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Care and feeding of a garbage disposal
The big deals are no grease/oil and nothing that turns into glue (i.e. starches) and watch it on the stringy stuff. Here's an outline on Angie's List. Beyond that I mostly make sure I'm not putting down too much at once, I'm running cold water when I'm using it, and if there's something that seems stuck in there, I turn the whole thing off and try to free the thing (be careful with this).
To your other question, there are a few things you can… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:32 PM on October 19, 2016 marked best answer
Can I move my sim into a different iPhone and just start using it?
T-Shirt Designs on Shirts for Women
Very aware of this. I'm chesty, sort of a middle-aged chesty. Early MeFi shirts had the logo just a little high on the chest so that it was riding just above my breasts which was really not great. I talked to the screen printer who said they did that intentionally because they didn't want the words going from nipple to nipple which was ... thoughtful but wound up backfiring. I said "Yeah, no, don't do this anymore" and they changed the way they did the wording somehow and it was a lot… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:00 AM on October 19, 2016
Picture of an example t-shirt which I love but will never wear again.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:03 PM on October 19, 2016
Mining the air
Kim Stanley Robinson's Antarctica is one of his more readable novels.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:44 PM on October 16, 2016
Whiteout is actually by MeFi's own Steve Lieber tho he doesn't participate much.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:00 AM on October 19, 2016
The computer system doesn't know if the pics are of kids, although it probably flags some images for priority review based on surrounding context.
This is accurate. Computers can only do the things that robots can do and so while it was obvious to you that the image you viewed was something potentially illegal/objectionable, the robot does not and relies on human eyeballs to make that determination. Google could be making different choices (somehow… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:56 AM on October 19, 2016
Custom couch still sets off asthma. What's fair?
I sympathize as someone who gets "the wheeze" from stuff. That said the missing part to this story is How long the outgassing is supposed to take? Because to me, no, two years is not actually a reasonable window of time after which you should still be able to return a couch--styles change, it was a custom order, and the store would have to take your word for it that you've cared for it properly and most stores aren't likely to do that.
I feel like something is… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:31 PM on October 18, 2016
Is this weed
No one should be giving you feedback on random parking lot weed via the internet. Give it to a friend who can determine via their own risk tolerance whether they want to try it out. Most people who smoke have some idea of what weed smells like (as opposed to, say, oregano).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:50 AM on October 18, 2016
Though they moved in a long, long time ago, your neighbors will know?
What else could one know about their neighbors' voting habits?
I'm a poll worker. People can know your registered party affiliation (in some states you have to declare, in others you don't) and I think the big parties get the voter rolls which includes your name and address. So they can triangulate and get an idea of who on your street is D and R. They know if you voted. They can look up your campaign donations (separately, along with other… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:30 PM on October 17, 2016
How can I support my girlfriend as she begins therapy?
The mister doesn't ask any questions aside from "how did it go?"
This is what me and my guy do. Basically we've had times when we've gotten therapy and times when we haven't but this is a nice neutral opening. I find that sometimes the day after therapy I feel more ootchy and weird than I do generally because I bring up a lot of heavy topics and engage with them more than I might otherwise. This is normal. Realize that she is going for her… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:40 PM on October 17, 2016
How do I clean mold and scum off brick and concrete?
My Bump, My Little Belly Lump
It sounds like an epidermoid cyst. The Mayo Clinic says that sometimes when they rupture they can lead to infection so if it's in an area that you can't keep clean or is likely to be irritated by clothing I'd get it checked out sooner rather than later, otherwise just clean it and put a dressing over the area and check it regularly for signs of infection (redness, heat, swelling, pain). I have one if these that sometimes grows in my (unused) pierced ear holes and it's been fine, it is sort of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:17 PM on October 16, 2016
Looking to buy or make a flask shaped like a gavel.
Don't know if this is at all helpful but Avon used to make one of these for perfume. Possibly repurposeable.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:09 PM on October 16, 2016
it'll be just like a sleepover, except not!
radioamy does what I do. In the past when I was doing social/work things with people I'd hang out all night until i was literally like "I need sleep" But now I'm a lot more like "Hey this was great, I'm going to retire" and then go to room with the door shut and do my thing. Read, internet, family, whatever. Keep in mind that for anxious/control-y people a schedule is their life preserver and they like it. But take it as a suggestion and an overarching narrative and not… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:08 PM on October 16, 2016 marked best answer
What to do about Dad? (International edition)
Oh hey I had similar issues with an aging alcoholic parent who basically wanted to flop around and not take care of himself and have someone else swoop in and handle things while he made no life changes whatsoever. I am sorry, this situation sucks.
So I am here to say a few things
- your father is an adult and has made some adult choices about how to live his life that are not his children's responsibility
- creating boundaries with… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:27 AM on October 15, 2016
My elderly mom is about to buy a manufactured home in Albuquerque
Coming in late to say that I am on our town's tax board and we deal with a few mobile home parks (not quite the same but similar) and I concur, this is probably an OK move on her part. The home does depreciate and is treated more like an asset than as property BUT it's a little more (for most people) like owning a condo in that you pay rent and certain things are taken care of and you're in a community and that can be good or bad if you're not getting ripped off on rent/fees. The big thing is to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:55 PM on October 14, 2016
Help me understand autism
If you're looking for some curated links that might help, a New Jersey library got a grant to put together a set of pages called Libraries and Autism We're Connected that can help libraries without a lot of money or time for better staff development on these topics to get better at helping patrons with autism. Specifically their Strategies that Work page is useful. I also agree to avoid Autism Speaks and Temple Grandin's book is highly accessible.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:45 PM on October 14, 2016
Problem with New Facebook Status Update "Effect"
For most "this new facebook thing annoys me" I usually drop a note to the FB Purity people (or check for updates) and they've usually got something to fix it. This is, of course, if you're using FB on the desktop, they don't have a solution for mobile. I also can't reproduce what you're seeing (when I type my letters stay in the box as that effect takes hold) so the usual advice to make sure your browser/OS are updated, that you have enough RAM and all that other stuff. What platform… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:40 PM on October 14, 2016 marked best answer
How good (or bad) do we have it?
This Guardian article discusses two reports on the subject but they're more about where we are right now to maybe the Gen X generation. Here's a US Census blog post on the same general thing. Reason magazine, who is not unbiased but still believes in facts, has this to say (tl;dr consumption has increased, but regulation has also increased).
The fifties are an interesting drop-off point because there were a lot of advancements in legal and social freedoms for women and… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:54 PM on October 13, 2016
This is also a good compilation of "Things that have gotten better" though not quite direct to your economic question.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:08 PM on October 13, 2016
You Shorted Me
If 25% down is 5/8", does that make the glass 2.5" tall?
This image should help conceptualize it. A short pour can be 25% light without being really obviously 25% empty because of what Daily Alice said.
I'd usually order at the bar and say "Thanks... would you mind topping this off?" and tip decently.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:02 PM on October 13, 2016
Maximum home cosiness (hygge) with a budget of UK £200 to spend online?
Agree with others, the idea is you all get together and sort of make warmth from community (and also some blankets and socks). So a few things on your budget
- throw blankets that you could use when seated
- slippers for the house for you and guests
- agree that a lot of mismatched mugs are nice
- selections of warm drinks: mulled wine or cider, cocoa with marshmallows, really good teas
- agree that area lighting is key, no… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:33 PM on October 13, 2016 marked best answer
Here comes the . . . gloom?
I often will open ceremonies with some acknowledgement of and gratitude for people who traveled a ways to get here and people who can't be with us. This can include things like pets--who are rarely able to be at wedding but often a serious part of the family and dearly missed--to people who have died either recently or a ways back. If this were a request made of me, I would probably elaborate on the role the mother had played in her daughter's life and somehow indicate without being too weird… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:36 AM on October 13, 2016
Help us with our orgasms
The one thing I would like to be able to do for her, is to help her achieve an orgasm more easily.
That is nice of you but does she want this? I'm not entirely unlike your girlfriend and if a new guy started talking about this it would not be seen as helpful. For a lot of women who have tricky orgasms, they've probably dealt with a lot of shit about it from people and/or just decided to be happy with themselves and accept how their body works.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:27 PM on October 11, 2016
Ever seen red flags that weren't actually red flags?
This guy seems to annoy the crap out of you. Maybe you are a nitpicky pain in the ass yourself (do you always consider dating people you really dislike?) but I suspect you are not. This isn't working for you so it doesn't work. "I want you" can be sexy from the right person. It doesn't work for you, that's fine. But there's nothing wrong with the guy saying it, it's just a bad fit indicator. You seem to be wanting people to tell you "Yeah there's something wrong with the way this… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:37 PM on October 11, 2016 marked best answer
Is it unreasonable to bow out of a work trip?
I agree with others, it's unclear whether work will let you out of this (and some of that depends on timing which is unclear), but I'd go in to it with a few assumptions
- work will probably not be jerks about this but if they are you will have to decide how you feel about that
- this is especially true if I try to find a way to make it work
- key phrase "I'm sorry that won't be possible I have a house full of guests and… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:05 PM on October 11, 2016 marked best answer
Uber deleted my account, now I can't get an account
My sister and I had an Uber account deleted because of a similar issue. Unfortunately the answer is to send emails in basic simple English, explain that there has been a mistake and hang in there. So basically
- you closed my account by accident, it's associated with phone number XXX-XXX-XXXX
- I need you to open my account again
- Let me know what needs to happen to make this work as soon as possible
This page has some suggestions for what your email could say which might help.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:49 PM on October 9, 2016
This past Father's day was (literally) erased from my memory. How? Why?
my mom had been diagnosed with cancer around that time.
I'm an anxious person and when my mom got diagnosed with cancer I lost chunks of time or remembered them out of place. I also take ativan for anxiety and while most of the time I don't have memory issues with it (though that can be a side effect) when I am super stressed and taking it I literally can lose hours like this. I don't love it but it happens. I agree with people, work on some self… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:44 AM on October 9, 2016
messages from the divine
What are good documentaries to watch with my kids?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:28 AM on October 3, 2016
Short-term overnight parking near Central Square, Cambridge, MA?
I visit a friend in Central Square and park there sometimes. It's really hard to find something that isn't metered or residential. It's also very easy to just park at Alewife and take the T in if you don't need your things. I think it's $7/day? If your friend has a parking pass you should be all set except for street cleaning.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:00 AM on October 3, 2016
How to save info about photos on a mac
Sadly, when iPhoto "updated" to the newer version, this data was lost.
Just making sure: did you delete your old iPhoto library? Because I believe it's still recoverable (along with your metadata) and stored on your computer. You can continue to use iPhoto if you want to (I do) if you are using it on a desktop/laptop computer. Sorry if this is unhelpful or already tried.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:57 AM on October 3, 2016
How do you power through an anxiety attack and improve your mood?
I am the kid who left things crying. I am the adult who used to flip-out and leave things because I suddenly could not deal. I am not that adult anymore. I sympathize.
I try to take a short walk and have a pep talk with myself about WHY these things ALWAYS happen at EXACTLY the time I CAN'T do anything ABOUT them... and then sort of realize that a lot of the thing I think are hard and fast inescapable truths about the world do actually have some wiggle room in them.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:51 PM on October 2, 2016 marked best answer
Shortest path to resolving anxiety
I live in NYC so I think there has to be somewhere to start that will help me with the medication (or whatever?!?!) then get to the point that therapy would be useful. If anyone has experience with that, I would find it hugely useful..
I get anti-anxiety meds from my regular doctor. This is not uncommon.
Fastest? Get a check-up/appointment with your regular doc. Tell them what you told us above. Say that you'd like to try… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:41 PM on October 2, 2016
Long distance introduction
I usually do email introductions (or a group text) with a little bit of some jumping off points for conversations
"Hey Mike this is Dan. Dan used to be in my trivia league before he moved to YOURTOWN. He owns a few guinea pigs and he grows his own hops. Dan this is my friend Mike who I used to do crossfit with when he lived in MYTOWN. He's a voracious reader and very good at helping people move hide-a-bed couches. I think you two would get along so this is an… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:27 AM on September 30, 2016
Please me fix my tabbed browsing technical issues.
Just checking: Are you on a phone or on a computer? What operating system are you using? On Firefox do you Command-click or right click to open a link in a new tab? Because your habits are exactly like mine and this is not a thing. Have you tried disabling the extensions (you may not need them) and seeing if that did the trick?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:43 PM on September 29, 2016
It's Good but I Still Hate It
it still feels like WORK. Waking up at 6 is such a pain.
Hey congrats on the changes! I made a lot of changes in my life along these lines this year--flossing, meditating, better sleep hygiene, eating better--and I feel like this is sort of the obvious next step of this sort of self-improvement stuff. So you meditate and you're probably a little used to the "Hey just observe your feelings, don't feel like you have to DO something about… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:37 AM on September 29, 2016
overthinking a pot of beans
Aquafaba has a website.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:39 AM on September 28, 2016
Need help understanding my self-absorbed mother and what to do about her
Boundaries are great! I have a similar mom who just can't really get outside her own head. She's a truly interesting person and a terrible mom. And she wants credit for being an interesting person while being a terrible mom. Frustrating!
So a few things that were helpful to me
- Giving up on having a mom, just not trying to make her into the sort of mom I may have wanted, that she could never be. Self-talk to myself "Mom has some sort of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:06 PM on September 26, 2016 marked best answer
Help me learn about HBCUs, please!
Open Library has a number of freely available documents about HBCUs which might be fun to browse. Here are a few.
- The announcement and program of Howard University's semi-centennial in 1917.
- Howard University Record from 1910
- Elizabeth City State University yearbook 1993-1994
- this book, The Educator (1906), "looks at 13 "educational districts" within the African Methodist Episcopal Church's Dept. of Education,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:09 PM on September 26, 2016
And for something that might be an interesting perspective Howard Zinn was a white Russian Jewish man who taught at Spellman College for a while and got fired because the president felt he was trying to radicalize the students there. It's interesting reading some of his views on working at HBCUs. Here's one article.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:12 PM on September 26, 2016
What companies provide great/useful customer service via Twitter?
- GreenMountainPower in VT has an amusing and informative tweet stream when things are good and they are GREAT with notifications when there's an outage, major or minor.
- I actually got a problem solved with the MA RMV over twitter, no lie. It still amazes me.
- Medium Support is useful for giving and getting feedback though usually what they say is "We're not adding that feature" likewise tinyletter.
- I found Apple Support not terribly useful.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:47 AM on September 26, 2016
What are your favorite transcendent, gives you the chills, performances?
Before (52 years before) there was Baumgartner there was Kittenger and I like this remix of his jump with Boards of Canada music.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:37 PM on September 24, 2016
Teach me to speak Masshole
A lot of the interrupting isn't so much talking over someone as it is talking under or alongside them.
This is a good way to look at it. As a lifelong New Englander (who really found the West Coast difficult to deal with) there's some sort of unspoken assumption that the goal is CONSTANTTALKING and so you can think of it like a relay race where you run up alongside someone and then you sort of get the baton from them and then you are the one with it… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:42 PM on September 24, 2016 marked best answer
How do I resolve conflicting holiday goals?
I last had a party for my 30th birthday, didn't invite my mother since everybody else there were my ~30 year old beer drinkin' buddies; she was hurt by the omission and told me so later and I’ve felt guilty for that. So, in the spur of the moment, I said she could come to the second city.
Wow I am sorry about this whole thing but just wanted to add
- Mom wanting to come to your all-younger-people party is a little odd (but… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:14 PM on September 24, 2016
Please help us have a great family vacation!
Can not speak highly enough about the Desert Botanical Garden. If you guys are at all musically inclined, the Musical Instrument Museum in Phoenix really is worth the price of admission. Also the public library is nice and fun and there are kid-friendly spots there.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:04 PM on September 24, 2016