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If it helps, I don't even hear the "Do something about it" part of it, I just hear "This situation is suboptimal" and I'm a pleaser and so I'd aim for optimization just to be helpful/friendly. Others may be different but that's… [more]
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It feels dismissive of the fact that I know how to take care of myself independently and have been doing so for years. I have an anxious mom and this is all pretty familiar to me. She's not really open to working on it so I basically… [more]
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Yeah I'd consider linking it more visibly. I understand why there is not a privacy policy but since there are a lot of interdependent privacy-related issues at MeFi it would be good to have one place where people can read a document and figure (most… [more]
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I'm not saying that you couldn't have [concerning condition] but all the things you describe have happened to me for no reason and have gone away again. I am an anxious person who easily somatizes things and I have all kinds of weird random crap… [more]
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This title is brilliant. [more]
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Why not keep the same interface as before but add 'add note' at the bottom? This is very clever actually. Keep the flag glyph because it's a great idea, just add "add note"to the end of the flagging options. Most people's… [more]
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You should bring the delicious rice salad that I had at this dinner this week. It is simple, festive, tasty and interesting enough that people won't be all weird about it. I think it went something like this - cooked rice [brown rice if people are… [more]
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a very angry late night fight where things were thrown, glass was broken, and our daughter was awake during the whole thing This is an oddly passive voice sentence. I agree with orsonet. Apologize to her for fighting as if it's a bad… [more]
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Doooooo it. [more]
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This was my life for a long time. I was always with guys in this sort of "dry dating" scenario where we'd had some sort of conversation about how we weren't dating but then he'd act all dating-y. And honestly while I think you can ascribe… [more]
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Oh that's great. I used to live in Romania and I miss the music there. [more]
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my brother seems to think that means he has to quit soon and go somewhere else, because otherwise he’ll be fired at the end of the probation period. This is only true if your brother is going to refuse to work on his problem… [more]
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This isn't even a good Wikipedia article, but it has links to some good personality-changes studies. as people age (40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond), they become cranky and rigid I totally resemble this! My feelings are very similar to… [more]
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As a survivor of severe sexual abuse from family I know in my heart I cannot have a relationship with someone who has regular contact with a molester. We had many conversations about this and I told her I would support her in whatever she felt… [more]
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Having once been the woman on the other side of this, it's kind of uncomfortable to have the slow, dawning realization that a great friendship with a guy that you thought was totally platonic actually has some undertones of something else… [more]
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Part of this is you and your gf working this out, not her having some idea in her head of what would work and making you guess it. So, even in the moment, you can be like "Wow that sounds super frustrating, would it be helpful to talk about it… [more]
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Oh for pete's sake. I went to find a copy of the Gahan Wilson comic that I was talking about, found it on a Flickr server, did a reverse image search and found it ON MY OWN ACCOUNT where I'd put it seven years ago. Here is it, re: Hundred Years War. [more]
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To me incense is too heavy and doesn't smell like a forest. Agree generally but I think some of the balsam incense is pretty good.Depending how much "tree smell" you want, you could try some other scented things like pillows and… [more]
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I'd keep the (current) legal name and give the kid an extra name (legally, first or middle) call the kid exactly what you want to and feel good that you honored your mentor. Would that work? I sort of like the idea of a F. Chester Anonymous as a name… [more]
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Looks fine to me but please don't make there be some little triangle to click to open up the comment box, just have it be open already. It's one more difficult click for people who may not have awesome motor skills and it's not really necessary… [more]
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The mods had an unpleasant time because of it. MetaFilter used to be different. Rolling out features (or experiments) was done in a very different way with a lot less forethought and much poorer communication. While I continue to be… [more]
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That goat will be dead within eight days. Yeah the combination of this sort of thing and the constant unyielding Community Arguments I find a little depressing. So I spend less time on the blue and I unfollow threads in MetaTalk when I… [more]
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I have a dramatically different response to this, I think it sounds nice but I'd make it a bit more normalized and then it's fine. If you're looking to communicate, send them a little something on their birthday. It can be something regular (a book)… [more]
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When I am at a stressful point in my life I cry at pet food commercials, so I feel you here. I usually hear this referred to as being emotionally labile but the more I read up on that, the more it's not quite right. [more]
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Depending what you are into Hakim Bey/Wilson might fit the bill. John Michael Greer is a good writer My old boss! He is a really nice guy as well. Do you want just non-fiction/philosophy or are you ok with fiction along these lines as… [more]
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Sound of Silence sounds sweet and calm but is not Born in the USA sounds patriotic but is not (exactly) [more]
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Again, I sincerely appreciate the work and the willingness to make changes and to test those changes with the userbase, and I think flag notes are an excellent and helpful idea that will improve the site overall, but I'm not in favor of this… [more]
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My most charitable view of this is that people may literally not understand that AirBnB dings your credit card as soon as you make the reservation not, like a hotel, when you stay there. So they may think you're trying to get money up front, not… [more]
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But apparently it was always just Squiggy. Had exactly the same feeling. Just watching those entrances over and over and over again give you a sense of what great comedic timing they had. [more]
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I think the flag icon looks fine on classic and seems to be more in line with what people would expect to see with a flagging feature. Also I hate to be a jerk about this because I know you guys work so hard on this, but I'd love a way to turn… [more]
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I think my parents are going to claim me as a dependent, and they definitely don't qualify for food stamps. That shouldn't matter. People who live together even can have one member get food stamps and the other not as long as they don't… [more]
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Spelling the word correctly helps with the perception that you are taking it seriously. I know Matt's trying to take this seriously and I'm certain that dumb typos don't reflect hidden antipathies. This is just to talk about the general… [more]
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The book people suggest to read is I Am Not Sick I Don't Need Help: How to Help Someone with Mental Illness Accept Treatment (which, I know, she doesn't want to do this, the book is for people in your situation). Direct confrontations of delusions is… [more]
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I also read David Lander's biography Fall Down Laughing: How Squiggy Caught Multiple Sclerosis and Didn't Tell Nobody which is really good. He does a lot of good spokesmanning for MS=related stuff. [more]
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I have friends who have as similar thing and what they have is a nice coat rack, a narrow table with a dish (for keys or whatever little stuff you might have) a mat for shoes (if that's your thing) and a guest book with a really nice pen. I think… [more]
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pb's exploring variations on an inline-centric implementation so that we can give that a try and see if it feels like a better compromise fit. If anyone can do it he can! Thanks for being so responsive. This place is the absolute best. [more]
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Hell, you can see at least two examples of those comments in the past 24 hours. I noticed one of those showed up as a followed link for me and sure enough! And the great thing about that thread is that there is actually an overwhelming… [more]
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I'm friends with most of my exes because my breakups didn't burn any bridges [in most cases] and the people were excellent to begin with. It's really really up to you if you want to be friends and if the person who is your ex is hassling you to be… [more]
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I've had giant wasp's nests on the side of my house. They are cool. However you may get to the point where they might come into your house. At this point even though they are not aggressive, they'd sting you if you rolled over on one or sat down on… [more]
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You should go to Lubec, Maine the easternmost point in the continental US. You should stay at West Quoddy Station [not technically IN a lighthouse but walking distance from one and an insane deal - I stayed there this summer and you can get a… [more]
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Mine comes from a Jason Webley song, "Dance While the Sky Crashes Down" Hey neat, I loved seeing Webley when I was in Seattle. Mine is my name because I have very little imagination. [more]
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This thing from Buzzfeed helped me understand the thing. [more]
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I was told there would be drayguns. There were AYGS. The Wikipedia link Jessamyn put in seems to be broken? Thank you internet rando for fixing it! [more]
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I like Headspace. I like to daydream. That said, Headspace helped me sort of figure out when it was a good time to daydream and when I was losing something by not being in the moment and being mindful of where I was or what i was doing. That is,… [more]
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Yeah you know when you're sitting there watching pigeons and they're doing their coo-coo thing and all of the suddden one pigeon puffs up and starts chasing and pecking some other piegon on the head? And sometimes there are two or three of them all… [more]
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(Can this be done with a Kindle? My mother has a growing stack of older Kindles she's willing to give me.) I manage an ebook lending library (Open Library, check us out) and I use a Kindle Keyboard for almost everything and it's great. I… [more]
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If you have another iPad (or a desktop machine) keep in mind that you can put older versions of newer apps on it by following these steps. I got some nice drawing apps for mine and use it as a sketching tablet. You could put some cool kid apps in it… [more]
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