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What to do in case of 'helicopter parents'?
Congrats! You're ready to move out. Thank them, tell them that their generosity has made you comfortable to ask for help in the future if you need it, but that their example has made you disciplined enough that you won't need it, and then GTFO.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:00 PM on January 17, 2013
I think my friend is lying about cancer
To understand a bit more about the pattern of what cancer liars might look like, see No Evidence of Disease by Maciej Ceglowski. I hope none of that story sounds familiar.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:26 PM on January 13, 2013 marked best answer
Like the old Twinkie mystery, but with sex.
Title customization options added
You guys are the best. Thanks for putting up with all of us, and for all the stuff we'd only notice you doing if it broke down.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 10:05 AM on January 9, 2013
Titles were not implemented for the benefit of the users who are members of the site and familiar with its workings and who know about (or even have access to) preferences to customize the site to their taste.
Not sure if that was the intent (I don't think the mods said that), but this old-ass user sure appreciates not having to click through to see titles.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 10:59 AM on January 9, 2013
"New users from here on out aren't just going to accept titles, they're not going to be aware there's any other way."
New users aren't just going to accept that there's an "Ask MetaFilter", they're not going to be aware that the site's ever been any other way! Aaand... so what?
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 7:51 PM on January 9, 2013
Stepping around marketing markups?
MeFi is adding titles
To expand on Bugbread's thoughtful analysis a bit: If you're here in this thread, you are by definition not a typical MeFi user. Don't get defensive - that's not to say you don't matter or that you're not the beating heart of the sure or that your opinion isn't important.
But Matt and all the other mods have to represent and serve all users. Those who don't know MetaTalk exists. Those who know it exists but didn't notice a change. Those who noticed the change but don't… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 8:37 AM on January 8, 2013
I think a problem there, anil, is that the requirements you've stated are not all accepted by all members.
Yep, I'm happy to cede authority over the site's priorities to the people who've successfully run it for so long. But I'm sure if you had a strong reason one of those goals should be omitted, the mods would listen. I actually think that few people here have indicated disagreement with them, implementation aside.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 8:48 AM on January 8, 2013
I can't read anil's comment without immediately recalling how badly SixApart snarfed up making changes with LiveJournal - and the dismissive reactions from SixApart that essentially boiled down to "we know better than you, the users who have been using this all the time for years - so accept our changes to this site you're so invested in & quit complaining already".
Eh, don't want to make this thread about me, but suffice to say, the reason I was a public… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 9:18 AM on January 8, 2013
You know what, Anil? Your little snarky comment about how none of the naysayers are giving useful feedback really fucking bothers me.
Then I hope you find some respite in the fact that I didn't say that, and that I specifically praised the mockups. This does sort of demonstrate the meta-issue of people responding to straw men here. I actually agree with much of the criticism about the relative weight and styling of the font choices, but I see on preview that you're… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 9:48 AM on January 8, 2013
No puppies either; my sister would kill me.
My son is this age, and we play with his wooden train set every day. A few choice books that I treasure because they don't annoy me no matter how often we read them:
* Spoon and Chopsticks
* I Want My Hat Back and This Is Not My Hat
* Not a Box and Not a Stick
The thing to remember is that kids are really simple in their tastes — they don't care how much something cost or how elaborate it is;… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:51 PM on January 1, 2013
How do I survive on a pittence while returning to school?
One of my uncles is very wealthy, and has offered help. I don't feel good about asking for money directly, but I'm happy to ask for work. So that's my first line of defense.
Don't ask him for money or for help finding work at first -- have the first conversation be an outline of the issues you've listed here, and ask for his suggestions on how you tackle all of these related issues.
People who care about you, and who aren't facing the extreme… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:39 PM on January 1, 2013 marked best answer
Something there is that doesn't love a wall, that wants it down
He seems to be forgetting that people in general - not tech-fascinated people like himself, but the general public - want things to be simple, intuitive, plug-and-play, and that's why they've gravitated to prefab commercial platforms.
From the piece: "The primary fallacy that underpins many of their mistakes is that user flexibility and control necessarily lead to a user experience complexity that hurts growth."
It blows my mind that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 2:19 PM on December 13, 2012
Lots to respond to here, thought I'd just hit a few points.
I generally agree with his points, but every time I read the phrase "the social web" I threw up a little bit in the back of my throat. I wonder how he feels about leveraging synergies and monetizing the social cloud?
I am not a prescriptivist grammarian. People use these phrases because they have meaning and because they're signifiers of who one is speaking to and whether one… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 7:05 AM on December 14, 2012
I'm not arguing Wired is mainstream, just that my audience has broadened from the extremely insular folks who read my blog a decade ago. Lots of folks have responded to this piece with surprise about the fact that these things existed at all. There are plenty of tweets (or Hacker News comments, or whatever) from people who were unaware of these points.
Not sure how we got onto a tangent about Wired's demographics, but the fact this was considered linkworthy at all seems… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 7:40 AM on December 14, 2012
Cool Places to Work in Mid-Town Manhattan
The Ace Hotel is generally overcrowded and insufferable. The NYPL reading room is great.
You should also shop through the list of privately-owned public spaces for central midtown and east midtown to find locations that suit your preferences; Each of those links to maps of the spots, and some even have photos of the venues.
The ones coded as "destinations" like Park Avenue Plaza or 590 Madison should suit your needs.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:08 PM on November 14, 2012
All gone a bit pear-shaped
As a cis-male I don't have too much to add except that if you've found a pant that you like and that works from Zara, GET MORE OF THEM! I know it sounds obvious, but I screw this up all the time, thinking somehow I have to only get one of an item I like, when instead I should seize those rare times that clothing suits me and stock up.mthis is more acute for men as our off-the-rack options in a given season are generally less varied than for those who wear women's clothing.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:27 PM on October 13, 2012
Triumph of the Will
Nice solo NYC dinner
Help me rent out my NYC-based events space for workshops, seminars, presentations, parties, mixers, etc.
Wow! Had no idea you guys had a space like this. I'd reach out to a few key event planning folks (Ruthless Bunny's link is obviously a good start) and just let them know you're available; Good venues in Manhattan are so rare and it's so unusual to find one that's not constantly been used for other events that I have to imagine there'll be tons of demand. The tech industry is *always* looking for spaces like this; Maybe come by one of our NY Tech Meetups and let people know what you've got going… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:32 PM on October 2, 2012
Apple's iOS 6 Maps app
Is Dash known to be hostile to Apple? Because this is a fairly devastating thing to say:
No, I like and use a lot of Apple products, and I think my wife bought a bunch of Apple stock a while back, so you know, if I have a bias it's probably in favor of Apple. Really I'm just skeptical of all multibillion-dollar publicly-traded companies.
Also, being called "Dash" makes me feel like I'm a grown-up or a real writer. Thanks!
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 11:44 AM on September 20, 2012
Getting the most from my meat.
Tracking LiveJournal's decline
There's so much I want to say here. So much missed in both the article and many of the perspectives.
Though I was often a voice defending the fuckups that happened at LJ years ago, I always knew how critical and terrible those errors often were. As did Brad, and others. It felt like watching a friend you love and care about make a bad decision and not being able to stop them.
Anjelika really does care about the site, and is in a tough spot when… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 12:17 PM on September 7, 2012
How do I deal with overbearing parents?
"There are lots of people who are overweight, but very very few parents who would knowingly make their child feel bad about themselves. If you insist on being that unusually cruel type of parent, you're not welcome here until you learn to act like an adult."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:27 AM on August 27, 2012
How is webbe formd?
guybrush_threepwood's description is wonderfully accurate for Silicon Valley startups; NYC startups are a little different but overall very parallel. There's a book called "Founders at Work" which is a great light read with terrific anecdotes about how many startups happened in the early Web 2.0 era; Sarah Lacy's "Once You're Lucky" is probably also good, but I didn't read it because I lived it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:59 PM on August 21, 2012
Sara C., since it's not immediately obvious in this thread -- joshu is a very well-known entrepreneur, who started Delicious.com and backs a lot of big-name startups. Probably one point that's worth noting for context is that it's not uncommon for many of the best founders to be as sincere and accessible as he is here; If you're writing about a cliched startup, the founder would be precisely opposite.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:48 PM on August 22, 2012
The oldest story ever told.
How can I make StackOverflow useful again?
I made a big mistake
Jesus, you're all overthinking this. Don't send flowers or wine or a breakfast basket, and don't send some overwrought email where you flay your guts out, even self-deprecatingly.
You apologized, that's great. Give it a few days and then ask to meet again, offering to come to her office or whatever's most convenient so that she won't be put out. If you want to give an option, mention that you're happy to meet with a colleague of hers if that's easier, in case she… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:28 PM on July 24, 2012
I'm looking for first-hand accounts of starting a food business
My friends are blogging their launch of Lonestar Taco here in NYC. It's delicious.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:53 PM on July 24, 2012
Can my landlord enforce a fee for overnight guests?
How do I respond when people insult themselves while complimenting me?
"Well, you're wrong about your features not being beautiful, so you might be exaggerating a bit in describing what you like about me. There's too many people talking about our appearance anyway; I tell you what -- let's split the difference and agree we're both great people who are lucky to have run into each other today!"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:46 PM on June 28, 2012
shopping unique to nyc
Sapporo (noodle shop)
Really, it just depends how loosely you define "chain". Lots of retailers have more than one location; even more have sibling locations run by other members of a proprietor's family.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:00 PM on June 28, 2012 marked best answer
Restaurants considered harmful?
Use a retail store as an example instead of a restaurant, if you think the example is fraught. But if you're concerned about it, just explain: "At this point in our interviews, we use a series of questions about a hypothetical restaurant to cover some concepts we think are important."
That way it's clear this is standard procedure, not something in response to the interviewee. You are an asset to your company for being sensitive enough to ask this, though --… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:38 AM on June 24, 2012 marked best answer
Our answering machine isn't SkyNet...
I think there's a substantial percentage of today's phone-using public that's not familiar with answering machines. While mobile phones have voicemail, some huge percentage of mobile voicemails still use default unavailability announcements.
If someone's only ever used mobile phones, and doesn't hear a standard voicemail prompt, they might not know what your setup is, especially if some of these people are calling you as a wrong number.
I haven't… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:06 AM on June 22, 2012
How do I resign as confidante?
nice work--can I just take that from you? k-thx-bye
If there's an MIT license attached to everything, you're both morally and legally clear to remix it however you wants long as you retain attribution. What's more, any developer who uses that license is likely signaling that they *hope* you'll do something like what you've described.
The open source license works exactly like your most optimistic self would hope it might. Email that developer to let them know your plans and I'm sure they'll be excited. Go make something great.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:01 PM on June 14, 2012 marked best answer
The business side of TV
The Future of TV blog by mefi's own Michael Pusateri is a great place to start.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:13 PM on June 6, 2012
Movable Type text replacement script?
How can I stop worrying about the revolution?
Why does Tumblr hate Missing e?
Almost any large-scale website is going to object to users installing software that gives a third party the ability to monitor, record, transform and reformat the site's content.
Even assuming Missing E is entirely benevolent (I believe it is), this represents a significant security issue if the extension has any security holes, and because it sets a precedent that a third party which has no accountability to Tumblr can decide what your experience looks like.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:48 PM on June 3, 2012 marked best answer
We found our dream house, but boy does it smell...
If it's been freshly carpeted, could the smell be the odor of the new carpet itself? It can be quite strong, and I've certainly seen people's sensitivity to that kind of odor vary greatly. Why not bring in you mother-in-law to smell for herself? If she's okay with it and you can get the smell to fade over time either on its own or through some other method, this shouldn't be a dealbreaker.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:36 PM on June 3, 2012
What is wrong with us?
Do you ever wish you had been circumcised?
Help with noisy neighbor's loud music.
Why not just talk to them, being the neighbor you'd want to have? "I'm pretty sensitive to sound, and you guys have a particularly good sound system. Sometimes it stresses me out a little, though obviously you should enjoy your stereo when you're having a party or it's not late. So, on those rare times when I really do need you to turn it down, how should we communicate about that? And do you have any nut allergies that might affect the brownies I'm gonna make?… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:27 PM on May 25, 2012
Cheese in every fondue pot! Two motorcycles in every garage for a mouse named Ralph!
How do you make design decisions in a team with a flat hierarchy?
People should not be communicating preferences to the designer. They should be communicating goals. Then the designer can do his/her job, and your team's responsibility is only to make sure their solution accomplishes the goals that have been outlined.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:22 PM on May 23, 2012
holdkris99's death was a hoax.
Looking for social media buttons with counter
Each of these sites wants… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:58 AM on May 22, 2012