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"I've been on the receiving end of the kind of stonewalling cyanide recommends, not so long ago, and it did not discreetly minimize the friendship. It ended the friendship, and I still hope that someday my former friend will fall into a sewer and be..." [
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more than 12 hours ago
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"I'm sure she's a perfectly wonderful person, she's just extremely condescending to people she moderates.
This is another one of those statements that's designed to make the heads of ST:TOS robots explode, isn't it? I see your game...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by grobstein
3 weeks ago
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"chimaera, I think your list is right on target. There's just one thing I'd add:
2a: Ask a level-headed, critical-minded, relatively emotionally uninvolved party to read over your statement before you post it. Take any advice they might give you..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by chimaera, gubo
3 weeks ago
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"That said, the deafening silence from Cory and the other BB principals is at the very least really weird at this point, and I'm genuinely curious what the deal is.
Weird is the word, all right, and I've generally considered Cory to be one of the..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"I have a phobia of dogs, vastly better than it used to be but still occasionally troublesome. (I acquired it pre-verbally; a large, unleashed dog attacked me in my stroller and had to be fought off. Joy.) And I generally react in a quiet, tense..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by Sonny Jim, mynameismandab, nooneyouknow
3 weeks ago
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"Cops. Lawyer. Gift of Fear. Documentation. Right away.
When you talk to your friends, and that is a very good idea, there are a few things to make clear to them. It's likely that you're going to have to make a display of seriousness. Tell them..." [
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Last month
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"In your shoes (and I have been there, or in very similar footwear) I found that part of my unhappiness had to do with talking to the person, and part of it had to do with the fact that they were calling and bugging me. It made me feel like they were..." [
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favorited 8 times, recently by Hutch, RedEmma, Flitcraft, theiconoclast31, The Light Fantastic, vers, Solomon, Asparagirl
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"Married 4.5 years, age 36, no kids, no regrets. I leave the child-rearing to people who feel called to it. I've never felt that call.
Sometimes parents like to pull out the old "My life was empty and meaningless before I had my child!"..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by andraste, LobsterMitten, Pantengliopoli, agregoli
3 months ago
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"I've been diagnosed with moderate ADHD, but I've got it well controlled without meds by training myself to a few systems that work for me. (Besides a calendar, an activity log is useful; I often ask myself, "Did I do such-and-such? Or was that..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by mynameismandab, Jade Dragon
4 months ago
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"What medea42 said. Assuming, of course, that you want to do her some good.
From those excerpts, it seems to me that you write "a little" a lot. To keep from pulling your punches, look over your letter once you've written it and take out..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by vocpanda, thebrokedown, jamaro
4 months ago
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"It's really not all that unusual for good-hearted, attractive people to be rejected by losers. It's downright common. After all, if those people knew a good thing when they saw it, they wouldn't be losers. The guy's a loser; why would his dealings..." [
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4 months ago
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"I briefly dated someone with narcissistic traits, several years ago. Dropping him like a hot rock was a fine move, if I do say so myself. The basic problem there is that he was a vicious, self-obsessed heel on a regular basis. He later went on to..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by availablelight, aielen, chicainthecity, nickyskye
4 months ago
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"I love cauliflower in spicy vegan peanut soup, and I'm not even a vegetarian. The original recipe calls for turkey meat, but I find that cauliflower has a great texture that makes the recipe even better. I do this from memory now, without much..." [
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4 months ago
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"I'm a woman who's been known to both scream and bellow. Screaming means, "I've been injured"; bellowing means something more like, "Don't even try to injure me you son of a bitch because I'm scarier than I look and I will fuck you up...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by jamjam
5 months ago
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"tkolar, it's an interesting idea, but I think that what would happen is that people would take up the side of the muzzled poster, whereas now one might think, "Eh, Embattled Poster is handling stuff fine. Doesn't need my help."
Not that..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by Elsa, Melinika, librarina, onlyconnect, LobsterMitten
5 months ago
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"I don't believe I've ever heard from or met an FMS/CFS patient who didn't have various other disorders, symptoms, diagnoses, and what not.
*raises hand*
I have CFS, ever since a severe onset in late 1996, and I am in almost all other respects..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tugena13, jtron
6 months ago
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"For containers without supplemental light, arugula is the first thing to come to mind, and then Tom Thumb butterhead lettuce, which makes charming little mini-heads. I've also had some good luck growing parsley, thyme, bay, and chives in containers..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by fidelity, nenequesadilla
6 months ago
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"I've been doing Pilates for about three years now. I think the place to start at the very beginning is with breathing and proprioception. You can probably find many descriptions of Pilates breathing; here's my take on what I do. (I'd talk your SO..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by initapplette, rossination, eritain, vytae, creasy boy
6 months ago
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"It sounds to me like you want to "repair the relationship" just so that you can get her to stay still long enough for you to yell at her. She doesn't want to hear it; why would she? I'm not hearing that you have anything to say to her but..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by elisynn
10 months ago
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"In my ideal world, next time you bring this up, the conversation goes something like this:
"All straight men check out women's bodies! I'm just not afraid to say it out loud!"
"You ought to be. Now I'm dumping your sorry ass...." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by jayder, baphomet
10 months ago
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""Wash on Monday, iron on Tuesday, mend on Wednesday, market on Thursday, clean on Friday, bake on Saturday, rest on Sunday." That's how I learned it, anyway, though there are other versions. If Thursday is a traditional market day, it makes..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by gursky
10 months ago
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"I'd recommend consulting a lawyer. Your local bar association may have cheap legal clinics, or you might try your university. Depending on where you are, you may need to be able to prove that you told Creepy Ex never to contact you again if you want..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pluckysparrow
10 months ago
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"As it happens, our wedding was four years ago today.
My mom paid for my dress, his folks paid for the rehearsal dinner at our favorite local Chinese place, and a good friend with restaurant connections paid for the booze at the reception. Aside..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by hades, iamabot
11 months ago
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"I'd like LEDs on my bike gloves so people can see me signaling in the dark." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by olecranon
Last year
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"I've had a very good experience with a Bastyr-trained ND over the last three years, but when I look at some of the experiences my friends have had, I can tell that she may be a little unusual. By which I mean that she actually reads and can..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by docpops
Last year
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"This is why we have floral delivery services. Seriously, it's old-fashioned but there is a lot to be said for it -- it lets them know you're thinking about them, but it doesn't much infringe on their time or energy.
If you were close friends, I'd..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by brinkzilla
Last year
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"So much good advice, especially from jellicle.
Most if not all of the vendors you'll be dealing with are people who are used to stressed-out brides. I found that if I went and talked to bakers and florists in my most mellow, sensible mode, the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by nielsellerkaos, santojulieta
Last year
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"Teresa Nielsen Hayden of Tor has re-posted some semi-random bits of advice for writers attending their first SF convention that may be helpful for you. There are some good comments on that post, too.
My favorite bit of that advice applies pretty..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Chorus
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"So, I have a taboo and difficult-to-manage condition, chronic fatigue syndrome, and these days I'm a housewife. (That makes me twice lazy to some folks. Oh, the joy.) If they were delivered regularly, your suggestions would probably make me go..." [
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Last year
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"I rely on vegetable soups. A typical one would have onions, a little garlic, chopped tomatoes, celery, carrots, green beans, a handful of barley or quinoa and a little thyme.
I also do what Elsa does with roasted veggies. Yum! I like them over..." [
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"What bothers me most about this story, Anonymous, is not your lousy restraint decisions so much as it is the possibility that you may be a specialist in being victimized. You read to me as somebody who might as well go around with a big sign over her..." [
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