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Strikes me as crazy to imagine that no women actually internalize society's messages about how worthless they are. I think people use questions on AskMe as Rorschachs into other things. I think there are a lot of women who have... [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by en forme de poire, ldthomps, Drastic, mathowie, Wordshore, mordax, Salamander, infinite intimation, Miko, DingoMutt, Lexica, zombieflanders, Uniformitarianism Now!, miss-lapin, Shouraku, Ruthless Bunny, bakerina
MetaTalk comment - 8 minutes ago

And in the real world: the library. My favorite thing to do, when i'm in particularly "fuck capitalism" mood is to see if I can make the argument that the public library actually exists to serve some sort of capitalistic... [more]
favorited 39 times, recently by stoneandstar
MetaTalk comment - 19 minutes ago

I think it's a different-but-related issue, personally. The guidelines that people on the site are used to are, I think, to my mind, relaxing somewhat. Which means that there's more lag time with deletions and mod responses, and not as much... [more]
favorited 27 times, recently by bakerina, stoneandstar, infinite intimation, tonycpsu, heyho, We had a deal, Kyle, dialetheia, melissasaurus, Stacey, Drastic, corb, DiscourseMarker, zombieflanders, Lexica, almostmanda, hydropsyche, We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese, Dip Flash, fraula, Uniformitarianism Now!, barchan, nadawi, gilrain, Rustic Etruscan, joseph conrad is fully awesome, poffin boffin, zutalors!
MetaTalk comment - 21 minutes ago

This is the article I wrote, in case people are curious. Mostly not about notifying places like MeFi but does talk about some of the tech aspects of estate planning.... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by LobsterMitten, DevilsAdvocate, benito.strauss, cortex
MetaTalk comment - 28 minutes ago

OP is a terrible lying asshole who should STFU and stop asking her questions here No one said that. It's super simple to be someone online, even someone online with problems, and not have people claim you're trolling. You do have to have... [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by Greg Nog, infinite intimation, a fiendish thingy, Lexica, bakerina, DevilsAdvocate, crush-onastick, masquesoporfavor, zombieflanders, winna, Proofs and Refutations, Uniformitarianism Now!, Ivan Fyodorovich, mordax, klangklangston, Sebmojo, Jacqueline, DingoMutt
MetaTalk comment - An hour ago

Brand new user, trolly sounding question phrased in a really hamfisted way. From the question: I wouldn't normally spout off such un-PC views in real life... but that's what the Internet is for, right? It could be argued it is what the... [more]
favorited 24 times, recently by oceanjesse, Narrative Priorities, ldthomps, Sequence, DevilsAdvocate, masquesoporfavor, Wordshore, mordax, junques, Proofs and Refutations, Dashy, hydropsyche, Glinn, Lexica, Fig, miss-lapin, bakerina, zombieflanders, Uniformitarianism Now!, Jacqueline, Kitteh, tonycpsu, bibliogrrl, joseph conrad is fully awesome
MetaTalk comment - An hour ago

After my dad died, I wrote a real will. One of the things that I outlined with my executor (aka sister) is how to let people know in my various online places know that I'm not around anymore. There's an envelope in a safe deposit box that we share,... [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by Meatbomb, argonauta, infinite intimation, GenjiandProust, not_on_display, onlyconnect, pjern, Jacqueline, billiebee, Namlit, marsha56, dg
MetaTalk comment - An hour ago

Merlin Mann is a complete jackass. Here's the weird thing though, he's not. He has a jackass persona. The thing that is so odd about him, to me, is that he's okay with this persona being the way really most of the internet world knows... [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by bq
MeFi comment - 3 ¼ hours ago

the official mod response be that others, including trans people, can just "not engage" if they have a problem with it. You are welcome to say "This is total bullshit and here's why" also. The alternative was for us to... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by the man of twists and turns
MetaTalk comment - 3 ¼ hours ago

while jessamyn helped lead it, it felt like something everyone modding pitched in on it Totally true. I do think there needs to be a point person for someone who is basically making sure that if there's a new expectation regarding... [more]
favorited 37 times, recently by barchan
MetaTalk comment - 3 ¼ hours ago

Do the emojis display the same way to everyone? There are different sets for different platforms but they are basically the same though I think the "disco man" is actually a tango lady? Wikipedia is helpful for this. I still... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by oceanjesse, nadawi, royalsong, terrapin, b33j, joseph conrad is fully awesome
MetaTalk comment - 3 ½ hours ago

I had beet beer last night. It was tasty but I just liked saying it over and over beetbeer beetbeer beetbeer. [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by languagehat, SpacemanStix, en forme de poire, tonycpsu, feckless fecal fear mongering
MetaTalk comment - 4 ½ hours ago

If the baby is really into the ethereal sound of it and not the beats part of it, he might like some very low key prog rock like the soundtrack to Aguirre Wrath of God by Popul Vuh. It's some of my "happy place" music and I have been known to like... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by ifjuly, Blitz
Ask MeFi comment - Almost 6 hours ago

not_on_display gets all his glasses at Zenni and he's now become one of those dad people who has three sets of glasses he carries around because he didn't like the progressive lenses he got (not really a Zenni thing, just didn't work for him) and now... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by en forme de poire, Kattullus
MetaTalk comment - 14 hours ago

I was married. I mention it when its appropriate and necessary to the story but not otherwise. I'll usually be pretty clear "Oh my then-husband and I moved to Transylvania..." I don't mention the divorce at all and people are free to think... [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by haltingproblemsolved
Ask MeFi comment - 16 hours ago

then this should be posted in the guidelines: "We do not welcome posts with views to the right of Andrea Dworkin, but even bad posts otherwise will be accepted." Let's face up to the truth of what the Blue is turning into, a place where... [more]
favorited 35 times, recently by Phredward, scrump, Greg Nog, Proofs and Refutations, harujion, KathrynT, Ed The Sock, melissasaurus, ActingTheGoat, viggorlijah, Sebmojo, almodis, spitbull, Jacqueline, Sys Rq, jokeefe, Uniformitarianism Now!, grouse, Ivan Fyodorovich, wintersweet, Wordshore, billiebee, cooker girl, tonycpsu, We had a deal, Kyle, zombieflanders, joseph conrad is fully awesome, Mavri, Sara C., bakerina, pemberkins, stoneandstar, oceanjesse, DingoMutt, DirtyOldTown
MetaTalk comment - 21 hours ago

We smell like patchouli and maple syrup * faints * [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by scrump, languagehat, Greg Nog, Devils Rancher, threeants, bakerina, rtha, Uniformitarianism Now!, nadawi, feckless fecal fear mongering, winna, Namlit, tonycpsu
MetaTalk comment - Yesterday

IF they are going to be allowed, they should be allowed across the ideological board. There's no indication that's not happening. I know proving a negative is a lousy and thankless task, but honestly I feel like what you're saying is that... [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by Proofs and Refutations, zombieflanders, feckless fecal fear mongering, nadawi, tonycpsu
MetaTalk comment - Yesterday

It just seems like the odds are overwhelmingly, ridiculously against me. I am Sisyphus. I'd back up on this a little. The odds are against you because people in your age cohort are getting married and having kids, so the people you meet... [more]
favorited 45 times, recently by en forme de poire, Bella Donna, bulgroz
Ask MeFi comment - Yesterday

Would it be comforting to someone to know that someone out there does love them, even if it's not returned? Nope, it's scary and upsetting. I mean there may be people who love me from afar, who knows? It's their secret to keep. Once they... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Jacqueline, bakerina, DingoMutt, RogueTech, Beethoven's Sith, feckless fecal fear mongering
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I'm glad I said nice things about her in the thread. I'm glad she was a classy dame about all the people who talked about how they'd like to/like not to fuck/ogle her, too. - "her eyes and her mouth are way too beautiful for me to... [more]
favorited 45 times, recently by C. K. Dexter Haven
MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

As long as the moderators allow those flaggers to exercise the hecklers' veto, any discussion of events that involve anti-Semitism will continue to be false, superficial, trivial, and jejune. That's a pretty strong allegation. I think a... [more]
favorited 26 times, recently by miss-lapin
MetaTalk comment - 4 days ago

I did it in high school a zillion years ago and did not at all identify as Catholic. I associate it with either goth-ish subculture or Madonna. [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by Gelatin, Lynsey, masquesoporfavor, bluespark25, jazzbaby, janey47
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Is something bothering you outside of mefi? I am bothering him... to quit paying me seventy-seven cents for every dollar cortex earns. [too soon?... [more]
favorited 38 times, recently by oceanjesse
MetaTalk comment - 4 days ago

Montpelier VT is the smallest state capital in the US (8000 people) and the only one without a McDonalds (there is a McDs right up the road however) and it has a main street (maybe you saw the movie) and an open-to-the-public capitol building, a few... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Deathalicious
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Tell your spouse to not pass on the messages to you, that you don't want to hear this person's name mentioned as there is no point to it. Yep. You've done your part and now you and DH need to be a team and put a stop to this. He needs to... [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by andraste
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Why wasn't it deleted as threadshitting? Because that's not what threadshitting is. Threadshitting is a non-constructive non-engagement with the topic and just posting some drive-by comments that expresses your disapproval. This wasn't... [more]
favorited 47 times, recently by Uniformitarianism Now!
MetaTalk comment - 4 days ago

https://twitter.com/treykerby/status/12259920434954240 [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by HoteDoge
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Mods have devoted an extraordinary amount of time trying to help you understand how they do their jobs. Your inability to synthesize this and make a model you are comfortable with in your head, after all this time, is not reason enough to turn this... [more]
favorited 35 times, recently by wondrous strange snow
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

He isn't bothered but I'd like it to stop, it's as if she's triangulating to me. She is. She's a bad person. However, she can't do this without his assistance. You are in a relationship with him and he is the person you have an ability to... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by i feel possessed
Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I still think that fuckwad doesn't deserve to have a goddam dog. I don't think you're wrong. I think there are a lot of hyperbolic answers that I give in my head with great glee but then don't post to the site. - Your party is going to... [more]
favorited 26 times, recently by hush
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Scrappers. Around here (rural VT) you can often find regional-ish facebook groups where there is always someone in the "for sale" groups offering to take away anything that has metal in it. Other suggestions mirror what other people say but... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

How can I be content with what I have while still working for a better world? I have a bunch of mantras that help me through this, personally. I used to be a lot more of an all-the-time fuck-the-man activist. Now I am a lady with a job... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anonymous:Hi, I'm a programmer at a trading firm. People at Goldman Sachs have told me that my trading firm is considered very good at what it does. What I've learned from the traders at my firm is that they... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Clear the sand out of your taint. Knock this shit off. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Maybe he'll do it per artificial insemination, like he did with the cows. I was 100% sure that's what the framing shot was of him carrying her into the barn (through that window), after we'd seen them doing the artificial insemination to... [more]
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FanFare comment - 5 days ago

She recently told me she wastes almost 20% of her (working) time fighting with her computer… This is a danger sign because it seems to indicate that your mom is not troubleshooting effectively. Which is fine, a lot of people don't and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

how does one get to the root of a compulsive habit thereby eliminating the need to replace it with something else? Or have scientists not figured out how to do this yet? No, doctors are pretty good with medicine and/or therapy that can... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Closest to your time period is Report of Committee on State Prison (text) which is a short report on San Quentin from 1857. There is also Report of the Special Committee on State Prison from 1855 (also quite short). If you're interested in... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Can you tell we are listening to this together? [more]
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Music comment - 6 days ago

You can alphabetize in place. It just takes a long time and is sort of a hassle. But basically the process is like this. - figure out where you're going to start - take the second album after the start location - figure out if it goes before or... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

I am sorry, that sucks. I have been in this situation almost exactly (the weight gain, the "I thought we had PLANS") but it was also a long time ago. I hope the "Hey, over time this will drop into the background radiation of your... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Do your housework! [more]
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Music comment - 7 days ago


You seem like you're doing all the right things. The only thing I'd add to that list is making sure you're keeping your environment humid. The dry air in the winter is one of the reasons people get more colds then, you become more susceptible. Here's... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

I am a computer mentor lady and I work out of the local Adult Ed program which is at the local vocational high school. If you have one near you it might be worth seeing if they have classes but also seeing if there are people who teach there who... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Thank you for your service. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 7 days ago

We listened to them all last night and it was so happy-making. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 8 days ago

Thought this was SO much better than the last time Kevin Hart hosted. He seemed more with it, more people got air time, show was much more even. Hart as James Brown was inspired and the rest of the stuff was at least funny (the singing castle one was... [more]
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FanFare comment - 8 days ago

No, it's not at all insane to rely on condoms. However, I'd mind what muddgirl said above and think about whether you need to absolutely not get pregnant [in which case use a back up method like the sponge or a diaphragm] or you need to not have a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

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