Yes. For me it's more whooshy than scritchy, and not loud at all, but it's definitely high-pitched and I do hear it up around my temples somewhere if I need to eat.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 5:46 PM on July 1, 2008

Yup, Patricia McConnell's excellent. You have to be careful with the New Skete Monks -- some of their older stuff is kind of dicey. Also thirding the advice to go to a class. It'll help the dog get used to ignoring other dogs.

I use high-end kibble as training treats.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:31 PM on June 30, 2008

Listen to dobbs.

Also, take judith's advice and read the all the info and articles on Bad Rap's site. I can vouch for them personally -- they won't steer you wrong.

This is a dog you know, treated with gentleness and love. Don't worry about the dog; find out the relevant regulations in the community you're living in, and recognize that if you do adopt him/her, in some cities and counties will be forever off limits, because... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 4:16 PM on June 26, 2008

Don't fall for the "wrap dresses look good on everyone" trap; short-waisted people with boobs apparently don't count as "everyone".

I pretty much live in stretchy v-neck tops in darkish or jewel colors -- sleeveless for hot weather, long sleeves for the rest of the year. You can get really inexpensive ones from Target or Old Navy, or spend as much as your ego requires. They work with jeans or skirts or whatever, with or without... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:19 PM on June 26, 2008 marked best answer

Check out this MetaChat thread for even more summer food.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 2:44 PM on June 17, 2008

The Navigator of New York by Wayne Johnston. (Bonus: the author's a really nice guy. And he's from Newfoundland!)
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:25 AM on June 11, 2008

dobbs, thanks for the walk down memory lane.

Thanks from me too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:20 PM on June 9, 2008

Harold Innis probably isn't the guy you're looking for, but he was a sort of proto-McLuhan with some interesting ideas about communications, culture, and politics. He died in 1952. You might enjoy checking him out.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 4:07 PM on June 2, 2008

I agree with all of those people. It's a great bag.

But if you insist of replacing it, consider one of these Territory Ahead bags. My mom, despite not being a guy, packs mountains of stuff in the pictured Guy Stuff Mail Bag.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:47 PM on June 2, 2008

I bet you could rig up something like this "Light in the Forest Lamp" at a much more reasonable cost.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 12:32 AM on April 29, 2008

Make friends with her. Get to know each other better. Wouldn't you want to do that anyway?

Maybe the friendship will eventually morph into something else, maybe it won't. But if it does, having been friends from the start will put both of you in a much better position to sustain a relatively calm and sane working relationship no matter what happens.

Incidentally, I've always hated that "don't shit where you eat" phrase. Who shits on... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 2:25 PM on April 25, 2008

When an aunt of mine started a similar line of hinting, I grinned at her and said "Hey, you don't seriously think I'm the kind of person who'd hang around in a closet, do you?"

And then I instantly wished I hadn't been so glib, because her own daughter -- my cousin -- had, in fact, spent several years in the closet and found it excruciating to come out to her parents. I realized that my aunt wasn't being a busybody, she was actually trying... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 7:58 PM on April 6, 2008

I'm 5'1" with the world's shortest torso, and I use a wedge-shaped foam pillow made for the purpose. I can't find a link to mine, but it looks a lot like this one. Mine also has a fleecy cover that probably adds another half-inch.

I love mine. Until recently, when I started using it, I had no idea that car seat backs didn't have to feel assaultive.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:49 PM on March 31, 2008

Robert Stone's story "Bear and his Daughter".
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 7:58 PM on March 25, 2008

Oh, sorry, I missed that you said intragenerational.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 7:59 PM on March 25, 2008

Antonia, aka Antonia's Line. PLUS YOU GET bonus generations.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 2:52 PM on March 17, 2008

Crosbie will eat just about any fruit or vegetable available to him, especially if it fell from a tree and is swarming with bonus ants. (I tried growing strawberries in a planter box outside, but he ate them all; this year I'll have to use hanging baskets.) Raw eggs, yogurt, aged cheese, parsnips, whatever.

The only thing I can think of that I like but he's middling-indifferent to is artichokes.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:32 AM on March 3, 2008

Quietgal suggests yet another meetup, and that sounds good. She also mentions walking around the city, and that's what I'd suggest too. In fact, Crissy Field last month was so much fun that I think another ambulatory plan would be stupendous.

In the meantime, or if you don't feel like hanging out with all of us, these walks sound kind of interesting. You might even be able to bring the pup.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 12:37 PM on February 27, 2008

"Needs done" is pretty common in southern Indiana. I'd never heard it till I moved there, and I haven't heard it since I moved away.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 5:28 PM on February 21, 2008

Patricia McConnell's latest book includes dog photographs lined up with comparable human ones from Paul Ekman's Unmasking the Face, underlining Darwin's point that all of us mammals do basically the same stuff with our faces.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 5:03 PM on February 21, 2008

Incidentally, you can still see my late lamented little red car parked in the lot where I work now and at the place where I worked before. Occasionally I take a sentimental peek at it in both locations. I'll be sorry when they update those images.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:14 PM on February 19, 2008

I used to work at a middle school in Mountain View, so I leapt happily into this thread to offer suggestions, but you guys -- especially flaneuse and lothar -- beat me to most of what I was thinking of. Here are a few others:

Probably too expensive, but if you can possibly swing it, talk to Matt from the University of Surfing up in Pacifica about booking a group lesson. Matt's superb with young teenagers -- patient, funny, astute; even the most... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:37 AM on February 7, 2008

This Latico "rugged messenger" bag has a similar feel to the Sundance one you like, but it only has one buckle strap. (Sierra Trading Post is almost out of the dark brown, so if you'd like one at their price you'll have to move fast.)
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 12:02 AM on January 13, 2008

Sometimes they just help people digest medical information and make sure they aren't isolated or lonely.

Exactly. Example: when I was in for surgery a few years back, the counsellor they sent me was a friendly, tactful nun. She already knew I wasn't Catholic; that didn't even arise. She stayed just long enough to ascertain that I was neither sad, confused, isolated, nor fearful. I'm confident she'd have done a good job of helping if I had been. As it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:17 PM on January 9, 2008

My dog, a voracious chewer with fearsome jaws, has nylabones he's been working on for several years.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:05 PM on January 7, 2008

mto, I wish I could find you an old sfgate link that had me rolling on the floor and gasping with delight the first spring I lived out here. It was a news article about the first rainfall of the season. Whoa dude, the North Bay caught half an inch!
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:50 PM on January 2, 2008

Many thanks, everyone! I barded it with bacon, put an onion and fruit and herbs in the cavity, and prepared some nutty fragrant wild rice and a cranberry-walnut salad to serve with it. Everything came together wonderfully and there's now a delicious stock too.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:11 AM on December 26, 2007

If he enjoys working with tools and there's something he really wants or needs, never underestimate the joy tools can bring.

Eponysterical.

I like AV's idea of a mixed-up gift basket of treats. Get lots of different little things. It'll be fine if he doesn't like every last thing in it; it'll still be more fun than a gift card and he's bound to want some of it. Plus you can put it in an interesting... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:43 AM on December 21, 2007

39th or so between 7th and 8th Avenues, give or take a few blocks. You'll find lots and lots of stores. Just stick your head in and ask if they sell to the general public.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:59 PM on December 19, 2007

Someone at a meeting the other day said he was planning to add "four more resources" to a project. It stumped me for a moment. Then I realized what he was probably getting at.

"You mean people?"

"Yeah." Everybody laughed.

In the guy's defense, he's nice and his first language isn't English.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:30 PM on December 19, 2007

I grew up using washcloths. We lived in Montreal, but my parents are from New York. We didn't have a shower when I was little, so I used them in the tub. I still like them for the exfoliating action, but I don't use them very much because I take showers now and I think they're better suited to baths.

I was taught to spread the soap on by hand, then rinse it off with the cloth. If you're going to use the cloth again, you make sure to rinse it out... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:19 PM on December 17, 2007

Also, I still use them at the sink for my face.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:21 PM on December 17, 2007

I know this sounds Pollyanna-esque, but I look forward to going to work in the morning, because I work with some unusually terrific people. (I got my job here so I guess that isn't surprising.) I also make a great cup of coffee when I get there.

I also look forward to coming back home, largely because of my wonderful and hilarious dog.

It's fun to find out what's in the CSA vegetable drop every week. Though at this time of year it's only every... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:02 PM on December 15, 2007

Anon, I spent many years in academic IT, and I agree with loiseau and others that your situation sounds very unusual. Policies this restrictive are common in the corporate world, but they're pretty rare in academia.

Obviously you prefer to remain anonymous, but it's hard to comment sensibly about this without knowing a little more about your institution, so perhaps you could ask one of the moderators to post a followup for you.

It would be best... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 9:25 PM on December 15, 2007

Don't know if these (Fluevog Nicki) would work, or if barnone already covered them, but these fit your description, have narrow shafts (read the reviews!), barely squeeze into your budget range, and for some reason aren't coming up when I search Zappos without the model name.

I found them on eBay for a lot less than the retail price. They're the sexiest boots I've ever owned, and they're ridiculously comfortable.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:53 PM on December 12, 2007

In one of my previous lives, my friends and I repeatedly lived through multiple variations of this. We were in a small community, with obvious and limited places for people with our set of talents and interests to work, so we couldn't reasonably avoid dating and breaking up with people we had to see and interact with on a regular basis, including co-workers.

First rule, and I'm sure you know this: impose no drama. Don't ever talk about this situation... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:10 PM on December 5, 2007

Feliway, a crate, and (as amtho suggests) solid, well-fitting harnesses. Rather than wrangling the cats in and out of their harnesses, you should probably leave them on for the duration.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:46 PM on November 30, 2007

Or try Lark in the Morning.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:11 AM on November 27, 2007

I agree with what fructose said.

Don't take any of the silly advice upthread about imagining him doing disgusting things. You still have to work with the guy, so there's no point making that difficult in a different way.

I think jayder is half right -- that level of distraction is a little weird, but I don't think it's necessarily your relationship that's off kilter. You might, as Ironmouth suggested, be using this crush to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:12 PM on November 21, 2007

Larry McMurtry's Roads: Driving America's Great Highways
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 4:19 PM on October 29, 2007

Previously.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:09 PM on October 23, 2007

My dog gets a Buster Cube when I leave. He only gets it when I leave, and he loves it, so it's something he looks forward to. I don't crate him, but I do lob the cube into an open crate, and he runs in excitedly and bangs it against the sides to dislodge the treats. It's a good departure ritual.

I think it's Pat Miller's book that features a cartoon in which the human says cheerfully, leaving the house: "I'll be back soon! Take care of things!... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 2:04 PM on October 1, 2007

I used to be the IT director/sysadmin/one-person tech dogsbody for a private girls' middle school. The .com domain corresponding to our .org belonged, until I was able to snaffle it up at an outrageous cost, to a porn site based in Warsaw.

This was a couple of years ago, and people typed in the (wrong) address all the time. You can imagine the hijinks. I'd say get the .com.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 1:54 PM on October 1, 2007

I can't imagine that most things that draw you in wouldn't also exist in NYC though.

Cities are like people: they have very particular characters and can't be reduced to a set of features. Sometimes you just hit it off with one.

Better still, if you suddenly decide to explore another city, the first one won't be even slightly offended. As vacapinta says, you can always go back.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 3:42 PM on August 30, 2007

Wow. A couple of lifetimes ago when I lived in Toronto, my boyfriend and I made a little dubby counterpoint out of:

"Ninety-nine. Nine nine, ninety-nine. Ninety-nine, nine nine."

And:

"Attention, subway patrons: we have an emergency situation northbound on the Yonge-University-Spadina line. Emergency crews are on the scene and service is expected to resume shortly."

We'd swap... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:56 AM on August 23, 2007

Stockholm is heaven for people who like musems. All the ones so far mentioned are wonderful. Don't miss the Army museum (sophisticated kids will get a kick out of the cultural implications of the diorama or tableau or whatever you call it at the entrance) or the City Museum, either. I've probably been to about half the museums on that list and there wasn't a dud among them.

And yes, you do want to get out there and see the archipelago. The... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 8:43 PM on August 20, 2007

Many thanks, everyone.

I know absolutely it isn't Smilla's Sense of Snow, because I've read it; and it really doesn't sound like either of the other two.

Someone emailed me to suggest that the author might be Dana Stabenow. I think that's plausible, though I still can't guess from the descriptions which book it might be.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 11:42 AM on August 15, 2007

That name sounds awfully familiar too.

If I don't get any farther, I guess I'll just have to email the two of them and ask "Did you write this?"
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 5:29 PM on August 15, 2007

There's a splendid passage in Muriel Spark's autobiography in which she talks about how lovely she and her friends felt as teenagers, how delighted they were by their own magnificence as they developed into women, and how sad it makes her to think that for various reasons so few girls feel like that nowadays, or at least at the time of writing.

Too early in the twentieth century to be quite what you're looking for, but still worth a look if you're interested in the subject.
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 12:48 AM on August 8, 2007

"You mean.. you'd rather be ALONE than be with me??" That really is pretty damned harsh.

What the hell? What's harsh about that?

Being alone is infinitely better for everyone concerned than being with the wrong person, no matter how decent and likeable that wrong person is.

But that's a derail.

If you care about this friend of yours, ask why it's... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tangerine at 10:02 PM on August 7, 2007