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this simply appears to be a second instance of manipulating etiquette to get what he wants. There are always going to be an aspect of "the benefits of social engineering" when you have a site that is run by humans. The fact that... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

I've done this travelling on Amtrak on and off for a month. Keep in mind that you can obtain cold and hot water from the dining car (may have to pay for "tea" if they're really being jerks) so things that you add hot water too [ramen,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It's going to pretty fancy but I'm okay with being underdressed - I just want to not be noticeably underdressed. I agree that pants and a shirt is going to be too casual but once you've outfitted with a jacket (and I concur with what... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It does look like he was flipping the bird. Check the video. I agree that that's what it looks like. It's all but invisible in the actual timeframe of what was happening. Frustrated gesture, sure. The argument is that the excerpting of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

huh. I was interested in the little tagline at the end of the article "Another problem with girls’ rooms is that they in some cases fall outside the information flow." So whether it's by design or just a weird side effect the "girls... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

For you, maybe. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Would MeFi consider developing this? Nope. I can see why it would have value to other people but all it spells is H-E-A-D-A-C-H-E from my vantage point. That is, it solves a problem for users but creates huge moderation concerns issues.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Clickbaity headlines (and pullquoting) nonwithstanding, this is actually an interesting article mostly about why some Chinese scholars believe that understanding the history of Judaism and Jewish thought may be useful in China and is worth a read.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Also just to speak to the specific issue you are having. The way small ad hoc libraries deal with this is usually just to trust that people will not wander off with stuff or, if they do, the stuff can be tracked down and returned. Usually there is an... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

positive racist stereotypes are still racist stereotypes Not disagreeing at all and I think the article and what it's outlining are still problematic in a bunch of ways. But maybe it's the shruggy Jew in me saying "Eh, I'll take it...... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

My shovel is frozen into the goddamned ground. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Budget is most definitely an issue, so anything over UK£100 is not likely to be an option.... Librarians -- rescue me with your wisdom. With these restrictions, this can't really be done. You're better off locking the books up entirely... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

[Hello! This is a thread about a sexual harassment issue! If you could not go from zero-to-snarky in 30 minutes and not make this all immediately personal it would be helpful. Use your "I am trying not to start shit" voice. Ask us if you... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

For me the big issue is that, as much as I would like to, I don't get to choose that people not be racist to me. I mean I don't maybe "look Jewish" so there's that, but ultimately a lot of this is out of my hands and it's just important to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Present-day Rhode Island! Note: not actually an island. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Just making sure you know that the Corporation for National and Community Service does do the functional equivalent of this through the Americorps/SeniorCorps programs. This used to be VISTA in the 60s and was incorporated into AmeriCorps in the 90s.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Their world is a polite, respectful place where the only fundamental social interaction is contract law, and market forces will take care of the rest. Pretty sure madajb's point was that that's all well and good, but the path from here... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

[threads about suicide are complex, please make an effort to show that you are trying to have a conversation and not just lob conversational bombs into this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

How bout "There's nothing really actionably wrong with this but it's bothering me" [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

Bruce Weber was a well-known fashion photographer when he made the documentary about Chet Baker Let's Get Lost. I was really into his photography and didn't know much about Baker but it was cool to see how Weber's odd vision translated into moving... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I can't tell if you're agreeing with me or not, but that is my point. Also, we need to rethink how we build in the future. Nobody here is advocating moving countryfolk into the cities at gunpoint. I'm basically agreeing with your general... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Can you make more money waiting fine dining? yea, i might have been a bit hyperbolic there. But that's exactly the assertion she was responding to. Handwavey math nonwithstanding, fancy dining people make a shitton with tips. No one is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Hey you're about my age and in my general cohort! I'm not looking but if I were I'd get all the way to the end and then be "Criminal activities? Huh?" so you might want to either clarify if this is something that is super important to you... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

you guys seem to have specifically okayed the use of a sock because the person was afraid of blowback. I really don't understand the reasoning behind okaying it. I clearly misjudged the impact of the word and the request, having very... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I taught a beginner facebook class tonight for a few rural Vermonters all of whom are older than me and all of whom had facebook accounts. Even before class started there was a lady who was saying "Man these people, I don't care what you had for... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

[it's so much easier for us to fix things if you just let us know about it and don't just get sticky about it in the thread.] [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Since we're talking about a phrase someone used to describe himself, are you saying it shouldn't have been quoted at all because it's a misnomer? The quote is in this interview, in case people want to read it in context. Here's the bit.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

it'll probably be at least 2 years before the divorce is finalized due to logistical reasons (financial complications). This sounds murky and weird. I am a divorced person and I am dating someone who was in a complicated relationship... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Leaving envelopes with jewels and feathers inside books isn't really great for the bindings. I hate that this is one of the first things I thought of too.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Either the user's fear is justified, in which case, surely the mods ought to take action, not simply approve the sockpuppet, or the mods have (inadvertantly) given credence to this user's false claim of fear. We let people self-assess if... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I think people (or just me?) feel the appropriate response once the comment appeared was Nope, you're right. It was a mistake in a fast moving thread that's not undoable at this point. I am sorry for misjudging.... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

wfrgms Ah right, he'd been banned a while back and then the act of unbanning (to mark him as deceased) had brought back his weird profile page ranting stuff that we'd all forgotten about and then we changed the way we dealt with deceased... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I can start that thread... Could you maybe do it a little later unless there's a time sensitive nature to it? Like in a few days? We pretty much try to not be all "Hey, it's hard out there for a mod" but this thread has been particularly... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

overblown and selectively enforced concerns about clarity and fightiness "Don't use inflammatory pullquotes in a post on an incredibly touchy topic" is pretty bog-standard as far as a deletion reasoning and we elaborated on that... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

the very concept of "meeting your audience" is, itself, an ideology It's an ideology about how the site should run. It's not an ideology about what you're allowed to talk about topic-wise. We have other proscriptions that people... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

MetaFilter is not entirely free of mod-enforced suppression of ideology. Just maybe to be clear, I get what Etrigan is getting at and this is something I would agree with. There are cases in which we've made top-down decisions to nix... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

even there the site skews American on the acceptability of certain c- and t- words We have the same approach to the word spaz even though it's definitely not as offensive in the US as it is in the UK. It's not "Oh our interpretation... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

But in that case, it was a little too left for Metafilter sensibilities. I deleted that. Your impression of why that comment was deleted bears little resemblance to why it was actually deleted or why we told you it had been deleted when... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

Everyone experiences the site differently. That's my experience. Yeah I don't see this place as toxic to me as a woman but I think I have a high threshold for bullshit and don't expect others to share this. Watching yet another sexism... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

What if it's bothering us and we're not sure if they're actionable? That's fine too! Sometimes people just want to say "Hey that user is doing that thing again, thought you should know" and that's fine. Why are there flag... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

[Folks maybe talk about the article and to each other and don't just use this thread to Make a Stand about a thing you Have Feels on? Please?... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

good news! wait... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

[Comment removed. Come on folks, if you want to just sneer at the entire site you know you need to go to MetaTalk to do that.] [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I'm both good and bad at being productive. That is, I get a decent amount of stuff done. At the same time, given the number of hours I spend doing that stuff, I am screwing around an awful lot. My friend has a technique he likes to call The Virtuous... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Yep, we closed that account down. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

If the first comment by mbs was not at all what the mods were expecting or agreed to, then why wasn't the comment just deleted? Answering a direct question here, not trying to excuse anything - I was busy Googling TERF stuff to try to... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

I sort of get what RogerB is getting at, even though I think we draw differing conclusions from it. Our approach here has been, for a long while now, that people may not be able to control how they feel, but they can control how they type in the box... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

There's a lot of "Metafilter is politically neutral!" or "Metafilter has no bias!" when it seems patently obvious that Metafilter skews left-liberal, educated, white, middle-upper-middle class. Who says that? There's... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

There are a lot of sleepy motels in the Burlington area, mostly near the airport, that you could get for that amount of money. Here's an example. Not that fancy, but cheap and definitely safe. Further outside of Chittenden County (maybe 30-40 min... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

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