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And another one... "Years after a bad breakup where I was told I was unlovable, and carrying that for years… Only recently (in the last month) realizing that having a loving relationship that later ends is not a shameful thing. That while there… [more]
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But boy, to me, what comes to mind is jessamyn's comment that part of rape culture is having to talk about rape all the time. I feel strongly enough about this that it's one of the reason I'm happy I don't work here anymore. I also… [more]
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The Schilling thing is interesting to me as a great example of "Thing that people understand in one context gets exposed to a broader context and then discussion gets muddy because people can't agree on conversational priorities" Note: I… [more]
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our guests owe us the rent for their last month. My understanding of AirBnB (as a host and a traveler) is 1. They are the intermediary between you and the guest, period. If you have issues, you need to take it up with AirBnB and not… [more]
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There are two AskMe threads that I think are good intros to this topic - Cutting Costs without Feeling the Pinch - What Else Can I Stop Doing Both of these have a lot of people giving advice from the practical "quit paying for cable and… [more]
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I liked Memento Park when I was in Budapest. It was a slightly different place then but it's still a short public bus ride outside of town. [more]
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It's interesting so far, I wonder if it becomes public in some way soon. What does this even mean? I'm really hoping retired mathowie becomes cryptic and speaks in fables all the time. [more]
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[any answers with "fuck you" in them are deleted by a robot. I am here to tell you this. Please try harder so the robot works less. Thank you.] [more]
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You can make all the airplanes that won at the Great International Paper Airplane Contest using this construction kit. If you have time I can strongly suggest the longer book. [more]
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Since the Blue post got deleted, could anyone please explain how Slack differs from other group chat apps like Campfire? This is not, at all, the place for that discussion. Maybe try AskMe? [more]
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That's struggle, pain, anxiety and difficulty. Grad school can be tough, but get some fucking perspective, dude, or drop the hell out. I've mentioned this before, but one of the things that has helped me not bitch people out here on… [more]
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Well I was trying to filter it through a cortex-lens, like... 1. it's important enough to interrupt me on vacation 2. it's news that can't be delivered over email but CAN be delivered over chat 3. it's weird/not-bad (according to cortex) which I… [more]
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Assuming she has always been a Citibank customer and this is not the result of a bungled merge (and does not share the box with anyone else) there is a really short list of things that could have happened. The Office of the Comptroller of US… [more]
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I have a prescription for 25mg of Zoloft (which would be increased, obviously) and I'm probably going to fill it this week. I'm not at all uncomfortable with meds, I'm just worried that maybe my anxiety "isn't bad enough". Maybe I'm… [more]
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I fixed it. [more]
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Cortex is 12 inches high, right? Yes, and he plays the piano. The genie didn't hear me right. [more]
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I think if it were me I'd go the kill-with-kindness approach and say something like "Hi, The Meetup website will let you know if there are going to be more than 3-4 expected (send link). I totally understand why you might want to wait for… [more]
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Our relationship is suffering, though, mostly because I rarely get to see him sober anymore. Yep, that's bullshit. As someone who grew up with an alcoholic parent and spent a lot of my early 20s and 30s guessing at how normal people deal… [more]
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Then "people" should use a different word. And if someone tells you their feelings are hurt, you should maybe consider not telling them they're wrong for how they feel. Which was probably not your intent but very much how your comment comes… [more]
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update from the OP So, before I posted, I was totally ready to get on the phone to Mr Anonymous and make an idiot of myself by apologizing for being fat. And I was convinced that he wouldn't want me. How COULD he? I'm FAT. And ugly. Who in their… [more]
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I've seen many of our licensing agreements and they specify that patrons can share single articles outside of the campus. Yeah as MetaFilter's most famous librarian today, this is a non-issue from a library perspective. You may dislike it… [more]
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The Society for American Archivists has a few public lists for SAA members. They have 13 years of accessible archives (1993 - 2006), but I'm not sure if they are searchable. The Library of Congress has a list of resources that might be worth taking a… [more]
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That was weird, wasn't it? Q: How can I be a better person? A: DON'T BE LIKE THESE ASSHOLES ARARARARARA [more]
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This was what the AlphaSmart was for. You can transfer via USB. It's not really a computer, more of an electronic typewriter. There was a new one out lately (last few months) that people had been gibbering over, but I can't recall what it was called… [more]
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I'd also make sure that you give them places to go if they have personal issues or concerns with mental health/illness. This can be a few books their school library might have, a few websites aimed towards teens, a local phone number they could call… [more]
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Hey happy new dog! I sleep with a variety of noise machines and/or ear plugs often and generally speaking you can hear stuff like fire alarms and knocks on the door. I'm a pretty light sleeper. They basically just overlay a level of sound on top of… [more]
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The Public library is one of the last places left in this society, that don't involve consumerism or religion and are open to all. Exactly. While I sympathize with library workers who have to deal with difficult policies and difficult patrons, one… [more]
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When I had tubes in my ears as a kid I was allowed to swim and shower like normal (except no diving) as long as I had the cotton ball/vaseline routine. I also sometimes splurged and got my hair washed at a salon so I could just not worry about it. [more]
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Maybe I say the situation has changed? It's totally okay just to say that you've changed. "I am not longer comfortable with this" is totally an okay thing to say and anyone who pushes back on that is pretty much not respecting… [more]
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When I ignore him too long though he complains This is a good opportunity to be like "Hey you have a wife and I have a boyfriend. You are making me uncomfortable with this assertion that I owe you something. I am sorry you are having… [more]
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From the OP:Thank you to everyone who posted suggestions here, especially the c-section success stories. On Wednesday, I delivered a tiny, healthy 25-week baby girl via emergency c-section. She is in a level III NICU with some of the lowest… [more]
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agreed with the nasal irrigation. my mom swears by an OTC nose spray called Ocean. it's basically mild salt water and keeps all the junk in her sinuses moist and moving around, not stagnating and getting infected. Might be good in a dry office, that… [more]
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From the OP:Thanks all for the kind words. I really needed it. He was able to get a weekend pass before he actually left the country (he had been out of state for training) and so I got to tell him in person, while we were lying in bed together… [more]
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I used to think these were good and groundbreaking and useful discussions to have amongst a mixed audience. I no longer really feel that way, at least as far as what happens here. That's my feeling in a nutshell. Since I don't have to… [more]
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Which is kind of irrelevant to the fact that it's broadly construed as a dismissive pejorative now I think the point he's making is that it's not at all clear that is what is happening. Social justice as a concept can exist independently… [more]
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ROT13 has been discussed as a non-starter several times as being hostile to n00bs. I think obscuring bad comments (disemvowelling, etc) doesn't actually solve a moderation problem. Being a little more high visibility in threads, while being a… [more]
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If it's not machine-processable then you may in a totally different category, more or less. So, thinking about the dimensions - a letter is 1/4 inch thick or less - a "large envelope" according to USPS is 1/4 to 3/4 inches thick and… [more]
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From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anonymous:Your husband is my father. The incident in which your husband grabbed your son's head and twisted it toward him to enforce eye contact happened to me twenty ago almost exactly as you have described… [more]
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Personally, I'd be OK with the compromise of "leave it, leave the responses, but also leave a smalltext mod note saying "That was seriously over the line of acceptable discourses I think this is often a good compromise. Makes it… [more]
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I have lived in an Amtrac smoking car on the way from NYC to Texas. I have done the same, only from Boston to Tampa to LA to Seattle to Boston. Back when they had those All Aboard America tickets that were cheap. I made my own Scrabble… [more]
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Thanks for all the feedback. The meeting went off well last night. I did a quickie "Ten Apps in Ten Minutes" thing which went well and supplied people with resources including this report from Berkman Enhancing Child Safety and Online… [more]
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if they do talk much about the larger questions and philosophy of steering the Good Ship Metafilter Yes, pretty much every time there is a contentious MeTa thread with solid numbers of people on both sides we tend to talk about whatever… [more]
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Talking about how you like big boobs isn't a capital offense or anything but it's also the opposite of helpful if what you're trying to communicate is a dawning understanding of pervasive sexism. Yeah, this. It's tough to listen to people… [more]
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I am happy to be a mentor for someone who wants to run a post by someone who has been around a while. Anytime in March (I am out of town now, oh please do not email me now) email it to me and I'll give you my polite constructive opinion. [more]
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Why wasn't it deleted as threadshitting? Because that's not what threadshitting is. Threadshitting is a non-constructive non-engagement with the topic and just posting some drive-by comments that expresses your disapproval. This wasn't… [more]
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calling Jessamyn Hello? [more]
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This definitely happens to me if I'm not eating properly around exercise (i.e. something worthwhile before and something with carbs and some fat and protein within about 30 min afterwards). You can get an exaggerated sort of low blood sugar thing… [more]
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I'm a little more fed up with this sort of thing (and encounter it more rarely) and my response is usually more like "You are welcome to feel how you feel, but the statistics don't really support that." and then I have a few studies in my… [more]
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