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My feeling is that while the emotional labor concept is a useful construct for understanding the larger world, the only time it's super useful when in active conversation with someone is when you are talking with a partner or someone you have a… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I'm on board for YAYPRIL even if no one else is. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

We love each other so, so much! Everyone's got their own skills. You could be a great person and a terrible moderator. You could be a great person and be bad at MetaFilter. Part of working through complicated social issues with a large… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Is this acceptable? Does the delayed-release aspect of the OTC Prevacid make this a bad idea? You should try - another doctor in your doctor's practice - calling the number on your health insurance card (if you have insurance) -… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Honestly a personal confirmation text seems over the line to me and I'm surprised a host would do that. As a guest I would feel a bit put off by that. I think I'm probably in the minority here, though. This is also how I'd feel about… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Thursday was my sobriety "anniversary." I've now been drug and alcohol free for 6 years! I am a fan of making a big deal about these milestones, so I hope you don't mind if I say congrats and "Go you!" That's hard work… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

The first eulogy I can remember really listening to was the one my cousin gave about my grandmother. I even asked him if I could put it online and he said sure, here it is. It managed to be funny and endearing at the same time as it didn't really… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I am one of those people who has a hard but not impossible time sleeping, someone for whom "sleep hygiene" has been a total game changer. I treat sleep like it is my JOB and have been keeping a sleep journal all this year. Part of not… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

So why do we treat it as lowercase italic in the bylines on Ask MetaFilter itself (both the front page and in thread view)? To give it some small clear indication of being a special case—that this is actually an anonymous question rather than a… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 4 weeks ago

FWIW, my wife is supportive, but feels stuck in the middle. She tends to be more accepting of her mom, but has also backed me frequently in these spats. She also thinks I could lighten up (which is true). The trouble is her interventions have not… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

How do you feel about AirBnBs? I just got back from Toronto and stayed in a nice place just near the convention center which had a kitchen and laundry as well as one full bedroom and a pull out couch thing in the kitchen. Fairly inexpensive. Will… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

it seems besides the point as me bringing it up was just a light-hearted comment on a friend's idiosyncrasies. Does even this count as "talking about politics" (so, traditionally considered a bad topic of conversation) or did I run… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

People have given you a lot of specific things and the overarching answer of "Ask your staff" is useful though not everyone wants to have a conversation about their anxiety or maybe even knows they have it. I worked for an anxious boss for… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

My whole incentive for this post was that I am working in a public library all week (not my usual thing) and they have this glass sconce thing on the wall that has a little handwritten note in it, in a frame, that says "Gift to Chelsea from the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

He was very much the sort of MeFite that makes MetaFilter a good place to be, and he'll be missed terribly. This is exactly how I feel. He was often showing up with a nice thing to say or give people advice with their own radio or… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

$140,000? Wow. With my current, admittedly very low expenditures, I could live on this money for... like a decade? Part of the difference between MeFi as a workplace and most other places on the web that employ people is that the… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

I'm 38, unmarried, no kids, pretty happy. I got out of a long term relationship last year and spent a lot of time being less-than-happy not because I don't like being single but because I had, for a time, shifted my priorities into thinking that… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I live in a small town and there are some people who are like this. And yes, some part of this is just dealing with people who are challenging in whatever way they are. My landlady is like this, to other people, she is a doll to me. Understanding how… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I'm aware that you'd like to purchase a copy and I wish you luck finding one, but there is a large format JPG online that would at least make a good small print if you don't manage to find one. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

Your coworker is likely wrong. This does depend somewhat on your workplace, but not much. That said, whether your coworker is suffering from a mental illness is a more up-in-the-air issue and people have similar concerns about throwing around the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

None of this would have happened before titles got added to the home page. You start a comment with this, the rest of it just sounds like BLA BLA MOD BLA BLA, for future reference. Lead with your good ideas. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

I'm a chump. You are fine. We are all fine. I sometimes just paste the URL into Google with the word "MetaFilter" after it which will sometimes work. In conclusion MetaFilter is a land of contrasts. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

But that feels like doubling down on making it an issue, plus it's a lot of work. If it's a "They can NEVER come" to a casual thing, then I'd not put them on an invite list, tell them the one time that you're thinking of them… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

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MeFi comment - Last month

I. Need. To. Relax.
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Ask MeFi post - Last month

I can't see how you thought it revealed anything about my political leanings... You specifically said, in the comment I removed: "I consider myself a "classical" liberal, but increasingly find myself disgusted by… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

Is it safe and sufficient to simply wear an airmask and sweep them off and away with a brush and dustpan? Yes. Wear gloves and carry a bleach and water solution with you like kinddieserzeit's link suggests. Avoid the vacuum if you can at… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I tracked down a random person on a dating site once (who was trying to stay anon) and he asked me how I did it. There are a lot of ways, but this is what I did. - I noticed he had a pro head shot with some distinct styling - I did a reverse… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

From the OP:I am very grateful for the advice given to me in this thread that focuses on the hopeful, responsible, and adult thing to do. My therapist, who I’ve been seeing for 4 months about this situation, is giving me similar input. It helps to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I'm both good and bad at being productive. That is, I get a decent amount of stuff done. At the same time, given the number of hours I spend doing that stuff, I am screwing around an awful lot. My friend has a technique he likes to call The Virtuous… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I very much enjoyed reading Cannabiz: The Explosive Rise of the Medical Marijuana Industry by John Geluardi which addresses this topic in depth. It's a pro-legalize-it book about the major economic growth that is opened up by legalization including… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

Sort of depends why you think this needs to happen? Worst case scenario if you missed something not in your favor is you get a letter from the IRS or state tax people (I have gotten both) and you need to, at that point, pay them what you owe. There… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

a very real rivalry between snot-nosed Lexington (Rachel Dratch's home) and plucky Burlington (home of Amy Poehler). I did not know that! I grew up down the street from there, in Boxboro (the town that looks like a box!) a town that has… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

I wished my fellow Irish Jew maxsparber a Happy St Patrick's Day and told him I liked his interview on Race Invaders. I wore green because it's Vermont and it's basically the law to wear it every day, but I also wore my orange belt because damn the… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

The thing is, it's a waste of time for her to craft some personalized email about stuff you can find through a google search. I genuinely think her response was appropriate and it was your expectations that were out of line. She could… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

There is so, so much to choose from! Indeed. Many of the "as a kid I embarrassed my parents" stories were trotted out over and over again when I was an adult, in front of my friends, because my mom was Still Mad about them. So,… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

Not sure if this is helpful to the discussion but I had a new fridge with a weird noise issue (different one than yours) and I just called the people who delivered it who sent out a guy who ... tried some things and said that usually people get used… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

What's the name for that idea, of "comfort in, dump out?" The Silk Ring Theory, yep. I assume you've seen it, but the thing that I think a lot of people sometimes miss is that they can help the entire situation by moderating… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

One of the things, along these lines that was helpful for me with recrimination was realizing that in a non-abusive environment, bad things can happen without some worse thing happening. So like... when I was a kid you'd break a glass or something… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

running a Google Docs spreadsheet of spending. All spending I'm doing a variant of this, but with an app (went looking for app recommendations in AskMe, found my question from five years ago, wtf me). After leaving my job at the Archive… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - Last month

However, most of the conversations with friends is listening to their frustrations around parenting, marriage, job, etc. For me it was helpful to understand which sorts of venting conversations were a friend letting off steam because… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

Friends are staying over to watch my place and feed my cats. I think something vague like this is good. "Friends will be in and out looking after the space and my cats" and then maybe give her contact information for more… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I feel like they were singling out a type of city dweller, not saying "This is a city thing." It's tough because Brooklyn has become sort of ground zero for hipster/gentrification lulz but there are also a lot of people who live there… [more]
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FanFare comment - Last month

I'd be starting at a restaurant place and looking at something that is high-end for a mass reailer but might work for you? So like this page of white bib aprons. The top stuff is basically disposable stuff but as you scroll down you get more… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

I'd be amazed if that sketch wasn't written at least partially by lesbians. I was wondering that myself, but with McKinnon as the only out member of the cast I did find it a little wincey. I mean I got the jokey part about the general… [more]
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FanFare comment - Last month

It is completely appropriate of you to wonder what is up. That said, this can be a normal internet-person response for a variety of reasons ranging from fuckups to life stuff going on to mental health issues. Think what you would like to get out of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

Some of it depends on where you are in your life already. I think a lot of people get some casual approval (when they're not in a great place) from social media interactions. There are, often, some places that are just for that sort of thing where… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

That seems like a pretty big inconvenience for a night out... I live in a rural area, there is no public transportation at all. And no cabs. A lot of people don't go out drinking as much during the week. So you go out on the weekend and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last month

it will not make you more desirable This may be skewed for women, possibly, because I found that losing 25% of my body weight was totally the difference between getting random attention and not. Which is, as you might expect, a mixed bag… [more]
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MeFi comment - Last month

I've got low level anxiety that a noise is coming. I've mostly given up trying to read novels when he's in the room. Hey this is us! I'm a low-level anxious person with a fierce startle reflex and my guy is a noise machine with… [more]
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