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"My mother used to shout "Bad Word" or "Bamhamit". I'm not a heavy curser and generally stuck with "bad word" or "Oh shhhhh-heck" at home. (The few exceptions generally involved a recalcitrant printer and even..." [
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"As an alternative to herbal remedies, I strongly recommend this book: Overcome Jet Lag. It uses a set of known cues to reset your body clock (diet,exercise, sleep/wake, light/dark) I can't remember if it includes the use of melatonin but taking..." [
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4 days ago
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"There is actual scientific research that the following exercise will make you feel better if you do it every night before bed for at least a month. It is very simple:
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9 days ago
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11 days ago
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"I'm guessing most couples don't work it out in a formal x times a week way. The more important conversation to have is what sex means to each of you, what you would like from other (like, not demand) and a willingness to explore some compromises...." [
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12 days ago
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"It takes courage, but you need to talk to her about it. k8t gave you one script. Another alternative is to start with how much you like her and the physical stuff is different than other relationships but instead of asking if she is comfortable doing..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"What helps me the FlyLady's mantra - "You can do anything for 15 minutes". Set a timer (don't just look at the clock - really set a timer - it helps) and then just do it, reminding yourself that even if it is boring, you can do anything for..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"If you want to stay together (and it sounds like both of you do, at the moment). You need to set down with her and tell her that you finally understand that it is important to the health of your relationship that she has more space and you would like..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"I'm curious about how she handles your other over-night trips. If she hadn't told you during the birthday fight that they caused "instability", would you have known? In other words, does she always freak out when you leave overnight or does..." [
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3 weeks ago
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"In addiiton to the positive, supportive things mentioned above, make it clear that you did not break-up with her because of (or solely because of) her behavior after the rape. You could also thank her for letting you know since it will help you..." [
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4 weeks ago
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"Yes, write the letter. His mother will appreciate knowing how much her son touched your life.
You might also want to find out where (if) he is buried. For me, at least, when I visit the gravesite, I can talk to the person in a way that I can't..." [
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4 weeks ago
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"2nding Barbara Sher - particularly her book "I Could Do Anything If Only I knew what it was"
One thing I learned from her was to figure out what gave you joy and then find a way to bring more of it in your life - it doesn't have to be..." [
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4 weeks ago
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"On my resume, I just put the years of employment. 2006-2008 implies you already left the job while 2006-present says you are still working there. The only downside is if you left a job in the same calendar year that you started. However, if it was an..." [
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Last month
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"At some point, your friend might want to talk to her father about how he can make these deaths mean something. Maybe something that could prevent other accidents in the future? Maybe a volunteer activity that demostrates respect for sacredness of..." [
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"you might find it satisfying to keep a reading journal. at the end of the day, spend a few minutes writing reflectively on what you read that day. Not plots or facts or details but how you responded to reading and anything that struck as you..." [
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2 months ago
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"The best resource that I can recommend to how to find the answers and then make it happen is Barbara Sher's Wishcraft." [
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2 months ago
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"She is going to be very confused by the idea of death. You need to be clear that being dead means that Ga-Ga will not come back to visit, she can't call her on the phone etc. She will forget and ask when she will see Ga-Ga. My niece was four when..." [
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2 months ago
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"First, you need to really pay attention to the food issue between you and your fiancee. Hopefully the two of you will be sharing meals for a long time - you should talk with him about how to find a workable solution (before you get married). he may..." [
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2 months ago
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"Reading your posts, it strikes me how much you put yourself down. (I know one person who calls it the stinkin' thinkin' that goes with depression.) Since you are able to give new things a try for a while, I suggest that you buy a copy of Feel Good by..." [
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2 months ago
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"Believe it or not. lots of people graduate from Harvard and fail to the "bright future" predicted for them when they got admitted. (Harvard, in particular, only admits people with star potential.) Generally the best way to be successful is..." [
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2 months ago
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"Look up "dysthymia". Wikipedia says it is less serious than major depression but I think that that perspective is changing - it is not as debilitating as major depression but it can be just as hard or harder to treat. It is a real mental..." [
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2 months ago
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"Frankly, you should be aiming to change the world, or at least your little corner of it.
There will be many things that you will want to do in your life. You can't possibly do all of them at the same time but, G-d willing, you will live long..." [
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2 months ago
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"Frankly, it doesn't look to me like you are prepared to be a classroom teacher yet.
There is a big difference between working one day a week with relatively motivated students and running a classroom day after day, five classes a day, including..." [
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2 months ago
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"I definitely agree with the sentiments that it's my supervisor's job to come up with a system. I intend to use all the recommendations here to establish a time-tracking system to prove myself - and show my supervisor how badly this office needs a..." [
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2 months ago
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"The classic gift in our family for the first birthday is a set of mixing bowls and wooden or plastic spoons. They start out being noisemakers but then lead into pretend cooking and eventually into real cooking. Just put the child's name on them in..." [
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2 months ago
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"One more thought. (I have two kids, one is bright and talented (a writer), the other is extraordinarily gifted in math - probably in the top 15-20 math students in the United States his age. This is a subject close to my heart).
My preference was..." [
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2 months ago
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"I've been on the mom side of this one. It sounds like you have been a major focus of her life and she hasn't found any, at least enough, new priorities to fill the vacuum created by your becoming an adult.
1. You can suggest new interests or seeing..." [
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3 months ago
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"The girl in your class has made it very clear that her bf comes first. She does things that if you did them would mean that your relationship had a chance but she has told you many, many times in words and in her actions that these things do not mean..." [
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3 months ago
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"Personally I have learned alot from the FlyLady.
It sound like you have a couple of challenges:
1. Declutter your room. It is much easier to keep things clean when there is less stuff. Especially getting the flat surfaces clear help make the room..." [
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4 months ago
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"the inability to remember to take the time to make things kind of straight, clean, and organized has really affected my life.
My mind is nothing like yours but this one part struck a bell. One thing that can really help this is to set up routines -..." [
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4 months ago
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"I can't comment on the night terrors but when my son was that age he had a little stuffed bear who had a major biting problem. He would put the stuffed bear up to my arm and say "bite, bite, bite". When this happened, I helped my son give..." [
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4 months ago
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"I can't believe no one else has said this - Don't just run away - GET INTO THERAPY!! You need to understand why you can't let go of a relationship which is so obviously not working. It might be simple to say that it has to do with your father but you..." [
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4 months ago
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"What you should say is simply "I'm sorry for your loss"
If he is having a hard time, he might want to call a pet loss hotline to be able to talk with someone who understands what he going through. I think the major vet schools all host one..." [
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4 months ago
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"The problem is that most people are never taught the basics of how to listen and how to sing. I thought I was tone deaf until a musician friend had me sing a note - any note that felt comfortable to my voice. Then she matched it so I could hear what..." [
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5 months ago
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"You might want to try doing a little cognitive therapy on yourself. You say "just seeing my ex's name makes me sick to my stomach" Sit down with a piece of paper and write down all the negative thoughts that go through your head as you..." [
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5 months ago
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"Reading your posting, I couldn't help thinking of the siblings from Ender's Game - maybe he will grow up like Peter to be Hegemon and save the world from falling into polical chaos :)
Are you familiar with John Hopkins Center for Talent Youth? He..." [
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5 months ago
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"ooops - posted too fast. It is called Who Cares What You're Supposed to Do? Breaking the Rules to Get What You Want.
I would also suggest doing work on your low self-esteem and other issues and your relationships improve. People tend to end up..." [
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6 months ago
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"I'm guessing that your husband doesn't understand that your sister is not just a rude slacker, her behavior is shaped by an true illness. As red lotus said, your sister still has the responsiblity for giving in to the illness or trying to get better..." [
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6 months ago
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"Do you know what kind of job you are aiming for in the long run (in other words, once you get your masters)? There are a lot of different degrees within psychology - it will make your life easier if your degree is the right one for the career that..." [
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6 months ago
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"I say that you come from a highly disfunctional alcoholic family and the boy that you fall head over heels for and can't forget has been an alcoholic since he was 12. Often the way a child learns to cope with being in a dysfunctional family keeps..." [
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7 months ago
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"I'm a big fan of the Flylady (www.flylady.org).
This is my variation
1. Pick a room to start in.
2. Pick a closet, bookshelf or dresser to start.
3. Get a trash bag, a box or bag labelled "give away or sell" and a laundry basket for..." [
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7 months ago
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"As the mother, when I was breastfeeding my babies, the rule was that I would feed and change them in the middle of the night but if they did not immediately go back to sleep, they became Daddy's problem.
When I first went back to work, my husband..." [
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8 months ago
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"So,
- you can't control your drinking once you start to binge
- you've tried to cut down on your drinking and failed
- your friends are seriously concerned about your drinking
- you know that your drinking has caused problems in your life but you..." [
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8 months ago
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"Pool toys that they could use at your house? Maybe including some great squirt guns?" [
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8 months ago
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"Day of the wedding - put someone in charge of taking care of the presents that people will bring to reception. They may need a minivan or stationwagon. They should also have some scotch tape available to make sure that the cards stay with their gifts...." [
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8 months ago
