Ask comment:
"You didn't post what you are getting from this relationship. Is he basically a good guy who treats you well and this is your one, ahem, bone of contention?
I admit to a bias as an animal lover, but I feel that you should DTMFA because he sounds..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by srah
Yesterday
Ask comment:
"T was an abuser. You were in an abusive relationship.
Please, please get yourself to a therapist. Anti-depressant medication might also help in the short term - not saying you will need meds forever but they can be a godsend in getting you back on..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by tastybrains
2 weeks ago
Ask comment:
"Nthing the spend money on good quality products. I've recently switched to a jaw-droppingly expensive foundation - By Terry Light Expert - and it is Worth. Every. Considerable. Penny. It makes my skin glow and looks as if I am not wearing any..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
Last month
Ask post:
Chips are for potatoes, not nails!
favorited 11 times, recently by ivanka, Bunglegirl, Incognita, beachhead2, bluefly, Mookbear, BoscosMom, Melismata, Madamina, damsorrow, sweetkid
2 months ago
Ask post:
Not a goth girl, not yet a tanned woman
favorited 30 times, recently by ml98tu, saturnine, palomar, bent back tulips, kepano, amanda, limeonaire, korres, natabat, contessa, logic vs love, InstantSanitizer, apartment dweller, scody, Sweetie Darling, splendid animal, hfbellefille, raxast, Liosliath, lampoil, kittyprecious, cmyk, melissam, katieinshoes, KAS, Plug Dub In, frwagon, pointystick, Coffeemate, Phalene
2 months ago
Ask comment:
"December - if he was an "intense and fast" kind of guy when you were dating, then dropped you like a hot potato when you didn't have sex with him - it sounds as if you dodged a bullet there. Most times, guys like this are more into the..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by winna, chicainthecity, hulahulagirl
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"No, you are not a tease, and no, you didn't do anything wrong. Speaking as a fellow "I prefer to wait a bit" gal, you want a guy who is on the same page as you regarding sex and values.
This guy may or may not be a libertine looking for..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"Squirrels are a definite possibility. So are jays (scrub jays most likely). I once lived in a garden apartment, and would leave food outside for my indoor-outdoor cat; the jays LOVED the dry cat food, and I had a neighbor report "the strangest..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by gueneverey
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"He presented you with a laundry list of "things that you were doing wrong?" He says "It's over!" every time you fight? He's keeping you at a distance with noncommittal text messages?
Dee Tee Emm Eff Ay. He is jerking you around..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by Capri, zeph
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"You also might want to check out the reviews of mineral makeup on makeupalley.com. This way you can look for other women of color who use mineral makeup and find out what works for them. The market for mineral makeup has exploded over the past couple..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"Another wear-makeup-to-the-mailbox girl here. I've never found going without foundation to improve my skin. However, the wrong kind of foundation is certainly bad for your skin and can cause clogged pores and breakouts. Foundations have gotten better..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by chicainthecity, logic vs love, The Light Fantastic
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"A note may or may not help. I once shared a (workplace) restroom with an unknown someone who would wipe her boogers on the walls (yes, I know, ewwwwwwww). Notes (ranging from the polite onward to the YOU NASTY IDIOT, QUIT WITH THE BOOGER WIPING!) did..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by radioamy
3 months ago
Ask post:
Suggestions for veggies I can grow on a deck or inside?
favorited 13 times, recently by HSWilson, redtriskelion, misterbrandt, rux, Morrigan, McBearclaw, logic vs love, nenequesadilla, lilywing13, jayCampbell, desuetude, andraste, DevilsAdvocate
3 months ago
Ask comment:
"If you have pets, don't forget them! Keep a supply of canned food (with pull-tops, of course) and enough water in the kit for humans AND animals - as well as photographs of the pets which will serve to identify them should they escape...." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by i_like_camels
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"The one time her weight came up in conversation and I hinted at something along the lines of "losing weight would be a good thing" she got extremely defensive and promised to show me just how much weight she could pack on.
I'm going to..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by rottytooth, konolia
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"I am not a lawyer, accountant or any of the above, but you might try:
Consumer Credit Counseling of San Francisco is a non-profit credit-counseling association.
Dave Ramsey is also a good source - he has a website, books and radio program...." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by frosty_hut
4 months ago
Ask post:
Eeek! It's the floating soccer mom head! Help me escape!
favorited 12 times, recently by Xere, i_like_camels, silverstatue, b33j, streetdreams, wens, melissa, runtina, Incognita, Metroid Baby, impactorange, lampoil
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"Of course the neighbor is being all sweet and apologetic - he's kissing butt! He doesn't want to be sued! Your friend must not be taken in by this. He needs to grow a spine, call the police and animal control.
The neighbor is, at best, a stupid..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by cass
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"I realize your friend is "not a vindictive person," but these dogs are a hazard, and the neighbors are irresponsible pet owners. Your friend needs to file a report with Animal Control at the very least. Yes, these dogs need to be put down...." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by cass
4 months ago
MeTa comment:
"What I was trying to get at was that when I hear a tale like the one in the askme, my gut response is "you aren't in a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship, you are dating a skeezeball, DTMFA."
I'm afraid I have to give a big..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by PeterMcDermott, misha
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"Count me in as another person who values graciousness and politeness and, alas, finds herself being run over by rudies. I'm learning, though.
In general, avoid justifying yourself or giving excuses for not doing something. If you do, the pushy..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by ivanka
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"It's hard to give specific advice without more detail. Does your friend live in a decently populated area where she can meet men in real life? Is she super-picky?
Unless she lives in an isolated rural area or tiny town, your friend might do well..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by chicainthecity
4 months ago
Ask comment:
"My late grandma - who was as white as all-get-out - was both fearful of and disliked pet dogs and cats. (Which kind of made it hard for her when she visited our pet-loving household!) The explanation was that she never had pets growing up, was raised..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by desiderandus
4 months ago
Ask post:
Find me an online fashion home!
favorited 12 times, recently by streetdreams, divabat, ohdeanna, melorama, somanyamys, ruby.aftermath, pazazygeek, syzygy, Metroid Baby, desuetude, libraryhead, suki
5 months ago
Ask comment:
"I'm going to disagree with the "have kids" advice - by all means, have kids because you love kids and want to raise a child/children, but don't have kids in order to have built-in caretakers for your old age. Plenty of oldsters have kids..." [
more]
favorited 5 times, recently by andraste, highrise, jeanmari, 45moore45, Metroid Baby
5 months ago
Ask comment:
"What Hydropsyche said. Bigtime. One of the reasons I never had kids was the fact that I never had a partner I could trust to make any sacrifices. I sure as heck didn't want to be the one left holding the entire parenting bag. I never had much of a..." [
more]
favorited 5 times, recently by marble, Madamina, ifjuly, RedEmma, ulotrichous
5 months ago
Ask comment:
"Echoing the others who say this sounds like depression, dementia, or both.
Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do to make an adult go to the doctor or otherwise seek help. Unless a court declares him incompetent, your brother is free to avoid..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by ClaudiaCenter
6 months ago
Ask comment:
"I'm *very* inexperienced with dating and rarely meet men that I click with.
This jumped out at me. Could it be that, having met someone you like and who might like you back, you are putting all your eggs into one rather fragile basket? My advice..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by oneirodynia, chicainthecity
6 months ago
Ask comment:
"Been there, done that - not the exact same situation, but the same feelings of isolation and black hole of despair. Getting a great therapist really helped. And I also got a short-term course of medication. Turns out I didn't need the meds forever,..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by ArgentCorvid, Ky, DevilsAdvocate
6 months ago
Ask comment:
"I'm going to third the "don't splash out on a big fancy wedding" advice. The two most happily married couples I know had simple, low-key weddings and are still happily married seven and fifteen years later. An elaborate wedding is a..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by runningwithscissors
6 months ago
Ask comment:
"I just want to nth all those who noted that your (and guys') age group makes a difference. I know it sucks to be told "just wait," but IMO as a fortymumble woman, there is a vast, VAST gulf between twentysomething and thirtysomething guys...." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by melorama
6 months ago
Ask comment:
"Am I a freak of nature? I (female) have never, EVER wanted children. NEVER have I felt any instinctive, hormonal urges. And now that I'm permanently sterile my reaction is "oh thank God."
But a lot of women (and men) do get these..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by lioness, Arturus, bink
6 months ago
Ask post:
Help me make the yummiest peppermint bark!
favorited 13 times, recently by softlord, zerbinetta, romakimmy, Rubythursday, LobsterMitten, arianell, hilatron, libraryhead, ethel, pammo, pombiki, eatdonuts, sLevi
7 months ago
Ask comment:
"Nthing "stand your ground." Do NOT let her push you around. Keep Dave as your best man and call her bluff. Think of it as doing the right thing both by yourself and your bride. Do you really want Mommie Dearest to run your life?
Please,..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by Solomon, scody, AlisonM
7 months ago
Ask comment:
"I think that Dawkins and Hitchens are a bit beyond the ken of an eleven-year-old child, unless she reads at an adult level.
And nthing "stay away from Silver RavenWolf." Her books are not very good, philosophically or practically...." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Adelwolf
7 months ago
Ask comment:
"My dad didn't give my mom an expensive engagement ring - he couldn't afford it.
Over fifty years later, they're still happily married." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by MaxK
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I nth the suggestion of talking this out with your therapist.
However, I differ from some other posters in that I don't believe that your wife's clumsiness needs to be "fixed," at least not yet, and yoga or bellydancing or whatever..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by Jess the Mess, litlnemo
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I echo those people who have said, "Ditch the friendship." Unless there are some very compelling reasons to keep this guy as a friend, it sounds like you're better off moving on to other friends (and, perhaps, fewer keg parties?).
While..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by Ladysin, 45moore45
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I would only worry if everybody in your company or department except you was invited over to B's house; and if you were being made to feel like the office pariah at work.
If on the other hand they are nice to you at work, and you notice that this..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by melorama
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I think I would be crazy jealous and insecure if he wanted to do the same. I know it isn't "fair"
Damn skippy it's not fair. You can have a healthy open relationship (though it takes a lot of hard work, maturity, good communication and..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by whycurious, hermitosis
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I never wanted kids. I didn't want them in my 20's, and now at fortymumble, I have not changed my mind one jot. So do be aware that not every kid-averse twentysomething becomes a broody thirtysomething.
Add this to the fact that he only wants..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by TochterAusElysium
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"IANAL, but I believe there would have to be abuse or negligence in order for an abuse suit to have any teeth.
Of course, this might not stop your friend from filing a lawsuit, and it may not stop a lawyer from taking it or a judge from listening,..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by blueberry
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"OK. I admit I'm biased here, as a) I'm a confirmed ailurophile and b) people who are excessively houseproud make me twitch. I, personally, wouldn't marry a man who didn't love cats OR was anal about the state of the house. A couch ought to be built..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Huplescat
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"Consider also that Cool New Guy might have been through a dry spell himself - if not now, then previously. Many, many people go through periods of years where they don't have sex. This whole notion of singles leading freewheeling, libertine,..." [
more]
favorited 3 times, recently by necessitas, Infinite Jest, sondrialiac
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"I want to nth those who have said that you really want to take a long, hard look at how traditions and expectations are going to play out in your everyday life. I'm assuming your relationship is intercultural. There is an excellent book, Mixed..." [
more]
favorited 14 times, recently by headspace, madamjujujive, marble, CwgrlUp, lalochezia, sondrialiac, Ladysin, Miko, alicetiara, moonlet, catfood, dhoe, nooneyouknow, Flakypastry
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"More about Steve Sailer. I would avoid this guy like the plague. He's a "scientific racist" who writes for VDARE, a racist and anti-immigrant right-wing publication/website. Apparently he's also affiliated with the Pioneer Fund. Not to..." [
more]
favorited 1 time, recently by robcorr
8 months ago
Ask comment:
"Remember the wise words of William Blake: "I was angry with my friend; I told my friend, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe; I told it not, my wrath did grow."
What Zeph said. I'm another confrontation-hating wuss, but believe me,..." [
more]
favorited 2 times, recently by invisible ink, Phire
8 months ago
