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I come from a family of problem drinkers and for me this is over the line. Not just the showing up late drunk and babbling (what? not okay!) but if he's a regular heavy drinker then it seems like it's a bad fit for you. Nothing necessarily wrong... [more]
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He borrowed my tools, which were better than his, and then didn't clean them. When I asked him to clean the grease and oil off of them because they were clean when I lent them to him he had a hissy fit and started tossing them around. They were... [more]
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From a MeFite who would like to remain anonymous: Answers to this question really illustrate why women always feel like they can't trust their instincts about people and try to stand up for themselves without worrying about being "mean."... [more]
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The Mary Russell books by Laurie King. The stories are set between 1915 and the late 1920s, mainly in England but extending to Scotland, Wales, Palestine, northern India, California, Portugal, and Morocco. They begin with fifteen year-old Mary... [more]
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Seconding Lost Cosmonaut. I just read it a few months ago. The author's not entirely likable but the places he goes (pretty remote and non-touristy parts of Russia) is really fascinating. If you want not just cheery but actually funny, you might like... [more]
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My boyfriend of four years, the one who I was talking to open-endedly about getting married to balked in a very embarrassing and deer-in-headlights way when I mentioned that I was losing my health insurance because my job was ending and so with that... [more]
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Hey now. [more]
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FYI, I got a facebook message from Bob's aunt saying thanks for the letter and that they've been over here reading the comments folks have been leaving. It made them happy to know that Bob had a large community who cared about him.... [more]
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But maybe I've been a complete asshole. Nope, trust your instincts. This guy violated a number of boundaries both with you and that is reason enough to cut him off. I am sorry he is in pain because being in pain sucks. That said, if the... [more]
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"You might have to rethink that if you plan on being a politician's wife." The flip-side of this Him: I'm just not ruling out maybe running for office someday. Me: If you do that I'll become a stripper just to spite you. I... [more]
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I am pretty sure this will confirm her suspicion that I am the trashiest trash that ever trashed the Earth. The hardest thing to do is stop thinking about what she is thinking about you. It's really hard to get out from under someone who... [more]
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- when he told me that he thought rain was "dirty" - when it turned out his sister got blackout drunk and came home shrieking over most holidays and we were required to spend holidays with his family and everyone refused to talk about this... [more]
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can you say with 100% confidence that you are devoting your complete attention to the customer or are you off browsing Facebook and goofing off with your co-workers when on the line with a customer? I used to do phone support for an... [more]
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I don't think I've ever gotten the famous "runner's high". For me it's like jaguar says, I experience what it must be like to not be anxious all the time. I love everyone and am very very hungry and I sleep like I imagine... [more]
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How do you feel about Vieques? It's a bit of a schlep to get to (fly into San Juan, have to take a small plane or a ferry out there which you need to get to by taxi) but you can stay right on or near the water and it's inexpensive and off the beaten... [more]
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From the OP: Thank you all so much for your comments. Sorry for the delay in replying; I wanted to think about what you all said for a while. I went to see a therapist today - the opportunity more or less fell into my lap and it felt like a sign.... [more]
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I'm sorry you're feling poorly. I go through a bunch of stages really, the major one of which is really that it's okay to still love someone, what you're mostly getting used to is not being loved back. That is, it's okay to love someone who doesn't... [more]
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I bet if you ask someone "What is the correct way to load the dishwasher?" you will get all the answers you need about their level of fastidiousness. Or even "Do you care about how the dishwasher gets loaded?" you'd... [more]
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I always start with this stuff with Mother Earth magazine (ignore the print dialog box) who has a lot of great stuff about homesteading and suggest a few kits on that page. They also suggest contacting your local mycological association to see what's... [more]
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She's not going to change. I can't cut her out of my life, so I must learn how to manage my reaction to her. I was in therapy, but we had to stop because we can't afford it. I don't want to take medication, either. My anxiety/OCD issues have... [more]
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When I was a kid I used to hate it when huge blowing up outfreakage disputes between me and my sister wound up with my mom basically saying "You're both being awful and the best way to wrap this up is for you to just go away and do something... [more]
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Q: What are the top 13 iOS 6 Siri answers? Siri never understands me. I'm wondering if this is because I changed the voice to be Australian and now it's expecting me to speak Australian, or if I am just much more mumbly than I... [more]
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There is also the very common XY Problem which is my favorite and I talk about it all the time driving everyone crazy, sort of like what OnTheLastCastle is talking about, but narrower. Basically you ask for help solving one thing which you think is... [more]
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Is this really a recurring issue? People asking questions that are not phrased in ways that are liable to get them good answers is a recurring issue. Common failure modes are - You are too angry/emotional to ask a good question and... [more]
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All the same, I can't stop worrying about money. Hello, me. I am sorry because this is hard. In my life I had a two parent family where my dad worked and my mom was an anxious mess about money but at the same time mostly just running... [more]
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I used to hear these on Dr. Demento all the time. Looks like that one is a thing that Dickie Goodman did and there's a list of all the songs that are sampled in it. In the Wikipedia article they call it "break-in" music... [more]
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According to DIY alarm forums, this is a thing Brinks CAN fix but rarely wants to. The folks in this forum thread explain the issue and offer some suggestions. This post explains how you could replace the system you have with a different system using... [more]
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My sister had a cat with a food tube maybe five years ago. The cat barely minded it which was so weird (she looked ridiculous, it looked painful) and it worked just like it was supposed to. She fattened right up and lived another five healthy years... [more]
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My former boss at the Odd Fellows Hall John Michael Greer has written a number of different reference books that might be approaching what you are looking for including Monsters: An Investigator's Guide to Magical Beings and his New Encyclopedia of... [more]
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[the timing of this thread is a little ungreat - if it's going to stick around it really needs to not look like one person's excuse to fight with everyone else. a little less self-moderation a little more discussion and I think we'll be ok. okay?... [more]
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I think it's perfectly appropriate to draw the line at not being with your friend while they are drinking. This is how I dealt with the problem alcoholic in my family. I would not be with them while they drank and would not talk to them on the phone... [more]
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The Tudors is not exactly smart, but it does the same thing that Downton Abbey does where it pays a lot of attention to period detail (sometimes incorrectly but they definitely try) so you can see the fashions and some of the architecture and other... [more]
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Oh SassHat, I am sorry for your loss. . [more]
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ALA's Association for Library Service to Children has a set of graphic novels for children lists and this is the list for the K-2 set (pdf). Of those, I can recommend the Kochalka book and there are a few that are part of series that are sometimes... [more]
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there was at least one solid laugh in every sketch, which often isn't the case. I felt the same way. Harrelson isn't that awesome as a sketch player but he seemed good-natured and they built that into his bits instead of trying to make... [more]
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Is it possible to mark this a meetup thread (or whatever it's called) I just did that. Not sure if it still works but I did it. [more]
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A did a strip that did not mock rape survivors in any way. For the record, we are absolutely not going to have a first-principles discussion about the original issues here. If people want to take this up with TFB over MeMail, that is... [more]
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TPS sort of has my knee-jerk approach. The thing about chivalry is that it harkens back to a time when gender differences were more regularized and understood across the board, and there was closer to one standardized way to be... [more]
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Can they follow along with graphic novels generally? They are often my go-to for any sort of reluctant readers. There are some long but high interest books like Beanworld. Simple plot outlines and very straightforward but discussing more complex... [more]
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Archer Mayor has written a whole series of cop procedurals about Vermont. He lives in Vermont. I live in Vermont and the books seem very Vermont-y to me. That is, they're not just set in Vermont but they are in recognizable places and the people in... [more]
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That never happened!! [more]
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A big picnic by the waterfront and a ferry ride around Lake Champlain if the weather is bad would be a good simple plan that everyone can get to. Kids can run around, parents can sit and talk. The ferry tour thing is more fun than you would think it... [more]
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G*F*ckY**rs*lf. Mine didn't. [more]
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She wrote me an apology card which basically said that she was sorry she had lost her temper, but But nothing. Fuck her. Sorry your mom is acting like a child. I have a similar adolescent mother but her issue is mostly jealousy about my... [more]
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It's generally against the rules of etiquette, unless this is something you agreed on beforehand, for a roommate to have their partner over every night. It's not about bills, it's about fairness and the fact that you want 50% of an apartment not... [more]
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That's great, but what I would also like to do is talk about sexual harrassment issues that are specific to science-fiction and fantasy fandom. One of the problems that we have here that you'll also likely have there is that if you're... [more]
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I just want to know why some people are so insistent on dismissing other people's experiences, that's all. I think there are a bunch of personality traits that don't get as much attention as others. We talk about sympathy and empathy and... [more]
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Yes to Brautigan and Calvino and Borges (hi jammy!). I think you'd also enjoy - George Saunders Pastoralia - weird but not too weird. Not really scifi. Slightly fantastical - Dangerous Laughter by Steven Millhauser - same thing. Rewards close... [more]
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I can't point to any specific problems they would be likely to cause. They make people really angry when used in thoughtless ways and make light of people who actually have trigger issues they are trying to manage. They punch down. If you... [more]
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it's more a term of art Yep. It's one of those messy situations like the word racism which has a term of art meaning (discrimination+power) and a more general meaning (discrimination). I have a hard time seeing it as the latter,... [more]
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