Send him the thank you note, and tell him that you'd like to help his child (or future child) in the same way, and to contact you each year until his kid is your age. You get a pen pal, he gets a fair reward. I'm Indian; our people love that shit. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:44 PM on January 10, 2012
I would have been mortifyingly embarrassed to go to the gym at 17, or for damn near a decade after I was 17. That was true until I realized that gyms aren't just for making your muscles strong - they're for making your spine stronger, too, by encouraging you to push past your self-consciousness. Good luck! posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 2:40 PM on January 8, 2012
You should buy some moderately-priced good in bulk and then break it into lots to sell on eBay (or through your own web store) for a profit. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 5:42 PM on January 4, 2012
I was on Prozac (for depression, not anxiety) a decade ago, a fact which means no more or less to me than that I was on Prilosec to treat acid reflux. As a result, others who have taken antidepressants have confided to me about their experiences, and those people have had powerful jobs at institutions ranging from the top technology companies in the world to the biggest media companies to the pinnacles of political office in the U.S.
It's not my place to talk about it... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 6:06 AM on January 4, 2012
I was a depressed kid, and the machines I played video games on led me to making the connections that pulled me out of my depression and led me to success despite blowing off the last half of high school. Please do take care of yourself, and then ask your son what he wants and then listen to him. Love him unconditionally and listen to him, instead of repeatedly (as you say above) forcing him to do things.... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:26 PM on January 3, 2012 marked best answer
More anecdata: I was *not* a nervous kid, but I guess for the convenience of the dentist (I was having a bunch of teeth removed) when I was 8 I was put under IV sedation. I found it really fun. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:04 PM on January 3, 2012
If you are adamant about doing this the "authentic" way, emulators (including the free VirtualBox) will easily let you run Windows 3.x and PowerPoint of that vintage. You can still find these sometimes on eBay, or if you don't mind, they're actually not hard to find on Usenet as sort of historical anomalies.
But! What I'd recommend: Use any modern version of PowerPoint and download the original templates from Microsoft itself (Pack 2 and Pack 3 are must-haves... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:32 PM on January 3, 2012 marked best answer
Wasn't my best thread. But yeah, the site really should be white. :)
Happy New Year, everybody! May your worst conversations not haunt you into 2012. posted to MetaTalk by anildashat 7:04 PM on December 31, 2011
I appreciate the deliberation and thought here, and the spirited defenses, so perhaps I should offer something more than my glib comments above. Yes, I do believe a white background would help the site -- appealing to new users in a way that might encourage them to stay and participate is a valuable goal that I think the site should aspire to more than it does. (MeFi is fairly extreme in its deliberate hostility to new users) Obviously, articulating that as "professional" is a weak way... [more] posted to MetaTalk by anildashat 9:05 AM on January 3, 2012
I've found surprisingly meaningful insights in recording the mundane and functional. How much I run, what I eat, what places I visit (even just the post office or going to the movies) and other small moments all add up to mean something. Granted, I track these things with apps, not a paper diary, but I don't think it matters. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:48 AM on December 28, 2011
1. You embarrassed your wife, because of an injustice that mostly had to do with your ego.
2.You set an example for your daughter that men she doesn't know can consider it appropriate to attack her with gendered slurs in public.
3. You addressed minor nuisances as if they were important by pursuing completely ineffective means of redress. You squandered a situation where you were clearly... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:20 AM on December 28, 2011
Put on R. Kelky's "12 Play". Make clear to the neighbors you're not having sex, you're fucking. Get a new box spring that's silent so they can hear it better. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 10:31 PM on December 27, 2011
"I appreciate your test of my loyalty to, and love for, your daughter. You'll be pleased to know that I followed the policy that I know you'd think best for your daughter: I chose the path of love, tolerance and honesty." posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:22 PM on December 26, 2011
I got fired from my media job in my late 20s, even though I was smart and had good ideas. Was some of it politics or that my boss was a dummy who didn't appreciate my skills? Maybe, yeah, sure.
But a lot of it was that I didn't translate my ideas and ambition into clear plans, didn't execute reliably on those plans or communicate clearly when I wasn't able to execute on those plans. I had a lot to learn about all the *other* parts of doing a good job that have nothing to... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 8:58 PM on December 26, 2011
PM Dawn and Tribe Called Quest. The Zombies and The Beatles. The Jackson 5 and the Osmonds. Lil Wayne and Juvenile. Tupac and Humpty Hump. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 6:11 PM on December 14, 2011
Focus on what it will take to be a good parent for a lifetime, not on what gets you a baby on some arbitrary timeline. As the father of a nine-month-old, I can tell you already: The baby's not gonna be a baby for long. But if your relationship as parents isn't rock-solid, or your health care infrastructure isn't in place, those things will have lasting repercussions far worse than you not getting your preference right now.
All of parenthood is about... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:21 PM on December 7, 2011
That's "long-term", not king-term, of course. And we started trying when my wife was 35, got pregnant immediately, and then elected to terminate after finding a genetic issue. Even after grieving over that and then trying again, we still had our son while she was 36. You can't plan life. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:24 PM on December 7, 2011
Congrats on the Facebook buyout. :) Coast at your current gig until you find something specific you proactively want to do, and then make the leap -- your skillset and track record of a successful exit will serve you well whether it's another job or your own company. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:09 PM on December 5, 2011
I'm a board member, so obviously biased here, but many people are finding great coders on Stack Overflow Careers for this sort of thing; it succeeds for many of the same reasons that MeFi Jobs does. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 8:58 PM on December 5, 2011
Be comfortable and confident (or fake being so) in correcting others and in asking for what you need to do your job well. As a male in tech, these are two things I've consistently seen my female coworkers and reports do less frequently than males. Though I try to correct for it, it still leaves an impression.
Also, have perspective on your talents. I can't count the number of times I've seen job listings that ask for (e.g.) "five years of Java experience". Male... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:25 PM on November 27, 2011 marked best answer
Because even if the world was known to be round, there was still enormous investment needed to explore westbound, no actual knowledge of what did lie to the west between Europe and Asia, and zero guarantee of a profitable or meaningful reason to make the exploration in the first place.
We know today that Jupiter has moons with interesting atmospheres, and we technically have the technology to get to them, at least in robot form... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 5:48 PM on November 27, 2011
This is how physical he's willing to be with you in public, with other people watching as witnesses. What would you think was the home life of couple if you saw the husband acting that way at the mall? posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 3:10 AM on November 27, 2011
Unless you're both insane, you've both changed in 8 years. Ruining two relationships in the hopes that your idealized, romantic mental images of the past could still become reality is likely to just result in four unhappy single people in the present. Sounds like you want to do it anyway. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 10:54 AM on November 26, 2011
Appreciate the link here, and obviously MeFi is going to be full of like minds about Facebook. What is striking to me is that this seems like a turn for them, from their obvious walled-garden intentions into something more deliberately against the rest of the web, instead of merely for themselves.
In contrast to most of the folks here, though, I don't have that much of a problem with using Facebook as a social network. It does a lot of things well,... [more] posted to MetaFilter by anildashat 11:56 AM on November 22, 2011
I was the second in line for calls when my old office's security system got tripped, which would happen as often as once a week. It's not that big a deal, and you're projecting all your other issues (which, frankly, are pretty sexist and condescending) into this one fairly minor responsibility.
Anyone responsible for a physical plant, whether that's a daycare facility, retail store, or regular office, is going to be the first line of response if there's a question about... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 8:17 AM on November 11, 2011 marked best answer
(Your response came as I was posting mine: On review, what a wonderful response you've written here!) posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 8:18 AM on November 11, 2011
Which conference is it? For shows like Web 2.0, being slightly older (and having the presumable improvement in communication skills/resourcefulness which comes with that) might be a real advantage. But overall, all the conference organizers I know are looking to control chaos. Anyone who indicates they know how to keep guests docile, speakers happy, and organizers unstressed is automatically going to be a good candidate. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 5:58 AM on October 30, 2011
Congrats! Founding a startup puts you in lots of situations where you'll necessarily meet new, interesting, motivated people. Seems like a good way to meet a match to me. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 8:26 PM on October 28, 2011 marked best answer
In addition to documenting everything, have him either coverse with you over email or do an email verification after each conversation ("You said you could make things very difficult for me, correct?") in order to preserve a record of his actions. Encourage those who studied with you to capture & document their actions (and their recollections of your actions) ASAP as well. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 5:32 AM on October 27, 2011
It's obviously racist, but perhaps most easily solved with "I love the kids hearing this song, because it shows them how ridiculous priests are!" posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 10:12 PM on October 24, 2011
Refer to projects you worked on "ten years agol early in the conversation, and if there's a contextual way to reference pop culture (such as Lady Gaga or something), add in a "...or whoever the kids like these days" to sound old without being out of touch.
Set the context with your words and it'll override a lot of your appearance. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:57 PM on October 10, 2011 marked best answer
Jeb, as ever, nails it. If living a small life doesn't seem worth it, then live a big, wonderful life, knowing that has nothing to do with wealth or fame. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 4:59 AM on October 2, 2011
These are all great suggestions (particularly Veselka!) but also go to nice restaurants and eat alone, if you can afford it! I've done the solo-at-the-bar thing at Gramercy Tavern a bunch of times and Ssam Bar or Noodle Bar a few times, and never regretted it. Bring a smartphone or book if you want to have something to read, but otherwise just get out there and enjoy the money saved, while also being able to unrepentantly ask your server all about every aspect of your meal. I'd probably think... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:29 PM on September 27, 2011
* "Who in our organization do you think would make a good mentor for me?"
* "What other companies do you think could be most disruptive to our business/industry?" posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:20 PM on September 27, 2011 marked best answer
This question is framed incorrectly. Your company has a need for a maintainable CMS with some serious complexity. The question to start with is: What are the requirements for your new CMS system?
You've listed a formidable set of requirements already, and on top of that, we can presume that the system should be low-cost and easily maintainable by a broad community of consultants or developers for hire. Now, I used to work for a company that sold a CMS that competed with... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 9:03 PM on September 27, 2011 marked best answer
Circumstances can always make an employee move over a time scale as long as a year; those considerations shouldn't be relevant to your request. posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 7:16 PM on September 25, 2011
I was two, and my sister seven, the first time my parents took us both to extremely rural India from the U.S., in what must have been a superhuman effort, particularly for my mother. I have no recollection of this trip and only fleeting memories of the subsequent one when I was five.
Go if you must, but it's wrong to think it's for the kids' benefit. And please, it's India: There's always a big festival, a big feast, and some head shaving going on.... [more] posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildashat 5:40 AM on September 20, 2011