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"As a relatively young married person (6 years, age 27), I find this discussion quite interesting.
I find especially interesting the progression noted by bradth27.
Part of it is, of course, the problem of self-advertising. Myself, I never have..." [
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11 hours ago
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How does one write a game, anyway?
favorited 10 times, recently by Xany, DulcineaX, adamdschneider, Lord Widebottom, voltairemodern, deadcowdan, Arasithil, transona5, Jacqueline, happyturtle
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"I'm about a hair's width into being aspergers from the high-functioning autism end of the spectrum. I'm as aspergers as they come.
My husband and I are happily married, though. Our relationship has its challenges, sure. I suck at being empathetic,..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by gtaylor, yohko, gjc, elisynn
Last month
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"I have an anxiety disorder (PTSD) and fairly extreme aspergers (the actual diagnosis was high-functioning autism).
He doesn't sound all that aspie to me, personally. Anxious, yes; slightly obsessive, yes.
Admittedly, most people wouldn't pick..." [
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2 months ago
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"Something happens to me every so often.
I get stressed.
When I get to a certain level of stressed, my ability to tolerate other people drastically decreases. I simply cannot deal with people in my space - up to and including my husband who I..." [
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2 months ago
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"I have been obese. So obese I couldn't walk for more than a minute or two at a time, because after that the joint pain was so bad I couldn't stand.
That was in 2002. I weighed 95kgs, on a 160cm frame. Nothing compared to some, I know, but it was..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by BrotherCaine, Forktine, melissam, russilwvong
2 months ago
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"Well, at least I now know of a place that probably serves decent espresso in the US." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by rusty
2 months ago
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"Personally, as an introvert who isn't shy, I couldn't cope with a roommate. I have enough problems living with my husband, and I really really really like him a lot.
I shared a room with my brother for two years, and it was hell on earth.
Me,..." [
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3 months ago
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"Personally, I can't contemplate sex without two methods of contraception - condom and the ring, currently. I've done statistics up to the late undergraduate level, so I'm pretty familiar with the maths and what it means in real terms.
Just condoms?..." [
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3 months ago
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"I have PTSD, with anxiety and depression.
What I need, sometimes, is space. Space to just process all this fallout, from all the shit that hit my head.
What I need, sometimes, is to be around lots of people - so I can put aside my worries for..." [
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4 months ago
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"Ah, the joys of being male.
Now, if I was a guy, I would never get "Oh, I'm sorry! I forgot you were a woman for a bit there" after I'd made an insightful comment about my field of expertise.
I've had a lot of the bad stuff happen to..." [
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4 months ago
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"I am worrywart. I am a control freak about my self and my environment. I preplan everything, with backup plans galore. I analyse my actions and those of others as they affect me to try and predict what will happen and prepare for it.
In short, I..." [
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4 months ago
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""I'm a free and open source software advocate. I run conferences in my spare time. And write software for a living."
"Can you fix my computer?/Help me buy a computer?/Teach me how to use (Word|Excel|Outlook)?"
"Probably not...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by BrotherCaine
5 months ago
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"On tenure - I have a vague idea of what that probably is, from reading some autobiographical comments asimov made during forwards for short stories in various collections. He references 'getting tenure' at a university somewhere - I presume,..." [
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5 months ago
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Spice up my risotto!
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5 months ago
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"If it's not a meaningless hookup, then well, I have an 'until I'm comfortable' policy. With my husband, that was marriage (largely due to availability of private bedspace). Were I still in the dating game - I can see some guys who I'd be comfortable..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Laura_J
5 months ago
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"As an intelligent, geeky, lives-in-her-own-head girl, I'd have to say ... being a wallflower (so to speak) doesn't really hurt that much.
A while back (7 years) I went to a computer meetup, back in the day. From that meetup, I have so far..." [
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5 months ago
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So, I want to be a gymnast
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5 months ago
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"Personally, I chose the get-married-young route (at age 20).
I don't feel as if I'm wasting my youth - but that's a choice I made, in full awareness as an adult, that I need that sort of closeness in my life. I also have a partner who understands..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by sondrialiac
6 months ago
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"I have been to the sing-and-dance church services.
It scared the living hell out of me - these people were willingly abrogating sense of self - participating in a mob hysteria that was occasionally directed against the enemies of the faith.
I,..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Doohickie, agregoli
6 months ago
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"LIke that time a bunch of level 2 characters killed 40 orcs in a single round with a bottle of greek fire oil, a web spell, and a flare arrow ....
... like that time one of the characters didn't speak to the rest of the party for the first two..." [
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favorited 3 times, recently by wires, adamsc, twins named Lugubrious and Salubrious
6 months ago
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"I have one of these people in my life. She's a (terrotorial, possesive, jealous) gf of a good male friend of mine. She glares and makes snide comments about anyone who dares get close, and then proceeds to deny that she did any such thing.
I gave..." [
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6 months ago
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Doing a bit on the side ...
favorited 10 times, recently by hooray, stereo, jacalata, JohnYaYa, bpt, funkiwan, Elmo Oxygen, chrismear, GregWithLime, cdmwebs
7 months ago
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"You know, maybe this is just me ... but if I was your girlfriend, I would be amazingly angry at you right now, for daring to judge what I do with my body in my time.
You were potentially-more-than-friends, yes: but only in potential. If nothing..." [
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favorited 5 times, recently by KAS, manish, Ladysin, Lentrohamsanin, winna
7 months ago
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"Reading the workbook for marrieds ... what the hell?
I'm especially liking day 20: If you stood in front of your spouse naked, what thoughts would go through your mind?
... is being naked with your spouse around supposed to be unusual? I'm..." [
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7 months ago
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"I am not a diabetic; however, I was a carer for a Type II for a couple years, and one of my very good friends is a Type I. Additionally, whilst diabeties of either type isn't in my family tree, I am incredibly sensitive to sugar levels, to the point..." [
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7 months ago
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"I met my now-husband when I was 18 and he was 17. One year after we started dating, we announced our engagement, and married at the end of that year. We just celebrated our 6-year anniversary last month.
I can safely say that the only thing I've..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Rock Steady
8 months ago
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"I've been seriously depressed, spent over half my life that way, as a point of fact.
When my relationship with my now-husband was new, he tried to cheer me up, by telling me jokes, telling me how good stuff was ... bascially what you described..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by divabat
10 months ago
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"I was a depressed spouse. Before that, I was a depressed girlfriend. We're talking major-league depression here - the kind your wife seems to be at now, possibly worse.
I had been that way since childhood (about age 10). There were several factors,..." [
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10 months ago
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"Cheese platter, with the appropriate fruits and nuts, with a variety of crackers." [
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10 months ago
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"This is something I've had to argue with my in-laws. Yes, I am, in fact, a Christain. Yes, I have read the Bible. No, I don't worship Mary. No, rolling in the aisles frothing at the mouth is not theologically sound, according to your Bible. No, I..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Jahaza, brain cloud
10 months ago
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"I live in a city, that for most of the last couple of decades, has been right up there with population growth - close to the highest in the world.
I remember a drought that was pretty bad - lasted 5 years - when I was younger, and the population..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Dillonlikescookies
10 months ago
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"I'm going to jump in here, because I have been in a similar situation.
I discovered, one day, a few months after I started dating my then-bf that he'd been talking pretty much daily to his ex. I didn't particularly like this person, because she..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by melissam, soviet sleepover
10 months ago
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"I am not a clumsy person. I do, however, have a low pain threshold, and I'm very pain-avoidant as a result.
After a while, I flinch from people I know are clumsy when they come close. I have removed people from the I-want-to-date-them list because..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by philosophistry, Queen of Spreadable Fats
10 months ago
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"On talking about feelings - consider keeping a diary, or a (private) blog. Practice trying to articulate how you feel, and why, about what, with no audience but yourself. Once you can write stuff down about how you feel, and think you can represent..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Asherah, Optimus Chyme
11 months ago
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"Okay.
First of all, if you'd found some really naughty stuff on my computer when we were only dating a couple weeks, and you objected, the next thing to happen would be me dumping you. Because you can't be trusted to keep your nose out of my biz...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by blueberry
11 months ago
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"I know a lot of people like you.
Fresh out of undergrad, convinced that they're great designers, and that their bad programming is just well .. y'know ... bad luck.
Sitting from my oh-so-lofty viewpoint of a few years in the trenches ... you..." [
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favorited 4 times, recently by metabrilliant, smackfu, minedev, null terminated
11 months ago
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"I've been characterized as the aggressive type. Except when I'm clingy. My social skills are .. not fantastic.
That said - tit-for-tat is a kid's game. I probably would have gone to the host and said "Dude, that bloke over there spilled his..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Locative
11 months ago
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"Wait - you say you've felt 'omg i need you' for your exes (who are, well, ex) and not for your current?
Interesting. One could conclude that the 'omg need you' feeling is perhaps a bad indication of how a relationships will work out.
Anyway...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Deathalicious
11 months ago
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"zenpop:
I no longer believe in "working" at relationships. I can't believe how many friends I have who, shortly after meeting someone new, are in therapy several months later "working on the relationship." I think when you meet..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by iguanapolitico
11 months ago
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"I live in Australia.
Here, you can get a good education through the teritary level for free, or at least for free-right-now. Of course, you do have to pay back the gov'mint for the teritary education; but that's an extra tax percentage, scaled to..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Thorzdad
11 months ago
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"As someone who was diagnosed with what is now known as aspergers' ... the article rings quite true.
As a child, I was described as 'tactless'. I told it like I saw it. As an adult, the one overriding characteristic of my relationships is an..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by Prospero
Last year
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"Brisbanite here. Personally, I'd say 'wrong number'. God knows it's happened to me more than once, that i've gotten a racy sms from out of the blue from an unknown number. My usual response is 'blah, idiot'. They have, in fact, coincided with me..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by nooneyouknow
Last year
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"From the point of view of a foreigner ....
I would hate to live in the US. So many things I take for granted - (mostly) free healthcare, a decent work week (40ish hours), decent compensation for the work I do, superannuation, support for tertiary..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by umop-apisdn
Last year
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"I know I’m not happy, but I’m trying to figure out if it’s just the way things wane after 5 years and if it’s possible for me to be happy again.
Relationships wax and wane - some studies say that you only really get to the hard part of the..." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by crabintheocean
Last year
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"I used to be much the same. In my case it was simply an indication of my stress levels - in some ways, the level of my startle response is still a pretty good indicator of how stressed I am...." [
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favorited 1 time, recently by taff
Last year
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"Eh.
I'm a geek, I married a geek, and I hang around geeks.
I also work in the computer industry; yes, there are times when I will spend every waking moment on a project for a couple of weeks. And no, I won't respond to IM or similar, except if..." [
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favorited 2 times, recently by Sandor Clegane, missmagenta
Last year
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"Clean, small, round stones.
Personally, I use these for chilling single-malt scotch; but the principle is much the same.
Basically, you take some smooth pebbles, clean them thoroughly, and put them in your freezer. When you wish a nondiulte..." [
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