I don't think it's just because you are a woman. I am a man and if I overheard a bunch of guys role playing about raping women I would be a little disturbed by it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 9:20 AM on October 10, 2008

Some areas of CL require an account. This requires an email, password and cell phone. You set up the account and they send a number to the cell phone to validate the account.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 6:22 PM on October 7, 2008

The Short Party of Death.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 6:30 AM on October 3, 2008

Modern Times
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 7:30 PM on October 2, 2008

Thanks for your help everyone! Of course, any more suggestions welcomed.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 12:19 PM on October 1, 2008

Maybe call your bank?
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:29 AM on September 28, 2008

Finnegans Wake. Oh my god, Finnegans Wake.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 6:56 PM on September 25, 2008

Check out Sessions.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:23 PM on September 24, 2008

Do a 7 day sesshin.

Few things take more mental courage or determination than choosing to stare at a wall for 7 days straight.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:11 AM on September 24, 2008

Encourage him to start running and lifting weights, especially in the morning if possible. He'll feel good for the rest of the day no matter what he does.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:33 AM on September 22, 2008

I don't know about cheap, but there is a Western store on Broadway south of Canal. I don't know the exact cross streets. Near white st. though, I think. If I walk by it over the weekend I'll get the cross streets and see if they have cowboy hats.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:48 AM on September 20, 2008

She is your ex for a very good reason. Don't ignore that reason.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:15 PM on September 17, 2008

I do make a good target though: being quite ditzy, slow, and lacking wittiness

First and foremost, stop thinking about yourself in those terms!
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 3:50 PM on September 17, 2008

Not especially contemporary, but I think that Salinger's Seymour: An Introduction is in line with what you're asking. Nabokov's The Gift is essentially a love letter to Russian literature. Not sure if that counts, but it's certainly 100x better than Ada.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:00 AM on September 12, 2008

Ziggy Stardust? The original song has drums, but there is an acoustic version out there. Everybody likes that song, or at least should.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:40 AM on September 8, 2008

When I lived in france, I accumulated over 100 Euros in change. Before I left, I gave handfuls away to people asking for money on the street. Not exactly pizza, but it was good to give that much away to someone who needed it. Carry it around for a few days in your bag. When you see the person who should have it, you'll know.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 11:52 AM on September 2, 2008 marked best answer

Just for fun, the smallest moment in the Buddhist tradition is said to be 1/64th of the time it takes to snap your fingers. You can conceive of moments shorter of that, but for some reason they've decided that is as small as time can be divided and thoughts can't arise faster than that. So random. So funny.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 7:13 AM on August 5, 2008

I knew someone who would go to Steinway and pretend to be rich and interested. They seem to let you play without much hassle.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:07 PM on August 3, 2008

The navigation on your site is a little unintuitive. If you can't structure and present your own work in a simple, attractive way (with no time limit), it leads people to believe that you will never be able to structure and design things for other people (with looming deadlines).

Look at some great portfolios of people that you feel are really above you design-wise and shoot for that level of quality and attention to detail. Don't copy...just reach for the stars. You... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:29 PM on July 21, 2008

Do you. Screw the haters.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 6:02 PM on July 10, 2008

I think you're beautiful.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:39 PM on July 10, 2008

Listen to Arbac.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 9:27 AM on July 10, 2008

Definitely send the letter to the mother.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:48 AM on July 9, 2008

Butt out and be supportive. Don't tell her your concerns. Help her plan. Support her excitement. Support her marriage, and, if and when it disintegrates support her then, too.

As someone who got married when others thought it was a "bad idea" I really never stopped resenting their disapproval or meddling. I lost a lot of friendships over people laughing or disapproving of my heartfelt decisions. If her marriage does work out, the last thing you want to be is... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:12 AM on July 7, 2008

I suggest you try group therapy.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:00 AM on July 2, 2008

For the MOO-LAA
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:43 AM on June 25, 2008

In NYC we call these water bugs. Good news is that I've never seen more than one at a time inside, meaning there is probably not an infestation and once you get rid of this guy, you'll be all good. Bad news is that they can in fact be huge and do intact fly. They don't fly at you like a bee, but more hover around the room. Also, they are pretty harmless once you get used to their preposterous size. I would be more scared of a bee. For short term help I recommend just slowly going into the room.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:51 AM on June 24, 2008

d'oh, so many typos.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:54 AM on June 24, 2008

Goldberg Variations by Glenn Gould.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:41 PM on June 16, 2008

Instead of shredding (I never thought of fire), what I do is get a bucket and put the papers inside and fill it with water and let it soak over night. The next morning I mush it up into a totally illegible ball of mulch and throw it in the trash.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 3:09 PM on June 15, 2008

Or is it that I am not remembering how CS2 functioned? Has it always worked this way?
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:26 AM on June 15, 2008

Thanks bz. So basically it has always worked like this and I somehow didn't realize? That is weird.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 11:42 AM on June 15, 2008

Crap, I swear I remember that with CS2 on my powerbook I was able to do this. I really want it back. :(
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 11:52 AM on June 15, 2008

This whole idea that the only difference between a friend and a partner/girlfriend/wife is the sex is so stupid. There are many things that separate the two besides sex. For example, you don't raise children with your friends. You don't plan for your retirement with them. You're not in love with them. And on and on. Shit, I have even had sex with friends and they were definitely not my girlfriends or wife. This alone refutes this notion.

My point is... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:58 AM on June 6, 2008

La-Bas by Huysmans
Salome by Wilde, with illustrations by Aubrey Beardsley
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 6:16 PM on May 23, 2008

In AA, they have a saying. Don't stop drinking: just don't have that first drink.

Stopping smoking for the rest of your life, under all of these crazy tempting situations, feels very difficult and is a set up for failure. Just avoid the first drag. That's it. If you are tempted, deal with it without smoking or turning to another addiction. Avoiding situations where you are tempted is good at first, but ultimately you have to choose not to smoke. When you have difficulty... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:42 PM on April 22, 2008

Forgot to mention: haven't smoked in over 5 years.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 10:44 PM on April 22, 2008

Check out Columbus Park in Chinatown. Lots of restaurants and tea places. Dunkin Donuts lets you use the bathroom. Plenty of places to sit outside. Very relaxing.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 12:53 PM on April 18, 2008 marked best answer

Based on your wife's comment about packing on the pounds to show you, I suspect your wife is overeating to cope with her frustrations and as a way to express her anger. What things in her life could she be frustrated about? What could she be so angry about that she is willing to sacrifice her health, body and marriage in order to express herself? Being her husband, I am sure you have a good idea. If you don't, then I bet that's part of the problem right there. Help your wife with her life, not... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 3:51 AM on March 16, 2008

I *just* got out of a long hospital stay and struggled with this. Any meaningful dose of opiates makes me really nauseous, often resulting in vomiting. Eventually they switched me to a painkiller with tramadol and presto, no nausea. We were dealing with significant pain, and tramadol delivered relief. Of course, I was just happy to stop vomiting on myself. I would definitely talk to your doc about the option. I don't know the long term risks of taking it, might be worse withdrawals, etc. But it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:27 PM on March 10, 2008

Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 4:37 AM on March 10, 2008

I don't know about the rest of the lyrics, but Aganju is the Portuguese word for shango (chango).
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:53 AM on March 10, 2008

Sorry, I was wrong; usually aganju is shango's father or brother. In some stories I think the two are collapsed. At any rate, he's an orisha and I was always under the impression the song had strong devotional overtones because of this. Hopefully someone can come through with a great translation. Can't wait.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 3:04 AM on March 10, 2008

Donuts and cards to each floor seems nice and affordable. Any other suggestion welcome.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 8:10 AM on March 9, 2008

You should check out Zen Buddhism: A History by Heinrich Dumoulon. Although he's a no zen master, and I wouldn't trust him as an abosolute authority on complex buddhist concepts, Dumoulun did a good job tracing the development of zen from India to Japan. By the time you're done you'll have a good idea of all important zen figures and their basic ideas and experiences, which can help direct your further course of study.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 1:22 AM on March 3, 2008

For concentration, I suggest meditation. It's a more long term solution as you won't see results over night; but over time you will see your ability to focus strengthen significantly. It will also make the push and pull of your thoughts a little less intense.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:38 AM on March 2, 2008

Man, I wish I could give you a hug.

I pretty much agree with what everyone has said so far. Just wanted to say a lot can change. Little internal changes or realizations can change the world you live in dramatically. You might look back in a year and not identify with the person who wrote this at all. Just keep that in mind if you begin to feel hopeless.

I hope you find the treatment that helps you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:26 PM on February 26, 2008

Oxycodone HCl 7.5mg, acetaminophen 325mg;
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 3:28 PM on February 24, 2008

For the record, my doctor gave me a few suggestions, but the issue came up at the tail end of a visit that was really about a totally different issue. He didn't dissuade me from becoming a vegetarian, he just said I should probably try to pack on a few pounds, one way or another.

I am underweight, but maybe "cartoonishly" is overstated. Every doctor I have ever been to seemed to think I was perfectly healthy. I just have a very slim build and maybe 10 pounds... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 12:23 PM on February 24, 2008

agentofselection

I think we are about the same. I am a little shorter and weigh a little less but the situation you describe sounds very familiar.

I used the fitday calculator today and I am already well over 2000 calories for the day and I still have a lot of evening snacking to do. I think on an average day I easily consume 2,500-3,000 calories. I don't know how much more I can eat. I might just take Gordion Knott's... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by milarepa at 2:41 PM on February 24, 2008