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Not sure if it's trust or communication that's the problem here.
Sibling career choices and ethics
Businesses to start instead of spending the 200k on a grad education?
Free NYC Public WiFi In My Lifetime, Please
You should join NYC Wireless and follow the city's efforts (as detailed on their Tumblr) to bring wifi to public parks.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:01 PM on January 25, 2012
Should I work at a startup?
Almost every big company has an "innovation" or "skunk works" group that explores these new technologies while still offering decent benefits, at the expense of dealing with more big company stupidity than you'd face at a startup. Sounds like that might be the right opportunity for you -- it's probably worth getting out to industry events to network around these things, as many times these positions are hired more socially instead of being regular "send us your… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:47 AM on January 23, 2012
Is the a third option?
Your friend simply does not understand the role of the President in our government. Even if he found a candidate who was perfectly politically-aligned with his preferences, and that candidate were viable to be elected, and that candidate won the election, he would still not see all of the policies he prefers get enacted.
And that is by design. You vote for a president whom you think will influence the process positively in the decision making a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:22 PM on January 19, 2012
Going to the chapel ...
Do it your way and send the notices if you want to. Then call her and tell her you did it this way specifically so she wouldn't feel put out, though of course you know she's so reasonable that wasn't really a worry anyway. Follow up with an email CCing both your mothers saying how lucky you both are to have found The One and reiterating that you especially wanted to accommodate her.
Dare her to fuss.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:34 PM on January 16, 2012
If only I were a girl, a red sash would do...
I need to explain depression to people with no working understanding of it
Gold teeth and a curse for this town were all in my mouth
Tell a Congressman ...
They blinded us with science?
Love song to a stranger
Send him the thank you note, and tell him that you'd like to help his child (or future child) in the same way, and to contact you each year until his kid is your age. You get a pen pal, he gets a fair reward. I'm Indian; our people love that shit.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:44 PM on January 10, 2012
Help a teenager design a nutrition/exercise plan
I would have been mortifyingly embarrassed to go to the gym at 17, or for damn near a decade after I was 17. That was true until I realized that gyms aren't just for making your muscles strong - they're for making your spine stronger, too, by encouraging you to push past your self-consciousness. Good luck!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:40 PM on January 8, 2012
Art, 140 characters at a time
Me and logistics: A love story looking for a plot
Anxiety therapy for the high roller crowd
I was on Prozac (for depression, not anxiety) a decade ago, a fact which means no more or less to me than that I was on Prilosec to treat acid reflux. As a result, others who have taken antidepressants have confided to me about their experiences, and those people have had powerful jobs at institutions ranging from the top technology companies in the world to the biggest media companies to the pinnacles of political office in the U.S.
It's not my place to talk about it… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:06 AM on January 4, 2012
Not so famous, but still awesome.
Dan Bricklin. Mildred and Richard Loving.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:19 PM on January 3, 2012
help with son who has school refusal
I was a depressed kid, and the machines I played video games on led me to making the connections that pulled me out of my depression and led me to success despite blowing off the last half of high school. Please do take care of yourself, and then ask your son what he wants and then listen to him. Love him unconditionally and listen to him, instead of repeatedly (as you say above) forcing him to do things.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:26 PM on January 3, 2012 marked best answer
Should my seven-year-old son's dentist knock him out?
How can I create a PowerPoint presentation that looks like it's from 1994?
If you are adamant about doing this the "authentic" way, emulators (including the free VirtualBox) will easily let you run Windows 3.x and PowerPoint of that vintage. You can still find these sometimes on eBay, or if you don't mind, they're actually not hard to find on Usenet as sort of historical anomalies.
But! What I'd recommend: Use any modern version of PowerPoint and download the original templates from Microsoft itself (Pack 2 and Pack 3 are must-haves… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:32 PM on January 3, 2012 marked best answer
If your website is full of assholes, it's your fault
Wasn't my best thread. But yeah, the site really should be white. :)
Happy New Year, everybody! May your worst conversations not haunt you into 2012.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 7:04 PM on December 31, 2011
I appreciate the deliberation and thought here, and the spirited defenses, so perhaps I should offer something more than my glib comments above. Yes, I do believe a white background would help the site -- appealing to new users in a way that might encourage them to stay and participate is a valuable goal that I think the site should aspire to more than it does. (MeFi is fairly extreme in its deliberate hostility to new users) Obviously, articulating that as "professional" is a weak way… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 9:05 AM on January 3, 2012
Would it be illegal or just rude?
To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow
I've found surprisingly meaningful insights in recording the mundane and functional. How much I run, what I eat, what places I visit (even just the post office or going to the movies) and other small moments all add up to mean something. Granted, I track these things with apps, not a paper diary, but I don't think it matters.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:48 AM on December 28, 2011
Am I a jerk?
You're a jerk, for these reasons:
1. You embarrassed your wife, because of an injustice that mostly had to do with your ego.
2.You set an example for your daughter that men she doesn't know can consider it appropriate to attack her with gendered slurs in public.
3. You addressed minor nuisances as if they were important by pursuing completely ineffective means of redress. You squandered a situation where you were clearly right on your need to also be dominant! That's 100% jerky.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:20 AM on December 28, 2011
Squeak squeak squeak squeak
Should I inform my girlfriend about this unpleasant conversation between me and her parents when they explicitly requested I don't?
Tell her, then send them a note:
"I appreciate your test of my loyalty to, and love for, your daughter. You'll be pleased to know that I followed the policy that I know you'd think best for your daughter: I chose the path of love, tolerance and honesty."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:22 PM on December 26, 2011
How do I rebound from being fired?
I got fired from my media job in my late 20s, even though I was smart and had good ideas. Was some of it politics or that my boss was a dummy who didn't appreciate my skills? Maybe, yeah, sure.
But a lot of it was that I didn't translate my ideas and ambition into clear plans, didn't execute reliably on those plans or communicate clearly when I wasn't able to execute on those plans. I had a lot to learn about all the *other* parts of doing a good job that have nothing to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:58 PM on December 26, 2011
To-Do App: Happy to pay, but not to subscribe?
Anthrax and Metallica
How to deal with interpersonal work drama while leaving a job?
It's not a good time to have a baby, but I am worried this might be my only chance...
Focus on what it will take to be a good parent for a lifetime, not on what gets you a baby on some arbitrary timeline. As the father of a nine-month-old, I can tell you already: The baby's not gonna be a baby for long. But if your relationship as parents isn't rock-solid, or your health care infrastructure isn't in place, those things will have lasting repercussions far worse than you not getting your preference right now.
All of parenthood is about… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:21 PM on December 7, 2011
That's "long-term", not king-term, of course. And we started trying when my wife was 35, got pregnant immediately, and then elected to terminate after finding a genetic issue. Even after grieving over that and then trying again, we still had our son while she was 36. You can't plan life.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:24 PM on December 7, 2011
Leaving a job after an equity event/payout?
Congrats on the Facebook buyout. :) Coast at your current gig until you find something specific you proactively want to do, and then make the leap -- your skillset and track record of a successful exit will serve you well whether it's another job or your own company.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:09 PM on December 5, 2011
I want to hire an iOS App Dev.
I'm a board member, so obviously biased here, but many people are finding great coders on Stack Overflow Careers for this sort of thing; it succeeds for many of the same reasons that MeFi Jobs does.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:58 PM on December 5, 2011
One of the Boys
Be comfortable and confident (or fake being so) in correcting others and in asking for what you need to do your job well. As a male in tech, these are two things I've consistently seen my female coworkers and reports do less frequently than males. Though I try to correct for it, it still leaves an impression.
Also, have perspective on your talents. I can't count the number of times I've seen job listings that ask for (e.g.) "five years of Java experience". Male… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:25 PM on November 27, 2011 marked best answer
Why didn't those crazy kids get together earlier?
Because even if the world was known to be round, there was still enormous investment needed to explore westbound, no actual knowledge of what did lie to the west between Europe and Asia, and zero guarantee of a profitable or meaningful reason to make the exploration in the first place.
We know today that Jupiter has moons with interesting atmospheres, and we technically have the technology to get to them, at least in robot form if not in person, and yet we don't go. Why not?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:48 PM on November 27, 2011
Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm
Unless you're both insane, you've both changed in 8 years. Ruining two relationships in the hopes that your idealized, romantic mental images of the past could still become reality is likely to just result in four unhappy single people in the present. Sounds like you want to do it anyway.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:54 AM on November 26, 2011
Facebook as Malware
Appreciate the link here, and obviously MeFi is going to be full of like minds about Facebook. What is striking to me is that this seems like a turn for them, from their obvious walled-garden intentions into something more deliberately against the rest of the web, instead of merely for themselves.
In contrast to most of the folks here, though, I don't have that much of a problem with using Facebook as a social network. It does a lot of things well,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 11:56 AM on November 22, 2011
Ignignokt, there's not only the API you found, but it's being used to make awesome apps! (Github link)
posted to MetaFilter Projects by anildash at 7:13 PM on November 16, 2011
Help me find anonymous/pseudonymous bloggers?
Am I over reacting about my wife's job?
I was the second in line for calls when my old office's security system got tripped, which would happen as often as once a week. It's not that big a deal, and you're projecting all your other issues (which, frankly, are pretty sexist and condescending) into this one fairly minor responsibility.
Anyone responsible for a physical plant, whether that's a daycare facility, retail store, or regular office, is going to be the first line of response if there's a question about… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:17 AM on November 11, 2011 marked best answer
what do you think organizers are looking for in volunteers to a large techy conference?
Which conference is it? For shows like Web 2.0, being slightly older (and having the presumable improvement in communication skills/resourcefulness which comes with that) might be a real advantage. But overall, all the conference organizers I know are looking to control chaos. Anyone who indicates they know how to keep guests docile, speakers happy, and organizers unstressed is automatically going to be a good candidate.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:58 AM on October 30, 2011
Love AND a Startup?
information wants to be free but not in my class
In addition to documenting everything, have him either coverse with you over email or do an email verification after each conversation ("You said you could make things very difficult for me, correct?") in order to preserve a record of his actions. Encourage those who studied with you to capture & document their actions (and their recollections of your actions) ASAP as well.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:32 AM on October 27, 2011