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Visiting the Olympic Peninsula
1, 2, 3 that is what I would have suggested. The Hoh Rain Forest has this teeny little trail called the Trail of Mosses or something similar that is a really nice little walk if you're not feeling like a big hike but want to get out into the big trees.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:05 AM on October 9, 2015
Going on the Run
It sort of depends on the amount of heat that's on you.
Absolutely. I had an acquaintance who was wanted in one state for something that would land him in prison and basically went to another state and kept a low profile and it worked until someone who was mad at him saw him under an assumed name on Facebook and decided to rat him out. He could have stayed where he was for a long time if he wasn't on social media because the people in his home state… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:38 AM on October 9, 2015
Why don't you want to be my friend?
My sister is a 40 something-year-old social person who uses other social media, but does not have a Facebook profile and doesn't plan to get one. I use her as an example in some of my social media classes about how you can be a full-fledged actualized person and still not be on Facebook. When people ask her about why she doesn't have a Facebook account, She just says "It doesn't really solve a problem for me. I'm available otherwise in blabitybla way."
If you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:29 AM on October 7, 2015
Oh I am sorry I've misunderstood what your goals were. If you are in a particular avocation, there may be specific reasons why it doesn't solve a problem for you that would be useful to bring up. I often refer people to this essay about facebook issues which can outline some reasons it would (or might) not be in line with a library's values to have a really active facebook presence.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:55 AM on October 7, 2015
This recent essay about Facebook on Medium is actually a good look into some good reasons why getting into the facebook world is not such a great idea for security and privacy issues.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:42 PM on October 8, 2015
"Disabilities" required to perform a specific job
For a long time it was thought that deaf people made really good mechanics and other types of factory work because they were not distracted by noises and could concentrate because of their acute visual perception. The history of deaf people being employed as typesetters and printers is a long and interesting one. Since accessibility is a requirement of a lot of modern software/apps people who are skilled/adept at using screen readers and accessibility features of tablets are in demand as… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:20 PM on October 8, 2015 marked best answer
What does this political button mean?
The Constitution Party of the US has access to 129 electoral college votes. maybe that?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:14 PM on October 8, 2015
What is a vegetarian equivalent to a pork tenderloin dinner?
Nut loaves are great but they do have a meatloaf aspect to it. That is, they are tasty but not that ... dramatic even though they're delicious. I think for me the things I make that would qualify are
1. Baked stuffed squash - acorn squash do great with this and you can even make veg and non-veg options if you have people who do either. It scales well, it's as easy to make ten as it is to make four.
2. Spaghetti squash "lasagna" - you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:51 AM on October 8, 2015
Birthday songs sung in the US before "Happy Birthday To You"
Songfacts backs up "For he's a jolly good fellow"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:16 AM on October 8, 2015
Break-up + small town; do I have to move?
I guess my hope is that with time, with kindness and respect, we could be that way, too.
I think this is a completely reasonable assumption. It may be, however, this isn't how he wants to or can move forward and then you will need to be kind and respectful on your own and sort of in a vacuum. Which is fine! I live in a small town of about 4500 people and people do this all the time. It's part of being in a small town. I'm sorry he's not dealing with… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:01 AM on October 7, 2015
What is a collateral holder?
It seems like a dumb way to order a safe for valuables to be delivered to your room. But then I googled and it seems to just be some sort of decorative rock thing (maybe banded with hotel logo, who knows) so maybe they charge you if you take it home?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:03 PM on October 6, 2015
How can I let go and enjoy my own wedding?
Two words: TEAM US. You and your wife are taking positive affirming steps to become each others' chosen family. Go you. People act out and sometimes become their worst selves before weddings because they are anxious FOR you (and may have a bunch of other problems) but this is basically the time when you and your fiance can confer among each other and tell them to work it out on their own.
I love the idea of holing up in a hotel room for a few days before the event. I… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:59 AM on October 6, 2015
I can't believe I'm asking a fashion advice question!
How cold? How much weather? Pea coats are standard and good looking where I am (Northern New England) and have the length. They come in heavy or light weights and pair with flannel. If you're okay being somewhat casual. the barn coats also have lined and not-lined options. A regular old slightly longer down coat that has a nicer texture and is a little longer is another good match here.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:19 PM on October 5, 2015
Not just another sightseeing in London question
a gorgeous house open to the public?
Soanes museum will likely interest her. It's super worthwhile. The V&A also has a nice cafe and you could probably spend an entire day there AND eat not every adventurous (but still quite good) food in their cafe and end it up with coffee and one of their really delicious cakes/pastries. How does she feel about libraries and historical stuff? There's a lot going on at the British Library and their Treasures… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:33 AM on October 5, 2015
How do deal with "If you loved me, you'd..." in a relationship?
I've told him recently I'd like to hear it once a day or more, that it means a lot to me to hear it.
And how did that conversation go? It sounds like from what you've outlined here that the two of you may use the phrase in different contexts, and it may even be that you ascribe to different meanings to it. I'm not exactly sure what saying "I love you" at the end of an argument is supposed to signify? It's possible your husband has the same lack of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:14 AM on October 5, 2015
I can taste the fear in their eyes - I love cooked eyes!
One of the ways many people "learned" this fact was from Tom Robbin's book Another Roadside Attraction. You can see people discussing it on Marks' Daily Apple as well. Here's an article in the Atlantic that touches on this and you can read the Wikipedia article about this. Googleable term is "PSE meat"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:29 AM on October 4, 2015
At what age does male pre-ejaculate typically dry up?
While some men may produce less as they age (sometimes less precum goes hand in hand with ED) this is generally not an age-dependent thing.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:20 AM on October 4, 2015
Mixed company: adults + babies
If you can block off parts of your house (with closed/locked doors and/or baby gates) and have the party area more or less child-proofed, that will help. Let parents know you are okay with them moving things around that you might have missed, that you've made an effort but you're not a pro at this (and they are) so to give you advice or just MOVE things if they need to. For me the biggest deal (I host a party for families with kids at a big house) was keeping the party in one area and making… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:35 PM on October 3, 2015
Hit me with your best snack salad.
You don't think this is going to be good but it's very good and tastes even better the second day.
4 carrots (or double seems to work fine too)
1/3 C. salted peanuts (I like cocktail)
2 T red wine vinegar
2 T peanut oil
few drops of sesame oil
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:27 PM on October 1, 2015
Housewarming gift for a friend in Burlington, VT?
Yaktrax things for shoes. A Fuck This ice scraper. Gift card to City Market or Farmhouse. Floor mats for her car. A broom/scraper for sweeping ice/snow off of her car. ELECTRIC MATTRESS PAD WARMER THING. All of those have been gifted to me and I have appreciated them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:48 AM on October 1, 2015 marked best answer
help me be the person i want to be
This is me! Sort of! I mean I have a constant little record player of crappy shit running through my head at all times when I am not sleeping. Literally all the time. When I am napping with my sweetheart and I am the happiest I am in the world? Yes even then. I hate it, but at some level there's a difference between being stuck with this record player and having this record player make the rest of my life into a pain in the ass. I am a bit combative, in my mind, about this. So now I actively… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:46 PM on September 29, 2015
Can one of my brothers force me to sell house we inherited from Mom?
Most of this stuff, while important to you, are details that are not going to matter to the outcome of the situation. The most important part is: who owns the house, legally? Did your mom leave a will? Is there an estate that is open or closed? Was the house re-titled? Have you been paying expenses on a house that is owned by all three of you? Is there any written trail of agreements you may have had about bills and etc?
You need a wills and trusts/estate lawyer to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:36 AM on September 29, 2015
My library just had bedbugs. Can I keep checking out books?
You can read up on what libraries do in general to deal with bedbugs. Bedbugs are a mess in your home but they are pretty treatable in a place where you can take out all the furniture and have it treated and run bug-sniffing dogs through the place. If it were me I'd call the librarian to ask what their protocol is and what they are doing to treat the place, but I would also assume they were handling it and I'd go back. Libraries are very very cautious about this sort of thing because it's a PR… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:38 PM on September 28, 2015
Unlocking My Previous AT&T Phone
This has also been my experience as Verizon customer. Verizon has special nonsense that means the Verizon phones have to stick with Verizon and vice versa. You can read this page for more.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:44 AM on September 28, 2015 marked best answer
Can I pick which state I live in for income tax purposes?
How does this work? How do heavy business travelers do it?
Most of them either suck up and pay or have a complicated system that they worked out with a tax professional that works to establish their residency legitimately in a cheaper place. This is not a thing I would half-ass, personally. I have a slightly similar system in that I rent a place where I mostly live in one state and I inherited a place in another state and if I claim to live in the… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:10 PM on September 27, 2015
Digital bookshelves are harder to browse...
That damned cult of tidy. Do you move a lot? Are you cramped for space? Do you have insects eating your pages? I look at a good bookshelf the same way I look at a good painting or a good t-shirt. It has utility, it reminds me of things, it's an artifact of a larger thing that matters. I got a little severe with my books when I moved into a smaller space. If the book in question wasn't something I'd re-read or that reminded me of something or that looked cool, I might ditch it. Genre fiction that… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:57 AM on September 23, 2015
Slang phrases (and where you heard them) for u-turn?
How do I birb?
iBird pro is really worth it. You can also "fave" birds which is a nice and informal way of keeping a list. I am a pretty low-key birder but I love being able to play the sings and start to get good at recognizing birds by sound as well as by sight.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:43 AM on September 22, 2015
A thing it was really fun for me was getting involved in the local Christmas Bird Count. This is where a bunch of people all go out on one day sort of in December and try to see what birds are actually in their area in the winter. Doesn't happen everywhere you have to kind of have a local volunteer to spearhead it. But I felt like talking other people who were serious birders and in my area was a really useful way to know what was around where I live
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:40 AM on September 22, 2015
How do we make our Senior Center computer room the envy of the world?
I teach seniors technology a lot. I think one of the things you want to do is make the interface that they have to deal with before they get to websites as easy as possible. Make the colors high contrast, make the fonts big and readable, make the homepages on the browser go to the right place remove all the crusty nonsense from the desktop that won't help them in his just in the way and or advertising for the people who sold you the computer. If you're going to have more than one browser… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:45 PM on September 21, 2015
Maybe someone local could help you with a once a month class or one-on-one help.
Oh this is key: see what resources they have for free at the local public library and then offer to help them get set up to use, say, Ancestry.com or Mango Languages or Universal Class or something. These can be things that require passwords but that they can log in to (in the lab or at home) if they know that they are available to them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:01 PM on September 21, 2015
Restaurant Recommendations: Burlington, VT Edition
Both of those suggestions are great. I'm a huge fan of the Farmhouse Tap and Grill if you want to stay in the downtown Burlington area.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:18 AM on September 21, 2015 marked best answer
Disappointing Maid of Honour
I guess I expected for once in my life (once!), I get to be the person that other people support, instead of being continually supporting others, in particular, my friend.
Just pulling this line out in general, because I am a person who often talks like this, and I think it reveals something problematic about myself that I've been working on. I will share with you what I know. I am often someone who thinks of herself as incredibly helpful. I am… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:17 AM on September 21, 2015 marked best answer
You spin me right round baby right round like a what?
Blondie discusses phone booths.
I'm in the phone booth, it's the one across the hall
If you don't answer, I'll just ring it off the wall
I know he's there, but I just had to call
Don't leave me hanging on the telephone
Arlo Guthrie discusses poor telephone etiquette. (can not even find this online but the song is "Telephone" from this album)… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:17 PM on September 18, 2015
Boston to Brattleboro: Scenic routes/suggestions?
I suggest getting off Route 2 at the Concord Rotary and taking MA-119 (initially concurrent with MA-2A, which breaks away just before I-495 in Littleton). MA-119 crosses into New Hampshire and becomes NH-119, which crosses into Vermont and becomes VT-119 for less than a mile before you hit US-5 in Brattleboro. It's kind of "the road less traveled."
I like this route. I have family who live near the rotary (well, 4-5 miles away) and I love… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:46 PM on September 18, 2015
Contesting a will
Am I not entitled to a greater share of the estate than my siblings???
I don't think so, no. It sounds like you're getting some extra consideration by living in the house for an extra year and you did receive the carers pension during some of that time. I feel like if this were the situation you wanted, more consideration after your mother's death, the right way to have straightened that out would have been to have brought it up with your mother… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:10 AM on September 16, 2015
It was September 15, 1985 and....
September 15, 1985 was my first week or so of my senior year of high school. I had just turned 17. I was taking two computer classes that year one in Basic and one in Pascal I think. We had a VAX in the school computer lab that we all had accounts on an so we could send email back and forth to each other in the computer lab. I remember using ed as an editor and being fairly confused by the whole thing. There was basically no such thing as the Internet (for most people) but if you had a parent… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:52 PM on September 15, 2015
Where's My Gift?
I said, "You know aunt is having a hard time and if you don't get a gift it's because she is having a hard time and she doesn't have that much money. Don't take it personally."
That sounds like a perfectly reasonable approach.
You are TESTING your sister to see if she independently remembers the birthday and invites herself to the celebration
That's my read on this. I… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:08 AM on September 13, 2015
Fiction combining suspense/thrill/plot with humor
Max Barry's Jennifer Government is definitely like this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:38 PM on September 12, 2015
Tips/ideas for low-stress long open house & park party to celebrate baby
I have had problems hosting open house type things in multiple venues. Either you have a firm time to be at alternate venue and you have to hustle out of the house when people are just arriving or you have a loosey goosey time to arrive and people go to meet you there and you miss them because you are at home. You guys know your own schedules and abilities and depending on how you're feeling it might make sense to have each of you sort of "host" a venue at least for part of it so you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:41 PM on September 12, 2015
Roku Channel Recommendations
Comedy Central. Crackle (for Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee if nothing else).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:55 PM on September 11, 2015
Dead Fish Wedding
I love this song which is usually done by Doc Watson or Taj Mahal but it's also been done by the Dead and the lyrics are awesome.
Bet you goin' fishin' all of the time
Baby goin' fishin' too
Bet your life that your sweet wife
She gonna catch more fish than you
Many fish bites if you got good bait
Here's a little tip that I'd like to relate
Many fish bites if you got good… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:40 PM on September 10, 2015
It is also not what I would consider a love song. First part yes, ending, no.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:37 AM on September 11, 2015
Coffee cake, literally - surely it exists?
We have an old tyme family recipe that is called a Mocha Torte and is basically a coffee sponge cake. It is delicious. It's made with the usual sponge cake stuff, some thick instant coffee [paste (like the powder with just a little water) and some espresso powder if you have it. You can also do it with coffee liquer but I don't think it's as good. Here's an example recipe. The kind we make has basically whipped cream frosting and is even better the second day.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:45 PM on September 10, 2015
Help me frame this difficult question re: what helps
For me what helps is that realizing that other people are smart too. That is, they have access to the same information (mostly) and have better knowledge of themselves than I do. Some people just like to be working on something, even if it's not necessarily going to result in better outcomes. They like to be in motion, that is a process that gives them hope where palliative care does not. There are many ways to die and people should get to choose, within reasonable ranges, how they want to do… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:27 PM on September 10, 2015 marked best answer
What is a good video about the founding fathers (of the US)?
There are a lot of good scenes from the John Adams biopic but you'd really need to watch the whole thing to pull a few out. There are a few suggestions when you look at the hashtag on YouTube.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:58 PM on September 8, 2015
I am neither your lawyer nor your doctor
Theoretically yes. Practically speaking, it almost never happens. However, from a risk tolerance perspective or just a CYA perspective, people err on the side of clarity. You can read this discussion on Quora talking about the issues involved for lawyers, similar discussion on Reddit. Here's one talking about the issues involved for medical professionals. Or this discussion on AskMe about advice generally and a MeTa thread from one of MeFi's medical professionals where the issue is discussed.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:47 AM on September 8, 2015
what could theoretically happen if someone wanted to pursue this? Sue Metafilter (or parent company) for the "real" name and address of "Alchemist"? If successful, then they find out I live in Denmark, and......?
And the real answer is "it's complicated" and would depend on what sort of legal advice mathowie et. al. received. The legal status of the site (very rarely threatened, never actually sued etc) is a different… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:42 AM on September 8, 2015
Which film did everyone go and see post 9/11?
Where does this pic of Kermit the Frog come from?