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"I love Pavanne from the movie Orlando and used it at my wedding. It's a regal piece of music that was historically used for weddings or processions with lords and ladies. It's pretty spare though--drum and strings--perhaps not the direction you're..." [
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12 days ago
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"Realize there may be people around you (friends, family) who assume this is a death sentence and act as if your wife is dead or almost dead. This happened to my mom; several people fell to talking about her in the past tense, and even her sister..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"Decide nighttime strategies during the day. It's impossible to make clear-headed decisions when you are woken from sleep that you desperately need.
Cannot stress that enough. Mr. Cocoa and I literally made written notes to refer to so we wouldn't..." [
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"Similar situation. Like Green Eyed Monster, I said I wanted to be married or have a date set by the end of the year (we were talking about New Year's resolutions at the time and I'd been thinking about the whole thing but not really until that point..." [
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"In a patriarchal society, raising a kind boy can be an act of subversion and revolution." [
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favorited 17 times, recently by echolalia67, Twicketface, BugsPotter, umbú, lottie, Melinika, Capri, woolylambkin, librarina, sixcolors, sarahnade, zoomorphic, numinous, zarah, peacheater, Pater Aletheias, kuppajava
2 months ago
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"Some personal experience and some info. I have a sonno foam mattress (polyurethane & memory foam, not latex) from DWR and the smell when we received it was noticeable for about a month. Offgassing is different though, and I think with most items..." [
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2 months ago
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"I'm not huge on doing housework, but I like housework done because it gives my mind a little free space. I've tried some of the flylady stuff, but frankly the site is so...messy...that I don't trust the advice even as I get fed up looking for it...." [
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2 months ago
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"Benadryl is not a toy. Benadryl is a sedative and sedatives are not only not recommended for infants, but even older children the effect is totally unpredictable and can result in hyperactivity. Additionally, dosing in children is a crap shoot, so..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by KokuRyu, peep, chesty_a_arthur, GaelFC
3 months ago
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"First off, whenever your husband does something proactive along the planning front--packing or filling up the car or whatever--let him know that you appreciate it. Second, be positive about anything he plans. Even the basketball game. You don't want..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by lucyleaf, tomcooke, desjardins
3 months ago
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"My therapist says I should try to do the things I'm supposed to do.
The problem is that death has a nasty-almost-willful way of casting doubt onto what we're "supposed to do." Call me old fashioned, but I think this is the time to say..." [
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3 months ago
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"If I had just a summer, I would set out to eat my way from one end of Mass Ave. to the other.
Plus there's a meetup soon." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by lunasol, Rock Steady
3 months ago
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"Clarify a few things for yourself ahead of time, using the simplest "for dummies" language you can:
- What is the purpose of this meeting?
- What fascinates me about this person and their work? What am I curious about here? (This one's..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tickingclock, wabashbdw
3 months ago
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"Scavenger hunt. Microscope. Kite. Badminton. RC boats or planes. Sketch book and colored pencils." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by frosty_hut
4 months ago
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"C'mon people, this one's easy. Four liberal arts college employees in a car together? Ask them "questions that invite people to explore the most fascinating of subjects: themselves" (taken from the description for the first book, but..." [
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4 months ago
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"We've done both a 4- and 7-hr east coast route many times with Baby Cocoa over the last few years and it's great. Way better than a car. I think for a 4mo the car seat depends on whether you need it at your destination and whether Baby Blackjack..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by maggieb
4 months ago
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"What you've heard from him for two years is a bunch of "flaws" that he has spun as justification for why you're not right for him---things many other guys would turn into reasons for being with you (you're younger, less jaded/experienced, a..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Scram, aielen
4 months ago
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"Andy Goldsworthy, and land artists in general, often counts on natural decay as part of his artmaking. Here's the wikipedia article and a quote from an interview: "Process and decay are implicit...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by CreativeJuices
4 months ago
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"Can I suggest a funky mix tape of contemporary Brel and Piaf covers. Covers all the bases you want to cover, but skirts the ones that raise potential for seeming overeager or being embarrassed...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by bettafish
5 months ago
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"oncogenesis: Have you looked at the online user guide or the wiki?
Well, to do that I'd have to be able to figure out how to get online and find those sites with said UI. Call me a literalist, but I approached it as if I were a child receiving it..." [
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5 months ago
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"I spent 8 years with someone I loved deeply and romantically (and still love as a person). Through 6 years of tumult (high drama, low drama, bureaucratic tumult, cultural tumult) we (er, I) held on to the idea that it was the circumstances around us..." [
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5 months ago
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"I have read that his stuff did produce significant noise when played over the cutting and reassembly. But anyway, Mr. Cocoa, who cuts all sorts of materials for work, chimes in with: water jet cutting. You'd probably have to send the material out to..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by rongorongo
5 months ago
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"I think the term proslepsis, mentioned tangentially in the wikipedia entry as an answer in the askme thumpasor links to, is closer to what you're looking for than apophasis or paralepsis. The latter use pat phrases to stand in for content, or add..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by philomathoholic, t2urner
5 months ago
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"Before you go gettin' all custom, why not see if an '04 driver's seat fits into the '07? I'd look into that first, since the '04 seat is a known quantity...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by doctor_negative
5 months ago
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"I had the bust problem too. Went from 32B to 36DD at my post-partum, er, peak. I've settled somewhere around 34D and actually found that ON's tops are pretty good. They run long (which help cover post-partum asses and haunches) and several of the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by tractorfeed
6 months ago
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"To me this is less an issue of whether to have kids and more an issue of how your SO is dealing with you. She has put you into a reactive and defensive role by telling you that you have to create some logical, critically sound, airtight..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by marble, sondrialiac, melissam
7 months ago
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"I suggest not eating or testing any of what you're cooking. Nothing. Perfect a few recipes and then just make them blind. This has helped me a little bit, but it's not always practical (chili, for instance). But I think I often sit down deflated..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by bobber
7 months ago
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"Can you go cold turkey? Because sometimes a fast works for me in situations like this (I work at home, it's cold and dark, so I put two (two!) pot pies in the oven and eat my ice cream before dinner). Anyway, a three day fast puts my mind back on..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pantufla
8 months ago
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"I can't believe no one has suggested this: go to sleep earlier. It sounds too simple, but it's what all the sleep books say for helping kids with disrupted sleep (and it works) and it's what I tried when I was in your shoes. I've also recommended it..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by zippity, JimN2TAW
8 months ago
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"Baby Cocoa's 2.5 and I've done many ~6hr trips alone with him. He loves books so I recorded myself reading some of his favorite books. When we're in the car, I hand him the book, cue up the [insert technology of choice here] and am..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Joh, healthyliving
8 months ago
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"Well, I feel a bit hokey for posting it, but this got me through a lot: Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by melissam
8 months ago
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"Choosing not to clean things up now is a clear choice to let things get a lot worse. You've got a nice fork in the road right now. Your choices from here on in won't be so pleasant.
I pride myself of being able to "work hard and play hard...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by redfisch
9 months ago
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"I think it might be the same reason for the 8-10 crowd as for toddlers: in the hierarchy of things that matter, bumping into you (or anyone) is pretty low compared to exercising autonomy or intention in the world. That is, their interest in pointing..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by ekstasis23, healthyliving, Miko
9 months ago
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"Have you tried Zafu? A few friends have recommended it to me, though when I did it there were too many results (53!) given back to give me much confidence in it. For what it's worth, the brand they rank best for me is Ralph Lauren Modern Bootcut...." [
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9 months ago
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""What's healthy during pregnancy is all the things you would normally avoid" would perhaps be true if you were stereotyping every pregnant woman as someone who in the past has always had a cigarette + diet coke for breakfast, picks at a..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by barnone, ambrosia, gaspode
9 months ago
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"Mix your own! Start with a base of aloe vera juice. Add vitamin E to create the consistency you like (lighter for a spray bottle, denser for a dabber). Then add essential oils one drop at a time. I've been making my own fragrance for years..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by lhall, Ruki
9 months ago
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""Hey roomie, I've mentioned my concerns a few times already and I think they're reasonable. Our personal safety is very important to me. From now on I'm going to lock the door when I feel like I need to. Just want to give you a heads up so that..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by marble
10 months ago
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"Why not just pop it on the stove in a covered pot? Add a bit of oil, popcorn, heat and shake. (Like this.) Score one for you if your kids are old enough to do the shaking themselves. My brother and I loved making popcorn when we were kids...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by arcticseal
10 months ago
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"Since Gottman's already been mentioned, I'll add one other good book I've read that is research-based: Peer Marriage: How Love Between Equals Really Works, by Pepper Schwartz. Written in the mid-90s, it was based on some studies she did of same-sex..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by cwittmann, Afroblanco
10 months ago
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"Hellooo me! I got some advice a while back that helped me:
- Improve your shoes. On days when I put on my clogs or sneakers, the rest of my outfit follows. So I bought some funky and functional shoes and now when I have them on, even jeans and a..." [
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10 months ago
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"I just ordered some socks and tights from Sock Dreams. I haven't received them yet so I can't speak to quality, but wow, they have one of the biggest selections I've seen of tights & socks, and lots in wool and cotton. Check out these heather..." [
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10 months ago
