Jonathan Coulton's song You Ruined Everything (in the Nicest Way) says it really well.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 1:22 PM on July 22, 2008

Wow, that's rough. Do you have a good friend you can talk to? Or a therapist? Getting over this kind of thing is not a quick or a painless process, and it's a lot easier if you have someone to help shore you up when you feel like you're going to fall apart.

I think Airhen is right that you need to get away from him as soon as possible--find a subletter if you can, and check the terms of your lease to make sure there isn't a clause that will let you out of it early due... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 1:08 PM on July 22, 2008

My ex-wife and I also got a lawyerless divorce in Massachusetts, back in 1998. We used a previous version of this book, which provided all the forms and even a sample separation agreement, which was very helpful because neither of us knew all the legalese necessary to write one from scratch. We filled out all the forms, wrote a separation agreement, got all of that notarized (your bank should have a notary, if you can't find one elsewhere), and filed it at the courthouse.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:17 AM on July 22, 2008

Here's a full version of it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 1:06 PM on July 15, 2008

Keep in mind that, when you leave, you will be joined by thousands of other people also wanting to get on the train. Not much you can do about it if you don't know the area well enough to walk to another station (which is what I used to do when I lived there and went to a game), but something you ought to keep in mind.

What my wife and I used to do, since we were coming from the North as you are, is park at Oak Grove station in Malden, which isn't far from I-93 and is... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 10:18 PM on July 10, 2008

(Malden Center station would work, too, and might be easier to get to for someone unfamiliar with Malden.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 10:20 PM on July 10, 2008

Is this it? I mean, it's called "The Pasta Song," but I don't know for sure it's the same one that was on the show.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 4:25 PM on July 9, 2008

IIRC, self-linking is OK in comments so long as it's relevant, right?

Well, I wrote a post on the Wired GeekDad blog that covers exactly this kind of thing.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:59 AM on July 9, 2008

If I had scars of that sort, and one of my kids (7 and 5) asked about them, I think I would say "Those are from some old injuries I had when I was young." If they pressed for details, I would say "I'm sorry, but that's all I can tell you. Some things are OK to talk about with kids, and some things are for grownups only. This is a grownups-only thing."

I'm pretty sure my kids would accept that, but my kids have already been made aware that there are... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:05 AM on July 7, 2008

When you plugged in the second monitor, did you hit Fn-F5 (that's the key combo on my HP laptop, anyway) to switch to using the external monitor port? When my HP laptop's screen's backlight died, I plugged in an external monitor, switched to it using Fn-F5, and made it into a desktop.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:25 AM on June 23, 2008

Oh. Sorry. Obviously my reading skills need some improvement. I see you tried Fn-F4. Maybe F5 would work better? Heck, try all the F1-12 keys, what do you have to lose?
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:26 AM on June 23, 2008

No, you can't. If you could, do you think there'd be, just for example, so many clones of Oreos?
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:47 PM on June 21, 2008

That French visitor I had last week?

I strongly suspect this is the reason, because it's a huge coincidence otherwise. Could your visitor have switched your default keyboard settings using these instructions, then forgotten to switch them back?
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:43 AM on June 20, 2008

Oh, except that would affect your entire system, not just your browser. jouke's got it, I think.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:43 AM on June 20, 2008

Given the utter lack of consensus on the source, I would have to surmise that it's just a saying that's been around for so long that nobody remembers who first said it. Any one, or more, of the people listed may have written it down first, but I would still think it unlikely that they're the source.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:39 AM on June 20, 2008

Gride (via)
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:32 AM on June 19, 2008 marked best answer

Have you tried Kay Starr's version? This page has a link to it on Rhapsody.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 6:17 PM on June 18, 2008

How about Rosemary Clooney, then?
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:03 PM on June 18, 2008

Martin Sheen played Hamlet in the version you mention, but it was Joseph Papp who directed it. Papp's version with Sheen was reviewed by Time magazine, which doesn't mention any extra deaths, but does make it quite clear that the production was pretty unusual (which, given that it was directed by Papp, is hardly surprising).

I do remember Osric being killed in Branagh's version, but don't recall who did it.

Prospero- The article you linked to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 1:33 PM on June 16, 2008

Watch Field of Dreams to help you understand the emotional aspect of the game.

Any book on this list will help a lot with all aspects of the game, including statistics, history, and behind-the-scenes information.

Watch Baseball Tonight on ESPN whenever you can. Not only will you learn a lot about what's going on in the game right now, but also a great deal of information about how the game is played. If Peter Gammons is on the show at all,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:09 AM on June 9, 2008

Folks, Anonymous didn't ask whether she should stay or go. She wants to know how to bring it up to her SO without hurting his feelings too badly.

My advice is to say to him "You know I said I would come to live with you. But since I said that, the situation has changed. I love you, you're still very important to me, and I really want you in my life, but now there's something here that's also very important to me. We need to discuss how to make this work.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:21 AM on June 7, 2008

Damp Gingerbread is the absolute best gingerbread recipe ever (I got it out of a Laurie Colwin cookbook, originally, I think, but this is the same recipe I use). It fills the house with a smell that feels warm and comfortable and delicious, and it tastes moist and spicy and not too sweet. And it's really easy.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 6:49 PM on May 26, 2008

Yep, your sister-in-law is self-centered, self-important, and generally obnoxious. If you're in a relationship with someone that's significant enough that you took her with you to an overnight family gathering, and she went willingly, then the two of you deserve a king bed just as much as the married couples do. This is 2008, not 1958, after all, and it's not exactly rare for unmarried but committed couples to sleep in the same bed, even when around married couples.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:42 AM on May 20, 2008

"...gives her some rights...," that is.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:44 AM on May 20, 2008

Can I ask what specifically you find unsettling about it?

I can't really express it. I'm a geek, too, so I thought I'd be OK with the cyborg aspect of it. But it just feels wrong so far, and I'm not sure why.

I'm going to refer your contact info to a friend...who actually WORKS in the field

Thanks, hal_c_on! That sounds really good.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 5:22 PM on May 15, 2008

There's a new live butterflies exhibit at Natural History, which, while not free, is not that expensive, and is supposed to be really incredible. I will add my voice to the chorus about going to the Air & Space annex at Dulles Airport. My family goes there all the time, and we love it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:05 AM on May 15, 2008

Oh, yes, and the National Building Museum is a great place to go if you're even slightly interested in architecture. It's literally across the street from the Judiciary Square (red line) Metro station.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:11 AM on May 15, 2008

There's always Abelard and Heloise.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 10:45 AM on May 13, 2008

It isn't a story about something done to win a woman's love, but this is still one of the most romantic true stories I've read.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:03 AM on May 13, 2008

Since all that is necessary for a natural gas explosion in a case like that is an ignition source, and a gun can certainly serve (one example only) as an ignition source, the answer is most definitely "Yes, possibly." That is, it would not necessarily cause an explosion, but it certainly could.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 12:13 PM on May 7, 2008

My best guess would be that it's a typo, and it's supposed to be "Prof. Res." which would stand for "Professor Resident," I would assume (at least, it's a very common abbreviation according to Google).
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:12 PM on May 6, 2008

I'm assuming you're referring to the man standing closest to Wayne. He looks familiar to me, too, and honestly my first thought upon seeing him was that he looks like Eliot Ness, but not only is his hair parted differently, but more importantly Ness was four years older than Wayne, and that man certainly appears younger. Plus, of course, why would Ness have been at a party in Singapore with Wayne?

Do you have any more context to the picture? Date taken, maybe? Or the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 9:59 PM on May 4, 2008

To me it doesn't look like a cemetery, especially after looking at satellite pictures of known cemeteries. To me it looks more like the AIDS Quilt, or something of that sort, laid out in a park.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:14 PM on May 3, 2008

I'd ask him if how he managed to put aside the (I would assume) inevitable thoughts about possibly not making it back, so he could get the job done.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:10 PM on April 23, 2008

I was on Neurontin for a while, not for depression but to heal nerve damage caused by a ruptured disk. In addition to not helping my problem very much, it had the added problem of making me extremely drowsy, to the point where I was often dozing off at my desk at work. My doctor told me the primary reason for this is that, at least for my problem, Neurontin is only effective in high dosages, which of course makes side effects that much more likely. Once I reported that the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 10:15 AM on April 22, 2008

It sounds to me like you're straight, and have fallen in intellectual love with a person who happens to be a woman. You love your wife intellectually, but not sexually. Such a relationship can be wonderful, I understand, but only if both people are really OK with never having sex. It doesn't sound like that's the case here, with either of you.

You've been honest with your wife, and that's great, but you haven't been honest with yourself yet. Fighting your true... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:51 AM on April 21, 2008

I've not been there, but I've heard great things about Amenity Day Spa. It seems to be well-liked among reviewers online, too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:54 AM on April 16, 2008

You could try searching for his mother in this online directory. Unfortunately, you will have to choose every city in Ecuador one at a time and try the search, because the city name is required. I tried a few, including the capital, Quito, but came up empty.

You could also try calling Ecuador's U.S. embassy, explaining the situation, and asking if they can help in any way.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 1:56 PM on April 14, 2008

Sex, but only after a good soak in the jacuzzi to soothe aching muscles. Not our best sex ever, unsurprisingly, but very nice for the added "We're married now!" thoughts.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 9:03 AM on April 14, 2008

Is she particularly close to any of her elderly relatives? Or have any of her relatives she was close to passed away recently? If so, and you can find a picture of one of them when he/she was young and hearty, I think that would be a nice thing to put in the locket.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 9:00 AM on April 14, 2008

Perhaps you could send him a link to this page, and note that your client's name is not on the list. Suggest that suing Google would be the most reasonable way to get their results changed and, besides, they've got much deeper pockets than your client.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 12:20 PM on March 31, 2008

IANAL, but it sounds to me as though the warning you received was never formalized. That is, when you made the deal with the company to resign in return for the buyout and severance, that deal was implicitly in lieu of the warning on their side and the complaint on your side. The warning and the complaint were therefore never technically formalized, and therefore you can legitimately answer "No."

I would also be very, very surprised if your former employer... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 7:37 AM on March 31, 2008

According to this page, JFK's maternal grandmother, Mary Josephine Hannon, died in 1964, and so was alive when he was inaugurated in 1961.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:42 AM on March 30, 2008 marked best answer

(Hannon was her maiden name, of course. Her married name was Fitzgerald.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:43 AM on March 30, 2008

That also means, incidentally, that JFK is the first president to have predeceased a grandparent.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:45 AM on March 30, 2008

Any others?

I've looked a bit, but haven't found anything. It's pretty unlikely there are any others, since TR, JFK, and Clinton are the only presidents since 1850 inaugurated in their 40s. With life expectancy at birth under 60 until about 1920 or so, more presidents' parents were likely dead when they were inaugurated than were alive, let alone grandparents.

Now that life expectancy has gotten much longer... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:46 AM on March 30, 2008

Are you sure it was a movie? There was a sitcom called Detective School on TV briefly in the late '70s. There was an indie film called Detective School Dropouts as well, but that sounds even less like your description than the sitcom does.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 8:26 AM on March 22, 2008

Towards the tail end of your time period, Gilles de Rais fits the bill perfectly.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:38 AM on March 14, 2008

There's of course the battle of wills between Henry II and Thomas Becket, culminating, of course, in the latter's assassination.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:42 AM on March 14, 2008

Speaking of Henry II, there's also the war between his mother Empress Matilda and King Stephen.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cerebus19 at 11:47 AM on March 14, 2008