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I don't wish to work for a newspaper. Yes, I am aware that editing is not glamorous or exciting. No, I am not going to showcase writing skills on AskMefi, this is neither a cover letter, nor a job, and your need to "correct" a casual internet post is sad to say the least. Do you rally not get enough attention at home? I never said I was opposed to taking a class, but for myself, the decision not to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 8:52 AM on May 17, 2008

This gives an overview.

in a backyard
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 11:48 AM on May 16, 2008

Mr. Moon Pie:

I've also put those things in mine (everything except meat and dairy) and it really does make a difference in the smell and attraction to pests (per oneirodynia's response) I think that part just goes to personal preference.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 5:36 PM on May 16, 2008

In addition to the above, (as a hairdresser and someone who swims in chlorinated/saltwater pools at times) Always wet your hair and put conditioner in before swimming. This prevents the chlorine/saltwater from doing as much damage to your hair. Thoroughly rinse after swimming and shampoo + condition as normal.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 7:39 PM on May 7, 2008

Yes, you are shallow.

Yes, you should break it off, but don't mention her body, it's YOUR problem, don't make it hers. She doesn't need to develop a body-image complex, just because you have an idea of how women are supposed to look.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:26 PM on May 4, 2008

I used to have the same problem. The past couple of years now (I'm 28) I've begun to really appreciate having women friendships, and been able to put aside the (forgive the term) "competetion" that used to occur. I used to (honestly) believe that most women were just catty, bitchy, not really worth being friends with. After thinking long and hard about why I would think that (being a feminist, and all) I discovered that there was a shameful layer of jealousy, and that I really liked... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 4:17 PM on May 3, 2008

The best way is to join a club or group involving something you are deeply interested in that has meetings every so often. Such as a book club, knitting group, trivia club, etc. Then you will meet motivated, interesting, (hopefully) intelligent people.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:17 PM on May 2, 2008

I have had allergy shots before, and they really didn't provide significant relief at all. ( I got them every week over the course of a year--no real improvement). My problems with nasal spray are not only the panic attacks (some cause them, but some do not) but, rather, the sever sinus infections that always occur after using them (even when I only use them the minimally recommended amount)

For some reason, my body has an averse reaction to Benadryl... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 10:19 AM on May 2, 2008

I would always appreciate something like a massage (gift certificate for one) or other spa service accompanied by a thank you note.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:37 PM on April 24, 2008

I took Suzuki violin lessons during my childhood, and it was great! I can't recommend it enough. There are also piano, viola, cello, and guitar lessons via Suzuki method. Piano and violin are both "gateway" instruments, the fundamentals of each help when playing most other instruments.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 6:20 PM on April 23, 2008

I've only recently met with a trainer at a personal training studio, rather than a conglomerate staff trainer (Gold's, 24 Hour Fitness, etc.) and the difference is substantial. The trainer at the studio took measurements, weighed me, talked about my daily routine, past fitness levels, goals, diet, and didn't pressure me to do anything. He helped to set up an initial routine for me to follow at the gym and he basically left it up to me to do the work and on how often I would... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 11:51 AM on April 15, 2008

I'm originally from Arkansas, and know that Buffalo National Park is a destination for many hikers, canoers, and spelunkers. It's a great spot (inexpensive too!)
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:32 PM on April 14, 2008

Not asking in an insulting way, but how old are you guys? This sounds like a high school or college romance, so I'm just wondering.

My advice:

There are billions and billions of people in the world, other than these two girls. Take what you've learned, (which should be that honesty and trust is vital to having a good relationship, and if you are young, you will most likely experiment with quite a few people/types of... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:14 PM on April 11, 2008

Ruby, the rice bowls are to die for, coffee at Solstice never goes out of style, nthing Aladdins, don't go to Cedar's, (the owners keep all the tips, but still make the workers work for below minimum wage and fire them if they talk about it) Mama Mellina's is delicious for a splurge for great italian.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:17 PM on April 10, 2008

folara:

Actually I got my information from three people who used to work there. Two of them knew each other, but the one didn't know either, and I don't see how they could have "conspired" to all come up with the same story. And yes, there are laws, that doesn't mean that some business owners don't break them.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 8:26 AM on April 11, 2008

And I will concede that they may pay minimum wage now, but they certainly did not as recently as four years ago when these people first told me this.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:31 AM on April 11, 2008

As an ex-hairdresser, I will tell you that bringing a photo of the style that you want is the best way to get the results that you are after. In addition, explaining (as you did to us) your "hair concerns" should help her/him to give you the best cut you can get. ("bad" cuts are often the result of miscommunication between client and stylist, photos just help everyone to stay on the same page)
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 2:49 PM on April 10, 2008

Her parents are trying to make sure that she doesn't need money, the real problem is that she kind of lives in this fantasy world, where everything has always been taken care of for her because her parents felt that she couldn't do things herself and now she's proven that she can do things if forced to. Neither one of us would have a problem with that if it weren't for the fact that we are inheriting that dependency. We love her and will help her as much as possible, but we want her to take the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:40 AM on April 10, 2008

She does want to take care of herself and she does try. She is constantly applying for positions, and doing interviews. Everyone is VERY interested until after the interview. We all believe it is due to her misunderstanding of social mores, because her skills are top notch. In interviewing for any position--be it academic or otherwise--the interview has always been the killer.

Ostara: She isn't... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 11:54 AM on April 10, 2008

If I had $100:

*Get a massage

*Get a facial

*go with a companion for a nice dinner

*donate it to charity

*save it for a rainy day
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:23 PM on April 9, 2008

I am pretty sure (this was true a few years ago, and may have changed now) that, to be frozen, an egg must be fertilized. So it couldn't just be your own egg, you would have to find a sperm donor also. This article discusses IVF in general, and egg freezing/sperm freezing in particular.

I participated in egg donation, and feel that the donor's health is not always considered first (as opposed to the number of eggs, etc.) although that may differ from agency to agency.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:52 PM on April 8, 2008

I would only add to that to use some triple antibiotic ointments on your current wounds to speed the recovery process.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 8:42 PM on April 7, 2008

Ground Kontrol is a must.

You may be able to find some duds at Buffalo Exchange, which is close to the smaller Powell's location.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 5:07 PM on April 7, 2008

Depending on your taste also, but The Portland Mercury is a good source for goings-on about town.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 5:53 PM on April 7, 2008

There are lots of things like that on Etsy.com
Most are much more affordable (and some one -of-a-kind!) all are handmade.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 2:04 PM on April 7, 2008

nthing bonheur. I used to live in all three, and would consider them the best options if you have to live in Chicago.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 8:59 AM on April 7, 2008

Also, anywhere on the Red Line, you will have to deal with traffic from Wrigley Field (in walking, driving, and overcrowded Red Line trains) It is definitely to be avoided if possible.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:04 AM on April 7, 2008

You could always post an Alchemy request at etsy.com. You post a description, a photo, and the price you are willing to pay, then sellers "bid" on your listing. You then send your fiance's measurements, the kind of fabric, other info the seller asks for, and presto! A custom design is yours for a fraction of designer-prices!
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 4:03 PM on April 6, 2008

In a living situation, go with your gut. "Sucking it up" is just going to drive to breaking the lease, passive aggressive (or aggressive) behavior, and make you miserable. Your home should be comfortable for you, not a place to avoid. Have the conversation about why you feel it's a bad idea/you're not comfortable with it, and if everyone makes a ruckus, then go from there.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:48 PM on April 5, 2008

Seattle is incredibly expensive, not only real estate, but food, gas, (sales tax is 9%) and childcare is insane. The traffic is crazy, and the market for freelancing is pretty competitive unless you have some serious contacts. Plus making friends here is not easy, everyone is pretty insular. I would suggest that the Bay area might be better, since things are just getting more and more crowded here.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:34 PM on April 5, 2008

I also like (natural) latex mattresses, and a (natural) wool topper helps to even your body's temperature at night by drawing some of the heat away from you.

A lot of hotels sell lines of their linen/mattresses, etc.

And some high-end linen brands have "hotel" lines that you can find at places like Bed, Bath & Beyond. I would say keep the thread count above 600 and you're good.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 5:38 PM on April 4, 2008

The Spring 2008 issue of Martha Stewart Weddings (I know, I know, sounds so prissy, but she is organized) has some tear-outs called "Wedding Workbook" with worksheets on budget + a "schedule" for when to get certain tasks done. It looks very helpful.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 5:19 PM on April 4, 2008

As a girl, any guy that tried this on me would get a cold reception. You left her for someone else, it didn't work out, so now you want another chance? That more than a little insulting to "June". If it were me, the trust would simply not be there. You should really ask yourself, "Would this happen again, should another hot girl come on to me?" The answer is probably "yes".
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:11 AM on April 4, 2008

Also, if you felt that "something could have developed" why did you go for someone else in the first place?
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:12 AM on April 4, 2008

My suggestion would be to have her go out drinking with you and then (after you both have a few cocktails) confess to her that you still have feelings for her.

Are you kidding?

Please don't get the girl drunk, and then prey on her emotions. That's fucked up.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 2:04 PM on April 4, 2008

IANAD but, I have had similar things happen to me, usually waking up directly from a period of "deep sleep". You were possibly still dreaming, not hallucinating. I wouldn't worry unless it starts happening during "full-alertness" hours.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:32 AM on April 4, 2008

Domino Mag is great source.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:29 AM on April 4, 2008

Yes, NOVA went bankrupt while two of my friends were there under them, but they found other jobs really quickly. There are a lot of temporary language places, but I (unfortunately) can't remember the name of them. You can contact the Japanese Consul in the United States, they usually have some idea of how to go about teaching ESL in Japan.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:27 AM on April 4, 2008

O"Hare is one of the worst airports to fly in/out of and also get in/out of. I would say that getting to the first pitch is not possible, (it would barely be possible even without the stopover at the hotel) and that if your flight gets in on time, you will be luckier than most. Next time go through Midway.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:19 AM on April 4, 2008

Tron, Watcher in the Woods, and Princess Bride are all movies I still enjoy watching.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:31 PM on April 3, 2008

I think that although many women do have children over the age of forty, it is not necessarily a "safe" thing. Even having a child in your thirties comes with a lot of risks that aren't there in your twenties.

A lot of celebrities having children as they age, are doing so with the use of egg donors.

You also have to think about the future of the child. Having to deal with issues, such as nursing homes, parental health problems, etc. at... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:50 PM on April 3, 2008

Nthing Sephora.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 4:30 PM on April 2, 2008

I would say "woo" her the same way you would woo any woman, by being sweet, considerate, and thoughtful. Going out of your way to learn french just for her, could be construed as either thoughtful or creepy, depending on the woman.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:53 PM on April 2, 2008

nthing the Children's Museum. Also Soundbridge

And GoCityKids gives many, many more party-place ideas.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 12:51 PM on April 2, 2008

nthing charlesv

in addition: washing all cabinets, baseboards

touch-up painting

cleaning blinds, curtains, drapery

re-potting plants

cleaning light fixtures/ceiling fans

Having duvets cleaned

nthing getting rid of things. I make a big pile, decide what can be donated, what can be recycled/composted, and what has to be... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:52 PM on April 1, 2008

All four times were deep tissue. The two that hurt afterward, I noticed that I was tensing up b/c some of the manipulations were painful. I thought they were supposed to be since it was "deep". The two that didn't, also incorporated hot stones, so maybe that is a key as well.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 1:07 PM on April 1, 2008

Martha Stewart has a book about caring for everything in your home. Some tips in that vein may be useful.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 9:25 PM on March 31, 2008

I've been the new girlfriend in this situation, and there is no way I would trust my bf (or any guy) hanging out with his ex, ESPECIALLY if he had been having sex with her post-relationship. Immediate deal-breaker. Would you be okay if some girl you started dating had a "best" guy-friend, that happened to be a (serious) ex, and that she had sex with after breaking up, but still wanted to hang out with? Realistically, probably not. Most people say they would be fine with this until... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:52 PM on March 31, 2008

Capitol Hill is a 15-minute bus ride from UW, but more expensive than the U-District. In the U-District, I would say something around the Ravenna area, or north of 50th. Wedgewood is close, so is Roosevelt neighborhood (which is near Whole Foods) also Wallingford, U-Village, Maple Leaf, Eastlake--all within biking/walking distance or a very short bus ride. Stay away from University Avenue and 17th (frat boy parties are VERY loud and annoying). Good Luck!

Craigslist.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 3:46 PM on March 31, 2008

I would only react this hugely if it were true, in which case you might have something to worry about (with the boyfriend at least). No one else will care. If you two are making such a big deal of it (calling each other, looking upset, her being tearful, or alternately completely avoiding one another) it will only fuel the vicious rumor mill. I would relax and only speak about it if confronted.
posted to Ask Metafilter by nikksioux at 10:13 AM on March 31, 2008