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I think the sticking point for a lot of people after reading that article is that say, for example, you maybe don't think you can win a violent altercation, or you are unsure how you'd feel about getting into one... that doesn't (to my read) mean you… [more]
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What you want is this book: Symphony Hall The First 100 Years. Borrowable, keyword searchable and readable online at Open Library (nb: I work there) with a free we-will-never-spam-you account. [more]
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a mantra that's worked really well for me when I can't cope: Improve, Appreciate, Connect, Protect. I appreciate that. I've been shoring myself up by a few things 1. The Internet Archive went out of their way to tell all their… [more]
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I like these shows too and have enjoyed Parks & Rec and also Brooklyn 99 for this sort of thing. I've been plowing through multiple seasons (on Netflix) of Murdoch Mysteries. It's a turn of the last century detective show set in Toronto so it's… [more]
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So yeah, it can happen. My experience at Hampshire College in the late 80s was a lot like languagehat's. I am more anarchistic in practice but this winds up aligning me with lefties more often than not in terms of "who deserves… [more]
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Carrie has often made suicide threats and Ellie is worried about completely severing the relationship as it leaves her with no one. If Ellie wants to, set up a regular "check in" sort of meeting (coffee once a week after class?)… [more]
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It was just a thing? Yep. It was hot, no one had air conditioning (or many fewer people did) and no one cared because we hadn't hit the repressive body-shaming Reagan Years yet. I grew up in the country and shirtless dudes was just a… [more]
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Depending what state you are in your learning/location you might find a Women in the Outdoors class useful and fun (I did not find that website useful but googling "women in the outdoors" and your state should help). You can learn about gun… [more]
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I grew up with an ice house and in my area (not near yours) they were often taller with doors atop one another so you could get to the ice as it melted over time. The door handles do make it look like a retrofitted cooler of some sort possibly. I… [more]
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I did a Women in the Outdoors workshop last summer which took place at a gun range and I've gone to our local Rod & Gun club for archery a few times. Women around here are active in rod & gun club stuff but are you talking about an urban gun… [more]
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One of my friends went on a bender after our Neighborhood Family Meeting that he is just now coming out of. I've got concerns/issues with people who are drunk so it was text messaging checking in until he sobered up (other folks left him sandwiches… [more]
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I'm starting to get to the point where I feel like Metafilter is too moderated for me My take is more that there are people who like to talk about these issues a lot more than I do and while I think moderation is mostly where it's been,… [more]
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You should be able to go in and edit the names of the user who made those posts to the name of the position instead of the person's name or something generic like "XYZ Staff". There's nothing intrinsic about leaving an inactive account that… [more]
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We have this where I am, but it's usually animal manure (farming area). So dealing is a combination of things - timing! making sure you're at least optimizing for less smelly times when you're outdoors to the best of your ability - airflow -… [more]
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I am the definition of insanity.....hoping my mother will be someone else, and she isn't going to change! My mom is sort of like this. When she visits she talks a good game about helping but really sort of wants to be doted on and ..… [more]
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I wouldn't necessarily rush to pathologize her. It doesn't matter if you pathologize her or not. What matters is 1. you tried to set up boundaries of what works for you 2. she did not work within those boundaries despite being in a… [more]
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I'm at a friend's in Vermont for T'giving but for December Holidaytime my "Let's watch movies" thing in MA (Westport, between Fall River and New Bedford) is ON. Usually there are a few people and there is some food and there is NO holiday… [more]
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On a production note, it's amazing how quickly you manage to turn this around. [more]
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Lambda Legal has addressed this somewhat on their website. They seem to think that your situation will be treated legitimately and cite some case law. I would suggest contacting them directly to ease your mind. Marriages remain valid if they were… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Lambda Legal has a post election FAQ up now also and they also answer questions via a legal help desk. [more]
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I would be dropping a note to the National Early American Glass Club. I'm sure there is someone there who has been dying to be asked this question. Specifically from 1982 someone there was looking for graffiti on old window panes, (No. 8, Apr. 1982)… [more]
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OH WAIT SORRY. I tagged out before I found this window glass tagged by John Wilkes Booth basically predicting the death of President Lincoln. [more]
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(saw your update: this is a good chance to talk with your mom about three basic things: healthcare proxy, power of attorney and having a will or at least final wishes. She could give a local friend some of these roles if she chooses which gets you… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm a favor-asker. The fact that you are not a favor-asker doesn't mean there's anything wrong with favor-asking per se, you just need to be more clear when you respond to her request. If what you really want in this situation is for her to not… [more]
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after tuesday all this will slow down, and then I thought....what if it doesn't? It won't. In times like these it helps to remember that there have always been times like these. If not for you personally, then for other people. I'd… [more]
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I'd drop a note to the National Workrights Insititute since this is in an area of workplace law that is unlikely to have seen a lot of litigation. Excerpt from the interview of the author by NPR. [more]
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My peace and justice oriented landlady just flies the earth flag. There are some other options on that page which are also pleasant and good choices. [more]
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I was just learning about a different Morse Code incident that is even more convoluted. This article on the Verge from last year is good reading. [more]
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Fizz makes quality posts. Congrats Fizz. [more]
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This is me! I sort of thought about it this way. All these efficiencies are nominally saving me time/effort, but what am I saving that time/effort FOR? I had quality of life issues that needed addressing. If I optimized my life for me (and I want… [more]
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I voted last week. Tuesday I am counting votes and overseeing my town's polling place from four til whenever we are done counting. I am also running for election as I mentioned but you can vote for 12 out of 12 people so I am a shoo-in. The winners… [more]
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People do this stuff in a number of different ways depending on budget and time available. As a librarian and sometimes independent researcher I can give you a good laundry list including some of the advice you've already gotten. 1. Start online… [more]
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Mine was a super weird thing. I've always done the list making and the calendaring and whatever and I'm pretty efficent. But the thing that really took me the rest of the way (especially about a lot of small stakes stuff like household things,… [more]
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MetaFilter hasn't been that bad This has been my impression. Which is not to silence those who are really struggling, but the relative awfulness of MeFi vs. the rest of the internet is really interesting to me. And I basically… [more]
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My mother finds herself in these sorts of situations. And they are messy to extract her from. On the one hand, you are being, have been, kind to this person. On the other hand, you have been enabling them to not get better, to not know how to live… [more]
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I'm terrified that my husband will end up depressed and my kids will hate me for it. I'm worried that I will cause them heartache and anxiety. The hardest part about this is hurting the ones I love. My parents split up when I was 11… [more]
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radioamy does what I do. In the past when I was doing social/work things with people I'd hang out all night until i was literally like "I need sleep" But now I'm a lot more like "Hey this was great, I'm going to retire" and then… [more]
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Dubai. Abu Dhabi. Halifax. [more]
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I used to use DealInk/DealMac which have become DealNews. I haven't used their apps but it finds decent prices on things from retailers you have heard of. [more]
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I am working the polls at my local election as an elected Justice of the Peace, so I supervise poll workers. Which is funny because, as I mentioned on Twitter, I am also running for re-election, and I am going to win. This normal for small towns but… [more]
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Seconding cooker girl. Unless there is a reason you want to do this specifically, I'd consider leaving them. Cats often take a while to get used to a new place and a weekend isn't that much time to acclimatize. [more]
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You might want to look into shrubs. There are liquor ones but otherwise they are like vinegar-y syrups you can mix with seltzer. Switchel is also all the rage. [more]
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I have such a strong desire to want to maintain balance in my life by having occasional alone time with my friends a sign that I just don't belong in a married relationship, or is this a normal and healthy feeling. It is a sign that you… [more]
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I always think of old school girdles for this sort of thing, like your grandma wore (or mine did anyhow). Something that "slims thighs" or "smooths thighs" should also press your butt down a little bit. What you don't want is… [more]
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It's totally optional if you'd like to participate. As others have said, you are in a power relationship with a patient such that saying something is totally optional does not necessarily sound totally optional. Giving out a patient's… [more]
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122! Oldest human! [more]
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Yeah that becomes tricky. I get why to some people it's a massive insult. I also get how it's a colloquial phrase like how Google saying they were not going to be evil was more about them not acting badly, not literally supernaturally immoral. So… [more]
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Someone mentioned to me that I was basically emoji ghost. 👻 [more]
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Lots of good answers. When I was doing a similar thing after a long relationship, some of what was helpful for me was remembering my own habits. - how I like to do laundry/dishes - how and when I like to sleep - how and when I like to… [more]
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Anger is definitely a symptom of grief. Anger can also be a symptom of feeling a lack of control about things, and a parent with an incurable cancer can be part of this. People can have a difficult time finding useful outlets when they… [more]
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