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Is this really a recurring issue? People asking questions that are not phrased in ways that are liable to get them good answers is a recurring issue. Common failure modes are - You are too angry/emotional to ask a good question and... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

The next question would be "why thousands of refreshes" Someone could also be running one of those browser tab add-ons set to reload the page some stupid-often amount of times and just left the window open and left. Or it could... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

What am I not thinking of? A lot of people manage this transition by setting the new rates at some useful transition point (beginning of 2015 for example) and then opting in to giving existing clients a discount if this is onerous for... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

The more minimalist the sounds, the more relaxing your surroundings become. This is one of the things we do. Make tea or coffee, put on lougewear, dim the lights, light a candle or two (or incense) and just lie on the couch holding hands... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I can only speak for myself, but it would absolutely not do this for me. Totally get the good intention here but I do feel like this is a situation where the thing that would help is only useful if it's used by the people (both in... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

it's pointed out that something is a standard MRA talking point, with a brief reference as to why Yeah that might be a good example for this since sfred was not calling out Zed, just alerting them to the fact that MRA-types have paternity... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Conversely, though, it is also possible for someone to be giving you shit and have it NOT be about you being female, but rather because it is because you did, in fact, do something shitty. Sure, maybe. I guess I'm totally confused why... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

My wife has tried to have this conversation with their office twice now. I think it's time to contact the dentist directly if that's possible. This is a reasonable thing to want and there should be no obvious reason (besides the loss of... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I'm assuming that his concern is a valid one? Not really no. There are other reasons he might wish to do this, but even in a situation where he has property worth millions of dollars, any property that is divisible can have some of the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Have mods be more willing to delete "you are a monster" type commentary They often do. What they can't do is manage situations where someone says "It's a standard 'want' for the MRA types." and someone else hears... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

The what? [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

What are you talking about? Clearly nonsense, as per usual. I was wondering why it didn't do anything when I pressed it. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

In a perfect world, if that number was in the several thousands, we could actually start thinking about eliminating ads and Google from MeFi entirely, but in a realistic world, I think it'd be great to get towards 1,000 monthly supporters.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

This may be a good time to verify what your mom has said and then get your elected representative's Constitutent Services working on this. There is (or should be) no "luck" here, it's math and if they're getting a different result than your... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

This? [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Which is frankly less than I expected. We have like ten or twelve, on the way. Are you just counting one from each person. Are you counting by fingers or by people or by photo?... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

then frankly I guess they are just plain chicken! If women didn't receive near-constant harassment for basically everything they do online, this would be funnier.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Oh, and if you have an old balance or a cable box that never got returned? They'd like to have a word with you about that as well. This is huge. The small print on this is basically that if you still owe Comcast money because you couldn't... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

The good times are really, really good, and I need to support my wife as she goes through all this without feeding her anxieties and whilst looking after myself too, and I don't know what that looks like. There's a big difference between... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I am often frustrated by Joe's contributions in I/P threads. However, he was responding to someone equating Jews and the Jewish state with Nazis - which is, actually, totes offensive. Joe can sometimes not know when to quit, but the... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

My boyfriend has said that he would really rather Greg not be invited back in our house. When I've had related problems [i.e. someone's behavior was problematic enough that my partner and I wanted to no longer invite them to things] I've... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Did it a lot as a female traveling alone even staying in rest areas and not just campsites. General precautionary measures - make sure someone knows where you are more or less and when you'll be back - make sure you have a cell phone charged and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

If you don't feel like you're quite at the lawyer stage yet, I'd suggest, in order - you making sure she has all the facts right re: retirement account and whatever SSI is saying (and making sure the SSI/SSDI distinction is clear) - once the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Do I just have to pay back the 6 months of premiums? Yes, but you can probably do this over time. Obviously this is frustrating and annoying but it doesn't seem like there was anything going on except an honest error (theirs and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

What do you think real life is for cops? For small town cops in the US? A lot of mouthy teenagers, lost pets, random firearms complaints and sometimes drunk driving or domestic abuse issues. Safety checks. Traffic stops. You might like... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

If you don't mind a historical look at some of this in the US, you might like to read the last section of Encounters with the Archdruid which is written by John McPhee and basically has a noted environmentalist (David Brower) and a noted... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

On this day in 1698 Tsar Peter I of Russia imposed a tax on beards. Did you know that was the fact I chose for today's OpenLibrary tweet? I even found an image of the coin you could carry when you'd paid your tax, with a picture of a... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

disclaimer: I was raised by wolves. I'd skip the shower [offer a polite regrets rsvp] and attend the wedding if it's not a huge headache, buy a dull gift and consider it an absolutely not-necessary gracious olive branch (and/or favor to your boss)... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Does it diminish the creepy if it's not to an ex? Diminishes, yes, but not to a level of uncreepy enough that it's okay to do. It really seems to me, especially now, that you have some need to give a woman a banjo which means this is... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Is this really a grand gesture, or is it creepy as hell? Unfortunately, this really depends. I have a few creepy people in my history and many very nice people. If I got a superduper anonymous and somewhat valuable gift, I would worry... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

No, old age is probably the cause of a failure like that. I am a tenant who broke a metal drain pipe in my unit by doing... nothing. We have town water that is treated with a small amount of what I think is chlorine and over time it just... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

the Great Taters Mystery. Now is as good a time to mention this as any. I got an email a while back from the gal who posted that anon thread. I've paraphrased a little bit but not much. The "taters" thing was, I guess, kind of like a code... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I am 5' 2" and headed to the beach with not_on_display. Thanks very much for the well-wishes everyone. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Is getting yelled at by your boss really a big deal? My sister is in a job where she gets yelled at occasionally by her boss and this horrifies me. Usually when she tells me about these episodes they're pretty awful-sounding but then it... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Photos of naked people are pornography. What? No they aren't. I mean I guess I understand if what you are saying is that they fall into the same taboo bucket as pornography for many people, or maybe you meant to say that you have heard... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I had just listened to that WTF podcast a few weeks ago and it was poignant to hear Williams talking so openly about the struggles he'd had and was clearly somewhat still having. My uncle was friends with him and wrote something brief and poignant... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I think the reason I am going to continue to be on the podcast is because we're never changing the song..... but yeah the plan is for me to keep on doing them. I like it. We all work well together. Oh hi cortex!... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I don't think youre missing out on a whole lot but then again I'm a lot like you. I live alone, enjoy my alone time, have jobs and people I interact with regularly plus a few close friends nearby and more friends in the greater online world and at a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I remember watching movies in English with Romanian subtitles and every swear word was replaced with "dracul." I think Zwack is mildly more drinkable and has better branding.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

So it's cool for Mefites to bring Mefi arguments out into the public on Twitter & name specific posters, but it's not ok for those posters to use Mefi to respond to the Twitter criticism? It's not "cool" but neither is it... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Characterizing the response to that as calling you a rapist is so far beyond the pale that happyroach should get some form of Get Out Of MeTa Free card for this. Exactly this. Is it a holiday weekend here or something? I am... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I used to sometimes get these. It's pernicious as hell because being anxious can actually make you have to (or feel that you have to) go to the bathroom like RIGHT NOW even though, barring any sort of other medical issue, you probably don't. I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

This has happened to me, developing a crush on a close male friend, and it worked out okay, eventually. Basically we had been getting closer and closer in what to me was a sort of ambiguous way. At some point, I couldn't deal with it any more,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I refuse to listen to the interview because I hate Q a lot. Is that too cynical? Honestly the easiest way to start with this sort of thing if you don't want to go all out and use the grumblebee method is to stop telling people what you... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I had a turbinate reduction on one side a few years ago. The results for me were a little underwhelming but the experience itself was not bad. I have a somewhat deviated septum and they tried this first. Basically the surgery was not a big deal.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

People posted Optimus Chyme's tweets about the site when he left. Closing your account and beefing about the site is different from making a link between someone's real life/off-MeFi accounts based on profile information. They're... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 4 weeks ago

My understanding was that gmail explicitly treats them as the same. You can arbitrarily add or remove periods in your email username and gmail should deliver them all to you. This is correct. There has been misinformation in AskMe and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

The Best! [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

Could you please mention that you made a joke in that thread that basically seemed to be making fun of the people who asked that people not make fat jokes and we deleted that comment and now you seem to be here not 15 minutes later?... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 4 weeks ago

The Vermont Library Association is having a board meeting this month. One of the agenda items is whetehr to change the default behavior of the VLA listserv from reply-to-list (current config) to reply-to-sender. The argument being that many people... [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

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