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"You need to do two things. First, communicate very clearly (either directly to them, or via your fiance, whatever is more comfortable) that you and your family are financially divorced. There is no support coming from them, and you do not support..." [
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Yesterday
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"Ouch. I was surprised that it was so strongly worded. I was guessing that it would have a wishy-washy conclusion about her overstepping slightly, but not too much. This one has got to hurt.
For an example of how this will be spun, look at the last..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by KokuRyu
2 days ago
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"I think it also matters not just that their characters are committing rapes, but how those rapes are described during the game playing. There is (in my mind, at least) a huge difference between a brief mention of a character committing an evil action..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tyrantkitty, Phalene
2 days ago
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"I think b33j's advice to slow down is spot-on. You know, "haste makes waste" and all that. You are trying to do too much, and to be perfect at all of it, and as a consequence you aren't doing well at any of it.
You find the space to slow..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by chicainthecity, b33j, batmonkey
6 days ago
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"How do I healthily express and engage my sexuality without dating or casual encounters?
I think many, if not most, people have had to grapple with some variation of this question. Personally, there was a time when I recognized that casual sex was..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Jurate, ifjuly
6 days ago
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"Agreed that if you're not getting hot and sweaty under the covers enough to make you throw them off for the blissful sting of cooler air, you're doing it wrong.
Yeah, this.
I honestly don't understand how under the covers can mean "boring...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by silkygreenbelly
7 days ago
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"I'll nth the frozen vegies suggestions.
I deal with the spoilage problem by only buying fresh vegies that I have iron-clad plans to use in the next day or two. I don't buy some cucumbers "because they are healthy" — they only go in the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Dreama
8 days ago
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"It sounds to me like you're doing your best to be friendly and try to make friends--good for you. And as softsantear said, it seems like you've met a lot of people with bad manners.
I sort of agree (but would hasten to add that there is a strong..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by elisynn, SpacemanStix, contraption, HighTechUnderpants
11 days ago
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"I thought that was the cheesiest and falsest story I've read in a long time, so I skipped the thread.
I'm all for inspirational and uplifting stories, but that one was just hokey...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by UbuRoivas
13 days ago
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"I wonder if some overt gestures of responsibility (i.e., buy them some gifts, take a more active role in helping them manage their finances (there's a LOT to do there, and it's mostly the mom who gets stuck running all the errands)) wouldn't help..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by DulcineaX, catlet, LobsterMitten
13 days ago
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"What about beans and legumes, especially lentils and dal in Indian recipes, split-pea soup, minestrone, feijoada, and so on?
I think what I'm suggesting is starting to use meat as a flavor base for more dishes, drawing on more cuisines (eg Indian,..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by lucyleaf, pravit, modernnomad
13 days ago
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"So you are about 26 or so, yes? What you write sounds pretty normal for someone in their late twenties/early thirties, who has always moved around, but is now finding it both harder to settle where they are and also harder to scratch the "need..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Lou Stuells, dancestoblue
2 weeks ago
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"I broke up with her and married someone who has a sex drive similar than mine.
I say that not to dismiss your concerns, but to underline how fundamental an active sex life is for some people. Kudos to you for proactively looking to address this,..." [
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favorited 30 times, recently by misha
2 weeks ago
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"Thanks for really telling it like it is, Cool Papa Bell. I'm going to look into a subscription to a women's magazine straightaway.
I think you are missing the point of his (?) post, if it's that easy for you to dismiss.
If something happens..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by chihiro, Kangaroo
2 weeks ago
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"I always felt very uncomfortable being separated from the rest of my "non-gifted" classmates. Maybe it was the programs I took, but I didn't find them any more enriching or interesting, I just found them very annoying and strange and not..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by blahblah
2 weeks ago
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"The couple who built this small house put the initial cost of materials at about $6,000, not including land; I think that they've put more money into since the initial build. Building materials have gotten more expensive since then, and they were..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pete0r
2 weeks ago
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"I know that one answer is to just up and kiss her, but somehow I feel conflicted, as if she perhaps wouldn't appreciate it, and that to do so would be ignoring counter-signs worth listening to
Is she an old friend, or someone you work with, or..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by idiomatika, UbuRoivas, rikschell, chicainthecity
2 weeks ago
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"Is he/she your boyfriend or your husband?
"Boyfriend" sounds like you are 16 years old and need to be home by curfew; "husband" only applies if you are legally married and even then carries baggage that "partner"..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by RedEmma, bettafish, numinous
2 weeks ago
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"So this guy has been around for a long time! I remember seeing a site, I'm pretty sure it was his, back in the early days of the net. It was much the same thing - his web design has improved somewhat (no, really) and he didn't mention BDSM at all...." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by roll truck roll, aeschenkarnos
2 weeks ago
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"This was very, very slightly amusing when it started. I guess I'm a humongous cock of unfunniness, because I'm sure not feeling the love for what's starting to feel like overmuch repetition.
I think you'll look back on this with all the pride one..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by TochterAusElysium
3 weeks ago
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"These are great. Bollywood movies are fun, because I can watch one without subtitles, understanding not a single word, and still understand absolutely everything that is happening. The music is really syncretic, too — they happily pull in rap, rock,..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by infini
3 weeks ago
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"I'm occasionally the contrary voice, but not this time.
Dude, she wanted another guy, not you. She ditched you in order to do the horizontal mambo with him. When you talk, you argue. She still likes him a lot more than she likes you.
This is..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by PhoBWanKenobi
3 weeks ago
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"I feel like I link to it every week or so here, but I use Where There Is No Doctor (free pdf, though I suggest buying the print copy to have around) to bridge the gap between the short 10-symptom lists above and more general "is this symptom a..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by shelleycat, iminurmefi
3 weeks ago
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"Living on the west coast of the US, I'm surrounded by people who swear by their colonics, crystals, aura-cleansing, and any other kind of "alternative" semi-medical practice you can think of.
They all give glowing testimonials about..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by speedo
3 weeks ago
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"The whole thing about women flocking to you once you are no longer single is a total cliché, but it has often been true for me. I think it is not so much that women are attracted to attached guys (although some certainly are), but rather that people..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by chicainthecity, Gilbert Osmond
4 weeks ago
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"She has told you very clearly what she wants from you — to stop talking about being with her, and to respect that she is not ready for a relationship with you at this time.
So first, you have to (if you are serious about making her happy) chill..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by dorothy humbird
4 weeks ago
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"Here is a review of Obama songs in Africa and the African diaspora, complete with links to listen to the songs. And here is another overview article on the phenomenon of reggae Obama songs...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by TheWhiteSkull
Last month
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"I'll be the contrary voice on this one. I think you should (with care and with caveats) go for it. I mean, you say you like her, and you say that she says she likes you. That seems like an adequate foundation to move ahead with caution.
I think..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by streetdreams
Last month
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"Call center work is a lot less soul-destroying than telemarketing for most people, but with almost as high a turnover. Sometimes it's receiving calls (eg basic customer service or tech support), sometimes it's making calls (eg telephone surveys)...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by oceanview
Last month
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"I think the misspelled phrase "quarter ponder" sums up the MetaFilter experience quite nicely.
The story didn't ring true to me, but maybe if the author is dumb enough to pay some one $2000 for not having sex, then she might lack the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by mippy
Last month
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"There was a period early in Ebay's history when everyone knew someone who had made big money selling some crappy old Star Wars figurines or whatever they had found in their aunt's attic. It was new and exciting for buyers, but supply was lagging..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by cass, KAS
Last month
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"Wow...that is an awesome pdf!
Check out their other books for more awesome at-home health goodness. Where There Is No Dentist is particularly cool, since it explains how to make and use your own dentistry tools. The work the Hesperian Foundation..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by longdaysjourney, davar, The Light Fantastic
Last month
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"Do you think him dating other people and learning how to deal with his issue with them, not me, will help ready him for me?
No. But it might make him happy, and it will give you lots of exciting drama to fill your life while you enjoy the to-ings..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by fairytale of los angeles
Last month
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"(I'm going to assume that you are a guy; if you aren't, hopefully some of this will apply in some way anyway.)
Do you jerk off? Stop. Not forever, just until you are reliably coming from sex with her. Think of it as retraining your body or a..." [
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favorited 37 times, recently by Deathalicious
Last month
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"Wow, thanks for the ladder theory link. I'd more or less picked up what it was from references here on MeFi over time, but hadn't looked at it before.
What a sorry portrayal of how relationships works; it really reads like it was written by one of..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by Nattie, ifjuly, wittgenstein, jeffburdges, harwons
Last month
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"Also, take a look at the first three results from this google search -- there are plenty of sites dedicated to addressing the minutia of US/UK CV differences...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by jeffburdges
Last month
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"Here is an interview on NPR with a film maker who was part of that group. Basically, they sang like canaries, and even though he says they only gave up code names and first names of Chinese nationals, you'd have to assume that the Chinese..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by MLIS
Last month
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"My favorite thing about Firefox is surfing with Adblock and NoScript turned on. Since Google is an advertising company, I'm thinking that they'd never put up with features like that.
This sums up why I use Firefox. (Well, the Adblock part — I..." [
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favorited 12 times, recently by rongorongo, tippiedog, Lizc, Twicketface, DreamerFi, JHarris, gsb, furtive, smich, Monochrome, korpios, malaprohibita
Last month
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"This has been the subject of a lot of writing in recent years (and a few discussions on MeFi, I believe). The book I have glanced at but not read is The Two Income Trap: Why Middle-Class Mothers and Fathers Are Going Broke, but there are others...." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by inatizzy, magstheaxe
Last month
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"There are consequences to all-pervasive AdBlock, and they're not likely to the ones you want.
I agree. Just like there would be consequences if 95% of TV viewers decided that they hated commercials so much that they would buy a device to block..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Pope Guilty, marble
Last month
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"I just read through the entire McCloud comic. Parts of it sounded like a pretty ok browser (assuming that there were to be a way to add adblocking to it), but they kept emphasizing (cf pp 19 & 21) how the browser was going to remember my history..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by marble, Lentrohamsanin, jet_silver
Last month
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"Having been there and done that, I have to say that breaking up because of potential problems that might occur in the future is one of the saddest things ever. You can talk yourself into in pretty easily -- "it would be easier to do it..." [
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favorited 7 times, recently by velvet winter
Last month
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"I've often wished that blogs had a toggle for "read forward/read backward." The normal new-entry-on-top format is great for keeping up with an ongoing story, but is terrible if you want to start at the beginning and work forwards to the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by papafrita, eye of newt
Last month
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"I know in some hurricane-prone areas--such as South Florida--houses have to be built of brick or concrete or they will not last.
There are a lot of old wooden houses in south Florida, and a lot of new construction there is still wood, too. (Also,..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Monday, stony Monday
Last month
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"Pro-choice means respecting other people's choices, too.
I couldn't agree more.
There are a set of comments, here and in the big thread, harshing on her for her contraceptive and childbearing choices. The choices she has made aren't the ones I..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by languagehat, h00py, torticat
Last month
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"Since he first realised he wanted out of the relationship, he's come up with every possible excuse for not doing so
If he actually wanted out of the relationship, he would actually end it. His coming up with "every possible excuse for not..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Nutritionista
Last month
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"This is exactly the sort of VP candidate that I had been hoping Obama would pick — a governor from a Western or Southern state, youngish, a sort of rising star but who had carved out some idiosyncratic approaches rather than a party hack.
Instead,..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by konolia, iminurmefi, dyoneo
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