The more recent existentialists (French) suggested that there was no authority above one to make you choose this or that but rather that we are always free to choose one or another way (ex: there is no god that mandates stuff etc)...and though we now think we are "free" because we do not have
god or gods to tell us what to do, nonetheless we do have upbringing (family) and culture that probably helps inform our otherwise "free" choices. The important thing, though,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 7:35 AM on July 22, 2008

get a nice job and make lots of money and let people know you have it. All will then take care of itself.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 9:00 AM on June 12, 2008

the one piece of sound advice I can offer:
work your way up. Begin with the prof, then the Dean and then, if possible, provost or dean of student affairs. Do not go to the top people first.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 4:01 PM on December 17, 2007

some further info on my nude resizer. I no longer much use it and have others that cause no problem of deletion. My site has many nudes--very tasteful ones I would not call porn--and I get some 5 thousand hits per day, so no one would call a company to report me. I continue to use the resizer (it is on the desktop and handy) but I avoid nudes. Use another instead for the nudes and for a few years now, no problem with deletions.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 2:01 PM on December 3, 2007

the software mentioned just above this seems what might be at work. I had thought short time ago that since the image is taken from a source, the resizing outfit might determine by the html of the site where photo appears that it focuses upon nudes, therefore they delete based on point of origin of photo. I could test by taking a nice piece of artwork, classic stuff, that has breasts showing and see if my guess works, but since I have a fine place for resizing without fear of deletion, I will... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:26 PM on December 3, 2007

I was many years ago in the army during the Korean war. In Korea, a friend doing grad work encouraged me to read books he had read for school. Boring! When I began college, I had courses with books, lots of them. Boring. A friend there got me reading a few popular books and that got me going...read stuff closer to your own time. I would suggest some good bios or autorbios on athletes. There are very fine ones on elite runners...any runner will gobble them up.
ps: I had difficulty in... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 1:54 PM on December 3, 2007

Peripheral remark: there are many authors--Kafka springs to mind--who left explicit orders for work to be destroyed. It wasn't.

When you die, you will not know this but often wishes are ignored in funeral arrangements etc, so if you want them destroyed you need to destroy them yourself. One way out: keep them with your lawyer with instructions for him to destroy when you die.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 9:53 AM on December 3, 2007

Though I feel sorry for your friend I am constantly annoyed by those states (and resdents) who eschew unions, decent regulation and anything that would protect them and then, later, find that they have a problem...don't mourn, boys, organize.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:55 AM on October 1, 2007

for a friend who has no money to buy much of anything, so the Suedehead comment is both right and free, for which thanks
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 2:38 PM on September 28, 2007

Just a [assing and perhaps connected note:
I was friendly with some academics who taught marriage therapy and had private practices. One told me that by the time a couple went for therapy it was too late, usually, but not to tell people what he told me because it would be bad for his business.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 10:48 AM on September 28, 2007

Note on my posted question: the "pose" hs nothing to do with me or my "look." I note this crossed arm position on elevators, in places where i have no eye contact with women, so that it is not some bodily reaction to my presence. I believe men will do this as almost a gesture of defiance, but do not do it nearly as often as do women. I see women in this pose on the beach and here note men, with no pockets in bathing suits, do not do this.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 1:01 PM on July 31, 2007

Matteo: I think that is what I am talking about...I used it to get location (where the photo was from that is produced or reproduced on the page) and had it but now I can no longer use this "function" via my mouse (I have tried with 3 mouses)..I do not have any tech background and am old guy and thus a slow learner in such things! ah, woe is me
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:20 AM on July 4, 2007

Dear E.D.B.Huneydew: I think what you say for the PC is what I am looking for but which no longer works on my Mac
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 6:05 PM on July 4, 2007

Me? I would tell her she can have all the space she wants and to give a call down the road. And then go out and have fun, meet some women, date, discover that space gives not just buffalo but you too a large place in which to roam and graze.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 2:28 PM on April 30, 2007

Artie Shaw, a very great musician, was married any number tof times to very attractive women. His advice on breaking up and divorce: (1) call your lawyer, (2) call a cab.

You will find more fine boyfriends, their friends, a whole new circle etc so why stayed a part of a dwindling group, who will either resent you or make a move on you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 2:23 PM on April 30, 2007

I have seldom if ever found him to have a sense of humor. He is wrong when he says ROTC students carry guns around. Carry? yes. Ammo? NO. In fact the military does not issue live ammo for soldiers on American soil for their rifles unless for special assignments, ie, guard duty etc.

Would you want to be on campus when some students, with 6 packs of beer, some pot, and a gun or two with ammo went to a frat party?
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 10:35 AM on April 27, 2007

Rudy's only appeal for many voters is what is thought to be his record on 9/11. But on the negative side: the firefighters say he screwed up badly. He moved the 911 call center into the Twin Towers against advice when it had earlier been attacked (he was told to move it to Brooklyn); the NY phone emergecny system was out of date and for a long time he did not do anything about it. His stance on 9/11 seems in part earned because of the failure of Bush at the same time do get immediately involved.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 10:31 AM on April 27, 2007

The first thing yo ned to find out is how long the dept. or school will allow you to be "idle" or not completing the PhD and/or thesis. out the PhD! Grad schools vary in this
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 10:55 AM on March 20, 2007

I think about women, sometimes, naked, sometimes not...and lots of them. It helps.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 12:00 PM on March 4, 2007

While I agree with any number of these suggestions, I would find one or two book that you truloy think are unusually good and carefull explore the sentences and paragraphing structures. Tip:
read pages of this selected writing aloud.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:56 AM on March 4, 2007

First, do make the call lthat others here suggest.
2nd: there is true depression (see the book by William Styron; read up on Abe Lincoln) and then there is the "depression": that is a rough time that we undergo because of this or that circumstance. Real Depression is clinical, hormonal, genetic and mankind has always had a percentage of people with this, not to be confused with bi-polar, which at least has its highs.
3. Humans have always asked of Life 3... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:27 AM on March 4, 2007

In general, the better the school the better your chances of getting a decent job. After that how you do and your resume is what will county for the next job.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:45 AM on November 8, 2006

Get your friend to agree to have both of you dump the girl. Next, dump your friend.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:18 AM on August 30, 2006

The whites tried but it was not easy to make slaves of Indians and it was not worth the trouble. On the other hand, there were many Indians who kept blacks as slaves. Over time, many intermarried with indian women and we have instances of mixed blood folks around today. In fact, my daughter-in-law has both black and indian blood handed on from some time ago. The Golden Hill tribe in and around Bridgeport, Ct is trying to get recognition in order to open casinos, and many detractors point out... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:33 PM on August 4, 2006

thanks. lots of nice thoughts here. but if cap for proper noun nothing but a convention then so too is spacing and/block indets for new paragraphs. is it then ok to run 10 paragraphs together into what seems one long single one?
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:47 AM on August 4, 2006

My wife joined health club. She found that the evaluator in fact wanted to sign her up for a personal trainer. She signed. She is very delighted with her progress. These places are there to make money, to help, not to insult you or make you feel bad. Go with it. You can always tell the person to be nicer or you will complain.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:12 AM on July 29, 2006

cIf she wants friends she will have them. Not anything for you to do except be there for her to talk to if she feels a need for this.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:10 AM on July 29, 2006

There is no right answer. There is only that which you feel you should do.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:07 AM on July 29, 2006

On my question: I am not even sure what Rosetta is but my son worked with tech guy and we can now get YouTube on Safari but when I tried in Firefox, I get note to do this and that...I am also told that the problem is not with all Macs but only with the ones now using the intel chip. But I can now get things by switching browsers so life goes on for me...and thanks to all you good people out there!!!
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 7:19 AM on June 7, 2006

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLRyFNag-Z4&search=Ella%2
0Fitzgerald

I am not able to openthis one up at YouTube but I can open this same URL when I go to Safari.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 10:56 AM on June 7, 2006

people with kids think those witholut miss something; people without think those with are burdened. There is this: more disposable income.

as for being lonely: A great French writer noted: Man is born alone. He dies alone. In between he looks for good parking places.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 3:25 PM on May 31, 2006

thanks all...I ran Ewido scanner (free program) and found they were tracking cookies, medium threat..I use this machine till my IMac gets here.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 9:08 AM on May 26, 2006

There are lots of references noted in answers here but be aware that history as we know it today is not the same as history as it is "recorded" in the bible or in other places. The sense of objectivity in history develops much later on. Even the "histories" Shakespeare used for his history plays are not objective (and are called Chronicles). This is not of course to deny that Masada etc did not take place but rather that numbers often given for battles etc are often... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 12:28 PM on May 12, 2006

All the advice above is good but what needs to be stressed is that you need aerobic and also anerobic (sp?>), that is, building uyp your heart and lungs by endurance stuff (as in running) and building up your bones (as in weight lifting). One without the other leaves the job incomplete.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:50 AM on May 11, 2006

445supermag: yes. I jotted down that name and will look into it. I tend to get second and third opinions and thus wanted to know more by way of those commenting here. I note, for example, that the reply above yours suggests that any federal loan goes through (private now) Sallie May..Why would this be so, and, if true, why two agencies rather than one, one being now private and the other governmental?
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 8:39 AM on May 8, 2006

G. did an honest and hard day's work trying to keep afloat a sinking ship (using sump pumps), but his view(s) are to no avail. Clever writing on Buckeley's part but I'll stick with Galbraith as having a wiser perspective in most matters than the conservative, who dismisses him with a compliment
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:39 PM on May 6, 2006

In Connecticut, there is also a disclosure law...It seems your dad disclosed what he thought might be a potential problem. Additionally, the inspector is more likely to be responsible should the new owner get up[set and try to do something. Your father's being worried is a sign that he is a good and decent person.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 7:07 AM on May 5, 2006

At this site http://www.mindhacks.com/blog/2006/04/the_happiness_formul.html ther is what purports to be a scientific study of the nature of happiness.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 3:31 PM on May 4, 2006

I believe some 10% of the population has a proclivity for addiction of some kind. Pot though relatively harmelss is readily handled by many. For others though, not so. I have a son who got on crack, went into this and that rehab place, always relapsed, could not stick with AA. Now, on his own, though he likes to go out and drink lots of beer every so often is not doing drugs any longer and has become much more serious about his future. Some manage. Others, not so. AA? for some, helpful. For... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 6:33 AM on May 1, 2006

I am not aware of any but then I do not speak Spanish and thus never go to any Spanish sites, at which I imagine there will be some stuff associated. However, the issue really is this> A day without immigrtant workers--they do not show up for jobs; and/or a day in which bloggers support by not posting that day...since the net is more private, it doesn't matter. It matters only in pushing or advocating a day without immigrant workers--that is posting prior to the "boycott."
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:52 AM on April 29, 2006

Fortunately, most of the gang members are sufficiently heavy enough so that it would take a major tornado to get them moved by anything other than their usual waddle walk.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:09 PM on April 24, 2006

The poster is lucky in that there are many informed coments here. Add this: Nick begins with a great dislike of Gatsby but by the end of the story comes to appreciate the fact that Gatsby lived (though falsely) a Dream he tried to carry out. That is, he had a purpose to his living. By contrast, all the others were mere hangers on and wasted lives. Nick finally moves back to the west, having found that the American Dream (the early Eden suggested in the original settlements) had vanished, gone as... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 7:08 AM on April 20, 2006

I would suggest the Lawyer route. First, he can not turn you in. Second, he may have some solid ideas on restitution or making amends of one kind or another. Third, going to a priest and/or therapist might help but there remains the possibility that what was done, taken, etc remains as a sore point and thus trying to make resitution might ease your way toward confession, opening up via priest/therapist.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 4:06 PM on April 15, 2006

Simply as the guilt-maker what he or she is getting out of trying to make you feel bad...why are you doing this to me? Do you enjoy hurting me and my feelings? Is this something you learned from your mother years ago that you now inflict on your children (or whoever)? In sum: toss the guilt ball back over the net
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 3:27 PM on April 11, 2006

Depends upon your tastes. I would get the arts section of the NY Times (online free) or opening pages of The New Yorker and check out what is there. Tip: some show are tough to get into at a time you might want. Often, though, as with the Darwin exhibit (magnifcent) you can order tickets online and pick them up when you go for the showtime you have reserved.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:32 AM on April 9, 2006

Follow your heart. It know better than what I could tell you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 4:18 AM on April 9, 2006

Though I subscribe to all said aboive I don't think the "Puritan ethic" is what really is intended.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 11:30 AM on April 7, 2006

Some funny things here on the old folks. I have a blog but it is NSFW and I was born in 1929--served in army at tail end of WWII, but by then fighting had stopped and signing of final papers taking place...since I missed the fun, I got called back as soon as Korean war broke out...there are history blogs but few with main focus on WWII specifically. I find myself suddenly fascinated by WWI, for some reason, and have been doing some reading to better understand what went on in that war to end... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 4:26 AM on April 5, 2006

Some years ago, I was a college teacher, and one day, going into a classroom building, I held the door open for a female student and told her to go ahead. She turned and thanked me and said "You are a gentleman." I began to enter and there, behind me, another female student. I held the door from the inside and she said " Don't be so patronizing. I can open the dorr for myself." Win some. Lose some. Best advice: already given. Hold it open for anyone. If they do not thank you,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 5:52 PM on April 3, 2006

Sleeping on a matress only of course can be comfortable. The box spring has "give" to it, and thus lengthens the life of the matress. In fact, you might after a number of years need to change your matress for a new one but the boxspring should still be of use. Do you change your matress from top to bottom and turn it over everyso often? Why, if it is comfortable.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Postroad at 3:31 PM on April 1, 2006