When I say I love someone, it's simply because I do, and not out of a desire to hear it said back to me. He knows you're not ready, or that the love is not there for you yet, and as long as you're honest, I don't see anything wrong with continuing a relationship that seems good in other ways.

Does he know you may never be there? Is he happy? Are you? Does he act like he wishes you would say it, but he's not wanting to force it, or is he really truly ok with it?
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 1:18 PM on April 3, 2008

skyper, I think that's an Earworm.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 12:50 PM on April 3, 2008

Brockles is referring to advice from this guy: Doctor Dog.

He taught us a few things, and that solution to jumping was one of the best. If you do it right, and quickly enough, the dog sees it not as something you did but just a natural consequence. "Oh. If I jump up on this human, I fall backwards." After a few times she would refuse to jump on us, no matter how much we fawned over her. Such a simple thing, but it worked wonders on that 76 pound stubborn... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:05 PM on February 26, 2008

The dog, like most dogs, would catch herself and never actually fell on her back. I think you may have misunderstood the process, biscotti. Of course "doctor dog" was not a doctor. Just a half crazy dog trainer with a radio show and a penchant for scotch. We can argue forever about the merits of different dog training, as there are more schools of it than there are religions. What remains is that our vets (I had a different one from my roommate) both agreed this would not injure our... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:18 AM on February 27, 2008

I'm female, 34, from Northern California, and we played this game as well. About a year ago I bought this on a Tshirt, and every time I wear it I get at least one nod of recognition ("Hey! We did that when we were kids, too!").
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:35 AM on February 4, 2008

The Tolkien Shop has some prints...

/still looking
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:31 AM on February 1, 2008

While I'm no doctor, I once ate half of a breaded chicken breast before discovering it was entirely raw in the center. After some initial panic and a lot of googling I decided if I had any trouble that night, I'd see a doctor. It's a lot less dangerous, from what I read, than people make it out to be. I was fine.

(You know, but YMMV. I don't recommend it.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:04 PM on January 26, 2008

(Tired. Posted without proofreading. Not being a doctor was more to clarify my "It's a lot less dangerous" comment, not to explain why I ate half of a raw chicken breast.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:09 PM on January 26, 2008

I'm not as familiar with the Windows pptp VPN, but most VPN servers give the administrator the option to force all traffic through the VPN or allow for split tunneling. My current employer allows the split tunnel - only traffic destined for our LAN is sent through the tunnel, and internet/other traffic is routed out the VPN user's default gateway. Some companies force traffic through the tunnel so they can log your traffic while you're connected, usually because there are concerns about security,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:58 PM on December 19, 2007

I looked at your photos and I have one unrelated question...Where did you get that "Words on a shirt" shirt?
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 12:43 PM on November 9, 2007

Could it be the one listed below? I hope not, since a recall was issued. Might make it a bit harder to find. The date is a bit late, too. Still looking.

From a recall notice:

Product: Stuffed Toys. The toys include a monkey, Curious George; the Easter chick, Chick-A-Dee; and the puppies, Puppy Love and Scab-Do. The toys can be identified by the numbers K-20, K-21, K-22, K-23, K-25, and K-32 imprinted on a tag affixed to the toy's seam, and the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:32 AM on November 2, 2007

Here's one on Ebay!
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 2:26 PM on October 30, 2007 marked best answer

Closest I came when googling was a tenuous link to "Boo!" from the Irish (or Scottish or Gaelic, depending on the source) word for victory - Buadh (pronounced Boo-ah). Other sites I found, however, defined/translated buadh to "virtue" or "good quality", which doesn't jibe. (Ever shouted 'Virtue!" and scared someone?) A lot of sites traced it back to the bogeyman, and I'd bet that mefi's own languagehat might have some idea, after also finding this - SAFIRE'S... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 12:46 AM on October 28, 2007

It's your life. Do what you want. Seriously. All of my siblings (and myself) have skipped family Christmases and other major holidays, in the past. My mom is a master at guilt trips, but those only work if you're willing to take them on.

My dad and step-mom go on cruises every year over Christmas and except for the gifts they send out, they don't celebrate. I asked him why they started that tradition, once, and he told me it was because they got sick of moping around... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 12:19 AM on October 28, 2007

Ikea!
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:11 AM on October 20, 2007

Nearly all of these were good answers. Thanks, hive mind! I definitely have some options to look over.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:13 PM on October 17, 2007

The amount of hair is secondary to the cleanliness (loiseau had it). Po had a good point, too. No one wants hair in the throat. It just doesn't belong there and it's impossible to get out (or so I hear).

I wouldn't like shaved completely, but I've known women who would and guys who did. But as Brockles said, we are all different. It depends on the woman you're with. Find someone enthusiastic about what is above your belt and I wager she'd be happy with whatever she encounters below.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:46 PM on October 16, 2007

hmsbeagle, I know. Men are supposed to be gruff and hairy. I agree! But jungly? Men don't need afros down there. If a guy took his pants off and the hair wrapped around you and blinded you with its sheer volume...you'd be just as repulsed, wouldn't you?

I never really answered as far as preferences. I'm in favour of a trim, but only if it's really needed.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:50 PM on October 16, 2007

Yes, it is "Swing low..."
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:45 PM on October 10, 2007

We used to use the hyperventilation trick back in high school. Knocked each other right out, every time.

(That's all I've got. Anecdotal info on the second part of your question.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 12:25 AM on September 27, 2007

She knows who you are. She may even be in awe of you, and feeling the same way, but better at hiding it. Relax. She is with you for a reason. Trust her judgement. She knows who she wants.

I will tell you that I have been on the other side of this, and nothing killed my interest faster than feeling I needed to boost my partner constantly. You've got to get over the fear (I know, easier said than done). If you give her your all and she someday decides she wants someone... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:16 PM on September 19, 2007

Oh, and you obviously are pretty freaking amazing, if someone that awe inspiring wants you. Right?
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:17 PM on September 19, 2007

Dudley
Belvedere
Ferguson
Bubba
Slick
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:03 AM on September 18, 2007

I've done this on two different Toshibas with a minimum of fuss. Have not looked at that particular Dell, but I bet you can find instructions online, if you google. Fans are pretty cheap, too.

Do not lose screws. Be very careful not to strip them. Those are my two big tips.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 5:56 PM on September 16, 2007

This happened to me once. Agreed, it's creepy as hell, and very uncomfortable. The only way to shut it down is brutal and complete honesty, and be prepared to reiterate your position as many times as you have to, to get it through his head.

Also - get as much distance as you can, for a while. Stay busy with the other people in the house or other friends until he can either latch on to someone/thing else or work on his issues. People like that need to latch on to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 3:23 PM on September 10, 2007

My dad grows produce in his basement in Vermont, and has a couple grow lights. He's never been bothered about them.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 5:26 PM on July 31, 2007

It is from married to the sea.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 5:24 PM on July 31, 2007

My mom has a cat who gives her a lot of trouble with pills, too. She's giving her tablets now, and she swears by Laxatone, a tuna flavoured hairball remedy. It's the consistency of peanut butter, almost, and sticks to the cat's mouth. My mom grinds the pill on a spoon and then puts it in a small dollop of laxatone.

The burrito treatment may be scaring the cat more, but I know sometimes it's unavoidable. When I put advantage on my cat I have to act like it's just a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:33 PM on July 1, 2007

Also see here. You might be able to contact Bill or Marvel directly and ask...?
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:58 AM on June 29, 2007 marked best answer

I have the same problem. When I had my second holes pierced on each side, I had to dig the posts out of swollen earlobes and replace them with sterling hoops, and let them heal with those. Even that took a while.

I find that if I stay away from super cheap earrings and posts, I'm fine. Maybe my earlobes are too fat, I thought at one point, and they need more air around the earrings. So I stick to hoops and dangley things. Generally though sterling silver hoops are my... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:20 AM on June 5, 2007

Weatherworn: I know, I don't understand why silver doesn't make my skin swell and itch, but it just doesn't. No, that's not quite true. Sterling silver bought from a street kiosk, a head shop, or an art fair often breaks me out, where sterling bought from more reputable stores is lovely.

Someone told me once that cheaper silver is often coated with something to make it look shinier. Could that be the culprit? I don't know.

Also loving... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 2:40 PM on June 6, 2007

I first heard that phrase in 1979. I was 6 and my brother was 10. I imagine he'd heard it before then, but I can't vouch for that. I do know my dad has known that phrase all my life, so that takes us back to at least 1973.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:08 AM on March 19, 2007

Does this help?
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:46 PM on March 18, 2007

More here. I always thought so too. First one I heard was by Taj Mahal, though I think the Dead did a version too. I think what you heard was just Samuel Jackson's rendition. It may not match up to any current version - that style of music is all about improv, interpretation and variation.

According to what I found the name even changes depending on who you hear it from. Stackolee, Stagger Lee, Stackerlee, Stag-O-Lee, etc.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 8:57 PM on March 18, 2007

It does sound like meth, from the "chemical smell" description. Talking to the neighbours is not a bad idea, if they're approachable. Or you could also just go to your landlord.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 7:57 PM on March 7, 2007

I hadn't even thought of the meth lab. But I've lived close to people who *smoked* meth, and that was precisely how I'd describe that smell.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:44 AM on March 9, 2007

It will not go away. It's a part of you. Like amputees have phantom limbs, we'll always have phantom drinks, snorts, smokes. I've been sober for fourteen years and every now and then I still have a drinking/drugging dream. More often its cigarettes, as I just quit those three years ago. In time they will lessen, but I don't believe they'll ever vanish entirely.

Think of it as a poke in the arse to not forget where you came from.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 3:07 PM on March 1, 2007

Don't ask "When will you know by?" Set a time: "If I don't hear from you by X o'clock, I'll make other plans." Take control back properly - it'll be best for all involved. If they flake, and it bothers you, you *will* treat them differently, consciously or no, and it will affect your relationship with them in an adverse manner. Now mind, you don't *have* to make other plans, or maybe your other plans will be to do nothing, or to take a nap, or whatever, but this way you... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:27 AM on March 1, 2007

Oh and like the others said while I was babbling away into the response text box:

People who treat you this way over idle dinner commitments are not going to treat you any better over more serious things.

Your life is your choice - seriously, choose people who find you more interesting, who place a higher priority on commitments, even minor ones. Put your damn foot down.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:31 AM on March 1, 2007

I almost hate to say it, but the only "Missy jeans" I could find were mentioned here as being made by Gitano for KMart. Surely those aren't the same.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:53 AM on February 22, 2007

The restore down button just resizes your window. If part of it is disappearing down off your screen, just drag it up by holding down your mouse button while the pointer is on the top of the window.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:30 AM on February 16, 2007

You can also try the old standby of *228 send for the initial set up of a Verizon phone.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 11:42 AM on February 15, 2007

I dealt with this at a customer's site once, and after much annoyance it was discovered the line had been wired wrong in the phone room. I tried a cross over cable, on a whim, and the line came up fine. The telco that bought the ISP I worked for wasn't authorized to work in this customer's phone room, so we left them up with a crossover from the wall jack to the router, but with a stern recommendation to call their own phone people asap and get it resolved.

I've also... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:34 AM on February 14, 2007

"stick it in the jack and then THEY can check for it"
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:34 AM on February 14, 2007

(Grr, I wish I could go back and edit comments sometimes, here)

"they said they found problems but that the problems had gone away now. "

Classic line when the telco doesn't know what the problem was and they're just hoping it's gone. It may not be. You may have to push them. Ask them what the problem was and how it was resolved, ask if they discovered a root cause, and how it was fixed, and if they can't answer that, keep pushing.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:40 AM on February 14, 2007

My brother and a couple other "real" men I know enjoyed Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible. Margaret Atwood is a good recommendation, too - my whole family reads her, men and all.

The imaginary men I know don't read.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 10:50 AM on February 13, 2007

Time Traveler's Wife: Yes!

Also, The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell. If you liked the Poisonwood Bible, Kingsolver has a ton of other books you could dip into, too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 1:42 PM on February 13, 2007

My mom has been an elementary school teacher for a good 25 years, and she's due for retirement soon.

Pros: As Thorzdad said, the sense of accomplishment you get. She esp loves it when 15 or 16 year old kids come back to visit her and she gets to see how they've turned out and if she really made a difference. She says it keeps her young, working with kids, and she loves that "Aha!" moment, when a child suddenly understands a new idea or method. If you are at... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:54 AM on February 12, 2007

It is kind of a cool photo. I like these, too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:21 AM on February 1, 2007

Here's a nifty diagram. Found off of this site. From what I can see, they won't look hollow. See if you can reach that site.
posted to Ask Metafilter by routergirl at 9:24 AM on February 1, 2007 marked best answer