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Best CI Recipes?
The creamy creamless tomato soup recipe is pretty damn awesome.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:55 PM on July 29, 2010

I need a gift certificate to a restaurant in Houston. Tell me which one.
Goode Co. Seafood or El Tiempo. Goode Co. is nicer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:38 PM on July 22, 2010

Suggest for me some SciFi short stories.
Van Vogt and occasionally Tiptree can be good for this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:18 AM on May 7, 2010

Pimp My Bed
This question might help---just use your solution on the whole bed! I ended up going with a thick, quilted mattress pad and a body pillow.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:17 AM on May 7, 2010

When your ex won't take no for an answer
Ignore, ignore, ignore. If you have made clear that you want no further contact, responding now just tells him that if he begs you X times, you'll respond. Don't discard any evidence of the attempts at contact (emails, call history, etc.---filter like kdar said), but DO NOT RESPOND.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:22 PM on April 12, 2010

Strong female in Mystery/Suspense Books
Try the Lady Emily Ashton mysteries by Tasha Alexander. The lead is a widow in Victorian England who (as far as I've read!) refuses to remarry so she can maintain her independence.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:39 AM on April 10, 2010

Make my bed "just right."
The point about the topper being like a wall if it's cut in half is probably right. I usually start sleeping on my stomach, but end up in a variety of positions.

Honest to god, I have slept on floors that are more comfortable than this mattress solo.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:04 PM on April 8, 2010
Removed the giant foam topper and am trying several of the suggestions from this thread (breathable mattress pad, body pillow, separate covers) and will mark best answer after an experimentation period. Except you "separate beds" people: you lose right now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:18 PM on April 9, 2010

Simon's Rock Experience?
I did a summer program at Simon's Rock and considered both them and Mary Baldwin (the women's college in Virginia) for full-term academic programs. Ultimately it would have been too expensive, but if the scholarship is generous I would consider it. Everyone I know who started college a little early (versus a lot early, child prodigy style) is more or less normal. Simon's Rock did strike me as very hippie/airy-fairy, but if he's a liberal or fine arts type he might enjoy it.... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:54 PM on April 9, 2010

Not The Bridge Over San Luis Rey
On Love, by Alain de Botton.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:27 AM on March 24, 2010

Birthday extravaganza
In my long-age interning days, we got around this by having the of-age group members order a pitcher and then portioning it out amongst the wider group. This really only worked if the place was crowded and dark. Other people carried flasks. Agreed with other commenters here, though, that it's better to just throw a party at someone's place.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:59 PM on March 22, 2010

laser hair removal, full bikini?
Keep in mind that laser is permanent reduction, not permanent removal. Depending on your starting point, you may not be completely bare in the future even if that's what you ask for now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:38 PM on March 15, 2010

wwft? what would freud think?
What benzenedream said ... nowhere in your question do you say that you find your girlfriend physically attractive.

If you do, just because your girlfriend looks like your mom now doesn't mean she will always, or even will when she meets your family. She could decide to dye or cut her hair, start wearing her makeup differently, or gain thirty pounds, and they might no longer have an obvious resemblance. Don't worry so much about that.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:04 PM on March 2, 2010

And the ugly duckling grew up to be just a really ugly duck.
For makeup, buy a Kevyn Aucoin book. Even if you don't want to chance mascara, some contouring with eye shadow might be nice.

Slingbacks with a closed toe I find to be a good compromise between professional and fun, but beware of noisy ones (just try them on and walk around the room and listen).

It may seem counter-intuitive, but look for 2 or 3 stylish jackets, blazers, or cardigans. Something you can throw on over a neutral base layer of... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:39 AM on March 2, 2010
Remember that whatever look you choose will set the bar on what your appearance is expected to be every day. If you start waxing your eyebrows, people will notice when you stop. Don't do that unless you really want to. If people get used to you with a full face of makeup, especially heavy eyeliner, you'll look especially plain any day you do not wear that makeup.

This. Unless you enjoy people asking you if you're sick when you really just slept in... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:50 AM on March 2, 2010

Help me be less ambitious.
I want the super-prestigious job and to start having babies and work reasonable hours and continue enjoying my new hobbies

This is, to put it gently, not going to happen. People in "super-prestigious" legal jobs work long hours and often do not have time for multiple hobbies.

Prestige is overrated, but necessary if you want to go the teaching path, although you may already have "enough" for that path such... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:48 AM on February 18, 2010

i also love her hairstyle, but that's for another post
Try this seller on Etsy. I'm pretty sure I bought something from her on Ebay a year or two ago. They ask for a lot of measurements, and you need to think hard about how much ease you want in the garment, because they will make it exactly to to fit.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:47 PM on February 10, 2010
This is the Ebay seller I bought from.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:49 PM on February 10, 2010

Call of Duty and Teens
Let her buy the game. But if she's absorbed your (extremely conservative) standards over her life, she may not like it. I quit playing Wii Boxing because I couldn't deal with punching my friends in the face. Someone as sheltered as your daughter sounds may have a learning experience when she starts to play.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:40 PM on January 26, 2010

What's Next?
You've gotten a lot of good advice from the actual lawyers in this thread. Listen to them. If you do stick it out for the spring semester (since you already paid), join a study group, study off old exams if they are available, and talk to your professors about the material and their expectations.

One thing you might consider, if you do stay, is to do clinical courses for credit. At my law school, at least, this had a variety of benefits. First, it was MUCH easier to get... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:04 AM on January 22, 2010

I didn't want a baby, anyway.
He needs to know otherwise there will be this unspoken big secret in your relationship. When you tell him, it will be a shared experience you two can get through together with each other's support.

This. If you don't tell him, and you two do get serious, telling him later will just result in accusations of betrayal and mistrust. Unless you plan on taking this to your grave.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:53 PM on January 8, 2010

Therapy: do not want
Some guy you've been seeing for a month is acting high-handed and contemptuous when you make an informed choice not to do what he wants? DTMFA.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:45 PM on January 6, 2010
On the therapy issue: I went to an expensive therapist for a while. He listened to me and told me I should dump my boyfriend and get a different job. And what do you know, he was right, even if I didn't want to hear it at the time.

If you have had success with CBT in the past, there are books you can read to do CBT-type exercises on your own. Someone else may have specific recs.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:09 PM on January 6, 2010

Probate is slow but at least it's transparent.
For the benefit of anyone who might be in a similar situation: My boyfriend, also a MeFite, suggested checking whether trust documents are filed with the county clerk's office. There are several potentially relevant filings there, and this might yield documents that I could take to be reviewed by counsel, should I retain a trusts and estates lawyer.

That is a useful answer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:54 PM on July 31, 2007
I was hoping that someone who had been the beneficiary of a trust might be able to say "yes, I was able to get an accounting," or could suggest that documents might be on file somewhere; megatherium's information about potential relief from a probate court was also good to get. Even an opinion on whether this sort of confusion is common with estates or whether it indicates something fishy would be great (all you need for that is experience with dead people). You would not have to be a... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:28 PM on July 31, 2007

Where to travel outside the U.S., on short notice for a couple weeks?
When I was in your shoes I went to Japan.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:22 AM on July 14, 2007

Hard Leather Shoes: Why?
I've had my feet measured.

Essentially my thumb test is checking for the presence of the structural features paulsc mentioned. I'd rather suffer once a year by slipping and falling than have my heels sawed through every single day.

P.S. What did they use before "thermoplastic compound"? This even sounds uncomfortable.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:21 PM on July 7, 2007

Looking for more than $1/year interest on tiny nest egg
I have used ING Direct for several years. I think they are paying 4.5% now. It is easy to use and has a clean web interface. I can send you a referral link that gives you a $25 account-opening bonus; email is in profile.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:37 PM on July 1, 2007
letitrain: I assume that's also true of the referrals in EmptyK's link. But it's a good bank regardless. Now that I think about it, though, having an ATM card is a big convenience, especially if you might need the money quickly (transfers take a couple of days). So go with HSBC.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:29 PM on July 1, 2007

Optometrist recommendation (for contact lenses) in Washington, DC?
Dr. Namtran Pham at Virginia Square on the Orange Line is an excellent opthalmologist.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:25 PM on June 27, 2007 marked best answer


Comcast v. Verizon
No to Comcast. Hours of sporadic downtime.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:06 AM on June 26, 2007

Delayed delivery for daily doses of ... uh ... me?
Sort of previously.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:38 AM on June 21, 2007

Good Historical Fiction For My Mother?
Sharon Kay Penman. She has more conventional historical fiction (The Sunne in Splendour is good) as well as a series of medieval mysteries.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:48 PM on June 19, 2007

I swear I'm not emo or goth.
I actually like Garnier Nutrisse but I have had this problem myself (hair being darker than expected, ends sucking up dye and being much darker than the roots), albeit with their Soft Black color.

Have you considered re-dying your hair with the same color following the "root touch-up" directions? At least then your hair would be the same overall color from root to tip and you could focus on fading it out evenly with the dish soap. In my experience, Nutrisse... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:49 PM on June 18, 2007

What books should be considered for a young adult fantasy book club?
Ooh, I second Meredith Ann Pierce.

It's sort of schlocky, but Mists of Avalon (to read after The Once & Future King)?

Some of the Golden Age short stories (Van Vogt, etc.) could be good for discussion, especially the ones that pose moral or scientific puzzles.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:31 PM on June 12, 2007

How do I get a homeless person(s) to stop peeing in my front doorway?
Some kind of motion-activated sprinkler? That might work whether it is human or animal.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:26 PM on June 11, 2007

Are expensive handbags better?
I have a Fendi Selleria bag that looks exactly the same today as it did when I bought it a year ago. I carry it every day just as I would any other bag. In order for a purchase like that to be worthwhile, you probably need to not mind carrying the same bag for several years.

Some of my friends swear by Coach's leather bags.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:32 AM on June 6, 2007

Why is my name so often confused for THAT name?
Is it the case that both names are particularly common in your birth cohort? I get called Heather and Amanda, only one of which sounds like my name but both of which were very popular when I was born.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:37 AM on June 3, 2007

I could not stop for death.
There was nothing morally objectionable about your behavior.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:44 AM on June 3, 2007

Who's at fault in my rental dispute?
I am not your lawyer, this is not legal advice.
My gut says that your landlord is in the wrong, since it sounds like your friend was not empowered to act on your behalf and the plain language of the lease is in your favor. As to what you should do: go get a free futon from somebody and forget it. This is not worth the hassle. Your landlord should do this, not you, but only you can decide (or, really, the guy sleeping on the floor) whether you are willing to... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:56 PM on June 2, 2007

Fatlady Tailors Dummy
These methods?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:47 PM on June 1, 2007 marked best answer
There is an article on the duct tape method with lots of step-by-step photos here.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:52 PM on June 1, 2007

Unmissable food in DC?
If you want to try Marrakesh, you will need to make a reservation.

Nth all the Ethiopian suggestions, although I prefer Abiti on 9th to any of the Adams Morgan places (Zenebech Injera is the best, but it only has two tables; if you want to get takeout and sit in a park to eat, try it).

Someplace like Old Ebbett Grill or Mortons for lunch is nice for people-watching.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:53 AM on May 24, 2007

Building a home library
If you don't keep copies of the books you read, at least keep a journal of them. Sometimes I forget whether I've read a book and it's nice to look back and see that yes, I did, and thought it was ____. Keeps you from accidentally checking out the same book twice, or books by authors you've already tried and disliked, too.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:23 PM on May 18, 2007

Help my friend keep her teeth, dignity
Tell your friend about the previous incident and that this guy sounds like he might be the same person. Ask to be included in some social activity where they will attend as a couple (make it sound like you just want to meet him to reassure yourself that he's not the molestor). It sounds like if this is the guy, he will attack you on sight. That reaction should be enough to prove to your friend A) that he's the molestor, and B) that he's a violent nutjob. This involves putting yourself at some... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:28 AM on May 17, 2007

What's the skinny on Gold Cards?
Previously.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:40 PM on May 16, 2007

What is an appropriate modern love poem for a reading at a wedding?
Thanks for the link, roll truck roll.

Neruda and cummings are the go-to authors for this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:00 PM on May 14, 2007

First-time cat companion advice?
Is it true that male, altered cats are stereotypically the most friendly? In my experience, this is true.

What's the best kind of cat food and cat litter I can purchase? I'm inclined against buying food that is only available from a vet's office; it's typically expensive and if you run out of food you might not be able to get a replacement bag right away, leading to sudden diet changes and upset kitty tummy. I order Felidae Cat... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:54 AM on May 14, 2007

Relocating To Pomona, CA : rental housing and general advice?
But Pomona has Juanita's burritos!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:21 AM on May 3, 2007

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