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So it's cool for Mefites to bring Mefi arguments out into the public on Twitter & name specific posters, but it's not ok for those posters to use Mefi to respond to the Twitter criticism? It's not "cool" but neither is it... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Characterizing the response to that as calling you a rapist is so far beyond the pale that happyroach should get some form of Get Out Of MeTa Free card for this. Exactly this. Is it a holiday weekend here or something? I am... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

I used to sometimes get these. It's pernicious as hell because being anxious can actually make you have to (or feel that you have to) go to the bathroom like RIGHT NOW even though, barring any sort of other medical issue, you probably don't. I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

This has happened to me, developing a crush on a close male friend, and it worked out okay, eventually. Basically we had been getting closer and closer in what to me was a sort of ambiguous way. At some point, I couldn't deal with it any more,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I refuse to listen to the interview because I hate Q a lot. Is that too cynical? Honestly the easiest way to start with this sort of thing if you don't want to go all out and use the grumblebee method is to stop telling people what you... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I had a turbinate reduction on one side a few years ago. The results for me were a little underwhelming but the experience itself was not bad. I have a somewhat deviated septum and they tried this first. Basically the surgery was not a big deal.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

People posted Optimus Chyme's tweets about the site when he left. Closing your account and beefing about the site is different from making a link between someone's real life/off-MeFi accounts based on profile information. They're... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

My understanding was that gmail explicitly treats them as the same. You can arbitrarily add or remove periods in your email username and gmail should deliver them all to you. This is correct. There has been misinformation in AskMe and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

The Best! [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Could you please mention that you made a joke in that thread that basically seemed to be making fun of the people who asked that people not make fat jokes and we deleted that comment and now you seem to be here not 15 minutes later?... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

The Vermont Library Association is having a board meeting this month. One of the agenda items is whetehr to change the default behavior of the VLA listserv from reply-to-list (current config) to reply-to-sender. The argument being that many people... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

"oh. Um. It's not exaggerated flair, it's proper technique". This, exactly. I grew up with candlepins and it took me a long time to get any good at what I called "big ball bowling" The most important things for me... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

"I'm doing this because I like myself." There are a lot of things in my life that I don't like doing, will never like doing, and just don't enjoy (brushing and flossing for example). However I do them because they are good for me and I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

HEY! It's a team effort! Absolutely. I am hung up, however, on the night I showed up and none of my teammates did. Maybe before your time? I was too shy to walk right back out again so I just hung out and played, on my own. And at the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It's a wealthy mostly white people thing these subjects where trivia = learned = nerd. They aren't necessarily consonant. You appear to have a beef with the Washington Post's treatment of this thing and have now just showed up here to... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

I think about this for a while, and then I get sad, because I really want to have friends of all sorts and not be plagued and made anxious by uncertainty and not knowing all the time, but I can never be normal. I'm not sure if this is something... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

"Everybody gets a hot meal regardless of caste, creed and religion."
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MeFi post - 3 weeks ago

I know what my intent was and it was not to pass him. I second what jetlagaddict has said. You should anonymize this and get a lawyer familiar with your specifics and your location. I understand that your intent matters very much to you... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

If my folks started being super weird or inappropriate with my friends or SO's my line was always "Hey I thought we were having a nice time" and then if they continued with that path I'd shift to "Seriously, stop it" and then if... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I'm a little more fed up with this sort of thing (and encounter it more rarely) and my response is usually more like "You are welcome to feel how you feel, but the statistics don't really support that." and then I have a few studies in my... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

As a child, I was in a household similar to the one you describe, with a workaholic, emotionally abusive father. For many years my mother thought she couldn't leave because "it would be better for the children" to keep the family... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

She recently asked me to evaluate her on a regular basis--an idea that is out of the norm in our workplace and makes me uncomfortable--so that she "knows she's doing a good job." Setting boundaries for this is important. A... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I get asked to do this sort of thing a lot. I have a few problems 1. My manners don't allow me to just start laughing and be all HAHAHAHAH NO FUCKING WAY with people which is what I know I should do 2. My skills don't let me half-ass a thing I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Where do I find pseudo-virgin, over-intelligent, over-thinking, wisdom seeking, hippyish, frugal, techie, geeky girls? 1. MetaFilter, seriously. I have had the same feelings that you describe when I'm looking at an online dating site and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Ants in the Squarepants: $3
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MeFi post - 3 weeks ago

From my perspective, it depends what you have worked out with your partner. If your partner wants the two of you to be a two income family and you want to stay at home, then you have some working-out to do between the two of you. If not, it's really... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

This is my go-to savory cookie snack thing. It may be an acquired taste, but these are tasty and filling while being decently low-cal and not very sweet at all. If you read the comments you'll see some subs for the amount of cheese. I've definitely... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I was very disappointed yesterday to find out that "Cast Away" is two words You and me both, refer-ee. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

There are no secret notes, fyi "We will be in town during that time." I have a place that I list on AirBnB and I probably decline maybe 75% of my listings with this reason. I rent out my apartment when I am not there. I leave... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I don't know what pushes your buttons, but these push mine. Four in the Morning by Jesse Colin Young Home is Where the Hatred Is by Gil Scott Heron Our Mother The Mountain by Townes Van Zandt (or Joel RL Phelps and the Downer Trio) House... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Why Tuesday? I suggest asking them. If they're packed solid on a weeknight they probably know why. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

be willing to listen to and respond to E's reaction before stopping contact. Nope. That is what people in relationships do and if your assertion is that you don't want to be in a messy relationship with this person then you don't have a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Until you have anything other than John's presentation/opinion of what his relationship is with Nancy, you really don't know quite what is going on. And I say this as someone who is [still] in a long distance but totally satisfying relationship with... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I'd welcome any basic context, caveats/warnings, ballpark costs. I have USAA and I think I pay $12/month and I have a tech rider for my laptops. You can give them a call and they can let you know in two minutes if you can get insurance... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

There are a bunch of various Twelve Tribes communities that live in and around rural Vermont especially in Island Pond which is a super rural Northeast Kingdom community. They're both out of place and not out of place. There's also a large and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

[few comments removed - folks OP is asking for "a nice present" not some sort of hectoring snarky gift reflecting your own personal opinions of police.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Is it usual to feel sad AFTER, and not DURING, a major life-change? For anxious people (at least, I am one) I think so, yes. For me it's a combination of things 1. the "I've made a huge mistake" regret feeling. Even though I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I used to teach GRE, before they had the computer tests. My best advice is always - take a sample test, timed and see how you are doing compare to how you want to be doing - spend what little money you have on actual tests and take these as close... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Once there is a Dummies Guide out, they are good to have as a reference because they will tell him how to do things if you're not around and, most importantly, they have an index which is good for looking things up. Spend some time in the Settings... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Anything that requires tearing shit up should be first. Anything making a mess should be second. Painting should be dead last and honestly you could leave this until you've moved in. Two weeks sounds optimistic. Actually it sounds impossible but... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

There is also the very common XY Problem which is my favorite and I talk about it all the time driving everyone crazy, sort of like what OnTheLastCastle is talking about, but narrower. Basically you ask for help solving one thing which you think is... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Here are the flags I would like to see. If I ran this site as a total dictatorship. - derail/noise - wtf - I will flag this instead of being a dick in the thread, but really, this sucks amirite - "not best of the web" is not a reason... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

MetaFilter can best be described as slightly hostile to nearly everything, except for the few things it is entirely hostile towards. And then there are pancakes and kittens.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I'm an atheist and I'm grateful all the time. This may be because I have some sense of "the fates" or whatever it was that aligned to mean that whatever is going well for me is going well. In any case, this seems to be a separate problem... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I would like him to arrive freshly showered in smoke free clothes if he wants contact with the baby. After he goes out for a smoke, he's done holding the baby for the day unless he changes his shirt and washes his hands and face. I would also... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

The test doesn't have anything more advanced than algebra and geometry. If they require you to use a complicated formula, they will tell you what it is. Sparknotes talks about this. You can probably do less math than the test even has on it and still... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

Not totally sure if the message is anti-app or pro-laptop, but I'm assuming you want to specify browser stuff specifically and not just computers generally. Some of these aren't things I totally believe but I think they'd work in a classroom setting.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I somehow ended up in A for 2 or 3 seasons, and boy howdy is it a pain to know you're going to get blown out in at least half of your matches. Cuing up a tiny violin from your friend in E League (there didn't even used to BE an E League!... [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I have a female shy, introverted gardener and she is amazing. I can't speak to working in larger groups where you'd need to get along with co-workers, but she basically comes to the house and does a certain amount of work in the week (a few hours, we... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

Where I'm off to
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MetaTalk post - 4 weeks ago

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