Activity from jessamyn

Show Favorites Activity: Fuzzy | Precise | Popular
With kindness, training a dog out of behaviors that work for him in his forever home may be doing yourself a short-term favor while doing his owners a longer term non-favor. I concur with others that if the dog is getting exercise, there… [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by slateyness, Blue Jello Elf, melissasaurus, fiercecupcake, amarynth, Automocar, wwax, mumimor, jouir, kestralwing, miaou, schroedingersgirl, cakelite
Ask MeFi comment - 50 minutes ago

I think it's important to operate from a place of good faith on AskMe and assume that the asker phrased the question in a specific way for a reason I agree with this in general, but disagree with it in specific only because we've seen in… [more]
favorited 38 times, recently by missmerrymack, adrienneleigh, telegraph, Hairy Lobster, tapir-whorf, DevilsAdvocate, Songdog, spitbull, pennypiper, terrapin, monopas, Jeanne, Salieri, sperose, China Grover, sciatrix, peacheater, ldthomps
MetaTalk comment - 2 ¾ hours ago

classic4lyfe. [more]
favorited 76 times, recently by quinndexter, Kinbote, hapax_legomenon, olya, spitbull, jabo, ZeusHumms, sebastienbailard, bleep, Don Pepino
MetaTalk comment - 10 hours ago

Setting boundaries means believing - really believing - that the other person is responsible for their own feelings and behavior. This is helpful for me. I grew up in a family with bad boundaries and one in which both my parents treated… [more]
favorited 22 times, recently by yaymukund
Ask MeFi comment - 11 hours ago

Do the shower/toilet pipes eventually connect? Is it actually my hair??? Yes, generally. You can see a diagram here. Depending on the age of your house, the age of the toilet and the age of the pipes this could be some coincidences or it… [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Rock Steady
Ask MeFi comment - 19 hours ago

[very much suggest people end the Blacksonian derail (filling in today for vacationing mods)] [more]
favorited 47 times, recently by Dolukhanova
MeFi comment - Yesterday


There are technical blocks preventing more than one anonymous question a week. I know what they are. If you have a sock puppet account, that account can ask an anon question, unless things have changed since my time here. But yeah I am… [more]
favorited 21 times, recently by mediareport, nequalsone, donnagirl
MetaTalk comment - Yesterday

I feel like this will mean that heavy AskMe users become even heavier AskMe users which creates a problem and does not solve one. I already feel like for some people it's "THIS WEEK in my relationship...." I live in AskMe, and I may be a… [more]
favorited 46 times, recently by mediareport, merelyglib, donnagirl
MetaTalk comment - Yesterday

I make dutch babies most weekends now. There is a whole group on MLKSHK dedicated to sharing photos of our favorite babies. The recipe is so damned easy. This is for one, easily doubled. 1/4 c flour + 1/4 c milk whisk it add 1 beaten egg mix… [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by Bebo, argonauta, Slap*Happy
MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

One of the things cop shops have been doing lately is providing spaces for people who buy/sell things on the internet to meet in a place that is decently safe. If I were the cops I might try to actually capitalize on this and use it as an outreach… [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by Recliner of Rage, Verba Volant, Scram, jojobobo, I_Love_Bananas, randomkeystrike, helloimjennsco, Fig, galvanized unicorn, asperity
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

> I see it as a woman's discovery of her freedom and independence. Sure, and just like Thelma and Louise, the only way to resolve that "problem" is to have her die at the end. [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by metaseeker
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago


I think my first question would be whether this is a relationship dynamic or whether your wife has an anger problem generally. Like ... if she yells at you but no one else, that is a bad dynamic with the two of you. If she yells at everyone she has… [more]
favorited 9 times, recently by craniac
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

We deal with this in the library world sometimes where our choice is to remove this but some library catalogs don't have this option but do allow customization. A few things that have been helpful. - have a "prefer not to answer"… [more]
favorited 19 times, recently by stellathon, SyraCarol, saucysault, Margalo Epps, Lexica, supercres, Green With You, brennen, rum-soaked space hobo, redfoxtail, doop, Emperor SnooKloze, RichardHenryYarbo, Faint of Butt, mumkin, DiscountDeity, miratime, littlesq, Rock Steady
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Is it possible that you can change the contact address to add a nickname so that your proprietary sender started with a letter that no one else started with? So like: xxmomxx instead of mom which gets confused with mothra which gets confused with… [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by sourcejedi, blackzinfandel, impishoptimist, artistic verisimilitude
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

"It's funny, the idea that you could have to be back after your family has been here so long, it's ridiculous and would never happen so that's what makes it funny." Seconding very much that humor is relational. If he's explaining jokes to… [more]
favorited 26 times, recently by knapah
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

the other is the snarky Machiavelli answer, not deleted. Sometimes people give snarky pithy answers that might, through some lenses, also be an answer to the question. And it's hard to tell if they're just supposed to be snark or they're… [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by AugustWest
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Toad baked some cookies. “These cookies smell very good,” said Toad. He ate one. “And they taste even better,” he said. Toad ran to Frog’s house. “Frog, Frog,” cried Toad, “taste these cookies that I have made.” Frog ate one of the cookies, “These… [more]
favorited 222 times, recently by nequalsone
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

You need to consider the anxiety an emergency and worry about recipes later. Exactly. I am also cheap-to-a-problematic-perspective sometimes and the baseline issue here isn't food or money, it's anxiety and disordered thinking. Whether… [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by needs more cowbell, Hypatia, yeahlikethat
Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I thought the article JinA linked to was super interesting and worth its own post in some ways. At the same time, he brings lot of baggage into threads with him that I think is distinct from his own words and people react to that. Anyhow, that's… [more]
favorited 38 times, recently by zarq, audi alteram partem
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Even though Turbo Tax could mostly guide you through this, a tax professional could not only give you more confidence that you were doing everything right but also give you information on best practices for tax year 2017 which would be helpful. After… [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Wolfster, ldthomps, smich, radicalawyer, the phlegmatic king, Hanuman1960
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Mine was a super weird thing. I've always done the list making and the calendaring and whatever and I'm pretty efficent. But the thing that really took me the rest of the way (especially about a lot of small stakes stuff like household things,… [more]
favorited 133 times, recently by wenestvedt
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Or at least that's what I tell people when they ask why I still have a 5. I don't. I have an SE. And they're all like wait what. Yep. I had your exact issue (phone wouldn't hold a charge, esp in cold weather and it had already had a… [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by Mike Mongo
Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

I have to say, I've been enjoying SNL this season but this episode didn't do it for me as much as some others, maybe I was just having an off night. A lot of the sketches seemed to hinge on pain or harassment or that sort of thing. And I know this is… [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by purpleclover
FanFare comment - 7 days ago

There is also the very common XY Problem which is my favorite and I talk about it all the time driving everyone crazy, sort of like what OnTheLastCastle is talking about, but narrower. Basically you ask for help solving one thing which you think is… [more]
favorited 52 times, recently by DirtyOldTown, ferret branca
MetaTalk comment - 7 days ago

1) You can check the historical weather but July is usually okay with some stupid hot days and August is usually hotter. Cooler the further north you get in the state and at the higher elevations. There's a mountain range that goes through the middle… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by DiscountDeity, terrapin, ldthomps
Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

A few suggestions/questions... - are either of you pot smokers? do you have a bong? Is it empty? Could someone have spilled it? - do you compost? is your compost container sealed tight? is it clean? - what's your food storage like? is it… [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by veery
Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Is this really a recurring issue? People asking questions that are not phrased in ways that are liable to get them good answers is a recurring issue. Common failure modes are - You are too angry/emotional to ask a good question and… [more]
favorited 136 times, recently by Nerd of the North
MetaTalk comment - 7 days ago

It's a service that offers to teach you how to get your finances in order and then qualify to buy your first home. Adding to what everyone else has said, these services are often offered FOR FREE from local banks who are trying to get… [more]
favorited 6 times
Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Candy by Iggy Pop and Kate Pierson has some talking (beginning and middle) and some singing. [more]
favorited 3 times
Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

I am kind of impressed with the attention span possessed by all of you who are like "okay cool I'll just wait a week" Here is a quote from frog and toad which covers this. [more]
favorited 4 times
MetaTalk comment - 8 days ago

From today's perspective I'd like to think I'd have screamed bloody murder about the idea of changing it without even making a MetaTalk announcement had I been hired a few months earlier I was all "three and out" for this… [more]
favorited 8 times
MetaTalk comment - 8 days ago

Is this really a grand gesture, or is it creepy as hell? Unfortunately, this really depends. I have a few creepy people in my history and many very nice people. If I got a superduper anonymous and somewhat valuable gift, I would worry… [more]
favorited 39 times
Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

I am really glad everyone else is having the "Can't listen while driving" issue because it was vexing me and we've been doing more sound checks but I basically had to stop listening to it in the car (loud enough to hear cortex would make me… [more]
favorited 1 time
MetaTalk comment - 8 days ago

Cliff Janeway novels by John Dunning? There are five not three but they're very good. [more]
favorited 1 time
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

I have some Bose Model 101 speakers that I've had with me since the late 80s. They're small enough that I can mount them unobtrusively, have a deep rich sound and Just Work. Other similar things in my house: Cuisinart (they replaced my blade after… [more]
favorited 1 time
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Humidifier was really the game changer for me in keeping sinus issues down to a manageable level. Everyone's sinuses are a little different, but there are certain things that should at least be on the "to try" list. For me this is -… [more]
favorited 2 times
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Yeah some of this may be my own maladaptive "I have learned to manage my anxiety surrounding this issue, why haven't you?" feelings. That said, after sleeping on it I still feel like this is going to be problematic but I'm okay being proven… [more]
favorited 9 times
MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

I assume you have some method of contacting them. If not, I'd just put this on social media. Set a boundary at this point. "I have donated the gift you sent me to X charity. Please do not send me any more gifts as it makes me very uncomfortable… [more]
favorited 23 times
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Googleable term that I would be looking at is "Drying rack" You can see which ones will work best for your particular space needs. Pinterest offers options. Maybe something like this that could go in a closet? Otherwise have you thought… [more]
favorited 1 time
Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

"blissfully happy" is really where most people wish they were. That said, I just missed my 30th because it was a little too far away and I'm already in touch with the people from then who I really liked and am not that curious. I know the… [more]
favorited 9 times
Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

he five years we spent together was a "huge mistake." People say shitty things during a breakup and that doesn't make them true. I know that can be cold comfort at times like these when you're already hurting and you don't want… [more]
favorited 9 times
Ask MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Chew on cool wet peppermint tea bags. It will give you something soft to press up against your sore gums and it will help your mouth not taste like blood. [more]
favorited 2 times
Ask MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Was sure this question said angriest and was going to come here and out myself as belonging on that list, but oh there I am anyhow, giving out a lot of answers. Hey. [more]
favorited 15 times
MetaTalk comment - 11 days ago

It makes sense when you spell it out like that but somehow I'd never noticed that before. Wooo! [more]
favorited 4 times
MetaTalk comment - 11 days ago

Recipes: spaghetti squash lasagna, scruss's tablet recipe. [more]
favorited 2 times
MetaTalk comment - 11 days ago

And Vanessa Bayer as well. She is one of the great SNL workhorses, She's really good at nearly everything and can even make ensemble pieces work. That Totinos bit was the best sketch outside of Melissa McCarthy. I caught a bit of it on… [more]
favorited 1 time
FanFare comment - 12 days ago

Moon Patrol is catchy af. posted by DigDoug 😀 eponysterical [more]
favorited 5 times
MetaTalk comment - 12 days ago

For some reason, when the day came, her reaction was unexpected. Figure out that reason, it may be at the crux of this. I mean it's hard to tell from this situation whether your friend is just in a bad place because of a ton of… [more]
favorited 3 times
Ask MeFi comment - 12 days ago

Page: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 338