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Dealing with drug addiction
Are your grandparents aware of the possible financial consequences? Some government agencies play pretty fast and loose with asset forfeiture. Would they like to lose their home if it turns out that your cousin is dealing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:27 PM on July 24, 2006
You've Got Mail.... for now.
Do you really think he'd ask you to do it just to irritate you?
Based on my horrible experiences with the Cambridge-area USPS, I'd say this is entirely possible. You may even have the same obnoxious mail carrier that I did. I had previously lived in places where your name was not required to be on the box; after several days of no mail, I called the station and determined that policy is determined at a local level, so they can essentially set… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:35 PM on July 18, 2006
Excuse me miss, what are these pills?
I've done this a zillion times and never had any trouble, but if you want to be cautious, keep them in their original bottles.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:57 AM on July 12, 2006
Regarding the Proper Way to Shower
I used to face away from the shower head, but I found that my hair tangled less if I faced the shower head: something about the water hitting the crown of my head at the wrong angle. But I'm a short girl, so this may not apply for you.
If your shampoo is dripping in your eyes, use less shampoo.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:21 PM on June 27, 2006
ebay for sellers
Not unfounded. I had this happen (with the exception of the bad feedback) with a rather expensive set of bar exam books I sold. Paypal will ask for proof that the parcel has shipped if the buyer wants to do a chargeback. If you don't have this, you're SOL. I would think that recorded delivery (delivery confirmation in the USA) would fulfill Paypal's requirement but am not sure.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:57 AM on June 26, 2006
Green-card marriage: risk vs. reward.
What can she expect? Maybe this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:25 AM on June 26, 2006 marked best answer
There's no parole in the federal system, by the way.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:17 AM on June 26, 2006
Do it. My old boss met his wife this way after he was hospitalized (for falling off a drainpipe while climbing out of another girl's window).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:03 AM on June 20, 2006
The grand visor of Oregon?
Article IV, Section 4 of the U.S. Constitution guarantees "to every State in this Union a Republican Form of Government," although the Supreme Court has stated that enforcement of this guarantee is left to Congress, not the courts. Minnesota v. Clover Leaf Creamery Co., 449 U.S. 456, 481 n.3 (1981). There go your monarchy and anarchy ideas.
Beyond that, states are limited in how they set qualifications for voting and public office by, among other things, the… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:11 AM on June 19, 2006 marked best answer
Dreams vs. Reality
My dreams are often better than my waking hours. I love to sleep; dreams beat many books, much television, and most movies. Some people think sleeping is wasted time. This is false. Enjoy your dreams.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:25 PM on June 12, 2006
If I can't find this book, I may be driven to drink, too.
Is it Smashed?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:48 AM on May 23, 2006
My last contact ripped and new ones wont be here for a week! Help!
If your prescriptions for both eyes are the same and you are left-eye dominant, wear the remaining contact in your left eye. It will be less disorienting.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:11 PM on May 13, 2006
"Come to Homer's BBBQ. The extra B is
Here is a great-tasting recipe for grilled tuna steak with arugula stuffing.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:21 AM on May 9, 2006
Help stop a phone stalker
the calls started the same day I got my new phone
That is a weird coincidence. Was the salesperson at the Verizon store male? That would explain the sudden influx of calls to an unlisted number.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:14 AM on May 2, 2006
Legal/Social problems with physically helping gays conceive?
It might be possible for there to be a second-parent adoption which would involve you giving up your parental rights to the baby's other mother (and thus being off the hook support-wise). A lawyer in your state could advise you about that.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:22 PM on April 14, 2006
Best options for an out-of-country Cal Bar Exam taker?
The class is good for structured studying, but most of the lectures just consist of filling in the blanks on worksheets from the books. You can find old Bar/Bri and PMBR books on Ebay. They will give you all the law you need to know (oddly enough, very little of it, even on the CA-specific sections, is actual CA law).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:16 AM on April 9, 2006
Best cat litter system
2 cats here. We use World's Best, which is made out of corn. Like Swheat Scoop, it's a flushable clumping litter. It doesn't have as light and pleasing a fragrance as the Swheat Scoop, but it clumps harder and it thus easier to scoop out. I scoop 1-3 times per day, depending on how often I'm in bathroom, and sweep every morning.
I found a hooded box invaluable. This one keeps them from kicking litter everywhere in a way that conventional hooded box do not. It is bulky, though.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:43 PM on March 28, 2006
Your cat's diet may also affect the stinkiness factor.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:08 PM on March 28, 2006
One fish two fish red fish blue fish.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:11 AM on March 23, 2006
How can a homebody meet intelligent platonic and romantic female friends?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:59 PM on March 11, 2006
How do authorities detect indoor marijuana crops (e.g. hydroponics)?
Re: zpousman's link: The cops need a warrant for thermal imaging.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:22 PM on March 10, 2006
Cry me a river
In Shirley Temple's biography, she describes how one director told her that her mother was missing after she was unable to cry on cue. This produced the desired reaction. Apparently glycerin tears were used if the child couldn't cry on demand.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:56 AM on March 8, 2006
List some specific, widely held, possibly irrational turn-ons.
Motorcycles and fistfights are turn-offs, in my book. They both scream "trashy and reckless," which is not sexy.
A Brit/Aussie accent, however, is an automatic +2 hotness. Being a nerd is at least +1.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:55 PM on March 2, 2006
What are the financial aid options for a not-so-rich kid?
You may have two issues that will make getting financial aid difficult:
1) Your father's income and its effect on the expected family contribution. $140K is still a lot, and even though he was not the custodial parent he will be expected to contribute to your education. In the aggregate, your family income level is sufficiently high that you might not qualify for need-based aid; under Princeton's calculus, for example, you might not be considered to have need at all.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:55 PM on February 23, 2006
Good Brain, for purposes of the FAFSA that is not sufficient to establish independent student status. If the mother was abusive, that might help with respect to her income. Institutional aid policies may be more or less flexible than the feds in this regard. I heard a nasty story about a single man who went back to school late in life and was asked for his parents' tax returns by Stanford. (He had to explain that they were dead.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:11 PM on February 23, 2006
"Sex" is listed in the OED as a slangy synonym for "to have sexual intercourse." However, it is listed there as an intransitive verb. Therefore, phrases like "sex each other", in which the verb takes an object, are incorrect. The transitive verb form of "sex" means "to determine the sex of, by anatomical examination."
Since sex-as-transitive-verb has a specific meaning in English and there are plenty of other ways in… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:18 PM on February 16, 2006
The Corrs, I Never Loved You Anyway
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:32 PM on February 14, 2006
post-baroque cycle reading
I second Water Music; it has some of the same picaresque tone as the Baroque Cycle. JS&MR was great, too, and appropriately sprawling. Am I the only one who found Dunnett mostly dull, though? The characters were not as interesting as Stephenson's, and characterization is not his strong suit.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:53 AM on February 10, 2006
Why does my kitten suck at life?
I adopted a pound kitty last summer and struggled for some time with this problem. (Previous AskMe question here.) In my case, the mess was related to loose stools arising out of giardiasis. The vet finally put him on Metronidazole for a week, and that cleared up the problem. In the last couple of weeks, though, it seems to have recurred. I think maybe the other cat is a carrier. I just started my cat on this and will see if it does the job or if more antibiotics are called for. Regular rinses… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:50 PM on February 9, 2006
Good wet food for kitties?
My cats like the Nutro pouches. They have small rectangular chunks and plenty of gravy. The only disadvantage is that the pouch doesn't reseal well, so your fridge may smell like cat food if you don't give her the whole thing at once (it's less than a can, though, so you might).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:40 PM on February 7, 2006
You might find it useful to read the Illinois statutes to check as to what procedures exist for setting a will aside and what your obligations are if the will is valid. Invalid wills usually result in application of the intestacy rules. Was the person not of sound mind when the will was made or when he died?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:19 AM on February 2, 2006
Ditto on the you don't have to be the executor if you don't want, and on the thisisnotlegaladvice disclaimer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:29 AM on February 2, 2006
Is semi-swinging ok? Does it work?
TrueVox, your blog says you're 22 but your question says you're 19. How old are you really, and how old is your soon-to-be-fiancee?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:12 PM on February 1, 2006
Best pre-puking practices? (Non alcohol related, non bulimia related)
Is your bathroom carpeted? The last time I had a nasty 24 hour bug, I fainted in between vomiting episodes, and it's much safer to faint on something padded.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:12 PM on January 27, 2006
CollegePartyFilter: Give me party theme ideas
By your use of the term "hoes," I take it that you're already not concerned about offending women, but might I suggest that you reconsider that as a piece of marketing (if you want to maximize the number of women at the parties, that is). Please, no "pimps and hoes" theme. Your university administrators and local women's groups may not think parties about abusive, exploitative relationships are funny. My college had one of these and it was shut down.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:30 PM on January 22, 2006
justgary: I graduated in 2002. Parties with a "hoes"-oriented theme do attract a fair number of women, even today. Ditto dubious racial/ethnic themes. But why not pick one of these other ideas, which will both attract women and prevent the party from being the source of negative attention from administrators and other groups? There's no reason to be a lightning rod. Parties are about having a good time.
On zharptitsa's theme: our Monte Carlo night with black… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:46 AM on January 23, 2006
How do I ignore one of a blog's authors?
Is there any way to do this with Movable Type blogs?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:17 PM on January 10, 2006
The best collections to help me learn to love poetry?
One book I enjoyed as a relative poetry newbie was Poetry Out Loud. It's short, but has a wide variety of different poets and styles, and all are enjoyable to declaim.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:25 PM on January 6, 2006
You're not vain; you probaby think this post is about you.
There was some research about depression that seemed to indicate that most people overestimate their abilities but depressed people actually have a more accurate estimate. Maybe the answer depends on whether the ugly people in question are also depressed. If not, maybe they think that they are more physically attractive than is the case.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:44 AM on January 5, 2006
Don't it make your brown eyes green?
I've been on your boyfriend's side of this, and it is no fun at all. If counseling might help you get a grip on free-floating anxieties about other women, then get some.
On the other hand, I too thought that my boyfriend would never, ever cheat on me and thus kept my jealousy of the time he spent with a certain female friend on a tight leash. After all, I had plenty of platonic male friends. I did this even though I knew she wanted him and knew that they spent a lot of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:54 PM on December 30, 2005
Itchy Red Bumps -- what's eating me?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:30 AM on December 23, 2005
How can I clear my throat tickle?
Eat some soft sandwich bread.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:08 PM on December 19, 2005
What's the best way to sell back (used) college textbooks?
Half.com is awesome. Just make sure to have some padded mailers of various sizes on hand so you can just drop the books in one and run down to the post office when you make a sale.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:48 PM on December 19, 2005
Grownup skincare regimen?
25/f/combination skin here. I use the regular Cetaphil with a coarse washcloth for exfoliation and the Cetaphil moisturizer with SPF 15 as needed. This doesn't quite give me the well-scrubbed exfoliation I became accustomed to when I was buffing daily with cotton balls soaked in Clinique toner, but it does prevent breakouts stemming from cycles of oil overproduction. I second the recommendation of the paper blotting sheets (the Body Shop ones with tea tree oil are good). Also, if you have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:50 PM on December 16, 2005
I took him off the wet food for a week or so and that had no effect. Before I took him to the vet, I tried plain yogurt, but the cow's milk factor plus no apparent change made me stop that, too. I wonder if maybe the Nutro is just too rich for him or if something lamb based might be better.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:16 PM on December 5, 2005
I don't have any plants, so that can't be it. He doesn't eat people food, although he tries hard. It's really baffling. The Nutro is really good for both of them in every other way (other's cat's poo, coats, no hairballs), but if this keeps up I am going to have to find something else to see if that might help.
Incidentally, if anyone has any magic cures to train the other cat out of jumping on the @*@$ kitchen counter every five minutes, I am all ears. Canned air,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:53 PM on December 5, 2005
It's the older of the two that's the jumper. I haven't resorted to a spray bottle because her other favorite jumping spot is the dresser (so she can destroy the miniblinds by getting in the window). It's made of antique mahogany and can't have water standing on it. I bought some of the cat repellent and spray it regularly on the blinds, but she still jumps up and noses at them before I lunge for the air can on the nightstand and she jumps down. This repeats itself every ten minutes… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:25 PM on December 5, 2005
Never judge a book by its movie!
This might be debatable, but I found the film adaptation of Sense & Sensibility superior to Austen's novel. It's her first and perhaps her weakest book (but then I loved Mansfield Park), and the motivations of the characters didn't come through in an emotionally realistic manner when I read the novel. Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet brought out the resonance that was missing.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:12 PM on December 4, 2005
Cash for gift cards
I once swapped a Starbucks gift card for a Nabokov novel on Craigslist. People also sell gift cards on there for cash.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:23 AM on October 23, 2005
I use this recipe, which is crustless and not too dense. The sour cream topping is very tasty as well.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:47 PM on October 22, 2005