What millipede said. Being honest about it will, in the long run, stress you out less than being passive aggressive about it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:38 PM on July 22, 2008

Thanks, cock. Is that normal response, though, no error message or YOU FAIL IT or anything?
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:01 PM on July 11, 2008

i rebooted and it's at least showing on iTunes that I have an upgrade available but then it won;t load the store.. I'll give them time to get it sorted..
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:26 PM on July 11, 2008

+1 vote for intensity. I have never had anything but emotional pain and exhaustion from trying to deal with people my body was telling me not to deal with. That zen attitude may work for some people, but for the rest of us, 'fake it till you make it' (and the overwhelming social consensus towards this notion) just amounts to a claustrophobic social pressure. Add to the honesty of the world instead; deal with your consequences now, and in context, rather than later and internalised.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:29 PM on July 5, 2008

Lawyer, wills and trusts.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:06 PM on July 5, 2008

a) they're my friends - OMG I AM AFRAID OF WHAT THEY WILL THINK OF ME
b) I feel like a narc - OMG MY FRIENDS WILL THINK I AM A NARC

cowboy up and report. Warn your friends first. A living creature depends on it. Caring too much about what others think of you to the point of allowing suffering is a very serious failing, I'm sorry to say.

Are these friends in a position of power over you? I wonder if this is the case because they seem... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:30 PM on July 4, 2008

Phone sex or escort work work well for certain highly motivated people. Put all that energy of high motivation to work in a remunerative field.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:46 PM on July 1, 2008

peanut butter kong. only at night, only in his crate.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 11:39 AM on June 27, 2008

It's the Invite Members button that's gone, it seems..
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:06 PM on June 24, 2008

I only have my own login, and I did not already send the invitation.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:07 PM on June 24, 2008

The group members aren't necessarily all my friends tho?
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:17 PM on June 24, 2008

Yep, I'm an officer indeed.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:29 PM on June 24, 2008

Could it be because I created another event and invited the group to it this week?
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:51 PM on June 24, 2008

Doesn't appear on firefox or safari, the button.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:54 PM on June 24, 2008

I seem to be an admin and an officer.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:03 PM on June 24, 2008

I have 300 in my group. The help page says the limit is 1000. Maybe they forgot to change it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:31 PM on June 24, 2008

The button was back this morning. Thanks for your help folks.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:24 AM on June 25, 2008

you need a temporary access to/admin privileges on a pc and digital voice editor and itunes, plug the puppy into the pc after installing and launching dve, save files as wav files, email files to self, import into itunes on mac.

/icd-st25 owner
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 8:28 AM on June 23, 2008

also, get an external mic for your sony, a nice condenser mic is good for interviews, this will significantly up the quality of your recordings.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 8:29 AM on June 23, 2008 marked best answer

I really hate it when people question the premises of my AskMe question, and I apologise in advance, but this seems to be one of paulsc's overstressed bolt situations. There is a great deal of good advice in this thread, but the risk of the guest dog contracting leshmaniasis is a good enough reason not to do it. Plus, your dog could get sicker!

You seem to be being forced to do this by your friend. Only you know the full story - it could be anything from a very... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 9:44 AM on June 19, 2008

Also - and place this in the context of the situation with the additional details that you know - you might want to have the person sign a liability waiver because of the risks involved. I am not a lawyer and don't know the law situation where you are, of course!

Good luck.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 9:45 AM on June 19, 2008

Maybe you're thinking of the Queen's Speech? She's gotta ask permission to get into the House of Commons before she makes her annual speech.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 6:01 AM on June 19, 2008

Yet another cat - a kitten, perhaps - that will play with her.

The Tickler cat toy.

Feliway.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 12:47 PM on June 14, 2008

Are you sure those employees are sub par? Lots of people forget that they have a reason to go above and beyond, and their employees don't... thus, when employees fill the requirement but don't go above and beyond, they resent their employees. Don't go down this path.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 11:26 AM on June 13, 2008

Note: Sometimes I'll be printing 1500 or more at a time, breaking this up into a few runs is OK. Mostly I'll be printing addresses onto pre-printed material.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 4:32 PM on June 11, 2008

The survey cards are just a4 pieces of standard paper, if that helps. We guillotine them after printing. We just call them survey cards.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:23 AM on June 12, 2008

Phaser it is.

Where can you get these in the uk?
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 10:56 AM on June 13, 2008

try a nano or a Touch as a grand price.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:10 PM on June 10, 2008

To clarify, I do mean my world - my daily experiences. I'd be grateful for answers to your toned down version of my question, too.

I guess I do think that there is a system of lying in the world in general, though. Look at various situations in AskMe - for example today's question about the guy leaving the post with the combative woman at the overseas NGO. Many people tell him to leave the matter of telling the woman she's hard to work with with the NGO honchos, but few... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:46 PM on May 29, 2008

The wii is a great platform for watching youtube on your tv, if you're interested in that.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 12:37 PM on May 29, 2008

Poker. For money.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 11:05 AM on May 27, 2008

You are the campaign coordinator. Your job is to get all the detail knowing people to coordinate a campaign plan, which you will design with their advice.

Notice in this thread all of the wildly divergent opinions. That is because this is all bullshit. Not their fault just nobody here is going to know what's required for your campaign. There's no generalised opinion on a local race that will be useful except for the people in the party and the people who are standing... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 4:11 PM on May 18, 2008

oh and on second read, ffs get an election agent, this is the person that knows the laws and stuff! Don't raise a penny without hiring this person.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 4:13 PM on May 18, 2008

Hire someone in the region who does this stuff as well as you all train teachers. Post this question on facebook and to your email address book, i know for a fact you have a huge and excellent network. There will likely be somebody there you can hire on spec.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:47 PM on May 18, 2008

Get an absorbing hobby:

guitar
chess
computer programming
physical fitness
sketching

Have a regular night twice a month where you commute 2 hours to the pub/expats village and spend the night there.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 8:59 AM on May 17, 2008

Ketchup chips are gross.

Maple SUGAR.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:55 PM on May 2, 2008

I am going through exactly the same problem and I am working to deal with it.

I try to remember that my self worth has nothing to do with a job. I try to understand that my depression and anxiety cause direct physical and cognitive symptoms which make it more difficult to work, and I will get better when these are treated.

Get treatment. If nothing else treatment of your depression and anxiety is bound to cause some improvement - even on the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:23 PM on April 30, 2008

Sleep in another room until you get the problem solved? That is a considerate thing to do, if it wouldn't be upsetting to your girlfriend / make sleeping difficult in its own way.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 7:49 AM on April 30, 2008

The not your fault stuff is good and very important. After my mother killed herself, I remembered the what if stuff and from that day forward I tried to always do the what if stuff - telling my friends how much I valued them and so forth.

Doing that stuff has been good for me, good for my friends, and has helped me to remember to support my friends when they are ill, physically or mentally. You're not responsible, but whether it's cancer or depression, support is good... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:14 PM on April 27, 2008

Most people probably use the doing business as method. Or they do it illegally, by hiring a front-person to receive the money etc.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 5:33 AM on April 21, 2008

If I were in your shoes, I would do whatever is within the realm of cultural possibility to get away from them, up to and including getting married.

Or - how detached do you want to go? Can you get a job elsewhere in the world? A transfer from your company?

Before you do that, though, you need therapy. Lie your fucking teeth off if you have to, but find a therapist who can help you talk through this relationship with your parents, which is... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 1:52 AM on April 21, 2008

these are overworked people who probably need that time and space to complain. the problem is not them, the problem is you.

i say you are the problem because you express displeasure with all of their types of conversation - not just one. maybe you are blessedly free of these issues, but most people find that after enough repetition even the most petty of problems becomes major.

like your petty problem with their conversational topics has become... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:41 AM on April 18, 2008

oh, one more thing: conversation about poor workplace conditions has an outlet - "let's organise and change this." many a struggle for social justice has started out in this way.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:44 AM on April 18, 2008

Get someone else to copy his email addresses into the web based system. Probably his secretary, who probably sends half his email in the first place.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 2:56 PM on April 14, 2008

alibaba.com and the like would probably get you this at the quantity and price you're looking for for a giveaway item.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 12:46 PM on April 14, 2008

Oh, god, be careful. You'll get fleeced. Manhattan is insane.

Hire somebody to go around for a fortnight and scout properties. Use your facebook, linkedin, etc. to find the right person. This is also a good way to find properties, realtors, lawyers..

Use your meatspace business, creative and personal networks. Talk to someone else in London who does this.

A consultant with expert and local knowledge will more than pay for itself.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 11:40 AM on April 14, 2008

There are various kinds of peri peri sauce that might work. What precise strength of taco bell sauce does she like?
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 3:39 PM on April 11, 2008

How about a HUGE bribe?

Something on the level of a new video game. Or a cool pair of trainers. Or tickets to see something really awesome.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 7:02 AM on April 11, 2008

Ask your daughter.

I think that over fifty percent of the problems caused by mental illness (or any other impairment) are caused by the social environment.

Read up on the social model of disability. And ask your daughter to read up on it too. It could help her more than every cent of that money.

This is not some hippie liberation thing. In the context of the social model, a person with impairments can choose to have a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 4:21 AM on April 3, 2008

Remember that this person has LESS POWER THAN YOU. Have mercy.

Take all the suggestions above, but also examine areas in your own life that are causing you stress. Work on them (maybe they're a lot easier to solve than the problems caused by this colleague) and you will have lots more energy to deal with this person.
posted to Ask Metafilter by By The Grace of God at 5:16 AM on March 27, 2008