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my current kitchen has NO stove hood filter/fan whatsoever. None. Ditto. And where to start with the wrong weirdness of this kitchen? - I have over a gallon of maple syrup in the fridge in four different containers because they are… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Just FYI but you could get a refurbed Mac laptop for just a little more than that. That said a refurbed Dell would be half that and a lower end laptop would be under $200. So it might be worth adjusting your search from "$999 laptop that last… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Have you experienced this, do you know where it comes from, and how do you change it? This is how I am. People are often surprised to know that I have a great deal of ... it's not anxiety or awkwardness so much as an "I have no… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The first thing I think of here is BATHTUB (I mean, if you have one). What I would be doing is loading up on goo and weird smelling stuff and - making sure my bathroom was clean - lighting candles and maybe some incense - having clean towels… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

FWIW, there are also some piratical sites that specialize in academic content and have an eclectic collection of journals. SciHub. So much of this is relative to where you live. I had a whole answer set up and then saw you are in… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Was just coming here to say, I was at Funspot on Monday and they played a lot of Wham! It's also a good time for some 80s metal if you can stand stuff like Steppenwolf/Born to be Wild or Motorhead's "Please Don't Touch" [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Friend was present as the whole scene unfolded and we both realized the flowers would harm the cat; the cat would have to go to the ER. The only scenario I can see where this is friend's responsibility is if friend brought the flowers… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

It's fighting with itself. Can you soap up the window just for a day (on the outside) so it basically can't see its reflection? Just drag a bar of soap around it in irregular zigzags. Will come off with a hose or in the next rainstorm. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

My 40s have been pretty great compared to other decades. I feel like I know who I am in a lot of ways and so can have more certainty in the things that I am doing. Doesn't mean I always do the sensible or "correct" thing but I have a better… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I travel with a white noise machine usually, though I use the one on my phone as a backup. This is one I've been looking at but not yet gone all-in and purchased yet. I'm lucky enough to be able to sleep with earplugs and it does seem like you might… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

First an answer to your stated question: the crazy cat lady danger zone is above N+1. That is, when you have one more cat than people that is enough cats usually. This doesn't mean it's wrong or a problem but just... that is the fact. Three cats for… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

If you make and submit your own, you're stuck with it. Still mad! [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

The two things that seem at issue here are the "I can't control this" aspects of your personalities. For you the crying and for her the shutting down/blackout rage stuff. These conflict. If it's true that both of you can't control these… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Surely you can see how this would be morally wrong? I disagree with your metaphor and your description of my comment as "overreacting" and won't be engaging with you on this topic further. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

letting somebody live in a state of denial about the health risks is not helpful either - it's just a form of enabling. Assuming that if you have one data point about someone you can tell how healthy they are is likewise a form of false… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I would need to see a photo of Tiny Dictator to be certain of the answer to this question. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I have a prescription for 25mg of Zoloft (which would be increased, obviously) and I'm probably going to fill it this week. I'm not at all uncomfortable with meds, I'm just worried that maybe my anxiety "isn't bad enough". Maybe I'm… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

There are two AskMe threads that I think are good intros to this topic - Cutting Costs without Feeling the Pinch - What Else Can I Stop Doing Both of these have a lot of people giving advice from the practical "quit paying for cable and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

it'll probably be at least 2 years before the divorce is finalized due to logistical reasons (financial complications). This sounds murky and weird. I am a divorced person and I am dating someone who was in a complicated relationship… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

He also doesn't think there's anything I can do to make it up to him. He sounds like he's someone managing his stress poorly. You guys had a miscommunication (both of you, not just you, both of you). You shouldn't have to cancel going to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Great friends are people who - remember your preferences for food/drink stuff and always make your coffee the way you like it - send you little fun stuff in the mail for no reason - remember things that are going on in your life and ask you… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Will she still be around? Absolutely. I'll write up a longer personal thing a bit later but this is literally just "I am moving on in my professional life." MetaFilter remains my online home.... MetaTalk comment - favorited 496 times… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

You can also think over the questions ALL DAY if it helps you. Some people are bad at snap answers. I have to grind them out a lot of the time, trying to jog my memory by going down the alphabet "Does her name start with A? B? C?...?" [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I'm not a big seafood eater and I think one of the reasons was from watching Ackroyd eating the salmon when his santa beard kept getting in the way and I always think of it as being ... stiff and fuzzy. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I don't feel like it's too much heavy-lifting but it might be borderline but Richerd Powers sometimes does this for me and The Gold Bug Variations might do it for you. The Time Traveler's Wife, if you haven't read it, is good for that full-heart… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The first book that really pulled out my heart and stomped on it was The Changeling by Zilpha Snyder. I just read that book a few months ago and ... wow, yeah. So good but so sharp in some ways too. I also loved We Have Always Lived in… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I don't feel comfortable asking friend to help pay for this vet bill, but I feel like if I were in their shoes, I would absolutely offer to help. That would be the better etiquette move, even a token, but it's not how everyone would… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I took Amtrak from Boston to Chicago back in the 90s I did this too! They had those All Aboard America tickets and for $250 you could get a trip that lasted up to a month with a bunch of stops and sort of hop on and off. I went from… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Well sounds like there are two separate issues 1. Is colleague actually allowed to hire interns? Like, I am unclear if the issue is they did this without your okay (not cool but that's an internal issue you work out with coworker) or if they did… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

the bulk of my discussion has concerned a different, greater obsession/anxiety that I'm not really going to expand upon because that's not relevant to this discussion. Obsessional thoughts, particularly ones that are intrusive and cause… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

"Thanks for your follow up emails. You've asked good questions, ones that we covered already during our initial interview. The first thing in this email needs to be an apology for the screw up and a very very clear outline that there… [more]
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I work the polls in my town, get paid to do so, and I think everyone should be able to vote all the time, so that is where I am coming from. However, elections cost money, staffing polling areas costs money. The big thing is whether you feel the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Hey I am home, almost exactly 7 hours after the bus was supposed to get here. Thanks for all the support everyone, it was nice to get to share my goofy story with people [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

We're on a bus! [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

GODDAMNIT I AM STILL ON THIS TRAIN. I mean, I am on my way back from NYC and we had a few small delays and now there is this freight train sort of broken down on the line ahead of us and I guess there is a thing with its air where you have to ..… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

They gave us cheddar goldfish and dried fruit and cookies for free but anything else you have to buy from the cafe car which I do not feel like doing on principle at this point. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

For people who are already in LL, I'd like to suggest also poking around in the forums where there is a lot of nerdy discussion about trivia and match days. Also consider signing up to be a tester for other people's one day specials and minileagues… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

We've had a few guests in the past including ColdChef, mothershock, kokogiak and the new mods when they came on. I agree, more guests would be a good thing. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

WestJ, recently demoted to Memorial E League, still enjoying it! If someone knows me IRL-sh and wants to be referred, please drop me a note. I am really serious about making sure you won't cheap and won't forfeit. An hour? That feels like too… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

I'm worried that my tastes in particular are incongruent with those of a supposedly smart person. I have this problem! And at some level the issue comes down to "according to whom?" Like, culture is basically some sort of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago


I'm really curious about that shop vac on a timer. Me too, like what the fuck Dad? And it really made a huge crazy noise. There are x-10 switches in the basement that we still haven't figured out. You have to press some buttons randomly… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I am not much of a drinker (and definitely not a scotch drinker) but I would have two (2) beers for a podcast if cortex would edit out the bathroom breaks. Would LOVE to have pb on and talk about the beaming ray of pure sunshine he has become since… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Alanon will be very, very helpful for you. Concur. I had an alcoholic parent and everything medusa said rings true for me. It's a natural thing for people to minimize the drinking problems of those they love. It may be helpful to you to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

My friend cannot handle silence. She cannot last more than 4 seconds without filling the space between us with words. Much of it is noise. Many people are this way and that is fine. I am more like you. I find people who just sort of talk… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

We're definitely a little goofier if we do the podcast later in the day, all other variables nonwithstanding.. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

those of use on dialup or satellite internet or low volume metered accounts appreciate the warning. 25% of the US doesn't have broadband at home. Many people have metered data plans on their phones. Large mystery PDFs don't often… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Jessamyn, isn't the word "merci" in the name of the "Merci Train" used in the sense of "thank you"? Yes, it totally is! You mean I was pronouncing it wrong? And I have to go to Woonsocket sometime. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 months ago

Oh bless you. Jim and I sat through the entire thing just hoping it would never end. [more]
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