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"(I attribute this to his having very few sexual relationships prior to me, while I have been much more active)
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"I think it was the economist Tyler Cowen who pointed this out: if you're a reader with a well above average appetite, you will read perhaps 5,000 books in your entire life. That's if you read 1-2 books a week, every week, from the time you're in..." [
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6 days ago
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"I'm a woman, and I agree with game warden.
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7 days ago
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"You'd be telling your kids this in order to make your ex-wife look bad. You can dress it up any way you like, but under the surface, you want your kids to know that your ex-wife doesn't buy your kids as many things as they currently think she does,..." [
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7 days ago
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"Please, please, please don't make your kids deliver your child support checks for you, in an envelope or otherwise. That puts them in the middle of an adult financial arrangement that should be between you and your ex-wife. It's the equivalent of..." [
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9 days ago
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"I have never put my GPA on my resume. As a hiring manager, I tend to view people who use it as younger and less professionally mature than people who don't. My other pet peeve: a graduation year on a resume. I don't want to be able to pinpoint a..." [
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10 days ago
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"If you're not wedded to fiction, look at P.J. O'Rourke. I gave my little sister his All the Trouble in the World and Peace Kills when she was in high school, and she loved them. He self describes as libertarian leaning, and his books are hilarious..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"Why do you want your weight to equal that specific number? Is it because you want to look a certain way? Is it because you dislike a certain part of your body and believe that hitting that number would change that part of your body? Or is it because..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"How old are you? Most people, especially women put on a little weight when they are in their late teens and early twenties as a part of the end of puberty, and it's completely natural. It's part of your body settling into being an adult.
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3 weeks ago
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"You don't know how to fix her computer. You want to play, and you want to be right. The number one rule of being a grownup is "don't touch other people or their stuff without their permission." Don't break the rule...." [
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3 weeks ago
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"You should probably learn a bit about the industries you're criticizing before you unleash a nonsense stream of chatfilter that I can only hope will be deleted as soon as the mods see it.
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favorited 2 times, recently by drezdn, wfrgms
3 weeks ago
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"Frame your answer in terms of what you do want to do, not in terms of what you don't want to do. They're worried mostly because you seem to be drifting and doing nothing. If you have a plan, even if the plan is unorthodox, that will make a lot of..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"This kind of prosecution is shockingly common, and your friend very well may may go to jail, possibly for a very long time, if she does not proceed carefully. That means finding an attorney who has specific experience on these types of criminal drug..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"I disagree completely with Oriole Adams and all the others who say that this problem can't be resolved by avoiding your mother's phone calls. When I was reading your question, I felt as though I was reading a question I could have written myself a..." [
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4 weeks ago
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"Virtually no one yet has answered the question. It's not "what treatments should I try if I want to stop getting migraines?" It's "I get migraines. How do I tell my boss and coworkers that I may need time off at work to deal with them?..." [
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Last month
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"Whatever benefits you offer for married people with kids, be sure that single people without kids aren't left out in the cold.
If you offer paid maternity and paternity leave, have paid family leave for people who take time off to care for sick..." [
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Last month
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"People expecting you to put your day on hold because they can't be bothered to wake up before the day is half over are being silly.
People who keep different schedules that you do are not being silly, they are simply keeping different schedules..." [
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"I wear my shoes in the house primarily because I store my shoes in my bedroom closet, so it's convenient to wear them until I get around to going into my bedroom to take them off. Otherwise, I'd end up with an untidy pile of shoes near the door..." [
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Last month
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"One of my all time favorite poems is "Remember," by Christina Rossetti:
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember..." [
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Last month
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"By the way, if you're talking about your literal medicine cabinet, as in a cabinet in your bathroom, you should not keep any pills or other medications in it. Because the bathroom gets hot and steamy during showers and then cools down rapidly, plus..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Scram, Koko
2 months ago
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"Every child deserves at least one parent who actually enjoys many of the day-to-day tasks of parenting. I'm not talking about cleaning up poop. I'm talking about getting down on the floor and playing with blocks, reading stories in funny voices,..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by Nattie, anitanita, peacheater
2 months ago
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"Tell her exactly why. She deserves to hear it, so she can get over you that much faster. Besides - this is your feeling, you should own it. If you're going to reject women based on their body type they should hear it straight from the horses mouth...." [
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favorited 14 times, recently by marble, HighTechUnderpants, Nattie, minervous, yohko, Who_Am_I, Metroid Baby, turgid dahlia, catburger, Deathalicious, Space Kitty, whoaali, winna, palomar
2 months ago
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"too much pete, why would you assume that the employer would know the employee's race without the employee disclosing it? Lots of people's racial or ethnic heritage is not immediately apparent based on physical appearance. Many multiracial people are..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by peacheater, sweetkid
2 months ago
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"It might help to start by accepting the premise that the overwhelming majority of people who don't see the same problems you do in the world and act the way you would like them to act to fix them are neither malevolent nor blind; they simply disagree..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by nonanon, Dolukhanova, onepapertiger, PinkButterfly, warble
3 months ago
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"I'm just being realistic here: if you can't get funding now, the chances that you will be able to get a job in your field when you graduate are very low. An unsupported student from a second tier school means, at best, you get a full time non-tenure..." [
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3 months ago
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"I lived in Manhattan for 2 years on $29k, and in the 6 years I lived there, I never made more than $40k. It can be done, but you'll have to be careful.
If you're committed to living alone, your options will be limited to either a 100 square foot..." [
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3 months ago
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"You don't know that she wants a new car, and you certainly don't know that she wants one as a birthday surprise, and you definitely don't know that she wants one more than she wants something else that costs tens of thousands of dollars. Moreover,..." [
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3 months ago
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"Nearly all volunteer programs either require experience and/or credentials in the field, or require payment from the volunteers, or both (or are scams). Doctors and nurses and medical personnel need to know how to do their jobs, just like they would..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by peacheater, blueberry, i less than three nsima, BundleOfHers
3 months ago
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"The reason there's a lot of "pressure" to love what you do, onepapertiger, is that you spend more than a third of your adult life doing it. That's a lot of time to waste doing something that you feel just ehh, or worse, actively unhappy,..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Nattie, Durn Bronzefist
3 months ago
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"No contact until you no longer want to have contact with him. When you don't want it anymore -- and that means honestly don't think about him, heard a funny joke and didn't occur to you that he would think it was funny too, wouldn't bother calling..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by melissam, loiseau
4 months ago
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"I'm really having trouble answering this question. It positively drips with condescension. Basically, what you're asking is this: "I've made an educated decision about how to feed my middle-class child. How do I ensure that poor people, who..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by gatorae, iscatter
4 months ago
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"The problem is that a lot of probing questions, the ones that sound like they could be part of a quirky online dating profile, will tell you a lot about a person, but will also put the answerer on the spot, making them feel uncomfortable talking to..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by AceRock, allkindsoftime, jkl345, Space Kitty, zippity
5 months ago
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"Lawyer. Mom needs one. Immediately. The lawyer will be able to tell her what her rights are regarding the marital home and assets, what if any ability she may have to force Dad to seek treatment against his will, and how best to prevent situations..." [
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5 months ago
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"DC is full of think-tanks and other organizations that host free lectures, panel discussions, etc. during the day. Most have free lunch. And you can learn stuff. Check out:
Brookings Institution
Cato Institute
American Enterprise..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by icollectpurses, echo0720, willie11
5 months ago
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"I made this list of think tanks that host free lectures, panels, and discussions in response to a question about things to do in DC during the workday. Many of them also host events in the evenings, after work. Not sure whether any of them have..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by icollectpurses, willie11, PinkButterfly, blind.wombat
5 months ago
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"It sounds like you're the one who is worried. She sounds fine. And if I were you, I would be worried, because you sound like you have an utterly strange view of relationships, possibly from reading too many books about how to use "game" to..." [
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5 months ago
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"Actually, I would say you put it in the field for first, after the first name. When alphabetizing, you would alphabetize as:
Smith, John Jr.
So if you put the suffix in the last name field, you'd mess up attempts to alphabetize the names later...." [
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6 months ago
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"i love to cook and am very good at it, and in the unlikely event that you and i were ever dating, i would teach you how. . . . i urge you to seek cooking instruction from some other source, for your own pleasure.
I didn't say I can't cook. I said..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Salamandrous, peacheater
6 months ago
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"I think that communicating with Sarah is not good for Adam. If he's worried about giving her the impression that he's trying to make her jealous or about her feeling awkward about his new relationship, he is putting too much stock in her feelings and..." [
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6 months ago
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"Flowers are fine unless the family is Jewish. Jewish tradition dictates that funerals should be kept as simple as possible, and thus flowers should not be used or sent to the family.
Many families are inundated with flowers, and at a certain..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by chicken nuglet, melorama, Solomon
6 months ago
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"If you don't tell her that your drink has no liquor in it, and she finds out an hour into the date that she's had three rum and cokes and you've had three cokes, she's going to assume that you're trying to get her drunk while remaining sober yourself..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by genmonster, peacheater, vytae
6 months ago
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"AA, like most recovery programs, recommends that people not start new relationships until they have been sober for one full year. You have picked AA as your recovery process of choice. You should abide by its recommendations, or at the very least,..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by The Toad, ifjuly, sondrialiac, aleahey, Roach
6 months ago
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"You are going to hear from a ton of people advising you to break up with your girlfriend. I don't think that's a decision we're qualified to make for you. But I will say that you need to talk to your girlfriend. Whether that means finding a new..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Serena, Madamina
6 months ago
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"Talking about it face to face with a therapist will be good practice for talking about it face to face with your girlfriend, and for all the other times in your life when you'll have to talk to people. You'll get to know and trust your therapist over..." [
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6 months ago
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"I would not dump someone for having herpes. I would dump someone for lying by omission about having herpes and having sex with me, exposing me to an incurable disease without my consent. Tell him immediately, be prepared for the fact that he may feel..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by booksandlibretti, wtdoor
7 months ago
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"The question isn't just about expressions of sympathy. It's about expressions of sympathy in casual conversation that is not about the tragedy. If a tragedy has just recently occurred and you're having a conversation about it, many of the above..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by limeonaire, LobsterMitten, vytae, Robert Angelo
7 months ago
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"Is she planning to send each of them a personal, handwritten note on her personal stationery telling them what she has been doing lately and updating them on her life, mentioning only briefly that her organization is seeking support? Does she plan to..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by BrotherCaine
8 months ago
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"When Adam talks with you about this issue, take his comments at face value. Assure him that you believe him, and tell him that people who may be making comments to him or giving him funny looks or whatever just being stupid gossips. Because they are...." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by ROTFL, indienial, trim17, verysleeping, HighTechUnderpants
8 months ago
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"You are never going to convince many of these people that it is "better" to have a neat desk. In fact, there is some evidence to suggest that some personality types are more relaxed, productive, and creative with clutter around. Your boss..." [
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8 months ago
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"Recently.
It's hard to evaluate one's own behavior sometimes, especially in the moment. But you're getting honest feedback from both people who know you and people who don't know you that you should probably chill out and stop taking other..." [
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8 months ago
