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I just have no desire to have sex or be in a relationship with anyone. I feel this way whenever I'm not in a relationship with people. I think it's normal. I'm pretty low-libido anyhow and usually even thinking about relationships sends... [more]
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From a MeFite who would prefer to remain anonymous:As an adult who was molested and raped by a cousin amd a grandfather on separate occasions, my advice is threefold. 1. Gather as much info as you can (police record - everywhere he'd lived,... [more]
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I called the cops on my neighbors once because I was afraid someone was getting hurt. No one was getting hurt as it turned out but the cops checked it out and things were okay (and in a small town this is how things are supposed to work more or less)... [more]
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I live in Vermont. I haven't been to the farm but there is a lovely nature walk nearby, the Robert Frost Interpretive Trail, which I have walked and truly loved. There are excerpts from his poetry that you get to read in natural Vermont settings.... [more]
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I will, alas, be on a family road trip through Maine around then, but one of the places that we're seeing/staying is the Quoddy Head Station. It's sort of way up there in Maine (in fact it's the Easternmost point in the US if you believe the hype)... [more]
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The general rule of thumb is that while people may have preferences, usually first-pants-off time is not the time to express them or to do anything other than think "YAY PANTS OFF TIME!" Your choices seem well within the range of normal... [more]
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The people AoK were complaining about have also left. It's like Hamlet up in here. [more]
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I use classic theme restorer because I am a "nothing should ever change" pill. DownThemAll, still good. History Submenus, still good. Reddit Enhancement Suite, still good (shut up), same with FB Purity. SendTabURLs was great... [more]
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I fought with computers all morning and not_on_display's cover art is done and mine is done and my mixes are In The Mail. I included a little letter in with them because I was afraid I was just not going to be able to do cover art at all. And while I... [more]
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Yeah like a square vinyl MF sticker suitable for laptop or bumper. [more]
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Dowager Mod, surely? I went out for beer with another MeFite (thanks terrapin!) and now I'm back and I've been reading along with the thread and mostly nodding and/or smiling and nodding but I will cut you if you try this. Emeritus? Maybe.... [more]
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I am pretty all the time, fuckers. [more]
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Your jokes have an edge to them that frequently makes them not that funny. [more]
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I think it possible that one can say "men have penises" and that transmen are men Do not do this here. [more]
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We have a different definition of no-effort. Your appears to involve no effort on your part and a lot of work on the mods' part and you're sort of being a jerk about it. Maybe try to find a way to ask for what you want in a way that... [more]
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It was really an eye-opening moment for me when I learned that a lot of what makes a person agreeable or charming or likeable were actually things that could be learned, not things you had to be born knowing. You see this a lot in nerd communities... [more]
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It's ok guys! I eat through these episodes and I think the trick is to have a somewhat lossy MP4 of the show and watch it at a small size so that the gory stuff isn't that graphic.... [more]
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I've set up my account over at the Open Library and am crafting various inappropriate comments to be deleted. Bless your heart for being so considerate and worrying that I might feel lonely without constant weird... [more]
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Seconding Proennekke and the Foxfire books. I like this type of book also. - There's also a similar book about Maine called The Salt Book. - Possum Living is a slightly odd one but worth looking at for a peek at urban homesteading. - This might... [more]
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It's like unlocking a cheat code for life. The great part is, if your friends are MeFites it becomes a really easy way to be something-you-know-is-clear. I had an interaction with a MeFite friend recently where there was a sudden... [more]
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Second the Petroski book and the very similar Deep Survival: Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why by Laurence Gonzalez. I think a lot of people point to the Challenger disaster as one with a pretty obvious tipping point. I don't know if you're interested in... [more]
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optimizers and satisficers. When making a purchase, for example, a satisficer makes a list of criteria they want met and once they find a thing that fits it, they are done. Optimizers want the best of a given category (best price, best quality, best... [more]
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Level 3, 52 XP, 14500. Is that good? It felt good! [more]
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I was that friend, the one with the car, in a past life. What worked for me was - deciding if this was "I don't want to drive them, ever" or if there was a thing that would make the driving worth it. (if they came to my house, if they... [more]
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We were temporarily banned from the system due to some text questions talking about sexual health That was the point for me where I was like "This is such fucking... [more]
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I think she left after her own monster MeTa thread. Which may have been a bit ahead of its time. [more]
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Volunteers could generate hundreds of high-quality 'listicles' out of AskMe content. Put them up on a 'glossier' subsite and maybe the google gods will start smiling again. This was an idea I also had a while back and I still think it's... [more]
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(1) It's somehow 14 years old and this article is #1 on HN, but somehow I've never heard of it. That, to me, was the Internet in a nutshell.... [more]
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I sort of have to concur with this. I didn't give this whole thing a close read, but I find this vaguely embarassing. [more]
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I think Frank was being really presumptuous in trying to set up a "summit" between you and Jill. Who DOES that? I was in a similar situation but it was with my (current) partner and his ex, his son's mom, who wanted to... [more]
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I discussed these things with the explicit understanding that my privacy was paramount, that these discussions were absolutely confidential. Combining this with the information that they are in an open relationship... There are a lot of... [more]
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The Oxford Guide to Library Research by Thomas Mann is one of the most essential books for learning how to formulate a research question and then go about answering it.... [more]
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The former Jessamyn Bagley? Oh we're in (occasional) touch. I have a directory of Jessamyns and there is (of course) a facebook group. [more]
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I have no idea how I got here. That's pretty much me. Maybe jjg or rebeccablood pointed it out on their blogs? According to my blog it looks like I was looking for information on MP3s and Napster and found a thread on MeFi which may have... [more]
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My answer is always SAFFRON. Much less expensive over there and so great to cook with when scarcity isn't so much of an issue. Otherwise, "I like snack food from other places, thanks so much for offering" is an open-ended way of answering... [more]
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What kind of anarchist doesn't want to break down patriarchy? A rubbish one. Frowner's experience was exactly mine and why I drifted further apart from the on-the-ground anarchist actions in Seattle post-WTO. A few charismatic... [more]
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I have had mixed luck with USPS generally but good luck with their support people staying on top of things if you stay on top of them. That is, I think you should give them time to open the case and give you a real-world estimate of your chances... [more]
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What would you do in my shoes? I'd be pretty direct and say "Look I've been reading that you are a little concerned about your finances. I'm happy to have you stay with me but I can not support you during this time. I'm happy to... [more]
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I'll always have greasemonkey! [more]
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"What is frission?" I don't know, but reddit describes frisson as "that hit me right in the feels" and I think that is about right.... [more]
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I can't see him as anything other than that guy in The Wire. [more]
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Something like 25% of the daily member visitors have given money when the industry average for paid optional options is about 5%. Excellent, this is terrific news.... [more]
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I find describing people as "non-Jews" creepy I felt that way about cisgendered but I got over it. But then again I view the world as librarians and non-librarians so there is no accounting for taste.... [more]
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I went to see this move in 3D because it was the movie that was playing at the town movie theater and a bunch of friends were going. Hadn't thought much about it and have a general distaste for Disney movies generally. Was surprised and interested in... [more]
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Although her consistent deletion of posts that didn't match her political views were silly. Links or it didn't happen. [more]
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And in the real world: the library. My favorite thing to do, when i'm in particularly "fuck capitalism" mood is to see if I can make the argument that the public library actually exists to serve some sort of capitalistic... [more]
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So now that we're done with criticizing me, can we please discuss how problematic that use of language is? Thanks. It's important that we point out the ways in which things are going to need to be adjusted at Future MeFi and that is part... [more]
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Often this is true This is an MRA talking point that seems like it should be true-ish but is not actually true, or rather there is a lot more nuance than these talking points usually include. A few cites - Gender Bias Study of the... [more]
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The final scene, is Sherlock high? That was my question, he sure was blinking a lot. I like Sherlock (the show) also but it's stronger at he beginning and weaker towards the end when Watson gets married and the energy between... [more]
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OH MY GOD JESSAMYN IT'S WEIRD NOT TO HAVE BEEN TALKING TO YOU DURING THAT, WHAT IS THIS STRANGE NEW WORLD It was weird to see there just be a MeTa thread here that I hadn't first read in email. And I have a small frisson of "wheee not my... [more]
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