I think people should keep in mind, that like most places, the large cities in Turkey are a lot more liberal than the countryside, and that Turkey is a democracy that freely elected a conservative government, and that the people protesting in Istanbul are likely not supported by the populace as a whole. This protest is pretty likely to not catch fire and result in the collapse of the government because of that, barring some kind of massacre by the government. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 9:43 AM on June 3, 2013
Erdogan isn't establishing a theocracy, and the riots started over tearing down a park. This is closer to occupy wall street or the austerity protests in spain than it is to the arab spring. Which isn't to say their won't be political repercussions for excessive police force and so on, but I doubt that the stability of the country is threatened. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 11:12 AM on June 3, 2013
My question to you is why you just don't buy a regular voip phone? I worked in voip for almost a decade and we never installed handsets that tied into softphones. We installed softphones, and we installed polycom or cisco phones (or any of the many other available).
You can register your softphone and desktop phone at the same time, and the advantage of doing it this way is that you don't need your computer on to get calls. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 5:13 AM on June 3, 2013 marked best answer
My recommendation for a sip phone, btw, would be polycom or aastra. Both work pretty well. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 5:14 AM on June 3, 2013
You don't need a separate cable for VoIP phones. They have an Ethernet pass through, and you don't have to use POE, it's just convenient. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 9:28 AM on June 3, 2013
Feel free to memail me with more details about your setup, if you like, and I can go over it with you. Soft phones are fine for convenience and mobility, but if you have people sitting at a desk that want a handset, regular VoIP phones are still the best way to handle that, IMO. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 9:31 AM on June 3, 2013
If you read ask metafilter for any length of time, you'll see lots of personal stories about how people are dealing with or not dealing with this sort of thing. Not everyone processes something like this in the same way.
A bad thing happened to you, you are having a hard time handling it. That is 100% normal. That is actually your mind working the way it's supposed to, trying to figure out why it happened and make sense of it. You are going through a healing process.... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:45 AM on June 2, 2013
I would set up a VPN and route all my internet traffic through that. I'd also use a mac rather than a windows machine. Also, don't let your computer out of your sight. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:55 PM on June 1, 2013
Get a marketing/design job at a tech start-up, you would be ideal for it. They're always looking for people who can do two or three jobs at the same time. I'd look for a marketing/web-design job with that skill set, or maybe one doing technical documentation. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 10:38 AM on June 1, 2013
i would guess it's actually a mispronounced 'wretched' posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 10:16 PM on May 29, 2013
She got friends bring three, I got drugs I got drinks
Bend it over juicy j gone poke it like wet paint
You say no to ratchet pussy, juicy j can't
Note the slanted rhymes drinks, paint and can't... he's definitely playing around with vowel sounds there, and I've no doubt that ratchet=wretched here... They may not even know that they're saying wretched, but that's definitely what it is.
It's interesting... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 8:27 AM on June 1, 2013
According to her, this is a big assumption and a self-fulfilling prophecy. I disappeared after the night we "hung out", a few days later she called and insisted, emotionally, that I give this a try. After a few days, I just couldn't take it anymore. The whole process was ruining my self-esteem and making me obsessed with someone who is still thinking about her past and just not into me. So I called it off, I was very resentful and would not accept friendship because that's not... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 2:37 AM on May 29, 2013
He's not that into you, and you calling him on the booty call wasn't the cause of it. If he wants to continue the relationship, he'll call you and set up an actual date. Or you can call him back for a booty call, I guess, if you change your mind. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 4:54 AM on May 28, 2013
Be busy with your own life. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 1:04 AM on May 28, 2013
I don't even think she needs to cut back on the frequency of emails and so on unless he's complaining about it. He might like to hear from her all the time, even if he doesn't have anything to say. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:45 AM on May 28, 2013
This isn't your fault. Stop engaging with either of them. Nobody else will be happy to get dragged into it, and if either of them try and drag other friends into it, they'll be mad at them, not you. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 7:30 PM on May 27, 2013
1. playing a sick joke on her specifically to hurt her, and 2. trying to date her ex-bf, despite my repeated reminders that I am MARRIED and NOT LOOKING.
Not to play internet psychologist, but this sounds like borderline personality disorder talking to me, so I'm sure her family is well aware of her over-reacting to stuff by now and will not blame you for stepping in it. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 7:33 PM on May 27, 2013 marked best answer
Though I've always thought that if a person makes an honest mistake and apologizes sincerely for it that's probably the best they can do......she was so upset that I started to question myself and wonder if there wasn't something that I was missing and maybe I should have thought harder before just trying to set this up.
I'd guess she does. I briefly dated a girl who acted out this way and have seen a girl with BPD put one of my friends through this, and in both cases they were the victims of repeated trauma and abuse from multiple people when they were young and had severe abandonment issues because of it. Everyone they knew was either on their side and utterly amazing or against them and pure evil, and if they liked you... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 2:35 AM on May 28, 2013
"So, your relationship with Joe... Yeah, it's kinda clear why he ended things now. Please don't contact me again."
Worst possible thing you can do. She will take any contact as an excuse to escalate, and she will go further than you are willing to. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 2:39 AM on May 28, 2013
I'm like this. Just tell them: Hey, I'm sorry if I'm in my room all the time, but I'm just introverted and need a lot of alone time.
You should ask them if they want to do something structured like playing a board game or poker or something -- that's an easy way to break the ice with people you don't know well because it forces interaction.
Also, I don't think very many people complain about a roommate that keeps quiet and to themselves. I... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 7:40 PM on May 27, 2013
I went to Central america for a few months and learned more Spanish than I learned of French from two years of classes. You pretty much have to live somewhere that they speak it to learn it fluently. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 4:32 PM on May 27, 2013
It takes a while to get going, and the real humor comes from watching many episodes in a row and the combined impact of lots of gags that have been setting up for many episodes paying off one after another. It's not a show where a single episode is funny. There are lines where 3-4 jokes are being told or set up simultaneously, but you have to have watched a bunch of episodes and have been paying attention to notice them. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 10:16 AM on May 26, 2013 marked best answer
To be a bit more philosophical, AD is about structure and experimentation with the sitcom form and of humor in general--closer to a show like Seinfeld, or Garry Shandling, while a show like Friends is mostly about characters and relationships. Sometimes the jokes I've appreciated the most have been on a meta level, appreciating how hard they worked to set up what was really just an awful pun, if you consider the joke in isolation. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 10:20 AM on May 26, 2013 marked best answer
I started an email saying "sorry I left that lettuce in my napkin" but it sounded ridiculous
That's because it's ridiculous. For one, nobody performs post-dinner forensics on napkins with food in it while doing dishes. Even if they did, they probably wouldn't know whose plate it was, and even if they did, there are lots of reasons that people could spit out food. For all they know, there was a bug in it that you politely didn't mention. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 10:12 AM on May 26, 2013
I don't know what your life situation is like, but consider just picking up stakes and going somewhere new for a while, maybe someplace you don't even speak the language. There is nothing that will force you to get out of your shell faster than that. Three months in a foreign country got me out of a rut like you had just described that had gone on for four or five years and kept getting worse and worse. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:20 AM on May 25, 2013
Man turning around and zinging him on it sounds like a recipe for a poisonous relationship, long term. Unless you guys want to make being assholes to each other your dominant mode of conversation, I'd suggest just telling him that it bothers you and why. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:11 AM on May 25, 2013
Drug use isn't really evenly and randomly distributed throughout the population. Populations tend to self sort between drug users and non-drug users. If you had asked me in my 20s, I'd have said that everyone I know uses drugs, but that would have said more about me than it did about the population as a whole. Now almost no one I know uses them, but again, that says more about my life now.
What i would say,though, is that there are a lot more drug users who don't have... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 3:03 AM on May 25, 2013
This is just the way people are now. My GF looks at Facebook and I browse metafilter, sometimes while we're even out at dinner. Why can't you talk about what he's looking at on reddit instead of being annoyed by it? It's an important part of his life, probably, and I bet he'd like to share it with you. posted to Ask Metafilter by empathat 2:57 AM on May 25, 2013