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How can my girlfriend and I stay..."pure" until marriage ?
You've already had sex. You just haven't had one particular kind of sex. The good news is you both clearly want and enjoy it, save for concerns that you describe as coming entirely from outside institutions, not from the two of you.

So, if you'd like to continue having sex, adding additional activities to your repertoire, communicate honestly and openly with one another about a way to do that responsibly. Pretending you don't want it and then being unprepared for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:05 PM on April 23, 2011

How should I respond to "how was your trip?"
"The trip was fine, but then it's back to real life. You know how it is." then change the subject if it's not a close acquaintance, or explain your loss if it's someone close enough to support you.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:43 AM on April 23, 2011

Software for the Socially Minded?
Ushahidi was the first app that came to mind, but I'm also the director of the organization that leads the development of ThinkUp, and we're very concerned with getting better representation for ordinary citizens in policymaking and lawmaking decisions. We'd love to have you join the community!

(I'm also a judge for the CfA fellowships, and can't say enough good things about both CfA and CivicCommons.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:00 AM on April 21, 2011
Oh! And last year we had a blast with Apps 4 Africa; lots of those projects are still going strong.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:02 AM on April 21, 2011

Self-Referential Name Check Mixtape
Prince has covered Salt N' Pepa's "Shoop" live.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:30 AM on April 20, 2011 marked best answer

Pop group backup dancers. What's the story there?
Slightly off-topic, but Prince mentioned that one reason he wanted to go in to show business was that he saw James Brown perform when he was a kid, and James had the prettiest girls dancing backup for him. It's clearly a self-perpetuating performance concept, and the ubiquity of group-dance videos on early MTV after Thriller accelerated it into a derigeur part of pop music spectacle by the end of the 80s. By contrast, even the elaborate shows of Kiss and P-Funk in the 70s weren't known for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:22 AM on April 18, 2011

MORE relationship hacks?
One way to screw it up real good is to compare it to other people's relationships or try to compete to be The Best. Great relationships are made from lots of little quiet moments, not great visible victories.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:53 AM on April 17, 2011

What to expect way before you are expecting
Seems abnormal to me. I have my two-month-old on my lap as I write this, and if I'd have even thought anything like this about my wife, I'd have felt like a total asshole, let alone actually saying it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:58 AM on April 16, 2011

I love it when a plan comes together
The Cove, though often praised for all its other traits, is a great heist film.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:21 PM on April 15, 2011

How do I get over the shame of my bigoted teenage past?
I would love to read a blog of a grownup confronting their teenage ignorance. Log back in to your LJ, and go post-by-post annotating them with updates on your current perspective versus the one you had then. Would be incredibly compelling.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:41 PM on April 13, 2011

Help us find an awesome, non-traditional "first dance" song for our wedding reception
Protection would be an excellent choice, as would Everything But The Girl's semi-DnB cover of "Corcovado". While perhaps a bit challenging to dance to, the song is definitely beautiful and would be familiar to older guests, especially if you segued it in to a more traditional version like one by Sarah Vaughan, Miles Davis or João Gilberto.

Lyrics:


Quiet nights of quiet stars,
Quiet chords from my... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:42 PM on April 7, 2011

The Edge is not on the White Page
Prince, particularly on rhythm guitar. Though he had the obvious Santana/Hendrix style theatrics, his early 80s work was definitive in modernizing the James Brown (well, Jimmy Nolen, Catfish Collins, et. al) rhythm guitar chickenscratch sound not only formed the backdrop to the monumental Minneapolis funk scene, straight though Janet Jackson's career in the early 90s. It also influenced the atmospheric and rhythmic choices that Timbaland, the Neptunes and pop acts from Britney to Justin to Gaga... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:04 PM on April 7, 2011

I think I used to have a porpoise
A nicely-stitched "You're Going To Get What You Deserve" almost reads like a traditional cross-stitch homily, but would be very evocative to a NIN fan.

Bonus points: make an angel with a halo and underneath in tiny letters caption it "Halo 3".
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:06 AM on April 6, 2011 marked best answer

I promised something I couldn't deliver on. If I break my promise, I could lose all my other work. Please advise on how to approach this..
You can't make promises based on a system you don't control. Educate your client about the fact that your promise was based on a search environment that Google has now radically changed. If they're logical and you're a good communicator, they'll understand why those results are no longer possible.

Then, stop making promises that Google has to keep, and starting helping people promote their web presence based on good content, not fragile tricks.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:58 PM on April 5, 2011

I ain't gonna take it no more
This is almost the Rope-a-Dope. Not sure it emphasizes the part you focus on, though.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:26 AM on March 26, 2011

writing software which plays back all the changes a text go through
Were you thinking along the lines of IBM's History Flow?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:33 AM on March 25, 2011

What should I name my mural business?
Urban Mural. Then someday you can expand to Rural Murals.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:42 PM on March 23, 2011

Leaving a good salary for an MBA
Having an MBA won't make you a good product manager, making good products & good mistakes will. You'd be wiser (and more likely to get hired in 2013 as a Product Manager) if you quit you job and spent the next two years & $80,000 doing a startup with a good product than being yet another Silicon Valley MBA. All the MBAs are looking for the vaunted "technical cofounder" for their startups anyway.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:26 AM on March 23, 2011

Good Sex Requires a Proper Amount of Adjustment (Bed)?
If you're about to have a baby, you may not have to worry about the "lovelife" part quite so often and for some time, and will almost certainly prioritize comfort during what little sleeping time you will get.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:57 PM on March 22, 2011

Need help coping with multiple miscarriage
Fertility is so fraught and complicated, it's not surprising at all that some understandable irrationality may be part of the grieving process for pregnancies that don't come to term. Have the logical part of your brain tell the "I'm cursed" part of your brain "That's a reasonable way to deal with this pain."

Good luck to you.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:36 PM on March 22, 2011

Good WIKI software for govt agency?
One other option you have, if you have any flexibility on the sign-in requirement, there are some good options at Apps.gov which would eliminate having to go through the procurement process at USDA.

The great thing here is that you can have a GSA-approved (actually, GSA-provided!) deployment of MediaWiki without having to do any setup or purchasing. They also offer Twiki, another good and popular wiki platform, and you could easily evaluate both options.... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:33 PM on March 21, 2011 marked best answer

Good help forum for Office 2010?
You should be able to get excellent answers from SuperUser (take a look at the Microsoft Word tag, for example), which is about many power-user questions, but regularly features answers about Office apps.

Disclaimer: I'm on the board of Stack Exchange, which owns the site, but it's where I go to look up my Office questions myself, which is why I recommend it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:49 PM on March 19, 2011

Not Ready For Facebook Fetus
Don't tell the news to anyone whom she wouldn't want to be informed if she got an abortion.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:37 AM on March 19, 2011

Mom, if you're reading this? Please go away!
You and she have different social norms about appropriate use of social media, likely due to your differing familiarity and comfort with it. You can't bridge cultural or social gaps through avoidance, only through communication.

If you're struggling to start the conversation with her, tweet this:

"Hi, mom. I don't mind if you read this, but I know you don't want to make me self-conscious talking to my friends, right? Call me!... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:48 PM on March 16, 2011

Is Harper's worth subscribing to, again?
I can't speak to the content, but as neroli noted, from an organizational standpoint the place is a shitshow. Tons and tons of good people are leaving, and even if they've brought in great talents and manage to keep them, I have to imagine the office chaos and company drama is going to affect the published product sometime, if it hasn't already.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:54 PM on March 14, 2011

How to indulge my inner snoop?
You could be a great blogger if there's a niche you're interested in. Lots of the best blogs thrive on these skills.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:35 PM on February 24, 2011

User Interface Design 101
Jesse James Garrett's "Elements of User Experience"
Stewart Brand's "How Buildings Learn"
Scott McCloud's "Understanding Conics"
Edward Tufte's "Envisioning Information"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:43 PM on February 22, 2011
Oh, and Boxes & Arrows, of course.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:44 PM on February 22, 2011

How to port Excel applications to the Web?
Depending on what you're doing, the Excel Web App is for exactly this. You could take your existing Excel worksheets and make them available to the people you wanted to use them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:50 PM on January 29, 2011

Java or .Net for a new dev team?
Are Java and .Net the only choices? Seems oddly limiting if what you're doing is explicitly about the web. Boss-ready examples of defending platforms like Ruby and Python are also very numerous.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:08 PM on January 28, 2011

Name my blog babby
Does it have to be a domain hack? Some made-up terms like modologist.net and ecodatist.com are available.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:05 PM on January 28, 2011

I'm moving. How much of my stuff should move too?
On our such last move (SF back to NYC, actually) we not only sold everything, we took our sweet time buying back anything new. Only getting things we actually wanted to keep, and questioning whether they were there out of necessity or habit, resulted in having a household full of just the stuff we want, and none of the junk.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:10 PM on January 25, 2011

Is 'she' intentionally disrespectful?
I know enough Hindi that I think I'd have been familiar with this if it were either a linguistic foible or a deliberate slight. It is, in fact, some sort of reaction to the tension between these women.

You're the boss, right? Pull her aside, and communicate with her directly:

* You are doing a fine job, but the number and frequency of your questions about your work can be frustrating for people who are used to being more self-directed. If you... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:03 PM on January 25, 2011 marked best answer

Word cloud analysis software for desktop?
IBM's Word Cloud is the most common option here, though it can be a pain to set up since it requires Java. There are also ways for Microsoft Excel to do this, as outlined in this tutorial and others.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:12 AM on January 24, 2011

Truckers Delight?
What's going on is exactly what appears to be going on.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:26 AM on January 24, 2011
I understand that prostitution is not legal, but I used to travel that highway a lot, and stopped at the truck stops near there pretty regularly. I've never frequented any of those places, but the truck drivers who did never seemed unclear about exactly what was going on there.

The people who buy those billboards are presumably relying on the thin veneer of legality that papers over a business that does involve some significant degree of illegal sex work. Just like... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:32 AM on January 24, 2011

Chemical Dependency Evaluation Strategy
The particular thing you should say is that you don't drink anymore, and it should be a true thing that you're saying.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:52 PM on January 23, 2011

traveling and maintaining weight
Another option is to just accept that you might gain a little bit if weight while traveling. Seeing the world is more than enough reward to offset being a little behind whatever workout goals you have. It's about being healthy, not a certain weight, and this trip sounds like it'll be great for your health by making you happy.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:11 AM on January 23, 2011

food trauma?
Tell her she's 'forcing' you tonparent incorrectly as she does, and that it 'makes you sick to your stomach.' Explain that you prefer to raise your kids in a way that's consistent with the adults that you hope they'll become.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:22 PM on January 19, 2011

Mefi friends, help me to decide whether to quit my job.
Find a job where they treat you with respect, then leave. In the meantime, document the hell out of the current abuse. Once you leave, if you've been able to get the boss to yell at you in a public space, put it on YouTube.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:22 AM on January 18, 2011

Light-heartenness?
Focus your serious, analytical energies on empathizing with where others are coming from. You can channel this intensity into understanding their perspectives, and in doing so you might naturally tone down your own negativity or gloominess just because you'll be more aware of the effect it has on others.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:19 AM on January 18, 2011 marked best answer

What is a site where users can post individual articles without having a blog?
You can just write something in Google Docs and set the sharing settings on that document to be publicly visible. Then people who have the URL could visit it, but no sequence or stream is implied.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:38 PM on January 17, 2011

Hate Sports, Want to Talk about Them
One good way to address this can be to find new perspectives on sports themselves; Half my social circle found football in all it's forms far more compelling after seeing the stories of Friday Night Lights. If you find a lens like that through which you can observe, it'll be far easier than forcing yourself to care about esoterica, which you'll never be able to sustain.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 7:40 PM on January 15, 2011

Good resources for learning about new and upcoming non-fiction about the internet?
Probably the easiest thing to do would be to list yourself as the "tech book reviewer" for MetaFilter itself, on a database like Cision, which PR companies use to find bloggers to pitch. Given MeFi's stature, reach, prominence and longevity, they'd probably all fall all over themselves to send you every book they publish.

The downside would be a little bit of management of noise in your inbox, but if you listed a particular email address just for that purpose,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:54 PM on January 14, 2011

Philly for the holiday weekend
Reading Market! Lots of good, cheap food options and friendly people.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 5:51 PM on January 12, 2011

Adding contacts to LinkedIn and changing jobs
Actually, LinkedIn shares a lot of data and has a whole team of scientists that regularly publish findings. You could conceivably contact them to ask this question, or if you know a developer, they might be able to use the developer tools to research this.

I asked LinkedIn on Twitter a few months ago if they would do an "amnesty day" of sorts, where people could change/update their profiles without signaling that they were changing jobs, and their official... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:45 AM on January 12, 2011 marked best answer

Small Business In-Person Credit Card Processing
Agreed: Go with Square. You can revisit other processing options once you're up and running and everything's a booming success, but in the meantime choose the least mentally-complex option since you only have two weeks to get everything else done before launch.

One minor benefit, depending on your clientele, is that Square is still novel enough that some people cone in to buy things just to try it. You can also have multiply devices (several iPads/iPhones) that you or... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:22 AM on January 12, 2011

What skills can I learn to become a better traveler
Where are you from? How were you raised, in terms of class & religion? What parts of India do you plan to travel to? Do you have any acquaintances there already?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 11:00 PM on January 5, 2011

RIP Bill Zeller
I'd first encountered Bill online years ago when he made a blog posting app, and then re-meeting him at a Princeton event last year, he'd begun by saying, "You probably don't remember..." but we immediately reconnected about the cool project he'd done back then. More amazingly, he was doing super, super brilliant work at Princeton, which I found really inspiring and was so excited to see how far this young guy had come from such promising roots.

It's a terribly... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 8:34 PM on January 5, 2011
I should mention, Bill's colleagues at CITP will likely be arranging a prize or award in his honor, to encourage others to do the sort of meaningful technology work that Bill did. I don't have any details or info yet, but I expect it will show up on that site if and when it's been arranged.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 9:13 PM on January 5, 2011

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