"Were you in any way hesitant to speak with me?" "Why?"
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:52 AM on August 8, 2008

Any time someone starts driving you down this path of conversation (say after you admit that you're attracted to some women as well) try just smiling and repeating, "Does it matter?" to pretty much anything they say on the subject after that. I think this sends a clear message that you don't care to discuss it with them and that it is indeed none of their business.

[Shootin' from the hip]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:49 AM on August 8, 2008

If you're in Japan for 6 months or less, you don't need a visa.

For the US it is 90 days.
http://www.mofa.go.jp/j_info/visit/visa/02.html#a
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:59 PM on July 9, 2008

There are two issues here.

1. It seems your friend is a little pushy with you. It's not her decision to evaluate your finances and determine what you can afford.

My advice for dealing with this is you need to figure out exactly how much you'd be comfortable spending if it was just you and your BF. Then determine how much more you'd be willing to pay in an effort to compromise. Then have a conversation with your friend... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 11:33 AM on May 12, 2008

After him blowing you off twice, the ball is in his court. He had a gift wrapped opportunity to ask you out and all he said was the "if I don't see you." That should be a SERIOUS flag. If it turns out he's into you, he'll call eventually.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:59 PM on May 3, 2008

Yes it's possible. Work for awhile and have an interesting personal statement covering 1) why you won't repeat the issues with your GPA, 2) why you now want to go back to school after working for a few years (and how that work prepared you for your ambitions) and 3) how you will contribute to their student body.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:39 AM on May 3, 2008

Many years ago I worked as a swim instructor for a Montessori School where I worked with kids aged 4-6. They were far and above the nicest, smartest kids I have ever met.

In the process of teaching them the way to kick for their first stroke (flutter kick) a lot of kids would instead do what my coworkers and I came to call (coincidentally) "the bike kick." To describe it, they would pull up one knee towards their chest and then push out hard completely... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:48 AM on May 1, 2008

Well if you're looking for something a little warmer, I'd suggest a friend of mine.

You can see a sample of her work here.

If you like what you see, just mention me (Jake) in your email.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:49 PM on April 13, 2008

If you want to be officially diagnosed:

William A Dailey, Ph.D.
Neuropsychology

711 West 38th St. Suite D-3
512.454.7745

Regardless, after being diagnosed he'll be able to help you find the exact type of services that you're looking for.

I sincerely recommend not relying on your self diagnosis. I'm not saying there might not be something wrong, but that it might just be something else, or it could be in addition to ADD.

Good luck
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:45 AM on March 27, 2008

Just a heads up:
Lifeguards who are reading aren't doing their job right.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 6:24 PM on March 15, 2008

It's all relative.

One man's cool hipster is another man's douche bag.

One man's uncool geeky gamer is another man's charismatic guild leader.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 5:39 PM on March 12, 2008

Lockle, you must be friends with some really special ladies (that I would like to meet).

I'm seconding the idea to get a mutual female friend to ask the serious questions.

If that doesn't work, try to set up one of those meaningful self-introspective conversations and then tell him, without indicating him specifically, what you told us in that second paragraph. The one starting with "Especially . . ." Try to have a full robust... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 8:22 PM on February 27, 2008

Who's Afraid of Schrödinger's Cat? An A-to-Z Guide to All the New Science Ideas You Need to Keep Up with the New Thinking
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:57 AM on February 16, 2008

Not a solution, but related and amusing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uneMLWzfd0&eurl=http://vidaday.wordpress.com/page/3/

NSWF due to profanity
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:05 AM on January 7, 2008 marked best answer

Lies!
posted to MetaTalk by JakeLL at 7:43 PM on December 12, 2007

Um, I'll be the bastard here for a second, but only the two of you can answer these questions. Sure the commercial value might be different, but that doesn't matter much. All that matters is do each of you like what the other has better? If so, switch and you both have maximized your your enjoyment of the available resources. It's very utilitarian really.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 4:33 PM on December 12, 2007

Aubilenon

I have checked and there's nothing on them. I am however, concerned that someone has my personal information, and set up an account in my name, or something to that affect.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 5:43 PM on December 4, 2007

It was United Airlines. The only info they asked for were the membership card # and my zipcode. At no point did they ask for more information.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 6:02 PM on December 4, 2007

As much as I would love a telescope one day, my living situation clearly wouldn't be able to take advantage of such a thing. Plus I believe that would be clear to anyone who I would know well enough to get this kind of gift from.

On top of that, because of how costly a telescope would be, it would be very unlikely that anyone beyond my family could afford to get me one. The thing is though, that my family doesn't really keep holiday presents secret. (As in no attempt... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 6:22 PM on December 4, 2007

Not sure if this has any bearing on your question, but there was another change I realized. I went to one of these places and all of the games were horrible. It took me a while to pin it down, but I realized that all the games were rated E for everyone. Instead of a a shooting game there was a fireman game. I'm not quite sure how that would translate directly to a shift in patrons but I thought it worth mentioning the observation.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 11:01 AM on November 26, 2007

Still trying to dodge it like a bullet...

http://xkcd.com/150/

... and looking for someone to join me.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:01 AM on November 20, 2007

Just a heads up... signing her up for mailings can be considered federal mail fraud.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:49 AM on November 13, 2007

If I were you I wouldn't hide it. If she ever finds out you've just fueled her paranoia and she'll have actual reasons to base it on.

I realize this is unsolicited, but just refuse to apologize or even explain your additional relationships. Let her fully react, but refuse to justify yourself. Eventually she'll stop taking her insecurity out on you, and realize that your not going to play her game and feel bad because you know other women.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 8:47 AM on November 13, 2007

a good lawyer would be able to cram that drug test--and your pink slip--down your bosses' throats.

Whoa! Lets slow things down a second. First I'm not a lawyer, but the vast majority of employees are at will. This means that they can be fired for any reason besides explicitly illegal ones.

In other words, an employer who fires an employee for failing a drug test with no follow up isn't breaking the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 4:43 PM on November 5, 2007

Take a look at your lease. Most contain a provision for how long someone can stay to visit without being on the lease. (Mine is up to 5 consecutive days or up to 10 days in any particular month.) Use this information to justify him being on the lease and paying some rent if he exceeds this amount of time.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:00 PM on November 1, 2007

You need more options.

1) Is relatively unreasonable. Either Adam is willing to do this on his own or it's important enough to Eve to end the relationship it if Adam is not willing. If neither are willing, this is not a potential solution.
2) A successful relationship couldn't possibly be built on such a spectacular display of mistrust. You should sooner breakup.
3) Artificially limiting communication to a specific amount is patently... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 7:50 PM on October 30, 2007

So just staring isn't enough information. Where you sit could easily be where her gaze naturally falls. However, there are a bunch of different ways to find out whether this is the case. I've got an idea for this particular situation. Attempt to catch her staring and smile once it's obvious you see that she's looking at you. (If she looks away too quickly wait to smile until she looks back at you.) Now this is subtle and more of a smirk than a smile. If she smiles back and holds your... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:05 PM on October 25, 2007

I realize this is off the point but: Why is that woman's bath water BROWN?
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 11:02 AM on October 25, 2007

This seems simple. You say you're not sure it would work out; why not just disclose that concern, but continue on and give it a shot? If you get to the point where you're sure it won't work out, thats when to end it. It's the purpose of dating. Why miss out on something that could be great, just because you're afraid it MIGHT not work?
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 1:21 PM on October 21, 2007

Ian... what was this for? Was there a bet on this?
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:41 PM on October 17, 2007

Does dragging the CD icon on the desktop to the trash still work?

//Memories...
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:59 PM on October 16, 2007

Well this has certainly generated an interesting response. I'll try to address a few things.

First off, this idea alone is not a marketable product. It isn't a new technology, it would be a combination patent that would incorporate several different technologies that I believe have never before been brought together to create entirely new functionality. I don't know if the way I'd like to combine is within the scope of a combination patent however.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 4:43 PM on October 16, 2007

Oh and by the way, I'm sure everyone thinks their idea is a "Wave of the future" kind of thing, but it would be hard to imagine all manufacturers of this type of product not being interested in using this idea. Think the kind of thing that demands patents have a limited lifetime.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 5:04 PM on October 16, 2007

Thanks. It would be nice. I'm not expecting it to be patentable, but I figure I better make sure.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 5:39 PM on October 16, 2007

Portable.

http://www.fieldandstream.com/fieldstream/photogallery/article/0,13355,1225788,00.html
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:39 PM on October 16, 2007

Check out someone of the liquid breakfast drinks, diet or not, they work pretty well and there are various types that emphasize fat or protein.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:36 PM on October 16, 2007

Short answer: Relative to the DS, no.

Has the situation improved? Of course. If graphics aren't your number one concern, however, I wouldn't considering going back. There is a GBA has a FF:Tactics (that you can play on the DS) and there's one coming out for the DS pretty soon.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 2:39 PM on October 10, 2007

This isn't legal advice, but you would need more information to answer this question.

I'm not familiar with Australian law specifically. But this could turn out several different ways in the US.

If the danger is obvious to all but the most oblivious 3rd party then it could be found to be solely their responsibility. If the danger of the objects isn't reasonably obvious the person who put them there could be responsible. They could also be... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 12:03 PM on October 10, 2007

It's so strange the way the most random games are the ones that so many people enjoyed. I loved this one, but an odd number of people were also all about the Rescue Rangers game...
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:34 PM on October 2, 2007

Try telling her the situation. She can wait and live with you guys for another month and have no legal problem, or she can move out early, and you can take her to small claims court. If it's likely she'll think it's a bluff, you could get one of the small claim court forms and fill it out and show it to her.

(If you want, you might want to make an agreement with her that she'll only have to pay for the part of the month that you haven't found anyone to take her place.)... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:01 AM on September 30, 2007

Okay, so considering landlord-tenet law varies from state to state, you need to ignore anyone who says anything definitive without knowing exactly where you live.

There are a lot of issues here, and out of the options you presented, the ombudsmen will be most likely to either help you, or direct you to someone who can. Also consider talking to a Dean, but I imagine they would be likely to direct you to the ombudsman.

IANAL, but I'm finishing... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 5:07 PM on September 24, 2007

Nth for there being no general social directive to not use those stalls. If your a nice person you probably won't use them if there are other options, but leaving it open on the off chance that someone disabled would come in is a little silly. Regardless, has anyone ever seen a handicap only sign on one of those stall doors? I think it's just an incorrect assumption.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 8:21 PM on September 16, 2007

Yea, I second meeting your own needs first. Pu another way learn how to be alone first. The goal is to get to the point where you'd like someone to care about, but you don't NEED someone to care about.

Once you don't feel you absolutely require it, you won't necessarily pounce and smother potential suitors. In the beginning, the less someone needs you the more compelling you'll be. There is a fine line between expressing significant interest and rushing straight to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 2:29 PM on September 16, 2007

Are you talking about table salt and pepper or sea salt and fresh ground pepper? It can make a huge difference.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 2:33 PM on September 10, 2007

Don't leave a note. People always seem to interpret them in a very negative way when they get them from someone they don't know. No matter how nice you are about it, at the very least it'll be seen as passive aggressive (see this site.) It may be uncomfortable, and you may want to leave it to their imagination as to what exactly you can hear, but talking to them in person will go a long way. No matter what, this will be a constant problem that you will live with, but the random times it does... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 11:47 PM on September 9, 2007

Try this instead. Preferably when you've got a drink in your other hand. Just realize that it's really easy for something like this to come off as cheesy and trying too hard. The times I got the best reactions from this was when I did it out of necessity without thinking about it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 11:04 PM on September 9, 2007

Okay so this is advice to be coupled with some of the other suggestions here.

Stop checking his website. Stop looking for his name in the paper. If you catch yourself thing about him, accept it, but don't obsess over the fact that you caught yourself and do something else that will occupy your attention.

Memories of things and people are like a positive feedback loop. The more you think about them, the more likely you will be to think about... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 9:03 AM on September 7, 2007

Okay so I've got a fair amount to say if you're interested in emailing me privately.

Beyond that, if Straterra is working for you now, there is no reason to switch. What reason does your doctor give for you to switch? (Or does he just want the monthly script appointments that a scheduled medication requires?) Adderall works completely differently from Strattera. Why switch if you've already found one that works for you?

On top of that,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 10:46 PM on August 8, 2007

Okay, well I've got two things to say on this one.

First.
I don't know about everyone else here, but I and many guys I know, have very close relationships with people whom they don't necessarily talk to that often. Before you spoke to him, there is a good chance he didn't realize there was a problem. You mention you already knew he was a flake, so please take that into account.

Second.
I'm concerned and curious about the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 8:43 AM on June 24, 2007

Oh and good luck jkl345!
posted to Ask Metafilter by JakeLL at 3:36 PM on May 14, 2007