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Running empires requires lots of meetings
IIRC Addison is a pen name for Sarah Monette, author of Melusine, The Mirador, The Virtu, Corambis, and (with Elizabeth Bear) A Companion to Wolves and The Tempering of Men.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:46 AM on December 15, 2014
What are these flowers?
This is in Northern California. My cat Snape snuck in there, like he does.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:03 PM on June 11, 2014
Help me avoid unnecessary hormones
Planned Parenthood (even in Arkansas!) will give copper IUDs to nulliparous 20-somethings. When you call to make your initial appointment, mention your circumstances. If they are unwilling, try another location.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:50 AM on February 12, 2013
"Untamed Humans" on the Roof of the World
Ah, the familiar rage when you get to the section where it's revealed that half the population is effectively subhuman and outside the scope of the author's view.
There is one thing more expressive than a Kyrgyz yurt. And that is a Kyrgyz woman. Men dress like they’re perpetually on their way to a funeral. Women are Kyrgyz works of art.
The women perform endless chores—milking the yaks twice a day along with sewing and cooking and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:06 AM on January 22, 2013
Not the Ending, but an Ending.
I think I am one of like two people on MeFi who like Scott Bakker's Prince of Nothing series.
Three. Cnaiur! The sexism bugs, though.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:04 PM on January 17, 2013
Help me win arguments with libertarians
As someone who has long identified as a libertarian but is now more of the bleeding-heart mold per googly's link, here are some questions you might ask and avenues you might pursue:
- What is the end of "freedom and personal liberty"? Human flourishing? Individual autonomy? Can you find some empirical evidence showing that limited or discrete forms of state intervention maximize those true ends more effectively than strict libertarianism?… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:44 PM on November 12, 2012 marked best answer
Skincare for Dummies
The Neutrogena Rapid Wrinkle Repair creams for day and night have been a godsend for me. If you already tolerate their products, give that pairing a try. They have retinol, which is supposed to be one of the few beauty-product ingredients that really makes a difference.
Also, a professional microdermabrasion every few months is great.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:40 AM on October 10, 2012
Tamarinds and lemons say the bells of near south Minneapolis
Lemon sticky buns. By far the best roll of their kind that I've had.
Lemon cream quinoa with spinach. Vegetarian and delicious for breakfast or dinner.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:15 PM on October 2, 2012
Vintage-inspired on a budget.
I endorse heartmycloset, aka oriental_treasure on eBay. They make things exactly to measure. The fabrics are equal or better than Modcloth's.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:09 PM on September 11, 2012
The Mites That Eat, Crawl and Have Sex on Your Face
Kill it with
firetea tree oil?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:00 PM on September 5, 2012
Thoughts about women and homemaking in the 21st century
The tactile creativity element is key, at least for me. In occupations where no tangible evidence of your work generally exists, the concrete evidence of accomplishment that comes with cooking, cultivating food, knitting, or even home decorating is a refreshing psychic boost. I also find that many of these activities are conducive to "flow states," which are psychologically beneficial.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:24 AM on September 5, 2012
I can't find it
This Ask requested Roman, Celtic, Sumerian, and Egyptian settings.
Here's one that was focused on Alt-Rome.
posted to MetaTalk by amber_dale at 12:49 PM on August 17, 2012
Pros and Cons of a tiny space for four people
Can you put any furniture on the terrace? Having a little kid-sized table and cozy chair would make it easier for them to have some quiet, solitary time if their sis was in the bedroom.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:02 AM on July 30, 2012
Help me go sockless
It sounds awful, but: Crocs. They make little Mary Janes and ballet flats out of the same "Croslite" material as the hideous standard clogs. They are the only thing that have never, ever given me a blister when going sockless.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:58 PM on July 24, 2012
I need to cook up big batches of yarn.
Thanks for the responses so far. To clarify:
On size, 2.5 inches (like the electric frying pan linked) is not deep enough. A crock pot is too narrow and deep; I used to have one and it is really only good for 4 ounces or less of yarn. That 18 quart one is what I have been looking at, but even 22 quarts was a bit small for 12 ounces of yarn, which is the dye lot size I need.
Temperature: Basically, it needs to be able to boil water. I had to crank… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:57 AM on July 18, 2012
Good call re: aluminum anything being bad. I really need the low and wide shape because of my dye process. The restaurant supply idea is interesting. It looks like a large food warmer might be an option.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:30 AM on July 19, 2012
A guide to Hadrian's Wall
I used the Burton guide in 2006 (there is now an updated edition). It gave very amusing and specific directions, including where to beware of farm animals and lawn gnomes as landmarks. I am not familiar with the other guides but would recommend the Burton.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:40 AM on July 10, 2012
Where can I get waxed in Washington?
Best Wax Center in Georgetown (Maria) is great, and fairly reasonable in price. Can you take the Circulator bus?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:32 AM on June 25, 2012
How to sell a brand new never been used wedding dress?
I second preownedweddingdresses.com. If you don't want to have people ask to try it on and you want to get the most money back, it will come down to information. Provide the style, color, and size per the manufacturer. If it was altered to fit you, provide the height with heels. Measure the dress at bust, waist, hip, and length from natural waist. Be detailed and up-front about shipping methods, cost, insurance, etc.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:07 PM on May 15, 2012
First breakup woes.
A helpful post-breakup book is On Love by Alain de Botton.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:35 AM on April 1, 2012
So ... this is me.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:05 AM on February 6, 2012
I thought people might be interested: "Metafilter's own," and all that jazz.
The brief submitted to the FDA is available here, if anyone wants to delve into the legal issues.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:18 AM on February 6, 2012
Tell me about Ambergris Caye, including lodging ideas.
We stayed at the Hotel del Rio in 2009 and found it to be a good value. Some of their rooms have kitchens, although ours did not.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:13 PM on January 24, 2012
What can I do to keep my mind off of the pain after my lasek surgery?
I did not have much in the way of pain after LASIK and neither did my friends who have had it done. Sleeping for most of the 24 hours afterward and kicking back for a couple of days after that was enough. Just remember not to rub your eyes.
When I had strabismus correction surgery (the muscles that move and focus the eyes---THAT is painful for several days), I listened to dozens of episodes of South Park, since you can follow what's happening without watching and it's… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:05 AM on January 23, 2012
What should I buy at Kohl's and Land's End?
Land's End bathrobe!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:32 AM on December 27, 2011
How Knitting Behind Bars Transformed Maryland Convicts
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:30 PM on December 7, 2011
As The Skirt Turns
Spoonflower.com? You could upload your own design or choose an existing one.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:59 AM on November 29, 2011 marked best answer
Should I cut up the credit cards?
Etsy plus the wishlist strategy outlined above broke my shopping habit. There's just SO much on Etsy ... much of it is unique, so it's hard to compare between items. And many shops don't take returns or exchanges, so the risk of buying is amped up. That meant that I wishlisted tons of stuff, but bought very little. You can create "treasuries" of items to give yourself a little reward from the hours of window shopping without actually buying, too.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:56 AM on November 14, 2011
Help me put one cat on a diet without starving another! Staying sane would be nice too.
I switched my two (one fat, one thin) from free feeding with dry food to 2x daily wet food. The best way to minimize hungry yowls (and binge/purge vomiting from overeating at mealtime) was a food ball. The holes are adjustable, so they can get a tiny bit of dry through the day to tide them over, but not enough to make it the centerpiece of their diet. The fat one did drop a couple of pounds.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:21 PM on November 1, 2011
Stop me, before I eat out again
Our strategy for using up fresh veg:
- Go to the market and buy whatever looks fresh and tasty.
- Go onto foodgawker or tastespotting and run a search for each type of veg.
- Bookmark a couple of recipes for each thing in a weekly folder or pinboard.
- Buy any additional ingredients needed and try out the recipes as needed. Note those that justify repeat usage.
Pretty much any vegetable can be put into some… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:35 AM on September 16, 2011 marked best answer
Concealer tips, please!
Step 1: Apply concealer to zit.
Step 2: Gently tweeze flakes of skin highlighted by concealer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:37 PM on July 21, 2011
Blue about Blurays.
My old plan was 3 DVDs/unlimited streaming for $19.99 (no longer offered). I just switched to 2 DVDs/unlimited streaming for $19.98. Is one DVD per month really that much to forgo, given the increase in streamed offerings?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:20 AM on July 13, 2011
"Save The World" by Swedish House Mafia
Yeah, it was cute, but I wanted more doggy retributive violence. Like, Game-of-Thrones-direwolf-style attacking.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:19 AM on May 28, 2011
Which Bite Wins?
Are you assuming that each bites happens instantly and the creature immediately releases the victim, or do they remain chomped on for a while? A vampire would typically not just bite, but bite and hold, to drain the victim of blood. Thus the vampire would drain the circulating blood from the victim, which has now been contaminated with zombie and werewolf infectious agents. Whether a vampire can be zombified is unclear. As nicolas léonard sadi carnot notes, a vampire can become a werewolf.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:05 AM on May 19, 2011 marked best answer
Help me figure out my birth control
Maybe give a little more thought to the IUD options. Although the pain of insertion is worse than your yearly pap test, you can cut that with drugs taken beforehand. The doctor should be able to write you a scrip for the insertion if the initial consultation indicates that you are a good candidate. Since you seem to tolerate hormones decently well, the Mirena might be a good pick. A friend loves hers.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:36 PM on May 16, 2011
Being a lawyer had better be awesome...
The part of the California bar where a person like your wife could slip up is not mastering the essay and performance test formats and their respective scoring rubrics. It's not enough to write a sensible and legally correct response---you need to put it in the expected structure such that the grader can check off all the boxes.
Also, she should study hard but not right up until the test itself; for the few days before, just do a couple of hours of refreshers and focus… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:09 PM on May 11, 2011
A World, in a Virtual Land, Far, Far Away Where, if Even for a Little While, Everyone is Petite!
I would actually disagree with the rec for H&M, as their stuff is cut for slim but tall people. For dresses and sometimes tops this is less important.
If you have a narrow waist, you might try the vintage section of Etsy, as a lot of 50s and 60s garments are cut quite small.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:16 AM on May 11, 2011
How do I un-traumatize myself?
Dump this guy. Not in person. Be firm. The only reason you need to break up is "I don't want to be in a relationship with you." Refuse any offers for in-person chats. Talk to the police like they said upthread. Go and stay with a friend for a few days, ideally a friend he doesn't know.
This is 100% unacceptable behavior from someone you want to be dating, much less someone you don't want to be with and are dating on sufferance. Get out now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:43 PM on April 18, 2011
Do I have to live in Virginia to go to school there?
You can get a 6 month renewable "ROSA" exemption from DC car registration to avoid the tickets schmod mentions. It's a pain in the ass, but invaluable if you park in the District frequently. You will need documents showing that you live elsewhere.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:57 AM on April 18, 2011
Should I get eye muscle surgery?
After years of successfully coping and compensating for strabismus, my eyes went nuts a couple of years ago in the wake of a new contact prescription. Result: surgery on both eyes, followed by Lasik. It is by far the best health decision I ever made, and I wish I'd done it years earlier. Although it did not correct the problem 100%, it was not worth having a second procedure for the final 5-10%. I don't get much out of 3D movies, but I can look at you from both directions, which rocks.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:55 PM on April 14, 2011
I just got into a top journalism school, but I want to be an entrepreneur
How did you determine that you need an associates degree in fashion to be a designer? Have you considered starting an online shop (etsy, artfire, etc.)?
Where are you geographically? That will have a big effect on your ability to get an internship like amicamentis suggests.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:24 PM on March 21, 2011
European hiking trip in July - where to go?
I did a very nice hike along Hadrian's Wall in the north of England at that time of year. It's hilly but not mountainous. The National Trail hike guide has landmarks and B&B suggestions. If you finished it early, you could do some additional hiking in the Lake District ... just rent a car and drive over, or take a bus.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:49 AM on March 21, 2011
Help me find the best of Etsy
Not to be too self promoting, but I do a weekly blog post (Etsy Stylist) for the Washingtonian.com style section highlighting cool Etsy items. You might like some of the things there.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:20 PM on March 17, 2011
knit two, purl two
I have a giant ball of roving and want to try this RIGHT NOW.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:45 PM on March 17, 2011
Yeah, I cannot understand why they would disable search for item descriptions (even Ebay has that!) and then introduce "circles" and people searching and all sorts of extraneous garbage. I find a lot fewer cool things now, which presumably Etsy wants me to share with everyone in my address book ... good luck with that.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:19 PM on March 14, 2011
Is there an etiquette for reclining in the air?
I am short, such that the headrest contour in a non-reclined seat hits me square in the back of the head. To avoid hours of sitting with my head cocked forward, I recline (slowly) and slouch, unless there is a very tall person or a person with a laptop behind me. I also roll my jacket behind my lower back, so that trick with the knees fazes not. On the kind side, I put everything but large rolling carry-ons under the seat (short legs), so you've got extra room for your luggage in the bins.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:12 PM on February 28, 2011
Which box to choose?
Another vote for Roku. Even my 80-year-old grandparents loved theirs. They often do promotions for $X off the price of the box.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:12 PM on February 17, 2011
Has there ever been a historical example of a privatized police force?
For a decent book on this subject, try The Enterprise of Law by Bruce Benson.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:55 PM on January 10, 2011
Warmest Hat Ever?
Try a knitted hat, which is much nicer looking than some dog sledding hat. Alpaca is very warm fiber because is is hollow. Qiviut (Inuit for muskox wool) is said to be even warmer, but it's expensive. A double knitted hat like this one has two layers of knitted fabric for additional heat retention.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:12 AM on December 2, 2010