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How to convert a pdf to an image
Not sure if this fits, but I learned a lot about the world of voiceover acting from the documentary I Know That Voice, a combination of people you've heard of (Mark Hamill, Hank Azaria) and people you have not, talking about what the business and the craft of this profession is. This one is also sort of lateral but also fascinating: GET LAMP about the people who created the first real text adventures. Not a lot of actual code, but definitely about the mechanics, ideas and marketing and not just… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:05 PM on August 16, 2017
Regional comedy and music
Rusty Dewees, The Logger, in Vermont.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:39 AM on August 16, 2017
What are the best ways to encourage workplace volunteerism?
Some of this depends on how large your workplace is and the cohesiveness of the staff (i.e. would they all agree on charities or would they be all over the map)
Having a few dedicated charities is one way. Having people in the office vote on, say, a charity to help maybe quarterly and getting one work day or half day (if possible) or some sort of PTO match to do work at one of the chosen charities would be the best way to encourage volunteerism.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:43 AM on August 16, 2017
How to feel about room service upsetting my trip?
I sometimes leave that Do Not Disturb sign up the whole time I'm staying somewhere
That is also me. I sleep in and would also be a person who would not respond to a knock on the door at 9:30. So I hang the door tag and I lock the door from the inside with the deadbolt thing and I am not disturbed. It seems like your expectations were a little off, but that they fumbled your bad feelings on the matter. I'd think a dessert would be an ok "Sorry we startled you" make up gesture.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:39 PM on August 15, 2017 marked best answer
How does one do "aqua therapy"
There are aqua joggers in the pool where I swim a lot so I can speak to that part of the question. Usually people who do this wear normal swim suits (and you're supposed to shower before you get in the pool but there are signs everywhere and you will be fine) and there are belts you wear which are like this (the other stuff can be helpful but don't worry about it) this keeps you upright in the pool and then you can sort of jog around. Very nice low-intensity exercise. Most pools that I have been… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:09 AM on August 15, 2017
Best Kids Podcasts
Do most blind people keep their eyes open or closed?
I subscribe to a YouTube channel by a blind man who talks a lot about the experience of blindness. Here is one of his videos where he talks about blind people keeping their eyes open (or not)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:47 AM on August 14, 2017 marked best answer
Girlfriend doesn't let me know when she's running late until last minute
I've got an ADHD partner who used to be not only terrible with lateness but also not great at letting me know he was going to be late. For situations like "Hey I'm making dinner" and other things where scheduling actually mattered, we'd use a team approach to figure out how to make dinner work decently for us. For me this meant not worrying whether he'd even left yet and for him this meant not having to get stressed about his own timing/planning/time compression issues but also… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:43 AM on August 14, 2017
A question for the Liberian Cabal
Are you in the US, or the UK, or elsewhere? There are different answers that range from what Athanassiel is saying (circ stats matter a LOT) to some countries (Australia is the one I am most familiar with) where an author actually gets paid for that book circing in a public library. Here are things you can do with your library checkout of diverse titles
- spread the word, either directly or indirectly about your project and the titles you are reading. If other people… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:56 PM on August 13, 2017 marked best answer
What's up with sanitized closed captions?
I hear what you are saying, this is captioning that is specifically wrong in a "This might have been an R-rated word and they've substituted a PG-13 word in its place" way. This might have to do with the morality standards of the people that the streaming services hire to do the (often sloppy) job. This article--How Netflix alienated and insulted its deaf subscribers--looks at some of the ways captioning goes wrong. I, too, am curious about this question however. I figure if a place is… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:03 AM on August 12, 2017
Books on the history of housekeeping
Again, if you are also interested in cookery you might really like From Hardtack to Homefries: An Uncommon History of American Cooks and Meals by Barbara Haber which has a bunch of delightful anecdotes in different chapters about things like the woman who did the cooking in the FDR White House and the history of food as a method of rehabilitating soldiers (i.e. in army hospitals)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:07 PM on August 11, 2017
AirBnB feedback question
Absolutely mention it privately, it would even be okay to mention it publicly (the host would have a chance to respond that they had repaired it) but I'd go for private. Many AirBnBs are cleaned/set-up by people who are not the owners and it would be good for the people who owned it (assuming they are running the AirBnB account) to have this information. I had an AirBnB which had clearly been cleaned by someone who had not flipped over the cleaning worksheet (i.e. all the setuff on the second… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:59 AM on August 11, 2017 marked best answer
Simple & pretty games for my Apple TV
Intermediate report! I'm afraid I wasn't clearer about the Apple TV being the big limiter here. They have a pretty small set of stuff available. I have tried all of the ones here which were Apple TV available. I like all the ones I can play, with some small feedbacks.
Tiny Wings - I had heard about but didn't know it was available for ATV. It was the one we played the most. Cute, fun, not too stressful.
Shadowmatic - Was also what I had in mind. We got a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:37 PM on August 10, 2017
Credit Union > Bank
Mostly! I did the "just credit union" thing for a long time and there were a few esoteric things I did not get.
1. Certified checks were a pain. I bought a house. Getting a big check for the down payment was a bit of a hassle.
2. Secure deposits. I sold a house. I got a big check. I could not use the online check deposit feature for a check that big and had to either mail it or take my chances on a not-my-credit-union situation.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:32 AM on August 9, 2017
Oh yeah, the state thing! Occasionally there would be an issue with needing "a local check" for something (paying contractors usually) and while I think that's a thing of the past, it's worth assessing your situation to see if that would matter in yours.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:09 AM on August 9, 2017
Store-agnostic book linking
The librarian answer to this is "WorldCat" as shapes says above. They have a commitment to linked data. They are a non-profit. I would not suggest Open Library (I worked there for a few years) because I don't trust them to not change their URL structure. There is also LibraryThing which I trust more but is owned partially by ABE Books so they might be linking to booksellers. If I was in the US and doing this, I'd probably link to Library of Congress. They have nice permalinks like this… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:36 AM on August 9, 2017
A Can of Worms
I used to have worms occasionally as a kid (rural, barefoot, etc). It's not the kind of thing you would live with if you had access to regular health care, and we did, in fact, get them regularly dealt with. You might want to read this article: Neglected Parasitic Infections in the United States: Needs and Opportunities which talks sensibly about some of this stuff. The article talks about "neglected" parasitic infections, i.e. those where people live with the parasite and maybe are… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:31 PM on August 8, 2017
Find my perfect exercise routine: 30 minutes and done.
My friend just let me know about Darebee (no ads, no product placements) which has a lot of small fitness workouts that are very easy to look at on your phone and have little proressions if that's your thing. They range from beginner to advanced so poke around a little and see if you can find one that works for you.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:34 AM on August 8, 2017
What is the Proper Way to Prepare a Toothbrush to Brush Your Teeth?
Wet brush, apply paste, brush teeth, rinse brush, leave toothbrush hanging out in my bathroom like I was some sort of animal. Repeat tomorrow.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:35 AM on August 7, 2017
Waiter, there's a fly in my soup!
This is similar but not quite the same, about restaurant complaints.
This varies, and to me it varies a lot by how nice a place it is and how egregious the issue is and how much you care. So today, for example, I ordered a salad with a cooked lamb patty on it. They brought out everyone's food but mine and had clearly forgotten about my dish somehow (it was a busy brunch at a place I go to often). When they did bring out my meal, the patty that I had asked to be cooked… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:20 PM on August 6, 2017
One who loved and was loved...
Wool Bedding, recommendations and uses
I'm having a difficult time understanding your concerns here. Wool is generally hot. You are too hot when you are sleeping. Are you looking for something that is heavy? I am a never-too-hot sleeper and I do sleep with a sheepswool comforter as well as a down comforter and it's GREAT, but it's also hot as hell. There are some really great very-heavy cotton blankets (that one is spendy but they aren't all - and not the ones made for people with sensory issues, but just standard ones) which can be… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:06 AM on August 6, 2017
Really good historical fiction?
The other Jessamyn West might be interesting to you.
Coming here to say that. I've read all of her books and she has a few really different sort of novels that you might enjoy, two that are really based on historical things.
- Friendly Persuasion (has some "thees" and "thous" iirc but it's because they're Quaker and not anachronistic otherwise) about the Civil War era and one pacifist son decides to fight… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:14 PM on August 5, 2017
Texting into the void
Lots of reasons. Most people I text it's basically like shortform email to me. For some people like my boyfriend, I do see it as a typey phone call. However, we had to outline our expectations about this with each other to make sure we were on the same page. He would text me a question about, say, plans coming up later in the day and then wander off. Since I wasn't sure we'd be wrapping this up before the plans happened I would get frustrated. However his behavior is basically normative and my… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:16 AM on August 5, 2017
Male friend asked me to go on a camping trip alone with him
First, think about whether you'd like to go camping with him if it were not a date. If no, then just cancel. If you'd still like to go but want to head off awkwardness, you can try something like this.
"Hey there when I said yes to the trip, I thought this was going to be more of a group camping trip. I'd like to go camping but I am not interested in this being a date-like situation. So I'll be bringing my own tent. I'm really looking forward to our 5K next week!"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:55 AM on August 5, 2017
Friend wants to meet my mom but my mom doesn't like her. How to handle?
I don't want to hurt J/make her suspicious about never getting to meet my mom, but I also don't want to force my mom to do things she doesn't want to do.
Your mom sounds like mine was. Has a lot of feelings but also expects you to be an extension of her and manage those feelings FOR her. So I have a bunch of thoughts about this based on interactions with my own mom.
1. Two weeks is a long time and if you see J more frequently… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:15 AM on August 5, 2017
Holly Hunter's awesomest
Old fashioned birth scenes in film or tv?
Are you interested in non-traditional rustic type births even though they may happen in space and/or the future? Farscape had a great one of these.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:16 PM on August 3, 2017
Can you refuse a DMV-issued license plate if it's offensive to you?
I was given the option, if I recall correctly, to pick a license plate with a more pleasing set of numbers/letters out of the top few in a stack when I registered my car in Vermont. Pretty sure this was true also in Washington state and in Massachusetts.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:43 PM on August 3, 2017
Sorry, the grill has been cleaned and isn't available. ??
I used to work solo at a place with a grill. The owners were cheap and I was not paid for any time other than my shift. So I had to clean up as the day went. If it was dead empty, I would clean the grill early. But the grill was still ON. Even then, if someone came in a half hour before closing I would just cook the one thing in one spot on the grill and clean that part again. It sounds like what they are telling you is "This place was empty, we turned the grill off, we can't turn it on… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:38 PM on August 3, 2017 marked best answer
Flower identification resources
This is called Wildflowers of NY but it includes a lot of garden flowers and it's pamphlet size with a lot of photos. Usually the public library will have the best resources for what is truly local and there may be a Garden Club that has a local ID book that could be fun. If you want to go full-on book, you might want to try one like this which is written for kids and includes a lot of flower and plant illustrations in addition to other nature stuff. When I was a kid, I had some wild flower… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:28 PM on August 3, 2017 marked best answer
I'm down on myself. Please help me be brave.
My anxiety sometimes gets a foothold. I do something a lot like embrangled where I notice the thought/feeling, accept the thought/feeling, and tell the thought/feeling to take a seat with the other thoughts/feelings particularly the ones which are helping me get things done. I know a lot of people suggest meditation for this type of stuff, I am also one who does. I found that just taking some time off (10-20 minutes, it doesn't have to be a big thing) to just notice that if you don't give in to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:23 AM on August 2, 2017
Adoption group posting "private" email on Facebook
I'm sorry this happened to you, and sorry about the loss of your pet. This isn't normal, to my mind, but I'd chalk it up to honest mistake (even though it might not be) as you deal with it. I'd drop a note to the group via Facebook (so you can get a message direct to whoever does social media) to just quickly clarify "Hey I wanted to let the organization know about my pet's passing over email as a courtesy, but I do not want that information and my full name attached to it posted in a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:38 PM on August 1, 2017
Support or Slander?
When I got out of a long term relationship with someone my friends were also friends with, I appreciated both having friends who were even-handed and non-committal "Wow that sounds really tough. I am here if you want to talk" and also who were more on my side like "Yeah I never did like him anyhow, you are better off without him!" Keep in mind that some people get back with their exes and so it's important if you're trying to be a supportive friend that you may have to walk… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:13 AM on August 1, 2017 marked best answer
Annotating borrowed books
I've recently found that this is greatly frowned upon by libraries
I'm curious where you found this? I'm a librarian and we don't really have any edict against post-its, particularly for non-rare, non-fragile stuff. Libraries are for use and books are for use and you should feel free to return the book in about the same shape as you found it so if your post-itting or your book bagging are getting the book banged up, stop that. Otherwise, feel free.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:42 PM on July 31, 2017 marked best answer
Fixing my prejudices about religion/faith
I am a big fan of the social justice work that Dorothy Day did, mentioned above, and have also read some good stuff by William Sloane Coffin, particularly his book The Heart Is a Little to the Left: Essays on Public Morality which specifically tackles things like marriage equality and why everyone, including deeply religious people, should be all for it. You can get a good idea of what it's like by looking at this page.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:41 PM on July 30, 2017
Is my car making me look unprofessional?
I do a lot of one-off public speaking and I decided at one point that I needed to upgrade my car because I could not longer look professional driving it. I used to drive a late 90s Subaru wagon with a little bit of rust and some (fairly normal) dings and dents. I "upgraded" to an only slightly newer Forrester which just looked snazzier and did not have any rust, nicer wheels, etc. I felt like I was saying "I am worth more" when I drove up in a nicer car and it was good for my… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:21 PM on July 29, 2017
Make my Gmail Apple ID doppelganger go away
My sister had this happen to her. Someone had used a variant of her email address to begin the signup process and not complete it. She had to work it out with Apple Support on an overlong phone call which involved, if I recall correctly, changing HER email address so that she could go in and change the info on the other account using her email address. In short: this is a known issue with how Apple IDs operate and may require a phone call.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:40 AM on July 29, 2017 marked best answer
Please help me to understand what I am not getting.
You do not have to be married to have custody arrangements with a child's parent. You and your ex seem to have differing ideas of how this arrangement is supposed to work, so you need to make a formal agreement because the informal one does not work for you. Your question was, loosely "Am I being reasonable?" People said "Well this is how it usually works..." and your response indicates a lack of belief that people are being honest with you here.
I am… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:10 PM on July 27, 2017
Questions about PO boxes and avoiding unwanted paper mail
But really, the true glory to getting to an almost-zero-junkmail existence has been jgreco's suggestion to file USPS Prohibitory Order Form 1500 to the last remaining holdouts that you can't tackle individually.
Yes. And the Post Office is not allowed to quibble with what you consider arousing. I have done this, highly recommended.
I have a PO box and get ZERO postal mail at my house. The post office does require a physical… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:48 PM on July 27, 2017
Would anyone want shoes from 1909?
Ceri Houlbrook would want to at least know about them. (Did a post about her recently)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:40 PM on July 26, 2017
Sleeping in minivan while driving across the US?
I have done this many times in various cars over the past 20 years so here is my loose advice...
- You are unlikely to get disturbed most places but to minimize your chances, especially if you are concerned about harassment, you can choose: midrange hotel parking lots, Walmarts, federal land (google "boondocking" for details of this) and rest stops
- Rest stops in most states allow overnight sleeping-in-cars. This is different from camping (sleeping… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:47 PM on July 24, 2017
Welcome to Maine
Good industry memoirs
Concord, NH weekend -- worth it?
I wouldn't call Concord fun but I have always liked Concord. It's the state capitol so there is a neat walk around Capitol Area. I love diners and Concord has many decent qualities but no real diners The Common Man has good food but is chain-ish. The Red Arrow is 24/7 but gets lackluster reviews. I like Tuckers if I am in the area. Bear Brook State Park is on the way up which used to have the Museum of Family Camping (RIP) and is a great place for nature stuff and easy hikes.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:58 PM on July 21, 2017
Extremely isolated America
A Schoolteacher in Old Alaska: The Story of Hannah Breece is about a woman who went to Alaska in 1904 as a sort of missionary. So it's got annoying clueless colonialism (but surprisingly not as racist as you'd think) about Native/Indigenous people but there are also a LOT of interesting slice of life stories about what it was like there then. The classic book is Let Us Now Praise Famous Men which is a story about isolated rural sharecroppers in Alabama and the fairly terrible conditions they… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:47 AM on July 20, 2017
Oh and read everything by and about Richard Proenneke also in Alaska. His journals are super readable. (and sorry I misread your question, Let us Now Praise Famous Men is not first-hand)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:12 AM on July 20, 2017
Female barbershop(?) music?
Do I REALLY need this much sleep?!
I have been exercising vigorously and spending a lot of (non-exercise) time in the sun during this week.
Lots of sun and exercise both up my usual sleep time by nearby an hour. I go to bed and wake up when I want and keep rigorous track of my sleep habits and that's what I've found. Do you wake up in the middle of the night at all? I sleep about 8-9 hours a night and that's normal for me.
Sleep researchers don't really think… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:39 AM on July 20, 2017