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You do not have to be married to have custody arrangements with a child's parent. You and your ex seem to have differing ideas of how this arrangement is supposed to work, so you need to make a formal agreement because the informal one does not work… [more]
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Ceri Houlbrook would want to at least know about them. (Did a post about her recently) [more]
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I have done this many times in various cars over the past 20 years so here is my loose advice... - You are unlikely to get disturbed most places but to minimize your chances, especially if you are concerned about harassment, you can choose:… [more]
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Now I'm as Canadian as apple pie Maple syrup . Quit trolling me! [more]
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SM Stirling (Emberverse guy) does some of this in his Nantucket series too, if you haven't read that. Less fantasy stuff in the first part. Kim Stanley Robinson's 2312 is a very world-buildy novel focusing a lot on how the governments work, who owns… [more]
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Yes! I trust my partner to call me out on any of my biases or flawed thinking, done with much love and care of course. Me too. To me part of love and partnership is that while I will care about them and love them (almost) no matter what,… [more]
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I have been exercising vigorously and spending a lot of (non-exercise) time in the sun during this week. Lots of sun and exercise both up my usual sleep time by nearby an hour. I go to bed and wake up when I want and keep rigorous track… [more]
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It was sort of a joke when I was a kid (70's?) that you didn't want to tell people you weren't home so people would occasionally have an answering machine message that had a very clear dog barking on it. My friend's dad made a joke answering machine… [more]
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I think of people's brains as having a number of different sliders in them that affect how they appear to the outside world. I am like this Outside Awareness__I_______________________________________Inside Awareness Where outside is being… [more]
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My 40s have been pretty great compared to other decades. I feel like I know who I am in a lot of ways and so can have more certainty in the things that I am doing. Doesn't mean I always do the sensible or "correct" thing but I have a better… [more]
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I wouldn't call Concord fun but I have always liked Concord. It's the state capitol so there is a neat walk around Capitol Area. I love diners and Concord has many decent qualities but no real diners The Common Man has good food but is… [more]
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Oh and read everything by and about Richard Proenneke also in Alaska. His journals are super readable. (and sorry I misread your question, Let us Now Praise Famous Men is not first-hand) [more]
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A Schoolteacher in Old Alaska: The Story of Hannah Breece is about a woman who went to Alaska in 1904 as a sort of missionary. So it's got annoying clueless colonialism (but surprisingly not as racist as you'd think) about Native/Indigenous people… [more]
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I guess I just don't fit in anymore. Your opinions line up with some people's and not with others'. There's not a monolithic morality in the US (where I think you are) though there may be within some subcultures. More to the point, there… [more]
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Red Molly! I saw them, they do a great live show. [more]
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Did you know that there is a garden at O'Hare? Or a yoga room? I have the same travel feelings. Love delays if it's not making me super late for anything. I always check to see if the airports have chapels, they are always empty and they… [more]
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I have a sister who is shaped more or less like you and see what works on her and what doesn't. I think the dress looks lovely and I think you can rock it. I think one of the things you should make sure you have is a really good bra! And also nice… [more]
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I have recently had a discussion with her telling her how I feel (as I have tried in the past) but she got very upset and cried and nothing really changes. This is not normal. It's okay for you to decide what normal is, for you, and then… [more]
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gingerbeer, I so want to drink with you folks. Highly recommended! [more]
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I loved my much-too-short visit to Duluth. The downtime library is bizarre and worth looking at. I enjoyed the great food and drink at the Lake Avenue Cafe, local foods AND local spirits. There is an Accordion Museum (you heard me) right across the… [more]
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That George Carlin bit about stuff? That is sort of me. I live in Vermont and have a regular messenger type bag which usually has laptop, phone & charging cables book to read (Kindle or paper) wallet pens & notecards sunglasses &… [more]
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SHIT THESE FUCKERS ARE SLOW COUNTERS Counting votes is actually harder than you would think, especially if shit's contentious. Signed, a vote counter [more]
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The work of dying is often insular and focused. Truth. My mom is in hospice care right now. She was a private person and that has, mostly, persisted. She barely wants to be around us (which is FINE) and doesn't have a lot of time for… [more]
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I hear where you're coming from naju. I express my radical beliefs here from time to time, but like with any community site there's a "read the room" aspect to what you decide to say and how you decide to say it. And one of the issues with… [more]
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I'd also mention that "X is scum" is different than the gauntlet throwing of "Every single member of this particular class or grouping makes a decision to align with murderers and abusers" which is basically just an "I dare… [more]
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From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anonymous:My wife is ugly. She knows it and I know it, but we've never talked about it. It's that hard. Until I met her, fell in love with her, and married her, I never really understood what a burden… [more]
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If you have an elected representative (Senator or Rep) who you feel comfortable with, you can contact their "Constituent Services" person who could also help navigate some of this or at least give her some good pointers since it concerns… [more]
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Unless there is significantly more to this story than you are explaining here, any "reporting" of this man that you would do is a clear cut violation of patron confidentiality. [more]
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- wonton wrappers - chocolate chips - peanut butter Wrap a few chips and a little bit of peanut butter in a wonton wrapper and fry in a shallow pan of hot oil until brown. Drain on paper towels. Serve warm with ginger ice cream. [more]
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Now I am stuck watching old episodes of Piip-Show. I'm going to try building one of these again.... [more]
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I was just waiting to see a picture of a squirrel to try to get in! Ha! I have admired these birdfeeders for some time and spent a little bit of time trying to get one up and running and it's a lot harder than it looks. I do not have a… [more]
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I had this problem with an exes family. They were super nice and super normal [more or less] and sort of thought that my relative distance from my family was in some way unnatural and/or unhealthy. I employed the technique pretty much like Savannah… [more]
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In reality, this was just a symptom of my then-unmanaged anxiety disorder. This is me! Or, rather, this is part of me. Once I got my anxiety more under my control I got a lot better at splitting out well-meaning advice that may have just… [more]
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I live in Vermont which is somewhere out on the edge for the US in terms of who is and is not a Vermonter. I grew up in Massachusetts and lived in Seattle for ten years after college and then moved Back East to live in Vermont. I've been in Vermont… [more]
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From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anon: My husband doesn't like my mom at all. He has some legitimate gripes and some more personality centered gripes, but they aren't going to go away. He will likely always dislike her. This has caused zero… [more]
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"Hey Katie (if their name is Catie), just FYI I spell my name with an H :)" I have a frequently misspelled name and I suggest not doing this only because it could be interpreted by some as passive aggressive and I don't think… [more]
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I'll message when I get home." To which she's responded "OK" then waits about thirty minutes Oh gosh yeah, this is not going to improve. "Hey this isn't really working out with me, I've got too much going on to make… [more]
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Because trailers are for trailer trash with beards and jailhouse tattoos, and tiny houses are for hipsters with beards and expensive tattoos. Yeah the thing that was always weird for me about the tiny house movement (as opposed to, you… [more]
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ReadMe! Usually I find books in one of three basic places - New shelf in one of the 3-4 libraries I frequent - NetGalley which provides Advanced Reading Copies of books to librarians and educators - talking to friends (and MetaFilter friends)… [more]
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She has said that she feels I need a rock and I think he came across as weaker/gentler. She feels I need someone more aggressive or assertive. Every culture is different but in my culture it is totally inappropriate for a parent to… [more]
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Count me as another person who never gives out her number in a non-work (i.e someone wants to hire me) environment. I will usually say "I literally never answer the phone, catch up with me on facebook?" or something similar. What… [more]
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in the hope that I can leave everyone better than when I met them This is an admirable goal for partners but I don't think it's as important to people you just met. Being kind and respectful to people who are basically strangers is a good… [more]
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Update: I still don't know what the damned thing is but I sure do like it. [more]
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When I see such a large number, are researchers forgetting that among the people they include may be babies or dementia sufferers who, in no way, could use a computer? The census doesn't ask about your internet connectivity. But many… [more]
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I'm terrible at this too but improving. Part of working on it for me has been determining what is me just being anxious about "Aaaaa I am trapped here and I am bad at ending conversations" and what is legit "I have to GO" stuff… [more]
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My mom has an FBI file on her. My dad was always sort of a quiet sort about his work even though he was briefly famous because of it. He would allude to having some sort of cloak and dagger side hustles. When he was in the hospital once… [more]
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ADORABLE. [more]
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