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What's the skinny on Gold Cards?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:40 PM on May 16, 2007
What is an appropriate modern love poem for a reading at a wedding?
Thanks for the link, roll truck roll.
Neruda and cummings are the go-to authors for this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:00 PM on May 14, 2007
First-time cat companion advice?
Is it true that male, altered cats are stereotypically the most friendly? In my experience, this is true.
What's the best kind of cat food and cat litter I can purchase? I'm inclined against buying food that is only available from a vet's office; it's typically expensive and if you run out of food you might not be able to get a replacement bag right away, leading to sudden diet changes and upset kitty tummy. I order Felidae Cat… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:54 AM on May 14, 2007
Relocating To Pomona, CA : rental housing and general advice?
But Pomona has Juanita's burritos!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:21 AM on May 3, 2007
I don't like it when it hurts to walk.
You want moleskin.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:39 AM on May 3, 2007
Whether 'tis nobler in the train to suffer...
Ditto what somechick said about reservations, although I liked the Eurail pass and would use it again. Also, be sure to write in the date of use on your pass yourself as the terms and conditions require. Often the conductors will do it for you, but if you slack and rely on them you may end up with a conductor who threatens to throw you off your overnight train from Hungary unless you pay him a bribe.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:12 PM on April 24, 2007
Why am I wet all the time?
This thread might be useful for purposes of comparison.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:10 PM on April 22, 2007
Gay couple visiting Istanbul?
what they should expect
Catcalling. I went to Istanbul with a female friend, and every third guy we passed in Sultanahmet felt free to shout at us, try to pick us up, leer, etc. Women traveling with a man (owner) did not get nearly this level of abuse. So if they come across as a pair of single American het women, I would say to prepare for street harassment like they have never experienced before.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:16 AM on April 12, 2007
What do I feed the cats after the recall?
I feed mine Felidae Chicken & Rice dry food. No wheat, no corn, and cheaper than Wellness.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:36 AM on April 5, 2007
Flirting--fun or folly?
Flirtation, particularly when we are married or in committed relationship, brings us dangerously close to one of the most pernicious sins of all. No, I don’t mean adultery. I mean the sin of using another human being to soothe our own anxiety, to feed our ravenous ego. Sending out “mixed messages” that arouse interest, deliberately fishing about to see if we can get a little “stroking” — this is toxic, manipulative, adolescent.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:48 PM on March 23, 2007
Doctor in D.C.?
I liked my first visit with this doctor. She was very personable, talked with me about my history for some time, and made a number of recommendations for non-drug solutions, which I appreciated. The clinic she's affiliated with has phone-in hours although I have not taken advantage of them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:50 PM on March 18, 2007
What do I need to know for 1-week trip to Vienna, Austria?
The Secession and the Leopold are great. Must sees.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:03 PM on March 1, 2007
Gettin' down and dirty with the 'graines
My doc recommended magnesium supplements for migraine prevention, which I take along with my daily multivitamin, flax pill, and calcium supplement. It seems to have reduced frequency, intensity, and susceptibility (fewer reactions to trigger foods). My previous doctor recommended a B-complex for the same purpose, although that didn't work for me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:47 AM on February 26, 2007
Non Fiction Women No Longer
This thread discussing women's writing that could be mistaken for men's writing might be helpful.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:45 AM on February 13, 2007
Why are my girlfriend's cats fighting?
It took a week or so with my cats in a similar situation, but that was exacerbated by one of them wearing a (bad-smelling?) Elizabethan collar. Give it a few days.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:32 PM on February 11, 2007
Paying for a family tree?
That ancestralbranches.com sounds promising. I don't know much about my ancestry but I what I do know falls within their range of countries (Ireland, Scotland, Wales, Germany).
The wager is not "am I related to GW," but "am I as closely related to GW as is Barack Obama"?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:29 AM on February 11, 2007
Do I have an abnormally acute visual memory?
I also read in chunks. I can do the "where it was on the page" trick, but only some of the time. I dated a guy who could do it all the time.
You are not alone. But Janine Cross sucks.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:11 PM on January 23, 2007
Houston/Bellaire restaurant and Houston tourism recommendations?
El Tiempo is better than Pappasito's and Chuy's. It's run by the people who had Ninfa's. Third the Menil.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:05 AM on January 9, 2007
20-something woman wants to visit Japan for two weeks, alone. Doesn't speak Japanese (but can learn), has never visited Asia. Feasible?
Your entire description applied to me and I just did this very thing in September. Japan is a great place to travel alone. Stay in ryokan where possible. Business hotels can be almost as cheap as hostels, though, and are easier to find if you are just wandering as opposed to having a preplanned itinerary for the whole trip.
Things I found useful:
Japan railpass (must buy in the USA)
This website for train scheduling; seriously, this is the best… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:46 AM on January 8, 2007
Make my iPod nano visible again!
filmgeek, it does not show up in Device Manager. I just plugged it into my boyfriend's PC and it showed up in My Computer and was recognized by iTunes.
The old nano used to work just fine on my laptop. Ever since I upgraded iTunes, it's been borked. I don't know if that could coincide with some kind of power supply problem. It is also no longer under warranty (the guy at the Genius Bar today said he would "let it slide" since it expired recently), so I don't… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:30 PM on December 30, 2006
My digital camera uses the USB ports and it seems to work fine. I will try updating the BIOS as prelude to potentially reinstalling Windows. Sigh.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:48 AM on December 31, 2006
How do I know if a prospective manfriend is the type to, um, pull my hair?
Yeah, I agree with bingo. Date Republicans.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:15 AM on December 30, 2006
I HEARD her, loud and clear.
dios, you are wrong. Under Warnock v. Archer, which is binding in the 8th Circuit (of which Missouri is a part), the actions of the teachers and principal almost certainly constitute unconstitutional endorsement of religion. (Even if attendance at the Christmas party was optional, the fact that the school threw a Christmas party is problematic.) There have been some cases outside the 8th Circuit dealing with religious songs as well (Marchi v Board, Duncanville v. Doe) indicating that… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:24 PM on December 20, 2006
pardonyou?, I agree that those aspects are more like Brown. But the school-sponsored sectarian Christmas party is a big red flag, and the Jesus songs at assemblies, depending on the context, are probably endorsement as well. Besides, dios's arguments would be equally applicable to the scenario in Warnock, and that was what I took issue with.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:34 AM on December 21, 2006
to iud or not?
Only Mirena and Paragard are available in the USA. I went from Yasmin to the Paragard a few months ago and have been very satisfied. I picked the Paragard because, like you, I was worried about the hormones in the Mirena. Heaviness is about equal to my pre-Pill teenage years, although it lasts a couple of days longer. Pain is actually less. My BC/BS insurance reimbursed me for the IUD and the installation appointments, which I had done at Planned Parenthood. Take the day off when you get it put… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:20 PM on December 17, 2006
Vacheron Mont D'or, although the season for it may have ended.
Lamb Chopper is a great sheep's milk cheese.
Temperature is important. Don't buy expensive cheese and then eat it cold from the fridge (avoid storing it in the fridge if you can, actually).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:09 PM on December 6, 2006
Is it possible to just be too damn awesome?
Start a blog. Seriously. If you're as awesome as you say, you will get an audience, and some portion of that audience will be male, and some portion of those men will ask you out. If your blog accurately displays your assets, you'll eliminate the losers who can't handle strong, high-achieving women.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:29 PM on November 26, 2006
Tell me about your tubal.
Have you considered Essure? It's less invasive and there are doctors in LA trained to do it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:24 PM on November 8, 2006
Smile? I just don't feel like it.
There's always, "Actually, I'm dying of cancer, and your shiny, balding head and appalling halitosis aren't making the journey any easier, dickwad."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:49 PM on November 7, 2006
Publicity Help For a New Holiday
I think it depends on what kind of holiday it is. A couple of years ago, to impress a guy, I tried to start an international version of a sexually-charged British holiday (timed such that we could celebrate it together, natch). I got and still get a fair amount of web traffic about it. The sexual element made sure it was picked up by teens and young adults on Livejournal (see this post for how the Livejournal effect can work to up traffic on a site), and links by a few more prominent bloggers… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:23 PM on October 24, 2006
How can I build a unique cat tree?
Wouldn't the cats just shred the cardboard? Are you looking to make a new one of these every few months and clean up the chunks of cardboard in the meantime? We had a cardboard scratching platform for our cats when I was younger and it made a huge mess. Maybe these are more durable, but it might be a concern.
That said: I did something like this for an art project, and you probably want to make a stencil for any curved bits that you can move gradually along each piece… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:08 AM on October 7, 2006
"Never use a door when you can make one of your own."
Could you wrap the boots in yellow Saran Wrap?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:27 AM on October 3, 2006
How to ensure that my cash stays on me?
You might also want to wear the money belt while you are sleeping, or at least put it under your pillow/mattress. The only time I've ever been robbed in Europe was in a relatively decent Greek hotel while I was asleep. I left my money belt on the dresser and he took all my cash. (He left credit cards and passports, although the girl two rooms down woke when he reached her room, he grabbed her whole purse, and she lost everything.)
And ditto on bewaring of "Gypsy" children.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:30 AM on September 27, 2006
Should one disclose personal information in a law school application personal statement?
No on drugs, yes on the first-in-her-family and lesbianism. Schools probably will look down on the community college grades, and English is a soft major and not uncommon among law school applicants. She needs to stress the bootstraps angle; that would explain the community college thing in a more sympathetic way than revealing past drug use. No making excuses; she should illustrate the scope of her achievement. Does she do any mentoring, GLBT activism, etc.? Law school admissions committees love… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:16 PM on September 26, 2006 marked best answer
Now that I think about it, if she had any drug convictions from those years, she would have to disclose those on the application. In that case, she's probably going to want to explain her drug problem in the addendum to those questions. If it's already out there because of that, alluding to it again in the personal statement is unnecessary.
Additionally, she sounds like a possible candidate for a Point Foundation scholarship. You might mention them to her.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:34 PM on September 26, 2006
griffey: many applications specifically note that they want you to admit any convictions, "ever," even if sealed or vacated. Others are more lenient. Legal admissibility doesn't enter into it.
To my recollection, law schools do not go back into your high school years for anything else unless you took college classes during that time. But she should call either the specific school she's applying to, LSDAS, or both, about the kicked out question (without… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:43 PM on September 26, 2006
Stupid F'ing Birth Control
I've had a Paragard for about two months, also because hormones suck. Insertion was painful (I'm nulliparous) even with ibuprofen taken beforehand, and I had the worst cramps of my life for the next 24 hours or so. That said, after the first day things have been good. I am strangely conscious of the IUD at random times, though. Not cramps, per se: more like my body telling me that something's still in there.
I don't find menstruation to be much more painful, and while… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:44 PM on September 26, 2006
Sorry, that should be OB-oriented docs. Anyway, I'd recommend the Paragard. You might also check out these forums; they have a lot of IUD discussion.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:59 PM on September 26, 2006
Is there such a thing as a functional, femme shoe?
I like Anne Klein's Manny loafer, which doesn't have more of a heel than the Danskos you linked. Here are all the flat options from Anne Klein.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:33 PM on August 29, 2006
Space Mountain with the lights on?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:53 AM on August 28, 2006
Opinions on Yaz BC?
I was on Yasmin and it destroyed my sex drive. I had zero, none. Drosperinone, the progestin used in Yaz and Yasmin, has a strong anti-androgenic effect. This means you have less testosterone, which women need if they want to have a libido. On the plus side, it made my skin perfectly clear and I didn't gain weight.
I got off it after I saw an article (which I can't find right now) saying some research suggested that BCP-related libido drops can become permanent. I now… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:34 AM on August 28, 2006 marked best answer
How do I get my skin back to a normal color?
This product claims to address the problem, but I haven't tried it. If you're on hormonal birth control, stopping it might cause the discoloration to fade away.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:02 AM on August 24, 2006
Any truth to the shampoo claims?
When I use the Brilliant Brunette line of shampoos and conditioners, I get lots of compliments on shine. It does seem to make a difference.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:48 PM on August 23, 2006
Family income - 2 vs 1
The first female head of HLS is Elena Kagan, not Elizabeth Warren.
You need to consider that wages have changed; previously, some men earned a "family wage" and women earned less for the same job (even moreso than may be the case today). It might be harder for a one-earner family to be supported by Dad today, but it's probably easier for it to be supported by Mom.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:30 PM on August 21, 2006
Best board game for a group?
Apples to Apples. Fun for geeks and artsy types, can be played while drunk, and doesn't have a board that can be carelessly overturned.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:41 PM on August 16, 2006
Help me get the best shave a man can get.
I used to get those on my legs until I switched to Aveeno shave gel and a Mach 3.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:23 AM on August 2, 2006
How to get a regularly clean-looking bikni line?
Magic Shaving Powder. Messy, but it works.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:02 PM on July 25, 2006
Dealing with drug addiction
Are your grandparents aware of the possible financial consequences? Some government agencies play pretty fast and loose with asset forfeiture. Would they like to lose their home if it turns out that your cousin is dealing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:27 PM on July 24, 2006
You've Got Mail.... for now.
Do you really think he'd ask you to do it just to irritate you?
Based on my horrible experiences with the Cambridge-area USPS, I'd say this is entirely possible. You may even have the same obnoxious mail carrier that I did. I had previously lived in places where your name was not required to be on the box; after several days of no mail, I called the station and determined that policy is determined at a local level, so they can essentially set… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:35 PM on July 18, 2006
Excuse me miss, what are these pills?
I've done this a zillion times and never had any trouble, but if you want to be cautious, keep them in their original bottles.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:57 AM on July 12, 2006