Thank you both. For the record, it's been over 10k miles since my last professional oil change, but that's longer than I mean to usually go. It was rather an accident, as I forgot how far away Cedar Point was :)
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 1:36 PM on September 6, 2008

They're all the best answer. And yeah, Mom was with Hospice of the Western Reserve. Thanks.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:44 AM on August 21, 2008

Could you perhaps have mild amblyopia? I had it and as a child when I was drowsy and not concentrating one of my eyes would "wander out" slightly, but it wouldn't really be noticeable except to a medical professional or my parents, trained for what to look for. I sometimes experienced double vision as that happened.

If this is what your doctor saw, it would have nothing to do with the broken nose, from my understanding. It might just be that he never had a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:42 PM on March 31, 2008

*than. blah
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:42 PM on March 31, 2008

You may want to read "Unofficial Sectional City Names" by Frederic G. Cassidy in Verbatim. He covers names for both depressed/scary and affluent neighborhoods, among other things.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 4:17 AM on February 15, 2008

I can sing parts of these lyrics to the tune I know, but I'm not sure it's right, yet. I'd have to hear the tune before I know for sure, but I don't want to pay for a ringtone. Hmm. Will report back if I can find it at the library or something.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 4:34 AM on January 31, 2008

Also, the Amazon link shows that particular DVD came out very recently. This was something like 20 years ago. Obviously this song could have been in the Sesame Street repertoire for a long time, and done again, but I can't seem to find evidence of it on any other recordings, yet.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 4:37 AM on January 31, 2008

I think Jay Reimenschneider has been reading too much Doris Lessing.



I have had "clitoral" orgasms after only having vaginal stimulation, and vice versa. But mostly, when it's done right, I can't even tell too much about my orgasm's placement so to speak. The feeling is bigger than that.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 2:42 PM on January 30, 2008

So, I haven't been in MeFi long, but basically what I can see from here is that we're whining over wfrgms turning MeFi into Fark by having a Fark-like MeTa thread.







Carry on.
posted to MetaTalk by RobotHeart at 7:04 AM on January 5, 2008

Anonymous, why are you afraid to have other people care about you? You're here and anonymous and having people you don't even know look after you.

As good a thing as MeFi is, as a person with an addiction you need to connect with people and stop hiding. Go to meeting. Find your sponsor. Quit juggling girls you don't care about, that you aren't really connected to, that you are using as a substitute for your addiction.

Disclaimer: former... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:44 AM on January 5, 2008

The listening part is definitely the most important part, but I have a practical suggestion as well.

Hospital clothes suck. You're baring your ass half the time; it gets drafty. I don't know if he's still in the hospital or not, but hopefully they will let him wear as close to street clothes as he can. My mother, for whom I am a part-time caregiver, has ascites too. It has complicated the clothes she feels comfortable in. If your friend is going to continue to have a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:31 AM on January 5, 2008

I should add two things:

If your friend is losing weight, it's probably not in his tummy unless the draining helped him, and his arms and legs may be skinny compared to his middle, in which case watch out for shoulders and sleeves being too big.

And of course the other biggie is I'm sorry. Obviously the cancer is happeing to him and not you, but of course you're going to have a lot of feelings about this. notthatgirl's advice is good advice in that arena.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:35 AM on January 5, 2008

Regarding the chargeback suggestion:

I used to work for a credit card company. I was not in the chargeback division but had to know something about it. Our company said you had to start the chargeback process within two billing periods and would not start it until you'd actually gotten one official bill about it. (People would call upon seeing things in their online banking, and we told them the issue might resolve itself before we even billed them.) I don't know if this... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:00 AM on January 5, 2008

Last Holiday, which, by the way, was much better than its preview and marketing. Queen Latifah is an amateur chef. The main theme of the movie is her vacation in the face of terminal illness, but an important part of her vacation is eating well and meeting with a chef. The Food Network did a special about the food photography (food cinematography, actually, I guess?).
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:26 AM on January 5, 2008

I was in this position once. I am also in a caretaker position with my mom now. One thing I can say is that if this had to happen to her, it's good that it's happening now instead of later in life, in a way, especially if her condition turns out to be one that cannot be completely ameliorated. This time in one's life is a better time to reconsider one's expectations, when one has much more time to make the most of those revised expectations.

What you... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 2:16 PM on December 31, 2007

When you find the answer, let me know. I am in a similar situation. I know how hard it can be. Good luck! :)
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 9:37 AM on December 25, 2007

Hmm. I wouldn't mind Canada... ten years from now. Right now it just doesn't seem right, given a lot of unrelated things I won't go into here. (Do marriage proposals happen ofter on MeFi? :)

My COBRA is actually through Blue Cross, Oriole Adams. I wonder how much it would cost me to flip to a personal plan? I do like the Blue Cross benefits I currently have. I should look into that.

I've used a personal Medical Mutual plan before, while in... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 11:27 AM on December 23, 2007

Fluxx! Not the new Zombie Fluxx though unless you are all old hands at regular Fluxx.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 4:56 AM on December 19, 2007

Sing something really cheerful as loudly as you can until you're physically exhausted and your head is all buzzy :D
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 4:54 AM on December 19, 2007

Northern State. The EP before the first full-length was better. The latest album, from what I've heard, is not straight-up rap any more.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 2:18 PM on December 11, 2007

the sorbet! Particularly the coconut.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 7:56 PM on December 8, 2007

::still uses the AOL standard::

::hasn't used AOL since 2001::
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:32 PM on December 8, 2007

Aha! That seems likely. (Though the disc didn't have the last o on it. Needless to say the CD was not found on IMDB lookup :)
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:22 PM on December 4, 2007

If I were in your position, I'd be rereading my copy of Codependent No More before making my decision.

It's too hard to suss out everyone's motives and needs in this forum. I think, as long as you can be honest with yourself about any part you may have in this, that that book will give you the tools to do it. Also, it'll give you some hints as to what kind of feelings you'll go through afterwards if you do go through with the divorce.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:30 PM on December 4, 2007

micayetoca's answer made me think of this:

"Seventy times seven" is the amount of times Jesus said to forgive someone in the Bible. My childhood religion class taught me that in that time, they wouldn't multiply it out and would just take that to mean "as many times as you're asked." That result is still a finite number, though, just unnamed.

I think a similar concept in modern American English, at least for young people, is... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:01 AM on December 1, 2007

It's interesting how the different factions keep using the same two things against each other, the accusation of "craziness" and of "trying to have cake/eat it too."

I've been the crazy-acting person. I've also dated the crazy-acting person. I've had my cake, had my cake stolen, etc. You know what? I've learned there are no good guys or bad guys. We all (with the exception of a very very few pathological people) do the best we can with what we have at... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 1:37 PM on November 23, 2007

As someone who worked in credit cards, I'd advise you not to count on those tax returns, nor that those APRs will stay the same. Neither can be counted on, though of course your behavior will make certain outcomes much, much more likely.

I'm not trying to dash your hopes. All I'm saying is think of the plan you outlined as a best-case scenario, and plan for the worst instead, just in case.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 7:04 PM on November 19, 2007

http://del.icio.us/assistguide
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:45 PM on November 8, 2007

Argh, now I'm talking like her too. No, I didn't mean that I'm literally stealing her song. I mean that it feels like it's too derivative for me to consider it "mine."
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:03 PM on November 7, 2007

I don't have any time, but I have huge tits, and my boyfriend thinks I'm too "2.0," so Amanda Congdon it is!
posted to MetaTalk by RobotHeart at 6:10 PM on October 30, 2007

You're better than fine, as Fiona Apple would say.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:43 PM on October 30, 2007

I had a bunch of ideas, so my comment is more like a novel. Sorry. :)

I like doing simple nigiri sushi (the kind where you just make a little finger of sushi rice and lay something tasty on top). My favorite is thinly-sliced avocado. Also you could make a sushi salad (sushi rice with ingredients arranged on top) in a little bento or pseudo-bento.

I also like boiling some pasta and putting just a wee bit of butter in, and a little dried basil (or... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:09 AM on October 28, 2007

I should've added that you can make a tasty fattoush or tabbouleh in five ingredients or less, even if the traditional recipes call for 6 or 8 ingredients if you're counting the spices. That was what I was driving at but never actually said. :)

Also, I just realized your question never mentioned anything about lunch but I assumed these were lunches we were suggesting to you. But yeah, LIS, most of these make excellent dinners.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:17 AM on October 28, 2007

Do you know anything about the dog's medical history?

My dog had a huge cyst on her butt that eventually got infected and had to come off. When the vets sewed her up, they didn't have a lot of skin to work with, and so ended up giving her a "butt lift" by way of the tension of the scar. So now she has a really hard time pinching off, and takes a lot longer. She sniffs around more, too, and I think in her case it's the dog equivalent of reading on the toilet.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:30 AM on October 28, 2007

I guess I'm trying to figure out what you're trying to accomplish. If you were really "over it," would you be posting here?

You've gotten a bit beaten up in this forum. Frankly I am fighting the urge. If you know you're such a "bastard," what else were you expecting? You did something heinous.

In my book, either you expected/wanted this treatment from us (and maybe her) for some strange reason, or you were expecting the other... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:13 PM on October 27, 2007

To add to my original thought: if you do decide you wanted us to agree with you about your being a "bastard," I think ikkyu2's reply is a good place for follow-up.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:16 PM on October 27, 2007

The part you never mentioned is how you came to be past due by two payments. Did your check get lost in the mail? Did your electronic automatic draft not kick in? These are things that are not your fault, and would give you more leverage, both in terms of disputing and in possibly getting some economic relief from Capital One (maybe if you press for a manager).

If the answer is "I went on vacation" or "I just forgot," there's no way that even... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:27 AM on October 21, 2007

Oh, and Phil, re: when it hit the credit bureau, that stuff is usually automated and would happen the day your account was eligible for it to have happened. There wasn't some employee hitting "enter" on a keyboard and then crowing "We got him!" and high-fiving all his friends :) Nor does that happen when fees bill either; it's all done during automated computer file maintenance, though it sounds like the first person you talked to may have indulged in some schadenfreude that... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:31 AM on October 21, 2007

Update: thanks so much for all your input! I like a lot of what I've seen so far. Just to give any future commenters guidance as to my preferences, I am looking forward to going bronze or teal for accessories and probably going with no necklace.

Cocoagirl's suggestion of the funky scarf is on the one hand something that would be absolutely perfect for this kind of wedding and on the other hand something I don't feel gutsy enough to do around people I don't usually see. :)... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 5:05 AM on October 21, 2007

Hearing "loss" was actually a first signal that my grandfather was having cognitive impairment. (He could hear but not process what he heard well.) It turned out to be a lack of oxygen in the blood supply due to his myelodysplastic anemia.

I highly doubt that something so ridiculous is going on in this situation, but I'd agree that desjardins has the right idea, and maybe a basic primary care "well" visit would be a good idea, too. Just in case. An... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 12:00 PM on October 8, 2007

I consume the Internet, personally.

In particular, there's a running gag of trying to finish off, only for there to be a lot more in my RSS feeder the next morning. It's like checking my inbox!
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 6:06 PM on October 6, 2007

Based on my experience with my border mix, there are a couple of things you might want to rule out before starting your dog on permanent medication:

a) Has your dog been exposed to any new substances lately? Most specifically, chemicals, cleaning products or the like? He could have doggy chemical sensitivity.

b) Has your dog been more exposed to stress than usual, or are the seizures usually precluded by things your dog doesn't like? My dog has... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 7:00 PM on August 20, 2007

Aloha - Summer Away
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 12:20 PM on August 18, 2007

My mom is diabetic, but hers gradually got more aggravated/less controlled over time. So while there may be 2x a day testing now, you may want to consider what it'll be like if management of the disease changes, in terms of pain, portability, etc.

She uses the Freestyle line of products. She mostly likes them, but she's not technologically savvy and so never uses the function to save results in the machine. So that function may not be worth paying for either. YMMV.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 7:04 AM on August 15, 2007

While my personal opinion is that the term is an oxymoron, plugging "positive eugenics" into a search engine uncovers a lot of material both for and against.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:54 PM on August 2, 2007

Under my boobs? Obviously my back hurts from the massive amount of sexy I'm carrying around. (Or, if you are French, consider "des bloblos")

Over my boobs is for protection, whether physical or emotional.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 3:53 PM on July 31, 2007

Because we have neurotypic disorder.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 11:54 AM on July 29, 2007

So, you've hung with clingy women before. Obviously, just to nth, this is not gonna fly the way it is.

I think you have two decisions to make now. They both have to do with how you're not ever going to put yourself in this position again. A, is it possible to get yourself out of this situation in this existing relationship? If not, DTMFA. But, maybe you'll find there's another way to skin this cat and also that you care about her enough to try that... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 11:08 AM on July 29, 2007

Dorothy Parker's "Resume" is about suicide and ends, "You might as well live."

"You can feel like a mental patient, but that doesn't mean you have to act like one." -- Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT.

Ending on the best note: "It's your life. Live it with people who are alive. It tends to be contagious." -- Peter McWilliams.
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 10:57 AM on July 29, 2007

I'm in a similar situation; though older, I'm a new driver and don't have a lot to spend, and for 3 or 4k one can't buy as much Honda or Toyota as one would like, I find.

I'm positioning for a Saturn. They're reliable, cheaper -- and those lovely plastic panels are easily replaced if you forget to check your blind spot!
posted to Ask Metafilter by RobotHeart at 9:15 AM on July 27, 2007