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I blew $20,000 by dropping out of college mid-semester. Where do I go from here?
He's doing you a favor by cutting you off. You're smart, introspective, and entrepreneurial and don't need somebody emotionally manipulating you with their money. (That's what your late 20s are for!)
Look, maybe you fucked up; I dunno. But even if so, being 20 years old is about making mistakes. If your heart is set on going back to school, go. There must be a way you can declare that you're financially independent and won't be getting supported by your family. Just be… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:15 AM on June 11, 2010
What is the best way to break bad news at work?
I know this sounds like the most ridiculous, counterintuitive advice, but I'd actually take a look at the venerable, maligned "Delivering Bad News" PowerPoint template. Though the visuals are truly horrendous and the title to each slide is laughably bad, the actual bullet points themselves as an outline of topics to cover are not bad at all.
I am not saying you should use this template. I am certainly not advocating for the use of a bad set… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 12:15 AM on May 26, 2010
The blogosphere thinks I'm ugly...
I'm not famous, but the number of people who know me online is larger than the number of people who I know, and that asymmetry means that I've been called ugly, stupid, evil, and a whole assortment of other things online over the years. (Including right here on MeFi!)
The key thing to understand is that they're not reacting to you. They are reacting to an idea that happens to share the same name as you. They don't see you as a real person, most… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:07 PM on May 20, 2010
Do I actually like the things I say I like?
I go the other way, and default to not evaluating anything based on "I like this" or "I didn't like this". Instead, to me it's much more interesting to think about the context in which it was created, what social goals it was trying to achieve, what context the work was created in, and how it earned a place in our culture.
I guess some of that stuff is boring or meta to others, but as a result, I almost never see a movie or read a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:55 PM on May 4, 2010
Do TV, radio and newspaper drive internet traffic?
I've had my blog mentioned on TV, radio & the newspaper a few times, and worked a lot with blogs that have gotten mentions all the time. If you're talking about a feature story ("In local news, an area blogger...") in any of these media, you probably won't get much traffic at all. Radio, same thing.
Newspapers can depend on 1. whether they actually link to you (just spelling out the URL won't drive traffic) and 2.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:14 AM on March 29, 2010
Should I reunite with my ex-boyfriend?
K's a douchebag and S is Mr. Right Now. Keep fooling around with S until you find somebody who is actually great, instead of being a controlling jerk. And stop evaluating partners on some preconceived list that includes whether they're going to join the Peace Corp or volunteer at a homeless shelter. Those are things a great partner might decide to join you in after you've established a respectful, nurturing, fun, lighthearted, meaningful relationship.
Which it sounds… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:19 PM on March 25, 2010
Upper West Side?
Manhattan as a whole is incredibly safe. Assuming you're moving from somewhere else in the U.S., you'll almost certainly have a significantly lower rate of violent crime in that neighborhood than wherever you're moving from.
If you're a young college student, a lot of other neighborhoods (East Village, Chelsea, anywhere downtown) might be a lot more fun/interesting. But if you're new, it'll all be exciting regardless.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:10 PM on March 25, 2010
When/where/what-like was the first NYC meetup?
MySQL and I don't get along.
I used to work with the Movable Type team, and they put a ton of work into supporting Postgres at least through the 4.x versions (not sure about the new 5.0 version). Definitely worth a look.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:13 PM on January 26, 2010
Help me pick a personalized plate for my Yugo
Think I better compose now!
So, it's worth noting that Prince himself struggled with the arrangement of the song Kiss, from the moment he wrote it (for his protege band Mazarati) to the moment he reclaimed it (as his Parade album needed a hit lead single) to the many times he's rearranged it for live performance. He's actually gone so far as to never use the same live arrangement twice on the song.
A couple of good starting points might help here. Send me… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:01 PM on January 23, 2010 marked best answer
Minor clarification: Prince never used the same arrangement for "Kiss" between tours. Obviously, he'd keep a particular arrangement for the duration of a tour. And I meant that, while Brown Mark might have specific feedback, Wendy & Lisa might have broader insights.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:07 PM on January 23, 2010
Suckadelic's Star Wars Breakbeats is surprisingly good.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:39 AM on January 15, 2010
Spam or not spam?
Remembering our friend Brad
This is heartbreaking. Brad was one of the first people to knit together the early personal web (around the time when he christened it the blogosphere) with face-to-face gatherings. He wasn't just a great friend, he helped me meet many of my best friends.
I checked with the Post-Dispatch reporter who did the piece Judith linked to, and she doesn't have any other information yet. So this thread is probably the most info we'll have for those of us who knew him primarily online.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 3:18 PM on January 4, 2010
Seconding mathowie -- I know a number of folks (me3dia, bluishorange, me) had wanted to throw a Break Bread For Brad, as Matt's kindly volunteered to sponsor. I think it makes sense to wait a few days until we know more about the circumstances, as well as any family, etc. that we might want to be in touch with, but I'm certain we'll have a remembrance for our friend at SXSW, and hopefully can use it to help one of his favorite charities as well. For now I just miss my friend and hope we can… [more]
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 3:40 PM on January 4, 2010
It took me a little while, but I wrote a bit about Brad today.
posted to MetaTalk by anildash at 9:17 AM on January 13, 2010
WHERE'S THE GREEN WHAT?
Major work life transition: What's the Big idea?
Asking for ideas is the wrong question. Ideas are cheap. I can think of half a dozen off the top of my head, which could all make lots of money if they were executed perfectly. I mean, if you want an idea, do something like MetaFilter: Be absolutely awesome at serving a particular community in a thoughtful way. Struggle for half a decade with no rewards and lots of abuse. Put up with all kinds of crap while still working your day job. Eventually, after the better part of a decade, see some… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:56 PM on January 11, 2010
Dad, please stop beating a dead horse.
Kerasia's advice is excellent. I basically used that method a few years ago at Christmas, when (despite my being happily married and succeeding in the industry I care about) my father reminded me I could still go back to school and become a doctor. The answer was easy:
"Okay, I will. If you pay for it."
Turns out he's proud of my current career.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 9:32 PM on January 6, 2010
Do Follow Blog List thats Accurate?
How do I bring HTML data into Excel?
As ever, Jeb and Kathryn nail it but I would mention one small thing in Les Halles' favor is that it's a nice fit if your folks are red staters and your dad loves steak and mom loves Anthony Bourdain, which is a not-uncommon parental trait.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:36 PM on December 30, 2009
Is it awful to say no to last-minute guests at Christmas dinner?
How do I rid myself of a bitter "fuck you" attitude I'm now feeling towards ANY future employer?
Small companies managed and owned by real humans tend to treat their employees well - that should be the environment you seek. Also, make sure you're looking in an industry that's got potential for growth; I suspect there are going to be a lot of really bitter auto maker employees who won't concede that their entire industry is in for a radical change, and instead will want to blame their (former) company, which may also be evil, but is still subject to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 6:51 PM on December 22, 2009
WorkAccidentFilter: Help me protect my mother.
She's an adult. Let her figure out a plan for solving her problem, and then she can ask you for help if she needs it. A parent's job is to take care of their kids, not the other way around (unless/until there's an agreement otherwise or circumstances render the parent unable) and frankly, a story that centers around someone not realizing that hot soup is hot indicates that the problem has almost nothing to do with the job or workplace circumstance, but tons of other larger issues.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:33 PM on December 22, 2009
Ridiculous things to do at Christmas light displays
One car has to count the lights at each house, another has to make a painting (in watercolors!) of each house's lights display, another has to take photos of themselves as judges holding up a "score" for the house's lighting display. And each has one minute per house to do it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:23 PM on December 22, 2009
Best songs from the worst albums?
How to send phone pics to a spartan web site via Flickr?
Why isn't this rational solution to global warming being discussed more in the media?
Good careers for older folks?
sharkfish, the tech industry's definitely prone to strong ageism and even stronger sexism. You've probably already got really good chops for dealing with those realities, especially since this question demonstrates you've got a knack for anticipating what troubles might arise in the future.
That being said, the best strategy long-term may be to become a world-class expert in a specialized area. For example, C# and C++ development for most applications have become… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 12:17 AM on December 20, 2009
Help us find some musical compromise
The-Dream's two albums are excellent, with his "Love Hate" being my favorite record of 2009. Kayne West's 808s & Heartbreak is obviously both enormously commercially successful and a serious artistic work that won't get you sneered at by judgmental indie kids. Beyonce's record is actually really strong, especially the uptempo "Sasha Fierce" part.
And yes, don't be afraid to go to classics that underpin and influence both contemporary pop and a lot… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 1:51 PM on December 17, 2009 marked best answer
And maniactown, "If she's like some people I know who 'like' radio R&B, they like that they can sing along and understand the words. They don't care enough to realize it's lowest common denominator trash." Really? You think people who like popular music are just dumb or uncaring? Let me guess, you don't think the classic Motown singles are lowest common denominator trash, right? Or Stax Volt? I suspect, like a lot of snobs, you'll say in 30 years that you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:00 PM on December 17, 2009
dickass: Fair enough on the MJ -- hadn't quite realized you're in the UK. Here in the States, MJ has been completely off radar for more than a decade until his passing, so it's not nearly so bad. In his stead, I might suggest more Stevie Wonder. And for contemporary pop, I'd also chase down things produced by Stargate, and the Ne-Yo suggestion above is excellent. Mary J. Blige is also very popular as a leading light of R&B, and while her records can be uneven, her best work is almost… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 2:51 PM on December 17, 2009
Help me deal with my parents and their ass-eating dog.
Print out this question (minus the answers). Present it to them upon arrival, saying "my inclination was to just avoid this whole stressful situation, but you both really wanted me here, and we're all adults, so how are you going to resolve this problem? If you don't work with me to fix these issues, I'm not coming home next Christmas." Then, listen. Really listen to what they say, and try to work with them. If they refuse to solve the problem, remind them that… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 3:51 PM on December 16, 2009
Well then what's the sex for?
cultures in transition, over time
It doesn't make much sense, and will have to evolve pretty significantly until it has any use. Just because it says "Google" in the name doesn't mean it's going to be of any use, and the idea that people are going to foist it upon students or coworkers just because it's novel seems insane to me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 10:41 PM on December 5, 2009
Help me roast a friend.
1. Turning 30
2. Being bald
4. Being in a long relationship and unable to commit to marriage.
Hmm, given constraints numbers 1 through 4:
"It's really very moving to be here today to celebrate the fact that one third of [friend]'s life is over. The best third. But of course, you have it good... there are a lot of people who, when confronted with that fact, would tear their hair out. And… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 12:39 AM on December 4, 2009
Christmas gifts for under $20 dollah
By far the best gadget I got this year was, of all things, a knife sharpener. It's magical! Only ten bucks and super satisfying to use.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 12:36 AM on December 2, 2009
Stellar Concert Performances on DVD
the government is hir^H^H^Hprocuring web designers — that is all
fixedgear, the basic idea is that policy makers would ask a broader array of experts (scientists, academics, ordinary citizens) for their input into policy instead of just the usual bunch of lobbyists and insiders, if they had the right tech to do so. So, we're working at Expert Labs to see if we can provide them with those tools. We'll do that by working sort of as a tech incubator (for the geeks in the crowd, think "GCombinator") and by advocating the tools across the various… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 5:31 PM on November 19, 2009
I'm a bit slammed, so I'm just gonna answer @justkevin's questions here, because I think they get to the heart of the issue:
1) What are some examples of the kinds of questions that a policy maker might ask of Expert Labs?
We'll solicit questions specifically from the policy makers, using a process I'm working on right now, but let's throw out a few straw men as useful examples:
* "The First Lady has made childhood nutrition a… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 4:50 PM on November 20, 2009
Deathalicious, your point is well taken. But there's kind of an infinite number of problems to solve, and I'm deliberately scoping out stuff that's, well, not a problem of government. However, fortunately, there's no shortage of problems that are handled by government, and those are the ones I think we can assist with.
I find lots of people have objections to this project that fall into a few categories:
* I don't think government can… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by anildash at 10:47 AM on November 23, 2009
Make me a comprehensive rap music mixtape, 1986 to 2009.
I guess an important part of the question here is: Do you want to be academically correct, or do you want her to come out of this loving hip hop like a true fan? Because I'd eschew chronological purity in a nanosecond to double-up on some Lauryn Hill tracks, a lot of Pete Rock/C.L. Smooth "T.R.O.Y.", a healthy heap of Method Man & Mary J. Blige on "You're All I Need". Because those songs are both enormously popular and credible as hip hop, and they're… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 8:59 PM on November 10, 2009
The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of a Fun Size Kit-Kat.
Americans: Was your town a [rumored] Cold War missile target?
Great question. We were number two in suburban/rural Pennsylvania because of our proximity to the Army's Fort Indiantown Gap. After moving to NYC and being here for 9/11, it became very, very obvious that rural/suburban Pennsylvania was not on anybody's list of targets.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by anildash at 4:48 PM on October 27, 2009