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Innocuous parts of the dark web?
The only thing I've really used Tor for was a sort of darknet ILL (interlibrary loan) service where people would ask for journal articles that they didn't have access to and other people would track the articles down for them (usually through legit means) and make them available for them. Not technically legal, but not very far down the road to ruin.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:39 PM on November 23, 2014
Books about living in weird places
Seconding Lost Cosmonaut. I just read it a few months ago. The author's not entirely likable but the places he goes (pretty remote and non-touristy parts of Russia) is really fascinating. If you want not just cheery but actually funny, you might like Tim Cahill who has written a number of different travel books but Road Fever: A High-Speed Travelogue may be one of the funniest books I have ever read. The same is true for Bill Bryson's In a Sunburned Country but it's about Australia so not that... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:15 PM on November 23, 2014
Need Book Suggestions Please
The Mary Russell books by Laurie King.
The stories are set between 1915 and the late 1920s, mainly in England but extending to Scotland, Wales, Palestine, northern India, California, Portugal, and Morocco. They begin with fifteen year-old Mary Russell (she was born on 2 January 1900), who runs into a middle-aged individual she realizes is, in fact, Sherlock Holmes...
They're really about her and he is an accompanying character. I've only read a... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:28 PM on November 22, 2014
Why is getting support over the phone so excruciatingly painful?
can you say with 100% confidence that you are devoting your complete attention to the customer or are you off browsing Facebook and goofing off with your co-workers when on the line with a customer?
I used to do phone support for an internet service provider and I could say with 100% confidence that for the crappy amount I was getting paid, you were getting what was surprisingly close to my full attention. This is because
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:02 PM on November 21, 2014
I don't think I've ever gotten the famous "runner's high".
For me it's like jaguar says, I experience what it must be like to not be anxious all the time. I love everyone and am very very hungry and I sleep like I imagine "normal" people sleep. It's not a high per se. And I only started really experiencing it when I was getting my heart rate up for extended periods of time (like 45-75 minutes, somewhat less time if I was swimming)... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:30 PM on November 21, 2014
Help me get my wife into fungus farming
I always start with this stuff with Mother Earth magazine (ignore the print dialog box) who has a lot of great stuff about homesteading and suggest a few kits on that page. They also suggest contacting your local mycological association to see what's good in your area. Here is their list. If you want to read up on the blabla stuff that is actually happening when you cultivate mushrooms, this article from Fungi Perfect gives a good overview even though it's 20 years old. I don't know anything... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:22 PM on November 20, 2014
Who will buy these fun, obscure essays?
Hazlitt? They have a long reads section with some terrific investigative reporting. They pay. The Nation also pays and publishes some longer form stuff. Same with the NYTimes magazine but they're hard to get in with. Medium pays some people. Macleans and The Guardian I think both pay. Is there a trade journal/magazine that might be up your alley? I make regular money, personally, writing a column for an industry publication and it might be worth pitching to some of them, maybe a national... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:41 PM on November 20, 2014
Paying For A Ride in Straight Ca$h
how would a dealership feel about coming to an agreement on a price, but then you tell them: "Well, gotta go over to the bank and get you a cashier's check, BRB!"
Sure, absolutely. This is also how a lot of used car transactions take place if you don't use an escrow service. As people have pointed out above, the car people know how to find you most of the time, so if there was something sketchy happening they would just come get it/you. And... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:20 PM on November 20, 2014
Interviewing future housemates
I bet if you ask someone "What is the correct way to load the dishwasher?" you will get all the answers you need about their level of fastidiousness.
Or even "Do you care about how the dishwasher gets loaded?" you'd get the same thing. Keep in mind they will probably be trying to elicit this sort of information from you, so at some point you'll need to show your hand. Other questions along those lines
- Do... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:39 AM on November 20, 2014
70s radio mashup question
I used to hear these on Dr. Demento all the time. Looks like that one is a thing that Dickie Goodman did and there's a list of all the songs that are sampled in it. In the Wikipedia article they call it "break-in" music sampling
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:05 PM on November 19, 2014 marked best answer
Care box for sinus surgery patient?
Does she have a nice Neti pot? She will probably be encouraged to rinse gross stuff out of her sinuses frequently and not having some plastic creepy looking thing might be nice if you know she's not going to get on for herself. After I had sinus surgery the things I spent the most time doing were blowing my nose, being ragey because of the steroids, taking photos of the huge gross stuff that came out of my nose, and bitching about my nose. Things that would have been helpful to me:... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:40 PM on November 19, 2014 marked best answer
is this a red flag or am I too sensitive?
I come from a family of problem drinkers and for me this is over the line.
Not just the showing up late drunk and babbling (what? not okay!) but if he's a regular heavy drinker then it seems like it's a bad fit for you. Nothing necessarily wrong with him for it to be a bad fit, just a bad fit. I've also had friends try to "talk me out of" ending a relationship because I was uncomfortable with my SOs level of drinking and honestly, they're not me. I need to be... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:15 AM on November 19, 2014
Cat full of tubes
My sister had a cat with a food tube maybe five years ago. The cat barely minded it which was so weird (she looked ridiculous, it looked painful) and it worked just like it was supposed to. She fattened right up and lived another five healthy years without a recurrence. It's a bit of a pain and sort of messy but in her case it really worked well; it was more offputting to humans than the cat.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:12 AM on November 19, 2014
Help Plan New Years Beach Vacation
How do you feel about Vieques? It's a bit of a schlep to get to (fly into San Juan, have to take a small plane or a ferry out there which you need to get to by taxi) but you can stay right on or near the water and it's inexpensive and off the beaten track. We know folks who run this place and it's inexpensive and across the street from the beach. May be more low rent than you are looking for. I am not sure how interesting it is if you're not into outdoorsy stuff but the bioluminescent bay is... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:45 PM on November 18, 2014
Brinks Home Security - Stop beeping!
According to DIY alarm forums, this is a thing Brinks CAN fix but rarely wants to. The folks in this forum thread explain the issue and offer some suggestions. This post explains how you could replace the system you have with a different system using existing wiring and keeping the functionality you want without the beeping nonsense. I have a similar system and we had a long phone line outage and I dealt with this problem back then with no useful resolution except for getting our phone line... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:54 PM on November 18, 2014 marked best answer
Recommend online secret Santa facilitator
if you like it then you better put a cream on it
Around here it's stuff with lanolin like Bag Balm which is not very fancy and has a bit of a smell but works pretty well. Crack Creme is pretty good stuff as well (not the spray, it's sting-y) and Cornhusker's Lotion is another cheap drugstore option.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:20 PM on November 17, 2014
TV shows with plots that span decades?
The Tudors is not exactly smart, but it does the same thing that Downton Abbey does where it pays a lot of attention to period detail (sometimes incorrectly but they definitely try) so you can see the fashions and some of the architecture and other trimmings changing. It covers several decades.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:57 AM on November 17, 2014
I Want An Encyclopedia of Demonology, Mysticism, the Occult, etc.
My former boss at the Odd Fellows Hall John Michael Greer has written a number of different reference books that might be approaching what you are looking for including Monsters: An Investigator's Guide to Magical Beings and his New Encyclopedia of the Occult. You can see more of his books on his Amazon author page.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:51 AM on November 17, 2014
CMSs and online web-development portfolios
Can you give an example? I think a lot of this depends on the level of customization and what the site actually does, not whether the theme or the other parts are home-made or not. Theoretically web development (as opposed to design) is all about getting the content in the container, not just making the container fancy. Or, put another way, if they're famous web development companies that are doing this, then it clearly does count as a portfolio piece. I can think of... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:20 PM on November 16, 2014
Book Recs for Teens Who Hate to Read and Have Emotional Disabilities
Can they follow along with graphic novels generally? They are often my go-to for any sort of reluctant readers. There are some long but high interest books like Beanworld. Simple plot outlines and very straightforward but discussing more complex society situations, no triggers at all. I think one character maybe smokes. Mal and Chad might be a little young seeming even though the reading level is 3-7th grades but it's a weird scientist kid and his dog who go on adventures. Likewise Zita the... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:51 AM on November 15, 2014
Take me on a tour of words, to places you remember
Archer Mayor has written a whole series of cop procedurals about Vermont. He lives in Vermont. I live in Vermont and the books seem very Vermont-y to me. That is, they're not just set in Vermont but they are in recognizable places and the people in those places are familiar and the ways they interact make sense. There is a lot of "Vermont culture" stuff going on up here and the book manages to get a sense of that as well as just good descriptions of places that you're familiar with.... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 4:25 PM on November 14, 2014
Do compact washer and dryers work well?
I have one and the previous tenants never cleaned it (I suspect) and it makes my clothes smell moldy.
Even if you clean them, they are just grotty because there are places inside them were water+soap collects and grows into scunge. You are supposed to leave the doors open after you use them so that they air out. They are great because they use very little water. And a pain because of the smell and because they can take a lot longer than... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:20 AM on November 14, 2014
House Help - unique situation, trying to keep pipes from freezing
I had some water pipes that ran into my house via underneath the barn which wasn't really well insulated. We wrapped insulation around the pipes--like wall insulation, the pink stuff--and then wrapped that in moisture barrier stuff to keep it pretty solid and held together. Really though even a 40watt light bulb in an enclosed space with the pipes should help it somewhat. Where are you and how cold is it going to get? I'm not sure why heat cable won't work? You just wrap it around the pipe, get... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:52 PM on November 13, 2014
If it's 30 outside it should be fine outside if things are insulated and if you run a space heater occasionally. Heat tape really does work and you can use it on shorter runs of pipe. It's really when it's like 15-20 F outside for a week at a time that you really have to worry about things freezing so bad that pipes burst. Frozen pipes are just a pain because you can't get water out of them but they will thaw or you can thaw them. Burst pipes are what destroys your house, I had a house in... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:32 PM on November 13, 2014
"Sorry, sir, it's hospital policy."
Planning day-after-wedding activities near Burlington, Vermont
A big picnic by the waterfront and a ferry ride around Lake Champlain if the weather is bad would be a good simple plan that everyone can get to. Kids can run around, parents can sit and talk. The ferry tour thing is more fun than you would think it might be in case of crappy weather. I think on wedding weekends people just want to be able to eat and catch up with people. The ECHO Center is actually a lot more fun than you would think it would be also and you can get discount passes from the... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 11:28 AM on November 13, 2014 marked best answer
How do I let go?
I just went ahead planning with what I thought Partner would like, and didn't give a second thought to my own feelings. Now Partner is sad that I didn't just explain what I wanted to do from the get-go, and I feel like an awful person.
Awww, it's a lose-lose situation for you. I am like you. I wind up trying to please some abstract not-me person (often just an idea of what I think someone else wants) and then bend over backwards to do it, inwardly... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:56 AM on November 13, 2014
it's like a bookclub, but everyone has a hard time finishing sentences
Yes to Brautigan and Calvino and Borges (hi jammy!). I think you'd also enjoy
- George Saunders Pastoralia - weird but not too weird. Not really scifi. Slightly fantastical
- Dangerous Laughter by Steven Millhauser - same thing. Rewards close reading.
- Future Primitive: The New Ecotopias a collection by Kim Stanley Robinson - some of the stories are excellent and hit all your points. Book itself is big and unwieldy
- Worldmakers: SF... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:59 PM on November 11, 2014
Calories in, calories out
I use MyFitnessPal for tracking all this stuff and the model they use has a few things built in
1. what you get to eat per day to maintain or lose weight
2. rough estimates of calories lost via exercise (these are inexact and also have to do with your age/weight which not all exercise trackers take into account)
3. a running total of the two together
So if I get 1600 calories per day to maintain my weight (I am a small... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:19 PM on November 11, 2014
half finished whiskey bottle in the trunk
If it were me I'd wrap it up as a gift package with a tag and everything so it's crystal clear that it's a gift for the wedding. "Purpose of your visit?" "Wedding." On the off chance that they open it, that's still clear and seems to meet the letter of the Canadian law.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:44 PM on November 11, 2014
Putting a cat to sleep in Durham
I am sorry you are going through this. I do not have local suggestions but I do have one of those mothers and my advice to you is: lie. Or stretch the truth and tell her the cat died and don't go into it. Decisions like this are tough enough without someone second guessing you. You have done the best you could and have been thoughtful about your pet and you don't owe anyone else an explanation if you don't want to give one. Keep your own counsel, don't get into it with your... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:49 AM on November 11, 2014
Best way to answer the interview question, "How's your attendance?"
Pretty sure they are not legally allowed to discuss the OP's medical problems.
They are allowed to say that an employee missed a lot of time at work. They are probably allowed to say that an employee took a lot of sick days. Many of them won't because of liability issues but if it's showing up a lot in your interviews and you suspect that places checked references, then it's worth thinking that this may not be a coincidence. That said, if you're... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:28 AM on November 11, 2014
Squirrels nesting in the roof
Aww that is a pain in the ass. I went through this last year. They were in my walls and I could hear them. It made me agitated. We called pest guys (like for mice) and they were all like "nope you need a trapper" (I am in MA) and so I called Spencer, the Squirrel Man who they suggested. Spencer came up to my house and took a look at where the squirrels were going in and temporarily plugged the holes and then put have-a-heart traps inside. He checked them every day (I was not in that... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:41 PM on November 10, 2014
Life Without a Microwave
I don't have one in my house. I don't have a single grounded outlet in my kitchen and I just don't need one. I spend summers in a place that has one. I like both situations just fine. I do more dishes in the no-microwave place. I also have a good toaster oven that I use for small reheating and it's a lot more efficient than the bigger oven. I steam more things. I have an electric kettle. I thaw stuff in the fridge. I even buy some frozen meals and they are usually fine in the toaster oven it... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 3:43 PM on November 10, 2014
Like hiking the Pacific Coast trail...only not
A roadtrip with a purpose!
I had a longer-term goal of going to all the towns in Vermont in order to get a better feeling for my adopted state. There are 251 of them. It took me several years (of doing it in dribs and drabs) and now I'm going back to take photographs of all of them. Some people have gone canoeing in every town, or done the trip by motorcycle or whatnot. For someone who is motivated by gamification type of stuff and likes completing... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:47 PM on November 10, 2014
Please help this not happen to me.
When my dad died at home (and was found by his housekeeper) I went into an anxiety swivet about things exactly like this, so I think I know a little how you are feeling. I am sorry for your loss. I live alone and come from a family of people who all live alone. So what you can do to put your mind at ease varies somewhat.
First, you should do what you need to do to get your anxiety under control. Grief works in strange ways and I was fixated on a bunch of niggling stuff... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:48 AM on November 10, 2014
Help me make my big house seem ... smaller?
I have a giant room in my father's old house (now mine and my sister's house) that is a challenge like this. A few things that helped
- built in bookshelves, really deep ones, takes over a foot off of every dimension, plus you can put things on top of them
- giant furniture. Overstuffed chairs and couches. You can stick little tables behind the couches so they take up even more room. Big coffee table.
- A few moveable tables and chairs that can go... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:39 PM on November 9, 2014
Financial anxiety! I am a lucky bum, but can't stop worrying.
All the same, I can't stop worrying about money.
Hello, me. I am sorry because this is hard. In my life I had a two parent family where my dad worked and my mom was an anxious mess about money but at the same time mostly just running the household while we were little. And so she basically made us believe that we were poor and I grew up in a miserly environment and did not realize that we were middle-class (at least!) until I was in college and I... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 5:09 PM on November 9, 2014
Paging Counselor Troi: locating telepathic protagonists in fiction
There's a book called Nexus which talks about a world in which there are drugs that enable people to "touch minds" which includes the ability to speak telepathically. There's a big debate about whether this technology is terrible because it will allow people to be enslaved by it or great because it will allow people to be empathetic with one another and thus make wars impossible. The main protagonist has this ability and (through an arrest and a dealmaking situation) he's saddled with... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:37 AM on November 9, 2014
Abscessed about whether my travel plans are going down the drain.
If you're seriously broke, a root canal and accompanying crown are going to be much more expensive than an extraction. You can get a spacer put in if you are worried about tooth movement.
I am not a dentist, obviously, but I've had a lot of weird dental issues. My opinions on your questions
1. it's quite possible that the antibiotics worked quickly and your infection is controlled and swelling is down. If the tooth is cracked, pus can leak out,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:24 AM on November 8, 2014
How do people choose whom to ask for directions?
In the library world we call this look "The open face of reference" and joke that it's also why people ask us if we know where to find things in the hardware store and that sort of thing. I get asked for directions a lot because I'm actually outside walking and (in my town) don't really look like a tourist. I got asked for directions in London a few times (where I was a tourist) probably because I was consulting my phone and maybe had that "She has a map" vibe to me or... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 7:29 AM on November 8, 2014
The Pros and Cons of Marriage
it's actually a business deal.
Definitely true from a legal perspective. And different to many people from a cultural perspective. I was married in an "I got married as a bit of a joke" way, got divorced (when my partner met "the one" and wanted to be real-married, which was fine with me) and now I am in a long term unmarried relationship. A few observations
- Marriage also means your families are... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 10:33 AM on November 7, 2014
Best way to get inaccurate information changed on Wikipedia?
I'm an editor on Wikipedia and I am on the advisory board to the Wikimedia foundation.
If you work for the organization I'd be careful about making changes on the org's page. Not that you can't but I'd be clear about identifying your link to the organization on your profile page and be very clear that you're only adding citable information. You can read up on their Conflict of Interest policy and here's help with editing. You might have better luck with adding citations... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:45 PM on November 6, 2014
Are there separate fart and poop muscles?
"Sphincters prove effective in the mediation of the entrance or release of liquids and solids; this is evident, for example, in the blowholes of numerous marine mammals."
...and your butt. Further reading: Sphincter ani internus muscle and Sphincter ani externus muscle
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 9:27 PM on November 6, 2014 marked best answer
How to advocate for my girlfriend in inpatient psychiatric care?
I really don't like the idea of inpatient psychiatric care because it seems extreme
That's your issue to work out without your girlfriend, for the time being. The general model is to put the person who needs help in the center of the circle and then people close to them and then out from there. "comfort in, dump out" Ignore your perfect world, focus on your actual world and live within it.
The best things you can... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 6:57 PM on November 6, 2014
Best description of that-indescribable-horror
There are a lot of parts of this in Peter Watts' novel Blindsight where they encounter an alien intelligence that they 1) don't understand 2) torture. It's not even horror literature but sci fi but the description (from a character who is basically lacking emotion) of how he figured out how to torture something that has a totally different emotional/physical makeup was completely chilling. I'll see if I can find it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 12:28 PM on November 6, 2014
Suspiciously LINEAR increase in electricity prices
Electricity is a regulated utility and can only increase power costs within certain narrow parameters. I'm not sure I understand what you are talking about otherwise. WA shows a really different graph for me because I am in a different state.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 8:42 PM on November 5, 2014
Portable, packable gift of home
How about a place to put your keys?
This was going to be my suggestion. If you have a "landing strip" area where you put your things when you go in or out of the house, a small thing that you share that is "from home" in some way would be a nice daily reminder. Even a hook for keys that goes by the door. Also I do not know anything about your personal faith traditions but people who I know who are Jewish often have a mezzuzah that... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 1:04 PM on November 5, 2014
Single Candidate Elections and Write-In Candidates
aren't write-in candidates kind of... small-town? What happens if there is a write-in winner named James Smith or Maria Garcia and a bunch of them come forward to claim the title?
I'm a small town election worker in Vermont. There are basically three kinds of write-ins that I see
- Likely write-ins - these are people who didn't get their petition to be on the ballot in on time but are actively campaigning and may have a... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jessamyn at 2:27 PM on November 4, 2014