't spoken to in years (as in, more than ten years in one case). Is there a way to get in touch with people via a networking email that won't make me seem like a stalker or a blatant opportunist?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:13 AM on June 19, 2015 (14 comments)

Starting a new television production company...on the side...help!

Myself and two associates are teaming up to create a television production company. We are all very experienced producers and are considered accomplished in the field. However none of us have any business experience. We are taking our time to learn more about the business side of things as we set up what we need to set up. We are all currently working on other projects and will continue to work for other people until we are in a good place to launch. So many questions, but right now, I have identified two areas to tackle:
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:12 AM on June 19, 2015 (4 comments)

Techniques for improving memory in older people

I'm looking for ways an older relative can improve his memory, which has become very poor, probably because of anxiety and post-chemotherapy issues.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on June 18, 2015 (9 comments)

Online obsession aggravating depression - how to reset brain?

I have recurrent depression, in a bad phase at the moment. (I am in therapy, on meds, and not at risk of self-harm.) Being in a sub-optimal living situation, with no immediate financial need to seek work, few nearby friends and no relationship I have taken to spending way too much time in bed and online. I know what I have to do to recover: how do I handle my mind in the very short term / meantime?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:17 AM on June 18, 2015 (16 comments)

While I was in a coma, you suggested I die

While I was in a coma earlier this year, one of my in-laws suggested my plug should be pulled.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:50 PM on June 17, 2015 (71 comments)

Much worse than I thought.

I've kept my distance and set boundaries, but I just learned my family situation is much worse than I ever realized.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 11:54 AM on June 17, 2015 (6 comments)

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