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The dark truth behind the convictions for 'gender fraud'
It is not okay to ignore consent because you don't like someone's reasons for not having sex with you. Even if you think those reasons are "transphobic."
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:50 PM on December 18, 2015
I never said Kyran was a woman.
I said that the woman victim in this case did not consent to being penetrated by an object, and that Kyran apparently understood that, which is why Kyran concealed the nature of the penetrating object from her.
If you penetrate a woman with something without her enthusiastic and affirmative consent, that is and should be rape.
Even if her understanding was a transphobic one, that does not entitle anyone to ignore her… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:05 PM on December 18, 2015
I'm against any men raping women. (Anyone raping anyone, really.) That's why I originally said that it didn't matter why someone was using a prosthetic penis, simply that it shouldn't be put inside someone else's body without enthusiastic and affirmative consent from the partner. The law should reflect that.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:25 PM on December 18, 2015
On dads and dad music (SL Storify)
After hearing the cd in my car, my dad very seriously asked me to make a copy of it for him and listened to it whenever I was over. It was Sheryl Crow's Tuesday Night Music Club.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:10 AM on December 8, 2015
"I am not yet old enough to vote———"
I just love his old roommate, Craig.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:11 PM on December 5, 2015
“...things get broken, and sometimes they get repaired,”
I read 2666 on a beach vacation. This book sounds like too much for me. Also, the "fairly standard post-college New York City book" is so tired that adding torture porn is about the only thing you could do to jazz it up.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:05 PM on December 4, 2015
The 12 week rule is toxic. Asking women to keep what can be intense grief and emotion to themselves (to avoid bothering other people with it? To make things less awkward for those who don't like thinking about blood and miscarriage and loss?) can be a huge burden on top of the event itself.
The first time I got pregnant, I completely disregarded the whole nondisclosure thing, and it made for some upsetting and uncomfortable conversations with relatives and friends when, like this… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:12 AM on December 4, 2015
Even if that experience is "lying in bed mourning." (This came off as really dismissive, btw. Echoes of the sad girl thread.)
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:12 AM on December 4, 2015
Watch it open up 'cause it can't keep a secret
Is this that Crone Island I've heard so much about?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:52 PM on December 3, 2015
Flower Power: Pit Bulls of the Revolution
Responsible pet ownership is of paramount importance.
That said, this is the thread for adorable pibble photos?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:21 PM on October 5, 2015
a guy who’s giving 150 percent, and yet you’re not sure if he means it
So where does one go to find a complete and exhaustive rundown of Tom Cruise's many sins? The Vanity Fair piece just after the divorce lacks many of these juicy details.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:18 AM on August 3, 2015
Running empires requires lots of meetings
IIRC Addison is a pen name for Sarah Monette, author of Melusine, The Mirador, The Virtu, Corambis, and (with Elizabeth Bear) A Companion to Wolves and The Tempering of Men.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:46 AM on December 15, 2014
"Untamed Humans" on the Roof of the World
Ah, the familiar rage when you get to the section where it's revealed that half the population is effectively subhuman and outside the scope of the author's view.
There is one thing more expressive than a Kyrgyz yurt. And that is a Kyrgyz woman. Men dress like they’re perpetually on their way to a funeral. Women are Kyrgyz works of art.
The women perform endless chores—milking the yaks twice a day along with sewing and cooking and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:06 AM on January 22, 2013
Not the Ending, but an Ending.
I think I am one of like two people on MeFi who like Scott Bakker's Prince of Nothing series.
Three. Cnaiur! The sexism bugs, though.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:04 PM on January 17, 2013
The Mites That Eat, Crawl and Have Sex on Your Face
Kill it with
firetea tree oil?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:00 PM on September 5, 2012
Thoughts about women and homemaking in the 21st century
The tactile creativity element is key, at least for me. In occupations where no tangible evidence of your work generally exists, the concrete evidence of accomplishment that comes with cooking, cultivating food, knitting, or even home decorating is a refreshing psychic boost. I also find that many of these activities are conducive to "flow states," which are psychologically beneficial.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:24 AM on September 5, 2012
So ... this is me.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:05 AM on February 6, 2012
I thought people might be interested: "Metafilter's own," and all that jazz.
The brief submitted to the FDA is available here, if anyone wants to delve into the legal issues.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:18 AM on February 6, 2012
How Knitting Behind Bars Transformed Maryland Convicts
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:30 PM on December 7, 2011
"Save The World" by Swedish House Mafia
Yeah, it was cute, but I wanted more doggy retributive violence. Like, Game-of-Thrones-direwolf-style attacking.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:19 AM on May 28, 2011
knit two, purl two
I have a giant ball of roving and want to try this RIGHT NOW.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:45 PM on March 17, 2011
Yeah, I cannot understand why they would disable search for item descriptions (even Ebay has that!) and then introduce "circles" and people searching and all sorts of extraneous garbage. I find a lot fewer cool things now, which presumably Etsy wants me to share with everyone in my address book ... good luck with that.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:19 PM on March 14, 2011
Steampunk and its discontents
The N.K. Jemisin story from the second link, which features a Haitian lesbian spy who takes an airship to New Orleans, is actually pretty decent. So is her recent fantasy novel series.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:56 PM on October 27, 2010
You might try Banewreaker.
For the love of all that's holy, please don't.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:24 PM on October 28, 2010
Have you ever spent a Thanksgiving reviewing 1.2 million pages of billing records in a warehouse in Topica?
On a similar note, from ATL.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 10:27 AM on October 20, 2010
What Is It About 20-Somethings?
Since a lot of college students are technically in their twenties, how is it especially exceptional that people in their twenties have short term (semester? summer?) jobs, move back in with parents (again, is this in the summer? short term?), and move to new residences every year?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:20 PM on August 18, 2010
Texas Young Log Cabin Republicans, maybe.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 5:59 PM on June 3, 2010
I think it's time for debate.
Are there any other instances where a state has set up a regulatory and taxation apparatus from something that's explicitly illegal under federal law?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 2:15 PM on April 21, 2010
The Last Protestant Justice?
JackFlash, Kagan's a lesbian. So are Karlan and Sullivan, for that matter.
It's going to be Kagan, she's been groomed for this for years.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:27 AM on April 9, 2010
Actually Scalia and Thomas disagree fairly frequently, it's just not on the high-profile culture war cases that get lots of attention. There have been actual studies of the Supreme Court voting records and they are not the twosome most likely to agree.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:48 PM on April 9, 2010
To Kill a Predator
The chance for a lesser sentence is entirely in the DA's hands, I think. A plea bargain to a lesser charge is up to him to offer, as is whether to bring a lesser included charge for the jury to settle on as an alternative to nullification or convicting Vargas of murder in the first. And the DA sounds like a hardass.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:31 PM on March 25, 2010
Women hold up half the sky
Calling this a gendercide is like following the logic of calling US abortions a "black genocide."
No, it makes perfect sense. It's not as if the racially disproportionate rate of abortions in the US is a result of black women saying to themselves, "Gosh, I was all set to have a kid but I don't want a black baby." This is a case of fetuses being aborted because they are female.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:12 PM on March 9, 2010
Throughout human history, young men have been responsible for the vast preponderance of crime and violence—especially single men in countries where status and social acceptance depend on being married and having children, as it does in China and India. A rising population of frustrated single men spells trouble.
The crime rate has almost doubled in China during the past 20 years of rising sex ratios, with stories abounding of bride abduction, the trafficking of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:24 PM on March 9, 2010
'A slice of bread seems an unimportant thing.....'
So why did the pork, mutton, and beef get shipped across the sea if peanuts and beans would have done as well and been easier to transport?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:09 AM on March 4, 2010
The Impact of Diversity
The interesting part of the YLJ study, which is five years old, is that not only do female judges rule differently from male judges (even controlling for political affiliation), but male judges on mixed-gender panels rule differently than they do on all-male panels.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:20 PM on February 10, 2010
Ad Vocal on My Ass! WTF?
I'm pro-choice, and I'm sort of glad that Planned Parenthood isn't shelling out $2.8 million for a counter-ad during the Super Bowl. That's $2.8 million that could have gone to pay for health care (including abortions) to women in need. Why FotF would rather pay for commercials than try to help, say, poor pregnant women who might not be able to afford another kid, is on their heads.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:10 PM on January 28, 2010
No Department of Agriculture blood subsidies?
So he's showing them True Blood, basically?
Yep, as it says in the second paragraph of the post: "The scenario was broadly organized around the motivating concept of True Blood."
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:22 PM on January 12, 2010
Movies with Grandma Joy
Reminds me of these blog posts.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 11:27 AM on January 6, 2010
Vere You Vant To Go?
I benefited from the Turkish propensity for cabbie backscratching on my trip there. My friend and I stayed for several days at a hostel in Istanbul and were flying out. Instead of hailing a cab, the desk clerk offered to call one for us, which was of course driven by his cousin or something. Halfway to the airport (and on a relatively tight time frame) we realized that my friend had left her passport at the hotel. We had no cell phone, and no phone number for the hotel, but of course our cabbie… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:20 AM on January 6, 2010
Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect $200
Would the people bashing women who buy expensive handbags instead of knock-offs say the same about someone who bought paintings instead of posters to decorate his home? When you buy fashion, sometimes you are purchasing both a work of art and a functional item.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:10 PM on June 27, 2007
At the risk of being pilloried: shouldn't kids be able to identify whether something is alive? And since when is buying a car something that kids don't care about? I'm sure the test prep is mind-numbing (I took TAAS in school and no doubt it's at least that bad), but the cheating problem would exist absent standardized testing; it was endemic at every school I attended after 5th grade and it's a lot easier to tell that there's cheating with TAKS than determining if one kid's been copying another… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 6:02 AM on June 4, 2007
Supreme Court Alters 12(b)(6) Standards
This makes it easier to dismiss complaints at the pleadings stage.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 3:24 PM on May 21, 2007
"I wanted to rip off their heads and tear out their hearts ... "
In Chile or Nicaragua, this woman would have died. Not all of the "pro-life" policies make an exception for the life of the mother.
If you read the comments ot the post, a lot of people share personal stories. There's an example of a woman who could have carried to term, at the cost of losing kidney function and having to go on dialysis for the rest of her life. That should never have to happen. That is why a health exception is necessary.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:15 PM on April 26, 2007
Mommy what will I look like?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 4:31 PM on April 22, 2007
Goodnight, sweet horse prince.
Why didn't they give him a prosthesis?
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 8:24 PM on January 29, 2007
a woman alone on the appalachian trail
I found usage of the "pink blazer" term from 2003.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 12:19 PM on August 28, 2006
How do you solve a problem like Gerard Manley Hopkins?
I prefer Hopkins's earlier poems. They can be hard to find, since some of them were about his love for another Oxford student and he didn't want them distributed. An example:
The Beginning of the End
My love is lessened and must soon be past.
I never promised such persistency
In its condition. No, the tropic tree
Has not a charter that its sap shall last
Into all seasons, though no… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 7:44 AM on August 22, 2006
"There's a game of water Quidditch going on in the swimming pool." Harry Potter, fandom, and academia.
Re: Cassie Claire: she's also attempted to purge her NC-17 Harry/Draco slash (1, 2) from the internet now that her Young Adult fantasy novel is being professionally published.
I agree that the reporter should have done some research on fandom and read more of the books beforehand instead of going for the cheap, context-free "look at the freaks!" angle. That would not have necessarily yielded a positive spin to the piece, but at least it would have been more… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 9:08 AM on August 13, 2006
It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. It was on vacation.
Menstruation might cause part of the gap between men's and women's earnings! But there's hope: the Liberation may come.
posted to MetaFilter by amber_dale at 1:54 PM on August 3, 2006