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"I think one of the hardest things about growing up is the narrowing of options and choices. When you're in high school and undergrad, the world is your *oyster* and infinite paths are available to you! Anything's possible! You can be anyone and do..." [
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"I have my Ph.D. in behavioral neuroscience (psychology department). I did two postdocs and had two good faculty jobs. I loved grad school and disliked being a professor. I now work in business and love it. I will break down what I believe are MY..." [
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4 weeks ago
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"Seconding D.C. that looks have much, if not mostly, to do with confidence and happiness. You would be surprised at how much of beauty radiates from within. If you observe social dynamics around you, not television, you will see that people are..." [
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"Referring to a rainstorm: "That was a frog-strangler."
"If it was a snake, it woulda bit him." Referring to something being nearby.
"You can't shake a stick without hitting a Yankee around here."..." [
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"I gave up. You just have to make the decision, which you've already done. You then have to remind yourself of your decision every time you slip into thinking along the lines of the cultural paradigm that you have to meet someone in order to be a..." [
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"I totally understand how you feel - you sound like a perfectionist who is very hard on yourself. You likely regard others with a much more forgiving eye than you cast on yourself.
A few things that have helped me with these issues:
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3 months ago
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"Oh, wow, nadawi...you know of what you speak! (I'm female).
Only thing I can add to the excellent suggestions above is:
-softly touching nipples over clothes (this is a thriller, really)
-lightly kissing ears/ears area
-I nth the grabbing..." [
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3 months ago
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"This story infuriates me so, and I have to agree with h00py. Girls and young women are often taught by culture to be and feel very passive in the face of bullying and domineering from men, especially, especially if they have "let" the man..." [
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4 months ago
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"I was sort of in your position a few months ago. Had declared "no more dating," started working on myself, plunging my energies into the community, my friends, work, volunteer projects, and running. I had just begun to work very hard in..." [
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4 months ago
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"I would say that you and Mr. Darling have decided to drive her yourselves, you in the morning and he in the afternoon, in order to have special one-on-one time with her. She'll soon be out of the house, and you feel each moment is precious. Well up..." [
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4 months ago
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"No way I could improve on granted's advice (bowing to her), but here is one thing that struck me:
and I get afraid that the other shoe's going to drop, and that I'm not doing enough to keep him around.
Keep *him* around? What about shifting..." [
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4 months ago
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"Years ago someone told me that the best way to serve the world was to do exactly what makes you happy. If everyone followed their bliss, instead of doing what they believe they "should" do, the world would be a happier place.
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5 months ago
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"I have to sympathize with stewriffic and mygothlaundry, as I am in the same situation in NC. Mygothlaundry had it right in saying that there is a tremendous luck + geography component in terms of nerdy hetero men density, and we are not in a nerdy..." [
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5 months ago
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"This is a great post. I think all of us who are real and sincere people have been confronted with this issue.
Recommended by many mefites is a wonderful book that has been incredibly interesting to me as a self-improvement tool: Intimate..." [
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6 months ago
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"I read your question a couple of times, and it seems to me you are focused on what he wants. Don't you think your needs are important to him, as someone he has chosen to love and live with for so long? It almost sounds like you are scared that if..." [
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9 months ago
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"Oh, man, I know exactly what you mean. I've never actually had a romantic relationship where I depended on the person that way, but I have had friendships end for whatever reason (she gets a new boyfriend and disappears, moves, has a child) and it..." [
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11 months ago
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"Hey Powercat, awesome - glad you asked the question and it helped you make a healthy decision. I am dying to go nuts on this one, because I'm a neuroscientist and this is my specialty area, but it's been well covered above. The only thing I'd..." [
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11 months ago
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"The best advice I have ever received on this topic is that both people have to want it for it to work. Have you ever gotten that annoying email fwd that says, in part, "If a man wants to be with you, nothing can keep him away; if he doesn't..." [
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11 months ago
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"How long have you been there? Some research (e.g. this paper) shows that acclimatization via the heat shock protein response takes approximately 5-7 days. However, there are certainly individual differences in response to hot and humid environments,..." [
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"As a former professor, I promise that most, if not all, professors will be delighted that someone is interested in their work and happy to hear from someone who wants to work with them. Now, if you are contacting the supreme expert at MIT or Yale or..." [
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"I'm a little late to this thread, but this guy is from my hometown and yes, I know him and his family. His politics are so ignorantly, blindly conservative that whenever I see him in the media I am immediately nauseated and have flashbacks of..." [
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Last year
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"Echoing everyone above, you did not do anything wrong. It took me a long time to figure this out, but relationships are really about fit. For him, the fit didn't feel right. That's fine. It actually doesn't say anything negative about you...we..." [
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