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MeTa post:
Misandry and Ask Metafilter.
Hmmmm, no, I wouldn't say that there's a trend towards misandry, where misandry is defined as a hatred of men. I don't see a lot of man-hating here.
I do think that a lot of issues get a bit of a one-sided treatment, though. People certainly aren't hesitant to throw around words like "misogyny," and if you disagree with them, you'll quickly find yourself in the midst of a very unrewarding argument.
In any case, yes, you're going to... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 7:05 AM on August 6, 2008
.... popping back in to say that I'm also offended by the degree to which people are just dismissing the OP's concerns. A number of people have done so in a rather insulting manner. And, worst of all - JOKES HAVE BEEN MADE! (gasp!)
Does the OP come off as a bit wingnutty? Yeah, a bit. Do I agree with him completely? No. Do I even read the relationshipfilter questions? Hell no. But is the invective warranted? No, not at all.
If a woman... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 8:10 AM on August 6, 2008
And, worst of all - JOKES HAVE BEEN MADE!
Dude, that's what you do in all the feminism threads. Or is this another one of those jokes?
Yeah, I was being sarcastic.
And I'm done making jokes in the feminism threads. When people want Earnest Discussion, who am I to deny them that?
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 8:15 AM on August 6, 2008
Wow, I agreed with onlyconnect in a gender thread.
Noted.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 9:16 AM on August 6, 2008
Although I should state that, I, personally, have no problem with seeing jokes in this thread, as long as they aren't mean.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 9:35 AM on August 6, 2008
Yeah, this whole line of thinking that "guys don't have it as bad as women have it, so stop your complaining" is particularly toxic. What, you think that Asians don't have the right to complain about discrimination because they don't have it as bad as the blacks?
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 1:45 PM on August 6, 2008
The difference being that African-Americans, Jews, and Asians are all historically oppressed groups. Women are also an historically oppressed group. Men, as a broad category, are not. They cannot accurately be called a "discriminated against group," even in light of existing misandry, because the average woman is not in a position of professional, physical, or institutional power above the average man, and is therefore not in a position to discriminate against him--at least,... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 2:22 PM on August 6, 2008
I think that you probably misread my original comment. When I said this :
this whole line of thinking that "guys don't have it as bad as women have it, so stop your complaining" is particularly toxic.
I wasn't speaking specifically about discrimination. I was speaking about sexism, in general.
When I said this :
What, you think that Asians don't have... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 2:38 PM on August 6, 2008
Ask post:
Grownups can't learn programming?
meh, I doubt it. To be a good programmer, you just need a certain kind of mind. It is true that many of the people who have that kind of mind were drawn to computers early in life. However, I think there are lots of people out there with "the programmer mind," who've just never really considered doing it, for whatever reason.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Afroblanco
at 9:02 PM on August 5, 2008
Ask post:
Finding a good drummer in Los Angeles who gets it.
Really depends on what you want from your drummer.
Most of the bands that I know who have had "a really difficult time finding a drummer" want their drummer to play a very specific way. In other words, they gave their drummer little-to-no artistic freedom. They wanted him/her to play a certain piece, note-for-note, beat-for-beat. I usually just tell these guys to get a drum machine.
Not saying that you're one of those bands, but it's... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Afroblanco
at 8:56 PM on August 5, 2008
MeFi post:
More gorillas exist than previously thought
The gorillas share the park with tens of thousands of heavily armed soldiers engaged in a three-way guerrilla war between two rival militias and the Congolese army.
Further proof that gorillas and guerrillas don't mix.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 10:03 AM on August 5, 2008
MeFi post:
Doesn't everyone exaggerate the size of Lake Ontario?
I think I could actually do a pretty good job with this, as far as remembering all the states and their locations relative to each other. But there's no way that I'd get the shapes right. The end result would be technically correct but laughable.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 8:32 AM on August 5, 2008
MeFi post:
Taking "please,won't someone think of the children" to a whole new level
I hate playing post police, but this is kind of a crap post. A couple links to forum posts, a link to a mefi thread, a google search, a blog post, a savage love article, a wikipedia entry, an askme post, a link to literotica, and another mefi thread.
Perhaps this would make a good topic for an FPP, but you gotta actually give us something to read. As it is, it looks like you did a google search and then just threw whatever you found into the FPP.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 1:21 PM on August 4, 2008
Oh, there's plenty -- way too much -- to read on that second link.
Perhaps. But I still haven't seen any evidence that people are actually doing this for real. I kinda doubt it, actually.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 1:38 PM on August 4, 2008
I think that if anyone actually did this, it would have to be more than a fetish. The husband would have to REALLY WANT his wife to carry another man's child. I mean, this is more than a lifestyle decision. It's more of a LIFE decision. If a couple actually did this, there would have to be more to it than just getting off.
Which is why I suspect that nobody actually does this.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 2:07 PM on August 4, 2008
MeTa post:
Misogyny Filter (?)
Also, I would like to state that implying that the girlfriend can't be trusted to take the pill responsibly is misogynistic as we know nothing about this woman.
Bollocks. Implying that the girlfriend might miss a pill implies that she's human.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 11:39 PM on August 2, 2008
Also, I have to admit, LobsterMitten's description of the Trickster Girlfriend made me laugh out loud. I imagine this malign, Loki-like figure running around stealing mens' sperm and dreaming of juicy child support checks. Someone should turn that into a cartoon or comic.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 11:53 PM on August 2, 2008
Holy crap. Watching y'all duke it out is fun and all, but this really needs to stop.
Can we just agree on a few simple premises?
1) Women on the pill DO get pregnant.
2) To suggest that a woman may occasionally forget her pill is NOT misogynist. People forget important shit all the time. Hell, I almost forgot to pay rent this month.
3) If a man wants to keep his jimmy hat on, that does not automatically mean that he... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 8:05 AM on August 3, 2008
Yeah, I definitely think there's a double standard here.
Suppose that a woman posted "My BF wants to stop wearing condoms. He says it's okay because I'm on the pill, but I'm not sure what to do." I can't imagine that there would be many responses accusing her of being some kind of paranoid nitwit. And if there were, I'm sure they'd be buried under an avalanche of well-favorited, sharply-worded counter-responses.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 10:24 AM on August 3, 2008
I just wanted to say that it's wrong for obese Palestinian women to pressure their Israeli boyfriends to stop using condoms. What would happen if they got pregnant? Would they get the kid circumsized?
Man, that kid would have a tough time growing up. They'd probably have to start taking antidepressants at an early age.
Not like I expect any of you to understand, since it's such always such a freakin' boyzone in here.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 10:52 AM on August 3, 2008
Afroblanco: Not like I expect any of you to understand, since it's such always such a freakin' boyzone in here.
Jessamyn: It's not generally, but comments like this make it moreso.
Orang Swan : Uh, Jessamyn, that whole comment was obviously tongue-in-cheek.
Yeah, I thought it was pretty obvious that I was messing around. Basically tying together lots of things that people like to argue about on MeTa.... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 12:28 PM on August 3, 2008
Making dismissive jokey comments about touchy subjects other people are discussing in earnest is something that is one of the many hallmarks of the sort of boyzone behavior people complain about here.
There's nothing specifically male or sexist about the behavior that you're describing.
And I think that making dismissive jokey comments about touchy subjects that people are discussing in earnest is EXACTLY what these discussions need.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 12:45 PM on August 3, 2008
Besides, people use all kinds of rhetorical devices in discussions like this. Humor should not be taken off the table.
I mean, christ, people say the meanest things to each other in MeTa. And *my* little jokes are the problem?
yeeesh.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 12:49 PM on August 3, 2008
Well, how about this - not every goddamn discussion has to be dragged down in the muck of peoples' weird gender issues.
For example, this whole thing started off with a pretty straightforward argument about condom use. That was fine, for the most part. But then it became a discussion about child support, and the usual ridiculous circus ensued.
And I'm not saying that the system is broken or anything - the mods rarely close threads unless they... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 12:57 PM on August 3, 2008
just chiming in for laugh lines doesn't do much to improve the tone.
And they said that feminists were humorless. Hah!
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 1:08 PM on August 3, 2008
I'm not, but I have a feeling my polished array of man jokes wouldn't go over so well right now.
And the worst part is that I couldn't even counter it with any woman jokes because .... I don't actually know any.
(feeling oddly deficient)
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 1:13 PM on August 3, 2008
Well, the thing is, I don't really take the time to memorize jokes anymore. I mean, I think I probably knew a bunch of blonde jokes back when I was in middle school, even though I probably only understood about half of them.
But my sense of humor now is more ranty and observational, and.... hell, what am I doing explaining this to you? You know what I'm like.
:)
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 1:23 PM on August 3, 2008
onlyconnect - just got back and noticed your little nastygram.
My Golden Rule for MeFi has always been "What goes on in X thread stays in X thread." If I didn't follow by that rule, I probably would have left this site long ago, because I'd have too many grudges to keep track of. I can see that you do not follow by this rule, and you do choose to hold grudges. That's your problem, not mine.
Have fun being angry.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 7:18 PM on August 3, 2008
And, separately from onlyconnect's nastrygram -
I've finally figured out what really irks me about the gender discussions on MeTa. Although my previous grievances stand - the needless vitriol, the self-seriousness, the insolubility of the debates themselves - I've realized that these are really only minor points.
What really gets me is how these discussions typically consist of people who agree with each other 90% of the way, tearing each other... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 8:02 PM on August 3, 2008
Well, my main point is this - I feel that most of us agree about the main tenets of feminism - equal pay for equal work, abortion rights, not tolerating any sort of gender discrimination, that sort of thing. Many of us (such as myself) will even go a step further and support things like universal daycare and expanded family leave. To me, this is the 90%, the important stuff, the stuff that we can actually accomplish.
The other 10% is hairsplitting and beanplating as... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 8:55 PM on August 3, 2008
Perhaps I feel that feminism would benefit from a narrower definition. It's pretty hard to argue with someone when they can always say, "but I'm not THAT kind of feminist!"
In any case, I'm beginning to feel that we have reached a fundamental difference of opinion. Which is fine. But it also means that we are not going to agree.
.... and I've responded way too many times in this thread. I hate looking back into my post history and... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 9:34 PM on August 3, 2008
Ask post:
My girlfriend wants me to stop using a condom.
If you don't feel comfortable going condom-less, you shouldn't do it. Furthermore, she shouldn't be asking you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Why does she care, anyway? Doesn't it make more of a difference to you, sensation-wise, than it does to her?
posted to Ask Metafilter by Afroblanco
at 6:41 AM on August 2, 2008
MeFi post:
Hipster - The End of Wester Civilization
I dunno. The scene he describes sounds like a replay of the whole Studio 54 scene, except this time around everyone's depressed because they know they're not doing it for the first time.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 9:08 PM on August 1, 2008
MeFi post:
Too much love in the home?
I agree with this guy. Everything in this country has been dumbed-down, neutered, and coated with an inch-thick layer of foam because of litigious fuckwads and "but what about the children?!" overprotective parents.
Fuck 'em all. Bring back fun.
Maybe if growing up and having kids didn't have to entail checking your adult life at the door, more people would want to do it.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 1:25 PM on July 31, 2008
We are all LoriFLA's children.
(i feel loved)
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 2:02 PM on July 31, 2008
Hearing people talk about playing real music for their kids is heartening and encouraging and makes me feel good inside. I think the idea of a kid rocking out to "19th Nervous Breakdown" is awesome and adorable and cute in every possible way.
Thanks for making me fear parenting that much less.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 5:35 PM on August 1, 2008
MeFi post:
Calling King
Awesome awesome awesome book.
Given, I haven't read one of King's books in years, I always thought is fantasy stuff was top-notch.
Talisman. Dragon's Eyes. The Stand. The Gunslinger Series. Any book with a badguy who had the initials R. F.
Also, we need another short story collection! SK is a master of the art. Anybody know if he's put one out since (the highly enjoyable) Everything's Eventual?... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 11:03 AM on August 1, 2008
MeTa post:
Is it just me?
Holy Myspace, Batman!
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 10:40 AM on August 1, 2008
So weird. For some people, MeFi means a totally different thing than it does to me.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 10:59 AM on August 1, 2008
MeTa post:
Haha! Let's make things worse.
Oh, shut up and get a sense of humor.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 11:36 AM on July 31, 2008
"Haha! Let's make things worse."
I'm sure someone has already pointed this out already, but buying Zimbabwean dollars would actually make things marginally better, since you would be creating a demand for their currency.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 11:55 AM on July 31, 2008
MeFi post:
OMNOMNOMopoly
When I was at summer camp we used to joke about all the things that Sysco provided: cups, napkins, bug juice,
Weird. We called it bug juice, too.
Also, those of you complaining about Cisco's dining hall fare have obviously never experienced Sodexho/Mariott food. So bland, I swear the meatloaf tasted like the mashed potatoes.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 9:16 PM on July 30, 2008
Sysco : still better than nutraloaf.
posted to MetaFilter by Afroblanco
at 11:34 AM on July 31, 2008
MeTa post:
I predict the answer will be neigh...
I know there's some long-standing opposition to the # Of Best Answers in profile, so I'm not going to advocate that.
But here's something that I will advocate for : having # of Best Answers in Profile, but making it private, so that only you can see it.
And really, my desire for this is purely selfish - I want to know when someone marks one of my answers as best, without having to go back through my comments.
posted to MetaTalk by Afroblanco
at 7:10 AM on July 31, 2008
