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eventually it's just so much easier not to teach it. Your concern has been noted. Your ideas are not getting traction here. It would be nice if the conversation could move on from this point. [more]
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I do think canons matter, and the thought of someone feeling conversant with even the basics of queer lit without reading Burroughs, Dorothy Allison, or Kathy Acker strikes me as wrong. I can, off the top of my head, think of titles by… [more]
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some people made the case that men should basically not wear shorts, ever. I have heard that out of the mouth of a MeFite, in person. I chose to ignore it. Doesn't that go double for hats inside your bed? I prefer to think… [more]
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Hey my name in Croation has a diminutive form: jasminka! [more]
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I shout, I scream, I say hurtful things to him just to get the result I am looking for and sometimes I just throw my hands in the air. I am finding myself becoming very impatient with him these days. Not sure if my preoccupation with my rut is… [more]
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The big deal with bird fallout is that it's a combination of bird migration and some sort of crappy weather event, so while there is a "definitely maybe" aspect to when it happens, it's not only not predictable it also happens when the… [more]
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I feel like he is forcing me to take on these additional household chores because of his own ethical/moral beliefs... This also was not presented to me as a request on their part, which aggravated me further. People who want to save the… [more]
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now and I feel it isn't very classy of him to keep it up without solidifying the next date. This is definitely a cultural thing. To me he's into you and maybe giving you space to decide if you want to see him again. I would LOVE it if a… [more]
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Respecting difference to me (an atheist) in these situations means that if it's them who is grieving you shut up and let them and their family/friends grieve however works for them. If it's you who is grieving and they say "Well at least now… [more]
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The City and the City is so great. If you can deal with something that is a little more cop-as-detective in a scifi vein you might really like The Last Policeman trilogy. [more]
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I don't understand why you can't block him on social media? You're not telling other people to not interact with him, you're just taking a vacation from him until after the election season because he is being a jerk to you. Another alternative is… [more]
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Mine was a super weird thing. I've always done the list making and the calendaring and whatever and I'm pretty efficent. But the thing that really took me the rest of the way (especially about a lot of small stakes stuff like household things,… [more]
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I'd simply say, "I read, met up with my friends, shopped and caught up on my TV. It's pure bliss!" Yeah I do what you do on weekends for the most part. I can spend days not talking to anyone and I like it. However, I already… [more]
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My understanding is that Eskimo is one of those words which is ok as a self-descriptor, and somewhat commonly used in Alaska, but as a white person I would never call someone Eskimo who didn't self-describe that way, and I would strongly urge against… [more]
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Depends on the age and the situation but a few things I've used for the kids in my life - foaming bath soap things - higher end/fancy popsicles in summertime (most kids have some sort of food that they LOVE but that is maybe too expensive or hard… [more]
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Actually, everybody needs to buy at least one box of cookies. Maybe, maybe not. I am one of those people who quit GS as soon as I started almost because, unlike Brownies, it was a lot more geared towards being a little junior salesperson… [more]
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Dignity is very very relative. I was fortunate enough to go through the "Was in car accident, went to hospital, was not wearing underwear, things turned out okay" rite of passage early enough that I've been blessed with a healthy amount of… [more]
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But it has an antenna! [more]
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Jesus god, don't you worry about fire or burglars...or....or....the FBI spying on you or something? Oh that reminds me of one of them.... closing the bathroom door. Always, sometimes, never, only when pooping. Now to find the related… [more]
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why bother - does anyone actually change their mind about it? I think with the nerd crowd there is often a sense of "I'd like to understand general social rules so that I can move through life with a minimum of hassle and/or not… [more]
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Everyone else has given you great answers. I'm someone who bought a fixer (a giant barn and a little serviceable house attached) with the idea that I would live there maybe forever and a few other things. It didn't work out for me like that (but was… [more]
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A few suggestions. - involve the other professors in this if at all possible. it's quite likely that this guy is team teaching because he is awful and can't actually do it on his own but he's also brilliant and has some other value to the… [more]
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Seconding giant pots of soup. Freeze some and refrigerate some, keep adding little things. I've got Russian Polish /Uzbek) immigrant New York family and this would be the thing. If it was just a week though, depending on the time period, you wouldn't… [more]
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I think it can be embarassing to be misunderstood. I've had the same "creepy undying love" concern as TheOtherGuy from time to time. I've been equally embarassed when someone interprets my interactions with them as having been flirty… [more]
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should I ask person out, and if they say no, manage my own feelings without explaining that I need to back off for a bit? For me, this is less good Less good for you, better for the other person. Relationships are all about compromising… [more]
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I figured I'd bother internet strangers before I bother a librarian or curator directly. It's no bother! In fact the largest collection of public librarians in the country, maybe the world, is in Denver right now. They live for this stuff… [more]
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The answer is pretty clearly our imperial neighbours to the south. My cousin is a handtool woodworker and I asked him and he said its because most of the tools are US still. [more]
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I've definitely made the mistake of "ocean = east" when on the West Coast. I'm bad directionally generally (my father was a sailor and when I was a kid he'd often ask me which way we were driving in rural MA and I rarely knew if… [more]
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Thin hair tends to look better at short lengths with less effort. I grom mine out for a few years and cut it all off. It's long now, I am itching for it to be short mainly because - less shampoo to use, I use a TON now I feel like - less hair all… [more]
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Has meditation or anything helped any of you with similar issues? Yes! I've got a low level version of this problem in spades. Can't abide by itchy clothes, weird scents, sheets in the wrong place, bright light in the wrong place, all the… [more]
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You could partner with a photography group to an exhibition on the adoptable pets, combined with cost and adoption information. We have a therapy dog at my library (which I am clear is not what you are talking about) and we've been… [more]
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Mine has been something that pretty much always makes me happy. I have a more public tattoo that is on one of my shoulders that I had a design for printed out on the wall for ... five years? I don't now, a really long time, and finally the time was… [more]
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Congrats! These aren't all topically appropriate but they have the other parts.... Say a Little Prayer by Greg Brown (version by Shawn Colvin for women) Rock me to Sleep - Jill Sobule I wish my baby was born - be good tanyas Falling by Patsy… [more]
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A few suggestions, none of which are intended to be totally all-encompassing. - make sure he has a humidifying CPAP, this made all the difference for my guy. An alternative to the CPAP (for some) is to lose weight, so if he truly find it… [more]
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Just to make sure this is clear, this is one of those three story places and you and your son occupy the second and third floors? I think my sister basically used to live in exactly this sort of place. So the renter would pick one bedroom and you… [more]
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the Great Taters Mystery. Now is as good a time to mention this as any. I got an email a while back from the gal who posted that anon thread. I've paraphrased a little bit but not much. The "taters" thing was, I guess, kind of like a code… [more]
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relationships (including, briefly, homosexuality), sex (briefly touching on contraception) I'm not sure how to usefully put this, but if you're discussing homosexuality you should really also just discuss sex vs. gender as well as… [more]
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My mother has a very similar rabid bat story except hers is all about arguing with a guy from the Mass. Department of Health about the rabid-seeming bat that she found in the house. This was before bat-rabies was as well known, to be fair, but the… [more]
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Where is this located? I'm a person in the US who inherited a house in MA. The house belongs to me (and my sister) according to the will but I've never changed the title into my own name. We pay all the bills. Where I live (VT) "filing… [more]
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The more I read others' responses, the more I realize that the fact that I notice but don't care about time stamps is because I have the privilege of not caring - I'm not in a position where I'm worried that lack of immediate response will harm… [more]
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This is a thing with older Macs and I recall that I've had to deal with it but I can't remember what I did specifically. However the Apple support forums & elsewhere have a few suggestions. - look for old PPC junk - verify disk, clear old… [more]
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Once the item is in your possession, you have to spend time trying to use it, feeling guilt and negative feelings about it, then eventually getting rid of it and hoping that it doesn't come up in conversation. It's an emotional burden, a waste of… [more]
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To the best of my knowledge I can't keep a running total (without handcoding it) that says "$800 of $1000 raised so far" with PayPal. I know it's minor, but it's what I'm looking for. [more]
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A few things that help me (and don't get me wrong, I still have stints of just computer-inspired loafing) - having the first and last 40 minutes of the day be no-screen times (Kindle ok, nothing else ok) so I have to learn how to get up and then… [more]
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My general feeling about myself when I've had these sorts of attachments to people is to tell myself that having strong negative emotions towards someone is actually a way of continuing to have a relationship with them, only it's a bad one and one… [more]
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I love oyu guys. [more]
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I have Crimethinc Workers Collective Your Life is Your Life poster hanging over my desk and I see it whenever I am typing. Drooker is also great. You might want to look at The Labadie Collection who put up digitzed copies of all of their posters if… [more]
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And this Sanders/Clinton hate is new, new, new! Just sounds like "You ruined America if you voted for Nader" to me. [more]
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