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Then "people" should use a different word. And if someone tells you their feelings are hurt, you should maybe consider not telling them they're wrong for how they feel. Which was probably not your intent but very much how your comment comes… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 7 minutes ago

I think if it were me I'd go the kill-with-kindness approach and say something like "Hi, The Meetup website will let you know if there are going to be more than 3-4 expected (send link). I totally understand why you might want to wait for… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 33 minutes ago



The Schilling thing is interesting to me as a great example of "Thing that people understand in one context gets exposed to a broader context and then discussion gets muddy because people can't agree on conversational priorities" Note: I… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by Room 641-A, colt45, alms, Proofs and Refutations, Joseph Gurl
MetaTalk comment - An hour ago


update from the OP So, before I posted, I was totally ready to get on the phone to Mr Anonymous and make an idiot of myself by apologizing for being fat. And I was convinced that he wouldn't want me. How COULD he? I'm FAT. And ugly. Who in their… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 18 hours ago

How, musically, has hip-hop advanced in the twenty-five years since then? How is this piece under consideration musically advanced since? However just like the Feminism 101 threads, it's sort of useful to approach the topic as… [more]
favorited 162 times, recently by C. K. Dexter Haven
MeFi comment - 19 hours ago

I've seen many of our licensing agreements and they specify that patrons can share single articles outside of the campus. Yeah as MetaFilter's most famous librarian today, this is a non-issue from a library perspective. You may dislike it… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

The Society for American Archivists has a few public lists for SAA members. They have 13 years of accessible archives (1993 - 2006), but I'm not sure if they are searchable. The Library of Congress has a list of resources that might be worth taking a… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

That was weird, wasn't it? Q: How can I be a better person? A: DON'T BE LIKE THESE ASSHOLES ARARARARARA [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by RogueTech
MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

This was what the AlphaSmart was for. You can transfer via USB. It's not really a computer, more of an electronic typewriter. There was a new one out lately (last few months) that people had been gibbering over, but I can't recall what it was called… [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by ernielundquist, scruss, Violet Blue, 4ster
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I'd also make sure that you give them places to go if they have personal issues or concerns with mental health/illness. This can be a few books their school library might have, a few websites aimed towards teens, a local phone number they could call… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Hey happy new dog! I sleep with a variety of noise machines and/or ear plugs often and generally speaking you can hear stuff like fire alarms and knocks on the door. I'm a pretty light sleeper. They basically just overlay a level of sound on top of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Wow that was a really interesting article. Thanks for posting it. [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 days ago

The Public library is one of the last places left in this society, that don't involve consumerism or religion and are open to all. Exactly. While I sympathize with library workers who have to deal with difficult policies and difficult patrons, one… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 days ago

When I had tubes in my ears as a kid I was allowed to swim and shower like normal (except no diving) as long as I had the cotton ball/vaseline routine. I also sometimes splurged and got my hair washed at a salon so I could just not worry about it. [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by kinddieserzeit
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Maybe I say the situation has changed? It's totally okay just to say that you've changed. "I am not longer comfortable with this" is totally an okay thing to say and anyone who pushes back on that is pretty much not respecting… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

When I ignore him too long though he complains This is a good opportunity to be like "Hey you have a wife and I have a boyfriend. You are making me uncomfortable with this assertion that I owe you something. I am sorry you are having… [more]
favorited 14 times, recently by lorn
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

From the OP:Thank you to everyone who posted suggestions here, especially the c-section success stories. On Wednesday, I delivered a tiny, healthy 25-week baby girl via emergency c-section. She is in a level III NICU with some of the lowest… [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by teremala
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

agreed with the nasal irrigation. my mom swears by an OTC nose spray called Ocean. it's basically mild salt water and keeps all the junk in her sinuses moist and moving around, not stagnating and getting infected. Might be good in a dry office, that… [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Violet Blue
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

From the OP:Thanks all for the kind words. I really needed it. He was able to get a weekend pass before he actually left the country (he had been out of state for training) and so I got to tell him in person, while we were lying in bed together… [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by teremala
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

I used to think these were good and groundbreaking and useful discussions to have amongst a mixed audience. I no longer really feel that way, at least as far as what happens here. That's my feeling in a nutshell. Since I don't have to… [more]
favorited 61 times, recently by DrMew, Medley, i feel possessed
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

Which is kind of irrelevant to the fact that it's broadly construed as a dismissive pejorative now I think the point he's making is that it's not at all clear that is what is happening. Social justice as a concept can exist independently… [more]
favorited 20 times, recently by junques, marsha56
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

ROT13 has been discussed as a non-starter several times as being hostile to n00bs. I think obscuring bad comments (disemvowelling, etc) doesn't actually solve a moderation problem. Being a little more high visibility in threads, while being a… [more]
favorited 16 times, recently by marsha56, syzygy, bitter-girl.com, Halle, en forme de poire, Recliner of Rage, Ivan Fyodorovich, Proofs and Refutations
MetaTalk comment - 5 days ago

If it's not machine-processable then you may in a totally different category, more or less. So, thinking about the dimensions - a letter is 1/4 inch thick or less - a "large envelope" according to USPS is 1/4 to 3/4 inches thick and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anonymous:Your husband is my father. The incident in which your husband grabbed your son's head and twisted it toward him to enforce eye contact happened to me twenty ago almost exactly as you have described… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Personally, I'd be OK with the compromise of "leave it, leave the responses, but also leave a smalltext mod note saying "That was seriously over the line of acceptable discourses I think this is often a good compromise. Makes it… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 6 days ago

I have lived in an Amtrac smoking car on the way from NYC to Texas. I have done the same, only from Boston to Tampa to LA to Seattle to Boston. Back when they had those All Aboard America tickets that were cheap. I made my own Scrabble… [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Thanks for all the feedback. The meeting went off well last night. I did a quickie "Ten Apps in Ten Minutes" thing which went well and supplied people with resources including this report from Berkman Enhancing Child Safety and Online… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago


if they do talk much about the larger questions and philosophy of steering the Good Ship Metafilter Yes, pretty much every time there is a contentious MeTa thread with solid numbers of people on both sides we tend to talk about whatever… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 6 days ago

Talking about how you like big boobs isn't a capital offense or anything but it's also the opposite of helpful if what you're trying to communicate is a dawning understanding of pervasive sexism. Yeah, this. It's tough to listen to people… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 6 days ago

I am happy to be a mentor for someone who wants to run a post by someone who has been around a while. Anytime in March (I am out of town now, oh please do not email me now) email it to me and I'll give you my polite constructive opinion. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 6 days ago

Why wasn't it deleted as threadshitting? Because that's not what threadshitting is. Threadshitting is a non-constructive non-engagement with the topic and just posting some drive-by comments that expresses your disapproval. This wasn't… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 6 days ago

calling Jessamyn Hello? [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 7 days ago

This definitely happens to me if I'm not eating properly around exercise (i.e. something worthwhile before and something with carbs and some fat and protein within about 30 min afterwards). You can get an exaggerated sort of low blood sugar thing… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

I'm a little more fed up with this sort of thing (and encounter it more rarely) and my response is usually more like "You are welcome to feel how you feel, but the statistics don't really support that." and then I have a few studies in my… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Do your housework! [more]
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Music comment - 7 days ago

Was a great time, thanks for coming out all. My apologies for the MeFite I was texting with who was looking for us when we weren't seated at Tas Firin. We tried to catch you and missed. [more]
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IRL comment - 7 days ago

We'll aim for around 6 then. My cell is zero, triple seven, 6704331. Text with any changes of plans, I'll be mostly offline for the rest of today. [more]
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IRL comment - 7 days ago

You're not his parent. You need to figure out what the real issue is and focus on that. I agree with mibo if this is about money that he's not bringing in (in a very real way not in a "I am not comfortable with this") you should discuss… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

From the OP:1. Telling potential beaus about my 3 month expiration date. I don't tell guys I date about this because, as jbenben said, this can cast quite the pall on a relationship. So I'm always hesitant to bring this up lest a guy stay with me out… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Hello! We spent the day today going to the Soane's Museum and the Hunterian Museum. Good fun. I am not hellbent on staying within Rotherhithe, a place where we could get dinner and drinks (we're unlikely to make a late night of it) at the same time would be great. Thames views sounds good. Old Salt Quay and George look like they either have the same owner or the same web designer, which is it? I don't know geography well enough to pick a place but we're fine with anything that's one bus/tube ride away. Local folks traveling from further away should make that call. [more]
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IRL comment - 8 days ago

Because having a partner who is a good speller is foundational to a healthy, happy romantic relationship? For some people, though not for all, absolutely. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

the Great Taters Mystery. Now is as good a time to mention this as any. I got an email a while back from the gal who posted that anon thread. I've paraphrased a little bit but not much. The "taters" thing was, I guess, kind of like a code… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

Totally suggested going, I was on Mackinac last summer and it was amazing and I toyed with doing the Canadian drive and didn't. I live a few hours from Montreal and love it. Am I missing anything else? Yes. Your US cellphones will work… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

most babies are a PITA about bedtime around 8-11mo, this will pass, you don't have to leave your kid to cry If that was the gist of your comment, it definitely would have stayed. If you'd like, I can repost your comment here. It was… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anon:Hi, self published author here. I sell ebooks only. Createspace is a huge waste of my time. I'd get into audiobooks but there are limited avenues for non-US citizens to get their work into audio without… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago


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