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"things get pretty weird pretty quickly": becoming fake-famous
Wasn't he the asshole who was demanding that people talk and text in movie theaters?
I'm the asshole who said some number of people would text or talk regardless, so why not accommodate them, rather than keep making futile attempts at prohibition?
I've done other stuff, but I've met actual famous people and that made clear to me that I'm definitely not really famous in any meaningful sense. And thanks to Schmod and Pajandrum for the kind words! :)
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 9:41 PM on April 25, 2015
I guess this is the right time and place to tell this story...
Sometime when MetaFilter was much younger, before it was even Matt's full-time gig, maybe a dozen years ago, Matt crashed on my couch for one of his first visits to NYC. We stayed out a bit late, having fun meeting MeFites, and then both went to bed.
I got up a bit early, and was puttering around my apartment and I saw Matt sitting stock upright, fully awake, without having moved… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 1:47 PM on March 4, 2015
Internet culture puts trolling on a pedestal
Randi made my life immeasurably better after weeks of nonstop harassment by GG. I can't say enough good things and am so appreciative. The Gator apologists here are very welcome to fuss at me about this on Twitter, where I won't see them & their attacks on me, my family, and my life.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 2:20 PM on November 25, 2014
Announcing the Good Web Bundle (and MeFi's part in it)
Hey all: Just wanted to jump in and say that we're listening and updating the descriptions -- Matt has been strongly pushing to clarify. Honestly, this is something we put together rather quickly and we've been so focused on making it work that I'm sure the copy can be improved.
I hope you all know how focused Matt has been on making sure this is *not* deceptive or misleading, and if you want t blame anybody for it reading wrong, that squarely on my shoulders. But we'll… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 8:48 AM on November 19, 2014
If it said "suggested" instead of "usual", would that be better?
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 8:52 AM on November 19, 2014
What Matt said. For what it's worth, I love MeFi and I love Matt and no there isn't some secret Old Web People cabal trying to ruin what makes this site great. I do agree some of the language is far from how folks here see MeFi, and so we'll correct that. But there's a large audience that lurks and might want a chance to support the site, part of the vast majority who have mostly never even been to MetaTalk. (I'm among that group; as pointed out, it's tough for me to participate here without… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 2:16 PM on November 19, 2014
ThinkUp took a convertible note from a number of investors, yes, and we publicly disclosed the terms under which we did so. We have not, and will not, be doing a round of venture capital funding. If you have further questions about our finances, I'm happy to offer more details, or if you need to examine the finances of the other sites, I can connect you with their founders, but let's do that on email.
The word "indie" doesn't appear on the Bundle site precisely… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 4:08 PM on November 19, 2014
I'm glad folks seem okay with the changes. I appreciate the folks who had constructive feedback, even when pointed. I hope everyone finds the newly-updated site not just acceptable, but worth promoting to friends or more casual users of MeFi! Remember, only a tiny % of MeFi users have ever even been to MetaTalk, and there are _millions_ of people who might find MeFi valuable enough to support it.
[Sidebar: I understand that I represent some sort of bad thing to a few… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 2:54 PM on November 21, 2014
A new theme for MeFi: Modern
Kudos to the entire team on a huge project that seems to have yielded amazing results. I may not have articulated it very well, but all I was ever trying to advocate for was a look that was approachable and familiar to people who had never been to the site before, but would surely have been delighted to discover what a special place this is, despite its intimidating first impression. (And some members' penchants for really never letting a tired old joke go.)
I hope all… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 2:40 PM on September 24, 2014
What Is Public?
nadawi articulates ally points better than I could. Consider those comments normative. Thanks to all who took the time to read the piece, and for those who think the solution is more complicated technological controls or somehow educating a billion people about the potential complexity of using privacy controls, I'd suggest reflecting on what such suggestions really imply.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 6:12 PM on July 27, 2014
Where I'm off to
Where are the antique webpages on the world wide web?
recover a stored password in android chrome
I'm a murderer... of probe thermometers
What to consider when considering children?
"No one ever admits to regretting having children, but is that just because it would be socially unacceptable to say so?"
I don't personally regret having my son, but I can absolutely imagine there are parents who do. One thing that's become immensely clear since I became a parent is that it is not a decision people should enter into lightly. Having a kid made me even more of an advocate for people choosing to be child-free, because there is a wonderful,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:22 PM on February 11, 2014
Is our relationship over and time for us to move on?
I'm American, born to Indian parents, and definitely had to spend a lot of time learning what matters to the people of various races & religions that I dated. It's certainly not obvious what's important to a family, but the way you find out is by asking and really LISTENING.
Nobody's saying you should feel bad for not knowing, but that you didn't work hard enough to learn, and there are indications that the reason for this was you have objectified her too much to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:31 PM on November 30, 2013
How to stay sane spending the holidays with my bigoted parents
If this really is one of the last times your kids may spend time with them, then do your kids the kindness of getting to know their grandparents as they really are.
"Dad, you didn't raise us to talk about people of other faiths that way, and I expect I'll show my kids the tolerance you taught us growing up. But can you explain to our kids why you now say things that you would have punished us for at their age?"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:21 PM on November 30, 2013
Hey, Soul Sister, is that Mr. Mister?
Hot Chip's "Down With Prince" is about those who pretend to be down with, you know, Prince.
Smot's "Prince Alone in the Studio" is about Prince, alone, in his studio.
Ice-T's "What Can I Do?" mentions buying a house next to Prince.
Prince's own "Ballad of Dorothy Parker" mentions Joni (Mitchell) singing "Help Me".
Prince has several other songs that mention other artists, but more as… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:03 PM on November 8, 2013
How do I name a thing?
Pick one of the most distinct moods someone might feel or record when using the app, the kind of nuanced thing that's not just the "happy" or "sad" they'd log in another app. Use that as the name, so that you have a name which exemplifies exactly what's unique about your app.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:06 PM on November 5, 2013 marked best answer
I thought "gender inclusivity" meant more apps about boobies?
"The work of yakkers and tweeters and braggers..."
Talking at the Movies, Cultural Hegemony, and Menswear Blogging
Hi! I've never even had my phone turned on during a movie, let alone texted or talked during one. But hey.
Here's a simple, non-inflammatory statement of my argument:
* There are people who see going to movies as a reverent experience, with expectations of essentially zero light and sound being emitted except from the film.
* There are people who see going to the moves as being a bit more like going to a sporting event, where people… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 5:03 PM on August 8, 2013
Yeah, to Matt's point, we're clearly a few years away from having Quiet Car theaters (Alamo) and connected theaters. The vocal minority who sent me death threats & prank calls today think this development can be stopped, amusingly, by shouting it down.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 5:07 PM on August 8, 2013
The messages at the beginning of the movie also say that copying a movie online is just like stealing a car.
I've heard a lot of fine expressions of preference against any distraction at a movie. I've seen little acknowledgment that someone could, in good faith, not share that preference.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 5:25 PM on August 8, 2013
kmz, I don't know where my personal line is - my behavior is always group one. But I have seen people interpreting that kind of thing as no big deal at all, and others lose their minds.
Not trolling about the pre-show warnings, just saying we all pick & choose which to heed based on our cultural norms.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 5:32 PM on August 8, 2013
lalex, I wrote the piece in about 20 minutes. I spent months researching immigration policy and Zuckerberg's political action committee for a piece about the risks and opportunities of immigration policy, and distiller it into an easily digestible set of actions we cold all do. That's what I shared as broadly as possible. The self righteous folks in this thread were more interested in complaining about talking at movies.
I absolutely have been trying to get attention --… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 7:08 PM on August 8, 2013
(But hey, he should know this after all the lusers he's permabanned from his various web projects.)
I've literally never banned anybody from any website in my life, Mark. This is as inaccurate as your repeated attempts to take credit for LiveJournal's existence.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 6:58 AM on August 9, 2013
I assume OUR cultural norms are going to be followed when I’m engaged in OUR culture. Who is "our" here?
I don't presume anyone's ever heard of me or anything I've done; I just know people who do know me on MeFi are aware they'll be rewarded for picking a silly lightweight post of mine rather than my more meaningful work. There's a hundred posts on Tumblr MeFi would disagree with, but if the same idea were from me, it's easier to get a lot… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 4:28 PM on August 9, 2013
People will move mountains to earn a gold star by their name.
Huh, a dozen comments until "plain white background"? I woulda lost a $10 bet on that.
Kinda bummed I missed the "anal" jokes.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 6:34 AM on July 19, 2013
To those noting these apply outside the Internet, I agree wholeheartedly; the list just reflects that I learned the lessons on the Internet. To those noting none of these ideas are particularly novel, I agree wholeheartedly, but just wanted to document what I'd learned. I didn't know who Robert Pirsig was until I Googled him, but it seems like he'd be a great guy to inadvertently plagiarize.
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 8:35 AM on July 19, 2013
"I'm not going to change"
I miss the liberal, progressive South...
Attention white people: Racism is everywhere. It's everywhere. It's there in the quiet, unspoken background of conversations in liberal schools, it's in the out-loud rantings of near-strangers in big East Coast cities, it's in the board rooms and the backwaters.
That being said, NYC culture is to say things more directly, and New Yorkers tend to have more familiarity with people of other backgrounds and cultures than many other parts of the country… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:16 AM on May 30, 2013
Books about the history of New York City
Gotham and Power Broker are two of my favorite books ever, so they're hard to top, but Manhattan in Maps is a great overview (a light read, given that it's mostly just maps and not very long) and of course Jane Jacobs' Death & Life of Great American Cities is a necessary addition to these fundamentals.
I also tend to have Kenneth Jackson's Encyclopedia of New York City open most of the time while (re-)reading these other books, and it's very readable on its own.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:13 AM on May 16, 2013 marked best answer
Need Examples to Fight Ban on NYC Parks Performers
I may suggest that, in addition to listing the artists that have started or succeeded this way, you also contextualize the loss of character (and as mentioned above, business revenue) that will come from this loss as well. Because as much as I agree with your approach, it does somewhat presume that the folks making these rules already *care* about intangibles like hearing great music while strolling through a park, and most of them probably do not.
Which is to say, I… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:55 AM on May 1, 2013
Thanks for MetaFiltrest
Do they still make keyboards for first-gen iPads?
How do I get in touch with someone at SNL?
Not to rain on the parade, but this sort of isn't how the writing process for a sketch comedy show (or any mainstream TV show) works. Much of what writers are doing when pitching at SNL is trying to be the one whose sketch gets on air, preferably toward the front of the show, and to incidentally please their mercurial bosses while doing so.
Pop culture references (and mentions of popular YouTube videos are just that) certainly can help, because the material is familiar… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:54 AM on March 8, 2013
Why is there a wall at this intersection in Chicago?
These types of walls are effect examples of an implementation of the "arsenal of exclusion". Many of its precepts are described in this episode of the (great!) podcast 99% Invisible, including an example specific to the closing off of street access in a particular neighborhood to prevent undesirable (read: poor) people from getting access.
Some if the other tools in the arsenal are detailed in this Esquire article.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:14 PM on January 26, 2013 marked best answer
The importance of common interests in relationships
Microplane, yay or nay? And (warning: pun ahead) grate uses?
Is it worth it to learn to socialize this way?
What to do in case of 'helicopter parents'?
Congrats! You're ready to move out. Thank them, tell them that their generosity has made you comfortable to ask for help in the future if you need it, but that their example has made you disciplined enough that you won't need it, and then GTFO.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:00 PM on January 17, 2013
I think my friend is lying about cancer
To understand a bit more about the pattern of what cancer liars might look like, see No Evidence of Disease by Maciej Ceglowski. I hope none of that story sounds familiar.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:26 PM on January 13, 2013 marked best answer
Like the old Twinkie mystery, but with sex.
Title customization options added
Titles were not implemented for the benefit of the users who are members of the site and familiar with its workings and who know about (or even have access to) preferences to customize the site to their taste.
Not sure if that was the intent (I don't think the mods said that), but this old-ass user sure appreciates not having to click through to see titles.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 10:59 AM on January 9, 2013
"New users from here on out aren't just going to accept titles, they're not going to be aware there's any other way."
New users aren't just going to accept that there's an "Ask MetaFilter", they're not going to be aware that the site's ever been any other way! Aaand... so what?
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 7:51 PM on January 9, 2013
Stepping around marketing markups?