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"I'm pretty upset at some of the responses here. There is a tendency in our culture to assume that a woman is always saying yes unless she's screaming no. That's wrong and ridiculous. Consent doesn't mean a lack of dissent, consent is an actual active..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by crabintheocean, kosher_jenny, arha, palomar
2 weeks ago
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"Criminal law has a certain definition of rape/sexual assault. That definition changes through time (it used to be impossible for a man to rape his wife, for example). Criminal law is an imperfect compromise with plenty of room for improvement. It..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by nooneyouknow, frumious bandersnatch
Last month
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"People feel bad for a female head of household who can't earn enough
Right, what rock have you been living under that you've never heard of the welfare queen stereotype?
And, when you are the approach-er, there is a small but non-zero chance..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by dabitch
Last month
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"when you rant and rage and shout and carry on,
If you say this, it makes her sound like she's having a temper tantrum. Is that true? Because if it's NOT, don't say it. And even if she is, if she's your friend with temper tantrums, it's not going..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Nattie
Last month
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"It sounds like you have a hard time being yourself around women. Work on that? Take risks, reveal yourself, try things out, etc. Exploring root causes could be useful too.
I find a lot of the posts here pretty judgmental, and on the verge of..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by bettafish, Coatlicue, uxo, wayward vagabond, Ashley801
2 months ago
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"She may have tried to talk about things and he didn't notice. It happens a lot that men feel broadsided when their wives leave or seriously threaten to leave, but the wives feel like they've given him a thousand chances already to improve things...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Ladysin
2 months ago
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"I don't see any chasing out of town. I don't see any stringing up. I don't see any 'kill them, kill them.'
Where are these violent metaphors coming from? We're having a *conversation*. As far as I can tell, banning isn't even on the table, let..." [
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favorited 6 times, recently by jammy, peacheater, craichead, hadjiboy, bettafish, dogrose
2 months ago
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"First paragraph: she would die for me. and I would too, for her.
Eighth paragraph: that's not an option. and neither is giving up the media business coz that's all I know and have been trained in.
For the record, I don't think that either dying..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by Capri, juv3nal, nanojath, decathecting
2 months ago
MeFi post:
What "overweight" looks like and why BMI is nuts.
favorited 34 times, recently by kryptos, somanyamys, babybuns, t2urner, librarina, tehloki, tickingclock, exlotuseater, limeonaire, box, supercrayon, avriette, rouftop, nickyskye, Finklebinder, nevafeva, mikepop, phong3d, chlorus, GrammarMoses, Unicorn on the cob, 517, New Frontier, booksandlibretti, longdaysjourney, a_green_man, phatkitten, ambrosia, GaelFC, mewithoutyou, JDHarper, greatgefilte, Riki tiki, arcticwoman
3 months ago
MeTa comment:
"I've been reading both of these metatalk threads and mostly favoriting rather than commenting, largely because others are saying what I would say very well. Also, this has been a very fast moving thread.
Brandon Blatcher - from your posts it..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by LeeJay, sondrialiac, sevenyearlurk, miss lynnster, Danila
3 months ago
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"You say you just want to spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves. And you say that she also seems open to spending time with you. So just do what you said you wanted. IF that's what you really want and you're not fooling yourself...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by melvinwang
4 months ago
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"I never heard of washcloths for washing skin and it didn't occur to me to use anything but my hands until those round things got popular. But they're kind of a pain too. I just don't see the benefit? And how do you use a little towel with soap?? I..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by sondrialiac
6 months ago
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"I actually think a take-home exam due in the morning is a very good reason not to come out. It would be different if you didn't have anybody else who could come out, but you did. But then again, I tend to have take homes worth 100% of the final..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Danila, taff
6 months ago
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"If there's any ambiguity, give the other person the benefit of the doubt.
So everything but the most egregious examples of sexism should remain undiscussed and unquestioned? That's not what I want this place to look like. Especially since I..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by sondrialiac, zebra3
6 months ago
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"Also, the very premise of the question is sexist. It doesn't matter how 'promiscuous' the women are if the men are unwilling to sleep with more than one woman ever, therefore it assumes that both the men and the women are sleeping with multiple..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by tehloki, Miko
6 months ago
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"I don't think you were rude. I think you were straightforward. You found it offensive and you said so. I think we should be able to treat posters as reasonable adults (in terms of thought and maturity if not age) who can be spoken to in a..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by tehloki, zebra3, Blazecock Pileon
6 months ago
MeTa comment:
"For the record, the 'non-sexist guide to etiquette' is the oeuvre of Miss Manners/Judith Martin. Brilliant, witty, and subtly but thoroughly feminist.
One of the things she says is that in the business/work world, one isn't supposed to notice..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by zebra3, ArmyOfKittens, supercrayon, languagehat
6 months ago
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"I've always thought that ideally, if I were to buy a house with a person, I'd actually just buy the house myself, and have the other person pay me rent. (Or vice versa.) If we end up marrying, then it's all ours. If we split, then there's nothing to..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by saffry
6 months ago
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"Could you pass the 10k on (or 10k+) to someone else in the family that could use it for something like investing in a house or an education, or who just needs it right now? I would think that building that kind of loving generosity in her family..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by RobotHeart, mynameisluka, croutonsupafreak, fogster
7 months ago
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"I had the same reaction as Agregoli, so I'm glad that Desjardins clarified. Truthfully, I'm sure it's hard to find resources for art about women that wouldn't be problematic in one sense or another, and it's good to see the critical perspectives..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by zebra3, agregoli, Melinika
7 months ago
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"I'm just so relieved that the pursuit of self-rule for an oppressed indigenous people in their historical homeland was called out as the pursuit of domination and subjugation that it secretly is in all those secret Zionist meetings where the true..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by SBMike
7 months ago
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"Wow, so this happens a lot eh?
I've found Byron Katie's self help books, in this case, especially, "I Need Your Love, Is That True?" very helpful, for helping me enjoy the present, and the love in my life (from *all* sources) and not..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by pazazygeek
7 months ago
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"I BELIEVE ON BALANCE THAT THE LOSS OF SOME BOYZONE MISOGYNY IS WORTH THE BROADER PARTICIPATION BY WOMEN.
"On balance" it would be ok with you to lose "some" misogyny for the sake of participation by women?
Huh? Oh, well..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by tristeza
7 months ago
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"if the Maxim rumour had been true, and Jade really had posed in a bikini to advertise the game, the comic wouldn't have been misogynistic. Sure, it would have been demeaning a woman sexually, but it would make sense as a satire because the woman..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by caddis
7 months ago
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"*Some* men. I mean *some*men! Because I'm not a man-hater! I swear! And I didn't mean to offend anyone. And I'm sure you're all swell!
(jeez you have to be so pc around here...)..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by LobsterMitten
7 months ago
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"Cortex, I don't really know what you're getting at? Violent misogynist humor certainly has value - in reinforcing violent misogyny. Yes, as Sarah Silverman says, there's a difference between racist jokes and jokes about racism, and the latter can..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by agregoli
7 months ago
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"I kind of think that the fact that a thread on the subject of men flashing women has spawned
a) protestations by a woman poster that she is not a man-hater!
b) the use of female genitalia, 'twat,' as an insult, without any protest at all.
c)..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by arcticwoman, Ethereal Bligh
7 months ago
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"To me it's a red flag that he wouldn't consider non biological children (whether or not that would work for you in the end, etc). If his commitment to YOU and his commitment to PARENTING are not strong enough to even allow him to consider the..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by damnjezebel, minervous, BrotherCaine
7 months ago
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"I agree with the posters who say that you are right to be concerned about this. These kinds of traditions and expectations can run very deep, even deeper than a person is aware of. You two have been together long enough to start really sorting..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by marble, arha, Ladysin, agregoli, Rosie M. Banks
7 months ago
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"Sorry, having a hard time staying away.
If you're a guest, then you're not there as his female partner, and you should be treated as a guest and served by him, or whoever serves guests. How do women not conjugally related to the family get food?..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Ladysin, tastybrains
8 months ago
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"I think it's great that you guys have talked about things. But... talk is just talk. It can't replace the process of building trust that comes with seeing someone's actions over time. The talking that you did and are doing will hopefully form the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by elisynn, Wilder
8 months ago
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"I see from your profile that you're a guy. While I think/hope it's a trend that's changing, I think it's still often the case that men are a lot more likely than women to (try to) get all their friendship and emotional needs taken care of by their..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by gregb1007, Wilder
8 months ago
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"(130 pounds at 5'10?? I hope you have light bones.)
I don't know about the nutrition stuff, it seems like there's some good advice on this thread. But I wanted to respond a bit to the quality of life stuff.
I wish you all the success in the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by The Toad, Metroid Baby
8 months ago
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"Wow Sidepony, what a lot of assumptions.
First of all, calling the hairless look 'cleaner' is both silly and offensive. There's nothing cleaner about it, not to mention the potential effects of going after (or having someone else go after) the..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by litlnemo, agregoli
8 months ago
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"The clause about infidelity makes me nervous, especially if there isn't one in there about how if he's unfaithful, you get everything (including allocating funds for you to hire a private detective to prove his infidelity...) And even then, it seems..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by nooneyouknow, crabintheocean
9 months ago
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"Isn't it nice that there's now a simple word to distinguish the 'good Jews', who entertain you, agree with your opinions, and don't ask for anything much, and the 'bad Jews', who have dual loyalties (where have I heard that before?), disagree with..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by blahblahblah, OmieWise, redfisch, nasreddin, fingers_of_fire
9 months ago
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"I second the recommendation of "The Gift of Fear," and you should get one for yourself as well.
You might also want to educate yourself on women's safety. Statistically, she's in *more* danger if she accepts the escort of a (male)..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by crabintheocean, thebrokedown, The Toad
10 months ago
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"How stable has her weight been? Not whether it's been exactly the same, but whether it stays in a certain range. I'm somewhat overweight but my weight has stayed in exactly the same range since I was 13, so I'm not really worried about suddenly..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Jess the Mess
Last year
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"You're not wrong. That's pretty outrageous.
I'm guessing that Miss Manners would advise you to go to the bride and tell her how sorry you are, that you were so happy to stand up with her and would love to be there for her but you just can't..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by flibbertigibbet, Richard Daly, IndigoRain, Ookseer
Last year
