Without getting too much into it, I was recently faced with a similar, though not quite as actute, problem. My father died shortly after his health started to decline, quite recently. My father was a wonderful man with a serious chronic drinking... [
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If you find it axe-grindy, maybe that's a problem with you.
Possibly. I also run this site. I like your contributions and I agree with your politics generally. However for someone who seems to pay a lot of attention to the tactical and... [
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nobody in this thread has bothered to thank the police that were there that day, and thanking God that we have an organization like the FBI for promising to find out who did this no matter what it takes?
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Using sexually threatening language like that is beyond offensive.
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I went from being a pretty couch-y person to being someone who is at the gym a few days a week without fail or walking around outside doing stuff. I almost never want to go but I'm decent at putting my ass in the car and getting there. Here is what... [
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Mr. The Whelk
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Ev and Caterina dated? I'd love to see a similar chart for the Movable Type/6A folks. No love for Jack Saturn! [
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[Don't do that "people are getting bombed other places in the world every day" thing either. There is a MeTa thread, you can go there.] [
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If I ignore a story about a weddings bombing, it's because I'm spending "attention" doing other stuff. Yet, if I'm already empathizing with strangers, then adding more works just fine.
Believing that it's appropriate to show up in a... [
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On the other hand, the moderation seems a tad too heavy handed.
29 31 comments deleted total out of almost 1000 which is less than the overall site average and a lot of them were jokes (early "too soon"? sorts of things and... [
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[Folks, please. Parodying the voices of media outlets you dislike is counterproductive to reasonable discussion in this thread. Riffing on worst case scenarios is toxic at this point. Reconsider doing that.... [
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If I'm understanding you correctly, he's suggesting some one way fares to get people to the airport where you are all converging so that you can fly out internationally? If that's the case then yes, that is exposing you to risk.
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Oh please oh please oh please do not try and pull us into this. This is fucking despicable.
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But I thought we were actively trying to be a diverse community?
We-as-mods value having a diverse community and are willing to do the work to try to maintain that, up to a point. At the same time, having a diverse community does not... [
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You should bring the delicious rice salad that I had at this dinner this week. It is simple, festive, tasty and interesting enough that people won't be all weird about it. I think it went something like this
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Friendly note: people who find it therapeutic to talk about hunting down and punishing the perpetrators need to have that conversation
entirely someplace else and not in this thread.... [
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[Do not pre-doom the thread with random "I bet the people who feel other than I do will say/do $TerribleThing" comments please. ] [
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We are now on duty in three places. We appreciate everyone's assistance in trying to keep calm and collected as news trickles in. [
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[Please don't start the mental illness debate right now, please] [
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This latitude applies to the content of the post as well. I congratulate this website, for howtofinddealer is now a MeFi tag. What took so long?
If you have issues with the fact that people ask questions about marijuana on Ask MetaFilter,... [
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They for sure can comment at the top of a thread. I've seen it at least twice.
We can edit posts to include mod notes, we almost never do it and wouldn't do it for something like this. I appreciate that the speculation bothers people but... [
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[Chill folks, there is an open MeTa thread if you need to complain or make this personal. People deal with terrible news in different ways.] [
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Yes, they would crowd out the left wing red meat.
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[Folks please answer without calling other cultures' practices wrong? Thank you.] [
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[Folks this thread is shaping up to be very long, please link when possible instead of megaquoting] [
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Underbed storage is a great way to put away things you don't need very often. There are really thin storage tubs that can fit under even low beds. Googleable term is "underbed storage." I specifically made my bed higher up because I have a... [
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please help yourselves moderate more effectively by displaying some honest communication.
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More to the point, its our job here to try to set people's expectations. So people who come and complain about swearing on the front page on MetaFilter or Ask MetaFilter and who ask for moderator or community remedies for that may be told... [
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There is literally no strong feeling I've had that's lasted more than 20 minutes.
I have a sort of ongoing fascination with this because I find it difficult to imagine. I bet it's nice. Or maybe difficult.
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Don't other people throw things in anger sometimes but have otherwise healthy families?
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A tenet of faith for most Christians is that the Bible is without error
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Went to lunch again with Jessamyn the next day, and cemented what's turned into a really cool friendship which I really treasure.
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They do it because they think that the thing they love could be better.
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I would not at all be angry if mods put a stop to it.
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It may be easiest to convert everything to grams.
A pound is about 450 grams
A cup of liquid is about 240 grams
30375 g dates
33375 g pnut butter
15188 g peanuts
30375 g honey
840 g vanilla
30375 g oats
426 g salt
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I was praying. I hear that's effective for all sorts of things. [
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Why do we even have obit threads anyway? Is "helping the userbase to process emotions" part of Metafilter's stated purpose?
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I had a dream about koeselitz, that I ran into him working at a checkout line at a supermarket. I gave him a hard time about needing a little time off from this place. He just mentioned he was spending way too much time here about a week ago. I think... [
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Aww that sucks and I'm sorry to hear it. And no, you grieve how you want to. It's tough in this sort of a situation because people have a tendency to project and consider this one of the Worst Possible Things and it makes them a little tongue tied... [
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I definitely don't see anything stating specifically that discussion is not the primary purpose of the site
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No. There is a script for you if you feel that it should. [
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[Do not make this thread into yet another review/referendum of corb's political views. She is MeMailable.] [
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She'll be coming within a fair distance of where I am. I peeked at the blog, is there an optimal way to say "Hey send your mail to my PO and I'll deliver it to you?" or something similar?... [
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This probably doesn't work for everyone, but in my geeky circles saying "oh hey I read this AskMe question about how to get people to not skip out on their share of the tip...." actually serves to start this conversation pretty well.... [
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Oh hey welcome to the profession, though I'd already marked you as a colleague in the "Mark librarian contributions" script [you can run greasemonkey and install it and see the other library people on MetaFilter]. It's a tough market, true.... [
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