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I don't see it as racist, but I do see it as a little weird. That is, pointing out the otherness of someone else in that "wow, that person is so unlike me/us that it's worth remarking on..." is likely a statement made by someone in a… [more]
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As a frequent traveler who often has to make choices like this, I am completely on Team Jay here (not that it even needs to be about taking sides!). I have friends that I appreciate as people but don't necessarily want to see on a short/stressful… [more]
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I had a neighbor in rural VT who was somewhat like the man you describe and we have gotten into very similar arguments where I felt totally menaced. He is a large, loud guy who has a sort of yelling voice. That said, I knew a little bit more about… [more]
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It was sort of a joke when I was a kid (70's?) that you didn't want to tell people you weren't home so people would occasionally have an answering machine message that had a very clear dog barking on it. My friend's dad made a joke answering machine… [more]
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Part of the idea of privilege (and the corresponding ideas of institutionalized racism/sexism) is that certain things are just easier and you don't even know they're easy because they seem normal to you. I taught college at a community college where… [more]
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For people who are interested in the thing but maybe don't need to be a part of the thing, popular MLTSHP stuff now hits this twitter feed too. [more]
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(Confidential to Josh: totally cool but can you remove the MLKSHK entries because they are no longer going to anyplace...?) [more]
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But I am feeling panick-y about telling her that we could move because I don't want to be yelled at/face her extremely negative emotions. I'm sorry, I know that bad feeling. Sometimes it's helpful for me to model what… [more]
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It sure is snappier than mlkshk in loading the page. So far. I don't know the specifics but we changed a few things both about hosting and how MONSTER GIFs are rendered that should help with some of that stuff. I am hoping the peppiness… [more]
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Yeah we were afraid, originally, that hosting a ton of animated GIFs and hotlinking them would wind up giving us HUGE bandwidth bills that we couldn't manage. The three things that sunk the older site were: legal threats, spammers and irregular $$… [more]
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I have done this and made a photo tutorial. As long as it's within first class mail sizes (and proportions, they are fussy about that) you have a lot of leeway. Some of the first envelopes I made were form a moon atlas! As far as sealer, you can get… [more]
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It's actually easy: stay together until you don't. This has been my approach. I would say this does not work if you have certain things you need to seriously plan a life for, like having children. Everything else, literally everything… [more]
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Oh right, that reminds me of the You Can Play project (which started with former Toronto Maple Leafs GM Brian Burke, and his son Patrick Burke) that I made an FPP about, promoting equal opportunity for LGBT athletes. [more]
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I didn't realize the Leslie Jones/Kyle Mooney thing was a recurring bit. That is, I think, the third episode of that particular bit. Does Pete Davidson's sobriety segment seem bleak to anyone else? He came across as shaky… [more]
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I am a money hoarder. It's a symptom of my general anxiety and some issues about self-worth (thanks lousy parents) and I've been working on it. At some level money is worth the value you put on it and those around you put on it once your basic needs… [more]
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Men and women in AskMe both frequently get told to get lawyers that will protect and defend their legal rights to their home and property. This particular situation seems like one that could be well-served by having not just competent, but possibly… [more]
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You could also talk about your own anxiety (if you have it) and what medications/therapies have helped you This works for me. My sister and I both have a lot of the same underlying bad-family/genetics issues that have made us anxious… [more]
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ideally we would like to stay in the Bay Area for at least the next 3 years, if not longer. Unless you bring something really special to the area (being bilingual, experience with library tech, experience with specific service populations… [more]
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This sounds like process serving. The downside to this is that the person you are delivering the document to may very much not want to receive the document and so in order for you to complete this task you will have to harass and/or hassle this… [more]
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I believe in karma, or maybe I believe that I can just hex people with my mind when I see them fucking around being awful. But in a lot of ways I am one of those prepared lucky people. So I think a lot of things are good luck omens (even numbers of… [more]
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I grew up in an Italian-Catholic "evil eye" family Oh gosh I totally forgot that I grew up in a (half) Jewish "evil eye" family, so I had some older male relative with an ear pierced to ward off the evil eye and my… [more]
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There must be a cabal; I tried to post a Slothropian comment and THEY deleted it. Please be mindful that not everyone here on this international website understands why the first comment in this thread was about your boner. [more]
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I think Pine was a good talented enjoyable host and this show was solidly good. A few bits I loved--opening monologue, Vanessa's weather forecaster, and the House Seattle--and a few a little less. Overall though it seemed like a good average episode… [more]
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Can I get over my ex while still retaining hope that we might get back together someday? Not really. On the other hand, you can move on. When I've been through really sad breakups where we both still cared about each other but just… [more]
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Part of the concern about paying hourly for stuff is you're never sure how long it takes other people to do things. This is particularly true as communication moves to email from the phone (when you both know how long a phone call took). Depending on… [more]
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I write for a magazine and occasionally include pull quotes. They are usually thought of in my non-fancy trade magazine world as a graphic element that can be moved around a little bit relative to the text so that the PAGE looks right. So while I… [more]
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Mine was from 1999, was by mathowie and had zero comments. [more]
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FLESH I not only recorded the podcast yesterday I also listened to the podcast yesterday and I am not sure what that is doing there. [more]
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I name my cars and try to give them names that could stand for a few things. My current car which is a boring black CRV that makes me feel like a tool driving it is called Prince. And if people ask I tell them - you know like Prince Fielder, a… [more]
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Adding an obvious trademark to an idea that's been around for decades, claiming you're a non-profit activist organization, and then demanding nothing but a check for $40 to use your trademark is shady as hell. This was part of the… [more]
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Sweethome actually changed their pick a few weeks ago (without changing the article for some SEO reason) and this is their new one.... We’re changing our picks. We’ve found compelling evidence that dual-hose portable ACs are much more efficient… [more]
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I have been thinking about this all weekend and I have no idea what sort of animal I would be. Something with fur. Sand cat? Golden mole? Solenodon, venomous and nocturnal? Plant is easy: moss! I am part moss already. [more]
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I don't even know where to begin with the idea that public libraries confer some kind of cachet on LFLs, that just seems bizarre. I work in the profession. People regularly come up to me and ask what I think about Little Free Libraries,… [more]
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We first presented this together at a conference that jessamyn keynoted And I am sorry I missed your talk because then it would have been four! I do strongly suggest people read the original article. CityLab makes it sound a bunch more… [more]
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Depending how old your friend is and how much they know about the internet, it might be good to make a sort of metaphor to something like the POTS system (plain old telephone) or the highway system. I teach older people how to use computers and some… [more]
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Thanks, as always, cortex. [more]
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If you feel like just being mad about this (and I am in your corner if you choose to go that way - everyone deals with grief in different ways) you can report these companies and these letters to the Post Office. It's a hassle but they WILL stop… [more]
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I wonder if there is a way to have a discussion website that is welcoming to women, trans people and people of color, and still feels welcoming to people on the right. I've always wondered about this issue and I feel like the answer is… [more]
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If you can co-give flowers with your sister, that's even better, since it dilutes the effect. I do this. I am your age and I have a mother like yours, though she rarely hangs up on me anymore because we basically don't talk on the phone… [more]
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this seems so bizarre I'm wondering if people actually believed it or if it was an artificial assumption to provide plot motivation. The example that I have about this from my reading is by (the other) Jessamyn West. She has a book of… [more]
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Habits, generally. Specifically - 45 min of "no screen" time in the am - flossing/brushing daily - meditation daily - reading 30+ minutes before bed (and no other screens) [more]
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Reader, I married them. [more]
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It might be helpful to draw a distinction between "I'm an asshole" and "I behave badly and don't seem to be getting a handle on it" It's easier to look at this as a behavior you have to change than an immutable part of your… [more]
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When stuff isn't clear, why over-moderate rather than under-moderate? We try to make our best guesses. Last week, after we'd specifically dialed things back a little, there were quite a few "Why didn't you delete this??" MeTa… [more]
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Yeah your question has a few parts to it - Does Smallville find out Bob has died? Almost certainly yes. If Bob owns a house, there is paperwork saying Bob owns that house and in most places (in the US) he'd be paying taxes on it. Metropolis police… [more]
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This is small and goofy but the Dragon Tax Return Simulator is an amusing little one-off amusing thing to play. [more]
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Knowing that I can just grab a healthy meal or snack any time I want and not have to cook or wash a dish makes her blood boil. There are ways she can have this too, it's just expensive. And if it's a thing she wants, you can both work… [more]
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