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I'm going to split the difference (or split hairs?) and say it's about SO's boundaries in the context of (co-)parenting. I am in a relationship with someone who has an ex who sounds like yours. Chronic health issues leading to inability… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

This seems like nonsense to me. Yeah don't get me wrong, I think it's bullshit but I still see big companies that you've heard of redesigning their website and breaking all their old links because ... I don't know why. It's so stupidly… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Just in this thread we have two personal accounts just in this thread of queer women experiencing rejection, which have been mostly ignored. If I'm going to keep being told I'm outraged, can I decide that's what I'm so outraged about? No… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I know the name of the game is to defend the actions of the favored children of identity politics at all costs, but come on. I find it hard to believe you're actually making these points in good faith. Comparing a golf club which is, if I… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

These women chose to go live together in communes without any men around. I don't see how that's a big problem. Nuns have been doing that for more than a thousand years. Would you go picket cloisters? Cloistered nuns are also having… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

he's probably a pretty nice and decent guy who has some growing up to do. My feeling exactly. He's admitted he's a dweeb and doesn't quite get the "how to meet women" thing, but he's got a sense of humor and he's *24* for… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

More importantly, how do I tell them that they are terrible guests? Just don't invite them back or say "Sorry can't do it" the next time they're looking for a place. I think there's a bit of a divide between "Can I crash here?" sorts of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The other Jessamyn West had a quotation that I read at a young age: "We want the facts to fit the preconceptions. When they don't, it is easier to ignore the facts than to change the preconceptions." I'm a stubborn person with a lot… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I keep a list of these people and read their questions for entertainment. I'm surprised that you admit that out loud. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

MetaFilter: I shake my phone like a dink. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

In activist circles I know this as the "circular firing squad" issue where you're so busy poking holes in the bona fides of your companions that you lose focus on the original issue/argument. There's also the "Well actually"… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I register people to vote in Vermont and I also deal with the voter roll issues. If you register to vote and have an address you are good to vote here, for example. If you live in a town you should be eligible for town services, though I'm not sure… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Can I really continue being friends with somebody who says things like, "I think linguistic prescriptivism is awesome"? This is a specific case and in that specific case, this is correct, the question mark is not part of the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm sure I'm forgetting a lot of other stuff, too We went on one of our first dates there! Maybe our first real DATE date. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Like, was that scene - much less the nudity and lingering camera shots - even necessary to anything? Are you really asking why they showed a naked woman when a fully-clothed woman would do.On GoT? I just showed up to say that old Dario… [more]
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FanFare comment - 2 months ago

Froma mefite who would prefer to remain anonymous: I didn't realize until my early twenties that if a man would have sex with me, all it meant was that he wanted to have sex with me, not that he liked me as a person or found me attractive. This is… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

My liquor cabinet has, in total: Frangelico, marshmallow vodka, and Malibu. These go good with ice cream, cocoa and Diet Coke respectively. I have too much respect for my Fresca to mix it with anything. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I host people a lot and I'm somewhere on the line between introvert and extrovert [used to be very E but now I find myself needing the alone time and recharge of an I but I still plan social occasions as if I were an E]. I think one of the big things… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I had a turbinate reduction on one side a few years ago. The results for me were a little underwhelming but the experience itself was not bad. I have a somewhat deviated septum and they tried this first. Basically the surgery was not a big deal… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

These cost money if you do it in any legitimate way. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

What a bloodless, limp response from the mods here. One mod and two former mods who do the podcast for free because they love this place so much. I am sorry this upset you. In the spirit of setting expectations, however, it seems like you… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

would a fb suggestion to share one room with two single beds (initially, for the sake of money-saving) be too forward? I think so. If she told you that she has a boyfriend who lives with her (and you don't know for certain they have an… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

June, that's a pretty slanted link introducing that study AngieMedia title: Women commit more than 70% of single-partner DV HMS Title: Domestic violence: Not Always One Sided Article title: Differences in Frequency of Violence and Reported… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

an interesting topic would be schooling experiences This is a big one in Vermont with seniors. A lot of them went to teeny schools and had to walk (through the snow, etc) to get to them, stoke woodstoves, got weeks off for… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I agree with other people that it's sort of on them to follow-up with you in some other way that is not email if email isn't working. I'd do what most other people are saying... 1. Contact that person as soon to NOW as you can and explain (don't… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Is it normal (that is, not troublesome) for someone in early sobriety to feel tired, worn out, exhausted from the work of abstaining from substances? Is this a sign that relapse is inevitable, or is it just a bump in the road? One of the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I don't want any human honey, either. If my boyfriend could somehow make honey, I would never let him work again and keep him well fed and happy up in my treehouse. I love this post. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Was sure this question said angriest and was going to come here and out myself as belonging on that list, but oh there I am anyhow, giving out a lot of answers. Hey. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I agonized over spending the $22 or whatever it was for a mesh zipper bag to hold all my electronic odds and ends, but I decided it was worth it and now I don't know how I did without it. It's bright orange with a zipper, and everything that is a… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

My general feeling about myself when I've had these sorts of attachments to people is to tell myself that having strong negative emotions towards someone is actually a way of continuing to have a relationship with them, only it's a bad one and one… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I don't get it. March is over. COBRA allows you to pay and get retroactive coverage for the first 56 days generally. Do you have coverage now? Is this about next year's taxes? Or did you get some sort of medical care during that week that you need… [more]
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Heat by Bill Buford talks about the time he spent as a line cook under Mario Batali. Lots of bad behavior. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm partial to ting. Total convert with Cricket. Get an older unlocked iPhone (but not TOO old, 4S or later) and you can get unlimited talk/text and 1GB of data for $35/mo if you set up autopay. Monoprice for cables. You used to be able… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

A good place to start is IRS Publication 523: Selling Your Home which is relevant to you if this is your main non-vacation home and is not a rental property. In short, if you lived in the house for over two years, then it was a house and not an… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I love these too and there are never enough of them. I was going to point out this Poker Face sendup by University of Washington librarians. There are more at this bookriot post (and in the comments). [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Does anyone have any tips on how not to quit something when it stops being new and exciting? The great thing about exercise as opposed to some of the other things you mentioned is that you don't have to try to get to a level of… [more]
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Acton-Boxborough High School I went there! The kids are assholes but I got a really good education and learned my "fuck the man" attitude there. A lot of the suburbs in that part of MA are pretty good but they were more… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I think of people's brains as having a number of different sliders in them that affect how they appear to the outside world. I am like this Outside Awareness__I_______________________________________Inside Awareness Where outside is being… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I run MetaFilter. I have about 35 "on desk" hours per week and then I have a few more unscheduled hours when I check in. I cycle through a lot of tasks during my shift, but the day starts with coffee and the flag queue/email and then moves… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I did it. It works! [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I think if it were me I'd take the doors right off the cabinet and then use it as a more "inset shelves" situation which means you can put stuff on the wall right up next to them and get more space out of it. unless the insides of the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Lifestyle changes for me that were easier were the ones that also made me feel better. So like... I cut down my caffeine intake by switching to decaf in the afternoon and I was in a better mood. I cut sugar out of my coffee and I got less jitters… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Why didn't they link to corb's comment? Offhand guess, because the entirety of her comment was a lot more nuanced than just the one slightly-out-of-context quotation? I don't hate in the Times in a general sense but I find this "Here… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I'm unconvinced a town that fits your criteria in the USA exists, without deliberately ignoring a subset of said criteria. I live in one. I think? I mean my idea of a good selection of restaurants is that there are four or five places to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

maybe more skewing towards posts-you-read-recently Yep. Just because posts are made by women doesn't necessarily mean they will be the tiny fraction that we decide to talk about on the podcast. One of the ones I mentioned was by my SO,… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

If you can avoid asking them to create an Apple ID (just create one similar to their email and usual password for them) and not overwhelm them about apps or anything else. Unless you're going to give them something locked down in kiosk… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

*gasp* You know that's my birth year word, right? I can only conclude we are the same age. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I have low blood pressure. I don't faint while giving blood (though sometimes it is too low for me to donate). The big deal is staying fed and hydrated and making sure you've been up and around for a while (literally one time they told me to go out… [more]
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