I'm feeling a little violated just at the thought of this happening so, no, I don't think you're wrong to feel upset.

I do think they were well-meaning, however, I think it probably wasn't the best idea to call him while you were still very upset but at the same time it's now clear to them what your feelings on the matter are and they hopefully won't cross that boundary again.

Your parents will probably get over it but it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:42 PM on August 22, 2008

Try and convince him to tell her and if he still won't then tell her. Yes, the relationship might dissolve all on its own but what if in the aftermath it comes out that you knew about this all along and didn't tell her? If I was in the girlfriend's position, I think I'd be lot more hurt that the person I did trust betrayed me more than the one that I didn't.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 7:25 AM on August 21, 2008

Congratulations! I shaved off my hair a few months ago for 'Shave for a Cure' and I'm loving it! The celebrity style that kept my from back-peddling at the last minute was that of Natalie Portman. My hair hasn't been quite as obedient as its grown out but its been an experience nonetheless!
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:40 PM on August 17, 2008

Some cheese slices.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 9:52 PM on August 14, 2008 marked best answer

Here's a list of some Buffy-related gifts I've gotten from others or from myself:

-Giant Buffy poster
-The original Buffy movie
-Buffy pencil case
-Joss Whedon autograph
-DIY bookmarks
-Buffy lunchbox
-Tickets to conventions Buffy stars are appearing at
-Buffy calendar

Obviously quite a few things are branded but the other things are just as special, particularly... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 10:04 PM on August 14, 2008

You could be morbid and get her an eye-patch.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 10:06 PM on August 14, 2008 marked best answer

Which reminds me, how about some cookie dough?
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:56 AM on August 15, 2008 marked best answer

Did Yahoo Answers decide to change to a green background?
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 8:37 AM on August 13, 2008

There's no way of knowing. One of my best friends had a solely online relationship with a girl for 11 months before meeting her and five years later they're still together. This took place while they were on opposite sides of the world and one of the parties involved wasn't even sure if she liked girls in "that way".

But like others said, if you're unsure then keep your options open! That doesn't mean you should communicate with him less but don't rebuff other... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 12:02 AM on August 9, 2008

My answer? "I'm attracted to people."

And what is it with people insisting that if you've never been with a girl you're only "bi-curious" and yet if you've never been with a guy you're not labeled "straight-curious"? Heteronormativity ftw.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 7:09 PM on August 8, 2008 marked best answer

My older female cousins get this all. the. time. Not just from their parents but everyone from sweet old grandma to our second cousin's twice removed best friend from Bangladesh. They all have different routes of dealing with it:

- threaten to leave the room until they quit discussing it
- threaten to never bring along [significant other] if they bring it up around him
- take it with a smile (read: grimace) and fume later
- meet any... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 1:57 AM on May 28, 2008

I actually had this conversation with my boyfriend the other day. I'm of East Asian descent but raised in Australia, and I've always taken my shoes off immediately when I get home. If they're shoes that I keep in my room (like high heels) I'll take them off once I'm in the door and carry them to my room. I do the same at any relatives and friends houses that I'm comfortable with. I would never do this at a person's house that I didn't know very well unless I saw them doing the same thing. My... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 3:55 PM on May 26, 2008

Purse here means the same as a wallet. Handbag and bag are for everything else.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 8:53 PM on May 24, 2008

if you are a man, never never never listen to women regarding relationship advice. what women say they want, and what actually makes them attracted to you/stick around, are two very different things. apologies and respect to the females in this board offering their obviously well-intentioned advice, but much of what i'm reading seems quite off the mark.

Wow, I didn't realise you could read all women's brains! You're like a god.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 6:01 AM on May 23, 2008

um, facet? i mean "fact"
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 6:06 AM on May 23, 2008

Re: The race issue. My own family mocks each other incessantly. They make jokes about being to dark, too short, too fat, etc. They would never do this to someone outside of the family. To me, if your future-in-laws are doing this around you, it sounds like they're comfortable enough to "be themselves" and already consider you part of the family.

And really, is the eating with their fingers that weird? Really?
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 3:28 PM on May 21, 2008

If she can take the morning after pill, get her to take it! Yes, the chances are minimal that she's pregnant but at least you can put this out of your mind (and use a condom next time!)
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:53 PM on May 15, 2008

it will make her miserable for at least 24 hours while she menstruates and becomes pretty ill.

I'm sorry, what? I didn't realise the morning after pill caused menstruation?
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:17 PM on May 15, 2008

By which I mean, taking EC does not guarantee any of the side-effects you outline. It only may do those things.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:19 PM on May 15, 2008

My Nanna who's in her very late 70's is pretty happy, I'd say. She has a large social group, loves attending church every day, is part of many societies (like the Housewives Club) and still out-dances us all at gatherings. That isn't to say she's constantly happy, but she's nowhere near "deeply unhappy" either.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:23 AM on May 15, 2008

2) I know I'm not there. I don't know everything that's going on, but when someone wants a divorce and then reneges on it, can that relationship really be saved?

It is the context of this "divorce" that matters. Her mother had died, she was going through a huge emotional upheaval that can cause problems and issues with other relationships in her life. I don't think you can make this judgment call on her without really knowing her, only... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:55 PM on May 5, 2008

I had friends and teachers that mispronounced my name for six years! Finally, one day my friends were over at home and they heard my mum calling me by the right pronunciation. It's a really good way to clear the air, something like "Oh, yeah, that's how it's really said but it's not that much of an issue." Some people actually got quite upset over me not mentioning that they had been saying my name wrong all this time (then again, I had let it go on for six years). In my mind it had... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:48 PM on May 5, 2008

I'm a geek, feminist, in my early twenties and I have many female friends. They fall into two categories, firstly, those that I've kept in contact with since High School. I don't have much in common with them, we ended up together because we were lumped together in class, but our friendships have developed deeper over time and sharing life events together. They're great girls, and while I wouldn't go to them to discuss meeting Neil Gaiman (which I did today!) I know they'd still listen to me... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 10:29 PM on May 3, 2008

I've had pretty much the exact same experience as miss cee, having quite a few more medical appointments in the past few months has made me much more aware of the process involved. I think it is quite good overall, but, my British relatives find it less appealing than their own system (except my uncle who's a doctor, he's much more keen on the pay here).

I'm off to see a specialist next week, and my understanding was that appointment was much easier to obtain due to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:07 AM on May 2, 2008

Personally? I wouldn't do it. I know too many people who would appear to fall into this category, but in reality have been speaking english their whole lives. Intended or not, it can come off as pretty patronizing then to be complimented on being able to speak, pretty much.

If it's much more context specific (like, they've been talking about having only very recently picked up on the language) then that certainly allows room for... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:38 AM on April 24, 2008

Yes. It's not the threat of disownment that hurts, though. It's the disappointment, guilt and anger I feel at myself for being a bad daughter. Then it's the frustration I feel for being upset with myself and not with him. So, if you're in a similar situation then I advise you to leave. (MeMail me if you need to).
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:30 AM on April 24, 2008

Sien posted what I came in here to also add. Seriously, the Hottest 100 covers many a one hit wonder from many a indie-rock band. It is more Australian oriented but still worth a look.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:22 PM on April 22, 2008

A bottle of water and a sealed snack (like a muesli bar or whatnot), never know when you're going to get the munchies!
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:18 PM on April 22, 2008

I was born in the late eighties. My mum and I always sang in the car together to Neil Sedaka, Roy Orbison, Cliff Richards and for some strange reason that Speedy Gonzales song.

I've never, ever, ever heard my dad sing. His side of the family don't even drone out "Happy Birthday". I don't think he even understands singing. When I sing in the car now, he thinks I'm talking to him.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:50 PM on April 19, 2008

Okay, so I'm in a relationship my parents don't know about. I'm also really insecure. I'm also deeply devoted to my boyfriend. He is not someone they would approve of. So, our two relationships have parallels, however, you need to realise that turning to the internet after one day of drama is not the answer.
Your girlfriend has the sense to realise she is being hysterical about the situation, and yet she continues to be hysterical about it. You will both have to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:14 AM on April 14, 2008

It's not downtown per se but it's close enough. There's a big university in that area as well, so finding a sharehouse close by shouldn't be a problem, unless you have an issue living with college-aged people. There are tram lines that run through there so even if you find a place in Carlton or Fitzroy, you're probably set.

Melbourne is pretty small, though, you'd be hard pressed to get a three hour commute from any of the closer suburbs. I live in a semi-bush area and... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:42 PM on April 3, 2008

Cricket is one of the few sports I find appealing to play and watch. I think your best bet is to go to a ODI with some mates fluent in cricket as the easiest way to explain what is going on is while watching it happen. If you go to a 20/20 (which isn't like real cricket AT ALL), it'll be too fast paced to keep track of what's happening. I don't know the technical terms for a lot of things, but the nice thing about cricket is you only need to get into the general gist of things to really enjoy it.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:24 AM on April 3, 2008

I was raised in a family that was very emotionally repressive, with very limited verbal or physical affection so I think I over-compensate for that in my relationship. We've been together for almost three years now and we say our "I love you's" a few times a day, be it during a phone call, a text message or a whisper in the ear. We're pretty affectionate, randomly so - in public and in private, I'll always go in for a quick hug and sometimes he'll gather me and swing me around. All... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 6:29 PM on March 27, 2008

Major props for listing Rivers Cuomo and Sufjan Stevens both of whom are at the top of my list. Geeky is the sexy in my book. I totally get the Josh Homme thing, too. He's really not my type and yet I'm still drawn to him.

Also, Omar Rodriguez-Lopez from The Mars Volta. He's got some crazy energy on stage and so sexy holding that guitar.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:35 AM on March 26, 2008

The Cinematic Orchestra's To Build A Home in this pretty slick Schweppes advertisment.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 2:57 PM on March 25, 2008

George Eliot (Middlemarch, The Mill on the Floss) and Isobelle Carmody (Obernewtyn Chronicles, The Darksong Trilogy) are two of my favourite authors who also happen to be female.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 6:00 AM on March 10, 2008

This might not be the advice you're looking for but I strongly suggest The Internet to help you overcome your anxiety and getting to know someone before you go on The First Date. I've always found it much more easy to open up online than in person and you don't have the stress of appearances (oh god do I have food stuck in my teeth?!) to worry about. I don't even necessarily mean dating sites, but rather forums or communities online that are in your area of interest. That way you know you... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 11:49 PM on February 3, 2008

Just don't go down the route of my family, which involves bathing in milk, a party involving two hundred guests, a giant ceremony, 5 outfit changes and a professional video and photographer to capture it all.

(Ah, cultural diversity, you gotta love it)
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 1:55 PM on February 1, 2008

Thankfully what I recounted earlier never happened to me personally, but I witnessed many mortified cousins go through that very thing.

Anyway, I was pretty pleased with how my family dealt with it but it varies from individual to individual. I told my mum and she gave me a hug and then I got to wear some new clothes of mine and we lay in bed and watched television. My aunty came over in the evening and gave me a rose which was sweet. Me being the lame 12 year old that I... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:34 PM on February 2, 2008

Move to Melbourne because I live there and I'll be your friend.

Our weather CAN get depressing, especially in the middle of winter but considering you're planning on moving to Canada eventually, I think that'd be a good way of getting used to theirs!

I've visited Toronto a few times and found it both friendly and very similar to Melbourne which I guess lends to the theory that Melbourne is a more friendly place. It's a lot more diverse than... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 2:27 AM on February 1, 2008

I personally wouldn't swear on a first date, because I don't swear around strangers. But, how swearing or not swearing is construed as being unladylike is baffling and slightly offensive. If a woman swears you're not dating a lady but a 'garbage can'? I forget, who's the classy one here? Your preference is that the person your on a date with doesn't swear. That's fine, it doesn't make you a prude it just means you have different tastes. I don't think you should ask that person to tone it down... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 5:42 PM on January 21, 2008

Well, there's probably something to that because I was raised in a multi-faith household and I ended up an atheist.

However. That was my choice that I made as an adult, one that many, many people make regardless if both of their parents are of the same faith or not. Her mindset just seems completely different to your own. If, at the core, your values are not similar it can be something very hard to overlook. If she's not willing to budge on this idea, that is what she's... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 3:08 PM on January 21, 2008

I know that I would be flattered if anybody came up to me in a club and started chatting with me, but that's because no one ever has. Stories from my "hardened" girlfriends tell me they would react otherwise. Some of them actually prefer the...grinding real hard from behind technique, so it could earn you with a slap in the face or a hook-up. Something as simple as making conversation with them up at the bar is probably the easiest way to go. Although they probably won't be able to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 2:59 PM on January 16, 2008

After recieving Communion and while in prayer I used to think, "Please don't think dirty thoughts, please don't think dirty thoughts, God's listening!" And then I would proceed to think dirty thoughts.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 4:54 PM on January 15, 2008

Well...it is online.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 2:54 AM on January 14, 2008

Is there anything wrong with the spacebar key itself?
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 8:09 PM on December 3, 2007

Also, instead of a '.' copy and paste a space!
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 8:10 PM on December 3, 2007

Because love is about more than how hot they look in that mini skirt/open collar shirt.
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 1:03 AM on November 30, 2007

Do they have to do it so soon? Can't they leave it until they feel a bit better to handle dealing with packing away memories associated with the deceased? I only ask because it's not something that has to be done urgently and when they feel they're ready then they can decide what they want to do. Heck, it's been almost a year now and my mum's closet is still full. We don't feel ready to part with anything just yet. If they feel it's too painful to have the clothes around, why not just pack them... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 6:48 PM on November 21, 2007

In that link above it lists:

Total Names: 716
Males: 547
Females: 169

Billionaires: 25
Millionaires: uncounted
U.S. Presidents: 8
Astronauts: 1 (Valentina Tereshkova)
Nobel Prize Winners: 10 (6 Literature, 2 Peace, 1 Physics, 1 Chemistry)
Nobel Prize Nominees: 11 (includes above and Heather Mills)
Olympic Medal Winners: 8 (7 Gold... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by liquorice at 3:45 PM on November 15, 2007